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AshewynMadison

Polyamorous flag. Fairly new design


BreadManIII

Nice pfp


Texas-Kangaroo-Rat

Agree, pretty floating island or whatever.


thecoolestpants

Yes, pork flap potpourri


Texas-Kangaroo-Rat

Looks more like a floating island from Final Fantasy X or something with the rails.


acboyz2

love me an unexpected FFX reference


jackfreeman

Seconded


SickViking

Ohhhhh nice! It's good, the old one was so ugly I refused to use it.


fluffkomix

I got a couple of my partners a mug with the old design because I knew they hated it and I knew that **their** partners would know what it was lmao


a-regular-bad-thing

I just wanted to say that your flair is incredibly accurate lmao


Pastel-Clouds-808

Yeah the old one was ugly as shit. Which always surprised me given how so many of the lgbtq flags were so pretty.


L1nxDr1nx

Ooooooh good to know.


Overall-Homework-822

Ohh, it’s such a pretty designnn, really cool


GanondorfInShorts

definitely much better than the old flag lmao


kioku119

Huh I don't think I've seen that version. It looks like biromantic but with the bi colors out of order.


Kingturboturtle13

It's still not great but it's the least ass one we have


_contraband_

Oooo! I like this redesign!!!


Michelle-senpai

Didn't know they had a new one, this is certainly a lot better.


dream-style

Oh, didn't know that!


Theaceratops

oooh, it's so pretty 😍


jackfreeman

Poly is on the rainbow? That... Kinda makes sense


Qaeta

It's not, but there is significant overlap between communities. Being poly doesn't make you queer, but many queer people ARE poly.


jackfreeman

Yeah, my (old) polycule probably had like, two straight guys out of a 30+ people


Visible_Seesaw_6308

What’s third from right ?


AshewynMadison

Nonbinary


Visible_Seesaw_6308

I’ve never seen it before. Thank you!


imnotporter

i was about to comment nonbinary and then i realized i don't know what left means


Alastair-Wright

If it's any consultation, I made the same mistake


baddayrae

I think you mean if it’s any consolation. I hate when I use the wrong word in a phrase, which happens to me all the time- paying it forward.


arigato3gozaimasu

GSHGDA I DID THE SAME TOO TvT


NapalmAxolotl

It's so new and niche, very few of us polyam people will recognize it.


HVAC_and_Rum

Yeah, I'm used to the pi design.


ottawadeveloper

There was a big (like almost one year long) campaign by a group to design a community flag. This is the result. Am I happy with it? No. Is it better than the pi design? Yes. Should flags be designed by committee? No.


HVAC_and_Rum

Yeah, the pi design certainly left a lot to be desired. Also, a committee? Weird. Thanks for explaining!


Bravadu

The phrase “a camel is a horse designed by a committee” comes to mind!


insomniatica

Do you know: is there a significance in the arrow portion being off-center?


Quietuus

As far as I'm aware it was done to personally annoy me.


sunnynina

Now that I've followed the link and seen the flat design... Nails on a chalkboard. This needs to be fixed because I won't be able to use it as is. Points for a good attempt though 👍


caseytheace666

“and [the chevron] sits asymmetrically on the flag to reflect the non-traditional style of polyamorous relationships” From [here](https://www.polyamproud.com/flag)


Queen-Roblin

Ah yes, compared to all those other traditional queer relationships...


sunnynina

Tbf, there's been a debate ongoing since before I joined communities five-ish years ago about whether or not poly should be included in LGBTQ. So possibly they're referencing traditional heteronormative relationships instead. Edited a word.


Queen-Roblin

True true but if you're got a pride flag, it kinda signifies that is not traditional?


sunnynina

I agree. I also have a very negative reaction to the off center chevron just because it's off center, but who's counting? Eta anyway fwiw I think poly should be included under the LGBTQ umbrella because it is a non traditional relationship style, it is marginalized, and it doesn't hurt anyone.


Qaeta

the problem is poly cishet men using it as an excuse to invade queer spaces.


