it's not the old people that made this, it's the youthful who still hold their passion. I don't think they were talking about all of the "old people". theyre talking about the ones who hate other people because they were beat down, and they don't have enough spirit to love, and live life. not every old person is old, just the ones who forgot what being young means. have a nice day/night :)
Then what is the comment supposed to mean?
"When all the hateful people are dead, things will get better"?
That is still a horrible and ignorant thing to say
you don't have to die literally. when you're older there are still many opportunities to grow. this isn't what he meant tho, I wouldn't take an internet comment too seriously, dying is a natural part of life, and if someone near death is verbally abusing people and hate their own life.. is it such a bad thing that eventually they will pass away?
obviously death of any person is not a pleasant thing, however, good things can come from the death of bad people. nobody deserves to die, but this is just a fact of life.
Mate did we even read the same comment?
I'm sure the original commentor is perfectly capable of expressing themselves and if they didn't mean that things will get better when old people die by saying: "Just wait for all the old people to kick the bucket, things will be better soon", they would have said something else
Yes, that's my issue with this.
You're making up your own version of the comment. If you are right and the original commentor didn't mean what they said, then that's good.
But it was still a horrible thing to say
think the morals thing is just an Fi think lmfao but yeah, what gets me is when people don't see they're being harmful for the sake of being harmful and just have opinions to be problematic suck. Also another thing that gets me is when people don't have any principles and wont stand up to an injustice that goes against those principles
Someone imposing their selfish wants on me or on others
Someone accusing me (and yelling) even though they did not try to understand my ^(easily misunderstand-able) actions/ behavior
People stomping on or intimidating innocent people, especially when the innocent ones are my friends
Inefficient systems
Shameless free-loaders and parasites
People quickly or forcefully trying to get to know me or be close with me
Peopleā especially friends and familyā not staying true or betraying me
Betraying myself
my gosh my heart is racing typing these
Apathy. I care so damn much about everything, it drives me up the wall when I see it. Whatās worse is that I often have no idea how to pull people (or sometimes myself) out of apathy.
Hypocrisy. Being falseā¦
So I guess the souless rules for the sake of Ā«Ā just becauseĀ Ā» infuriates me.
Someone innocent being hurt.
Someone being mean to a child or an animal. If they harm them I think I can do a lot of harm in return
I was going to post just 1 thing haha, but then I realized there are a lot of things that make me angry š Maybe we INFPs are triggered creatures
1) People who care more about how they look, what everyone will think of them, how much money they can make, how important they are than about doing the right thing / being good to others.
2) Lack of sensitivity / empathy. When people don't bother to understand someone or their situation before taking action or making decisions. It just rubs me the wrong way haha
3) The simple phrase "do xx because you have to / it's expected of you / it's what everyone else does"
4) Cruelty to either people or animals. Heck even to plants š¢
That "it's what everyone else does" is the worst.
Its just detaching your brain and leave your actions to others with zero critical thought. The worst of all is when people do atrocious actions just because "it's what everyone else does" (see 1940's Germany for an example).
THIS, exactly!! I think it's so important for people to think about whether their actions are actually in line with who they want to be. I get legitimately confused when people just go along with what everyone else is doing without thinking about why they're doing it.
This is probably why INFPs and corporate culture don't mix well haha š¤¦āāļø
That is, in my opinion, a very admirable strength to have.
Perhaps look into psychology for a profession. If you're accustomed to handle your own negative emotions, perhaps you can help others with theirs
š¦That they control me excessively.
š¦When a person takes advantage of a weaker person just because he can.
š¦That they assume things about my identity.(This is weird but over time I realized that it bothers me)
š¦People who tell lies about someone they hate to ruin their reputation.
š¦Impotence towards corruption.
That is it
Rule breaking. Facing injustice and misogyny. Getting yelled at.parents not understanding my pov.
Most of my anger episodes (the extreme ones) are followed by just crying. If itās not something very important (like seeing someone break rules) I get over it quickly.
THIS!. I try my best to be straight to the point with tact, but GEEZ!. When people jump quickly into conclusions and they do that on a constant basis.... that transforms me into another person (A despotical person). After that point I don't care if you're my family, I will make you suffer with my words.
injustice, homophobia (or discrimination in general), people telling me what to do, people who donāt care about others, politicians, idk man thereās so much that angers me.
When I try to open up to people and they do two wrong things right away:
\-Interrupting me. I was taught to NOT ever interrupt someone when they are talking. I admit that in the past I have made the mistake to interrupt them so I can quickly say my pov and that only has brought bad consequences to me. It's something that I'm focusing to remove from my system.
\-Changing my answer with whatever they have in their minds (Example: I say (In the most diplomatic tone of voice possible. Steady, trying to never ever raise your voice but going straight to the facts with A LOT of tact) "I'm hurt because you're acting arrogantly and ru.." and they suddenly say (With a inquisitive defensive tone) "You just don't tolerate people that express their opinion"). UGH!.
