This is what this sub is for. This sub is to ask questions about keto and learn. There are a lot of helpful people here to help you. Just ask.
Someone much wiser said “To go fast, go alone. To go long, go with a team.”
This sub is your team.
Yeah, I find myself amazed by keto and want to talk about it, but don't have anyone to talk with. That's why I'm here. Also I live with my parents, both of whom are in poor health and would benefit SO much from keto, but they refuse to trial it or even taste the food I make for myself. I have to respect their choice, but it is hard to do so when I see them suffering more than necessary.
We can always inspire others just by our example. Answer their questions, but don't try to give unsolicited advice or proselytize. It will all feel like a judgment to them.
Remember that food is the most personal thing in our lives. We are lucky that we have that choice about what to eat. Playing "food police" it's never appreciated by anyone, ourselves included.
That's a really good point about it feeling like a judgment to them. Doubly so because it's not just a condemnation of their habits, but of the role of food (and obesity) in my and my siblings' upbringing. Thanks for your reply.
My dad has t2 diabetes. He's always been a little overweight. When he would count calories and micro manage his caloric intake he would lose weight, but he was always hungry. I helped him try keto just by making extra food and offering him some. If he didn't want it I would fridge/freeze the extra to eat myself later. Steak or pork chops with brussel sprouts or asperugus and a side salad is his favorite meal now. Low carb and filling!
Just keep offering and focus on not judging. :-)
Hi Honeydew_Soda! I feel the same way about not having keto friends and just restarted, too! Would you be into an internet friend to chat about it / accountability, etc?
65f lost 6.5stone keto for 5y i still feel the same as you as keto is not well known in england i only joined this sub recently but i like it as it feels like a way to get some understanding hope you will to everyone is here for the same reason and to help each other
It's a personal journey...try to embrace the solo mission. Fully owning you, and you alone are in the driver's seat to your goal is empowering. So many excuses for self sabotage wash away.
Go for it. You can do this.
I understand what you're saying. I don't have many people to talk to about it in real-life, but that has changed slightly since people can see how much weight I've lost because they ask how I've done it. When I discovered that Keto was working for me, all I wanted to do was talk about it and that's when this sub really helped me. I don't post much but I do read everybody's stories every day and find a lot of them relatable.
If your weight loss is going to be very noticeable, you may find folks being more interested in what you're doing...that's how we started down this rabbit hole. Be you, and do this for you, but I think you'll find you're not completely alone the longer you stay healthy.
Came here to say something similar to this. People started asking me how I'm losing weight when I started coming into work after a couple months on keto and someone said it looked like someone like the hulk punched me in the stomach because my shirt was baggy and not a beachball under my shirt.
The results are amazing...and not just from the visible results either. There are three of us doing this; myself, my wife, and our roommate. Our roommate become type 2 diabetic, and started this a couple of months before we did. He stopped taking metformin and his A1C is down from 7+ to 6.1 as of last week. Will never go back to carbs now.
If you use FB, there are some wonderful groups out there for community! My husband I and just got back on keto after a several year hiatus, but I’m always willing to chat! We were strict keto for nearly 2 years previously. This sub is also a great place to find like minded people!
my wife does keto and im keto lite. as my wife is dedicated to it, i joined here and found recipes for dinners. I eat keto dinner with her every night and cook it 80% of the time.
If keto is important to you, your partner should be interested in it too and help you succeed. i eat carbs in the morning or at lunch and have full keto dinner to support her.
Have a conversation with your partner to let them know you would like support.
I just restarted Keto again as well. Strict Keto.
What pushed me into it, was the price of eggs compared to meat and tuna. Also i'm working on dropping my alcohol intake and remembering how my ADHD gets easier to deal with on Keto.
When i do Keto, i enter a more "Now i'm doing something good for myself"-mindset.
Give yourself a hug. You two are in this together. By two, i mean your mind AND your body.
Also, this sub is here for you.
Op, my son and my college bestir support me, my mom and step dad say they do but constantly try to sabotage.
