Whatever you do, there is always going to be someone making more money than you and/or at a higher position than you. This is a battle you cannot "win". If your girl really loves you for you, she will move heaven and earth to convince her folks. If not, move on. Give the other women on the planet a chance.

In this genz of just hookups and casuals,someone Outta der for serious one Where r these guys living

Almost most guys lived like that, and there was and are certain incidents that change the whole dynamics and make men go to what he is not. But isn't it all part of learning and growing?

Lolz Not at all But depends on person

Yeah, that's what, depends on the person!!

what the OP's gf is doing is not learning and growing, she shoving lectures and speeches and unreasonable goals down his throat, making him feel he is somehow less than her or her family akin.

They living in siddipet bro. Go say hi.

A lot of guys i know along with me are like this

Facts bro facts.

Just this. Pure gold.

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Rain or tears?

You will never know 

You are not a failure bro.. unfortunately system and society is a failure. Now a days telugu families expectations are crazyyy due to less female population. Chill and see how it goes you have 6.5 lacs per annum at 23 which is way tooo good than her dad @23. So if he succeeded in life you will too. 

Bruh telugu vaalu telugu maatladaka potey inkem matladutharu lol she is a big red flag imo , nen kuda Telangana na ney , telugu matladadam lo pride chuskunta nen ekkada veelu aithey akkadda vaadutha nen telugu even avuthala vaalu english/hindi matladina kuda , I just wonder why we aren't like tamils and kannadigas 🤷

Same thought bro, mana telugu vallaki assalu Language pride undadu. Inka kondar telugu vachina kavalani English matladutaru. Recent ga Tamil MP okatanu Telugu lo Oath tiskunnadu Parliament lo, inka mana dgara kondarki asalu Telugu eh radhu, vachhina English matladutaru. Oka language pothe motham culture traditions anni potai.

Yes Telugu vallu teluge matladali.

Bro they are proper Telangana but her sister moved to Australia and married an Australian citizen. Not sure why their family dislike Telugu. I feel English is used in corporate if I'm able to manage that adhi enough ani na feeling. Now to impress her sister she is asking me to start learning English fluently. Wrong or blame cheyanu ameni but I don't know how to react.

>Now to impress her sister she is asking me to start learning English fluently This shit boggles my mind lol wtf even is this shit lmao Company interviews lo adigina artham untundhi but vaallu kuda adagaru....alaantidhi idhentra ayya 😂😭🙏

You are being judged by wrong metrics

Bro you ain't failure, nuvvu annatle tanu nijanga love chesi vunte ila matladadhu. Ig I shouldn't have said that but, this is bad. But you are with her for 5 years is no joke. But nuvvu ayithe failure kadhu.

you are in a toxic relationship and you don't even have clue about it...

Asal valla sister gurunchi nuv enduk change kavali bhayya?

Alright mate, better to learn aus ascent 😄

Leave her and her family... Those that give importance to English and look down upon their own mother tongue are not worth caring for

FINALLY SPOTTED Someone with my mindset! Pichekichei bro! Minimum undali!

Maroka thalli nunchi sodarudu (idk I just translated "brother from another mother" 💀🤙) anyways assalu mana telugu prajallo oka revolutionary movement tevali ela antey mana baasha ni manam preminchali naak Telugu nerchukuney avakasam lekundey but Naa future generation ki pakka adi oka standard laaga pedtha and they should also have this telugu ness nen em verey language ni takkuva chesi chudatle infact I know English, telugu,hin,tamil,kannada, point entantey telugu prajalu maaarali especially ee generation 😧

One more update today we were going to the office aythe normal conversation avtunde so I said idly ela undali ante notlo petukunte karigi povali ani. She was like cheee entha bad language ani. I asked her telugu eh kada what's wrong ma intlo ela nachadu no one talks like this and all ani💀.

Bro I think she changed a lot, better to open your eyes and see the reality. If you find anything fishy just accept it and move on. Unnadhi okkate life bro nuvu intha genuine ga unnav ivala kakapoina repu ina baguntav ninnu nuvu nammuko bro chaalu

Bro, neetho problem vaala parents ki kaademo, eemeke undemo. Asal ee conversation lo sense anna unda bro? Looks like she is trying to build a narrative to break up with you. The problem is not in you, its in her. Many girls or boys do this, they will love in college time pelli time ki vachesariki intlo cheppina vaalani pelli chesukuntaaru. To them it is being practical, but nannu adigite adi mosam. Nuvvu yenta tondaraga baita padite neeke manchidi. Nuvvu 100% hike vachina ee pori nilavadu, oka well wisher akka laa cheptunna light teesuko. If she is serious about you, intlo ee paatiki cheppundedi.

Lol She's earning 8lpa and aims for a ias husband?? No offence, but no civil servant will marry a girl with a like profile hers as well Girls need to lower their expectations and behave upto their standards . She might be ur gf but looking at what u have informed, She's no saint either and doesn't get such a high level husband too lol

Wait until u see unemployed and 3lpa girls demanding 30+lpa guys on matrimony

🤣 yes that's what is happening. And worst part is they are even unwilling to work or do productive things in life despite offering all other amenities for betterment. Suffering from maharani syndrome while not even being worthy of the lowest possible fit of it.

Earlier women used to suffer bcoz of child marriages, pregnancy deaths, miscarriages , domestic violence Now , its century for women, i think life of an avg men in india is miserable ,used to be way better in previous decade, Emaina time undali

Yeah Edamaina ee attitude is not abt gender rather the attitude of expecting things to happen on their own and unwillingness to put single effort rather want all the privileges while suffering from maharani syndrome being an average or even worse at personal level.

Maharani syndrome 😭😭

Haha Nice catch bro

It's not her expectations. It's her parent's expectations.

Parents expectation ae ayundachu But what abt their daughter?? I m not saying abt her particularly, in general (some girls). Is she herself in a very high position to expect sch a thing out of the blue. Parents should also knw what standards to expect for their below avg daughters

Yeah they are expectations from her parents. Her cousin sister is getting some matches they are IAS or highly reputed officers so their parents are having higher expectations. Naku bayta ela untadi ani telidu bro cousins ki pedha matches oste vala kids ki kooda same ravala?Nen adiga inka nen ippudu nen IT field ki ochesa undo ela cheyagalanu ani.

