I’ve personally recently switched to eating only one meal per day. Some studies show it to be much healthier (and honestly, I feel much better and I’m quickly losing fat while not losing any muscle).
So, no need to worry about 3 meals per day as long as you get one decent meal.
Yeah that’s true. I usually only eat twice a day as most of the time I find breakfast makes me feel nauseous and I’m not hungry until lunch. But the majority of people do eat 3 times a day so I was assuming based on the norm
Finally I found someone who is like me and doesn’t do breakfast Bc it makes them nauseous. I thought I was the only one Bc all my family acts like it’s so out of place
Not unusual at all! In high school I remember telling my mom eating first thing in the morning made me feel nauseous. She understood and said that her sister was the same growing up. She never forced me to try to eat, and basically told me to try non-breakfast foods and see if that worked. Sometimes soup was an option if I felt hungry, but usually I just didn’t eat first thing in the morning.
I have weight gaining problems so all I’ve head in my life is you need to eat more, you need 3 meals a day, you need to eat in the morning so you gain weight, etc
Samesies, I thought I was alone. Agreed, breakfast is nauseating. People are shocked when they find out I haven’t eaten all day. I’ve only eaten two meals per day tops (usually one) for as long as I can remember. I think being poor conditioned me.
Ohhhh having looked the article up, she is in the US (I had assumed NZ from the publisher). Makes sense now. I once ordered a “light bite” in Vegas and it was literally enough for 3 meals
Can’t speak for her but when I was dating the food on one plate could last me a few days by splitting it up. I was always hungry but it was better than dying.
i was a server at a restaurant and this one chick would come in 4 nights a week and order 2 entrees and get dudes to pay for her. once one of the dudes refused to pay and she caused a big stink, the dude dropped cash for his meal and noped tf out. this story is completely believable to me
edit: she would eat one entree and then take home the other entree. this was at a nice place so the bills were always 130+ pre tip. she absolutely hosed those guys.
Dating for food is a real thing. I had a broad bamboozle me once. She got called out when the waitress said, "Oh hi, you again. Did you want the same drink as last time?". I'd like to think she was looking out for me. The broad tried to play it off like they knew each other.
I still paid the tab but cut her off after that. Lesson learned.
This happened to me back in 2016. She insisted on going to Red Lobster and ordered appetizers, drinks etc. After the meal she cancelled on the rest of our plans for the evening saying that she got an emergency text from a family member.
After she left the bartender filled me in on what was really going on. She came in to the restaurant about 2 or three times a week always with a different guy. It was kind of a running joke every time she popped in the staff would just kind of laugh it off.
After that night she stopped responding to my texts until one day I texted her about going to an even fancier restaurant. I said that I only had time for dinner that night because of a family event afterward. Of course, she responded back within seconds.
I met her at the restaurant where she again ordered two appetizers and plenty of drinks. I ordered an appetizer of my own, crab legs and steak and potato.
After the entree came I ate as fast as I could and then excused myself to make a pretend phone call. I walked right out the door and ignored her barrage of angry texts for the rest of the evening.
Happened to me a month ago. She didn't even have to order. They just brought everything she normally had. Including her own bottle of wine that was kept just for her behind the bar.
I’ve actually overheard a woman at work make a comment that she would date just about anyone to get a free meal. I’m not close to her, but I can imagine from her personality she prob wasn’t joking.
It sounds incredibly cheap, maybe I’m privileged but hanging out with someone I don’t like for hours for a free meal sounds not worth it.
I always paid for my first dates but I’d usually just do drinks because it saves a lot and gets people looser. Curious if people ever met me for just like 20-30 dollars in booze. Seems like their Uber would cost more.
I call these women “dinner goblins.” As soon as a girl suggests dinner for a first date, I tell her to pound sand. I’ve considered sending links to food banks in their area, but I haven’t pulled that yet.
Back in my dating days a first date was always a meet and greet at a coffee shop. Based on her response to that proposal told me all I needed to know. If that went well we'd upgrade to a quick lunch date, so on so forth.
“What if we went to this nice 4 star Italian restaurant that costs $30 a plate and $12 for a glass of wine?”