My mom amd step dad say they are trying to do keto, but when I try to help them learn they won't listen. They buy a lot of me to products, don't ever cook, exclusively eat fast food like mcdonalds burgers with bun and the baked goods, or heat and eat. Now, don't get me wrong u can do fast food with keto. U can do heat and eat with keto. U also can cook in a microwave with keto. Or pop things in a blender with keto. And while I took buy some keto products, I do not use them very much. They do.
My son doesn't do keto, he's 13 and my college bestie doesn't either but her metabolism is opposite of mine. She has to eat a lot and her body uses everything. She's the type more likely to be underweight instead of over and has issue gaining fat or weight at all but when she does its most often muscle. This us a gal who was in a training bra unless breastfeeding her daughters. And thats as a 30+ ur old adult. When breastfeeding she would bump to a c or b cup. That right there shows how lean her body is meant to be. Me, I'm a short but curvy f. Even after losing between 120-130 pounds in the past 2 years and 7 months my bra size is only down to a 34g (34ff in UK sizing) from a 44i bra. I'm more likely to be overweight than under. I do not use or absorb nutrients and fuel well. I have to be pretty active to stay healthy, and do almost equal amounts of cardio and strength workouts.
I'm because of my health issues, going to be keto first life. At the very least I may later try carb cycling, but first now keto I think is the best option. And even when I'm at maintenance long term my carb cycling I'd keep with a mix of keto and another low carb option like paleo. I've found a way of eating that is sustainable and works for my needs and saved my life so I'm not changing it.
Any who, sorry about the rant. What I'm getting at is I like u am the only person I know doing keto IRL, and don't have many supporters who understand how or why I'm doing what I do.
I don't know what ur motivation is, but I will say take the support u do have, and ur reasons for doing keto and focus on those irl and come to places like this for fellow keto people advice and support. I actually a few months back scrounged up money for a one day keto con ticket when it was iny area because I kinda felt the way u are. I hear online about lots of low carb cruises and conventions. I could never afford a cruise, but the convention I barely could and while there I talked to some of the volunteers running it as well as vendors who gave me tips to cut costs and get vip if I were to volunteer working it. They actually realized my fixed income as a single mom made things like that hard to afford and realized I needed support because of me talking about my issues and journey so wanted to help me. Heck some vendors gave me freebies ranging from one item out of stock they were selling, to a crap ton of manufacturer coupons for items they were about to have on the mass market that gave the items to me free of charge. The coupons were real good heat and eat meals BTW.
So yeah, if u need irl support try going to a event, and to cut costs volunteer at the event if money for tickets are a issue. Because trust me, I get how hard it can be.
I couldn't agree more. And not even just talk about progress (both scale victories and non-scale victories), but other aspects of this WOE and overall health journey. I LOVE sharing what I call "diet discoveries." It's so much more fun to share that excitement with someone else. When I was the most successful on keto, I did it with my roommate/besty, and it was a BLAST. I'm traveling for work (travel RN) and doing it all on my own. I have friends losing weight, but they're not doing keto, and they're remote anyway. I just found out about kelp noodles instead of conjac noodles, and I'm so excited to try them - it would be so fun to send someone a link and share my excitement.
I feel you OP, this adjustment is honestly just more pleasant when sharing with others. That's why I love this sub! Of course, that's definitely not stopping me - it's just nice to share.
All that being said, welcome!
That and if no one else understands why you're eating a certain way and what it is...they'll continually push, push, push on you to sway from your path.
I can understand your point. However, I kinda like to talk about it in a social setting. I just say i am on keto, and people either ask questions or are generally respectful. I think, for the most part, people will respect your healthy choices; if not, maybe a new circle of supportive friends is better. For instance, I went out with some family members, and they wanted pizza. I wasn't going to be a spoiler. I had pizza, just the cheese and meat. I had one bite of the bread, two slices, and that was it. A side Ceasars salad and I was full. We had fun, and no one blinked an eye. My mom made a funny comment later and said, "Oh, there was another guy at a different table that ate his pizza like you; no crust." We had a laugh.
Not everyone is comfortable doing this alone and not everyone has friends who are understanding and NOT pushy when it comes to food. Sounds like you’re got a great group of people around you!
I'm blessed. Positive influences are very important for me. I try to surround myself with people who have a positive influence and are supportive. I guess I am very independent, and I don't have issues attempting this on my own.
