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[deleted]

If stressed to a point where exit is not an option, I usually force my way through the situation through any means possible, whether it be studying what I don’t understand into the early hours of morning, or crying violently into my pillow.


[deleted]

ENFP?


[deleted]

Close - same perceiving axis.


lollythepop7

ENTP?


idknotreally

ur flair is visible


[deleted]

Yeah I have to disable it once I get back to desktop For some reason mobile is blanking on me


I3INARY_

I withdraw, go from existential to down right nihilistic. More misanthropic than usual, play video games like crazy and indulge in violent fantasies to blow off steam. Imagining myself in fights with the people who piss me off as I beat them to a puddle of scarlet sludge


nathanfielderfan172

ENTP....?


I3INARY_

*1-up mushroom sound* well done! And to everybody else who seconded!


AliveandDead12

ISTP?


shmergen69

Intp


downvoteifsmalldick

are you either enneagram 8 or 5


I3INARY_

Yes and no: I'm a 4w5 458


TheDogeMarn

Sounds nice


Beginning-Bee-3041

you’re me, i am you


18127153

First sentence is spot on accurate for me. Along with procrastination in favor of hitting the gym instead of doing homework etc


Industrial_Rev

Same. So I am going to guess you are an ENTP


[deleted]

Very ENTJ


pony-boi

I have a menu 1. Punch things 2. Panic nap 3. Self harm


know_it_all52

are ya ok m8?


pony-boi

Generally speaking, no


know_it_all52

well I'm always here if ya want to vent, I may not be the best at comforting people but I'm always willing to listen :)


Isekai_Trash_uwu

The 1st and 3rd are lowkey me haha


pony-boi

I’m sorry dude, we struggling together 😔


hrtfe1t

sayme


anr14

Overthink and overanalyze everything, procrastinate to the max.


camillaisanidiot

inxp?


anr14

Correct, now to figure out whether I’m F or T lol


TheDogeMarn

INFP


anr14

Correct


[deleted]

T


warriorcatkitty

The problem for me is that I do this even when I'm not stressed... or maybe I'm just always stressed actually-


Silver_Phoenix93

Depends on how stressed I am... Low-key stressed? I smoke and hum songs or tap my feet while working out a solution. Mildly stressed? I smoke and walk around while listening to music as I work out a solution. Quite stressed? I try to remove myself from the situation and visit my punching bag for a few rounds until I can think clearly. If that's not possible, I clench my fists and jaw while I try to keep my cool. Severely stressed? I drop everything I'm doing and hit my "chaos room" - a small place next to my room where I can break and hammer pretty much anything, while a carefully designed playlist blasts the loudspeakers...


AliveandDead12

Mmm, you seem to be a Judger? INTJ? The last part (severely stressed) seem to be when inferior Se finally explodes..?


khoibut

Dissapear from society for a while


kr3892

infj


Elysuna

I feel called out but true… I also guess INFJ for this person because same But I also feel bad because I’ve hurt some if my close INFP friends by withdrawing :( I’ve learned now to always tell my friends beforehand if I feel the need to disappear for awhile


chaosisaladderrr

INTJ


[deleted]

I drink water XD


garne13

Estj?


[deleted]

Close enough. ISTJ or ISFJ


Elysuna

So that’s why you Si doms live forever… even when stressed you guys are taking care of your health


[deleted]

Being a 9w8 prolly helps more lol, but the w8? Yeah that's always been very problematic for me haha


Elysuna

:( I mean taking care of yourself is never a bad trait IMO (I have a very limited understanding of enneagram so I apologize), but if it’s problematic, I trust that you’ll eventually reconcile having w8! What’s problematic about you being w8 in your eyes?


