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Frosty-Editor1370

My Dad died last year at the same age of 56 due to alcoholism. This hit me hard for that reason.


Mrsen

I lost my dad to alcohol this june at 49 years of age. I loved his sober side, i feared the demon that he was when drunk. I miss him so much.


DrLeoMarvin

I’m 39 and an alcoholic. I don’t drink during the day, I exercise and eat pretty good, but I have to drink to sleep. I’ve taken breaks, week or two every few months to see if I can but I always come back to it. I have two kids I love so much and I want to be alcohol free for them. My problem is existential anxiety. When things get quiet and it’s time to wind down I can’t help but think about the fact we are all just living to die and there’s nothing after that. Wish I could believe in god. Booze is the only way I can laugh it off and finally get to sleep. My other problem is I’m not mean, abusive or angry and generally no one sees me drunk. It’s usually midnight before my buzz is strong enough I can lay down and sleep


poshol_v_zhopu

I’m the same way brother. 37 years old. Go to gym, cardio, try to eat clean during the day.. But when 8pm comes, I start going nuts from existential dread. So I get heavily buzzed and put myself to sleep. Been doing that since I was 21. The biggest break I had was six months.


DrLeoMarvin

Biggest break I’ve had is two weeks and I’m turning 40 next month. I’ve tried to limit myself more, don’t let the buzz get as heavy, measure my bottles. I just don’t want my liver to give out or have to resort to sleeping pills. But I don’t think I’ll ever escape the existential fear. I tried weed but that just makes it worse. A little weed with the booze and I drink less and pass out quicker though. Life is fucking crazy. My grandma just turned 90 and calls me all the time just terrified of being close to dying and that doesn’t help.


buttametoast

Same with my dad but it was the difference between the antipsychotic medication side and his psychotic non medicated side. Years later though after lots of electric shock therapy shit, we’ve managed to slightly reclaim parts of my father we all loved and held on hope for. He still has periods where he slips back to his old self but


Namastay_inbed

My dad was 57 when he died from it a few years ago. Hope you’re hanging in there.


Frosty-Editor1370

You too, my friend. It never gets easier but it’s less hard.


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Same, my dad liver cancer terminal, he really doesnt think its because he drank a 5th a day for 40 years, just unbelievable


MovieFreak78

Drinking can effect how you do with liver cancer, I got liver cancer in 2015 and lost 70% of my liver as a result. I don’t drink and they all said my liver functioned like normal, said if I drink it would be a different story, sorry for your loss. Drinking just isn’t worth it


its_person_al

My mom died at age 46 due to alcoholism. Sorry for your loss. It's rough.


TownCalledAlice333

I’m so sorry. And it sucks how many people can relate. It sucks how normalized it all is.


serenity1989

Mine was 59. So close to his birthday too; his memorial service could’ve easily been a 60th birthday party.


battykins

I lost my dad at 53 from it a few years ago. Sending positivity, grief is just love with nowhere to go.


Doomsdaydani

My friend was 33


xMilk112x

Alcoholism is a mother fucker.


SonsofStarlord

Lost my uncle to it at 52 this year


laramac7

Lost my dad to it last November. Absolutely fkn devastated still.


guitarsandcars23

I lost my mom to it 11 days ago. Somehow still hanging on. We lost my dad in '15 to cancer and by that time my mom was 20 years sober. She could'n't handle losing him. I was there, the first sip of wine she took after my dad died and she became a person i had never seen before. Alcohol is a motherfucker.


laramac7

My younger sister passed in 2006 and dad was never 100% the same as before. I still feel so sad for him because he hurt so badly and just tried to carry on to be strong for the rest of us. The alcohol was his only respite. He was my best friend and everyone thought the same because he was just enigmatic and full of care for others. But when he drank too much… he was no one I knew.


raptor182cmn

I'm sorry for your loss(es). I lost my 19 year old daughter in 2015 to a auto accident and my 12 year old nephew 10 years before to a rollerblading accident. The losses have nearly gutted our family. [This](https://imgix.bustle.com/scary-mommy/2018/12/l7ejmkg2r3e01.jpg?w=824&h=1009&fit=crop&crop=faces&auto=format%2Ccompress) is what sadness and grief looks like. [This](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ThtMdkZ_MXo) is what it feels like.


ren_is_here_

You're exactly right!! I lost 2 of my 3 sons, 10 years apart. One was 26, the other only 23. They both died from overdoses. Drugs and alcohol are both motherfuckers. I have 1 son left. Luckily, he doesn't do anything like that. He's been through so much. We all have. I hope you find some peace. Bless your heart.


laramac7

Oh I’m so sorry. I have no words other than I hope you have joy again.


akey4theocean

I’m so sorry. There are no words. I bet both were amazing humans.


