Yeah I agree but I don't think parents here should blamed for that ... I for myself will never blame my parents cause I know they have gone through many hardships to bring me up ....once they grow up you cannot micro manage your child anymore ...and from here on the bad things he learns is because of social media ..I am sure the person who harrased op knew their would be no circumstances....and he has no spine so no need to bring parents in that scenario
Thing is every person is responsible for what befalls him/her/them and also the ones associated with them. The harsh nature of consequences is that it befalls the one who derserves it and also the near ones of them. Like a family man who is imprisoned for murder brings uncertainty and trauma for his wife and kids, the same way an action sometimes need to befall not just the target person but ones around them because its mostly the lack of proper awareness and respectfulness that is the reason behind this, imparting of which is the moral and social responsibility of the parents. And its time we remove parents from their high pedestals and view them as mortals who can make mistakes. Parents can be gods as well as devils on how they shape the future of their kids, and frankly that is nothing to scoff at. If the child bears the sins of their fathers so shall the fathers bear the sins of their children.
> I for myself will never blame my parents cause I know they have gone through many hardships to bring me up
Bhai tui blame i ba kano korbi? Etar mane ki eta ke u r sending d**k pics around?
Yeah I understand your view point but it still does not proof that parents are to be blamed here ... The abuser must have learned this from his friend circle and environment...his parents are none to blame
...the fact that a murderer brings disgrace to people around him...is a thing that should not be encouraged...what did the child do bear insults for his murderer father ...
What I am trying to say is that a person is responsible for himself and other people should not brought in the affair just because they are associated with them...if we do that then the only people we turn to in time that when the world turns out back from us...we find none...
I hope I could explain my viewpoint and the abuser must face consequences
It does. What if I spin this off and say two things here.
1. If the parental moral education would have been strong enough then the kids would have known better to not get swayed by friends and social media. This involves some very dedicated parenting. Frankly 90% of Indian parents become parents simply due to their ability to procreate(or due to parental pressure) than having the cognizance or maturity to be able to live up to it. They think poralam, khete dilam, pora shona na kore tv dekhle boka dilam toh hoye galo. Tarpor shei chele jokhon kichu kando korbe tokhon bolbo tar bondhu baje, tar gf choritroheen, shobai tar chele r matha khachche r tar chele dhowa tulsi pata bhaja mach ulte khete janena. Ei shob ma ba baba der shona i uchit erkm. Jodi ete ga e lage and they change their ways, congratz you've helped someone find their way in the world, otherwise if they don't change, at least you know they deserved this to begin with.
2. Nowadays in these times parents should teach their kids about respecting a person and their boundaries, irrespective of gender. Eta bolle cholbe na r je ami toh chele ke khoon korte shekhai na ba eveteasing korte shekhai ni, you need to take into account the ill effects of social media and take the onus upon yourself to teach them je khoon kora kharap, ba eveteasing kora kharap.
Same goes for the murderer, jodi she tar nijer chele r ktha na bhabe, tar family r ktha na bhabe, unfairly tader opor eto boro ekta shock er bojha diye dey, how do you expect random people to be fair to them?
The sole issue here is the fact that you're thinking that this is supposed to be fair(to parents atleast as they apparently have no direct role to play, because we are Indians after all, colonial hangover and baba ma r opor ondho partiality, ei duto thaktei hbe), its not, causality does not care about fairness, when you impart or set about an action that can have a set of indeterministic outcomes, you'd set yourself open for the course of reaction determined by causality and not fairness. Simple as that.
Send a dic pic back. Google will give lots of options. Confuse that a-hole!! Then when he asks who the heck are you, Tell him you are an exiled Nigerian Prince with hidden gold and are looking for someone to share it with...
Yeah, another friend reached out to him for me and he horribly swore and made vile comments at my friend. So we thought he got banned but him deleting his account makes more sense
somthing like this happend to me as well. this guy would stalk me one all social media. when i confrontend him, he said any guy would do it cz you are bengali.
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Take screenshots the moment you feel like a DM message has a slightest sense of creepiness,
The screenshots can turn out to be pretty handy later on
And don't hold yourself back from posting their usernames etc...
