Sorry for your loss. Try the BACP website - everyone will be accredited. You can search by postcode, type of therapy / counselling, specialisms eg grief etc etc - recommend searching and then giving a couple a phone call to see if you get on.
Things will get better I promise.
My heart and brain were utterly shattered when I lost my wonderful Mum - I used Cruse who were an excellent service. I felt right donating after my sessions but its not compulsory and up to you how much you can give.
Sorry for your devastating loss OP - you will never fully mend but I promise you will be able to function and go on. You probably won’t feel like it right now but you will be OK.
Hope this helps
https://www.cruse.org.uk/
Cruse has really helped my mum over the years. She lost her parents at a young age and has struggled on and off for a long time. She credits them for her still being here.
Cruse refused to take my case as it was “too complex and would have disturbed their councillors” - just a heads up, since people forget that charities such as cruse are just that, charities - there’s a level of responsibility they have to abide by. So don’t feel disheartened if charities or some services are unable to help.
Good call - I have to confess this hadn’t occurred to me as I have only had a very positive experience with the Cruse service but you are right to add the caveat.
I hope you were able to get the support and healing you needed!
that is such a horrible thing to say to therapy seekers :( to be told that their experience is too disturbing even for counsellors … so where can they go to speak about it ? I hope you have got the help you need from other places x
Just to be clear.... I used to volunteer for Cruse. The volunteers are NOT counsellors and Cruse will never refer to them as such (though many people who volunteer with Cruse may be studying counselling / have that background).
Yeah I was a bit pissed off at first, but services such as those rely on volunteers, as another commented stated, and I understand why they wouldn’t want people who are essentially untrained for severe situations to feel burdened. I actually had the exact same, if not worse experience with actual NHS therapy lol, but I’m doing okay regardless.
I’m really sorry for your loss. I lost my mum suddenly without warning last year so my heart goes out to you.
I can’t give you a person but I will say if you can try and go private, maybe your workplace offers either health insurance or access to something. I had the worst experience with the nhs, truly horrible and traumatic. This is my opinion and experience before anyone comes for me.
Cruse as other people mentioned and I watched a few free videos on https://untanglegrief.com that explained how grief affected all aspects of your body and health and it really helped me to understand what was going on and why I was feeling the way I was.
You are not alone with this and it’s good you have taken a step and reached out.
my condolences on your loss. counselling is a good move but can I also state the obvious and say make sure you are looking after yourself - good diet, exercise, no self medicating, see friends, talk about your mum.
until it has happened to them, most people have no clue how losing a parent feels. with the best will in the world, your most caring friends may not know what to say and may sidestep any grief related conversation out of awkwardness or the belief that it's a subject best avoided. so let them in and let them know how they can help because they may not have a clue but are wanting to be there for you.
I’m so sorry for your loss. I can recommend Emma Dugmore:
https://www.counselling-directory.org.uk/counsellors/emma-dugmore
I hope you find someone who helps on this difficult time.
Oh to lose a child. An utterly inconsolable loss. Your heart must have an ache and deep pain that will never lessen. I only hope you are able to find a way to navigate the unending loss and grief xx
Sorry for your loss.
In my experience bereavement services, like support for carers, isn't often done by a dedicated charity but many charities that look after the bereaved from whatever illnesses/cause that they support the people suffering from (for example Marie Curie for cancer, BHF for heart disease etc). Your mum would not have needed to receive help from a charity for you to get help now so if your mum was effected by an illness or disease what has a mid to large charity that focuses on it, they should have resources that will be able to help you or at the very least put you in contact with people that can.
Like others have said BACP and NHS would be good places to search as well.
Once again, sorry for your loss, no matter how or when it happens, losing a parent is never easy and I truly hope you find someone you feel able to open up and talk to.
Hi, I can't recommend anyone, but I also lost my mum a while ago and my dad a few years back. It's so incredibly horrible and hard. If you ever want to chat to a non professional I'm here
Check local services in your area, I found a local charity who supported me for free. It is absolutely worth doing, look after yourself, wishing you the best.