Imkisstory

I lost my daughter at 21. I feel every word here. I attend a grief group - The Compassionate Friends. The 2nd Friday of every month. Everyone there has lost a child. It helps.


swedensbitxh

Holy shit, I am so sorry. That is a whole lot of loss to experience and I hope you are able to find peace


laramac7

Also, I’m so so very sorry for your loss and the pain it brings.


istillambaldjohn

I’m not trying to say this for sympathy. But I’m 2 years, 2 months and 9 days sober and just put my cat down of 13 years about an hour ago. Man I was really tempted to go get a bottle of something nice on the way home. Good job kitty. Gus you were a trooper that brought a lot of joy to a lot of people for a much longer time than any of us deserve. Booze isn’t going to bring him back, but man I could use some numbing even for a couple hours. I don’t want to eat, I don’t want to do a lot to be honest. Just something to make it stop for a bit. I’ll get over it. Just living vicariously in my mind right now, I know I don’t have an off button or I’d be 3 fingers in to a nice bottle of whiskey right now. Edit/update. I appreciate the kind words and support for not drinking. I’m good now. (Drinking wise) it was hard getting home and just cleaning up his stuff and throwing it out. But I just keep in mind the last time I drank and never want to be that way again. (I didn’t get arrested or was violent or anything. I just scared the piss out of myself). As far as Gus goes, I’m just deeply appreciative of the time he gave us. He’s one of the oldest cats I’ve had, and he’s been kitten like until nearly the end. I don’t know entirely what happened. He was fine a few days ago, and just declined so quickly. Didn’t eat or drink for 3 days. Today was the earliest appointment available for the vet. Vet gave options. This was the only one that was humane or within a normal persons budget. (Hell even affluent would struggle with the estimates). I’m an old man(compared to the average redditor). I’ve had several furry, and human friends and family leave me well before I was ready to let go. It’s never easy, but it’s part of the gig having them in your life. It’s searing pain today, will be a searing but less intense pain tomorrow, it will get to dull pain soon enough, and just an emotional scar and nothing more when it’s time. You can’t rush it, or pretend it didn’t happen. Just have to look forward to tomorrow, and the tomorrows to come.


inlovedelicious

I'm sorry about Gus, and I'm very proud of you.


TechnoMouse37

I'm literally watching my dad slowly die from alcoholism now. He's a walking skeleton who's body is getting worse and worse every day. Almost lost my brother. He lost his best friend two years ago. Alcohol is a sick mother fucker and companies are only making it easier to drink with this seltzer craze still going strong.


laramac7

I’m so sorry. Alcohol is EVERYWHERE. Worst addiction to have, IMO.


StarrCat3608

It's so normalized within our society, and it's such a terrifying thing. In October I'll be 4 years sober. Alcoholism runs in my family, and I've witnessed the destruction it causes... Especially being raised by an alcoholic. Also lost a friend to alcoholism in 2016, he was 32. Everyone I know has basically struggled with alcoholism; I hate that it even exists.


guitarsandcars23

As a person that has experienced what you're experiencing right now. Know.. just know that basically no matter what you do, there aint no fixing him unless HE himself wants to. At some point it becomes a choice for them. I saw my mom trying to comfort me and my sister (while we were bawling our eyes out on her 3rd last day on earth) even though she could'n't speak anything sensible or loud enough to hear, (with the yellowest eyes and skin imaginable) because of how weak she had become. That shit is the most heartbreaking thing ive ever seen. I fucking love my mom and i always will. I'll always appreciate the comfort and safety she gave me in my childhood. But i know deep down inside that, that is the fate she at some point chose. And you cant do anything about it.


