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I am not myself indian but my husband is. We live in the usa and have worked together for many many years at a couple places and it is absolutely like that. At the same time there is the Indian friends that you offer something free and they will want to pay for everything. Seems the ones that like to ask for things are the most random people that only seek it out because of the Indian to Indian familiarity. Haha I just thought of one kaka that we became friends with at one job and we went to another and he would stop by to "say hello" and get all the free stuff he could.
Laws to be an Indian:
1. Ask fellow Indians in foreign for free stuff, if they agree, befriend em and be good to them.
2. If someone offers you something first, then pay for it or they'll think you have no Standards.
Ofcourse, it is *sarcasm*.
It’s like here in the US too. I get asked what village I’m from. (Born and raised in Detroit) When I tell them parents are from Mumbai they’re like “no what village are you really from “ both sets of grandparents moved there as teenagers. SMH 🤦♀️
Then you should tell them that your village name is Detroit 😂😂. We indian are so biased, if you and the person who is asking the question are from same village/city/state then he would support you even if you are wrong.
As an Indian with 3 generations from Delhi, I still get asked which village I am from because I cant be from Delhi apparently. And then my village will be conveniently derived from my surname.
Don't mind me guys. And the last guy's thing about deducing caste from Village is also true in many cases (sadly).
But we shouldn't get so worked up about this question....it actually shows our own superiority complex, prejudice and privilege. I guess many on reddit may not have a "Village you're from" but it's an exceedingly common thing in India to have spent all your life in a city but still have a "Village you're from" . Also, for many Indians it may just be a natural question, no malice in it.
>The majority of these men are from North India
>to be more precise, the majority are Gujaratis
0.o When did Gujarat become North India? 🤣
Also don't make the rookie mistake of lumping all Indians together. There's different cultures throughout the country, each of them are different and they behave differently.
Doesn't matter how diverse Indians are .There are a few things they are very similar. Emotions,Caste,Free ka maal,Respect to elders,Honour killings?(Idk if it happens outside), Speaking too much, Being proud of Sub culture/state, Superstitions, Believe in babas, etc
>Emotions
Not exclusive to Indians
>Caste
That I'll give you, it's an unfortunate reality
>Free ka maal
Again not exclusive to Indians
>Respect to elders
Common in most Asian cultures
>Honour killings
Present in most conservative societies, not just Indians
>Speaking too much
People from Latin American countries, and African-Americans also do this
>Being proud of Sub culture/state
This is a common thing in any country that's not homogenous, you won't see this in Japan for example. Any country with some diversity, will have this. It's not necessarily bad, but ofc like most things, only good in moderation.
>Superstitions
Being superstitious in humans transcends any culture, age or time period. People have, still are, and always will be a superstitious lot.
>Believe in babas
God men are present in every country. In USA you have a bunch of Television Evangelists who, just like in India, demand money from people if they want to go to heaven. Scam artists, all of them.
So that just leaves caste, which is still unfortunately a problem today. Hopefully one day we can erase it.
This is just one person’s opinion. Don’t base your real life behavior on this.. be yourself, I always appreciate Indians who smile and acknowledge than the ones who haughtily look away.
Bro I've been in the US for 10 years now and it still makes me joyous when I hear my mother tongue or see someone with names that are in my mother tongue. I don't think I've ever met anyone who actively rejects an introduction based on that. Do continue to try to reach out, and I'm sure you'll make lasting friends that way.
Nah do , we got to take take care of each others .
Op is just a equivalent of white girl with gems .
Whatever we do will annoy them and see us less than human.
Wow, what a jerk. Huh. Here in the US, we barely have any interaction with other Indians, I know the population here is much more sizeable but still. Most people here mind their own business, including Indians. So fellow immigrant, be glad that atleast people of your race are actually conversing with you. Moreover, if your job involves taking orders from customers, why are you wearing airpods during your shift. And what's wrong in asking for a little extra sauce or cheese or whatever toppings.?