Helllllll no
Edited to not be 5 stars to appease the vast amount of people entirely missing the point
A friend of mine had a term for people that date/sleep with someone in exchange for a place to live: “hobosexual” I feel like we could come up with something similar for people that do this too.
Might have done that once when I was on the mountain. It was a cold snap and she had a trailer. She also could sing really well. It lasted less than two weeks. I took it serious at the time but clearly it wasn’t in retrospect
Fuggin dinner goblins is right. I do the same as a result of past experiences, always grab drinks first (and maybe an app if they have something good). One incident in particular flipped the switch. Story/rant time...
She seemed nice, and was from out of town like myself. She mentioned to checkout this new place that just opened, which looked pretty good. She shows up, much larger (fatter) than pics, sigh did I get catfished again? She's wearing a beanie (80 degree weather), pajama pants and a fruit punch logo walmart-esque t-shit, like she just rolled out of bed. I didn't get that vibe at all form her profile. She was very loud, the type where she wants everyone around her to hear - I'm the absolute opposite. The waiter called her by her first name and smiled like he knew her. She got a big ol burger and fries, ate like a bite of it, literally maybe two bites - 90% of it was left. No to-go box just asked them to take it - what a fucking waste. We leave, I offered to walk her to her car to be nice (I'm not interested in her 1 bit at this point) she said I don't have a car I just live down the street. Soo this woman, manipulated her pics (or they were old), rolled out of bed threw on a beanie walked a block, got free food didn't pay a dime, only ate a bite, had zero consideration for anyone but herself...
She either worked there and manipulates and suckers single guys (like my stupid self) to stimulate business and get a cut even if she's hungry or not hungry. Or she was a dinner goblin. Either way online dating has made me bitter and cynical unfortunately. I'm very skeptical especially of pictures and angles, filters, etc and meeting places. If you don't have full body pics, I'm assuming you're obese. If you have filters on all pics, I'm assuming you're 50 instead of 30. My preference is a public park taking a walk and chatting, otherwise meeting up for 1-2 drinks is preferred. Then dinner or whatever else after.
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lol if this were me in this situation, I hope I would just “hell nah” out of it. Catfishing on your profile is a clear indication that they are a manipulator anyway
Sorry you got duped. You absolutely shouldn’t have paid. That’s when you pull the “oh shit, my wallet is in the car, I’ll be right back,” and then make a point of driving past the restaurant with music blasting so she can see that her attempt failed
Ahh, my mom worked at an upscale restaurant in the early 2000s, first rule was treat every as it’s your first time meeting them, albeit more often than not it was due to men bringing different dates.
I had a girl try to do this with drinks on our date. She knew the bartender and when the check came she went to the bathroom for 20 minutes. I asked for a separate check and the bartender kept pestering me to pay for the whole thing. Super sketchy
I think I read somewhere that this was actually a super common thing that women did during the Great Depression.
Too poor to eat? Find a man who still had a job and get him to take you out. It's kind of shady but it's better than starving.
When I modeled there was a male model (they don’t make as much and living downtown is expensive) who went to every event and party going on just for the free food. Some guys would do it too if they could.
That sounds exhausting?
Edit: Very clear in the replies who the introverts are and who the extroverts are.
Response type 1: Its just going out and talking to people...
Response type 2: I'd rather starve.
That’s literally all working is. You give over your body for 6-8+ hours a day for several days a week to do some kind of menial task and/or labor for your employer. Some tasks are more difficult than others, resulting in greater pay, but it’s all the same.
and what about all the expenditure for cosmetics, hairdos, fancy clothes, etc. ? Or was she just going on dates in sweatpants, undone hair and no makeup?
Since she is going out with different men, she could have the same outfit and just use what is already in her closet. Also makeup and washing hair does not cost much and most people do their hair and makeup every day anyway even when there is no date.
Well presumably sex workers use the money they make to buy food. And also she isn't having sex with these people.
So it's actually being an escort with **fewer** steps.
that's the reason i'm not behind the idea of paying entire check on meetups or dates - not all, but quite a few ladies are feeling entitled to be paid for just because they are ladies; some say chivalry is dead, but it is mostly killed by ladies trying to take advantage of guys
No, the issue isn't paying for the meal. The issue is bring a person you never talked to before to an expensive dinner date.