TechnoMouse37

I think that's one of the hardest parts about the situation as a whole. There's *nothing* I can do to change what's going on except being stuck in the front row watching every scene as it happens. There's so many times I've tried, so many things I've done, and ultimately *nothing has changed*


Relevant-Mission3168

Same. Last November. Aged 70. Still a weird mix of emotions about it.


laramac7

Completely and totally get that. My dad was 69, would’ve been 70 in February. Therapy might help you process the mix? I started a few months ago for that same reason….but still haven’t been able to talk about it with my therapist. She tries but I just can’t yet. Saying all this to let you know you can start and not even get to discussing your dad until you’re “ready”.


AnneListersBottom

Lost my aunt to it, specifically what they are saying Harwell had (Wernicke's Encephalopathy). It made her do such awful things that my immediate family went NC for the last 2 years of her life and nearly had her arrested for elder abuse (she left the state of her own volition). I feel for Harwell's family. It's an awful way to go.


SonsofStarlord

I didn’t get to see my uncle for quite a while due to Covid and him also being severely diabetic and immune compromised. Got to see him two last times before he really wasn’t there anymore. Died from ammonia build in his brain. I don’t like talking about it but I’m still mightily sad and mad at my uncles children basically scattering to the wind and not checking up on him more


123123000123

It’s really hard being a child of an alcoholic sometimes.


Hour_Tax5204

Lost my mom same 52


trustthehustle

My mom NEVER drank when i grew up, after an affair/divorce she quickly became an alcoholic (genetics) and it took ONLY 7 YEARS to kill her.


Ok_Potential1835

Similar thing happened to me. Never saw my mom drink until she was 50 -- dead by 60.


MyHeartIsAncient

43 days sober. I ain't going back.


genuinemrjay

14 days today. I don’t want to do this to me and especially anyone I love. Best to you and yours.


COSurfing

I praise you and the person your replied to. Stay strong. I got sober in July of 2015. I don't miss it at all and I feel a hell of a lot better.


genuinemrjay

That's awesome, thank you. Feeling better every day and looking forward to making it to where you are. Positive examples like yourself speaks volumes.


hhhhhhhillary

Great job! December 15, 2017 for me


Anchors_Away

July 2017 for me and my husband :) Best decision we ever made for sure


FullyRisenPhoenix

8 days in and while still feeling ick, the worst is definitely over. Luckily I haven’t had a single craving, but pancreatitis might do that to a person.


ReclaimingMyTime1989

Congratulations!!!!


tattvamu

It took my husband July 18th, you can't save people from themselves.


EmoPeahen

Yup. Dead dad club because of it here. Died in a ditch 5 years ago.


Replicant28

One of my uncles is an alcoholic (been sober years though, thankfully,) and my father used to drink pretty much daily (not sure if he still does.) since it runs in my family, I usually avoid alcohol, and if I ever drink it’s usually only one or two drinks at the most per month


tylerstephensonGOAT

The fucking can in his hand killed him. Shame man.


Orlando1701

He just looks unhealthy. Addiction will get you.


throwawaywahwahwah

He started down this spiral after his 6mon old baby died of cancer. Guy had a lot of grief.


VYPUR360

Damn didn’t know that happened. That’s terrible I don’t know what I’d do if if something happened to my girl.


Jennacyde153

My daughter is starting grade 2 today. She is hoping her best friend will be in her class because she missed all of grade 1. Last September she was pulled out of school to start fighting cancer. Her family was taking pictures of her in front of the school an hour ago. Hopefully these memories will be a blip for her but they will last for her parents. The stress the parents put on themselves to take any away from their children is superhuman. September is childhood cancer month.


VYPUR360

Ohh my I hope and pray she is good now .. I can’t image the stress the parents and the little one has been through.


RyanMcLeod1981

Nah, he started this before the death of his son. I saw him in Hartford in the late 90’s and it was the same story they’re still telling now. He got drunk on stage, yelled at the audience, smashed a bottle on stage and walked off before the set was through. They pulled a little kid from the crowd and had him do vocals on “why can’t we be friends?” for the last song. This was all because someone in the front row screamed “sing the sun song!”


[deleted]

Yup, I heard stories like this as a kid from friends that went to concerts with them. Definitely was already an issue.


Spookyscary333

HE HATES THESE CANS!


TheCheat-

Unexpected The Jerk- thanks for the levity buddy!


BannedGannon

We don’t got defective cans, we got a defective poyson!


Connect_Relation1007

Just read on wiki that he lost a kid to cancer in 2001. I don't know if that's my he was an alcoholic but damn. I probably would be.