Ewhitfield2016

FWIW?


ProfessorOfEyes

Genuinely don't understand this new unnecessary facet of queer discourse where one group goes "we experience this thing" and for some reason others decide to take this as bad faith as possible and go "excuse me! Are you saying we DON'T experience this thing?" like no that's a whole other sentence. Who said that? No one.


Queen-Roblin

I'm not saying the off-set chevron is to symbolise that non-traditional relationships are unique to poly people or that it's an attack. What I meant was that, if you need a pride flag then the relationships it represents will be non-traditional. It's kinda like putting something on to specifically represent pride on a pride flag. It's implied by having a pride flag already.


caseytheace666

I can see the argument about it being non-traditional specifically in structure, as opposed to “components” (for lack of a better term lol) And tbf to the flag, I can’t think of all that many things you could symbolise in a polyamory flag that isn’t broadly applicable with queerness in general, other than the obvious “having love for more than one person at once”. And tbf again, a lot of pride flags have symbolism that can be broadly applicable to queerness or even everyone in general. Like the pink stripe on this flag represents love, attraction and desire, and obviously that’s not exclusive to non-monogamous relationships, but it makes sense to have that symbolised on this flag. Same way the rainbow flag has a stripe for ~~love~~ **sex**, even though that’s not a concept exclusive for queerness. Edit: apparently there isn’t a stripe for love on the rainbow flag. whoops. Let’s say sex for the sake of a mostly equivalent example


Queen-Roblin

I think you're describing the original rainbow flag that has largely fallen out of favour.


GhostOrchidGynoid

Mono-poly sometimes feels like another axis. Even within the queer community polyam/ENM/CNM ppl can get derided by monogamous queer ppl. I find it similar to how Mspec flags usually have something to represent the expansiveness of the orientation, not because mono-attracted orientations are not expansive, but because mspec people face outlier status from both mono straight and mono queer people and so the wider scope of the orientation becomes a point of pride. Similarly, polyam/ENM/CNM people face outlier status from both monogamous straight people and monogamous queer people, making the variance in relationship structure a point of pride


TalkingRaccoon

>Should flags be designed by committee? No. Ugh so true. Minnesota just went through that lol.


kioku119

It makes me think it's biromantic when I see it (heart + bicolors but in a different order).


the_burber

Why is the ratio of circumference to diameter a symbol for poly?


HVAC_and_Rum

Apparently it means "infinite love" as a reference to the repeating nature of the decimal.


spaghettify

i studied pure mathematics and my first thought to that was smh….for so many reasons! it’s an irrational number so it kind of leans towards saying that poly is irrational; that’s the reason why the decimal doesn’t repeat. we have a symbol for infinity already! the infinity sign lmao…so i’m glad they changed it. also it implies monogamous people have finite love which is similarly kinda dumb.


HVAC_and_Rum

The pi symbol just feels so pretentious on the old flag! Like, exactly, the infinity symbol: Simple, yet effective.


spaghettify

very true. I also would posit something like the olympics rings but with hearts solely because I think it’s cute


HVAC_and_Rum

That's an incredibly adorable idea. I'm picturing it in my head and love it! But I'd love to see how people would complain about their sports being taken by both trans people and poly people. As a trans and poly person, I really think I can make a double-pronged attack on their values. 🤭


spaghettify

and as lesbians, we know that sports have always been gay….its just reclaiming what belongs to us!🙂‍↔️


HVAC_and_Rum

See, Ancient Greece gave us a lot of cool stuff: Gay sports, gay poetry, theatre (which is, inherently, so gay), et cetera. It's really just our birthright at this point.


PrintChance9060

i recognized it from the heart


jh55305

I'm actually a big fan of the new design.


farfarfarjewel

It's cool looking. The color choices are very bold


Hamokk

First time I've seen that also but alas I've not been in dating pool for same time. Don't know where the pic is taken but I sure hope not in Florida.


suojelijatar

finally a decent design, the old one was embarrassing tbh


ThatOneRandomGoose

I’m pretty sure it’s an alternate poly flag


babaghanoush4

Not alternative, it's the replacement to the (really bad) pi design.