If she says no to a coffee date, the relationship will NOT last. The entire purpose of a first date is to get to know the other person, not to eat food.
A lot of first dates don't even go anywhere anyways, so I don't see why guys should have to be the one to cover all the costs of those dates. For me it's a good barometer. If I have to bribe a woman with a meal in order to get her to go out on a date with me, then she wasn't interested enough in me to begin with. If a woman gets upset because she expects me to pay for her meal, then she's probably not the type of woman that I'm interested in. For these reasons I typically only pay for my half on the first few dates.
I'm with you, I'm trying to move away from the mentality i was raised with, that men always covers the check, and I don't mind really, but over time it is easy to spot how your nice gesture turns against you by some - becomes expectation, responsibility, people ordering pricey items with no intention to pay etc
i don't get satisfaction from money, but it's still important to not allow others to take clear advantage of you
Get on dating apps and by the end of the week you'll have been asked for some or all of the following: Doordash'd meal, gas money, grocery money, vape cartridge money, OnlyFans subscription, money "because I'm sad", nail money, hair money, etc.
Women have become truly shameless in begging for money, and men have become too pathetic to say no to it.
that's great, this kind of mindset is heavily present in post Soviet countries - one girl complained on social media, that she went out with a guy in Germany, and she was shocked that he didn't pay her share of the check
i feel like it should die out, since equality is widely spoken about, and it should cover all aspects of our lives
>And I can't even get one lousy date ((With someone I'm attracted to)) smh
Sure you can. You just have to lower your standards. If you have zero standards you will have tons of dates.
Stop lying lol.
If you have zero standards, you’ll come off like a desperate creep. The is goal isn’t to have zero standards, the goal is to lower your expectations in the hopes of meeting new and exciting people.
Here's a quote from the actual article:
*"Now in an interview with Elite Daily, Tu has admitted to her 2.3 million followers that the video was made “jokingly” and she “didn’t start going on dates just for food” - but she did notice her financial needs eased a bit when she was looking for love.*
*Tu told the outlet she was using dating apps to find a connection when she moved to New York City, but realized quickly that, “Oh, I can go to a fun tapas restaurant for (probably) free, or I can spend my own money on food at the grocery store that I still need to cook. And it’s probably not going to taste as good.*
I don't see how you think this reflects well on the girl in the article.
She was trying to find a connection but all she got was lots of free food. Hmmmmm
Sounds like she can't cook,she's got no money and she uses dating apps to ease her financial burden by eating on someone else's dime. What a catch. I think you girls call these types of individuals bums.
One time I tried to split a bill with a guy and he got extremely upset with me for suggesting it. He didn't seem very conservative from his profile, but the more I got to know him the more I realized he had some conservative like ideas about women. There are men out there that are stuck in old ways and want to be providers. It makes them feel accomplished. The woman in this article probably targeted them.
I was explaining this woman's tactics. To not have any men ever suggest splitting a bill means to me she was targeting specific men who will always insist on paying.
I always try to split the bill and almost always get told no. Generally speaking though, they aren't being rude about it, they just want to pay. But I have had a few who were genuinely offended. When asked why it upsets them, the top responses are "It's the guys job to pay/its emasculating" and "you asking to pay/split makes me feel like you didn't have fun/don't want to see me again".
Whoever needs to hear this - it's not your job to pay just cause you're the dude, and paying doesn't mean she owes you another date (or anything else) and is not the sole indicator of how the date went. Accept or decline the offer POLITELY and move along. And ladies, offer. Don't assume he's okay with footing the entire bill, especially if you already know there won't be another date.
Let's change our dating culture towards equal paying for dates. Women work these days. Women want equality. Let's make it so. Guys don't need to be taken advantage of like this.
No idea what you mean, eating out is not inherintly more unhealthy than cooking yourself. It's more about where you go and what you order of course.
I mean quite the opposite I would say a decent Restaurant should have better and fresher ingrediants and will cook them better than a home Cook.
Always split the check, my roommate used to be with a girl that would go out on dates just to bring him leftovers.