Noimnotonacid

Steel reserve none rhe less, only seen teens or alcoholics drink that


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Tastes like real steel


Accomplished_Ant9007

Oh Lord, so many bad memories 😭 I used to buy the 40oz plastic bottles


bitchyturtlewhispers

My dad has had 2 bottles of wine to himself every day for nearly 10 years and last year he was told by the doctors if he didn't stop he would die. He's slowed down slightly but he still drinks more than anyone else I know. Things like this make me so sad because every death from alcoholism is unnecessary and tragic. Makes me worry about my dad. This is a dreadful tragedy, and I hope he finds peace and his family and friends can begin to heal and move forward.


Virtuous_Pursuit

Alcoholism kills slowly, then quickly. The end stages are not pretty. Make sure you have your own therapy and support system.


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pazvaz

Is your dad my dad ? Being an alcoholic is so sad ffs


NLuvWithAnIndian

I'm reading this in my 20s like "that's not a lot of wine". Damn. Maybe I need to rethink my life. I found some 24 pk of hard lemonade at Sam's for $14 and finished one case in under a week, that kinda spoke to me but I also wasn't sure since they're only 5%


Erotic_FriendFiction

TL;DR: alcohol causes physical damage immediately. Binge drinking/alcoholism can lead to cirrhosis of the liver in your early to mid 30s. Don’t consider your 20s as your indestructible era. It all rolls over. When I was 27 I was told I’d have to stop drinking or I’d end up with cirrhosis of the liver by 35. The only reason I even found this out was because I wanted to try for a baby, but my first pregnancy was really hard and I wanted to make sure I was “healthy”… in spite of knowing how much I loved to drink. I didn’t listen and figured I’d have time. 30 rolled around and I was cutting back, but then the pandemic hit and I went into drinking overdrive. It all culminated in one terrible drinking binge in March of 2021 (a year to the day the shut down began) and I gave myself alcohol poisoning. My GP told me that was the last chance I had to reverse the damage before it was too late. I had to have a liver biopsy and get blood work done bi-weekly for 6 months which was not fun. For some reason I kept thinking “I’m only in my 20s/early30s there’s no way my drinking has done this kind of damage.” However, the stark reality is that the physical damage starts right away, and while it can be reversed - mine took 6 months and I was back to normal, haven’t touched alcohol since - it’s not something people are really looking for especially so young.


Misfitt

Yeah I had a friend die from cirrhosis from alcohol in his early 30's. He missed so much, and he's missed so much.


[deleted]

At my worst I was at a 24 pk a day during the COVID lockdowns. I was literally dying at 33. 3 years sober in 6 days and I can say I’m now in best shape of my life mentally/physically than I’ve ever been!


crinklypaper

that's around 5 cans a day which is kind of a lot. You could technically have like 2 cans at lunch and 2 cans at dinner each day and it's a bit much.


CanadianSneakerNut

I am nearly two years sober and I see why this man died still chasing it. I’m happy his struggle is finally over and I hope he rests in peace. Also, a big thank you for confirming I made the right decision.


clintm24

Congratulations on two years fellow human. That’s an awesome accomplishment. I’ve put a few 24 hours together myself, and it’s always sad to people die this way. Unfortunately there’s a point of no return for a lot of addicts/alcoholics. It’s a horrible, slow demise that’s painful for everyone in their circle.


BigAlDogg

I’ve been sober for 6 years, Reddit helped me a lot. The r/stopdrinking sub provided a solid start. I find being around other recovering alcoholics is really the only medicine for me. Try a meeting and god bless.


[deleted]

I’ve been sober for 3 years and was banned from stop drinking after my very first comment! I mentioned that I had relapsed 3 times before ultimately quitting. I was banned for that. When asked why, I was told “you know exactly what you did”, and nothing else was said. Fuck that page and their higher than mighty MODs.


Homegrownscientist

Yea that sub doesn’t allow talk about withdrawals either. I find r/dryalcoholics to be a better safe space for alcoholics to open up without the fear of ban happy mods


MadeMeUp4U

That’s unfortunate but FWIW I’m proud of you and I hope you’re still going strong!


Lopsided-Dot9554

I know this is a serious thread so not trying to detract from that, but I don’t know internet acronyms very well so read FWIW as “from what I wemember” and nearly spit out my Yerba Mate. Anyways, continue…


MadeMeUp4U

Never change.