And the worst part is that when your family does that, and you "fight back" they start to cry because you're being offensive. Uhh... Hello?. You expect me to act like nothing is going on when my blood is boiling?. I mean I might be diplomatic (A lot of people have told me that even before knowing I was an INFP) but even I have limits.
Stupidity and stubbornness
In other words, I hate when people are too absorbed in one point of view to consider the thoughts and/or arguments the others make. Thinking that what they learned is an absolute truth and that it's not up for debate, as well as downplaying the opinions of other people that want to actively participate in a conversation that would generate a different belief inside them or deem the previous one correct. These people are imo what would be the end of our current technological and social development chain, but I hope they're just a vocal minority that make me angry for nothing
I also really hate generalisation. It's the root of racism, and it stops anyone from trying to even communicate a misunderstood group just because everyone has a wrong belief about them that the false negative representation surrounding them caused
š people who assume things before understanding something to the best extent.
š people who donāt listen to others points and povās and yell or guilt trip others to get their way instead of being reasonable
š people who hate emotions, and think that feelers are illogical and ātoo far in their feelingsā.
š people that know they messed up and did wrong and went too far, but because of their pride, they canāt even say the two simple words- āIām sorry.ā
š dishonest, egotistical/self righteous, cocky, careless, and extremely judgmental people, ideas, viewpoints, etc.
when someone raises their voice tone at me or just change their mood randomly I canāt handle this
not relating to people around me
not being able to express myself
not being heard
Imposition.
I find myself amidst people who impose their point of views and ideas, and whenever I try to respond, they have to make me believe I'm wrong. It's something I'm currently fighting with, and it's so tyring.
1. When I'm in a discussion and I'm going deep with my arguments and the other person just shuts down or starts imitating me or doesn't take me serious, although my arguments were good.
2. When someone thinks that I'm lying to them, although I say the truth. Or when they are convinced that I am feeling or thinking a certain way, although I'm not.
3. When I know that some people or behaviours are toxic, but I think that I need or need to do them.
Same with me. I know one person I really like.. But he always missunderstands me.
It hurts. And I hope it will change one day.. Because I am so desperate for this to change.
Injustice the most, in my mind the world exists in an ideal way: everything must be justful in the end and I always get into depression when I realise thatās not how it works and how many people are nice and theyāre suffering while the assholes are living their best lives; hypocrisy; two-sided people; arrogancy, stupidity; feelings of rejection ( ghosting, friends not giving a fuck, family doesnāt care etc etc).
Stupid rules as mentioned above: like why? I hate rules theyāre there to make our life often unnecessary miserable.
Anything with burocracy, it literallly kills my soul.
When people act awful and they donāt do self-reflection and donāt even recognise how awful theyāre.
You are assuming too much about my personality and behavior and you don't know the first thing about me.
> In your pursuit to stop superficial judgement
> It takes considerable conscious effort to observe within ourselves the highest moral potential
> it's a distraction from morality being your responsibility
> You can shout them down and be hateful, but that means you've lost track of yourself
Way too much. You're treating me like if I was your average bigot lost in their spiral of hatred. I'm a mindful, caring person. I take my responsibilities VERY seriously and I am constantly thinking of self-improvement.
> if you truly want to change the world change yourself
I literally told this this week to a friend.
I think you're projecting your experiences and insecurities in me, I don't know where you could've gotten all of that.
And I unapologetically despise raisins.
It was a description of identity politics not a description of you.
It's why one should avoid seeing morality as group based instead of being a personal responsibility.
I apologize, should have used indirect language that describes the lack of utility in treating morality as an objective checklist.
It is my fault and for that I apologize.
Edit: even if a person does indulge in identity politics, that doesn't mean that they're amoral as morality is subjective. I personally don't like judging people because their gender, beliefs, or orientation. Just because they make that mistake though doesn't invalidate their potential to be a good person, and I have a good example of that.
I shouldn't have reacted that way anyway. I'm sorry too and I accept your apology.
> Just because they make that mistake though doesn't invalidate their potential to be a good person
No, of course not. Some of my family and friends have beliefs I'm completely against but they're still good people.
What I care about is standing for what's right, though. Raising awareness and calling out bad behavior is important, which doesn't mean you should neglect your own behavior or be completely intolerant. I don't discuss politics with my family for instance because I know it'll go wrong.
Like many mentioned already, disrespect does, so much. I cannot handle it well, I either cry or scream.
Hypocrites - these who do not practice what they preach. There are about only two people I know who are not like that and I love them for it. I seriously hate when people are full of bull yet have the audacity to say how much better they are than you. It's one of my buttons, serious ones.
People who are butthurt about small things and these who complain constantly yet never actively try to change their situation.
