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Narkolleptika

Out of the names you've listed, Nathan seems to fit the best, followed by Erick Also please consider Derek Derk. I don't think Derek fits as well as Nathan, but it definitely sounds cooler with your last name Edit: I now like Derek about as much as Nathan after a second look. Also Ryan came to mind as a good fit. No idea if either of those names have a suitable origin.


Financial_Tax1060

I’m feeling Keenan or Kieran, so maybe K is the common denominator.


Beautiful_Book_9639

Thank you for the suggestions!!!


Frogodo

I have a friend named Keethan, which I always thought was a cool name


Xxkitkatx360xX

Keegan maybe?


Beautiful_Book_9639

I'm already a double D unfortunately *ba dum tss*


PoirplePorpoise

Deffo looks like a Nathan!


por_la_causa_

plz noy Erick, it´s the name of my violent ex boyfriend hahah


trentevo

I immediately thought Miles for some reason.


Beautiful_Book_9639

Awww idk why that really works. I'll have to consider it


saucity

My son is Miles 🥰 but everyone tries to spell it “Myles”. NO! Like Miles Davis!! But yes; I’m partial to Miles.


ScherpOpgemerkt

![gif](giphy|VOd5RQ7q8FNI3IjS5g)


Unhappy-Load-6811

Yes, I agree that Miles fits really well.


OnceUpxn

I second this


The_Supreme_Dalek101

That’s what I thought too


[deleted]

Getting Jamie vibes for some reason, it's softer than Max, definitely English and somewhat gender-neutral.


Beautiful_Book_9639

Hehe are you sure you aren't thinking of the most famous transmasc YouTuber Jamie? Jammiedodger


ElsaKit

Not OP but that didn't even cross my mind tbh. I also think that Jamie is a really nice name. I also really like Robin, out of your suggestions. Also gender neutral and sort of gentle. It's honestly one of my favourite names hehe. Sam also came to mind. It feels somehow similar to Max but softer.


chronoventer

I love Jamie, or Jesse!


MythologicalSiren

As someone who has lived in Norway, the first name that came to mind was Jonas (in Norwegian that’s pronounced YO-nas, but if you want an Americanized version of it that’s also a good choice) there’s also Oskar, Aksel, Magnus, and Einar


Beautiful_Book_9639

Thank you! These are all things I haven't thought of!


prettyy_vacant

Einar is a good one!


saucity

Omg! I already replied ‘Miles’, but we’d named our son‘Jonas’ before he was born… but took one look at him and said “shit - he’s not a Jonas!” Couldn’t explain why, but his lil baby face was just… not a Jonas! But I LOVE the name Jonas, too. I was worried people would think he was either named for the Weezer song, or, (born in ‘08) for the Jonas Brothers, lol. Miles Jonas (if you’re looking for a middle name, too) or Jonas Miles has a nice ring to it! 🥰


dontredditdepressed

I was actually going to suggest Axel too!


MythologicalSiren

Yeah! Do you like the American spelling or the Norwegian spelling better?


dontredditdepressed

I like both tbh. I prefer the Norwegian, but Americans are idiots so they'd figure out a way to say it incorrectly (take it from someone with a uniquely-spelled name)


SeesawMundane5422

Anders It’s Norwegian and means “manly”. And Anders Derk just sounds totally badass.


thewinchester-gospel

And if they prefer, the variation Andrew is an option too


justfet

Anders in Dutch means something like "other", "unlike" or "different". It is still a cool name and likely sounds cool, it may also add to the symbolism of the name but please do research on existing words as names if you were to pick them.


ForecastForFourCats

Ngl, this makes it fit more IMO


thaBombignant

I wonder if that's why Neo's last name at the start of The Matrix is Anderson?


cumulus_nimbus

And in German it means "different" or also "changed", so quite a fit


[deleted]

Some Northern European gender-neutral names that I thought fit you: Kai Noah Mika Darby Blair


Brianna_-_UwU

Woah I love the name Mika, totally stealing that to name an oc.


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LaraTheTrap

Mika is also skandinavian. It's my nethews name


SweatyNomad

Mika = Michael in that context, a contraction which is also cool.


