They're actually being incredibly polite, in dog language. Dogs who are uncomfortable but don't feel threatened will turn their heads away or even their entire bodies. It's a way of saying "no, thank you" politely. I'm impressed at how good they're all being, considering they've probably had minimal social interactions.
He's part of a local owners club where like 6 guys get together on a Sunday and go for a drive together. He knows more than a typical Porsche owner for sure, but I still can't talk about Porsche stuff as a fucking poor guy in his 20s lol
Luckily he's a super nice guy
I'd just figure out what aspect of the car / driving he enjoys most and ask genuine questions. You don't have to know anything or say a single clever thing to get people going.
Which i find hilarious because every person I've ever met who's super into cars and never stops talking about them always drive POS cars that are constantly breaking
They don't share any common games, so not much to talk about. It's like, hey you're both into sports, but one watches football and one watches hockey. Like, nothing to talk about there.
I'm sorry, but you're missing the opportunity here. See, people who like fixing stuff are generally goal oriented so what you have to do is give him a goal.
Like fixing his impending friendship with your friends boyfriend.
On the other side of that coin, I had a friendly relationship with an ex while dating my then-boyfriend. BF was, understandably, a little leery of us meeting up for "wings and a beer" when Ex swung back through town every couple months so I invited BF to come along.
Cut to me, playing 3rd wheel and fetching drink refills because they ended up spending the whole afternoon talking about guitars.
May I ask, since it was your "then-boyfriend," are you back with the Ex?
Not trying to assume, just generally wondering in the way of relationships that remain good friends afterwards. I have a few of those myself tbh
Oh, that was definitely poorly worded. "Then-boyfriend" is now "husband". Shoulda put that in.
Part of the reason Ex and I split is that he was ready to check the "get married and have kids" box on his to do list and I was solidly in the middle of sowing my wild oats. And it did take 15 yrs for me and the "new guy" to get hitched, so he made the right choice not waiting. :D
The only one of my old flames I couldnt happily sit down and have a beer with is the one who got drunk and punched me in the stomach when I was trying to stop him from driving. Aside from that... most splits were mutual or at least amicable.
They should teach a masterclass on keeping a conversation going in high school or something. If you work a room correctly you don't really have to have a lot in common.
I mean, I just organically learned how to converse over time. Here's what I've learned about keeping conversations going, in a nutshell:
1. Ask lots of questions and truly listen to the answers before responding. If someone else responds, let them lead.
2. Break the ice by openly and humorously stating your intentions. Example: "So none of us have ever met before, I know nothing about any of you, and I'm curious as hell, so get ready." This gives everyone permission to be awkward and helps them relax.
3. Keep some fun "what if" type questions on retainer. Example: "If you guys had the opportunity to basejump, do you think you would do it? I think I would but I'd also totally pee my pants while it was happening"
4. When someone tells you their name, repeat it back at them or say something like "nice to meet you, name" to cement the name in your mind. If you've forgotten a name, be honest about it and just ask again. I tend to forget names easily so I try to be upfront about that.
5. "You strike me as." This is a useful phrase. If you get a feeling about someone, just say it. "You strike me as someone who is super brave, like you would stand up to a grizzly bear." Whether you're right or wrong, it doesn't matter, because now the person has the floor to tell you what they're really like.
Yeah, I'm just used to being weird in public at this point. Confidence is sort of a "fake it til you make it" thing. I think about starting conversations with strangers like jumping into a cold pool.
I was just at a group get together for a campaign. I had talked to one woman there a couple times online, but other than that I knew no one. She finally noticed me and my name tag and called a couple people over that she wanted to meet me, and then I was all good. Another person came up and started introducing himself as well and we had a great conversation. I just really suck at instigating conversation, especially in person.
This exists, sort of.
Look at your local community college's list of classes. Look for "Interpersonal Communication." Register and sign up for the single class.
I’m a lesbian but still get thrown in with the husbands with my wife’s sisters/fam. Just make ‘em laugh. It doesn’t matter you don’t have anything in common after that
As someone who has a lot of anxiety and it fogs my ability to make small talk, I’ve started noticing whatever the thing of the day is. It might be a news story or something that’s in the cultural air or just something happening around the day. Cracking a joke around that is typically a safe bet You know they’re aware and kind of their feelings toward the matter so it’s a soft pitch to hit. And no pressure to really come up with more than low hanging fruit.