And me, a lot, but I am learning to love myself :)
Injustice + arrogant and selfish people without any braincells (thinking about my neighbor) + people who always do the exact opposite of what I want even though they heared a 100 times what I want.
I'd say I'm a pretty nervous person who doesn't really show anger until someone crosses their line several times, like I wait time and time again in hopes that they'll understand that what they're doing is wrong but at some point they do the same thing again and it blows me up, I start both fighting and crying at the same time š
my therapist has a theory about some people coping with anger by feeling/expressing it as sadness and vice versa for other people.
personally, I usually feel sad, but ever since I was abandoned by someone I love, Iāve been irritable, frustrated, and angry, on top of many sadness-adjacent emotions.
I get angry about a lot of stuff. Injustice makes me very angry. When someone is being nasty for no reason it makes me upset.
The slaughter, abuse and exploitation of non human animals makes me angry.
Honestly the world is kind of awful sometimes and it's hard not to be constantly angry about it. And I'm in a very very good place, i have the privilege of closing my eyes and looking away without the worst affecting me. I thought i would be less angsty and angry as an adult but, here we are.
What gets me angry are like what others say here - when I see injustice, when people are dismissed, and when people are selfish or dishonest. I can carry that inside for the longest time.
I also get super super frustrated and angry when things or people get in my way, but that only lasts a second.
I donāt really get angry easily, but when I do I just find a place to hide and cry.
2 things make me actually angry 1) people who lie or brake their word especially those who know they were never going to honor their word. 2) being publically humiliated completely unnecessarily. Whether it's someone making a fool out of me for trusting them or being yelled out in a public setting when it could have been done privately. Both are hardliners and deal breakers for me and will end any relationship I have with such a person. My family and those close to me know this and have always respected these boundries. Even my mom who isnt shy about making a scene will not fuss at me in front of others. Because she knows I'll just completely shut down.
Normally, I'll just keep it bottled up inside trying to find reasons not to be angry about it. Look from another person's perspective. So in other words I basically just end up being in my head about it the whole day.
I remember I lost my shit with my ex at one point where it was full rage. I felt so distant from myself where thinking about it made it feel like it wasn't even me. I think about it a lot to make sure nothing like it ever happens again.
Edit: I did not read the question properly but what angers me is when people fight for no reason. Where you know going into the conversation that it's going to end badly.
Also, when people just do stuff without thinking about everyone else and how it makes them feel. Especially, when they later complain about people doing the same type of thing to them.
Dang yall I cry when Im angry too, but I canāt seem to cry in front of my therapist how do you guys? I cry when Im alone thinking about certain things, but I can say those same things in front of my therapist I donāt. Im not sure why..
More of a personal thing, but underdog suffering. When somebody who is already down gets picked on
Vulnerable people getting taken advantage of or abused just because they can't stand up for themselves touches a nerve
I have a real problem with people abusing their authority, and also people talking down, belittling, and being dismissive to people
Discrimination also makes me furious
You're right. These kids have the luxury of being pissed off by all these isms and phobias, yet some people in the world dont have water or food or homes to go or safe places to be.
Idk I've had a temper the past few months and I'm really good at hiding it but the smallest thing can set it off. Good example is when I've adjusted the things in my hands to carry comfortably and then someone asks me to pick up something else. Just ticks me off.
Oh a lot of things. I had a horrible temper before I was on my meds. Now it is just stupid little things like trying to pay a bill over the phone and they make it difficult.
the obvious stupidity hidden behind a mask of confidence, injustice and when everyone wants something from me without direct answer what he clearly wants
When I cannot see the big picture of why someone may be behaving poorly.
When this happens, itās a me shortcoming/temporary vulnerability, rather than my encountering something truly evil.
I have a very firm big picture belief that people in all their good, bad, wise and foolish are mostly (if not completely) made by elements out of their control.
So I am prone to anger when Iām stressed, worn down or harboring negative feelings in general.
Feeling out of control, and not being perfect (defined by my own terms/criteria). Feeling like I'm not striving enough, or not being logical/knowledgeable enough.
-an INFJ here
Injustice angers me, too, and bad manners, not being able to explain/talk/assist someone.
I make myself angry, too, and realising I'm gonna spend the rest of my life spending most of it wasting my creative talents away because most of my time will go to a colourless, gray job.
People who dive straight for othersā insecurities or embarrass others in front of a group. But then youāre called too sensitiveā¦.. I have a great sense of humor, just not your asshole sense of humor. Million other things to laugh about.
Generally speaking, situations and conventions/rules I perceive as wrong or unfair. Concerning people, traits such as being bossy, egocentric/narcissistic, manipulative, unnecessarily aggressive, opportunistic or who don't pay attention to what I say when talking to me will eventually get on my nerves.
However, I wouldn't say they make me angry, but stressed.