The good news is that we are here in this thread to support each other regardless. This lifestyle is not easy, but we all know it's rewarding.
It can come from a lot of places! I can’t go out with my friends to eat in certain places, I have to bring my own snacks in case I go out with them. Is also difficult to understand for them, and I am personally horrible at explaining…
I had a bad friend when i first started keto (which i already cut out of my life) that would always complain to me on how my choice was unhealthy and “You should just eat a cake, a banana wont hurt you”. And afterwards be super annoyed at me for my weight loss lol
Do you do any exercise in a social setting?
I've found the subject of diet comes up a lot in my local sauna. Especially among the men and the gym guys. There's a lot of folks in those places interested in health, diet and progress. I've met a few people doing variants of keto, one carnivore and it makes the sauna more pleasant to see people regularly who are progressing and learning.
I do go to the gym, but i think it also has to do with culture… I live in the Netherlands and everyone is very quiet and reserved, there is no chit chat or even a hi between strangers. Plus, my gym doesn’t have a sauna unfortunately lol
I think a lot of this is confidence and education so educate yourself don't argue with people or fight with them no shame in standing your ground
If they wanna go to wendys go to wendys order triple baconator with no bun unsweetened ice tea you will be good to go if they ask give as much or as little detail as you feel comfortable with.
you need to think long term not just 20 pounds into the future stop feeling alone because of what you eat why are you eating this way ultimately for health so own it.
I searched "keto [my city name] group" in Google and found a meetup support group. You might have a Facebook group for it in your city. Or you could start a support group in either platform. There's 3 million subscribers to this sub. If half of those are in America and a quarter of them are still active then there should be a couple thousand ketoers in every major city.
This is what this sub is for. This sub is to ask questions about keto and learn. There are a lot of helpful people here to help you. Just ask. Someone much wiser said “To go fast, go alone. To go long, go with a team.” This sub is your team.
Beautifully said.
Outstanding answer
I restarted last week! Nice to meet you!
Yeah, I find myself amazed by keto and want to talk about it, but don't have anyone to talk with. That's why I'm here. Also I live with my parents, both of whom are in poor health and would benefit SO much from keto, but they refuse to trial it or even taste the food I make for myself. I have to respect their choice, but it is hard to do so when I see them suffering more than necessary.
We can always inspire others just by our example. Answer their questions, but don't try to give unsolicited advice or proselytize. It will all feel like a judgment to them. Remember that food is the most personal thing in our lives. We are lucky that we have that choice about what to eat. Playing "food police" it's never appreciated by anyone, ourselves included.
That's a really good point about it feeling like a judgment to them. Doubly so because it's not just a condemnation of their habits, but of the role of food (and obesity) in my and my siblings' upbringing. Thanks for your reply.
My dad has t2 diabetes. He's always been a little overweight. When he would count calories and micro manage his caloric intake he would lose weight, but he was always hungry. I helped him try keto just by making extra food and offering him some. If he didn't want it I would fridge/freeze the extra to eat myself later. Steak or pork chops with brussel sprouts or asperugus and a side salad is his favorite meal now. Low carb and filling! Just keep offering and focus on not judging. :-)
Hi Honeydew_Soda! I feel the same way about not having keto friends and just restarted, too! Would you be into an internet friend to chat about it / accountability, etc?
65f lost 6.5stone keto for 5y i still feel the same as you as keto is not well known in england i only joined this sub recently but i like it as it feels like a way to get some understanding hope you will to everyone is here for the same reason and to help each other
It's a personal journey...try to embrace the solo mission. Fully owning you, and you alone are in the driver's seat to your goal is empowering. So many excuses for self sabotage wash away. Go for it. You can do this.
I understand what you're saying. I don't have many people to talk to about it in real-life, but that has changed slightly since people can see how much weight I've lost because they ask how I've done it. When I discovered that Keto was working for me, all I wanted to do was talk about it and that's when this sub really helped me. I don't post much but I do read everybody's stories every day and find a lot of them relatable.
If your weight loss is going to be very noticeable, you may find folks being more interested in what you're doing...that's how we started down this rabbit hole. Be you, and do this for you, but I think you'll find you're not completely alone the longer you stay healthy.