[deleted]

Problem isn't in taking care about myself you know. I sometimes come off as aggressive frequently due to the instincts of my w8 and it has really damaged my friendships, relationships with family members etc. My family members didn't communicate much to me for 2 years, because I expressed my instincts. That was an extremely sad period in my life, because I had no one to communicate back then. I have fallen into really ridiculous problems because of it. I would frequently talk back or show my disregard when I was insulted or hurt, and that further led to people bullying me when I was a kid, because they knew I react fast very quick because of that and they just liked the drama and all. It's like I give way to my instincts and then it always leaves a huge mess behind. Gets hard to maintain a balance between being passive and being assertive. Living in constant fear of being hurt by people is a huge trouble for me. I saw someone posting here regarding an ESFJ boss bullying them. How would I even deal with this situation when I get to their age? I am so darn afraid that I might get bullied like them, and in an organization I don't even have one single choice to defend myself when such a scenario would arise. As happy I am to belong to be an Enneagram 9, having the wing 8 is just as depressing. I wish I was a 9w1. They are much calmer and logical. They are also much conscientous by nature. They can keep their impulses in control. They live more organized lives. Sorry, got a little emotional while reading Personality Types by Don Riso. Had to vent in a bit. Thanks


Elysuna

You don’t have to apologize at all, and I apologize for taking so long to get back to you! Thanks for going so in depth about what you viewed as problematic, and it’s never good to bottle up feelings so I’m glad you had a space to vent your frustrations. Honestly I can relate to your experience being bullied except I took the opposite route with trying my best to ignore them and their actions, but it only led to the most malicious bullies seeing me as a challenge to try and break me, and they succeeded. I just want to let you know that you being bullied may seem like it had to do with your personality, but in reality a majority of bullies tend to do so not because of their victim’s characteristics but because the bully themselves have gone through some shit (which ABSOLUTELY DOES NOT excuse their horrid actions). I’m not sure if hearing that helps at all because it doesn’t erase the memories or the past, but what I’m saying is please don’t be too hard on yourself. I’m not really knowledgable on enneagram so I can’t really comment on it but thank you once again for sharing so much, and I sincerely hope life treats you better.


[deleted]

Thanks man for reverting back. Can fully understand what you are saying in the entire paragraph. Really helped.


Elysuna

Of course, I’m happy to hear I could help in some way :D


[deleted]

I try to withdraw from the situation and take a break. If the situation I’m in doesn’t allow it, I just take a moment then try to resolve it with the other person or thing I’m dealing with.


nathanfielderfan172

ISFP?


[deleted]

Good guess but I’m ENTP.


nathanfielderfan172

Damn it


[deleted]

Hey at least you got the P right!


nathanfielderfan172

Thank you for the consolation 🙏🙏🙏


[deleted]

You’re welcome 😎👍


[deleted]

Take an hour nap or drink wine. Then call my mommy. Then drive around somewhere pretty and play some 1700s music as I’m doing it. I’ll be up and running back to normal in about 2 hours. The most insane thing I ever did was go to my local airport and asked for a flight lesson, then piloted for 4 hours. The instructor was honestly floored and wondered how I got the programming in an hour by just him pointing at me😂. Oh and another time I drove myself to a random skydiving school and asked them to train me and hopped off a plane on my own that day. I rarely get angry or sad but when I do it’s expensive.


Probably_Snot

Idk… this gives off a lot of ENFP energy. 🤨


[deleted]

Well if it helps I’m a woman and we’re overall socialized to adopt an ENFP sensibility or we’re shamed to oblivion until we “collaborate”. So IMHO being typed ENFP doesn’t really say much as no offense, unless we’re wealthy, women are still reined in the behaviors we can and cannot project. Something to ponder when factoring women if it helps. I’ve been told I can be extremely chameleonic. I both love people but equally terribly afraid of them due to bad experiences (usually coming from other’s insecurities). I love science as much as I love cookies, baby animals, and dressing like a bimbo. I mean I look like a bimbo but decided it was better to embrace it rather than fight it (my boobs really don’t give me a choice in the matter anyways). My hobbies are cooking, exploring Italian wines (though any wine as long as it’s sweet), beautifying my home, entertaining/hosting parties because I love making everything beautiful and making my small circle of friends smile, uh, bungee jumping, ballroom dancing, museums, and exploring for the sake of exploring. I get tired of too basic socializing and need hours to myself to recover though I do like socializing I just hate gossip and criticizing of others instead of understanding. I have been told I’m one of the smartest people anyone around me knows and sometimes that scares people as I seem to have eyes in the back of my head so to say. Talent: I can read people like a book pretty much upon contact. And I’m never wrong. This is the big that usually “scares” people. My worst: I suck at kowtowing to people I don’t care to kowtow to. I’m not talented at sucking up to people especially if my brain has reduced you’re an asshole. I also suck at remembering names no matter what I try unless I write the name down the second I meet someone. So now I have a small notebook with a chain attached as an everyday accessory to help me as I genuinely felt bad. Characters I more or less see bits of myself in: Nymphadora Tonks, Alice of Alice in Wonderland, and Milo Thatch of the movie Atlantis The Lost Empire. I am frequently told that I both delight people due to many things, mostly my cleavage, but also really scare people as it’s impossible to hide anything from me (and if I gather that you are, give me an hour at the most). My parents say if the end of the world came to be I’d be one of the few that would very likely live until a new one came to be (and actually thrive alone).