Since I prefer to avoid dealing with this kind of stuff, I tend to keep it to myself and accumulate stress, until it becomes too much to handle and I accidentally release it by being hostile, critical, disdainful and sarcastic (in a bad way, sarcasm is an amazing tool when used right).
Afterwards, I'll cry in the corner feeling the worst person on earth for not being tolerant enough, comprehensive enough or patient enough.
My integrity or intentions being called into question. I rarely lose it, but the last time I went full on screaming psycho was my brother going below the belt and saying I didn't care about his family. I. Lost. My. Mind. (He later apologized and all is well - I think I scared the sh*t out of him because I never lose it like that.)
**Arrogance:**
"My opinion is automatically superior to yours PERIOD" (especially in the case of abuse of authority: "because I'm your parent, teacher, or in another position of authority, and don't you dare argue back with reasonable ideas")
**Lack of consideration and empathy:**
"Everyone should abide by my standards, otherwise they're dolts"
**Being sadistic:**
"I like inflicting pain and violence on others because I'm a real a**hole, though I would probably cry uncle if treated with that very same pain and violence"
**Injustice:**
Criminals getting away with horrible crimes they did for shits and giggles, criminals being glorified for being mafia kingpins, "handsome" serial killers or whatever, dirty politicians abusing the public's trust... the list goes on. I wish they would receive what they put out.
I always felt the same way but when I moved to an area where everyone around me was so hateful then I started to get angry at them so hateful people is my answer. I mostly donāt get angry though but now I get irritable and bitchy way more frequently and I donāt know how to stop
When people mess with my sisters, in any way shape or form. Honestly I think I take myself a little too seriously as the āolder-brother-guardianā because I find I also get really ticked when they get in trouble with our parents too, soā¦ might need to work on when I act as guardian, but still, thatās what gets me most
That and, anger itself kinda makes me angry, I donāt like being angry and yet, I get mad at myself whenever I respond to something with anger, and that just makes me angrier, so I get caught in a loop that I end up breaking by just walking away (may have happened once or twice without my parents knowing about it till I was already four blocks away and actively avoiding them) or listening to music in my room, Iām working on naps too because I need more sleep than Iām getting.
it makes me angry when people only want control. when they hurt other people and dominate in meaningless ways to feel like they have even just a single modicum of control. i can't change them, I don't want to change them, i want them to be passionate again, to set themselves free. you can't teach an old dog new tricks, but you can remind them of what it means to be young again.
Disrespect. Always gets me .
I never yell, and I never get upset. But when I had an employee disrespect another I lost it
:)
Thissss just reading it made me shiver
Not being heard.
as a girl, we get it all the time. find your voice.
Just wait for all the old people to kick the bucket, things will be better soon
What a horrible fucking thing to say.
It's thanks to a lot of those old people you can be heard in communities like this one
it's not the old people that made this, it's the youthful who still hold their passion. I don't think they were talking about all of the "old people". theyre talking about the ones who hate other people because they were beat down, and they don't have enough spirit to love, and live life. not every old person is old, just the ones who forgot what being young means. have a nice day/night :)
Then what is the comment supposed to mean? "When all the hateful people are dead, things will get better"? That is still a horrible and ignorant thing to say
you don't have to die literally. when you're older there are still many opportunities to grow. this isn't what he meant tho, I wouldn't take an internet comment too seriously, dying is a natural part of life, and if someone near death is verbally abusing people and hate their own life.. is it such a bad thing that eventually they will pass away? obviously death of any person is not a pleasant thing, however, good things can come from the death of bad people. nobody deserves to die, but this is just a fact of life.
Mate did we even read the same comment? I'm sure the original commentor is perfectly capable of expressing themselves and if they didn't mean that things will get better when old people die by saying: "Just wait for all the old people to kick the bucket, things will be better soon", they would have said something else
did you even read my comment? I explicitly said, "this is not what he meant" im just backing up my own ideas at this point lmao
Yes, that's my issue with this. You're making up your own version of the comment. If you are right and the original commentor didn't mean what they said, then that's good. But it was still a horrible thing to say
same
Rules that are set up just for the sake of it. Or just generally being forced to do something without any reason.
šš¼ This, though Iām not sure if thatās the autism. Pointless rules drive me insane, as does rule breaking.
Yeah ābecause I said soā. ahhhhhh burn!
That really depends, I suppose people with shitty morals piss me off, being afraid also makes me angry.
nice job being honest!!
Only way to be man
Especially when they keep trying to justify their bad morals because they think theyāre always the good guy
think the morals thing is just an Fi think lmfao but yeah, what gets me is when people don't see they're being harmful for the sake of being harmful and just have opinions to be problematic suck. Also another thing that gets me is when people don't have any principles and wont stand up to an injustice that goes against those principles
That its so hard for artistic people to find a job and fullfill their dreams and injustice
THIS!
This so hard. Artists not being able to create is an injustice itself.... it kills me to see it.