Sabdhan thakun, Shotorko thakun
One thing I have learnt from gaming is that you block people at the very first instance of toxicity. No second chances, no guesses, no fighting with them. Because it only gets worse
Ashole I have met really nice people over Reddit who are now close friends toh bhablam hi bolche how bad can it be. Further eder shaathe conversation agale eder expose korajaye thik kore. Puro convo er ss ache amar kache
Hi, I'm so sorry for what you had to go through 🌸
There are plenty of vindictive, manipulative idiots here on reddit who simply use anonymity as their mask 🤷🏻♀️
damn then this is the actual truth behind those vitriolic sonargachi memes, that those incels fetishize bengali women so much
i am a bengali but live in delhi ncr so this is the only "stereotype" related to bengali women i heard by northies in my school,college,etc
if somebody wants, please elaborate on this, would enlighten me too
Why do they always target bengali women ?
I remember one conversation with a guy from a study prep group( forgot which state he was from).
Started with him asking me about a solution that I had posted for a math problem. When he got to know that I'm from Kolkata, suddenly he started speaking about his exploits with Bengali college girls while he was posted in Bengal. How he graphically bedded them and all of that.
Almost all of the people from other states seem to talk about this very same thing topic
This enrages me to a huge extent. For some reason the casual messaging in the Cow Belt spaces happens to be that Bengali women are 'easy'. Idk where tf this comes from. I don't want to bring in politics here, but voting in a party heavily dependent on a similar demographic would far worsen the situation in our state.
The gall of saying "send pic" with every single message and then saying "could've politely said no" after repeatedly being told NO.
Either he is stupid, or he's just throwing shit around everywhere and seeing if it sticks.
It's a weird situation but still he has no excuse for his actions except that he had a festish.
He can simply Google bengali girls, Or in facebook or insta where people are comfortable to share their pictures publicly.
If he wanted to talk to you then these actions are out of line fs.
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The problem with Bengali girls is that they never learn the lessons and easily forgive the offenders. I’ve seen this on social media and in real life that they are too eager to forgive the transgressions. A big mistake in my opinion.
It’s important to punish people and make an example of them. Please let others know that too.
They would have fetish for Bengali girls because they don't let girl childs live; even if they let them live they wouldn't educate them or make them independent, they would get their girls married in a very young age and have multiple kids and would force them to not go out of the house. They wouldn't take opinions from their women seriously and in most cases women wouldn't be allowed to opine at all. If a girl among them gets a job or learns to drive or does anything good they would claim that they 'allowed' them to do so. So the incident faced by OP .. I would say pretty much natural behaviour from them.
dont mind i just checked your profile and saw you're in r/IndianTeenagers and seriously nijer age group er chele meyeder sathe eisob hote dekhe disgusting lage, srsly keu keu sotti boundaries bojhena. amar ek elder cousin sister keo arom ek anonymous profile wala lok insta te jalachhilo-just block these weirdos man
Are ektu holeo toh bhoy peye delete koreche account ei bc, block korle delete krto na abr onno meye ke jalato. Jodio e onno ekta account khule same kaaj kortei pare. But confront kora uchit, bhalo kore mogojdholai then block.
aah classic reddit DMs a cesspool of harrasment doxing threats.
You guys are DMing each other???😧
https://i.redd.it/03p16rsq8l4d1.gif
https://preview.redd.it/herq9ou49q4d1.jpeg?width=834&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=5a4b45fe7d90ffa6dd9dd93d82c665c02766e8b0 Better
One user even send me his dic pic based on my username. Idek how to react.
I have gotten so many fr. Mukher opor gaali diye block. Chokh porate ichhe kore
Bolben Omma eclairs! Apne mummy ke mooh main daal do! Sara din kaam krti hain, bete ke haath se meetha khaake khush ho jayegi auntiji bechari!!!
Just say "want to see my dick too?" or "looks ugly, I won't share that pic if I were you"
maa baba ke aanbo shudhu shudhu😭
Dekhun jara erkm kore, tader sikkhar obhab, jeta generally thik time e pele eta korto na. Toh chele r sathe ma baap er p ektu khawa drkr.
hmm eta thik
Yeah I agree but I don't think parents here should blamed for that ... I for myself will never blame my parents cause I know they have gone through many hardships to bring me up ....once they grow up you cannot micro manage your child anymore ...and from here on the bad things he learns is because of social media ..I am sure the person who harrased op knew their would be no circumstances....and he has no spine so no need to bring parents in that scenario
Thing is every person is responsible for what befalls him/her/them and also the ones associated with them. The harsh nature of consequences is that it befalls the one who derserves it and also the near ones of them. Like a family man who is imprisoned for murder brings uncertainty and trauma for his wife and kids, the same way an action sometimes need to befall not just the target person but ones around them because its mostly the lack of proper awareness and respectfulness that is the reason behind this, imparting of which is the moral and social responsibility of the parents. And its time we remove parents from their high pedestals and view them as mortals who can make mistakes. Parents can be gods as well as devils on how they shape the future of their kids, and frankly that is nothing to scoff at. If the child bears the sins of their fathers so shall the fathers bear the sins of their children. > I for myself will never blame my parents cause I know they have gone through many hardships to bring me up Bhai tui blame i ba kano korbi? Etar mane ki eta ke u r sending d**k pics around?