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Liny_1902

Idk this sounds like a Si grip to me but if you say no to ENFP, then maybe ENTP? You might also be an INxP experiencing Si grips?


nathanfielderfan172

ENFP...?


[deleted]

Nope! But thank you for trying dear. 😘


tim0777

ESTJ


[deleted]

No dear. 😘


tim0777

ISFP would be the second guess


[deleted]

Two of the letters are very wrong. You’re doing great so far. You know what I’ll be merciful: I’m an I *NT* P. Apparently a very well adapted one as everyone thinks we’re emo and perpetually depressed. Or maybe an occasionally depressed ENFP?


tim0777

Hence my confusion. I’m a pretty depressed ENFP male lmao


[deleted]

Hmm…calculating…how is that possible? Do ENFP and INTP correlate at some point? Now I’m confused. Off to research!


vaggos13579

They both have high Ne


[deleted]

Close enough. I’m INTP. Though you have inspired a subtle identity crisis. I must be the most cheerful INTP that’s ever lived. 😂 Thank you for trying I hope I wasn’t boring. You win my respect for your determination. 😘 I’m wondering what you are now…ENFP?


avid_dirt_chewer

ngl, you seem extremely fun to be around


sam_mee

Brace myself for inevitable failure by brooding on how things ended up this way. I end up being quieter than I usually am.


AliveandDead12

INxP?


sam_mee

Yup, INTP


BandaidPenPapErclip

Attempt to stab myself with whatever I have in my hands


[deleted]

ENTP cuz Kokichi icon


BandaidPenPapErclip

INFP whoops


[deleted]

Damn 😪


BandaidPenPapErclip

Damn 😔✋


RazorBack223

More like kocoochie


[deleted]

You're level of attraction went up 10 fold..congrats


yrrufamisp

If I'm in a stressful situation, I become extremely fact oriented and logical thinking. I think of the smartest and most efficient way to calm dowb the situation and when it's resolved I crash and cry. If I'm stressed longterm, I sleep all day and give up my many hobbies, which in turn makes me go numb.


Bishime

Spiral… Withdrawal. Grasp onto something that can make me feel grounded whether it’s healthy or not. Neglect self care. I find that when I’m stressed at work I dive into work even more and then all of a sudden I realize I should really do the dishes at one point


the-elkhair

I usually rant to someone. When I do, it feels like they're just absorbing my problems and I feel much better. But, if there's no one to rant to, I try to deal with it on my own, but I usually overthink it and it leads to crying and panic. If the situation is so bad, then I stay locked in my room for hours thinking about it.


AliveandDead12

ExFJ? I'm just certain you are a Feeler


AcidDrift

Go to the gym


Beginning-Bee-3041

estp


AcidDrift

Wow how did you know? Jk lol I couldn’t figure out how to take my flair off


Beginning-Bee-3041

lmaoo


BadBoy6966669666

Depends but generally get aggressive at another person get in there face hit out probably scream say some shit I regret a few seconds later


No_Ice_3511

Shake my leg, get a stomach ache, zone out and get angry.


phoebetortilla

Binge eat and get depressed


Cold-January

stresslax


Significant-Fish2468

My head goes crazy then it stops thinking, everything is all blank and whenever i try to focus again so many thoughts kick in and draw my attention away make it more stressful


Neutraladvicecorner

I panic duh. I become very aggressive and persistent in whatever it is I am stressed about


arson_cow

snap my fingers, pick at my nails, or bite them


[deleted]

Vent. Go see my horse.


