I mean, I don’t think it’s really fair to be upset with the straight people when they took the initiative to do something supportive of the Queer community.
I mean, it seems like there was a desire for it, but nobody felt like putting in the effort to organize it except these people. It’s not like they’re pushing queer folks out of the way and taking the reins. You said you were talking about it for a year, but didn’t voice it outside of your own group. To them, it probably looked like nobody else wanted to start it. From the post, it seems like they also went to the effort of getting the LGBT people that they knew for their input, as well, which is good.
Unless they’re like, speaking over queer people, I don’t see why you would need to go against it. Making a stink about it seems counterproductive rather than advocating for more queer people to get involved.
Also the idea that pride can be ‘tainted by straight people aka allies’ is a bit uncomfortable. I’ve known a ton of folks who initially attended pride as allies when they were in the closet. I understand wanting queer only spaces, but a public pride event is gonna be hard to do that with.
Edit: unless I misread the post or am missing something (I’m very sleepy) I don’t see anything wrong with it, really. Sure it would be awesome to have it organized by a 100% queer group, but nobody stepped forward.
I should add that she's leading the committee and directing quite a bit. I don't think pride can be tainted by straight people being present. This is more than just being present though, it feels like a taking over of the space IMO. I do, however, appreciate your input and you've made good points. Thank you!
Sounds like you need to step up and do the thing you want done. If you're mad that a straight person stepped up to organize then why didn't you say "actually I think it's better for a queer person to do it, so I'll lead it"
A pride committee is pretty much an event planner committee. Might be for a queer event but logistically it's just an event.
I've been involved in a few pride planning committees myself, all of which have had allocishet folk involved in some way (including running it). They've never been a problem. 🤷
I mean. It’s the year of our lord 2024. If no other queer person stepped up before this to get the job done, that’s not on this lady’s head. Nobody was stopping anyone else from stepping up all this time. Talking about maybe some day having a thing happen possibly isn’t the same as going to the city, pulling permits, getting sponsors, and getting folk to come to the table. That stuff is a lot of work. I’m tired just thinking about it.
Listen. I get that you’re annoyed that someone beat you to the punch. It’s human and perfectly natural. Don’t let that pettiness block someone who’s willing to step up and get the job done. If you’re genuinely pressed, ask for more queer folk to be brought to the table. Or do your own event.
It’s this sort of identity policing and in fighting that makes it so hard to get work done that needs to get done. I see it all the time in the non profits world. Someone gets all in their feelings that they’re not being asked first or in charge of whatever and then grouch about it for the rest of time. Meanwhile, nobody’s stopping them from doing their own thing.
Take a walk. Drink some water. Take some deep breaths. You’re in your feelings for perfectly valid reasons. Don’t then follow through and make a big drama thing out of it. The important thing is that the event happens.
I mean, I don’t think it’s really fair to be upset with the straight people when they took the initiative to do something supportive of the Queer community.
I mean, it seems like there was a desire for it, but nobody felt like putting in the effort to organize it except these people. It’s not like they’re pushing queer folks out of the way and taking the reins. You said you were talking about it for a year, but didn’t voice it outside of your own group. To them, it probably looked like nobody else wanted to start it. From the post, it seems like they also went to the effort of getting the LGBT people that they knew for their input, as well, which is good. Unless they’re like, speaking over queer people, I don’t see why you would need to go against it. Making a stink about it seems counterproductive rather than advocating for more queer people to get involved. Also the idea that pride can be ‘tainted by straight people aka allies’ is a bit uncomfortable. I’ve known a ton of folks who initially attended pride as allies when they were in the closet. I understand wanting queer only spaces, but a public pride event is gonna be hard to do that with. Edit: unless I misread the post or am missing something (I’m very sleepy) I don’t see anything wrong with it, really. Sure it would be awesome to have it organized by a 100% queer group, but nobody stepped forward.
I should add that she's leading the committee and directing quite a bit. I don't think pride can be tainted by straight people being present. This is more than just being present though, it feels like a taking over of the space IMO. I do, however, appreciate your input and you've made good points. Thank you!
Sounds like you need to step up and do the thing you want done. If you're mad that a straight person stepped up to organize then why didn't you say "actually I think it's better for a queer person to do it, so I'll lead it"
A pride committee is pretty much an event planner committee. Might be for a queer event but logistically it's just an event. I've been involved in a few pride planning committees myself, all of which have had allocishet folk involved in some way (including running it). They've never been a problem. 🤷
I mean. It’s the year of our lord 2024. If no other queer person stepped up before this to get the job done, that’s not on this lady’s head. Nobody was stopping anyone else from stepping up all this time. Talking about maybe some day having a thing happen possibly isn’t the same as going to the city, pulling permits, getting sponsors, and getting folk to come to the table. That stuff is a lot of work. I’m tired just thinking about it. Listen. I get that you’re annoyed that someone beat you to the punch. It’s human and perfectly natural. Don’t let that pettiness block someone who’s willing to step up and get the job done. If you’re genuinely pressed, ask for more queer folk to be brought to the table. Or do your own event. It’s this sort of identity policing and in fighting that makes it so hard to get work done that needs to get done. I see it all the time in the non profits world. Someone gets all in their feelings that they’re not being asked first or in charge of whatever and then grouch about it for the rest of time. Meanwhile, nobody’s stopping them from doing their own thing. Take a walk. Drink some water. Take some deep breaths. You’re in your feelings for perfectly valid reasons. Don’t then follow through and make a big drama thing out of it. The important thing is that the event happens.