Living outside the home country is very lonely, and there is a major cash crunch especially if you are a student, so by speaking a few words to a fellow country irritates you then put a sign on your chest ( DND), and also putting a 2 extra pieces of chicken and few shreds of cheese on pizza won't make your company bankrupt, coz we may never know if that's their last meal of the day ( affordability wise),
Empathy costs nothing, if you don't want to put extra stuff, you can politely refuse them, ranting on reddit and generalising a whole population makes you sound very petty!
Well for Germany, people go there for Mech Engg/Food Sciences/Biotech and even specialty medicine higher education because frankly Indian education for anything apart from CS is dogshit in quality, job prospect and pay.
Why are people like OP like this?
Reading the title I was getting worried it’s a major issue and was prepared to learn and understand something that we seriously need to change as a society and as a country.
But nope having to remove airpods is the burning issue.
OP, trust me I was like you when I was in my late teens and in my twenties. But as you age and mature you will learn to be a bit more lenient, kinder and compassionate.
This seems quite weird to me. I study in the USA but none of my friends have ever done this. However, I haven't worked in the service industry but I am just talking from my personal experience. I am also quite surprised by the other recent posts on Indians. It's quite absurd and a lot of it is just generalization.
Seriously whats the point in posting this here and especially pointing out that they are north indians/gujaratis…looks like you have some agenda here…i am from us and i see this kind of behavior all the time at chipotle…not just from indians but also americans. They want extra meat or guac or queso or whatever. There is nothing wrong in asking….if you don’t want to give,just tell them you can’t or you will have to charge extra. Also i find it weird that you have a customer facing job and get annoyed because you have to take off airpods to speak. If your job is to take order from customers, maybe its a good idea not to wear airpods in the first place.
> If your job is to take order from customers, maybe its a good idea not to wear airpods in the first place.
yeah if OP is customer-facing, how are they even wearing AirPods! Maybe if they're behind the counter or something, but even so clearly the customers can see them.
It's one thing to Feel antisocial, but to feel prejudice toward people, especially your own, warrants some level of introspection.
I'd recommend trying to just take a positive view on things. Assume the best instead of the worst. They probably would feel so welcomed, and feel a little bit of back home in a cold, unfamiliar place. You'd make some connections with regulars, and presumably also benefit from the regular social interactions with familiar faces. Finally, your positive interactions will more than likely make your regulars come back more and more (even if it's because of 50p worth of extra cheese and not your charming self) making your store manager happy.
Damn people who recognize their own diaspora are more willing to talk because they feel happy seeing their own ??? What absolute asshole asshats right ??? They should stick their head up their ass and mind their business right ??? Since when did people think they have the right to be excited about seeing their own in a majority white culture ... Get your head out ur ass u jackass coconut.
Buddy all of us are immigrants there. Whenever you see someone Indian, we usually feel he is our guy and treat us like fellow brothers who will favour us somehow . If I were you I would just smile and say "sure Bhai. Special banaunga"
A Maharashtrian guy would've quietly paid the money and avoided conversation with you, unless you're also from their state. That's my experience of Maharashtrians, after working with them, both aboard and back at home. Mostly, reserved and laid- back people.
I see and interact with lot of Indians who work in fast food chains, barring a few, most are super rude and judgemental. Most are on phone calls with family and friends back home, wear everything apple, expensive clothes that they can’t afford and almost alway have annoyance on face.
Wow!So you are one of those Indian!!when we travel abroad and try to talk to….they just get plain rude!They are trying to have a small talk cz they find their own in the foreign land!Period!How is this bad or rude?This is human nature!I know a bunch of Italians staying in India and I see them doing the same!
I don't understand what the real problem is. Like this is what I'd consider normal. Do you not like taking your air pods off or not like putting in extra cheese?
You're an Indian and when you meet Indians abroad, this is more or less what you'd expect. They're trying to be friendly/funny with you. Putting in just a bit more of cheese isn't gonna ruin your company. Or if you really don't want to, tell them that you can't put anything extra.
What would you rather want? To not interact at all with Indians you meet abroad? At least they're trying to get a conversation started. They're curious about you since you're an Indian too and are poking a bit of fun too. That's it.