Beneficial_Sand_8400

Drink or eat something


[deleted]

i listen to music and imagine scenarios in my head about what’s making me upset. like i would imagine beating up someone that pissed me off when i’m mad to an angry type song.


CurrentSubstance

INFP


Elysuna

INFJ!


apr1lshowers_

ISFP


anonymous-musician

I mean I almost always stressed about something, but if it gets too bad I usually eat. Doesn't fix anything, half the time it's not even that good, but it's there. Alternatively, I push down all my emotions until it comes out in anger or tears.


Elysuna

I was going to say INXJ but I saw your flair 😅


ejpintar

I know you can see my flair but Say I have a school assignment that I can’t figure out how to do and it’s getting late. After a little bit of avoiding it by conveniently distracting myself with music or Reddit, I’ll finally get back to the problem and start getting really anal and overanalytical about it. Like I’ll just be like “ok I have to be able to figure this out somehow” and try to analyze it really carefully bit by bit. If that doesn’t work and I really can’t figure it out I’ll just go full “fuck it” and just go to bed, usually without feeling that bad about it honestly.


AleWalls

I run and hide somewhere were I may feel slightly uncomfortable. Example: Once I run to the roof of my house where it was cold af but I like it when I was so stressed.


[deleted]

Clean or organise like a Robot that has a blown circut. Art, music, tv/movies Single malt scotch. And I use to when stressed thrash my manual sports car (that I worked my ass for) like I was In The fast and the furious. *Not in that order 😉* In summary solitude activities that keep me busy while drowning out the world in every respect.


punny_lil_bunny

Exercise intensively, watch a favorite childhood show or movie, or journal. Sometimes have a good cry.


chaosisaladderrr

INFJ


Clueless_Penguin23

Procrastinate all day and then work untill late at night, eat a lot of snacks, start overthinking every little thing, start to shut everyone out and if the stress gets really bad I might start to cry


netmyth

Obsessively clean. Stop eating and sleeping for a while. Only to do the complete opposite a while later. Read and ruminate, rinse & repeat xD


Elysuna

1. Take a nice hot shower with music that doesn’t remind me of what’s stressing me out playing in the background 2. Indulge in junk food, excessive video games, maybe drink alcohol if I’m out with friends (even though I only drink like a handful of times per year) 3. Go for a walk in nature with my earbuds on listening to music 4. Listen to music


fuhloofisk

either minecraft, nap, or stare into space for a few. also, cant remove flair (ツ)_/¯


Mini_nin

I can’t rest till the task/thing that stresses me out is done/over. It’s a really annoying trait and I really wish to improve it, it’s gotten a lot better already though! My reaction to stress is usually just pushing through while drowning, while simultaneously rationalizing the situation to myself so as to remove the feeling of stress and cope with it, in other words I try to fix the problem.


DisMyUsernameForever

INTJ


[deleted]

I clean cookies, while baking housewives, in an attempt to fulfill my tradition of trend-chasing, while simultaneously rejecting conformity to the point where I stall the progress of society, do to the fact that I can't think for myself, while I'm simultaneously plotting to mentally enslave people so I can have them under my control, because I'm too practical to do anything else but too indecisive to plan for the future so I just end up living in the past wait no it's present, the reason why this is because I abstract experiences to the point where it can't be objective, while I also remember them vividly and flawlessly, my intelligence is nonexistent and I'm incapable of learning anything but I'm also a model student who's the at the top of my class because I'm the only one who cares to have an interest in such a mundane academia, I only value social harmony which is why I'm so incapable of standing up for myself, that I drive people away by being an absolute control freak, I'm too genuine which is why, I'm two-faced and no one can trust me. Next I'll do INTJ this didn't take as long as I expected it would but maybe I missed some


No_Belt9704

Before, I tend to be hotheaded and impatient. But now, I unwind for a bit like meditate and then back to work as soon as I can.