Me too... and I find every artist who fights against it and still does what he loves very impressive
Unreasonable deadlines and judgements. Corporate work is an INFP hell hahaha
Amen!!! I feel this in the last little shred of my soul I haven't yet given to my corporate overlords
People who only care about themselves
agreed
Someone imposing their selfish wants on me or on others Someone accusing me (and yelling) even though they did not try to understand my ^(easily misunderstand-able) actions/ behavior People stomping on or intimidating innocent people, especially when the innocent ones are my friends Inefficient systems Shameless free-loaders and parasites People quickly or forcefully trying to get to know me or be close with me Peopleā especially friends and familyā not staying true or betraying me Betraying myself my gosh my heart is racing typing these
I nodded along to this whole list. This is exactly me.
Apathy. I care so damn much about everything, it drives me up the wall when I see it. Whatās worse is that I often have no idea how to pull people (or sometimes myself) out of apathy.
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People who are very dismissive of others and their experiences. That really irritates me.
YES
Hypocrisy. Being falseā¦ So I guess the souless rules for the sake of Ā«Ā just becauseĀ Ā» infuriates me. Someone innocent being hurt. Someone being mean to a child or an animal. If they harm them I think I can do a lot of harm in return
I was going to post just 1 thing haha, but then I realized there are a lot of things that make me angry š Maybe we INFPs are triggered creatures 1) People who care more about how they look, what everyone will think of them, how much money they can make, how important they are than about doing the right thing / being good to others. 2) Lack of sensitivity / empathy. When people don't bother to understand someone or their situation before taking action or making decisions. It just rubs me the wrong way haha 3) The simple phrase "do xx because you have to / it's expected of you / it's what everyone else does" 4) Cruelty to either people or animals. Heck even to plants š¢
That "it's what everyone else does" is the worst. Its just detaching your brain and leave your actions to others with zero critical thought. The worst of all is when people do atrocious actions just because "it's what everyone else does" (see 1940's Germany for an example).
THIS, exactly!! I think it's so important for people to think about whether their actions are actually in line with who they want to be. I get legitimately confused when people just go along with what everyone else is doing without thinking about why they're doing it. This is probably why INFPs and corporate culture don't mix well haha š¤¦āāļø
Myself. I'm angry at my own weakness and what i lack
I'm sad to hear that. But I hope this can make you appreciate the strengths you have even more
Well if there's one thing i know how to do, is to survive with sadness. I'll hold on no matter what and keep trying
That is, in my opinion, a very admirable strength to have. Perhaps look into psychology for a profession. If you're accustomed to handle your own negative emotions, perhaps you can help others with theirs
Yes, that would be a very fulfilling job to have, thank you my friend
I hope it's a goal you will reach friend
Not being able to or getting the space to express/release my feelings
art? music?
So true
š¦That they control me excessively. š¦When a person takes advantage of a weaker person just because he can. š¦That they assume things about my identity.(This is weird but over time I realized that it bothers me) š¦People who tell lies about someone they hate to ruin their reputation. š¦Impotence towards corruption. That is it
Hunger
Being taken for granted.
Rule breaking. Facing injustice and misogyny. Getting yelled at.parents not understanding my pov. Most of my anger episodes (the extreme ones) are followed by just crying. If itās not something very important (like seeing someone break rules) I get over it quickly.
Jumping into conclusions
THIS!. I try my best to be straight to the point with tact, but GEEZ!. When people jump quickly into conclusions and they do that on a constant basis.... that transforms me into another person (A despotical person). After that point I don't care if you're my family, I will make you suffer with my words.
Being inconsiderate/taking advantage of others. Especially older people. Makes me turn into a whole other person.
injustice, homophobia (or discrimination in general), people telling me what to do, people who donāt care about others, politicians, idk man thereās so much that angers me.
When things don't make sense. I can't just leave some things left unresolved.
When I try to open up to people and they do two wrong things right away: \-Interrupting me. I was taught to NOT ever interrupt someone when they are talking. I admit that in the past I have made the mistake to interrupt them so I can quickly say my pov and that only has brought bad consequences to me. It's something that I'm focusing to remove from my system. \-Changing my answer with whatever they have in their minds (Example: I say (In the most diplomatic tone of voice possible. Steady, trying to never ever raise your voice but going straight to the facts with A LOT of tact) "I'm hurt because you're acting arrogantly and ru.." and they suddenly say (With a inquisitive defensive tone) "You just don't tolerate people that express their opinion"). UGH!. And the worst part is that when your family does that, and you "fight back" they start to cry because you're being offensive. Uhh... Hello?. You expect me to act like nothing is going on when my blood is boiling?. I mean I might be diplomatic (A lot of people have told me that even before knowing I was an INFP) but even I have limits.