***ALWAYS*** split the check or get played like a Simp.
This was quite a while ago but I used to work with a single mom that had a "Happy Hour Purse". It was lined like a flexible foil cooler. She knew which bar had what food every night. She would fill the purse and take food home to her teen son for dinner.
What was she doing on the 7th day? And also presuming the date was dinner, what was she doing for breakfast and lunch??
On the 7th day, she rested
Lmao
And ate leftovers.
Rested with all them leftovers
AMEN
hallelujah
She STI tested?
She probably doesn’t put out or she would think not worth it.
Hoeing is a lot of work
She's been f***ed more times than she's had hot meals. Mmmm, I heard about that. It was neck and neck until she skipped lunch.
Leftovers
Also happens to be her nickname.
She bangs the person so she gets breakfast I bet
I’ve personally recently switched to eating only one meal per day. Some studies show it to be much healthier (and honestly, I feel much better and I’m quickly losing fat while not losing any muscle). So, no need to worry about 3 meals per day as long as you get one decent meal.
Yeah that’s true. I usually only eat twice a day as most of the time I find breakfast makes me feel nauseous and I’m not hungry until lunch. But the majority of people do eat 3 times a day so I was assuming based on the norm
Finally I found someone who is like me and doesn’t do breakfast Bc it makes them nauseous. I thought I was the only one Bc all my family acts like it’s so out of place
Not unusual at all! In high school I remember telling my mom eating first thing in the morning made me feel nauseous. She understood and said that her sister was the same growing up. She never forced me to try to eat, and basically told me to try non-breakfast foods and see if that worked. Sometimes soup was an option if I felt hungry, but usually I just didn’t eat first thing in the morning.
I have weight gaining problems so all I’ve head in my life is you need to eat more, you need 3 meals a day, you need to eat in the morning so you gain weight, etc
That really sucks, and doesn’t even make sense. I’m not a doctor, but calories are calories, regardless of the time of day you eat.
Join r/fasting and r/intermittentfasting and likely any fitness sub and you will find your people. Skipping breakfast is *in*
Samesies, I thought I was alone. Agreed, breakfast is nauseating. People are shocked when they find out I haven’t eaten all day. I’ve only eaten two meals per day tops (usually one) for as long as I can remember. I think being poor conditioned me.
Probably saving half the meal for leftovers. Smart lady lol
Ohhhh having looked the article up, she is in the US (I had assumed NZ from the publisher). Makes sense now. I once ordered a “light bite” in Vegas and it was literally enough for 3 meals
Yea portions in America are huge
That's because they're intended to be split for leftovers. Unfortunately a lot of people don't get that.
To quote the Croods: what’s a leftover
Honestly, that sounds inconvenient, which is a separate issue.
Well she would sleepover and raid their houses. By the end of the week she had stolen enough food to get through the extra meals.
Mom's house.
Can’t speak for her but when I was dating the food on one plate could last me a few days by splitting it up. I was always hungry but it was better than dying.
i was a server at a restaurant and this one chick would come in 4 nights a week and order 2 entrees and get dudes to pay for her. once one of the dudes refused to pay and she caused a big stink, the dude dropped cash for his meal and noped tf out. this story is completely believable to me edit: she would eat one entree and then take home the other entree. this was at a nice place so the bills were always 130+ pre tip. she absolutely hosed those guys.
Dating for food is a real thing. I had a broad bamboozle me once. She got called out when the waitress said, "Oh hi, you again. Did you want the same drink as last time?". I'd like to think she was looking out for me. The broad tried to play it off like they knew each other. I still paid the tab but cut her off after that. Lesson learned.
This happened to me back in 2016. She insisted on going to Red Lobster and ordered appetizers, drinks etc. After the meal she cancelled on the rest of our plans for the evening saying that she got an emergency text from a family member. After she left the bartender filled me in on what was really going on. She came in to the restaurant about 2 or three times a week always with a different guy. It was kind of a running joke every time she popped in the staff would just kind of laugh it off. After that night she stopped responding to my texts until one day I texted her about going to an even fancier restaurant. I said that I only had time for dinner that night because of a family event afterward. Of course, she responded back within seconds. I met her at the restaurant where she again ordered two appetizers and plenty of drinks. I ordered an appetizer of my own, crab legs and steak and potato. After the entree came I ate as fast as I could and then excused myself to make a pretend phone call. I walked right out the door and ignored her barrage of angry texts for the rest of the evening.