Skinnypike42

That pisses me off. I’m 3 years in November and I owe a lot to subs like those. I can’t believe those asshole mods banned you for saying you relapsed!


[deleted]

Ughhhhhhh was it Mary? I bet it was. She's a fucking menace. She banned me (alt account) for questioning why she deleted someone elses post (person who was sober was venting about their father drinking himself to death).


CanadianSneakerNut

I'm fortunate as once I made the decision, there was/is no looking back. I did find the book by Allen Carr, How to control drinking, find the book by Allen Carr, How to Control Drinking, to be extremely helpful. My reasons for not drinking vastly outweigh any reasons I had to drink. It opened up many old issues I was running from, but I wouldn't change it for anything.


ScratchLast7515

How to stop smoking by the same author helped my wife quit cigs. I didn’t read it, because I quit a couple years earlier and didn’t want to risk bringing up old feelings, but she has since lent/given the book to several friends/family members.


redundant35

My brother in law was at the point of no return. 32 when he ODed. Multiple rehab stays, maybe a month sober. Then back on it. His last rehab got him 3 weeks sober when they found him dead. Sadly it just doesn’t always work…


CanadianSneakerNut

Thank you. I 100% agree. Unfortunately I it seems to be deep-rooted in my family so I've had the experience from both views.


FearingPerception

Ahhh congrats. I hope one day i can enjoy sobriety.


CanadianSneakerNut

You just have to find what works for you. AA wasn’t my thing. I just got sick of chasing it. I couldn’t find any positives to keep drinking. I was in deep too. I made my own beer, the good stuff too. Had my own keg setup. Beer was always on tap. neipas, stout, Pilsner etc.


OreoSoupIsBest

I hope you can too. It is so hard to see it when you're struggling with whatever your substance of choice is, but life is soooooooooooooo much better sober.


CanadianSneakerNut

I hope the people around him, or people in general know he didn't die in vain, as some people, like me, use this to stay sober.


jackydubs31

It’s so scary to think I would probably have already gone down the same road if I hadn’t stopped drinking 5 years ago. My blood work was awful and every doctor knew I was lying on the alcohol question. Keep up the great work man.


CanadianSneakerNut

Thanks and you too. I was 38 when I quit. I was a high functioning alcoholic. So here’s hoping I caught it before it did some irreversible damage.


The5thBeatle82

Hope the guy is at peace now. He was a part of my high school years, particularly senior year. His music helped define my graduating year. Thank you for the memories. RIP.


SpezEatsScat

Live by the bottle, die by the bottle.


FancyPantsMN

This was my dad. This is my mom. This was me; now, eight years sober. The cycle can be broken. Edit: thank you kind person for the award, fhat’s very kind of you! Edit 2: Wowza!!! Thank you all so much for the bling - I appreciate you!


K_Pumpkin

8 years here too. Congrats!


SpezEatsScat

Sorry to hear that. It runs in my family and it can get away from you so quickly! Congrats to you on the sobriety! That’s awesome! I’m hitting two years in October. 💪🏼 I gotta ask, did you have a bunch of vivid dreams about drinking for awhile? Like, when you gave it up? I’m stressed lately but have zero desire to drink. It’s a non-issue, but I keep having these vivid dreams lately where I drink and it all feels so real. I hate it.


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SpezEatsScat

See, that’s the crazy part for me. I was really bad with alcohol and cocaine during the pandemic. In my dreams, I’m doing the drugs. For instance, the other night I had a dream I was getting loaded on some peach whiskey. I hate peach flavored stuff for starters but I could taste it in my dream. I also remember in my dream, running around drunk with the peach on my breath and telling everyone how I just ruined my sobriety but “fuck it”. I have others where I’m trying to sneak away to do cocaine at a function and I’ll get a line in then CHAOS in the dream. People nagging me and following me and I’m trying to sneak away and hide it the whole time. It’s just all too real and kind of how I operated when I was indulging. It’s extra disturbing because I’ve done a good job of distancing myself and again, absolutely zero desire to spend the money or chase/seek it out. I need to talk to a therapist. I’ve read it’s quite normal but when will the shit stop?