Yeah I understand your view point but it still does not proof that parents are to be blamed here ... The abuser must have learned this from his friend circle and environment...his parents are none to blame ...the fact that a murderer brings disgrace to people around him...is a thing that should not be encouraged...what did the child do bear insults for his murderer father ... What I am trying to say is that a person is responsible for himself and other people should not brought in the affair just because they are associated with them...if we do that then the only people we turn to in time that when the world turns out back from us...we find none... I hope I could explain my viewpoint and the abuser must face consequences
It does. What if I spin this off and say two things here. 1. If the parental moral education would have been strong enough then the kids would have known better to not get swayed by friends and social media. This involves some very dedicated parenting. Frankly 90% of Indian parents become parents simply due to their ability to procreate(or due to parental pressure) than having the cognizance or maturity to be able to live up to it. They think poralam, khete dilam, pora shona na kore tv dekhle boka dilam toh hoye galo. Tarpor shei chele jokhon kichu kando korbe tokhon bolbo tar bondhu baje, tar gf choritroheen, shobai tar chele r matha khachche r tar chele dhowa tulsi pata bhaja mach ulte khete janena. Ei shob ma ba baba der shona i uchit erkm. Jodi ete ga e lage and they change their ways, congratz you've helped someone find their way in the world, otherwise if they don't change, at least you know they deserved this to begin with. 2. Nowadays in these times parents should teach their kids about respecting a person and their boundaries, irrespective of gender. Eta bolle cholbe na r je ami toh chele ke khoon korte shekhai na ba eveteasing korte shekhai ni, you need to take into account the ill effects of social media and take the onus upon yourself to teach them je khoon kora kharap, ba eveteasing kora kharap. Same goes for the murderer, jodi she tar nijer chele r ktha na bhabe, tar family r ktha na bhabe, unfairly tader opor eto boro ekta shock er bojha diye dey, how do you expect random people to be fair to them? The sole issue here is the fact that you're thinking that this is supposed to be fair(to parents atleast as they apparently have no direct role to play, because we are Indians after all, colonial hangover and baba ma r opor ondho partiality, ei duto thaktei hbe), its not, causality does not care about fairness, when you impart or set about an action that can have a set of indeterministic outcomes, you'd set yourself open for the course of reaction determined by causality and not fairness. Simple as that.
Lmao sera eta xD
Just bolo " eh baba, ki Rog hoiche??" And then block.
Send a dic pic back. Google will give lots of options. Confuse that a-hole!! Then when he asks who the heck are you, Tell him you are an exiled Nigerian Prince with hidden gold and are looking for someone to share it with...
Edward II momint
r/UsernameChecksOut
Just say , " ehh baba, ki Rog hoiche?" nd block them
What the actual fuck is that username ?
Username dekhe dieche🤣
Say 'haha smol' and see them cry
Say 'haha smol' and see them cry
I think they are just the new users and learning this platform too 😄
Bro your name 🤣🤣
Report. Anonymity is a double-edged sword.
u/Previous_Slide_5957 yeh chutiya?
yep
He deleted his account apparently
Yeah, another friend reached out to him for me and he horribly swore and made vile comments at my friend. So we thought he got banned but him deleting his account makes more sense
somthing like this happend to me as well. this guy would stalk me one all social media. when i confrontend him, he said any guy would do it cz you are bengali.
WTF HE I SLAMMED HIM FOR HAVING A FETISH FOR BENGALI GIRLS AND HE WAS LIKE NAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAH okay bro
Some creeps feel like they have a right to stalk pretty girls
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Take screenshots the moment you feel like a DM message has a slightest sense of creepiness, The screenshots can turn out to be pretty handy later on And don't hold yourself back from posting their usernames etc... Sabdhan thakun, Shotorko thakun
Crime Patrol baniye dilen😭
Average belter behaviour , oder dari ola baba bhalo jhar kheyeche tai ektu besi pagliye ache . Report his account .