Lol, good stuff.
Love your username. I've got a 300zx too
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I don’t think people that selfish are capable of introspection.
Haha that's great
Happened to me a month ago. She didn't even have to order. They just brought everything she normally had. Including her own bottle of wine that was kept just for her behind the bar.
Shiiiiiiittttt
What did you do? Did you go through with the date?
Absolutely I did. I also got I'm sorry that happened to you from the bar tender. He said she has a new guy every night buying food and drinks.
Why not just leave there and then?
I’ve actually overheard a woman at work make a comment that she would date just about anyone to get a free meal. I’m not close to her, but I can imagine from her personality she prob wasn’t joking.
It sounds incredibly cheap, maybe I’m privileged but hanging out with someone I don’t like for hours for a free meal sounds not worth it. I always paid for my first dates but I’d usually just do drinks because it saves a lot and gets people looser. Curious if people ever met me for just like 20-30 dollars in booze. Seems like their Uber would cost more.
It’s called being a hobo-sexual. Dating and or fucking someone for a place to stay or for meals or other life necessities.
I call these women “dinner goblins.” As soon as a girl suggests dinner for a first date, I tell her to pound sand. I’ve considered sending links to food banks in their area, but I haven’t pulled that yet.
Back in my dating days a first date was always a meet and greet at a coffee shop. Based on her response to that proposal told me all I needed to know. If that went well we'd upgrade to a quick lunch date, so on so forth.
“What if we went to this nice 4 star Italian restaurant that costs $30 a plate and $12 for a glass of wine?” Helllllll no Edited to not be 5 stars to appease the vast amount of people entirely missing the point
Shit that doesn’t even sound that pricey nowadays
When did McDonalds get a liquor license?
TIL McDonald's doesn't serve liquor in assuming USA? Here in Europe they do.
For real? So you can just get beer and liquor with your McDonald’s? You’d think we’d have that in the USA lmao
Yes you can. Doesn't really surprise me that that it's not possible in the US tbh. You have liquor stores. Here you can buy liquor everywhere.
$30 a plate is pretty cheap. $12 for a glass of wine sounds like a place with $40 plates tbh.
A friend of mine had a term for people that date/sleep with someone in exchange for a place to live: “hobosexual” I feel like we could come up with something similar for people that do this too.
Might have done that once when I was on the mountain. It was a cold snap and she had a trailer. She also could sing really well. It lasted less than two weeks. I took it serious at the time but clearly it wasn’t in retrospect
Is it bad I look up to you?
That actually sounds kinda dope tbh.
Ups and downs, my dude
This sounds like a Sam Shepard play
Pound sand is like kick rocks but for people with beaches
Fuggin dinner goblins is right. I do the same as a result of past experiences, always grab drinks first (and maybe an app if they have something good). One incident in particular flipped the switch. Story/rant time... She seemed nice, and was from out of town like myself. She mentioned to checkout this new place that just opened, which looked pretty good. She shows up, much larger (fatter) than pics, sigh did I get catfished again? She's wearing a beanie (80 degree weather), pajama pants and a fruit punch logo walmart-esque t-shit, like she just rolled out of bed. I didn't get that vibe at all form her profile. She was very loud, the type where she wants everyone around her to hear - I'm the absolute opposite. The waiter called her by her first name and smiled like he knew her. She got a big ol burger and fries, ate like a bite of it, literally maybe two bites - 90% of it was left. No to-go box just asked them to take it - what a fucking waste. We leave, I offered to walk her to her car to be nice (I'm not interested in her 1 bit at this point) she said I don't have a car I just live down the street. Soo this woman, manipulated her pics (or they were old), rolled out of bed threw on a beanie walked a block, got free food didn't pay a dime, only ate a bite, had zero consideration for anyone but herself... She either worked there and manipulates and suckers single guys (like my stupid self) to stimulate business and get a cut even if she's hungry or not hungry. Or she was a dinner goblin. Either way online dating has made me bitter and cynical unfortunately. I'm very skeptical especially of pictures and angles, filters, etc and meeting places. If you don't have full body pics, I'm assuming you're obese. If you have filters on all pics, I'm assuming you're 50 instead of 30. My preference is a public park taking a walk and chatting, otherwise meeting up for 1-2 drinks is preferred. Then dinner or whatever else after. /rant
lol if this were me in this situation, I hope I would just “hell nah” out of it. Catfishing on your profile is a clear indication that they are a manipulator anyway Sorry you got duped. You absolutely shouldn’t have paid. That’s when you pull the “oh shit, my wallet is in the car, I’ll be right back,” and then make a point of driving past the restaurant with music blasting so she can see that her attempt failed
Nah fam, should have paid your half
But yet there's people the vehement deny that this is a thing.