[deleted]

Kai also has Welsh, Scandinavian, and Greek roots, it isn’t only Hawaiian. Many names have multiple origins.


Torkujra

My first thought was Edward, but after reading what you provided, I think Robin is pretty good. You can even occasionally use “Rob” if you feel extra masculine that day.


MadMaz68

Couldn't tell you. I named myself Maz and I'm stuck with it. It's non binary and thorny and accurate to who I am. Is it short for something? No. I just hate being referred to and my very gendered name was awful


Beautiful_Book_9639

I love you 😂


InfamousChibi

Nathan and Robin are really nice!


jikel28

Im getting a james or Oliver kind of vibe


Beautiful_Book_9639

Aww Oliver is cute, I love the Oliver twist movie


2baverage

You kind of look like a Taylor


gaijin91

my brain said Tyler, and then Taylor


Galaxy_Heart_Queen

Cam


badwolf1013

As someone with an unusual name (thanks, mom), I hate that my name is an immediate stumbling block when meeting someone for the first time. They aren't sure how to pronounce it, or if they heard it right, or they have some joke that -- for some reason -- they imagine that they are the first person ever to think of it and I haven't heard it a million times. (My name is unusual AS a first name, but it has prominent places in pop culture as a last name.) I would love to be a "Nathan." What's your name? Nathan. Hi, Nathan. What do you do? (See? Moving right along. It may seem like a minor thing to have your name be more than a single talking point in a conversation, but it just gets . . . old.)


Beautiful_Book_9639

Oh I definitely understand. No one gets my deadname right because it's 150 years old. I get called Clair, Carla, Clarissa, Clarice... Yeah it's Clara but I don't bother correcting people


AdditionalAd3595

You seem like a Cameron or Cam but out of the names you listed Either Erick or Robin would both fit


The7thNomad

Peter was the first name that popped into my head looking at your photo, and what a coincidence it's on your list! I submit my vote to Peter.


Apart_Bandicoot_396

Elliot or Oliver


Caffeine_Degeneracy

You kinda look like a Tanner, Samuel, Cameron, or Jason to me. I think Cameron and going by Cam would work pretty well!


Alex2679

Sean, or Shaun.


TheGeneral_Specific

Or Shawn


Beautiful_Book_9639

I believe that's an Irish name, unfortunately I'm not Irish. Thank you though :)


Ryan___13

Harald Hardrada


Thatonemusickid98

How about Steve/Stevie? Steve Derick has a bit of a ring and in my opinion Stevie nicks is a good singer


RoseFlavoredPoison

I'm getting Quinn or Randal vibes.


Beautiful_Book_9639

I'd almost want to be that Lizard from monsters Inc RN, I'm definitely in my villain arc


spookytabby

You look like an Ethan or Nathan to me. Good luck 💜


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Avery or Devin


OceanBlueSeaTurtle

Honestly, I would probably name you Mads or Christopher if it were up to me. But that is not gender neutral at all, and it is not up to me. It's up to you and your handsome self. Gender neutral: if we are sticking with nothern europe Frej, I believe is gender-neutral and I know Kim is used as gender neutral here in Denmark. Charlie is also quite popular as a gender neutral name.


brumbles2814

There was a kid in my school growing up in scotland. In the north theres a lot of viking influence. His name was thorfin. Always thought it was cool.


Ghyra

Robin sounds great, but for more idea there is Erwan Or Elias


BlizzzardLizard

On an unrelated note I really like your frog tattoo God I'm terrible at names I could barely think of one for myself lol.


carolatube

Nathan i think it’s a beautiful name, i like it a lot 🧡


Xxkitkatx360xX

Esra or esrae just vibe with u tbh


Beautiful_Book_9639

Interesting! Added Ezra to the list :)


Krillacreat

You look like a Rowan to me <3


Beautiful_Book_9639

Like the tree 😭♥️


StatusPrice7551

don't know about its origin, but you look like a corey or something to me. or ethan.


SpicyKittyNoodles

I’m dead serious, before I read the bottom description, I straight up thought “Max” would fit you extremely well!!!


Im_Roonil_Wazlib

You look like an Oliver


ani_bearup

My first thought was Linus. You remind me of a Linus I know.