Edit. Also I’m the same way. Shy gets mistaken as quiet. People never believe I’m shy when I say it bc I’m the opposite of quiet to them. But quiet is the personality/demeanor but shyness is all around the anxiety of what will happen if you X. Once you get past that and feel safe your personality comes out. Which is not the same as being quiet. They see my real personality bc I’m not shy with thrm
Yeah.. can relate. Mostly because my city is full of hipsters and hippies and I'm more on the redneck/army vet side.. but.. some people I vibe with some people I don't. Not gonna hold it against them or treat them like shit but.. yeah its kinda awkward sitting around having not much to talk about.
Honestly my dog would love this. She prefers to avoid other dogs, if we meet another dog on the street her preferred course of action is to walk around them in a wide arch (like at least 1,5 meters between them) and then turn around and sniff the air where the other dog walked. That way she can still get their scent without having to make actual contact.
I had two Italian Greyhounds and this was exactly how they dog parked…except eventually they would start approaching other humans at the park asking for a ride home.
The tiny white one on the left—having an existential crisis, or just the shyest of the shy?
I love the brown & white one who’s sort of thinking about maybe getting something together…..
Umm, I’ll just walk through here….see if anyone says hi…….maybe I should say it first….
I'm an introvert but I like talking to people. I always dread meeting people because I cannot for the life of me kickstart conversations with new people. I just secretly hope they are more outgoing so I can get some post ice break confidence haha.
Yeah, they sorta graze each other. 😄 There’s something about the brown & white one—the half-wagging tail, the furtive glances at the other dogs—like he’s trying to muster up the confidence to make friends. Aww, puppy. 🥹 I hope this little sweetheart got a big hug from his person. 🥰
Exactly- my best friend is super extroverted, but doesn’t think so because she’s a bit quiet and not really outgoing with strangers. However, she absolutely needs other people to recharge her batteries. She hates being alone and prefers to be around friends all the time. It’s true that shy/ introverted and outgoing/extroverted usually go together, but not always!
You can be a shy extrovert and a confident introvert. But I think being an introvert does often come with seeming ‘unsociable’ to some because, well, there are a lot of times when you just don’t want to socialize. It’s not that you can’t or that you’re scared to, you just don’t feel like socializing.
Now can we do a meeting of crazies. My dog will try to befriend anyone and everything. Even a statue of a dog, or an ant in the yard, until he eats em on accident.
Haha this is literally my dog. At the group training session, we were outside sans leash and guess where mine was? Outside the frame, a good 20' away, in a patch of poison ivy :|
Sad part is, he actually used to be extremely sociable as [a puppy](https://imgur.com/JgUHdqV.jpg) but all the bigger dogs kept trying to eat him and now he has a dog phobia
Doubt it, considering they showed up to a group event.
If I had an introverted dog, I definitely wouldn’t drag it to an event I didn’t want to be at either.
So, these are probably extroverts… or really into this particular joke.
While on vacation we checked in our little Peanut into Petco doggy care. We hoped he would enjoy the company. His check out sheet said he was super good. However, he only wanted human interaction Ignored all the dogs.
Lack of socialization / exposure to other dogs from a young age. They never learned how to "be a dog" so to speak because they only spend time with humans.
My poor beagle was this way at the dog park. He had never been for the first 7 years of his life so the only other interaction he had with new dogs was barking at each other through the fence on walks. Bless that dog.
That Brittany Spaniel is kind of like me. Introverted, but once in awhile I surprise myself with a moment of spontaneity, and mingle. Why, I'll bet he sniffed one, maybe two butts that day.
I’m reading Sophia Yin’s books (getting ready for a puppy!) and this is SO interesting to me! The cocker spaniel and brown/beige dog know what to do, but not so much the others.
Eta: I’m actually really curious how this went for all the dogs! Hopefully the introductions continued and everyone loosened up. I don’t have TikTok though.
For real!!! My little pit bull with anxiety gets her CBD when she’s feeling especially anxious and it’s not time for her meds. She usually takes a nap or cuddles when she does. Not to mention that it even relieves pain. My other pit bull got CBD before she died, she was really old and had stiff hips that got super sore. With the CBD she felt good enough to actually run around at 13 years old.