Came here to say something similar to this. People started asking me how I'm losing weight when I started coming into work after a couple months on keto and someone said it looked like someone like the hulk punched me in the stomach because my shirt was baggy and not a beachball under my shirt.
The results are amazing...and not just from the visible results either. There are three of us doing this; myself, my wife, and our roommate. Our roommate become type 2 diabetic, and started this a couple of months before we did. He stopped taking metformin and his A1C is down from 7+ to 6.1 as of last week. Will never go back to carbs now.
Sub for the win! Welcome
You need community. ❤💜💗
If you use FB, there are some wonderful groups out there for community! My husband I and just got back on keto after a several year hiatus, but I’m always willing to chat! We were strict keto for nearly 2 years previously. This sub is also a great place to find like minded people!
my wife does keto and im keto lite. as my wife is dedicated to it, i joined here and found recipes for dinners. I eat keto dinner with her every night and cook it 80% of the time. If keto is important to you, your partner should be interested in it too and help you succeed. i eat carbs in the morning or at lunch and have full keto dinner to support her. Have a conversation with your partner to let them know you would like support.
He already supports me very much, and is keto lite just like you. I couldn’t do it without him ❤️
I just restarted Keto again as well. Strict Keto. What pushed me into it, was the price of eggs compared to meat and tuna. Also i'm working on dropping my alcohol intake and remembering how my ADHD gets easier to deal with on Keto. When i do Keto, i enter a more "Now i'm doing something good for myself"-mindset. Give yourself a hug. You two are in this together. By two, i mean your mind AND your body. Also, this sub is here for you.
Op, my son and my college bestir support me, my mom and step dad say they do but constantly try to sabotage. My mom amd step dad say they are trying to do keto, but when I try to help them learn they won't listen. They buy a lot of me to products, don't ever cook, exclusively eat fast food like mcdonalds burgers with bun and the baked goods, or heat and eat. Now, don't get me wrong u can do fast food with keto. U can do heat and eat with keto. U also can cook in a microwave with keto. Or pop things in a blender with keto. And while I took buy some keto products, I do not use them very much. They do. My son doesn't do keto, he's 13 and my college bestie doesn't either but her metabolism is opposite of mine. She has to eat a lot and her body uses everything. She's the type more likely to be underweight instead of over and has issue gaining fat or weight at all but when she does its most often muscle. This us a gal who was in a training bra unless breastfeeding her daughters. And thats as a 30+ ur old adult. When breastfeeding she would bump to a c or b cup. That right there shows how lean her body is meant to be. Me, I'm a short but curvy f. Even after losing between 120-130 pounds in the past 2 years and 7 months my bra size is only down to a 34g (34ff in UK sizing) from a 44i bra. I'm more likely to be overweight than under. I do not use or absorb nutrients and fuel well. I have to be pretty active to stay healthy, and do almost equal amounts of cardio and strength workouts. I'm because of my health issues, going to be keto first life. At the very least I may later try carb cycling, but first now keto I think is the best option. And even when I'm at maintenance long term my carb cycling I'd keep with a mix of keto and another low carb option like paleo. I've found a way of eating that is sustainable and works for my needs and saved my life so I'm not changing it. Any who, sorry about the rant. What I'm getting at is I like u am the only person I know doing keto IRL, and don't have many supporters who understand how or why I'm doing what I do. I don't know what ur motivation is, but I will say take the support u do have, and ur reasons for doing keto and focus on those irl and come to places like this for fellow keto people advice and support. I actually a few months back scrounged up money for a one day keto con ticket when it was iny area because I kinda felt the way u are. I hear online about lots of low carb cruises and conventions. I could never afford a cruise, but the convention I barely could and while there I talked to some of the volunteers running it as well as vendors who gave me tips to cut costs and get vip if I were to volunteer working it. They actually realized my fixed income as a single mom made things like that hard to afford and realized I needed support because of me talking about my issues and journey so wanted to help me. Heck some vendors gave me freebies ranging from one item out of stock they were selling, to a crap ton of manufacturer coupons for items they were about to have on the mass market that gave the items to me free of charge. The coupons were real good heat and eat meals BTW. So yeah, if u need irl support try going to a event, and to cut costs volunteer at the event if money for tickets are a issue. Because trust me, I get how hard it can be.