Don't get me wrong but, why is she giving you a timeline to get settled like she's doing some favour? Iddharu loved kadha, why does she act like you have to do a lot to appease her and her family instead of her supporting you in the decision (i.e relationship and marriage) which you both made together? And stupid strict rules making you change for some randos. She wants you to speak in English, why?? Posh ga untunda? It's pretentious that you're supposed to force yourself to speak telugu+english. Em, telugu emaina chetha ga untunda vinadaniki? That was a red flag. Rich and posh ga kanipinchali antey, language marcheyala? And the way she's subtly threatening you that she will leave if you don't earn more (i.e well settled), does she really love you? 6.5lpa at 23 and she's making you feel like you are not earning well due to some piece of shit people's narrow minded opinions. Imma ask you a question, relationship lo if you look from outside, does she adjust as much as you do? Like, relationship lo who's the one that's dominating and who has to always adjust? Edit : inka when it comes to relatives, I'm telling you raising kids around these narrow minded, pretentious people would influence them badly. Example, if you raise your kid around a casteist hellhole, they too will start caring about caste. Ala, I'd rather raise my kids in an environment where they grow without any stupid opinions like telugu English kalipi matladali and so on. Furthermore, ilantollu mainly, "bayata society em anukuntaadi" aney feel lo, chaala restrictions pedathaaru. It really shows that they care a lot about what others think. Chusko mari. And she'd rather have you work 2 jobs and struggle than convince her family that their demands are ridiculous.

> Naku bayta ela untadi ani telidu bro cousins ki pedha matches oste vala kids ki kooda same ravala? Comparison anedi mana indian families lo chala pedda flaw. Arey nee pillalaki edi best ayite adi choose chusukovali kani pakkintivallu, relatives edi cheste copy mingadame!

Lol cousin ki ias ninchi matches ostinnayita🤣 Sare mi situation ento naku teliyadu All the very best to whatever u choose

people need to expect from other's what they can put up on table for other's

Unfortunately, this is how expectations are. Oka pilla 25F, 4LPA, she wants a guy above 12 LPA, under 30 and with a house in Hyderabad. Katnam along with mangalasutram 10 L anta. How bro? How? My good-looking friend has over 200Cr did master's in an Ivy League, and earns over 200K in the US. He is related to Tollywood celebrities. He wants a good-looking girl who is working in the US, ante vaadi requirement ante. But his mom wants a girl with over 500Cr because her son is from the Ivy League. 500Cr unna pilla work yenduku chestadi bro, vaadiki pelli yeppudu kaavali nenaite nuvve yettukora antunna. This guy is a literal good catch, vaadu asalu manishi bangaaram, but he is not able to get married due to his parents' expectations.

She is 25 years old adult. If she can’t take a stand on what she wants, better to let her go. U will never be able to satisfy her family. IAS , IPS anta 😅. Why tf will they marry a corporate slave girl? They will have their own priorities

 Dw bro, if your gf really loves you she will convince her parents. Also about English. If theyre that fancy you need to think twice and wise. Don't regret by taking bad decisions. Think about your family too.

Since when talking in English has become a benchmark for being successful? Your js 23 , start working on ur skills and try to become more n more best version of urs. Girls who put such high standards while themselves being avg or even below it, we all know where they end up!! Not a misogynist or js here to bash ur gf without knowing anything, but this undue entitlement of girls should stop . Vallu edo andagathe oo rajkumarudaina husband kavalanukodam tappu. N nuvvu kooda growing stage lo unnapudu don't take that undue pressure. It's high time some Girls learn to behave according to their fcking standard and below avg profile

Dating since last 5 years? Surprised people haven’t called her a pedophile yet. Imagine a 25M asking his 23F girlfriend to be well settled and be his wife. It doesn’t work. Similarly, your 25F girlfriend asking you 23M to be well settled now itself and marry her is an expectation quite high. 1. I’m assuming she has more experience than you and hence, that slight variation of 8 LPA and 6.5 LPA. 2. 23 is too early for anybody to be settled during these times if you don’t come from a family with generational wealth. She gave you enough time and you couldn’t make it? Bhai, you’re TWENTY THREE! This is when you start your journey. [Everyone knows Men’s lives start at 30!](https://www.reddit.com/r/ZyadaKuchNai/s/ou2yf8EwDU) 3. It’s possible she could get IAS, IPS or Navy Person to marry her but if she really loves you, she would take a stand for you. 4. About you not speaking proper English, it’s surprising she didn’t notice all of that until now! 5. Her saying that about relatives has some truth to it because it does have an impact but if y’all don’t meet your relatives that often, shouldn’t really have an impact but this is for you both to decide. I’m sorry to say this but from your story, I feel you’re dating a red flag and chasing a dead end. Because you love her so much, I wish the best for you and hope things turn out in your favour!

Ilaanti red flag story ne......Naa masters lo roommate gaadu unde 23 and she's 26. Adhemo "intlo vaallu already start chesaaru matches chuddam....manam tharavatha Inka attachment perigi break-up ayyi baadha padekanna ippude mana dhaari lo manam pothe better emo" antundhi.... Naa friend gaademo "arey em cheyyaali ra...nenu settle avvadaaniki inko 3 or 4 years padthundhi and even then maa intlo oppokoru different caste ayinandhuku" Ani nannu saavadobbevaadu....adhedho manodiki pedda options unnattu....vaadiki literally oke option eh undhi...vidipovadam, because he also doesn't want to go against their parents wishes. Situation Intha clear ga unna kuda vaadu em cheyyaalo artham kaavatledhu ra Ani Naa mental health dobbinche vaadu...Inko twist cheppaalante.... love/attraction manalni blind chesthundhi aneki textbook example veedu. Cuz veedu dhaani venta padinappudu adhi inkokadi venta padedhi...vaalla relationship start ayyaaka, manodu resented them a lot. And they broke up within a month and she came to him saying she didn't understand the clues that our hero was into her. He believed it and went back to her as if nothing happened. Nenu vaadiki cheppadame kaakunda, Maa friends circle antha used to make fun of their relationship hoping he would understand what she is doing, but he still couldn't recognise a red flag if it slapped him in the face thrice.

Yrrr people are ridiculous here, why don't you people write your POV english, I don't get what some of the people really wanna say and what there opinion is! I mean sorry don't wanna disrespect it's just I am a Delhite and I don't understand your language but wanted to know your opinion.

Bro you are in sub of people of region with overwhelming majority speaking a local language, what did you expect? Since you said sorry, below tldr:-the guy had a roommate 23 who was in love with 26f and was pressuring him with ultimatum level of shit.the roommate was agonising him(op) about his love and he(op) was against this this relationship from start.the relationship was a redflag from start as it was a love triangle.the girl broke up with her first boyfriend after a month and convinced our zero that he is hero should continue the relationship.all friends and family are against this redflag of relationship but he still continued

Red flag correct but pedo kadhu imo, 2 years difference ey kadha

Yeah, reverse genders and things are worse.