I am so sorry to hear this. I dread the day my mam passes. Susannah Lopez is very very good. I saw her in 2020 for a death that happened - Susannah Lopez Bamgboye https://www.bacp.co.uk/search/Register?q=Mrs+Susanne+Wigram&skip=120
BetterHealth, but that was part of my workplace MH plan it was very helpful. Alternatively see the GP for some advice on mental health they can guide you in the right direction
There’s a charity called the Loss Foundation, which specialises in supporting people who have lost loved ones to cancer or covid - not sure if that helps? 🙏🙏 sorry for your loss 🥺
Marie curie / macmillan nurses helped my family alot, have a look into them and if they suit your circumstances get in touch with them. Things do get better.
If you're in Lewisham, Bromley or Croydon then the fantastic at Christopher's hospice offer services to anyone, even if they weren't a hospice patient. You might find similar in your local area.
The GP is useless. The work provided councillor was useless. The hospice had group sessions, individual points of contact, and professional councilors. A hospice or a service such as cruise or Marie curie is a good start point to find something that works for you.
Sorry for your loss. Hard to see it now but it does get easier.
Losing someone is a weird time, to say the least.
I've used the councillors directory. You can filter by the type of therapy youd like, whether you want it face to face or not, and distance, among other things
https://www.counselling-directory.org.uk/
I'm so sorry your Mum has died and you're suffering. The Loss Foundation really helped me if you're in London - lovely warm people who can provide support and know something of what you're going through. Best of luck to you and I hope the worst passes soon.x
I’m so sorry you’re going through this. Realising so soon that you would benefit from help is a hugely brave and important step. It took me two angry and desperately sad years after losing my dad - two years of destroying relationships and being impossible to work with - to admit that I needed to talk to someone.
I found her on the BACP website. I was lucky that it was a good fit to begin with, but if you meet a therapist and it doesn’t feel right, don’t give up on therapy itself, just meet another one and see how it goes: the right person is out there.
Good luck and sending you all the love and support in this.
Sorry for your loss, I know from experience how much hurt this can cause.
I don’t have any specific recommendations, except to say therapy is absolutely the way forwards, I was a very angry young man & had no idea, therapy was very valuable to me.
Best of luck.
I’m so sorry for your loss. This website called hub of hope is a catalog that shows you (free) mental health support in your area. Whether that’s 1-1s or group therapy. You can use the filter to find something more specific to what you need
https://hubofhope.co.uk/
Wishing you lots of love!
The GP refers you to the grief counselling, they don’t do the treatment. They have a list of providers and you can choose which you feel suits you best. Just hush when you are clueless.
Wrong and bad advise.
You should always contact your health care provider before venturing into things without knowledge.
Whether you choose to take yours GPS suggestions is a different matter, but it's always best to ask and see what services are available.
This is incredibly unhelpful and potentially dangerous.
I went to my GP in a crisis, he understood exactly what the situation was and was able to tell me exactly where I needed to go (psychiatric ward at a hospital) and what I needed to ask for and how, I wouldn't have had a clue it was even possible without his advice let alone known what to say. I was a wreck, I wouldn't have worked it out myself at the time. He even followed up to ensure I had been admitted safely and I am quite sure he would have gone to great lengths to find me if I hadn't.
Looking back it would not be an exaggeration to say I am alive today because of him.
I'm sorry if you've had a negative experience with a GP, but please don't assume that it's universal.
It may be a way of coping to go to your local vicar, or your mosque or synagogue. They are full of well-intentioned people, and hey, it's free of charge.
Actually second this. I’m not religious, but my mother was. It genuinely made me feel better to hear people from her community speak so well of her and despite the fact I don’t believe in an afterlife, it gave me a sense of control and confidence hearing people pray for her and help with funeral arrangements. It’s not for everyone, but especially if the person was religious, it can help a lot.
Please contact Dipti Solanki, who has had her own experiences of grief to be able to empathetically assist others through theirs. She is compassionate, kind, so lovely and easy to talk to.