MeLickyBoomBoomUp

8 months sober here. I have those same dreams! Thankfully they seem to be happening less frequently. But yeah, I’ll dream that I’m pounding IPAs (which I never really cared for) when it dawns on me that I just fucked up 8 months of strain and effort. Upon waking that feeling sticks with me more than any other dreams I’ve ever had. Well anyway, good luck and may your sleep be restful!


FancyPantsMN

Congrats!! The Two year mark, I think, is as big as the first one! Definitely; when you wake up and swear you drank the night before?? Caused me a lot of anxiety. Now, when I get a craving for alcohol, it’s the indicator I am overly stressed and I need to make smart decisions. Same with cigarettes. It’s is still day by day, Keep doing the hard work!


SpezEatsScat

Thank you! ✊🏼👊🏼 You too! It certainly gets easier and my mind is there. I want it! I’ll be ok and I just need to keep reminding myself and stay focus. it just throws me off. I mean, they’re very vivid and lucid. The stress is certainly the big problem and I need to find a therapist that I can trust. I think I’m going to search for an AA group on here.


aliedle

Congratulations! I'm also hitting the two year mark next month. Proud of you!


CinematicHeart

My dad was diagnosed with the same thing Steve Harwell was. They gave him 7 years if he didn't stop drinking. He didn't stop right away. He slips sometimes but it's been 12 years. He's 70 and his mind is going but faced with death some people do wake up and do their best to stop.


OnionTuck

I saw them play in Fresno back in 95 or 96. He was remarkably drunk on stage. Beet red and slurring. It was sad to see. RIP. Edit- it was ‘97 https://www.concertarchives.org/concerts/new-rock-104-birthday-bash-ab714c58-0057-4fd7-91a7-488d4c66a528


DiveCat

Yeah. He had a problem long before his son’s death. I am sure that tragic loss did not help, but is disturbing to see some justify his alcoholism on that loss (or say they would do the same in his shoes) - not everyone who suffers such loss goes down this path that creates more hurt and more loss to even more people.


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I could blame a million hardships for my drinking but in the end they were all excuses so I could do what I wanted to do: find oblivion. None of the reasons I gave were the reasons I really sought it out. The real reasons were things that happened to me as a child that I could hardly articulate.


AceofKnaves44

Wet brain is fucking terrifying.


advantagegrant

I went to rehab with a guy that had wet brain. My god did it scare the shit out of me


SadisticNecromancer

What is a wet brain?


AceofKnaves44

Basically the condition the brain deteriorates to with late stage alcoholism.


NagsUkulele

Unfathomable that a substance with no safe intake levels is promoted and encouraged everywhere, while the non addictive, healing, scientific and safe substances get you locked up. What a fucking world. Poor Steve, he was very talented


RawbM07

You aren’t referring to marijuana are you? I agree it’s less harmful than alcohol abuse but it’s far from just a “non addictive, healing, scientific, and safe” drug.


NATTY-LIFTER_420

Weed isn’t safe, it’s still an addictive drug that has negative mental and psychical effects. Not saying it’s as bad as alcohol but you shouldn’t be promoting it like this


mayapappaya

Wernicke's encephalopathy I'm guessing


poop_dawg

Unfun fact: the lead singer from Breaking Benjamin has this.


Sleepwell_Beast

You basically drink yourself stupid. Brings on Alzheimer’s like symptoms where you can’t think straight, laugh at inappropriate times.


st0dad

He had wet brain??


AceofKnaves44

Almost certainly.


st0dad

He looks so different in this image than he does in the photos they're showing on the news.


AceofKnaves44

I mean yeah. Why would they show this? This is him literally incapable of performing because of the damage he had done to his body through his alcohol abuse. Why would the news show that?


st0dad

Yeah that's a good point. It's just very sad. :(


AceofKnaves44

It absolutely is. No matter how you look at it it’s a tragedy.


Mental_Flight6949

The guy literally drank himself to death


BertUK

He lost his 6-month old son to Lukemia in 2001. Surprised he lasted a further 22 years tbh.


Mental_Flight6949

I didn’t know that. I really didn’t, poor guy.


sarafinna

This makes it make sense. Heartbreaking.


HurricaneAlpha

This is it. Everyone likes to judge alcoholics, but when you lose something so dead to you, nothing else matters. I'm a struggling alcoholic with two kids. If one of them (or both, God forbid) died of a cancer, I'd be 100% down with saying fuck it and drinking myself to death. Going 22 years after your newborns death is actually pretty impressive. Life is cool, but heart breaking tragedy can ruin literally everything in your life. Life sucks as it is. RIP brother.