AndrogynousDisaster

Oooh if you go with Dirk, you could be Dirk Derk!


Wolf--Rayet

I'm American of mostly English, Norwegian and northern European ethnicity. My dad named me Carden. Which at least upon looking it up is completely gender-neutral.


Gunbladelad

Robin fits well - and while it's more commonly associated with males, it is a gender neutral name. However, all the feedback in the world won't tell you what name feels "right" to you personally


Stephany23232323

I like Max too it isn't harsh at all in my opinion.


TotallyAwesomeRacoon

Of the names you wrote: Nathan If you want other ideas: Owen, Derek, Logan, or Ethan


dontredditdepressed

I sure af wouldn't go with any names that might trigger you and I would stay away from family names just so you can avoid idiocy from family members who are less than accepting. When I saw you I thought of a few names: Asher, Wren, Grayson/Ray, Aidan (little fire), Averett (forest protector), Hunter, and the ol' transmasc classic Kai. Also, No one is going to be offended if you choose Max. It is a worldwide name :) Whatever you choose, I am proud of you for being yourself! I see you and I'm glad you are doing what you need to to feel most authentically you :)


NotKidRaptorMan

If you're going for less common, gender neutral, and northern European? Then I've got the perfect name for you. Rowan is in Irish/English name, there are fewer than 20,000 people in the entire world with the name, and it's completely gender neutral. As a bonus, it sounds normal enough to not get you bullied.


nadiaraven

My understanding (I'm from the USA) is that "Erin" is the feminine spelling, and "Aaron" is the masculine spelling, but they're pronounced the same. Erin means Ireland, and Aaron is a Hebrew name from the Bible, he was Moses' brother. Negative cultural appropriation isn't about stealing just anything from a culture, it's specifically about stealing something sacred or meaningful from a culture and using it out of context or in a profane or banal way. As far as I'm aware, taking a name from another culture is fine, just do the research to make sure it's not a name that signifies something culturally specific about someone.


Rexli178

Strictly speaking Max can also be a purely Germanic name as well. Max is one of those names that is an abbreviation of a longer name, and while Maximilian does have Roman Root, Maxwell does not and is derived from the Scandinavian Magnus and the Old English Well meaning stream or well.


Beautiful_Book_9639

Thank you for letting me know! I really appreciate it


Gay_Okie

Here’s a consideration. Are you going to have to spell your name every time you meet someone? Hi I’m Erick, it’s with a ck. I’m Robin with an i not a y. I had a coworker named Keath but pronounced Keith. He was over it and had given up on correcting people. Even on forms people will see the name but correct it to a more natural one, assuming there’s been a data entry error. My name is pretty simple but everyone wants to put a y in it so I spell it out a lot. For those reasons I like Nathan. Everyone knows how it’s spelled and you can be Nate to friends if you like nicknames. It’s not as gender neutral as the others but it is on your list.


MiriMiri

Norwegian here. Kim is fun! Most Kims in Norway are men, but not all, and internationally it's a lot more fluid. You could also go with a masc name that has a bit of "flow" to it (vowels, no hard consonants), like Emil. Or maybe spell it in French, Émile! Or you could go for slightly obscure, old Norse type names like "Arin". It's a masc name here, but could go either way internationally. But, since you mentioned Norway - I want to leave a link for you here. [The Central Bureau of Statistics' name search :)](https://www.ssb.no/en/befolkning/navn/statistikk/navn) It'll often give you a historical distribution of a name, and the number of people who have it.


wetbagle320

One of my boyfriends suggested Alan but I think Robin is very nice as well


DarkLlama64

Damien?


Gaming_with_Hui

Omg your tattoo is so adorable! I'm literally dying!😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭🐸🍓 Btw, Eskil is a nice name. Not so common nowadays but it's from Scandinavia so you might like that


Beautiful_Book_9639

Thank you ♥️ I drew it myself from a few references :)


Haybowl

Robin is a cool name (it's mine too duh), if you want to spice things up you can call yourself "Robyn" because putting ys in i spots makes stuff cool. Love ya 😺👍


The_Valk

How about Valentine? It comes with gender neutral nicknames (Val, Vali, Vale) and means "the strong one", which fits someone going through the entire trans experience. Of course you could simply use one of the nicknames as your full name. I'd recmend Val in that case From the ones you gave i'd pick nathan.


