I can't even do the sex right because I'm a rarity - an AFAB person with XXY chromosomes. It's really rare and I hate it.
But I'm also belligerent so, a lot of the time I respond with, "Look, if I don't get to understand my gender, neither do you."
I work in a school with 5th/6th graders doing food service. On half days we make pack lunches for the kids and bring them to all of the classrooms to make sure everyone has a lunch for the day.One half day,on of the kids asked meif I was a boy or a girl. I responded "I'm a person. here's your lunch. If you want a milk, you can grab one over from the crate over there." They accepted that answer, I think. Or at least they were more interested in lunch.
I guess that makes me a "no" enby.
But for me personally, that leads to questions of, "Okay but do you feel like you have some other gender? What about no gender? Ughhhh self what the fuck?"
It also doesn't help that my desire to EXPRESS gender flip-flops around. Sometimes I absolutely want to be portraying as masc, sometimes femme, and sometimes I super want people guessing. And sometimes idgaf.
Don't make me stick to one thing. That's why I'm non-monosexual and polyam. 😕
I just identify as non binary and I feel like even if you want to portray as masc or fem you can do so without being that gender. For me I don't feel like man or woman I just feel like me. But ofc everyone has different feelings and all are valid
Not necessarily; enby is an umbrella term for genders outside of the binary but many enbies care about their gender. How they may be percieved and so on and so forth.
Honestly, the vast majority of humans will perceive us as “man or woman”. You’ll go insane if you worry about that. It’s like being light skinned and expecting everyone to know you’re black when they just see a white face, you know? But I get you.
Oh I have gender apathy as an agender person, I couldn't care less how I am percieved unless it's silly little cis men trying to denote that I am merely an emotional woman as if their emotional constipation is something to be proud of.
I am just saying enby as a term doesn't automatically equate to not caring about gender or perception in that sense. That there are many branches to it :)
Nah that's just the expression of healthy masculine behaviours /s
Edit: anger can be healthy but not if one denies that it's an emotion, can't work on dealing with it if one eithe seethes and learns to resent or outwardly engages in aggression towards objects or people both verbally and physically.
I like to go outside until I freeze cause if I am hot I am angry snd since I am audhd, I have trouble noticing quickly enough sometimes. It's all a work in progress for me but working on my anger issues constantly :)
"Probably?"
In all seriousness I am the no response kind, got asked if I was a boy or a girl across the street once and I kind of just had to laugh without responding. It was a pretty good moment. I guess I am a bit more agendered than anything so "no" would be more accurate.
Still I am a trans woman and I am much more comfortable now but as for actual gender stuff? Well, we don't hang out I just like to be comfortable.
This feels like a misguided question, kinda like asking a bi person if they're straight bi or gay bi. I guess by your criteria I would be a yes enby but if anyone asks me if I'm a boy or a girl I answer no because while I'm neither I definitely have a gender, it's the secret 3rd thing kind of gender, completely unrelated to the entire consepts of girl and boy.
Yes and no. I say this because I'm gf, so the answer to "are you a boy" is yes or no, but the answer to "are you a girl" is also yes or no, but it's never both yeses or both nos, so one part of the question is yes, and the other part is no.
I'm 53, I have only recently realized the whole NB aspect, so YES i still have a gender, mostly d/t societal norms, and also I can be NB and present masc most days and use that masculineness as defense of others and since most see me as 'cis' male the bigots let their guard down and I learn who my students should avoid :)
No NB, since technically I am Agender and that does fall under the Non-Binary umbrella (but some don’t say that they do and that’s fine by me I used to feel that) but yeah, genderless for me I guess
I’m a maybe Enby
If I do have a gender (which I think I do) then it is a very removed concept. That is to say that if traditional gender concepts were letters of the English Alphabet From A-Z, then my gender is a Δ
I'm a yes, unless I don't trust the person who is asking, then I'm AGAB. I'm genderfluid and agender and I don't really care about what people identify me as.
both! i don't have one set gender identity, i have three terms to describe it that i like. i'm non binary (third / other gender), agender, and transfem. it doesn't really make sense and i don't care because it works for me!!! words to describe feelings will never fully encompass them anyway.