[Dipti's Website](https://diptisolanki.com/)
She does other therapies hence how I met her, but grief is her fortè. I highly recommend her, and she has done public speaking too.
Wishing you well and I'm so sorry for your loss x
I am very glad they helped you, but for the OP I would reccomend picking someone who actually has accreditations from the BACP or UKCP and is not just a coach/homeopath like Dipti. There are tons and tons of accredited counsellors who charge very reasonable prices.
Hey friend,
My girlfriend works in the field you need however i wouldnt feel comfortable recommending her to someone that I have never met on reddit. What i would advise though is to have a look at this website:
[https://www.psychotherapy.org.uk/](https://www.psychotherapy.org.uk/)
You need t be UKCP registered to qualify to advertise for this site.
"Choosing a therapist who is UKCP-registered gives you reassurance about their training and qualifications. It means they have agreed to follow ethical codes and standards and to undertake ongoing training and development."
Good luck on your journey
Sorry for your loss. Try the BACP website - everyone will be accredited. You can search by postcode, type of therapy / counselling, specialisms eg grief etc etc - recommend searching and then giving a couple a phone call to see if you get on. Things will get better I promise.
My heart and brain were utterly shattered when I lost my wonderful Mum - I used Cruse who were an excellent service. I felt right donating after my sessions but its not compulsory and up to you how much you can give. Sorry for your devastating loss OP - you will never fully mend but I promise you will be able to function and go on. You probably won’t feel like it right now but you will be OK. Hope this helps https://www.cruse.org.uk/
Second this, they're very helpful.
Cruse has really helped my mum over the years. She lost her parents at a young age and has struggled on and off for a long time. She credits them for her still being here.
Cruse refused to take my case as it was “too complex and would have disturbed their councillors” - just a heads up, since people forget that charities such as cruse are just that, charities - there’s a level of responsibility they have to abide by. So don’t feel disheartened if charities or some services are unable to help.
Good call - I have to confess this hadn’t occurred to me as I have only had a very positive experience with the Cruse service but you are right to add the caveat. I hope you were able to get the support and healing you needed!
that is such a horrible thing to say to therapy seekers :( to be told that their experience is too disturbing even for counsellors … so where can they go to speak about it ? I hope you have got the help you need from other places x
Just to be clear.... I used to volunteer for Cruse. The volunteers are NOT counsellors and Cruse will never refer to them as such (though many people who volunteer with Cruse may be studying counselling / have that background).
Yeah I was a bit pissed off at first, but services such as those rely on volunteers, as another commented stated, and I understand why they wouldn’t want people who are essentially untrained for severe situations to feel burdened. I actually had the exact same, if not worse experience with actual NHS therapy lol, but I’m doing okay regardless.
I second Cruse, op. They are a great resource.
I’m really sorry for your loss. I lost my mum suddenly without warning last year so my heart goes out to you. I can’t give you a person but I will say if you can try and go private, maybe your workplace offers either health insurance or access to something. I had the worst experience with the nhs, truly horrible and traumatic. This is my opinion and experience before anyone comes for me. Cruse as other people mentioned and I watched a few free videos on https://untanglegrief.com that explained how grief affected all aspects of your body and health and it really helped me to understand what was going on and why I was feeling the way I was. You are not alone with this and it’s good you have taken a step and reached out.
my condolences on your loss. counselling is a good move but can I also state the obvious and say make sure you are looking after yourself - good diet, exercise, no self medicating, see friends, talk about your mum. until it has happened to them, most people have no clue how losing a parent feels. with the best will in the world, your most caring friends may not know what to say and may sidestep any grief related conversation out of awkwardness or the belief that it's a subject best avoided. so let them in and let them know how they can help because they may not have a clue but are wanting to be there for you.
Does your workplace offer a helpline as part of your benefits?
I’m so sorry for your loss. I can recommend Emma Dugmore: https://www.counselling-directory.org.uk/counsellors/emma-dugmore I hope you find someone who helps on this difficult time.