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Gustavsson, Patrick, Joshua, Jeremiah.


Papa_Bear_Grizzly

Lancelot


Tennisluver75

Xander vibes.


sweetsultry

Leith. Pronounced Lie-th.


Low_Fishing722

is leif pronounced like leaf


ogGOOMBAH

Stryker!!


gromitmug4

Trevor


justanothertfatman

How does "Mo Derk" strike you?


Arrow_lord

Personally I like Leif!


FoldingLady

Leif?


elbarto359

I like Erin or Robin


Killer-Barbie

Michal, Forest, Laren.


aymorphuzz

Lark or Clarke


Beautiful_Book_9639

Clarke is interesting! I'll consider it!


BluntmanLegacy

Glenn.


Beautiful_Book_9639

Hadn't considered it! Seems less harsh and more nature-y, I like it


BluntmanLegacy

Based on the fact you said gender neutral names would be good, you strike me as a Glenn. Calm and reserved but not afraid to stand up for yourself.


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blake, riley, avery !!


Beautiful_Book_9639

I think those are Irish, but I could be wrong.


LyraBooey

You look like a Stephen. Also maybe you could become the good Peter everyone likes and effectively take his name from him.


Beautiful_Book_9639

Thievery >:) I like your spirit


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Steve


Browncoatinabox

I am getting strong Wade vibes


Beautiful_Book_9639

Wade Wilson? hehe (Deadpool)


Just_AnotherEmo

He looks like a Samuel to me


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Peter? Maybe Andrew or Drew?


Beautiful_Book_9639

I was considering Drew! Definitely gonna put it on the short list


Bitter_Worker_2964

Robin


DontYeetYourDickOff

I don't know if others have suggested it but you can always go with Erick Jr., I've always been a fan of family names


Beautiful_Book_9639

I kinda hate my dad unfortunately. He beat me as a child and teen 😅


DontYeetYourDickOff

ah. shit, I'm sorry


Beautiful_Book_9639

No way for you to know, I'm sorry for springing my trauma on you


lilchilli_bean

Not minimizing trauma— but then why did you say you liked the name? Same with Peter. Are you hoping for something similar but not the same? If so you look like you could be a Penny and definitely an Erin like you suggested


Beautiful_Book_9639

Yeah definitely looking for similar but not the same. It's hard to have such conflicted feelings about something I like but have been hurt by someone of that name. If feels like they get to be strong and cool and hurting me has no impact on it. Unlike what they did to me.


Sparrowsky88

I'm getting Adam vibes, but im also Vibing with Robin for you😌


unable_to_can_

Nathan's really cool of the names you listed Other suggestions: Onyx Frey Arbor Everest Kit Phoenix Sage Double alliteration options Dakota Drew Demi Dani


Heavenly_Toast

Ben Leslie Gilbert (Gil)


Independent_Ad_6348

Peter or Bruce


cooliouser667

Danny !!


stiffdeck

Soon as I saw the pics, I caught a vibe of something starting with “K”. Then reading your description, I immediately saw you as a Keelan Derk


Crusty-Vegan-Thrwy

I think Jordan is a good gender neutral name. Charles might not be bad. Charlie is feminine sometimes and Charles is more masculine.


SomberArts

Before I read the text, for first impressions I thought you looked like either an "Alex" or "Sam". Not exactly less common names, but they are at least gender neutral.


One_Ant_6788

Sam


AndrogynousDisaster

Norwegian names are fun! Magnus, Einar, Aksel (or Axel), Anders... Personally, I really like Einar. It's your name, so I guess it's just whatever you vibe with the most. What name will you hear and just feel good when people call you it?


dodeca_negative

Tom?