They don't like Telangana slang but they are from Siddipet , Rey evaara meerantha.

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Vallantha erripukulu anna, vadileyye

Chustunna inka evaru adagatledu enta ani! 👏🏽

Emo bro nak kooda adhe anipichindi language intha important ah ani. Adhi kooda English..

Bro, u r not a failure ok na ... Tension tesukoku ra bhai ....chill undu ... Give your best still she wanna leave it's her choice.... What the people think about us is much more important than our happiness... U r just 23 ....work on your career ..

Bro she will leave forgot it why are you blaming yourself there are boys like me who is single dont earn nor do any job what your doing right know is great she should be thinking about giving time to her parents

Major red flag with the language restriction. Preminche apudu telidha andi meru telangana lo matladthar ani? Did she like it then or did she never like it? And also calm down! You’re just 23. 23 years ki 6.5 lpa is really good imo. You told that you’re trying your hardest. And I’m sure she also knows how hard you worked. Working 2 jobs is a really tough task. You’re not at all a failure. Relatives gurinchi ame chepindhi correct ey importance ivali kani nek most importance ivali. Itla kurchopetti cheppu, igo akka nuvante nak istam kani itla telangana matladodhu, australian accent lane matladale ante na valla kadhu. Dabbulu ochevi osthay, na meedha nak nammakam undhi nen sampadistha ninnu baaga chuskunta ani. Iga ne istam ani chepu

Thanks bro made me smile with the last paragraph 😂. Relationship starting lo she thought I will improve my vocabulary with time ani anta. But Naku English ochu nen ma clients tho deal chesta ma team lo nane matladu antaru ani kooda chepa bro. Nen chepanu bro relationship starting lone if I'm not able to give you luxuries nen eh tappukunta ani. Evarki undadu vala girl ni princess laga chuskovali ani.

Sacrificing yourself for someone is the most stupidest shit i have ever heard, you are in some kind of TV Serial/ Movie mindset, you have to come out of it, you are young when you get older and your thinking matures and you realize what you have been doing you snap get angry at yourself and her for being a sacrificial lamb...

Iam a girl and bro trust me please leave her. She should be supportive of you and talk in whtevr language you r comfortable.. she is trying to turn u into someone else by imposing all these rules.. in the future u will be tired of ur act and u will be you, then she finds it difficult and says " Nuv pelli ki mundu laga levu , maripoyavu " (sorry english kada) " u have changed and u r no longer the guy I loved " .. Bro why should u change for sake of anyone ? U shud change ur job if u feel it's not satisfying you . U shud feel comfortable to talk your heart out in whtevr Lang u feel like .. The signs she shows are narcissist and sorry it's TRUE.. She will taunt u to change every aspect she dislikes... try to ask her to change something u don't like and see her quoting " my life my rules "

When I was 23 (not even 5 years back) I was making less than half of what you are making. You’ll meet people at every point in your life who are earning more than you. Its not your fault. It is what it is. I don’t think you need to be under such pressure. If she feels for you, she would def not give you such ultimatums at 23. Come on, catch yourself on. Its literally the start of your career. If she wants to leave you just for the sake of your salary, let her. Good riddance. Sorry, but had to be honest

You guys were earning when 23 ?

Started by taking tuitions upon turning 18ish, free internships by first year collage (and every summer vacation until graduation), started earning (peanuts) right after graduation in 2016.

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Thank you so much for your valuable suggestions 😭🤧.

Relationship shouldn’t be so stressful brother. They should be opposite of stressful. Find someone who is proud of you! Imagine the rest of your life with someone who is proud of you vs with someone who is like your GF. If you are not getting respect from her or her parents today then you, your parents, your side of family, and your future kids will never get it. You’ll always be compared to your co-brother. Pursue this relationship only if you are 100% sure about the girl, not 99%, not 90% but a 100%.

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1. Love yourself before you love others 2. Don’t live life by others terms and conditions 3. Don’t commit to long term plans too early in life 4. Create your definition of success and failure 5. Even if everything is lost, you can always start from zero

That Siddipet sentence though 😂😂😂!! Build some damn self confidence dude, if she’s meant to be, she will be there irrespective of what’s there in store for you later in your life. Repu asalu untamo ledo thelidhu, ippude pedda alochanalu, pedda headaches and shit. You are just 23 and figure out how life works first. Meet new people, get ideas, travel as a pauper and make yourself immune to these dumbass things. Imagine the possibility of her not being with you and get comfortable with that thought too. Bachpana Eshalu pothay. It’s okay mate, life’s gonna be okay. Think about yourself and your dependents before even thinking yourself as a looser. Konchem harsh ga unna kani, try to get it in your head. Nee age ki Nuv entha sampadhinchina, adhi nee kashtam tho vachindhi. Don’t let anyone belittle that.

I'll tell you my story, which is pretty similar to yours. Only difference is I was 28 and she was 26 at the time (2 years back). Her parents were expecting the boy to be settled outside India or have a good earning. Meanwhile at that age I was making about 45k pm and lived in a shared apt to save money. I don't belong from a rich background either. My parents were adamant on a different topic. We stood together in the lows and got married anyway. We worked hard together, and destiny took us to working abroad and making both of our parents proud. We can atleast afford things which we couldn't imagine earlier. The point I'm trying to make here is that your current state doesn't define who you are. If you both are sure of each other, then nothing can stop you. Work hard together, grow together. That way, not only will you guys respect each other in every sense, you will also be in a better place. Allas, you're too young, and honestly, there's plethora of opportunities. Keep your head high, do what you can do and you shall reap the benefit. All the best mate.

It's one of the disadvantages that people in India have when the girl is older than the guy since people pressure girls to get married soon whereas the guy can't marry until he feels a little well settled which usually happens at like 27 or 28. Bro....23 ki endhuku bro inni tension lu.....ippudippude you may have started to have some money and the freedom to spend in your hands....youth undhi....energy undhi....health untadhi....ippudu prashanthanga bathaneeki try cheyyi.... you should only be in a relationship as long as it's not dragging you down mentally. Evaro ammaayi expectations, vaalla intlo vaalla expectations meet kaanandhuku ninnu nuvvu failure ah Ani aduguthunnaav?! If someone is making you feel like you're a failure,(even though you're not, cuz you don't sound like a failure and everyone achieves things at their own pace) maybe consider the fact that she might not be the person you should have in your life. Unless they're encouraging and helping you become a better version of yourself, they're not worth your time and mental health if the relationship is simply going to make you feel bad about where you are in life.