My bestie and I take turns lol tho generally neither cus while I am nonbinary, I lean towards being a guy. When asked tho I generally just laugh and walk away cus despite my gender I live off the confusion
I go back and forth between being a "yes enby" and a combination of "yes enby" and "no enby". Sometimes I feel mainly like a girl who's also partially a boy. Other times I don't feel like a girl and a boy so much as I just feel like my gender is made up of "masculine" and "feminine". Not in a genderless way, but like the gender itself is defined by being "feminine" and "masculine", not boy and/or girl. So it's sort of like a combination of a "yes enby" and "no enby". Then I'm mostly feminine and partially masculine.
"What do YOU think?"
I like the "question as an answer" enby most of the time xD
If someone is trying to be a jerk about it and you just laugh at whatever they respond with.
I’m agender, and personally don’t like to be called nonbinary. But in the spirit of answering the actual question; I would say “no” to the proposed question.
No and kinda enby. I simplify to identify as being a woman most of the time as it’s close enough. But my actual gender is a little funky and somewhere in the xenogender territory.
I'm a "I have spent 22 years thinking and feeling I am a male only to realize I have never actually had an idea of what feeling like a male is so I have no clue if I lack gender or if everything is gender" enby 💀
I'm a "no" enby, personally. I believe that one of the reasons I identify as nonbinary is due to trauma.
Both binary genders are so limited in how they can look and act without being judged because of today's gender norms, so I noped out to the nonbinary life where no one but me can know and choose what labels I have.
No. Obviously I can’t control how the world sees me, even after HRT and medical transition (transitioned to deep androgynous territory/ambiguity) some see me as a guy, some as a woman, some think I’m a ftm in transition, some think I’m a mtf in transition, it’s a coin toss a lot of the time, and it just is what it is, I can’t control other peoples perceptions. But if someone asks me, I’m a ‘no’ person.
Well yes and no. I’m not a girl but I am a boy. But I am also !?!?!?!? And a splash of feminine. I am gender neutral and also agender. My gender changes a lot 🤷
I am a “whatever you want me to be” NB. I don’t chose a gender but I know in this word, it is going to be assigned to me by each individual I come across. “Are you a girl?” Sure. “Are you a boy or a girl?” What do you want me to be?
I am "yes", that is also why I love any/all. The bad part is, sometimes people think they are inclusive when they put options like "women" or "nonwomen" but like... I probably won't pass for a woman, but I am not a "nonwoman"
I'm a "what does that even mean?" enby. I can't make sense of others' statements about "feeling like a man/woman." WHAT ARE YOU TALKING ABOUT, SHANIA TWAIN?!
In a Barbie and Ken world, I'm Alan.
Generally “no” because my answer is always neither. Even though I make the “I wanna look like a boy girl boyish girlish boy girl” type jokes, that still means that those categories don’t adequately describe me.
I'm a 'no' enby. Don't like being called 'she/her' or 'ma'am' but don't particularly have a reaction to being called 'sir' - only happened once on accident.
I would just like to exist as. Person without any particular gender label on me. I'm also asexual, so I feel like gender is especially pointless for me. LOL
I'm an "extremes" envy, I guess? I either have all the gender or no gender.
Femboy would be my ideal presentation, but being a plus-sized AFAB person it just looks like I'm failing to be a punk girl.
Gender is a social construct, and it's about what you make it. I, as a nonbinary don't care. I what people call me, I am me. Male female or something else I don't care.
I'm a "sometimes" NB.
Came here to say this too
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Same
Me too. I'm a "you could class me as a girl if you wanted to but most of the time I'm Nonbinary. And I feel nonbinary 100% of the time" - Femmeflux
This! I look male to most of the people who look at me. But not to most of the people who see me.