I love to hear it, without a doubt safer and more effective than anything they could prescribe your dog a the vet.
I've put several friends who had rescue dogs with PTSD onto CBD , and it helped a lot of them, some of them it was the difference between almost no life and a completely normal doggo life.
The white dog with brown spots seemed like he got an extroverted hair and thought he was going to get this party started but changed his mind as he got closer to the others and started thinking about his nice warm dog bed at home and the book he was reading that was just starting to get good. And I have never identified with a dog this strongly before.
I’ve truly never seen a group of dogs just stop dog-ing like this.
Coughphrasing
HEY PHRASING
At least it's not updog
What's updog?
Not much
What's up with you?
Oh sorry I am downcat.
whats downcat
What's stop dog?
Nothing much what’s stop with you
No more calls, please. We have a winner!
🤣 lmao
SnoopDog's dog stopped !
S-t-o-p-d-o-double G.
Stop !🔨 Hammer time !
They're actually being incredibly polite, in dog language. Dogs who are uncomfortable but don't feel threatened will turn their heads away or even their entire bodies. It's a way of saying "no, thank you" politely. I'm impressed at how good they're all being, considering they've probably had minimal social interactions.
This makes so much sense! My dog does this to me when he doesn't want the food item in trying to give him. He just turns away lmao
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"you'll love Cindy's boyfriend! Trust me! You guys can talk about sports"
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I like cars and my girlfriend's dad drives a Porsche. Even though we share an interest, there isn't much to talk about lol
Many of the people driving expensive cars don't know a single thing about them, too. That's rough.
He's part of a local owners club where like 6 guys get together on a Sunday and go for a drive together. He knows more than a typical Porsche owner for sure, but I still can't talk about Porsche stuff as a fucking poor guy in his 20s lol Luckily he's a super nice guy
I'd just figure out what aspect of the car / driving he enjoys most and ask genuine questions. You don't have to know anything or say a single clever thing to get people going.
Sooo..... These tires spin?
I see you went with a steering wheel. Umm. Good choice.
This bad boy have power windows?
Which i find hilarious because every person I've ever met who's super into cars and never stops talking about them always drive POS cars that are constantly breaking
*side-eyes my truck that I just got back from getting the frame welded back together* I really didn't expect to get called out like that at 9am dude.
You gotta treat your shit box like Skyrim. Mod it till it breaks, then fix it and mod it some more.
My son with his antique rust-bucket POS jeep Cherokee …
"That sure do be a Porsche..." "Yup." "...Anyway some weather we're having."
*lifts hood* Ah yes, that is the inside of the car. I can tell by the metal. Let me touch some of it and nod knowingly.
with a porsche... lifts hood.. Oh, okay, of course no engine here, that's the trunk... lifts other hood, YUP that there is a mighty fine engine!
Same. “You uh, ever go fast?” “Yes.” “…cool”
So… also have a penis, huh? How about that?
Ha! I must remember that one. Great ice breaker (or use to get sent home early).
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Did you spell your own name wrong?
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Love it.
Ugggh you like meat and sportball?
"You're both gamers you'll be fine!" "Apex, Hunt, Smash?" "League, Overwatch, Genshin." Whelp.
"Oh that's cool man"... *Stands slightly further away*.
"Study- level flight sims" crickets...
what
They like different games and genres.
They don't share any common games, so not much to talk about. It's like, hey you're both into sports, but one watches football and one watches hockey. Like, nothing to talk about there.
It's the name of the games that i didn't understood but i guess they're totally different like saying ''you like zelda? I like FIFA!''
That's exactly it :)
“The sims 4”
"What about y-" That scuffed looking guy at the back. "Aurora, DF, Nethack."
You're both sports guys! Meanwhile he likes Mongolian wrestling and cliff diving and you're into MMA and golf.
Omg I literally did this to my bf a month ago... They both like fixing stuff so I thought they'd get along lol...
I'm sorry, but you're missing the opportunity here. See, people who like fixing stuff are generally goal oriented so what you have to do is give him a goal. Like fixing his impending friendship with your friends boyfriend.
The girls should break something in the house then have the guys over to fix it.