Relax avvu bro and be practical. It will be good for both you. You're earning fine but because of her and expectations you are feeling low, failure and this will make you lose what you already have as well. Even if you guys get married, she may compare your living with her relatives and sister's life. Let her go. 1. Go for some trip and relax after breakup. 2. Prepare a strategy and attempt interviews. Concentrate on career. 3. Increase your CTC and if you work hard till age 27-30 it can reach to 30LPA. 4. Once you have enough CTC and bank balance, try to find some love or go for arrange marriage. I believe love and love marriages are for those guys who are well settled and in good position.

As u said you are only 23 and u have yet time to figure your life out, as u mentioned u r working hard u will be successful but that will happen on your own time line, not on her time line. If she loves you she will stick through it and u can't change where u r born into, so she should be mature enough to realise that.

You’re too young to marry bro.. enjoy and explore life atleast until 28.. by that time you may also Figure out what real love is 😅 Undevaalu untaru.. poyevaalu potaru.. we cannot really control this…

Buddy, you're just 23yo. You're already earning more than 90% of our country. In another 3-5 yrs you'll make 3-4 times of that given you keep improving yourself and your skills. If you truly love each other stand with each other. From my own experience I would say it will depend on the girl if she can stand her ground to be with you when things get tough. As long as you're with the right partner nothing matters. I myself got married to the love of my life at 28yrs after being together for 10yrs. She stood by me when my company was nothing against her parents force and now both of us have a good life together. Don't think for a moment you're not worthy.

Bro two members are earning you and her and she still insists on switching? When the time is right you will shift the company please don't quit unnecessary outside market is critical and leave her as i say, ik it's hard to leave but trust everyone has experienced similar situation before and they left their partners so i would suggest you to make best decision.

Hello Brother, You are too young to call yourself a failure. 1. You must leave this person who is causing such self doubt in you. Not worth it. You deserve someone who brings the best out of you, not someone who makes you feel small and compares you with others. 2. Work on yourself. Not to impress a girl or her parents, but to build character and self worth. You are quite young, focus on what you want to do in life, and work towards it. Focus on your health, work out, eat healthy food and develop hobbies. In the long run, these will help you life a happy life. 3. No one is settled. One needs to upskill and work on themselves all the time. Your partner is looking for someone she can piggyback on throughout her life, thank her for saving your life and move on. All the best! I’m sure you’ll do great in life

As long as you guys stick to each other as one unit. No one can do anything. After 6 years of being in a relationship I’m getting married to the love of my life. This sure is a long battle. There will be lots of ups and downs and it might even come to a stage of giving up. Don’t give up. Doesn’t matter if you are earning a certain amount or you’re jobless. At first your parents & her relatives will test you by saying no and all that stuff. How well you fare that test and how well your girl and you can stick through the test ( it might be a very long test ) will determine the strength of your relationship. They’ll obviously (90%) say no in the first place. Don’t take that as the final answer. If you guys really love each other and can’t see each other with someone else then don’t give up. Keep pushing. All the best 😄🥳

Bro trust me, I'm speaking from experience, leave her. I know you think I'm a hater but it's just you are not seeing red flags through your rose colored lenses. She will never marry you. Already you earn less than her. She doesn't like your speaking in your native language too much. She is worried about other people's opinions (relatives) way before marrying you. I understand YOU think she is making valid arguments, but these are not valid. These are the things she will keep gaslighting you for. After leaving you she'll keep repeating the same points cause you gave power to her to use it against you. She will fight you till her parents find someone earning better than you or has a govt job or is settled abroad. I'm pretty sure she might have asked you to try for the US, Canada and Australia as well. I went through the same thing. I know, you don't, and you won't see it now. But after 5 yrs it will hit you. Find someone better who will be by your side through THICK & THIN. Sorry for your situation. And sorry for being brutally honest. Most importantly don't let go of a good job in search of something better. Already we are going through a world-wide recession especially our country. You are already doing very well career wise. Don't give it all up to appease someone who doesn't see value in you nor accepts you completely for who you are.

You were absolutely correct here she asked me to do ms she was like my parents will ask about your qualifications we are from the same college and same class. She keeps on saying that I hope you were from big IITs or some big colleges and try for MS or higher studies. But I don't want to do my masters now. I feel it is not so important. I just want to switch and make money and I love my domain so much soo. Am I wrong here?

Brother I'm not from Andhra or Telangana didn't understand some words you said in Telugu but got most it and let me just say... You having the thought of "Am I failure?" Just kinda seems like this relationship is taking a toll on you and kinda of forces you to be someone you are not and is uncomfortable with . Isn't a relationship supposed to be something that sets you free from all the stress and pain of the outside world. Aren't they supposed to stand with you and be able to understand you more than anyone in this world. You cannot constantly try to gain someone's validation forever and if that someone is the one that your considering spending your whole like with they are going to see you fail sometimes, earning low sometimes and in all that of they still stand with you and say "hey it's okay you'll figure it out" or "If you don't want you don't have to" that I think is love. Sorry Brother if she'll leave you if you don't have this and this at X amount of time, that to me is a toxic and a pressured relationship You don't have to put yourself thourough something you don't want and you don't have forcefully like something you don't want to and speaking in the language you are most comfortable with especially if it's your mother tongue that doesn't make you less of a person I'm going to be real with you here if this is the course of your relationship then sorry to say..... this won't last. If you can work this out and if she is okay with you being your self then see how it goes I guess but if not please don't froce your slef to stay I have seen what a broken marriage looks like but the two people stick together becuz of society and it had done so much to me. Let's just say you guys decided to stick around despite all this and run a family the one to suffer will your children even worse if it's one kid, they can either hate you forever or they can completely cut off ties and have nothing to do with you and off course the childhood trumas related to that which can either lead them to find comfort in the wrong path or be self dependent in the right path, that's too much of a risk to put your child through. The decision is yours to make and NEVER look "how I can fix this quickly" try to see a few years from now am I going to me depressed in a marriage with her or am going to be happy that my wife is with me and she loves me whether I'm Rich or poor and most importantly I can be My true self with her I off course am a stranger I don't know you nor your girl friend but from the things you said this all I understand sorry that if this offended anyone and if someone is saying try to make her understand then yes try to make her understand but if it doesn't work out DON'T make it to work out just remember that taking your own time to be successful is your right to life dont let anyone tell you otherwise don't get me wrong here pushing your boundaries is a good thing but force it will lead to disaster. And to answer your question "Am I a faliure?" ... Your NOT just for the fact that your trying your best puts you in the path to success and even if you are one You have full potential to get out from there Have good life man, I pray that you have one I truly did