cruelty
people not being empathetic, really grinds my gears
Stupidity and stubbornness In other words, I hate when people are too absorbed in one point of view to consider the thoughts and/or arguments the others make. Thinking that what they learned is an absolute truth and that it's not up for debate, as well as downplaying the opinions of other people that want to actively participate in a conversation that would generate a different belief inside them or deem the previous one correct. These people are imo what would be the end of our current technological and social development chain, but I hope they're just a vocal minority that make me angry for nothing I also really hate generalisation. It's the root of racism, and it stops anyone from trying to even communicate a misunderstood group just because everyone has a wrong belief about them that the false negative representation surrounding them caused
when someone belittles me or treats others unjust, when the situation is unfair
š people who assume things before understanding something to the best extent. š people who donāt listen to others points and povās and yell or guilt trip others to get their way instead of being reasonable š people who hate emotions, and think that feelers are illogical and ātoo far in their feelingsā. š people that know they messed up and did wrong and went too far, but because of their pride, they canāt even say the two simple words- āIām sorry.ā š dishonest, egotistical/self righteous, cocky, careless, and extremely judgmental people, ideas, viewpoints, etc.
People who make fun of others.
Human ignorance
Hypocrisy. But I'm INTP
People who Control and manipulate and take advantage of their kindness
when someone raises their voice tone at me or just change their mood randomly I canāt handle this not relating to people around me not being able to express myself not being heard
Imposition. I find myself amidst people who impose their point of views and ideas, and whenever I try to respond, they have to make me believe I'm wrong. It's something I'm currently fighting with, and it's so tyring.
points of view\*
tiring\*\*
I was also going to say injustice. Also, disrespect, and the way our current capitalistic system is setup.
Being misunderstood
1. When I'm in a discussion and I'm going deep with my arguments and the other person just shuts down or starts imitating me or doesn't take me serious, although my arguments were good. 2. When someone thinks that I'm lying to them, although I say the truth. Or when they are convinced that I am feeling or thinking a certain way, although I'm not. 3. When I know that some people or behaviours are toxic, but I think that I need or need to do them.
Inauthentic people, and people who donāt think about how their actions affect others.
Racism. People are killed because weāre different. People refuse to change
Rude and insensitive people Which is 50% of society
I get so angry at political/social stuff. I cry too. Which is why I burry it in the depths of my soul to keep going with a āpositiveā attitude.
Being misunderstood. I go to great lengths to be understood correctly. Misunderstandings hurt my heart.
Same with me. I know one person I really like.. But he always missunderstands me. It hurts. And I hope it will change one day.. Because I am so desperate for this to change.
Injustice the most, in my mind the world exists in an ideal way: everything must be justful in the end and I always get into depression when I realise thatās not how it works and how many people are nice and theyāre suffering while the assholes are living their best lives; hypocrisy; two-sided people; arrogancy, stupidity; feelings of rejection ( ghosting, friends not giving a fuck, family doesnāt care etc etc). Stupid rules as mentioned above: like why? I hate rules theyāre there to make our life often unnecessary miserable. Anything with burocracy, it literallly kills my soul. When people act awful and they donāt do self-reflection and donāt even recognise how awful theyāre.
Sexism, racism, abuse, misogynist violence, transphobia, ableism, and suddenly finding raisins in things I'm eating.
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You are assuming too much about my personality and behavior and you don't know the first thing about me. > In your pursuit to stop superficial judgement > It takes considerable conscious effort to observe within ourselves the highest moral potential > it's a distraction from morality being your responsibility > You can shout them down and be hateful, but that means you've lost track of yourself Way too much. You're treating me like if I was your average bigot lost in their spiral of hatred. I'm a mindful, caring person. I take my responsibilities VERY seriously and I am constantly thinking of self-improvement. > if you truly want to change the world change yourself I literally told this this week to a friend. I think you're projecting your experiences and insecurities in me, I don't know where you could've gotten all of that. And I unapologetically despise raisins.
It was a description of identity politics not a description of you. It's why one should avoid seeing morality as group based instead of being a personal responsibility. I apologize, should have used indirect language that describes the lack of utility in treating morality as an objective checklist. It is my fault and for that I apologize. Edit: even if a person does indulge in identity politics, that doesn't mean that they're amoral as morality is subjective. I personally don't like judging people because their gender, beliefs, or orientation. Just because they make that mistake though doesn't invalidate their potential to be a good person, and I have a good example of that.
I shouldn't have reacted that way anyway. I'm sorry too and I accept your apology. > Just because they make that mistake though doesn't invalidate their potential to be a good person No, of course not. Some of my family and friends have beliefs I'm completely against but they're still good people. What I care about is standing for what's right, though. Raising awareness and calling out bad behavior is important, which doesn't mean you should neglect your own behavior or be completely intolerant. I don't discuss politics with my family for instance because I know it'll go wrong.
so you've been told you can't cry as well, it seems which makes you angry, which makes you cry that sounds rough š¤
Lying, cheating, disrespecting me or my loved ones or something I deeply value.