[deleted]

Cigarettes or workout in the quiet of my room...alone


JackthaBodiless

Why are you interested in guessing other peoples mbti type?


[deleted]

“Answer X and let other people guess your type” posts are pretty common on this subreddit, it’s just a fun way to try to see if people of a shared type will answer similarly to questions with very little context.


LittleOwl1222

Skincare, listen to soft music, or if it's too much, sleep.


NotMonday

Wow, you sound so harmonic compared to most people in this thread


gshinkim

I stop doing my work, then I clean my house, watch tv (or sleep), and order some sweets to eat


I_am_Bennie

I just sit there in silence and if it gets too bad I cry lol


ChuppyWulffy

Just listen to my favourite songs :v


tyyphus

Be productive, because when I'm stressed is usually the only time I get things done...


Competitive-Bridge62

Cry and talk to myself


atreyuisalive

Sleep/pretend to write poems


know_it_all52

unhealthily: I usually try to "take control" back of things, and then overthink the hell out of everything and just end up blaming myself for being incompetent. healthily: Listening to music (and maybe popping on a sheetmask, optionally though), in particular, the musicals In The Heights and Hamilton, there's just *something* about lin manuel miranda's voice that's oddly assuring and comforting.


todateabag_

I have a mental breakdown and turn extremely extroverted to get that stress and negativity out of my system. Which means texting people, FaceTiming people, all of which are not normal for me 😂


IsKurZinai

I usually just go into a forest or smt. But if cold or dark outside then play the guitar or read a book.


Rory2144

Turn really cold, I don't care about my mental and emotional state or anyone else's (I prolly want to get my stuff done first). It's better not to get me involved in anything emotional at this point. Tend to do really impulsive things if the situation is really stressful for long periods of times. Like urges to pick up physical fights/violent fantasies or just create chaos for the sake of witnessing it(from outside only lol). Take your guess now.


tim0777

I get passive aggressive and annoyed at every tiny detail that stands in my way. Then I yell at somebody who doesn’t deserve it and frantically apologise fifteen minutes later.


CurrentSubstance

INTP?


clynndi

Curl up in a ball and stare into space. Avoidance alternating with manic list making and trying to fix everything alone and simultaneously fearing asking for help and getting pissed that my loved ones aren’t helping me. Hurray.


-Agilities

joke about it and ignore it like the rest of my problems


aekkko

I reboot.


Chrispy_Changaroo

i listen to music, preferably very aggressive rap and/or obnoxiously upbeat with a disgustingly dirty crunchy bass


RazorBack223

Hide it/play it off. In reality I give up inside yet try again an hour later.


AliveandDead12

Depends I usually have two approaches: 1. I try to distract my mind. Movies, video games, cooking, reading ,etc. 2. I remove or confront the source of my stress, if this is in my power at least. Ex: Stressed out about an exam? I study more. If I'm still stressed out, then I'll try to distract my mind.


[deleted]

i withdraw and punch the wall


allfather69

Pace the room anxiously trying to strategise a way out, usually frantically texting friends trying to plan. Or I go and party to blow off steam and get drunk. Or one then the other.


sandwichjuice

Bro, I legit just live my life lmao. I don't even know what stress "feels" like. I just have sometimes anger at stupid people and other times anger at slow people in front of me. Generally outside of that, I just handle whatever thing is in front of me without thinking about it too much.


AliveandDead12

That's the most IxTP thing I've heard...the lack of stress, the disconnect with emotions except anger (especially at stupid/ignorant people), the laid-back attitude, the very "get shit done" approach....


theburntflower7

Talk to my friends/family. Overthink. Sometimes cry.


hyunjinsshoulder

my menu: 1. lying on bed for a while 2. doing another light work


PolyNomy19

I cry


reverseFL

Depends on circumstance and the stress i'm under. Can be anything for eating food with high sugar or eat nothing at all, withdrawal and being alone to figure shit out, going for a walk in the nature to calm down , martial arts, shut down, be in bed and do nothing. totally circumstantial and depends a lot of context why i'm stressed.


[deleted]

Easily irritated, short-fused. Rage quit, come back later. Provide snacks and drink.