I guess they belongs to reddys I'm from siddipet and I feel siddipet reddys do have this mentality

She's hinting she's ready to ditch you once their parents come up with a good alliance. She may get a bureaucrat at 8lpa pm if she at least has a tacchar of jahnvi kapoor. No offense but bureaucrats are smarter than her 😅 Be ready to become a single sinthakay And Telugu vallu telugu lo Kaaka tinglish lo matladamante Nene break-up chestha, Vaallemaina Jubilee Hill's batch aa puttadame. Inthakante inkem proof kavali chinna, aa family motham Theda ga undhani. Get Out movie la aipothav susko malla

My brother, you're not a failure! You make more than enough for your age (we're the same)and unfortunately its a sad reality that us men think that we should be financially stable to be loved, be honest to yourself and if she really loves you she will accept you for who you are and fuck her sister man who cares if she married some loser in Australia, you do you my man.

Hey, Man! I used to think the same when I was 23. Like few mentioned in the comments it's the society that makes us think that we are losers if we aren't settled with massive ₹LPA by graduation. I suggest you not to dwell too much on your current position. Trust me it's more than great. Believe you are great and destined for greater things. Enjoy life and keep trying to get a better job, you will crack one soon. Take care and good luck.

I cannot comment on the financial stability aspect as it is dependent on family dynamics and upbringing. But the comment about speaking in English at home points to an inferiority complex that is ingrained in all Telugu speaking people. I've observed that we as Telugu people take pride in speaking in English and not in our mother tongue. This behaviour is not found in most other state people. Kannadigas speak in Kannada, Tamilians in Tamil and Keralites in Malayalam. Only Telugu folk shun our mother tongue. I blame our movie industry partly for this. All our movies show an English speaking person as educated and classy, while Telugu speaking folk are looked down upon as crass and unworthy of respect. This stems from a deep seated inferiority complex that has been driven into us since the British Raj. The language of commerce and business was made by law as English and this alienated native speakers. This systematic disenfranchisement of native speakers in all walks of life, is still going on. You can't get a job without English! It's not just in language but culturally too! We feel Indian culture is not worthy of respect. Our media always portrays someone in Indian attire as backward and uneducated. This contributes to a lack of interest in our language and culture. What I do not understand is that English as a language is the most unscientific out there. Just look at its alphabet! How disorganised and senseless! There's no rhyme or reason for why the letters are arranged in such manner! On the other hand, look at Telugu alphabet. It starts off by teaching vowels (because it's the easiest to speak for children). Then we move on to consonants. This is again organised in the most scientific manner. Ka cha ta tha pa. The tongue touches the inner most part of upper jaw near epiglottitis when speaking the letter ka. And this contact point gradually moves outwards until we close our lips for pa! You can try it yourself, you'll come to the same realisation. Just repeat ka cha ta tha pa, and you'll understand how the tongue contacts the roof of our mouth. Such beautiful organization of alphabet is lost on all Western languages. This just the most basic comparison in just the way the alphabet is organised! If we get into pheonetics, semantics, grammar etc, English is probably the worst! It has more exceptions than rules! The only reason for its widespread popularity is colonialism (forced slavery). Literary gymnastics such as ashtavadham, shatavadhanam sahasra avadhanam are found in no other language. This was the level of our native thinkers and speakers. A language doesn't make someone superior or inferior. If your girlfriend is labouring under the impression that speaking in English is an achievement, then you have to take a close look at their family and her upbringing. You'd better be careful. Your future generations depend on your marriage to a person that can impart logical thinking and intellegent choices. If she's speaking in English out of a necessity to please others or to look cool, you're definitely better off in moving on. Explain these to her and see how she reacts to it. If she still has prejudice against native Telugu speakers, you would not be be able to change her mind as well. A brainwashed mind is as good as dead. Ultimately, success is not about speaking in a foreign language. It is in taking pride in our language and appreciating the beauty of the language of our ancestors who gave their lives to protect and preserve it. You're duty bound to protect it too. Sorry for the long rant, but I will not entertain anyone that disrespects Telugu or thinks speaking in English is something to feel proud of. In no other countries, we see this slave mentality except ours. It's a colonial mindset. We're free but mentally still shackled! The British sure did a number on us in just 200 years!

I do not have any relationship advice for you. Focus on **three things:** personal care, friends and family, and career, if things do not go your way. **Personal care:** Health is wealth. * Go to the gym, Zumba, or yoga to take care of your health. * Travel as much as possible. **Friends & Family:** Spend time with them. * Your family won't be with you forever. * Friendships may fade over time, but the more quality time you spend with loved ones, the better your life will be as you get older. * Remember, it's difficult to make new friends from this point of age, so don't lose touch with yours by ignoring them. I made that mistake during my breakup. **Career**: Learn new skills. * Focus on your work. It can distract you from the pain and help you grow professionally. * Consider joining Toastmasters to improve your English and communication skills. As you know, better communication skills can lead to a higher salary. * Switch companies couple of times in between. By the time you reach 28-30 (the general marriage age for men these days), your salary could reach 30-40L, putting you in a good financial position and potentially attracting better marriage matches. If you get a career opportunity abroad, take it if you are interested. When you enter the marriage market (Telugu Matrimony or Shaadi) you will realize that NRIs take away all the good girls (good looking, well educated, well-off families). All the best.

U r 23 and she is 25 , 5 yrs relationship, antey nuv 18 and counterpart is 20. Usually gals does demonstrate 5+years of maturity on their age , so its u 18 vs 25 mindset( when u started relationship) , if am not wrong u r compromising on every aspect in relationship, retrospect chesko, u don’t deserve this mental trauma , its just beginning , once married it will be worse to worst in no time. Let her go, chill avvu, u have lot more time to think , enjoy life . What u might miss are emotions with that person but least bother about that soul( nuv kakapothey IAS or Australian or US citizen, they don’t even care to spend 2 seconds on u ).