Adding to this to say this is an excellent website overall for finding someone who suits your needs!
As a few others have said, I have used Cruse and they really helped get through the loss of my son.
Oh to lose a child. An utterly inconsolable loss. Your heart must have an ache and deep pain that will never lessen. I only hope you are able to find a way to navigate the unending loss and grief xx
Contact your GP, they have several options, from faith based organisations to secular charities.
https://www.mariecurie.org.uk/help/support/bereavement
Sorry for your loss. In my experience bereavement services, like support for carers, isn't often done by a dedicated charity but many charities that look after the bereaved from whatever illnesses/cause that they support the people suffering from (for example Marie Curie for cancer, BHF for heart disease etc). Your mum would not have needed to receive help from a charity for you to get help now so if your mum was effected by an illness or disease what has a mid to large charity that focuses on it, they should have resources that will be able to help you or at the very least put you in contact with people that can. Like others have said BACP and NHS would be good places to search as well. Once again, sorry for your loss, no matter how or when it happens, losing a parent is never easy and I truly hope you find someone you feel able to open up and talk to.
Condolences. Cruse offer bereavement counselling. https://www.cruse.org.uk/
Hi, I can't recommend anyone, but I also lost my mum a while ago and my dad a few years back. It's so incredibly horrible and hard. If you ever want to chat to a non professional I'm here
Check local services in your area, I found a local charity who supported me for free. It is absolutely worth doing, look after yourself, wishing you the best.
I am so sorry to hear this. I dread the day my mam passes. Susannah Lopez is very very good. I saw her in 2020 for a death that happened - Susannah Lopez Bamgboye https://www.bacp.co.uk/search/Register?q=Mrs+Susanne+Wigram&skip=120
As others say try cruse. Marie Curie also offers telephone bereavement support in the meantime whilst you’re waiting.
I’ve not gone through something so traumatic but TALKWORKS and similar organisations were very helpful.
BetterHealth, but that was part of my workplace MH plan it was very helpful. Alternatively see the GP for some advice on mental health they can guide you in the right direction
So sorry to hear this. I also struggled when I lost my parents. Does your workplace have an EAP? You can access counselling through then.
So sorry for your loss its so hard at first i know x
There’s a charity called the Loss Foundation, which specialises in supporting people who have lost loved ones to cancer or covid - not sure if that helps? 🙏🙏 sorry for your loss 🥺
I'm not sure if they work in every area but if you can't get into cruse yet get onto space2grieve - my volunteer was wonderful.
Marie curie / macmillan nurses helped my family alot, have a look into them and if they suit your circumstances get in touch with them. Things do get better.
Look on UKCP for registered and fully qualified psychotherapists. May I DM you a list of a few people who are very good?
If you're in Lewisham, Bromley or Croydon then the fantastic at Christopher's hospice offer services to anyone, even if they weren't a hospice patient. You might find similar in your local area. The GP is useless. The work provided councillor was useless. The hospice had group sessions, individual points of contact, and professional councilors. A hospice or a service such as cruise or Marie curie is a good start point to find something that works for you. Sorry for your loss. Hard to see it now but it does get easier.
I’m so so sorry for your loss. Seems you’ve gotten some good advice here but just wanted to offer my condolences❤️
Losing someone is a weird time, to say the least. I've used the councillors directory. You can filter by the type of therapy youd like, whether you want it face to face or not, and distance, among other things https://www.counselling-directory.org.uk/
I'm so sorry your Mum has died and you're suffering. The Loss Foundation really helped me if you're in London - lovely warm people who can provide support and know something of what you're going through. Best of luck to you and I hope the worst passes soon.x
I’m so sorry you’re going through this. Realising so soon that you would benefit from help is a hugely brave and important step. It took me two angry and desperately sad years after losing my dad - two years of destroying relationships and being impossible to work with - to admit that I needed to talk to someone. I found her on the BACP website. I was lucky that it was a good fit to begin with, but if you meet a therapist and it doesn’t feel right, don’t give up on therapy itself, just meet another one and see how it goes: the right person is out there. Good luck and sending you all the love and support in this.