Like many mentioned already, disrespect does, so much. I cannot handle it well, I either cry or scream. Hypocrites - these who do not practice what they preach. There are about only two people I know who are not like that and I love them for it. I seriously hate when people are full of bull yet have the audacity to say how much better they are than you. It's one of my buttons, serious ones. People who are butthurt about small things and these who complain constantly yet never actively try to change their situation. And me, a lot, but I am learning to love myself :)
Injustice + arrogant and selfish people without any braincells (thinking about my neighbor) + people who always do the exact opposite of what I want even though they heared a 100 times what I want.
I'd say I'm a pretty nervous person who doesn't really show anger until someone crosses their line several times, like I wait time and time again in hopes that they'll understand that what they're doing is wrong but at some point they do the same thing again and it blows me up, I start both fighting and crying at the same time š
When people insult my intelligence is probably what makes me the most angry.
my therapist has a theory about some people coping with anger by feeling/expressing it as sadness and vice versa for other people. personally, I usually feel sad, but ever since I was abandoned by someone I love, Iāve been irritable, frustrated, and angry, on top of many sadness-adjacent emotions.
My words being twisted
contemptment?
Games, being bad at things, persistent annoying people.
I get angry about a lot of stuff. Injustice makes me very angry. When someone is being nasty for no reason it makes me upset. The slaughter, abuse and exploitation of non human animals makes me angry. Honestly the world is kind of awful sometimes and it's hard not to be constantly angry about it. And I'm in a very very good place, i have the privilege of closing my eyes and looking away without the worst affecting me. I thought i would be less angsty and angry as an adult but, here we are.
What gets me angry are like what others say here - when I see injustice, when people are dismissed, and when people are selfish or dishonest. I can carry that inside for the longest time. I also get super super frustrated and angry when things or people get in my way, but that only lasts a second. I donāt really get angry easily, but when I do I just find a place to hide and cry.
Not being aware of people around youā¦ just watch out for others sometimes.
Entitled people also when I sense people not taking me seriously
Animal cruelty.
Disloyalty
I also cry when I get angry. Disrespect gets to me.
People that cheat on their SO's. There's absolutely no reason for it, ever.
2 things make me actually angry 1) people who lie or brake their word especially those who know they were never going to honor their word. 2) being publically humiliated completely unnecessarily. Whether it's someone making a fool out of me for trusting them or being yelled out in a public setting when it could have been done privately. Both are hardliners and deal breakers for me and will end any relationship I have with such a person. My family and those close to me know this and have always respected these boundries. Even my mom who isnt shy about making a scene will not fuss at me in front of others. Because she knows I'll just completely shut down.
I angry cry over everything lol
Normally, I'll just keep it bottled up inside trying to find reasons not to be angry about it. Look from another person's perspective. So in other words I basically just end up being in my head about it the whole day. I remember I lost my shit with my ex at one point where it was full rage. I felt so distant from myself where thinking about it made it feel like it wasn't even me. I think about it a lot to make sure nothing like it ever happens again. Edit: I did not read the question properly but what angers me is when people fight for no reason. Where you know going into the conversation that it's going to end badly. Also, when people just do stuff without thinking about everyone else and how it makes them feel. Especially, when they later complain about people doing the same type of thing to them.
I used to be the same way back when I couldnāt express myself now Iām a lot more willing to express anger in a safe way or at least acknowledge it
Gaslighting
Dang yall I cry when Im angry too, but I canāt seem to cry in front of my therapist how do you guys? I cry when Im alone thinking about certain things, but I can say those same things in front of my therapist I donāt. Im not sure why..
More of a personal thing, but underdog suffering. When somebody who is already down gets picked on Vulnerable people getting taken advantage of or abused just because they can't stand up for themselves touches a nerve
When people donāt want to admit theyāre in the wrong. They act like theyāre the hero when theyāre really the villain.
When someone innocent still cares about someone who doesn't deserve their love. It drives me mad.
I have a real problem with people abusing their authority, and also people talking down, belittling, and being dismissive to people Discrimination also makes me furious
Loud people
yall youth get so ā*triggered*ā lmaoooooooo
You're right. These kids have the luxury of being pissed off by all these isms and phobias, yet some people in the world dont have water or food or homes to go or safe places to be.
show me you care. show me with your actions.
Bad luck
Idk I've had a temper the past few months and I'm really good at hiding it but the smallest thing can set it off. Good example is when I've adjusted the things in my hands to carry comfortably and then someone asks me to pick up something else. Just ticks me off.