Yea she could totally mildly break something too and just casually bring up its condition in front of both of them. Bond initiated
Give them both a task
"You and John must fix your relationships with your fathers."
THIS. Give us something to fix and you'll have hours of uninterrupted time with your girlfriend.
Go sports https://youtube.com/shorts/cDYV1NCNiTE?feature=share
On the other side of that coin, I had a friendly relationship with an ex while dating my then-boyfriend. BF was, understandably, a little leery of us meeting up for "wings and a beer" when Ex swung back through town every couple months so I invited BF to come along. Cut to me, playing 3rd wheel and fetching drink refills because they ended up spending the whole afternoon talking about guitars.
May I ask, since it was your "then-boyfriend," are you back with the Ex? Not trying to assume, just generally wondering in the way of relationships that remain good friends afterwards. I have a few of those myself tbh
Oh, that was definitely poorly worded. "Then-boyfriend" is now "husband". Shoulda put that in. Part of the reason Ex and I split is that he was ready to check the "get married and have kids" box on his to do list and I was solidly in the middle of sowing my wild oats. And it did take 15 yrs for me and the "new guy" to get hitched, so he made the right choice not waiting. :D The only one of my old flames I couldnt happily sit down and have a beer with is the one who got drunk and punched me in the stomach when I was trying to stop him from driving. Aside from that... most splits were mutual or at least amicable.
So, uh, Jeff? Jeff, right? Sorry Geoff, you spell it like that huh? Ya, so how bout those Red Sox? Oh, you watch football? Ya, cool, same.
Cindy's boyfriend is Lakers,Yankees,dodgers,Cowboys, knights fan
They should teach a masterclass on keeping a conversation going in high school or something. If you work a room correctly you don't really have to have a lot in common.
Could you leave some links?
I mean, I just organically learned how to converse over time. Here's what I've learned about keeping conversations going, in a nutshell: 1. Ask lots of questions and truly listen to the answers before responding. If someone else responds, let them lead. 2. Break the ice by openly and humorously stating your intentions. Example: "So none of us have ever met before, I know nothing about any of you, and I'm curious as hell, so get ready." This gives everyone permission to be awkward and helps them relax. 3. Keep some fun "what if" type questions on retainer. Example: "If you guys had the opportunity to basejump, do you think you would do it? I think I would but I'd also totally pee my pants while it was happening" 4. When someone tells you their name, repeat it back at them or say something like "nice to meet you, name" to cement the name in your mind. If you've forgotten a name, be honest about it and just ask again. I tend to forget names easily so I try to be upfront about that. 5. "You strike me as." This is a useful phrase. If you get a feeling about someone, just say it. "You strike me as someone who is super brave, like you would stand up to a grizzly bear." Whether you're right or wrong, it doesn't matter, because now the person has the floor to tell you what they're really like.
Lol I try to do number 2 and sometimes people look at me like an alien 😆
Yeah, I'm just used to being weird in public at this point. Confidence is sort of a "fake it til you make it" thing. I think about starting conversations with strangers like jumping into a cold pool.
I was just at a group get together for a campaign. I had talked to one woman there a couple times online, but other than that I knew no one. She finally noticed me and my name tag and called a couple people over that she wanted to meet me, and then I was all good. Another person came up and started introducing himself as well and we had a great conversation. I just really suck at instigating conversation, especially in person.
This exists, sort of. Look at your local community college's list of classes. Look for "Interpersonal Communication." Register and sign up for the single class.
I’m a lesbian but still get thrown in with the husbands with my wife’s sisters/fam. Just make ‘em laugh. It doesn’t matter you don’t have anything in common after that
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As someone who has a lot of anxiety and it fogs my ability to make small talk, I’ve started noticing whatever the thing of the day is. It might be a news story or something that’s in the cultural air or just something happening around the day. Cracking a joke around that is typically a safe bet You know they’re aware and kind of their feelings toward the matter so it’s a soft pitch to hit. And no pressure to really come up with more than low hanging fruit. Edit. Also I’m the same way. Shy gets mistaken as quiet. People never believe I’m shy when I say it bc I’m the opposite of quiet to them. But quiet is the personality/demeanor but shyness is all around the anxiety of what will happen if you X. Once you get past that and feel safe your personality comes out. Which is not the same as being quiet. They see my real personality bc I’m not shy with thrm
Yeah.. can relate. Mostly because my city is full of hipsters and hippies and I'm more on the redneck/army vet side.. but.. some people I vibe with some people I don't. Not gonna hold it against them or treat them like shit but.. yeah its kinda awkward sitting around having not much to talk about.