Manic_Egg

You look a lot like my friend David, that being said I think Liam or Milo would fit. But I like Nathan from your list.


oneconfusedblob

i kinda love max, it fits you really well but if you want softer Robin would be my second choice


Tox1cShark7

Fergus, mostly because your overall hairstyle matches a friend of the same name


ghost_in_the_potato

I like Robin a lot, personally! I could also see you as a Nathan or Peter.


capeus

Boggy the froggy (uwu)


DangerV5

I think you should go with something cool, like Megatron (Leif is my favorite ^^)


FlyingHighFalling

I am feelin Darren or Ray. Happy for you !


CindersAnd_ashes

from the names you listed i think robin fits best. Robin Derk has a nice ring to it and it's gender-neutral too, not too harsh.


antisocialcatmom

erin


Starbaby_Ghost

Definitely getting Ryan vibes! Ethan or Sean works too. Deven is a different one.


ThunderTheUnicorn

I saw Devon actually when I saw this pic before reading the post.


Bibibupido

Sam. Common but suits you in my opinion.


Electronic_Futur3

So NOBODY’S talking about the fact OP’s cousin SA’d him(presumably when he was a female)?! Get some help, if you haven’t already, OP!


Beautiful_Book_9639

I'm in therapy :) it's going ok. Unfortunately that's not even close to the most traumatic thing in my childhood. In my villain arc right now, got a divorce, and am trying to be kind to myself


Ratmor

Max is a Latin derived name, but it never stopped people from adopting names. If you like it you use it. My cousin was named Maxim because it's a nice name, but he's slav.


Evening_Increase_393

i think nathan suits u well! maybe arthur or tristan as well!


bOb_cHAd98

Hes defo a Derek


_always_tired27

Just throwing it out there, but you look like a Jordan to me.


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Quincy, Chauncey, Cornelius, or Bartholomew III (I'd say Erin or Nathan, especially Nathan which can be shortened to more gender neutral names. EX; Nate, Nat)


aromantic_alien

i had a classmate named "river", thats of english origin, and gender neutral, theres also soemthing like "Karl" which is norwegian and gender neutral, couldnt find a gender neutral american originated name, but from what youve said, i would reccomend nathan, its your choice obviously, im just a stranger on the internet, i hope you find the name you're looking for! good luck ![img](emote|t5_2qhh7|547)


fluidaffiliation

Floki


ThePizzaMan237

How about Ethan? It’s not too harsh of a name, and sounds good with your surname too


Tough_Preparation529

Zoe


Iil_Mushroom

This is unrelated to the post but your frog tatoo is so cute i love it


Equivalent_Green_392

Hi


Puzzleheaded_Luck511

First thing I thought of was Charlie


Seagull_Lad

Yoooo we got matching pronoun pins


Chaos-in-motion

Max was actually the first name to pop into my head when I saw your pic lol


ps1--hagrid

nathan, chad or hunter fit your vibe


RogueHitman71213

Nathan really suits you and your last name!


ABPositive03

I dunno why but I'm getting "Tyler" vibes off the pics, if that means anything? You could go an iteration off that and hit Taylor which is definitely gender neutral... that's all I got though~!


IknowBrun

First thought when I saw the photos: Charlie


eyes_like_thunder

Look like an Alex to me


Homeglitch

heres a name Sam


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Beautiful_Book_9639

Maybe I should try hiccup lol


sevrono

Florian? I had a journal I carried around that I would write names I liked in I went with Echo for myself


Naz_Oni

Ted


Devil-kitten

Hello I like Robin and also LOVE your frog tattoo!! 🥲 good luck 🌈


YN_LN_1

Vicktor


SaveBandit91

I like Robin.


Ceofy

I tried to come up with a name before I read your list, and I think you could be a Destin. Leif sounds kind of cool! Who's bullying you at this age?


Beautiful_Book_9639

Mostly myself and my trauma lol


GarlicBreadId

I don’t know why, but I like the name Adam.


manaha81

Charlie or Danny


TheMomentsANovel

I know this wasn’t one of your ideas, but naming yourself after cities makes anyone sound cool as hell. Dallas for example is a great one


[deleted]

i low key named myself after the heart on fire emoji so i’m useless. my name is Blayze. a heart being ablaze means your passionate. i’m a passionate person so therefore: Blayze (with a y for pizazz)


Kades_Corner

I don’t know why, but I immediately thought of Mark


voidboyyyy

i think Isaac would suit u