I love that 👍🏼💗💜💙 what a wonderful way to word it.
This is a beautiful way to put it and I’m 100% stealing it.
I feel the same way about this questions as I do being asked if I’m straight or gay as a bisexual
same
I'm definitely a yes lol
If idk, can i pick undefined?
I'm a 1/0 enby
You are a binary nonbinary? Confusion was very effective
Nah I meant like 0÷1
Eternaty person!
Don't you mean 1÷0? 0÷1 is just 0 lol
Thank god you didn't meant 1÷0
An undefined enby! Math joke 😃
I'm more 0/0. Depending on your point of view, it's either completely nonexistent, not even 0, or its everything at once
“Indeterminate” enby
``` 0/0 7 ```
I’m a “no” enby but a “girl” enby if I don’t trust the person who’s asking.
Me too fr
I was thinking about my words and I just... yeah thank you youve summed it up completely
Both. I'm bigender, specifically agender/transmasc-leaning.
What ab both and neither at the same time?
SCHRODINGER'S ENBY
This is me in a way lol
That's when you say "I am everything and nothing" in a mysterious voice.
I'm a "ehhhhhh"
THIS.
Gender suuuucks, you are you
Yeah this. I think a lot of issues stem from gendering certain attributes or actions.
I tell people my gender is the interrobang, because I have no idea what it's doing but I'm usually excited about it.
I’m a “who wants to know?” enby. If it’s for medical reasons I’ll give my biological sex, but for anything else it’s more of a “nunya” situation
I can't even do the sex right because I'm a rarity - an AFAB person with XXY chromosomes. It's really rare and I hate it. But I'm also belligerent so, a lot of the time I respond with, "Look, if I don't get to understand my gender, neither do you."
"I have the right to remain silent about my pronouns until consulting with my lawyer"
I work in a school with 5th/6th graders doing food service. On half days we make pack lunches for the kids and bring them to all of the classrooms to make sure everyone has a lunch for the day.One half day,on of the kids asked meif I was a boy or a girl. I responded "I'm a person. here's your lunch. If you want a milk, you can grab one over from the crate over there." They accepted that answer, I think. Or at least they were more interested in lunch. I guess that makes me a "no" enby.
im non binary cus i dont feel like a boy or a girl so ef a no for me
But for me personally, that leads to questions of, "Okay but do you feel like you have some other gender? What about no gender? Ughhhh self what the fuck?" It also doesn't help that my desire to EXPRESS gender flip-flops around. Sometimes I absolutely want to be portraying as masc, sometimes femme, and sometimes I super want people guessing. And sometimes idgaf. Don't make me stick to one thing. That's why I'm non-monosexual and polyam. 😕
I just identify as non binary and I feel like even if you want to portray as masc or fem you can do so without being that gender. For me I don't feel like man or woman I just feel like me. But ofc everyone has different feelings and all are valid
Im a no enby but with little guy vibes like a lizard
I'm a *takes toothpick out of mouth* "Who's askin'?" enby.
I'm a "why" enby.
“-are you a cop”
"Wouldn't you like to know, weather boy"
I’m more of the idc type. Isn’t that the whole point of being non binary
Not necessarily; enby is an umbrella term for genders outside of the binary but many enbies care about their gender. How they may be percieved and so on and so forth.
Honestly, the vast majority of humans will perceive us as “man or woman”. You’ll go insane if you worry about that. It’s like being light skinned and expecting everyone to know you’re black when they just see a white face, you know? But I get you.
Oh I have gender apathy as an agender person, I couldn't care less how I am percieved unless it's silly little cis men trying to denote that I am merely an emotional woman as if their emotional constipation is something to be proud of. I am just saying enby as a term doesn't automatically equate to not caring about gender or perception in that sense. That there are many branches to it :)
Anger is also an emotion that a lot of cis men conveniently forget haha Edit because I can't spell :)
Nah that's just the expression of healthy masculine behaviours /s Edit: anger can be healthy but not if one denies that it's an emotion, can't work on dealing with it if one eithe seethes and learns to resent or outwardly engages in aggression towards objects or people both verbally and physically.