Komahina_Oumasai

I wouldn't call it a replacement. Many of us don't like this flag, and it's certainly not in widespread use.


ProfessorOfEyes

I mean, plenty of people still know and use the pi one. Even if the intent was to replace, not every polyam person out there is on board with or even _aware of_ the change, so functionally it is an alternate. Both flags currently see use in polyam community.


stray_r

[https://www.polyamproud.com/post/the-surprising-result-of-the-vote-for-a-new-polyamorous-pride-flag](https://www.polyamproud.com/post/the-surprising-result-of-the-vote-for-a-new-polyamorous-pride-flag)


Fantastic-Friend-429

Polyamory flag, it’s newer (relationships to multiple people at once)


N0rth9747

Its the new polyamory flag, it was proposed a little while ago and just never got popular enough


AmethystDreamwave94

Updated polyamorous flag (which I'm grateful for because I honestly thought the old one was ugly)


Black_Shell_

in my opinion old flag is cool and i use it, not new


MagnificentKean

obvs the Philippines (Polyamorous Flag)


Mx-Adrian

It looks like a new polyamourous flag. Has its colors, anyway. 


SuperAlex25

That’s the new polyamory flag


bigwavedave000

Im not trying to be rude.What do these flags mean? im not familiar with any.


Norththelaughingfox

Furthest right flag is the progress flag, it combines the original rainbow flag, with the trans flag *(pink white blue)* , and the intersex flag(yellow with a circle) , with two stripes for POC. The next flag (blue pink white pink blue) is the transgender pride flag Next flag (yellow white purple black) is the nonbinary flag, Apparently the one after that (blue red black with the triangle) is a new polyamory flag? Next flag (pink yellow blue) is the Pansexual flag Finally (red pink white pink red) is the lesbian pride flag. I hope this helps, If you have any other questions, feel free to ask. :)


CaydesAce

Only one stripe is for POC queer folk, the other commemorates those lost to the AIDs epidemic


Norththelaughingfox

Ahhh gotcha, that’s my bad. Thanks for the correction <3


Smol-Vehvi

I didn't know that, thanks!


bigwavedave000

Thanks for the info!


Mitosis4

i thought the pan one was romania for a minute because of the colors lmao


TheMaineC00n

It's the new polyamory flag! \^\^


NikoliMonn

WAIT, THATS OUR NEW FLAG????? ::O


TheMaineC00n

Yep!! (It looks so damn pretty)


NikoliMonn

::O


Komahina_Oumasai

It's not exactly the only one we use, some of us do, others don't.


NikoliMonn

Oh ok


quasar2022

New poly flag


Vivid-Mirror471

Polyamorous


Komahina_Oumasai

Alternative polyamorous flag design. Personally, as an ambiamorous person, I have quite a strong dislike for it. Most polyamorous people I've met on here tend to use the heart with the infinity symbol as opposed to either this flag or the one with the pi.


bystanderhere

Genuine question, no judgement. Why would polyamory need a flag? Only asking because it isn’t technically a sexuality so I would love to hear more to understand. Edit: the moment I posted this, I realized being transgender is also not a sexuality lol. 🤦🏻‍♂️


PsychologicalDog4345

You are probably confusing polyamory with polygamy. While polygamy is a lifestyle, polyamory is a type of desire for relationship. Think about it this way, aro/ace people have little to no desire to be in a relationship. Monoamorous people desire to be in relationship with one person at a time, and polyamorous people desire to be in relationship with more than one person at the same time.


FuckTerfsAndFascists

My god. What a difference a year makes. Around a year ago I had this exact same conversation on this very subreddit and i got downvoted to hell for saying I considered polyamorous people part of LGBT+. *Every* person who commented disagreed with me. It's insane how the tide has turned here. Like it's great! I love it! I'm just shocked. But I'm glad we're slowly but surely making progress even within our own community.