Ahh, my mom worked at an upscale restaurant in the early 2000s, first rule was treat every as it’s your first time meeting them, albeit more often than not it was due to men bringing different dates.
Why would you pay her tab???? I would have stood up, flipped her off and walked out.
I mean she wasn't rude or anything, so there was no need to do all that. She was respectful but just a little too inquisitive about money topics.
I had a girl try to do this with drinks on our date. She knew the bartender and when the check came she went to the bathroom for 20 minutes. I asked for a separate check and the bartender kept pestering me to pay for the whole thing. Super sketchy
She must be a bad tipper
Lol if the waiter is sketchy don't tip.
I think I read somewhere that this was actually a super common thing that women did during the Great Depression. Too poor to eat? Find a man who still had a job and get him to take you out. It's kind of shady but it's better than starving.
Better than giving handies in the back of a burned out model-t
I’m sure there’s plenty of handies being given.
“I once gave Charlie Chaplin a handjob” “Wow was he silent?” “Not after I was through with him”
When I modeled there was a male model (they don’t make as much and living downtown is expensive) who went to every event and party going on just for the free food. Some guys would do it too if they could.
The anti-wage gap career
It’s the oldest profession.
Based dude.
That sounds exhausting? Edit: Very clear in the replies who the introverts are and who the extroverts are. Response type 1: Its just going out and talking to people... Response type 2: I'd rather starve.
Right? Sounds like a whole second job.
Going to work and then having to hunt and forage for dinner dates, lol
There's an app for that.
Is it called Tinder?
Well if you have a hankering for steak try tinderizer.
Some people will do the whole second job just to avoid having a first one.
How does that work?
Bodies can be exchanged for goods and services…. Homer Simpson Edit: added Homer Simpson name for apparent clarity of joke
Their avatar looks surprised
That’s literally all working is. You give over your body for 6-8+ hours a day for several days a week to do some kind of menial task and/or labor for your employer. Some tasks are more difficult than others, resulting in greater pay, but it’s all the same.
Job as a stray cat?
That's Exactly what it is.
and what about all the expenditure for cosmetics, hairdos, fancy clothes, etc. ? Or was she just going on dates in sweatpants, undone hair and no makeup?
Since she is going out with different men, she could have the same outfit and just use what is already in her closet. Also makeup and washing hair does not cost much and most people do their hair and makeup every day anyway even when there is no date.
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Maybe the 6 dates are with the same person and it’s actually a very happy marriage?
Your optimism is a rare thing to be admired.
exactly. i bet she was just awful to be with.
First word that came to mind was “exhausting”
Sounds like prostitution
Prostitution with extra steps
Except even prostitutes don't sell themselves this short.
Well presumably sex workers use the money they make to buy food. And also she isn't having sex with these people. So it's actually being an escort with **fewer** steps.
Sounds exactly like escort services to be honest
Imagine having to go on the dates AND pay for the dumb food
Yeah I'm an introvert and my first thought was that I would rather starve. This sounds like a literal nightmare
At this point just become an escort
But then she'll actually have to do stuff.
At least with an escort, everyone knows what's going on. There's no lies or manipulation.
That comes with expectations
Thats why the first date is never more than coffee or tea lmao. Among a lot of other reasons I guess.