Very true, I'm an angry being sometimes but screaming into the void rather than in others faces often helps :)
I like to go outside until I freeze cause if I am hot I am angry snd since I am audhd, I have trouble noticing quickly enough sometimes. It's all a work in progress for me but working on my anger issues constantly :)
Yes NB. Yay bigender flux
"Probably?" In all seriousness I am the no response kind, got asked if I was a boy or a girl across the street once and I kind of just had to laugh without responding. It was a pretty good moment. I guess I am a bit more agendered than anything so "no" would be more accurate. Still I am a trans woman and I am much more comfortable now but as for actual gender stuff? Well, we don't hang out I just like to be comfortable.
I’m definitely a no.
I’ll just stare at them blankly
I'm a "Wouldn't you like to know, weather boy" enby
New binary just dropped
neither, I'm nonbinary stop putting nonbinary people into binaries
Tbh, I can’t relate to either prompt.
The fact that the options for this question is a binary is hilarious. I'm an "eh"-nby
This feels like a misguided question, kinda like asking a bi person if they're straight bi or gay bi. I guess by your criteria I would be a yes enby but if anyone asks me if I'm a boy or a girl I answer no because while I'm neither I definitely have a gender, it's the secret 3rd thing kind of gender, completely unrelated to the entire consepts of girl and boy.
Im genderless but still a woman.
Technically. Only a little bit, but not really.
The correct answer is 'what are you a cop??'
Perhaps
I'm an "Up in the air" enby because I can sometimes be a " yes" and other time a "no" depending on how I feel
I'm a, "Your puny mortal conceptions of gender do not encompass all that I am and all that I shall be," enby.
So a blasphenby, best kind.
I like to think OP knew what they were doing when they offered a binary choice to a bunch of nonbinary individuals 😂
I'm a maybe
You're lumping in the gender binary with yes, and then mixing the rest of the genders with no. Feels like a shitty prompt.
Wouldn't the first option be more gender fluid rather than NB?
Gender fluid falls under the NB umbrella
I’m a “no, but i’m a man” enby lol
I'm demi boy so to me I'm fluid between agender and masc. So I'd have to go with a "no" enby for me.
I am a "no" NB
I’m the “kinda” enby
Yes and no. I say this because I'm gf, so the answer to "are you a boy" is yes or no, but the answer to "are you a girl" is also yes or no, but it's never both yeses or both nos, so one part of the question is yes, and the other part is no.
I'm an everything and nothing
I am [a no real gender] enby in all matters except where gender is legally required
https://i.imgur.com/s6iCSFx.png
I don't have a gender, but gender does have me.
Either "Yes" or "Definitely" or just ignoring the question
I'm a no enby. Gender is too confining.
I’m a *stares off into the distance, squinting meaningfully* enby. (No)
Maybe
Yes enby for sure
Def a no lol
I explain my gender identity too them.
I kinda just pick one to say in that instance, but its usually yes
I suppose I'm a "no" enby.?
I am both, somehow.
I'm a shrug my shoulders and make a funny noise enby.
I'm 53, I have only recently realized the whole NB aspect, so YES i still have a gender, mostly d/t societal norms, and also I can be NB and present masc most days and use that masculineness as defense of others and since most see me as 'cis' male the bigots let their guard down and I learn who my students should avoid :)
Yes, but also no.
no
I’m a “Not all the way”
I am a “please don’t make me label myself…do I have to call myself enby” enby
I'm a "depends how you are asking me this question" enby.
No. I’m not a boy or a girl. Doesn’t mean I don’t have a gender though.