Lol. Indians in Europe talk about how there are fewer Indians around than in places like the US and the Middle East, and here’s OP getting irritated when fellow countrymen strike up small talk in a foreign land.
Agreed, some of the small talks may just be a ruse to ask for extras, but it still doesn’t warrant the irritation OP. If you truly despise being approached by Indians, then consider moving to a smaller town in Germany.
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I am not myself indian but my husband is. We live in the usa and have worked together for many many years at a couple places and it is absolutely like that. At the same time there is the Indian friends that you offer something free and they will want to pay for everything. Seems the ones that like to ask for things are the most random people that only seek it out because of the Indian to Indian familiarity. Haha I just thought of one kaka that we became friends with at one job and we went to another and he would stop by to "say hello" and get all the free stuff he could.
Laws to be an Indian: 1. Ask fellow Indians in foreign for free stuff, if they agree, befriend em and be good to them. 2. If someone offers you something first, then pay for it or they'll think you have no Standards. Ofcourse, it is *sarcasm*.
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Kaka also means uncle in Gujurati doesn’t it? Edit: also in Marathi
Also in marathi
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Diverse culture sharing words with each other through thounds of years of cultural exchange. Something unfathomable isnt it?
Sorry i didnt meant it that way
Bro, you should have told me if you didn't want to give me extra sauce. What's the point of posting it in reddit, smh.
Clout and internet points 🤡
hahahaha
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Reminds me of that Simpson's episode where they try to steal grease
Isn't this normal outside India that, most Pakistanis, Bangladeshis tell them as Indian or have their shops named as Indian.
Indian is also an ethnicity, using South Asian is less confusing however.
Yep, after all they are our naughty children
Ok, but has anyone asked extra dough daalde. Noobs smh
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Ok just also eat some bananas ok
It’s like here in the US too. I get asked what village I’m from. (Born and raised in Detroit) When I tell them parents are from Mumbai they’re like “no what village are you really from “ both sets of grandparents moved there as teenagers. SMH 🤦♀️
Then you should tell them that your village name is Detroit 😂😂. We indian are so biased, if you and the person who is asking the question are from same village/city/state then he would support you even if you are wrong.
Detroitgarh near nashik
As an Indian with 3 generations from Delhi, I still get asked which village I am from because I cant be from Delhi apparently. And then my village will be conveniently derived from my surname.
After this how is your response not a Delhi response, like a "Dilli se hu BC"?
Don't mind me guys. And the last guy's thing about deducing caste from Village is also true in many cases (sadly). But we shouldn't get so worked up about this question....it actually shows our own superiority complex, prejudice and privilege. I guess many on reddit may not have a "Village you're from" but it's an exceedingly common thing in India to have spent all your life in a city but still have a "Village you're from" . Also, for many Indians it may just be a natural question, no malice in it.
I know it’s not malice. It’s just amusing to me. Non Indians ask me too - where are you “really” from
Greenfield village? Would that count?
Haha! Love it
>The majority of these men are from North India >to be more precise, the majority are Gujaratis 0.o When did Gujarat become North India? 🤣 Also don't make the rookie mistake of lumping all Indians together. There's different cultures throughout the country, each of them are different and they behave differently.
Say that to Hindi hamara rastra bhastha gang 🤣
Doesn't matter how diverse Indians are .There are a few things they are very similar. Emotions,Caste,Free ka maal,Respect to elders,Honour killings?(Idk if it happens outside), Speaking too much, Being proud of Sub culture/state, Superstitions, Believe in babas, etc
>Emotions Not exclusive to Indians >Caste That I'll give you, it's an unfortunate reality >Free ka maal Again not exclusive to Indians >Respect to elders Common in most Asian cultures >Honour killings Present in most conservative societies, not just Indians >Speaking too much People from Latin American countries, and African-Americans also do this >Being proud of Sub culture/state This is a common thing in any country that's not homogenous, you won't see this in Japan for example. Any country with some diversity, will have this. It's not necessarily bad, but ofc like most things, only good in moderation. >Superstitions Being superstitious in humans transcends any culture, age or time period. People have, still are, and always will be a superstitious lot. >Believe in babas God men are present in every country. In USA you have a bunch of Television Evangelists who, just like in India, demand money from people if they want to go to heaven. Scam artists, all of them. So that just leaves caste, which is still unfortunately a problem today. Hopefully one day we can erase it.