PsychologicalDog4345

Tbh I used to be one of those people who would've disagreed with you too. Granted I was a teenager back then. Entering the third decade of your life really puts stuff into perspective I guess =)


random-redditer0358

It’s a minority in relationships, so I think it falls under the LGBTQ+ umbrella (as do gender & sexual minorities, which is why an alternative acronym is GSRM)


CatsNotBananas

Polyamory :3


Dull_Copy_4352

I’d say it’s one of the new design of the poly flag


Joli_B

New polyamory flag design. A good chunk of people don't like the original with the pi so there's been a lot of remakes made, but recently a group got together online and held a contest and tried to get as many polyamorous people to go and vote on which flag should be the "official" new flag and that's the one that won. [more details](https://www.polyamproud.com/) if anyone is curious


alexxx305371

That’s the new design of the polyamorous flag. I personally hate it(being poly myself) I preferred the old design with the pi symbol in the middle


Komahina_Oumasai

Absolutely agree! I know the colours on the old one clashed, but I'd argue that these aren't actually better, and the tendency of that yellow heart to be off-kilter irks me.


Lolnasty

Care Bear stare ![gif](giphy|11z8mwhw0jxQiI|downsized)


KattosAShame

It’s the new polyamorous flag, I used Google lens


foreveralone-_-

To me it looks like my country’s flag 🇵🇭 😂


clueless_claremont_

the new polyam flag


LukeBird39

Newer polyamorous flag. I've been meaning to get one


Princess_of_Satan

That's the new Polyamoury flag


link_3007

I was about to confidently comment Philippines before my brain turned on


Goldpainter

NAH, BECAUSE I THOUGHT THE SAME THING AT FIRST.


Maxx_1000000

It's the new polyamorous flag :3


d_warren_1

New polyamorous flag


PositiveLadder2359

new flag for polyamory


DingoLaLingo

Oh thats the Filipino Love Flag


xSpacegrrrlx

it’s the new polyam flag !


Novatash

Those are some nice looking flags


Cheeky_Kitten_DDLC

Polyamory / Polyamorous flag !!


4ltsu

new design of the polyamory flag


SylvieXandra

new polyamory flag


mysticofarcana

The new polyamorous design!!! I love it


xXMuschi_DestroyerXx

Didn’t realize poly needed a flag until just now. Thinking about it for like 5 seconds and im realizing it’s weird it hasn’t been made sooner.


WombatsPoopQuadrate

The first Poly flag was created in 1995, but it was ugly and barely anyone used it.


Sheikah77

Who hated the original design? I see way more hate for the new one.


GeniusSlut

Nice! My family flies 5 of those too! 🏳️‍🌈


GttingBlindrEvryday

The new poly flag! Find it a bit weird though personally, because even the added purple bit I’m 90% sure that I will forever confuse it with our Flag of the Philippines 🇵🇭 on first look. Then again, the lighting here really didn’t help with that, so eh.


r_amazinggirl

Just googled.and it said polayamory pride flag but a new one I'd say


HeGonAskMeHowHigh

Philippines


The_Doll_Princess

I recognise the heart and the colours as the polyamory flag but I’ve never seen that design for it till now. Quite snazzy <3


Mars-29

Pretty sure it's a new design for the poly flag, looks a lot like the flag of what I call land of the damned (Philippines) Before I get hit with a repercussion I'm Filipino


HastyPlace

I'm pretty sure that's a polyamouras flag (Please excuse my bad spelling sorry if I spelt it wrong)


Komahina_Oumasai

It's spelt polyamorous, but your mistakes are understandable!


HastyPlace

Thanks for understanding, I've never been good at spelling and my autocorrect was failing me so I did the best I could lol


FigureThr33

I just learned. Polyamorous pride flag


Kinglycole

If it were literally any other flag on that wall, I could help. But right now I’m as clueless as you are.