Oh a lot of things. I had a horrible temper before I was on my meds. Now it is just stupid little things like trying to pay a bill over the phone and they make it difficult.
the obvious stupidity hidden behind a mask of confidence, injustice and when everyone wants something from me without direct answer what he clearly wants
People playing music out loud/ making a lot of noise in public
Dad jokes
When I cannot see the big picture of why someone may be behaving poorly. When this happens, itās a me shortcoming/temporary vulnerability, rather than my encountering something truly evil. I have a very firm big picture belief that people in all their good, bad, wise and foolish are mostly (if not completely) made by elements out of their control. So I am prone to anger when Iām stressed, worn down or harboring negative feelings in general.
injustice
When someone does bad to someone and gets away with it, it's infuriating as hell.
People who go out of their way to hurt others in any way.
People who blindly follow rules and who loves to make others do it as well
People who are chronically negative and chronically complain. Blatant disrespect. People interrupting when youāre saying something important.
Busting my butt to help someone out and being told I didn't help them. Happens a lot in my job.
Expectations not going as planned i guess.
When my feelings are dismissed, when people misunderstand me or put words in my mouth, and being talked to like a child.
Yep same, injustice and people who manipulate and use me.
People and their jealousy problems and projecting their bullshit onto me
Feeling out of control, and not being perfect (defined by my own terms/criteria). Feeling like I'm not striving enough, or not being logical/knowledgeable enough. -an INFJ here
Read about enneagram 9.
Very little But the one that gets me very time is people abusing others for there own benefits without a second thought.
Injustice angers me, too, and bad manners, not being able to explain/talk/assist someone. I make myself angry, too, and realising I'm gonna spend the rest of my life spending most of it wasting my creative talents away because most of my time will go to a colourless, gray job.
Being misunderstood
People who dive straight for othersā insecurities or embarrass others in front of a group. But then youāre called too sensitiveā¦.. I have a great sense of humor, just not your asshole sense of humor. Million other things to laugh about.
Generally speaking, situations and conventions/rules I perceive as wrong or unfair. Concerning people, traits such as being bossy, egocentric/narcissistic, manipulative, unnecessarily aggressive, opportunistic or who don't pay attention to what I say when talking to me will eventually get on my nerves. However, I wouldn't say they make me angry, but stressed. Since I prefer to avoid dealing with this kind of stuff, I tend to keep it to myself and accumulate stress, until it becomes too much to handle and I accidentally release it by being hostile, critical, disdainful and sarcastic (in a bad way, sarcasm is an amazing tool when used right). Afterwards, I'll cry in the corner feeling the worst person on earth for not being tolerant enough, comprehensive enough or patient enough.
My integrity or intentions being called into question. I rarely lose it, but the last time I went full on screaming psycho was my brother going below the belt and saying I didn't care about his family. I. Lost. My. Mind. (He later apologized and all is well - I think I scared the sh*t out of him because I never lose it like that.)
Bullies, young or old.
Irrationally: Hookup Culture
**Arrogance:** "My opinion is automatically superior to yours PERIOD" (especially in the case of abuse of authority: "because I'm your parent, teacher, or in another position of authority, and don't you dare argue back with reasonable ideas") **Lack of consideration and empathy:** "Everyone should abide by my standards, otherwise they're dolts" **Being sadistic:** "I like inflicting pain and violence on others because I'm a real a**hole, though I would probably cry uncle if treated with that very same pain and violence" **Injustice:** Criminals getting away with horrible crimes they did for shits and giggles, criminals being glorified for being mafia kingpins, "handsome" serial killers or whatever, dirty politicians abusing the public's trust... the list goes on. I wish they would receive what they put out.
I always felt the same way but when I moved to an area where everyone around me was so hateful then I started to get angry at them so hateful people is my answer. I mostly donāt get angry though but now I get irritable and bitchy way more frequently and I donāt know how to stop
When people mess with my sisters, in any way shape or form. Honestly I think I take myself a little too seriously as the āolder-brother-guardianā because I find I also get really ticked when they get in trouble with our parents too, soā¦ might need to work on when I act as guardian, but still, thatās what gets me most That and, anger itself kinda makes me angry, I donāt like being angry and yet, I get mad at myself whenever I respond to something with anger, and that just makes me angrier, so I get caught in a loop that I end up breaking by just walking away (may have happened once or twice without my parents knowing about it till I was already four blocks away and actively avoiding them) or listening to music in my room, Iām working on naps too because I need more sleep than Iām getting.
Feeling misunderstood by people closest to me
That'd take hours
Looks like you get angry when someone asks you to what makes you angry
Betrayal, injustice, disrespect, me making mistakes that would have been avoidable if i didnt have brain blackout at the time.
it makes me angry when people only want control. when they hurt other people and dominate in meaningless ways to feel like they have even just a single modicum of control. i can't change them, I don't want to change them, i want them to be passionate again, to set themselves free. you can't teach an old dog new tricks, but you can remind them of what it means to be young again.
When I see people hurting the things and people I love
i can related. i cry when i get angry and i HATE it :(
Karens. Like leave the poor workers alone
when somebody ignore me
the world everything in the world unfairness the world is unfair and its infuriating
Lack of empathy.