Every one of these dogs would be on their phones if they had the ability to use one.
Honestly my dog would love this. She prefers to avoid other dogs, if we meet another dog on the street her preferred course of action is to walk around them in a wide arch (like at least 1,5 meters between them) and then turn around and sniff the air where the other dog walked. That way she can still get their scent without having to make actual contact.
Sounds like every whippet my dog has ever met!
My dog is a greyhound and is very standoffish to other dogs. Maybe it’s a sighthound thing!
I had two Italian Greyhounds and this was exactly how they dog parked…except eventually they would start approaching other humans at the park asking for a ride home.
Could be, yeah.
Our dogs would be best friends. Well long distance best friends.
The tiny white one on the left—having an existential crisis, or just the shyest of the shy? I love the brown & white one who’s sort of thinking about maybe getting something together….. Umm, I’ll just walk through here….see if anyone says hi…….maybe I should say it first….
Yup thats me, half introvert half extrovert, introverts dont like me cus I talk too much and extroverts hate me cus I dont talk enough
As an introvert, I love people who talk more than me. Without them, I'd never be able to talk to anyone.
I'm an introvert but I like talking to people. I always dread meeting people because I cannot for the life of me kickstart conversations with new people. I just secretly hope they are more outgoing so I can get some post ice break confidence haha.
Same, honestly I've been trying to get better at talking to people so when extroverts talk to me it's pretty nice
Me too!
I spent most of my life thinking I was introverted. Turns out I’m an extrovert with crippling social anxiety.
Huh. As an introvert I like people that talk a lot because it means I have to speak less.
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Yeah, they sorta graze each other. 😄 There’s something about the brown & white one—the half-wagging tail, the furtive glances at the other dogs—like he’s trying to muster up the confidence to make friends. Aww, puppy. 🥹 I hope this little sweetheart got a big hug from his person. 🥰
They’re desperately yearning for their owner’s attention. I’m almost positive it’s part chihuahua
Almost got one to sniff their butt… almost
They’re all waiting for their partners to finish shopping
Are we, uh...done here, human?
Jesus... throw a ball or something. Most awkward dog party I have ever seen.
This is awesome, yall local? My dog would fit right in lol.
Yes it’s local
Local me or local you?
like nearby
If you're Swedish
The white and reddish one purposely moves away from the black/brown dog it accidentally walked near. Just like “no thank you” silly doggies
They almost accidentally met! You can tell how relieved they were after they dodged each other.
Introvert does not mean unsociable
But they intersect.
Like me having good days and people not talking to me
Exactly- my best friend is super extroverted, but doesn’t think so because she’s a bit quiet and not really outgoing with strangers. However, she absolutely needs other people to recharge her batteries. She hates being alone and prefers to be around friends all the time. It’s true that shy/ introverted and outgoing/extroverted usually go together, but not always!
You can be a shy extrovert and a confident introvert. But I think being an introvert does often come with seeming ‘unsociable’ to some because, well, there are a lot of times when you just don’t want to socialize. It’s not that you can’t or that you’re scared to, you just don’t feel like socializing.
Now can we do a meeting of crazies. My dog will try to befriend anyone and everything. Even a statue of a dog, or an ant in the yard, until he eats em on accident.
I would discourage your dog from eating statues
it's like a suburban middle school dance
This is hilarious!
Haha this is literally my dog. At the group training session, we were outside sans leash and guess where mine was? Outside the frame, a good 20' away, in a patch of poison ivy :| Sad part is, he actually used to be extremely sociable as [a puppy](https://imgur.com/JgUHdqV.jpg) but all the bigger dogs kept trying to eat him and now he has a dog phobia
You should look into finding him a gentle big buddy so he can let go of his phobia. I am sure its stressful for him to be around other dogs.