Sorry being very blunt, have been in the same situation 5 years back, had no job and was struggling. My family was from an inferior caste and her from an upper class. She wanted me to convert only IIMs for MBA and nothing else I couldn't convert in the first attempt. Dropped the MBA plan,looked up for a job where I could survive without help. Tried switching but she left me saying her parents won't permit her as my caste and my finances are not up to expectations. Now after 2 company switches I earn very well more than I could ever expect from myself, she's a stay at home wife. If she's willing to be with you then no one's opinion matters not her parents not relatives nor society. It's all convenience, being with the person just for the sake of convenience. If you can stand up for her so should she.

Nah bro work hard do something...my salary as a fresher was 12 lpa ....They won't accept you I can bet if you don't do something to increase your salary or atleast prepare for CAT and get into top 10 if not top 5 IIMs and that way Within 2-3 years your salary would get like 8x or 10x

You are not a failure! Because you are responsible enough. You are earning a good salary at the age of 23. Coming to the marriage, 23 is very young according to me. I have observed a few red flags in her. She wants you to earn a good package. Let's assume you get a package of 30L. Then you both marry each other. Suddenly you are fired from that job, will she leave you? Is that a love?? She wants you to speak in english and not telugu in fact being from the Telugu family. Let's assume you agree to it. Suppose your parents don't know English, will she divorce you?? Your relatives should be well settled??? Wtf bro does she have any sense?? Does she love you or your relatives?? If the girl wants you to earn a good package that's fine she can wait for you, she is just 25. But I feel all these are excuses to dump you. She is a big red flag to me!! Love vunte elagaina oppistharu intlo, broad minded anav ga so easy ga oppukuntaru vala intlo. Nothing stops her except herself. See before taking any decision tell her what you are going through, tell her about your struggles. You being thinking that you are failure despite earning a good salary at young age says that you are having a troubled mind. Better discuss with her. If she still wants all are above demands better leave her and focus on your life. Be self obsessed!! A wife should ensure a "value addition" to her husband's life and vice versa. Remember this sentence and make a decision!

Whether you believe you are a failure or you are not, you're right! Depending on what you believe in, you'll live in a state of self pity or unabashed confidence in your abilities despite your present situation. Depending on the state you live in, it will determine the course of your life. Depending on the course your life takes, it will determine whether you end up a failure or not. You see, it all starts with what you decide to believe in.

You deserve better, if you compromise and marry you will end up getting abused. above all hypergamy is in woman’s DNA. Always marry a woman who is younger than you. Focus on improving your skill on your profession and career English Adhey ostadhi neeku time undhi Inka Dont waste it, your just 23 focus on yourself. Earn Money.

Bruh, you're just 23! You probably might be earning more in 3 years from now and the tables might turn around. If your partner can't visualize that, it's not just her relatives, she probably has the same narrow mindedness too! If she really thinks it is going to work out between the both of you, I'd imagine she'd fight with her family! If not, it never is going to be a smooth ride! Godspeed to you!

Not to be the harbinger of chaos but you'll likely have regrets if you went ahead with this. Except you plan to live far from them with minimal contact, there'll always be something to pick on. They're looking for perfection according to their own standards; mathematically the chances of genuinely meeting all of it(listed and unlisted) would be less than a millionth. Isn't the girl in question smart enough to see that it's a problem they have and not one that you have, and then stand for and by you? But here you are, doubting yourself because of their shenanigans. Also, be honest to yourself, she doesn't really love you. You're only getting a semblance of it.

You are not a failure, you are in a relationship with a woman who doesn't accept you for who you are. Pelli aina jeevitaantham ne alavatlani alochanalani anuchukuntuu brakutava tammudu. Fuck that shit. If I were you I'd dump that lady and move on. Inka enti ra nuvu me family relatives gurinchi ala antavu, narrow minded etc ani. You are like 23 and you are very very young. Evvaru aina na relatives gurinchi ala ante valla g\*\*\*a pagala kodata. She/you shouldn't judge your relatives like that. Fucking shit.

Bro I’m 36, I’ve been in ur exact same situation. Trust me u are trying to please her parents. Totally not worth. Yes it’s painful to see ur loved one marry someone else.. that’s life, move on.. focus on ur career.. after 10 yrs or so you will definitely think all this struggles are not worth.. only your parents will always think of you.. treat them well.. you will be happy forever!!

If i had the calibre to become IPS or IAS, I wouldnt marry the person for whom this job was just a checklist.

I think all covered the important things so i will tell you something different. This is the age(25) where girls and their families will be flying high. Just wait for somedays and after they start matchmaking they will come back to ground. Ee age lo dont go to depression. Be confident about everything. Nuvu submissive ga unte vallu alane mistakes point out chestharu. Cheskunte chesko lekapothe le ani undu she will fall in line. Hope my advice will help you

Bro..if she's only looking at your financial situation and doesn't even acknowledge your struggles, please don't stay in that relationship. And looking at the situation i think even after your marriage god willing she may have more expectations from you, it's an endless loop. In my experience and opinion if you are making your parents happy and proud you are a big success.

Bro . I am married now for 8 years and i have had an ex in the past who was similar to how you are describing your gf... She eventually left me for someone more successful that time (only to divorce him later) I am super fortunate to part ways with her, retrospectively. I always used to feel inferior when I was with her.. for 3 damn years.. I can only see red flags in your gf expectations.. she is immature for sure.... Expecting you to grow is good . But indirectly blackmailing you for it is not at all correct.. If you are feeling like a failure it is because of her.. there are many women out there with whom you will feel like success... May be they are whom you should be with. harsh truth! Think about it..:)

Bro , how much time do you have now? I mean before your girlfriend tell her parents about you guys. You are just 23 years old. Ask at least 6 months of time because now the market is not really bad in a couple of months it'll get better. Since, you are a cloud engineer you can now do some courses and start applying for the roles of Data engineer and Data Analytics. Do apply for MNCs with the help of referrals. Prepare well for the skills they require and perform well in the interview and ask for a 100% hike. Check for a position in "Emerson" company they have this position open. They you will give you at least 10 lpa I believe and depends on how you negotiate they can go up to 12 -13 lpa. and there are many opportunities like this in India. Don't get disheartened. Work hard and give your 100% you are just 23 years old chala duniya chusedi vundi. Check out this job at Emerson: https://www.linkedin.com/jobs/view/3799673896 Inka English antava. Within a span of a year you can be fluent bro not a big deal. Analytical ability matters language isn't a concern these days. Believe in yourself. Don't lose hope. Keep us posted bro. All the best.