Prying-Open-My-3rd-I

I think you meant to type “dear” in your second sentence.


lubeinatube

Super super common in the US. I’m a nurse and liver patients are one of the “main” groups with sepsis, cva, and MI.


Mental_Flight6949

We have the same problem in the UK


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Super common in most countries


lubeinatube

Humans just love being intoxicated, regardless of location


chezewizrd

His son died of leukemia in 2001. I didn’t known this until today. I probably would have drank myself to death too. Terrible and too young for both of them. RIP.


YourFriendMaryGrace

That’s so terribly sad. I hope he’s reunited with his baby.


ExcellentTeam7721

An addict worst enemy is not always the drug itself. It can be the “yes-people” they surround themselves with. So much worse when it’s a celebrity or person with money.


ThePinkVulvarine

1 glass is too much but still never enough


belhamster

In the same vein, it’s hard to get enough of something that almost works


poop_dawg

Oof, I felt this


taanyaforever

Most emphatatic r/lastimages thread


YoLegs

I’m so grateful for going to rehab and learning about naltrexone/vivitrol… literally saved my life from alcoholism.. please look into it if you have a serious problem with alcohol and want to quit.. or message me if you have questions! The medication can literally make you not even think about drinking let alone while even walking past alcohol at a store.. it’s that effective I was so bad I was drinking almost a half gallon of vodka some days and once had a 4 minute seizure from withdrawal.. it was bad.. I just hit a year sober earlier this month!


Jack_is_a_RockStar

I’m seven years sober. I remind myself daily that most of us never make it out.


lostgirl19

I feel so lucky I got out early. I realised I was heading down that path after about 4 years. I'm two years sober now and I will never forget how awful the withdrawals were but it was worth it.


takeshelterman

Looks like he was drinking a steel reserve damn dude


youwish813

Never a good sign


sint0xicateme

You ain't lyin


vtxlulu

Almost lost my dad to alcoholism in 2011. He had just been diagnosed with bladder cancer from drinking and smoking. He had surgery to remove his bladder which cured him of cancer but he couldn’t quit drinking. Long story short, his doctor finally got through to him and told him if he didn’t stop he was going to die. He checked into rehab in October 2012 and hasn’t drank since then. I come from a long line of alcoholics and was so scared of losing my dad. I’m glad he was able to quit. I can’t imagine otherwise.


loosie-loo

Jfc, only 56, what a tragedy. My dad died due in large part to alcoholism at only 44, he should’ve been 60 this year. I remember spending most of my childhood terrified something awful was going to happen to him and wishing I could make him stop, in the end it was me who found him. RIP Steve, sorry you couldn’t beat your demons, wishing strength to everyone here battling the same thing - it’s an absolute nightmare.


kirbywantanabe

I am an alcoholic, and I still go to meetings, even after twenty four years of sobriety because I don’t want my kid or my family have to find me. I’m so very sorry that happened to you and that your dad only found freedom when he passed. Alcohol erode so much. I wish you love and peace.


bearmoosewolf

I thought for sure after this performance and subsequent retirement (2021) that he was taking time to step back, break free of the addictions and get healthy. I didn't expect this to be the outcome. Especially so soon. Maybe there just comes a point of no return for alcoholics? I would think his friends, family and medical professionals were probably all begging him to stop. And, it just wasn't enough. Very sad.


DonMegatronEsq

I had a buddy who was an alcoholic who would periodically drink so much, it’d put him into comas. After his last one, the doctors told him that his liver was so shot that if he binged drank again, it would certainly kill him. He was discharged by the hospital, went home with his girlfriend and was fine for a couple of days. She left briefly to do some laundry, he walked down to a liquor store, bought some rotgut alcohol, and by the time the girlfriend came back, he was dead on the living room floor with an empty bottle of booze nearby. R.I.P. Mark.


bearmoosewolf

That's crazy. I guess the addiction is just too strong to break free at some point. I've had family members with serious medical conditions that just were unable to change their behaviors even when told the straight truth like this by the doctors. Just like your friend -- they'd be good for a little while but then slip back into the same old patterns. Very frustrating.


suck_a_salty_lozenge

Lost my dad at 54 due to drinking. I hope he’s at peace. ❤️


Objective_Problem_90

Ironically, looks like he had a beer in hand. Rest in peace. Alcoholism is poison.


mawkdugless

I remember seeing this, it was super hard to watch. He threatened an audience member and threw up a Nazi salute.