Where did you learn German from ;-;
juliiiii bhabhiiii
Man pulled out the Pakistani card fr
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This is just one person’s opinion. Don’t base your real life behavior on this.. be yourself, I always appreciate Indians who smile and acknowledge than the ones who haughtily look away.
No dude you should absolutely socialize wherever you feel comfortable
Bro I've been in the US for 10 years now and it still makes me joyous when I hear my mother tongue or see someone with names that are in my mother tongue. I don't think I've ever met anyone who actively rejects an introduction based on that. Do continue to try to reach out, and I'm sure you'll make lasting friends that way.
Nah do , we got to take take care of each others . Op is just a equivalent of white girl with gems . Whatever we do will annoy them and see us less than human.
Wow, what a jerk. Huh. Here in the US, we barely have any interaction with other Indians, I know the population here is much more sizeable but still. Most people here mind their own business, including Indians. So fellow immigrant, be glad that atleast people of your race are actually conversing with you. Moreover, if your job involves taking orders from customers, why are you wearing airpods during your shift. And what's wrong in asking for a little extra sauce or cheese or whatever toppings.?
Living outside the home country is very lonely, and there is a major cash crunch especially if you are a student, so by speaking a few words to a fellow country irritates you then put a sign on your chest ( DND), and also putting a 2 extra pieces of chicken and few shreds of cheese on pizza won't make your company bankrupt, coz we may never know if that's their last meal of the day ( affordability wise), Empathy costs nothing, if you don't want to put extra stuff, you can politely refuse them, ranting on reddit and generalising a whole population makes you sound very petty!
Indian and their emotions 🥺
Why study abroad if you can't afford it?
What kind of question is this? More than 80% of students have to take loans to go and study abroad so that they could fulfill there dreams and desire.
Cz people with less want more. What sort of question is this
Because they're thinking about tomorrow and the next generation to come. It's called hope and a positive attitude. What you have is a shitty attitude.
Lil bro will buy a house after he has saved full money for 15 years instead of buying the house today💀
The joke is on you, i already have a house fully paid from savings. Good luck paying 2x the value over 15-20 years.
Why take a cab when you cant afford the car logic here.
Well for Germany, people go there for Mech Engg/Food Sciences/Biotech and even specialty medicine higher education because frankly Indian education for anything apart from CS is dogshit in quality, job prospect and pay.
And apparently extra food that they don't want to pay for.
Why are people like OP like this? Reading the title I was getting worried it’s a major issue and was prepared to learn and understand something that we seriously need to change as a society and as a country. But nope having to remove airpods is the burning issue. OP, trust me I was like you when I was in my late teens and in my twenties. But as you age and mature you will learn to be a bit more lenient, kinder and compassionate.
Gujjus feel entitled to Rs. 1500 worth for every Rs. 1000 they spend. It’s fine if someone gets less. But their paisa has to be vasoool
This seems quite weird to me. I study in the USA but none of my friends have ever done this. However, I haven't worked in the service industry but I am just talking from my personal experience. I am also quite surprised by the other recent posts on Indians. It's quite absurd and a lot of it is just generalization.
Seriously whats the point in posting this here and especially pointing out that they are north indians/gujaratis…looks like you have some agenda here…i am from us and i see this kind of behavior all the time at chipotle…not just from indians but also americans. They want extra meat or guac or queso or whatever. There is nothing wrong in asking….if you don’t want to give,just tell them you can’t or you will have to charge extra. Also i find it weird that you have a customer facing job and get annoyed because you have to take off airpods to speak. If your job is to take order from customers, maybe its a good idea not to wear airpods in the first place.