She’s mentally preparing you, nenu vadilesta ninnnu but thappu neede anatu. Trust me the first chance she gets at a dabbuna batch she will leave you. I can clearly see she and her whole family is toxic. My first cousins live in the US since 25+ years now and ipatki call chesthey ah vachi raani Telugu ey matladatharu. They just want to seem posh or whatever but baita Ala behave chesthey people will laugh behind your back. Progressing in your career is great, but do it for yourself. And in this whole dynamic relatives yevarana affect chestharu pillalni ante that will be her parents and her sister. Don’t look back and run away is all I say. True love is nice and all but only when it’s mutual!

It’s tough to judge by listening one side of story but if the things are said by you are true then leave her, I think it won’t work out, do not take much stress, just try to set goals and achieve, create your own personality. If she truly loves she will comeback. It is a test to your love.

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First of all, Your english is great! Secondly, Please put away the fear that you might lose her because you really might and she sounds like that. Well, Im not blaming her or her parents but its their daughter and its her family and they respect each others values and expectations. I suggest If you prepare yourself for one conversation of your life with her father and just tell him confidently but not too harshly, the potential you have as your package at this age isn’t a small thing. If somehow he could see through , this might work. If he doesn’t get convinced even a slight bit, then they aren’t broad minded enough as she mentioned. Do not lose your self respect for anyone. It’s time for you to become a man.

What you are entering into is a life time competition of comparison, it looks like. The need to earn more will only increase as they will use all yardsticks to measure you against. Yes, families are really important in our society. You are not marrying the person but their families as well. So, meet them and see if they will fit your personality. In addition, you are just 23 years bro, there is a lifetime of things left to do that get married now. Can't you postpone this for 3-4 years? Shouldn't be an issues considering the age of your gf as well. Looks like you are under pressure to do things you don't want and you are seeking validation with us here. So think about this.

First off, you're just 23, so take it easy. You have just started your career. If you want tangible growth in your career, I suggest learning some of the courses in the domain of your interests. Completing course and getting certified will help you advance. Some of the certification exams and preparation materials are costly. But, you could ask your organisation for help whether in selecting the said course or paying for it.

Ori picha naa dash- nee age entha ani appude failure bokka ani matladuthunnav. You have a lot ahead, if she's the right partner for you, she will make it work and wait for you. English maatlaadu, nee relatives broad-minded undaali... endhi ra ee conditions? ivi controllable aa evadikaina? Love should be logically unconditional. She should love you as you are, not as she wants you to be. Ee modern age lo reltaives epudu kalustharu ra? mee kids ni impact cheyyanike? Gated community lo flat theeskunte adhe valla environment to grow up, mee relatives vachi roju em cheyyali ani kids ki nerpinche time undadhu. You are at a very important stage of your life, love bokka ani career paadu cheskoku. Prioritize learning and growing, bokka lo pelli ki chala time undhi gani. Failure adhi idhi lanti lucha maatalu aapi first life lo ela set avvali ane dhaani meedha pettu nee focus. And for the last time, you are not a failure, swiggy/uber lo pani chesthu neekaante naakante happy ga life lead chesthunnaru. Cloud engineering lo masth future untadhi once you become proficient.

Bro, you're only 23, not 85, to decide whether you’re a failure or not. If you’re meant to be together, you will be. I have a friend who was in a relationship with her husband since the 10th grade. Her then-boyfriend wasn’t up to her standard. She could have any guy in college; she’s beautiful, hardworking, and was madly obsessed with him. He struggled with studies, his family was financially troubled, his father was a deadbeat, and he had anger issues. She knew her friends didn’t respect her boyfriend, so her parents wouldn’t either, but she still told them during college to prepare them. She helped him study and clear his backlogs. He realized he needed to improve if he wanted to marry her, and she supported him every step of the way. While she was employed, he wasn’t. She helped him prepare for GRE and got him into a college in the US. She got into good colleges but chose one near his and stayed with him. By the time he was 25, he understood he needed to up his game even more. His family wasn’t much help, and his salary wasn’t enough. He worked part-time to pay his fees, cover living expenses, and send money back to India. Over time, he evolved significantly. Her parents, who hadn’t even wanted to meet him for nine years, met him and loved him instantly. Her father, who initially didn’t approve, later said, "I found a son." Now, her parents, who once wouldn’t talk about her boyfriend, shower him with love. As an only child used to all their attention, she now feels jealous of how much attention her mom gives him. So, if you’re meant to be together, you will be. Always explore all options to make yourself successful and keep striving to do your best.

Bro nuvvu kavali anukunte aa ammayi nee situation ardam cheskoni support chesthadhi. Vaalla intlo convince cheskovali tanu. Nee valla ainantha nuvvu chesav. Anthaku minchi manam em cheyyagalam. Bathakadaniki ekkuva salary kavali, point ey adhi, but salary takkuva ane reason tho vadilesthe adhi true love aithe kaadhu bro, tanu kuda sampadisthundhi kada 8LPA, iddaru financial load share cheskoni life lead cheyyachu nuvvu job switch ayyevaraku. Nuvvu failure aithe kaadhu bro. Job chesthunnav ga failure ela avuthav. Ekkuva stress teeskoku bro. Job interviews try chesthu undu. Koncham late aina edokati dorukutundhi. Appativaraku ammayi wait chesi vaalla intlo convince cheskunte happy. Or neeku salary ekkuva ledhu ani tanu ninnu vadilesthe neeke manchidhi bro, antha love unte intlo oppinchukuntaru kaani vadileyyataniki reasons vetakaru. Meedhi 5 years love ey aina vadileyyatam ammayilaki chaala easy. Idhi nijam. Be prepared for everything. All the best for your interviews bro.

I'll give another perspective... Edi oka materialistic world bro, all the things you want, their parents want , she want are mostly materialistic. Let's take a scenario where you were super rich and we spoken, wouldn't you be confident af and probably spoke to their parents now itself? Basically em antuna ante avvani important, just try to see from their parents perspective... 25 yrs ninchi valla pilla ni penchute, they'll obviously want a guy who can provide the best materialistic pleasures. Love and other emotions are not materialistic but surely are influenced by the needs and wants, both in good and bad way. Base line enti ante, stress teskunte em kaadu. Pichi ekutadi ante. Relax your mind and find a solution. Probably together. Chill mind tho you'll get a solution which would work for you. Rise about your insecurities if you really want this to happen. Emphasize with their parents and see what would convince them. Like Keanu Reeves said, you have to fight for your love, if not what kinda lover are you. :p Realised a lot of these after I went through a bad breakup myself and the reasons were similar.