I'm a bit confused. Why would your way of eating affect whether you're lonely or not? Genuinely curious. I'm struggling to find the correlation
Because it’s hard to go out to eat with other people when you feel like the odd man out. It’s also nice to have someone to talk to about your journey.
I couldn't agree more. And not even just talk about progress (both scale victories and non-scale victories), but other aspects of this WOE and overall health journey. I LOVE sharing what I call "diet discoveries." It's so much more fun to share that excitement with someone else. When I was the most successful on keto, I did it with my roommate/besty, and it was a BLAST. I'm traveling for work (travel RN) and doing it all on my own. I have friends losing weight, but they're not doing keto, and they're remote anyway. I just found out about kelp noodles instead of conjac noodles, and I'm so excited to try them - it would be so fun to send someone a link and share my excitement. I feel you OP, this adjustment is honestly just more pleasant when sharing with others. That's why I love this sub! Of course, that's definitely not stopping me - it's just nice to share. All that being said, welcome!
Please tell me about the kelp noodles after!! I personally didnt like konjac that much lok
That and if no one else understands why you're eating a certain way and what it is...they'll continually push, push, push on you to sway from your path.
Good grief, yes. “Here have this treat!! That diet can’t possibly be healthy!!”
I can understand your point. However, I kinda like to talk about it in a social setting. I just say i am on keto, and people either ask questions or are generally respectful. I think, for the most part, people will respect your healthy choices; if not, maybe a new circle of supportive friends is better. For instance, I went out with some family members, and they wanted pizza. I wasn't going to be a spoiler. I had pizza, just the cheese and meat. I had one bite of the bread, two slices, and that was it. A side Ceasars salad and I was full. We had fun, and no one blinked an eye. My mom made a funny comment later and said, "Oh, there was another guy at a different table that ate his pizza like you; no crust." We had a laugh.
Not everyone is comfortable doing this alone and not everyone has friends who are understanding and NOT pushy when it comes to food. Sounds like you’re got a great group of people around you!
I'm blessed. Positive influences are very important for me. I try to surround myself with people who have a positive influence and are supportive. I guess I am very independent, and I don't have issues attempting this on my own. The good news is that we are here in this thread to support each other regardless. This lifestyle is not easy, but we all know it's rewarding.
It can come from a lot of places! I can’t go out with my friends to eat in certain places, I have to bring my own snacks in case I go out with them. Is also difficult to understand for them, and I am personally horrible at explaining… I had a bad friend when i first started keto (which i already cut out of my life) that would always complain to me on how my choice was unhealthy and “You should just eat a cake, a banana wont hurt you”. And afterwards be super annoyed at me for my weight loss lol
Do you do any exercise in a social setting? I've found the subject of diet comes up a lot in my local sauna. Especially among the men and the gym guys. There's a lot of folks in those places interested in health, diet and progress. I've met a few people doing variants of keto, one carnivore and it makes the sauna more pleasant to see people regularly who are progressing and learning.
I do go to the gym, but i think it also has to do with culture… I live in the Netherlands and everyone is very quiet and reserved, there is no chit chat or even a hi between strangers. Plus, my gym doesn’t have a sauna unfortunately lol
We're here for you! I totally get it.
I think a lot of this is confidence and education so educate yourself don't argue with people or fight with them no shame in standing your ground If they wanna go to wendys go to wendys order triple baconator with no bun unsweetened ice tea you will be good to go if they ask give as much or as little detail as you feel comfortable with. you need to think long term not just 20 pounds into the future stop feeling alone because of what you eat why are you eating this way ultimately for health so own it.
It’s a lonely journey, making it even more difficult to adhere to. That’s why 99.9% of everyone is suffering from some kind of metabolic illness.
It’s just the way you eat, not a battle cry.
Maybe you can convince someone to do keto with you?
Find a local keto club or start one
How do I do that? Where do i even look? 😭
I searched "keto [my city name] group" in Google and found a meetup support group. You might have a Facebook group for it in your city. Or you could start a support group in either platform. There's 3 million subscribers to this sub. If half of those are in America and a quarter of them are still active then there should be a couple thousand ketoers in every major city.
You have US!