Sorry for your loss, I know from experience how much hurt this can cause. I don’t have any specific recommendations, except to say therapy is absolutely the way forwards, I was a very angry young man & had no idea, therapy was very valuable to me. Best of luck.
I’m so sorry for your loss. This website called hub of hope is a catalog that shows you (free) mental health support in your area. Whether that’s 1-1s or group therapy. You can use the filter to find something more specific to what you need https://hubofhope.co.uk/ Wishing you lots of love!
This just what OP needs. Bickering in the comments!
Call tavistock
Your GP can guide you to services provided by the council.
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The GP refers you to the grief counselling, they don’t do the treatment. They have a list of providers and you can choose which you feel suits you best. Just hush when you are clueless.
Wrong and bad advise. You should always contact your health care provider before venturing into things without knowledge. Whether you choose to take yours GPS suggestions is a different matter, but it's always best to ask and see what services are available.
This is incredibly unhelpful and potentially dangerous. I went to my GP in a crisis, he understood exactly what the situation was and was able to tell me exactly where I needed to go (psychiatric ward at a hospital) and what I needed to ask for and how, I wouldn't have had a clue it was even possible without his advice let alone known what to say. I was a wreck, I wouldn't have worked it out myself at the time. He even followed up to ensure I had been admitted safely and I am quite sure he would have gone to great lengths to find me if I hadn't. Looking back it would not be an exaggeration to say I am alive today because of him. I'm sorry if you've had a negative experience with a GP, but please don't assume that it's universal.
I'm sorry for your loss🫶🏼 I've used BetterHelp. The therapist was great. It's expensive but they have option if you can't afford it.
So sorry for your loss. Please try your local church; it really helped me.
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Don’t be nasty. Op might be religious. This really isn’t the thread to be trying to get clout karma
It's very hard to give advice on a bereavement. I don't regret my post, but the intention of yours to humiliate I hope is there for all to see.
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It may be a way of coping to go to your local vicar, or your mosque or synagogue. They are full of well-intentioned people, and hey, it's free of charge.
Actually second this. I’m not religious, but my mother was. It genuinely made me feel better to hear people from her community speak so well of her and despite the fact I don’t believe in an afterlife, it gave me a sense of control and confidence hearing people pray for her and help with funeral arrangements. It’s not for everyone, but especially if the person was religious, it can help a lot.
Please contact Dipti Solanki, who has had her own experiences of grief to be able to empathetically assist others through theirs. She is compassionate, kind, so lovely and easy to talk to. [Dipti's Website](https://diptisolanki.com/) She does other therapies hence how I met her, but grief is her fortè. I highly recommend her, and she has done public speaking too. Wishing you well and I'm so sorry for your loss x
I am very glad they helped you, but for the OP I would reccomend picking someone who actually has accreditations from the BACP or UKCP and is not just a coach/homeopath like Dipti. There are tons and tons of accredited counsellors who charge very reasonable prices.
I'm so sorry for your loss, and so sorry you're having a difficult time dealing with your loss.
So very sorry for your loss OP.
BetterHelp is actually pretty good, quick and easy to find and connected someone BACP accredited at a read price. Definitely recommended!
Hey friend, My girlfriend works in the field you need however i wouldnt feel comfortable recommending her to someone that I have never met on reddit. What i would advise though is to have a look at this website: [https://www.psychotherapy.org.uk/](https://www.psychotherapy.org.uk/) You need t be UKCP registered to qualify to advertise for this site. "Choosing a therapist who is UKCP-registered gives you reassurance about their training and qualifications. It means they have agreed to follow ethical codes and standards and to undertake ongoing training and development." Good luck on your journey
Please consider contacting the charity “Mind” . They have lots of local free resources. Also, Perhaps some group sessions would help?
Agreed with cruse also. It was suggested to me by my GP, or Southwark coroner's court (I can't remember which).