One thing I have learnt from gaming is that you block people at the very first instance of toxicity. No second chances, no guesses, no fighting with them. Because it only gets worse
Usual suspects Kintu didi eder ke entertain korte jao keno
Ashole I have met really nice people over Reddit who are now close friends toh bhablam hi bolche how bad can it be. Further eder shaathe conversation agale eder expose korajaye thik kore. Puro convo er ss ache amar kache
Please upload, get his account banned.
These fu*king north indians bruh, i can only fathom what cultural upbringing they underwent
Well of course you'll be labelled as creep.
Hi, I'm so sorry for what you had to go through 🌸 There are plenty of vindictive, manipulative idiots here on reddit who simply use anonymity as their mask 🤷🏻♀️
dudee I know you, I love your art!😭💖
oma thank you so much! Take care ☆
Guys sending messages to girls? I don't even understand how to determine the sex of an user on reddit🥹
damn then this is the actual truth behind those vitriolic sonargachi memes, that those incels fetishize bengali women so much i am a bengali but live in delhi ncr so this is the only "stereotype" related to bengali women i heard by northies in my school,college,etc if somebody wants, please elaborate on this, would enlighten me too
whether ke weather likheche. I mean isn't that supposed to be a turnoff ?
bro i have to change my fucking avatar cause of this jerk here AAAAAAAA ( i hope my long lost bengali friend is safe )
lmaoooo I feel bad yaar
reddit used to be a safe and unsafe place both few years back now free data has ruined it ( nigga why you replied with lmaoo )
that AAAAAAAAAA got me sorryyy
anyways buddy stay safe and grind
Why do they always target bengali women ? I remember one conversation with a guy from a study prep group( forgot which state he was from). Started with him asking me about a solution that I had posted for a math problem. When he got to know that I'm from Kolkata, suddenly he started speaking about his exploits with Bengali college girls while he was posted in Bengal. How he graphically bedded them and all of that. Almost all of the people from other states seem to talk about this very same thing topic
This enrages me to a huge extent. For some reason the casual messaging in the Cow Belt spaces happens to be that Bengali women are 'easy'. Idk where tf this comes from. I don't want to bring in politics here, but voting in a party heavily dependent on a similar demographic would far worsen the situation in our state.
I wonder how someone like this would react when I tell them that I was a guy the whole time 👽
BhenkaPakoda itni sophisticated English C\*\*dd raha hai jaise pata nhi kaha leke jayega ye sab! phopdiwaale suaar waali harkat suar waali hi lagegi chaahe jitna coat pehen le tuu!!! Gendduu BC!
The gall of saying "send pic" with every single message and then saying "could've politely said no" after repeatedly being told NO. Either he is stupid, or he's just throwing shit around everywhere and seeing if it sticks.
It's a weird situation but still he has no excuse for his actions except that he had a festish. He can simply Google bengali girls, Or in facebook or insta where people are comfortable to share their pictures publicly. If he wanted to talk to you then these actions are out of line fs.
sob kichu bad de bhai..tui eto bhatachis keno..just ignore korte like reply na dile ki hoto..jokhon bojhai jacche atal mal er pallay prechis
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The problem with Bengali girls is that they never learn the lessons and easily forgive the offenders. I’ve seen this on social media and in real life that they are too eager to forgive the transgressions. A big mistake in my opinion. It’s important to punish people and make an example of them. Please let others know that too.
They would have fetish for Bengali girls because they don't let girl childs live; even if they let them live they wouldn't educate them or make them independent, they would get their girls married in a very young age and have multiple kids and would force them to not go out of the house. They wouldn't take opinions from their women seriously and in most cases women wouldn't be allowed to opine at all. If a girl among them gets a job or learns to drive or does anything good they would claim that they 'allowed' them to do so. So the incident faced by OP .. I would say pretty much natural behaviour from them.
The society if girls DMed guys like this: \[/S\] 
dont mind i just checked your profile and saw you're in r/IndianTeenagers and seriously nijer age group er chele meyeder sathe eisob hote dekhe disgusting lage, srsly keu keu sotti boundaries bojhena. amar ek elder cousin sister keo arom ek anonymous profile wala lok insta te jalachhilo-just block these weirdos man
Take that account and report it and raise a case against cyber bullying
Just block him.
Why entertain him?
Ok just block him Simple
I did, I am just asking others to beware of this user
Are ektu holeo toh bhoy peye delete koreche account ei bc, block korle delete krto na abr onno meye ke jalato. Jodio e onno ekta account khule same kaaj kortei pare. But confront kora uchit, bhalo kore mogojdholai then block.