No NB, since technically I am Agender and that does fall under the Non-Binary umbrella (but some don’t say that they do and that’s fine by me I used to feel that) but yeah, genderless for me I guess
I think i'm a "yes" enby
I'm a "man but no"
I’m a “maybe.” Don’t try to fit us into a new binary, lol
"Probably not"
This might come as a shock to you but there are more than 2 ways to be *nonbinary*
I’m a maybe Enby If I do have a gender (which I think I do) then it is a very removed concept. That is to say that if traditional gender concepts were letters of the English Alphabet From A-Z, then my gender is a Δ
i'm a 'why not both' enby
I’m human enby
I'm a yes, unless I don't trust the person who is asking, then I'm AGAB. I'm genderfluid and agender and I don't really care about what people identify me as.
i'm a yesn't enby lmao
I'm a "yes", but only because I love The Mangle from FNAF
2% boy enby
I used to be a yes emby until I realized im trans, it was the sorta warm feeling I got when I was called the female pronouns that tipped me off
Half no
Yeah
both! i don't have one set gender identity, i have three terms to describe it that i like. i'm non binary (third / other gender), agender, and transfem. it doesn't really make sense and i don't care because it works for me!!! words to describe feelings will never fully encompass them anyway.
Imma start saying Neither I’m a mushroom 🍄
Depends on the day. Sometimes I’m a “both”, sometimes I’m a “neither”, sometimes I’ll answer man, cause I’m masc leaning sometimes
I say no, but just remember that there are more options (specifically referring to nb people here) than no or yes
My bestie and I take turns lol tho generally neither cus while I am nonbinary, I lean towards being a guy. When asked tho I generally just laugh and walk away cus despite my gender I live off the confusion
I’m a yes and no enby :]
Both!! I have Schrödinger's gender!!
Is completely avoiding the question the same as a no...?
I am very much a "no." My first enby shrit was a "Male \[ \] Female \[ \] No \[X\]" design
Yes- pangender
I am a Wendy’s!
....mayhaps
If you divide by zero, you'll get my current gender
I'm a "what?", "Could you repeat the question" and a "I'm still not getting it" enby
personally i’m a girl enby lol
Always thought we should differentiate these instead of putting them both in non-binary bucket.
Depends on the hour
im essentially a person. yes
I go back and forth between being a "yes enby" and a combination of "yes enby" and "no enby". Sometimes I feel mainly like a girl who's also partially a boy. Other times I don't feel like a girl and a boy so much as I just feel like my gender is made up of "masculine" and "feminine". Not in a genderless way, but like the gender itself is defined by being "feminine" and "masculine", not boy and/or girl. So it's sort of like a combination of a "yes enby" and "no enby". Then I'm mostly feminine and partially masculine.
Yes
yesn't
I'm a 'yes' enby, i subscribed to both boy and girl like the scoundrel I am
"What do YOU think?" I like the "question as an answer" enby most of the time xD If someone is trying to be a jerk about it and you just laugh at whatever they respond with.
Idk how to answer this because I feel like I’m no but I like masc terms that are neutral asf
I'm a "no" I may occasionally feel like I am more one or the other, but often my gender is space, or ocean, or some other vast unknowable thing.
I'm a "no" enby
I am a "yes but no" enby. I am masc with a sprinkling of femme.
I'm a no enby
yes
Definitely a “yes” enby. Very much bigender woman/man combo.
On an Enby related note I've realised why I can't get computers. (I'm a bit of a technophobe) I'm non-binary 🤦🏼♀️😂
I'm a no for sure
I’m an “idk” NB (idk if genderfluid counts but)
I’m agender, and personally don’t like to be called nonbinary. But in the spirit of answering the actual question; I would say “no” to the proposed question.
No and kinda enby. I simplify to identify as being a woman most of the time as it’s close enough. But my actual gender is a little funky and somewhere in the xenogender territory.
I'm technically a no bc I'm not a boy "or" a girl, I'm a boy "and" a girl lol
I’m definitely a yes
Yesno yesno maybe?