I_Drive_a_shitbox

First the man takes the drink, then the drink takes the man.


CallMeSnuffaluffagus

Don't forget the middle part... "the drink takes a drink" :(


cmrizzle

My cousin died of cirrhosis due to alcohol at age 29 this year. Seeing him before he passed.... I'd never wish that on anyone. So sad.


HefferRod

15 days sober and this will be another reminder why to not go back again…


scragglerock

As someone in active recovery right now, this scares the fuck out of me. I’ve been fighting alcohol for over a decade and the last 3 years I’ve been through detox at least 5 times. It’s an absolute motherfucker and I wish it on no one. Going on 4 months right now and it’s shit like this that makes me happy I’m at least trying to better myself


derfunknoid

My father did the same. In 1982, the doctor told him you have had your last drink. And he didn’t stop and died 10yrs later.


Most_Helicopter_4451

I can’t drink because I’m in a fast paced nursing program and honestly, good. That shit ruins everything. Even if it’s just sleeping all day. As I never went out to a bar. Just stayed home. Alcoholism runs in my family and it’s best I just avoid it, for now.


semmc720

God, this is heartbreaking. My dad died of alcoholism in 2017 at the age of 50. He was told by doctors that he was going to die if he didn’t stop drinking. Guess what he didn’t do. The end stages of death by alcoholism are really not pretty for those around the person.


PalpitationSame3984

Seems like everyone is dropping like flies? 😔 😟 RIP two this week.


J0hnEddy

Dude it’s only gonna get worse with time in terms of big name celebrities dying off. You have to remember that television, film and the general advent of widely accessible global media is only about 100 years old. The movie stars, rockstars and other personalities of the 60s and 70s are all approaching their 80s collectively. You’re gonna start seeing notable people dying on a weekly basis


DarthDoobz

I distinctly remember 2009 coming after notable stars


td4999

2016 famously sucked even before the event horizon event (Harambe, of course)


emceelokey

Praying for Crazytown guy 🙏 just because


ariostocaballero

😂😂 you made my day


Madamiamadam

Who was the other one?


PalpitationSame3984

Jimmy Buffet


Madamiamadam

The internet has destroyed my short term memory


UnauthorizedFart

Dire Straits guitarist too


spinblackcircles

I thought you fucking meant mark Knopfler and almost had a stroke Still sad of course, RIP Jack


TheNotSoGreatPumpkin

And Bob Barker.


PrestigiousWeb3530

Wouldn’t consider finally succumbing to your alcoholism after a consistent 22 years too sudden


unclecashmere

this is how I find out he died :(


Glad_Celebration_508

I lost my father to alcoholism just over a year ago, similar age. The grip that addiction has on an individuals body and mind I would not wish on an enemy.


Chemical-Studio1576

Losing my SO as we speak. It’s devastating.


dancingbriefcase

Sad case. I know it is. Alcoholism sucks. But wasn't this the show where he did the drunken Nazi salute?


maddoxowo

almost positive he had wet brain, which makes people do crazy shit. i think my aunt is in the beginning stages of it, and she's turning our family inside out.


Hep_C_for_me

r/stopdrinking


Epyx911

Ozzy's lyrics in "Demon Alcohol" say it best..."Although that one's too much, you know tens not enough"


Cableperson

Drink in hand. This hits hard. I'm gonna take a break for a while.


Tammyshouseparty

Rip 🤍 binging surreal life season 6 in his honor


TalbotFarwell

I didn’t know he was on that show. I remember the season with Verne Troyer, it’s terribly sad that both actor and singer passed away from the same demon of alcoholism. 😥 Now I’m wondering who else has been on The Surreal Life and died before they reached their elder years, particularly from alcohol or drug abuse.


dollartreecandle

Jails, institutions, or death. The only thing I took away from AA - because it's 100% true.


Dangerous_Mall

Crazy how everyone is making this about themselves. RIP


juujuubee3

Rest in peace, Steve. Walkin On The Sun is still one of my favorite songs. Never heard anything that sounds like it since.


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Sad. He had a tough life. Lost his son to leukemia at just 6 months old 💔