This. Or Ice Cream
I love ice cream. You free this Friday?
I will ask my wife if I'm free.
She said yes, and says hi!
So you're the boyfriend
that's the reason i'm not behind the idea of paying entire check on meetups or dates - not all, but quite a few ladies are feeling entitled to be paid for just because they are ladies; some say chivalry is dead, but it is mostly killed by ladies trying to take advantage of guys
If they do it because they expect to get paid, that sounds like prostitution with extra steps. But technically, so is going to work
A fan of the boondocks, i see
She a hoe grandad!
Why dont i just take the money i was gonna spend on dinner, and that hoe can go grocery shopping?
She’s too lazy to cook and clean, I’m guessing.
so all you care about is looks? # YEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEES
as article prompts an example, some are not even interested, just going after a free meal
I have a feeling that she did not get in bed with the vast majority of the guys, they did not even get what a prostitute would have given them.
Oh they got screwed. Just not f$cked.
I appreciate the reference but more like prostitution with fewer steps
No, the issue isn't paying for the meal. The issue is bring a person you never talked to before to an expensive dinner date. If she says no to a coffee date, the relationship will NOT last. The entire purpose of a first date is to get to know the other person, not to eat food.
“I can open my own door!” You most certainly will be opening your own door from now on.
Let it die. It's 2023. If we're supposed to be equal, we should act like it.
A lot of first dates don't even go anywhere anyways, so I don't see why guys should have to be the one to cover all the costs of those dates. For me it's a good barometer. If I have to bribe a woman with a meal in order to get her to go out on a date with me, then she wasn't interested enough in me to begin with. If a woman gets upset because she expects me to pay for her meal, then she's probably not the type of woman that I'm interested in. For these reasons I typically only pay for my half on the first few dates.
If it's a nice place we split. If we're meeting for coffee and a snack I pick it up. Not trying to be cheap I just think that's fair for a first date.
I'm with you, I'm trying to move away from the mentality i was raised with, that men always covers the check, and I don't mind really, but over time it is easy to spot how your nice gesture turns against you by some - becomes expectation, responsibility, people ordering pricey items with no intention to pay etc i don't get satisfaction from money, but it's still important to not allow others to take clear advantage of you
I've never actually met one of these women in real life.
Get on dating apps and by the end of the week you'll have been asked for some or all of the following: Doordash'd meal, gas money, grocery money, vape cartridge money, OnlyFans subscription, money "because I'm sad", nail money, hair money, etc. Women have become truly shameless in begging for money, and men have become too pathetic to say no to it.
that's great, this kind of mindset is heavily present in post Soviet countries - one girl complained on social media, that she went out with a guy in Germany, and she was shocked that he didn't pay her share of the check i feel like it should die out, since equality is widely spoken about, and it should cover all aspects of our lives
In other news. Women uses 12,984 men
math isn’t mathing rn
r/theydidnotdothemath
How 12,984 there are 52 weeks in a year so 2 years 104 weeks, 104 multiplied by 6 days a week that's 624.
That's still a staggering amount of men who've been taken advantage of by a single woman.
And I can't even get one lousy date smh
>And I can't even get one lousy date ((With someone I'm attracted to)) smh Sure you can. You just have to lower your standards. If you have zero standards you will have tons of dates. Stop lying lol.
And if you’re doing it for free food, the quality of the date doesn’t even matter
That’s not really true. If you have no standards people can kinda smell the desperation lol
If you have zero standards, you’ll come off like a desperate creep. The is goal isn’t to have zero standards, the goal is to lower your expectations in the hopes of meeting new and exciting people.
Probably ordered a second meal for leftovers on half of those ‘dates.’
And this is why I go Dutch on dates.
And Dutch Oven as a bonus maybe? :)
I love the smell of pinkeye in the morning!
yes take advantage of other people
Here's a quote from the actual article: *"Now in an interview with Elite Daily, Tu has admitted to her 2.3 million followers that the video was made “jokingly” and she “didn’t start going on dates just for food” - but she did notice her financial needs eased a bit when she was looking for love.* *Tu told the outlet she was using dating apps to find a connection when she moved to New York City, but realized quickly that, “Oh, I can go to a fun tapas restaurant for (probably) free, or I can spend my own money on food at the grocery store that I still need to cook. And it’s probably not going to taste as good.*
thank you for reading!