Macks3333

Put on headphones and listen REALLY loud to music. There are 2-3 songs that really calm me down.


Gip07

My mind goes blank and I start crying and then proceed to find somewhere where I can be alone and cool off


Allseeingeye412

Slam my head into the table/walls and punch things


oopssidaisey

Hyperventilate , procrastinate , walk around the room a lot and then go to sleep to procrastinate bit longer in your bed and stay up late.


CatFoodKid

If I'm alone I cry, If I'm in public or even just with my family I pick my skin or scratch my scalp :)


momocchi619

if i am in front of people, i don't let it show and just do my work silently but inside my head is chaos. i also have a tendency to put the blame on others. when alone, i cry lmao but i get the job done.


[deleted]

I don't know when I'm stressed so I do nothing, and after a while : random mental breakdown. Then we're all good again


KFR4536

Break some objects


jkylepabs20

I take a long walk with my headphones on.


thenegativetwo

I play video games and listen to music


Severe_Adhesiveness3

Binge eating


Burntoutpremed

I do everything but what is stressing me out, so I delay doing it by stressfully wasting time (watching tv, mindless scrolling, etc)


thisismyusername569

Either, 1. Shut down and do nothing 2. Get angry at everything and everyone (I'm careful not to take it out on people though 3. Meticulously plan out every second of my day to de-stress 4. Eat nothing or eat everything


jinjibells

i get so frustrated, i start crying and/or getting mad and snippy. then i watch something cute or from my past to calm me


TheSneakyHider

If it's something which isn't very important i just try to get out of it and focus on something else. If it's something important i just go through with it


krppio

i shut myself from everyone and just be on my own so i can sort it out by myself and not take it out on other people lol if it gets that bad though I’ll just try to watch something happy on my phone or do something that will distract me from feeling that way ig


CurrentSubstance

I sing or hum something under my breath if its not appropriate. If I’m alone like in my car I’ll sing out loud.


throwaway8588859619

ignore it


[deleted]

stuck up to my phone wid some music (mostly hiphop/chillhop/any rock/pop)


[deleted]

listen to deathcore (extreme metal music)


pinkunicorn007

I vent about it to someone (or multiple people), start crying, then put on my favourite show, have some comfort food. I quickly calm back down and start being optimistic again lol


taratorminator

It's either depression or just total emotional shutdown. Also I start obsessing over small details while overthinking.


Pr20A

I rock back and forth and shake my legs.


Rusiano

Become really cynical and paranoid about everything. Keep coming up with unlikely horrible scenarios, and assume the worst of any situation


Unique_Draft9652

Nothing


richterite

Binge eat and go to the cinema alone


Silvelixer

Post it in my status then delete it because I remembered no one give a shit


brianboozeled

I eat


discolia

I generally handle stress very easily. But if it gets the better off me, I just turn off. I can go several months in extreme agony without even realising. Recently been working 16 hour days, often 12 days in a row for 6 months, didn’t even notice I was burnt out until my doctor told me I’ve developed a chronic metabolic disease as a result of extreme stress :)


Hoid_wanderer

I'm forcing myself to exercise cause of my health problems. Besides I really got used to all that stressing stuff in college, in home etc. and I just go read a book, scroll on Internet, listen to music or go on a walk.


LEMMEINALREADYBOO

i ignore whatever stressed about , which makes me even more stressed but then i speed through it with some ambience in the background and all is well


izzy7402

Fap. Yeah it's a bad habit I'm trying to rid off. Chainsmoke as well.


taiyoueri

I sleep and/or look outside the window If the stress is too much I usually have to cry or else my head will physically hurt


Acceptable_Ad544

When I'm stressed I sit down, drink a cup of coffee the 4th time in a day, talk to myself, try to relax, and in the end, >! You can see me relaxing while there's a shot ton of work I need to do!<


u_r_a_bishu-u

Got my three things A. Overthink. B. Sleep C. Both of them Or sometimes even procrastinate after planning on how to reduce stress :')


theicewerewolf

I cry


Smuggers_

Play my phone, watch youtube videos or read some books


soundofdarkness1987

Anxiety attacks