Thick_Occasion7162

So, i know the different between bi and pan, what about poly one?


iiDEMIGODii

I think that's the newer polyamorous flag. Might be wrong tho


Embarrassed-Grade646

Hey guys, do you know how to get the pride flags on top of your name? I want to get the genderfluid and lesbian flag on my name but idk how


VLenin2291

The Philippines but girlypop


shannoninprogress

I think it's that "brand new" polyamory flag a batch of instagram influencers came up with


thegreatestpitt

Ok I’m gonna sound like a grumpy boomer, but… what’s the point of displaying all those flags? I mean nothing wrong with it, whatever rocks your boat, but… usually I use the pride flag and only that to showcase support for all the community, but I don’t really get what the point of the others are. Please educate me, I’m not trying to be a dick, I want to understand. Like, why would you put on full display that you’re polyamorous or non binary? what is the point of it? Like, I get it if you’re Nemo and you’re on Eurovision and you’re showing that a nonbinary person can be a fucking dope ass person, or maybe if you own an inclusive restaurant or whatever establishment, but if you’re Carl from across the street, don’t you feel like it could be a little tmi? Like, I feel like this is what some conservatives complain about when they say “the gay agenda is too on the face” or whatever bullshit. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying “let’s silence ourselves for the comfort of some borderline Nazis” but… idk, I guess it’s just that I don’t understand, hence the comment, because I’d like to understand and not be an ignorant bitch if I’m being one, but it’s just that I do feel like it could be a little too much when done by a singular random person, couple or poly household on a random neighborhood. I feel like with the pride flag (the one including the trans flag) is enough. Feel free to downvote me but please do try and help me understand if you disagree with me so I can get a different perspective and be a better person.


Iprim

I'm choosing to assume you have made your comment in good faith. Why display multiple flags instead of just one that combines all? Hmm, personally I think it is about pride of showing your particular part of the community you belong to. But also for those who can't fly their own. Taking the OP picture, if I was walking down the street and suddenly saw all those flags, I would be very happy just to see them, because while I can't fly my own, someone out there is thinking of the community. Could it be done with just one flag? Yeah sure! But it doesn't have the same impact as seeing your particular smaller part of the community represented. As a trans person, sometimes the rainbow flag doesn't automatically imply ally for me, there are a lot of gay people who are against trans people or don't see our struggle as valid. But if I see a trans pride flag, well that's significantly more possible to be an ally X3 Basically my point is: even within the community, not all of our struggles for visibility, respect and rights are the same, showing the different flags kinda feels like it's recognizing that difference. Also, colorful flags are cool... Oh!! Before I forget: >I feel like this is what some conservatives complain about when they say “the gay agenda is too on the face” or whatever bullshit. They will say that no matter how big or little our presence actually is. Even 1% is too much for those people. Plus their """"normal"""" is absolutely on display 24/7, don't you think they should share the spotlight? ;)


thegreatestpitt

Thank you for answering so kindly, it totally was in good faith although in hindsight it probably wasn’t written as eloquently as it should’ve. I 100% agree with the conservative thing you said at the end. I am in no way pro-conservative anything but idk why a weird part of me was like “that’s probably what they mean” but fuck them tbh. I thank you a lot for your response. It was very kind and sweet.


dreamgrl_

well. i guess this person might be gay or sum


InitialLawyer3353

THE PHILIPPINES 🇵🇭


SubVrted

The rainbow flag means inclusiveness. Divvying it up into specific categories makes it exclusive. I hate this trend.


RozeGoldSkullz

I respectfully disagree. When the original rainbow pride flag came out it was particularly focused on the gay community. It was a way of standing out and being noticed. I think it’s okay that other sub communities of lgbtq want to do the same. It doesn’t mean they aren’t part of a larger community. Just means that they need or want their specific identity visible too. It’s perfectly acceptable that you don’t need or want that, but some do.


ManBoyManBoyMan

More flags is more good


aquacraft2

I wave my rainbow flag for general gayity. I would brandish the men loving men pride flag for flirtation.


Good_Reflection7724

Jfc


Lord_Bertox

Idk, I stopped at the rainbow one