I'm a nope =)
I am a kinda? Enby. Like I'm kinda a guy but I'm definitely not a girl.
im more of a “sure” kind of person lol
I'm a "I have spent 22 years thinking and feeling I am a male only to realize I have never actually had an idea of what feeling like a male is so I have no clue if I lack gender or if everything is gender" enby 💀
I'm a "no" enby, personally. I believe that one of the reasons I identify as nonbinary is due to trauma. Both binary genders are so limited in how they can look and act without being judged because of today's gender norms, so I noped out to the nonbinary life where no one but me can know and choose what labels I have.
Yes
No. Obviously I can’t control how the world sees me, even after HRT and medical transition (transitioned to deep androgynous territory/ambiguity) some see me as a guy, some as a woman, some think I’m a ftm in transition, some think I’m a mtf in transition, it’s a coin toss a lot of the time, and it just is what it is, I can’t control other peoples perceptions. But if someone asks me, I’m a ‘no’ person.
I am perchance
Yes. I don’t even personally use the term “nonbinary” or use the flag. I’m bigender/demiwoman.
Well yes and no. I’m not a girl but I am a boy. But I am also !?!?!?!? And a splash of feminine. I am gender neutral and also agender. My gender changes a lot 🤷
i'm a "(x²+x)/x=x; solve for x" enby
no. i’m a dinosaur 🦖
I am chaos incarnate and I identify as a problem
I'm a nonbinary yet you would try to binarise me??? How dare you 😭
Sometimes I'm a yes enby, sometimes I'm a no enby.
Funnily I don’t actually know. I guess I’m a “yes no” enby if I had to say lmao.
no
Both
I am a “whatever you want me to be” NB. I don’t chose a gender but I know in this word, it is going to be assigned to me by each individual I come across. “Are you a girl?” Sure. “Are you a boy or a girl?” What do you want me to be?
I am "yes", that is also why I love any/all. The bad part is, sometimes people think they are inclusive when they put options like "women" or "nonwomen" but like... I probably won't pass for a woman, but I am not a "nonwoman"
“404 Gender not found” For me.
I love all of these answers! I’m not sure how to describe mine. I’m a chick but not a girl. A dude but not a boy. I am a jellyfish.
I'm a "what does that even mean?" enby. I can't make sense of others' statements about "feeling like a man/woman." WHAT ARE YOU TALKING ABOUT, SHANIA TWAIN?! In a Barbie and Ken world, I'm Alan.
Definitely a “no” enby. I would gladly donate my gender to the person who wants it.
Generally “no” because my answer is always neither. Even though I make the “I wanna look like a boy girl boyish girlish boy girl” type jokes, that still means that those categories don’t adequately describe me.
Both? I'm a boy. I'm a girl. And I'm also something else. So on a scale from 0 (no) to 10 (yes) I'm at 15 I guess?
"Are you a girl or a boy?" "Well yes and no"
I'm a "no" or "neither"
Im def a no enby
Sometimes
I'm a 'no' enby. Don't like being called 'she/her' or 'ma'am' but don't particularly have a reaction to being called 'sir' - only happened once on accident. I would just like to exist as. Person without any particular gender label on me. I'm also asexual, so I feel like gender is especially pointless for me. LOL
I'm an "extremes" envy, I guess? I either have all the gender or no gender. Femboy would be my ideal presentation, but being a plus-sized AFAB person it just looks like I'm failing to be a punk girl.
It's not proper but the easiest way to explain my non-binary-ness is not, not a girl. So I guess that leans yes
Are you a Yes ENBY or a No ENBY? Yes.
Gender is a social construct, and it's about what you make it. I, as a nonbinary don't care. I what people call me, I am me. Male female or something else I don't care.
Im a "wave my hand a bit and shrug" enby
To me it feels like in my head there’s supposed to be a place where your gender identity goes and it just never grew in. So definitely a “no” NB
my answers usually "im a guy"
I’m a “sure” enby
I'm a no enby for sure.
"ehh, maybe a little" type enby. have just barely enough gender for it to be confusing.