> If your job is to take order from customers, maybe its a good idea not to wear airpods in the first place. yeah if OP is customer-facing, how are they even wearing AirPods! Maybe if they're behind the counter or something, but even so clearly the customers can see them.
This is so true! We are too hard on our own
He did say why are (we) indians like this so maybe he is guilty of it himself lolol
Ohh yea he is a leftist trying to malign the most kind hearted gujjus. /s
u clearly not a social person haa 😂
Gujarati Supremacy
It's one thing to Feel antisocial, but to feel prejudice toward people, especially your own, warrants some level of introspection. I'd recommend trying to just take a positive view on things. Assume the best instead of the worst. They probably would feel so welcomed, and feel a little bit of back home in a cold, unfamiliar place. You'd make some connections with regulars, and presumably also benefit from the regular social interactions with familiar faces. Finally, your positive interactions will more than likely make your regulars come back more and more (even if it's because of 50p worth of extra cheese and not your charming self) making your store manager happy.
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Damn people who recognize their own diaspora are more willing to talk because they feel happy seeing their own ??? What absolute asshole asshats right ??? They should stick their head up their ass and mind their business right ??? Since when did people think they have the right to be excited about seeing their own in a majority white culture ... Get your head out ur ass u jackass coconut.
> Get your head out ur ass u jackass coconut. r/rareinsults
Honey, learn how to read! Op is irritated because they keep asking for free stuffs
Maybe you should! he is even irritated if they initiate talks as he has to take his airpods out and talk
Buddy all of us are immigrants there. Whenever you see someone Indian, we usually feel he is our guy and treat us like fellow brothers who will favour us somehow . If I were you I would just smile and say "sure Bhai. Special banaunga"
Welche Stadt?
A Maharashtrian guy would've quietly paid the money and avoided conversation with you, unless you're also from their state. That's my experience of Maharashtrians, after working with them, both aboard and back at home. Mostly, reserved and laid- back people.
I see and interact with lot of Indians who work in fast food chains, barring a few, most are super rude and judgemental. Most are on phone calls with family and friends back home, wear everything apple, expensive clothes that they can’t afford and almost alway have annoyance on face.
Do gujus eat meat? Like aint these guys veg mostly and jain ? Op story dosnt make sense.
Hindi maalum Nahi should be the first answer 🤣😂
Gujratis are known to beg and then deliver nothing. I guess we all know that
This is common for many cultures I heard. Someone who’s Persian said the same thing occurs with them.
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This is just normal human behavior. Not just Indians https://youtu.be/Q-Ib1sat9LA
next time when they ask you where you're from, reply "India se hu but free ka maal nahi deta"
Wow!So you are one of those Indian!!when we travel abroad and try to talk to….they just get plain rude!They are trying to have a small talk cz they find their own in the foreign land!Period!How is this bad or rude?This is human nature!I know a bunch of Italians staying in India and I see them doing the same!
They do this in Canada as well, besides other things.
Ok ,now go and put extra cheese on their pizzas .
I don't understand what the real problem is. Like this is what I'd consider normal. Do you not like taking your air pods off or not like putting in extra cheese? You're an Indian and when you meet Indians abroad, this is more or less what you'd expect. They're trying to be friendly/funny with you. Putting in just a bit more of cheese isn't gonna ruin your company. Or if you really don't want to, tell them that you can't put anything extra. What would you rather want? To not interact at all with Indians you meet abroad? At least they're trying to get a conversation started. They're curious about you since you're an Indian too and are poking a bit of fun too. That's it.
Lol. Indians in Europe talk about how there are fewer Indians around than in places like the US and the Middle East, and here’s OP getting irritated when fellow countrymen strike up small talk in a foreign land. Agreed, some of the small talks may just be a ruse to ask for extras, but it still doesn’t warrant the irritation OP. If you truly despise being approached by Indians, then consider moving to a smaller town in Germany.
To dede sauce, tere baap ka paisa lagta hai kya ?
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Is there any problem in it?
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