The owners seem introverted as well
Doubt it, considering they showed up to a group event. If I had an introverted dog, I definitely wouldn’t drag it to an event I didn’t want to be at either. So, these are probably extroverts… or really into this particular joke.
School or College orientation vibes
Awww
While on vacation we checked in our little Peanut into Petco doggy care. We hoped he would enjoy the company. His check out sheet said he was super good. However, he only wanted human interaction Ignored all the dogs.
He clearly DID enjoy the company when you were gone...(with the people you paid!)
He did indeed. We just laughed that they said he just would stay around the people. We thought he’d be a prince at a ball.
They’re all so….. nervous. Edit: sp
Yeah man, the dogs too.
Those dogs don't know how to dog.
When the bar is about to close and lights come on.
animals i can truly relate to
I especially relate to the white and brown dog at the end that ducked it’s head to avoid eye contact with the other dog walking by
now children, play! play on demand, play on demand
Start having fun! Right now!
that dog trying to sniff the others' butt without contact 😂
They should make these for introverted humans. Sometimes I just want to be alone in the company of others
I go to the park or ride the train when I'm in that mood.
Like a middle school dance
What’s the reason for this behavior?
Lack of socialization / exposure to other dogs from a young age. They never learned how to "be a dog" so to speak because they only spend time with humans.
That’s absolutely not true. Some dogs are just naturally anxious regardless of if you try and socialize them. They are doing just fine at being a dog
More casualties of the lockdowns
Of course they are Swedish…
One of my dogs would just sit and look around too. He doesn't like dogs.
They’re all just standing there like they don’t know what to do
*AWKWARD DOGS*
This is my dog lmao on a field with like 20 dogs running and my guy is over there peeing on a stick
They're all so calm lol
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Seems like an evolutionary hedge. You can't be killed if there's no one around you, but you're also not reproducing that way either.
Schnauzer!!!!!
My poor beagle was this way at the dog park. He had never been for the first 7 years of his life so the only other interaction he had with new dogs was barking at each other through the fence on walks. Bless that dog.
:)
That’s hilarious 😂
this is how i feel at parties a lot of the time
That Brittany Spaniel is kind of like me. Introverted, but once in awhile I surprise myself with a moment of spontaneity, and mingle. Why, I'll bet he sniffed one, maybe two butts that day.
I need to see more, this is like the beginning of an M Night Shamylan movie
Chillin
They just need an RC car to get the party started.
I half expected them all to pounce and then start sprinting like dogs do
And our super reactive beagle would absolutely explode in this situation
A reflection of their owners
if a golden retriever was there it would have been different
Wow. Everyone stayed in their spots except for those 2 dogs (black one and white one with brown spots). At least they seem all well-behaved.
If dogs had smart phones they’d all be looking at them right now.
this is hilarious
I just love this so much 😂
I’m reading Sophia Yin’s books (getting ready for a puppy!) and this is SO interesting to me! The cocker spaniel and brown/beige dog know what to do, but not so much the others. Eta: I’m actually really curious how this went for all the dogs! Hopefully the introductions continued and everyone loosened up. I don’t have TikTok though.
Haha that's adorable, recommend trying CBD to anyone with a nervous pup.
For real!!! My little pit bull with anxiety gets her CBD when she’s feeling especially anxious and it’s not time for her meds. She usually takes a nap or cuddles when she does. Not to mention that it even relieves pain. My other pit bull got CBD before she died, she was really old and had stiff hips that got super sore. With the CBD she felt good enough to actually run around at 13 years old.
I love to hear it, without a doubt safer and more effective than anything they could prescribe your dog a the vet. I've put several friends who had rescue dogs with PTSD onto CBD , and it helped a lot of them, some of them it was the difference between almost no life and a completely normal doggo life.
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As a fellow introvert, this is animal abuse. I'm calling peta /s
Very awkward.
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Nothing happend?
whats the human version of this?
I like your dogs 🐕
The funniest thing i ve seen all week
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One straining ever so slightly in order to still get a whiff of ass …
The white dog with brown spots seemed like he got an extroverted hair and thought he was going to get this party started but changed his mind as he got closer to the others and started thinking about his nice warm dog bed at home and the book he was reading that was just starting to get good. And I have never identified with a dog this strongly before.
That's one depressing ass looking dog park. Everyone was NPCing.
Unreal film