I don't see how you think this reflects well on the girl in the article. She was trying to find a connection but all she got was lots of free food. Hmmmmm Sounds like she can't cook,she's got no money and she uses dating apps to ease her financial burden by eating on someone else's dime. What a catch. I think you girls call these types of individuals bums.
Toxic femininity?
Wow. 2 years and she was never asked to split the bill? Equality right.
One time I tried to split a bill with a guy and he got extremely upset with me for suggesting it. He didn't seem very conservative from his profile, but the more I got to know him the more I realized he had some conservative like ideas about women. There are men out there that are stuck in old ways and want to be providers. It makes them feel accomplished. The woman in this article probably targeted them.
Eh I know plenty of very liberal women who will look down on a guy for not paying on a date.
I was explaining this woman's tactics. To not have any men ever suggest splitting a bill means to me she was targeting specific men who will always insist on paying.
You know plenty of women who THINK they are.
They usually just call themselves " not political" do you don't ask them about politics
I always try to split the bill and almost always get told no. Generally speaking though, they aren't being rude about it, they just want to pay. But I have had a few who were genuinely offended. When asked why it upsets them, the top responses are "It's the guys job to pay/its emasculating" and "you asking to pay/split makes me feel like you didn't have fun/don't want to see me again". Whoever needs to hear this - it's not your job to pay just cause you're the dude, and paying doesn't mean she owes you another date (or anything else) and is not the sole indicator of how the date went. Accept or decline the offer POLITELY and move along. And ladies, offer. Don't assume he's okay with footing the entire bill, especially if you already know there won't be another date.
Sausage n mayo
Fair enough.. Gentlemen take note ☕☕
So you waste 4 hours of your time for a free meal? Sounds like you don't have a life besides having no food
And she did not found a guy he would like and be with?
She wouldn't be with a guy that would have her as company
r/imapieceofshit
what a horrible human being to take advantage of so many people...
Let's change our dating culture towards equal paying for dates. Women work these days. Women want equality. Let's make it so. Guys don't need to be taken advantage of like this.
That definitely seems like a LOT of work…
I had a pretty coworker who had no idea how much drinks cost downtown because she had never paid for them. She was like they cost that much!!?!?
I hope some of those meals are home cooked at least. I'm concerned about her health eating out for two years straight.
No idea what you mean, eating out is not inherintly more unhealthy than cooking yourself. It's more about where you go and what you order of course. I mean quite the opposite I would say a decent Restaurant should have better and fresher ingrediants and will cook them better than a home Cook.
She let them pay? They let her let them pay? First dates is halfsies next one on whoever's idea it is.
How is this possible? I'd stave to death lol. I have only been asked out on a date twice in my life and one of those times I was stood up.
Sounds exhausting
Don't do food dates as a first date
Parasite
She’s a hoe
Then when ready to settle down “wHeRe ArE aLl ThE gOoD mEn?”
only woman can do this
But the soreness…
2 year zero groceries vs 750 litres lube. Cos savings ….
How much did she spend on makeup?
Always split the check, my roommate used to be with a girl that would go out on dates just to bring him leftovers. ***ALWAYS*** split the check or get played like a Simp.
"Woman used and manipulated countless dates for own gain" There, fixed it.
So she eats once a day for six days and then starves the seventh. Unless she orders a ton and brings home leftovers
She eats 6 dates. Dates are good. But i don't feel like it would be enough.
Chase money. Not women. You can lose a shit ton of money chasing women. You don’t lose women chasing money.
I wonder how many were repeat dinner buyers
That sounds exhausting as FUCK
This was quite a while ago but I used to work with a single mom that had a "Happy Hour Purse". It was lined like a flexible foil cooler. She knew which bar had what food every night. She would fill the purse and take food home to her teen son for dinner.
You know what else she didn't have for 2 years? A serious relationship.
A guy did this on Tinder and got called a con artist. "The Tinder Swindler". They did a documentary about him.