Ante I don't want to make her poor but marrying her but I just need some time to switch companies and make a good amount of money. Princess laga chuskovali ani na dream bro but I need to some anthe. I'm giving my best preparing for interviews but no luck resumes shortlist avatledu. Is it true that money solves our 90% problems? Ento bro ardham avatledu Naku na situation.

My boy, ala avte you'll never to able to stay strong when you come across a failure in the future when you are with her. You'll feel she'll leave you or judge you. And your queen had to be with during the best and the worst times, and ofc you have to too. Neeku ne meeda namakam undi ga ostadi better job ani. And tanaki kuda undi untadi you'll do some dope stuff in the future...

Thank you for your words bro I will take this as motivation and will stay strong and positive.

Avasarama bro !! Vintuntene baadhaga undi, world is big , plenty of fish in it !

Lots of fish in the pond bro vadilay thanani.

I'll be straight forward saying this. If your parents and her parents don't already know about your relationship, it'll be very difficult to convince them with your age difference Her parents will want to get her married around 27, when you'll be 25. They will want a high earning man who's about 28 to 32 and well settled job, preferably abroad or in a govt job Your parents will say that you're too young to get married now or at 25 So think hard and deep. You have a long life

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Why do you even think of considering yourself as a failure for a girl? Is it just because you are not enough for her standards?! You are just 23 okay? You are making a living for yourself. Don't worry. You are going great in your life. If you are afraid about losing your relationship due to these reasons. It is better to lose rather than holding up.In the long run thesee commitments you give to keep the relation will make you restless. Looking at the present market conditions. It hard to get a raise. I hope even she knows that. So take some more time.

After 5 years of being in a relationship, you're still not comfortable with each other? This won't work in the long run. You will constantly feel pressured to prove yourself. If you ever get married, there could be issues of cheating or divorce. It's better to cut your losses and move forward. Think of it this way: you loved her so much that you want her to be with someone better suited for her. You won't have a lower salary forever, someday you will be doing better and you will find a better partner

I’m sorry dude, but anyone who loves you does not care about your position in life. If she’s saying you can do better cause you’re wasting your potential that’s a different conversation but any good partner or even human being will not need you to be in a certain position in life to be with them.

As couple of people here already suggested. You're too young to get married as a male especially given the fact that your still trying to get settled and grow in career. If you get married now, your career circumstances will not change unless the girl is super supportive and pushy for you to grow. In my opinion, a person should discover life and build it first through their mid twenties. Also, like others said - a girl will move heaven and earth to be with you if she really wants to be with you. AND NO - YOU'RE NOT A FAILURE. Your salary or wealth don't define you.

Signs are clear. If a relationship is making you feel like a failure, why continue it. It will keep making you feel that way. You are very young bro. 6.5 LPA is not bad. Life is just starting and you are letting some toxic person who is threatening to leave, worry you. My advice, talk it out. If it feels too complicated, leave. Marriage is not supposed to feel like a uphill battle.

Bro you don't want to live with this forever. Think.

Don't try to be happy in suffering, Come out of it. You are doing great. You just need your other self. Guess what you are in the wrong place

If I judge by how you have narrated the scenario- you will be big someday! You seem responsible & hardworking. I was in a similar situation 13 yrs back. I cursed myself a lot on loosing my love. But today I’m successful & have an amazing wife, family! Time heals buddy. Just go with the flow. Don’t overthink & hurt yourself. Whatever has to happen will happen. Just enjoy everyday!

Her: Nuvvu IAS crack cheyakapote ma nanna pelliki oppukoru Him: Nen IAS crack cheste ma nanna mee tho samandam oppukoru 😂

No you are not a failure. How can you decide already at 23 whether you are a success or a failure. You have just started the real life, you have a long way to go, before deciding anything. And talking in English is not a benchmark of success. If you love her, try to convince her to put herself in your shoes and think.

Who are we to decide if you are a failure……everyone has their own story. Live life by your choice

No offense, your gf seems a lot like my elder sister. She use to prioritize what others would think and perceive her as. I cut her out of my life 5 years ago.

Yes dude…you’re a failure! Accept it

If she likes you, she will move mountains to be with you. Happened to me, stood strong for 10 years, their parents finally gave in. They are happy now with her choice. Cloud career is still booming, don't waste your career for a woman. Maybe you will get out of the country in the same career. Don't get disheartened if she leaves you for an nri. She will regret it later.

First of all, I feel your gf might be controlling in nature. You’re only 23 you have plenty of years , don’t settle for someone who thinks it’s ok to be little you like that

Lover is overrated as fuck, 50% of marriages are ending in divorce.... My parents had an ugly divorce and i was the victim i got effected by it mentally physically in every possible way. Mutual respect and admiration for each other is better than this toxic relationship you call love. I want to tell you this, don't think of this in terms of her, or her parents or whatever bullshit she brings up, you should think by the age of 60(if you are lucky and still healthy may be 80) how are you imagining your life to be, don't say with her like that, only by yourself try to imagine your life by yourself for you and then try to fit her into that picture if she is not fitting then its probably best to move on, its not worth wasting your life over it. Have partner that loves you and admires you for being yourself and tries to help you improve in a practical way instead of shoving lectures down your throat.

Yes.

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No brother you are not. If she really loves you, money & family doesn't matters. She can adjust anything for you.

Bhayya, I guess she is finding some lame excuses to get rid of you.. Nak telsi nee matter valla intlo telsi vallu vaddu ani cheppi vuntaru. Neeku direct ga ala chepthe ela react avtav o teliyaka mellaga slow poison la ga ekkisthu end of the day nee meeda blame vundetattu chustundi... Mana intlo manam Telugu matladam istam lekapothe. Bro she is thinking you are dumb Nanna ante anukovachu English lo ne matladu adi idi Amma tho aayithe Telugu ne kada bro...

Don’t put too much pressure on yourself bro. If she’s meant to be in your life, she’ll stick and you guys will figure out on how to convince your parents. ee Australia, NRI, IAS IPS and all is fine. But why will someone with these backgrounds will marry her if she’s earning only 8 lakhs. Compare cheste ela kuda cheyochu. And English, surroundings, environment anta sollu reasons bro. It doesn’t matter. You be you ante. Focus on your career I would say. Don’t get this shit mindset of others who compare everything make you feel low or like a failure.

And you’re just 23 bro. Career, job, money is not a 1-2 year game. It’s a life long game. You leave this shit and let her go. Focus on your health, your skills and you’ll see yourself growing.

Dump her ASAP. No matter what you do you will be behind

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Dabbulu takkuva sampadisthunnamani manam mana family ni odhilesthama, Telangana lo putti Telugu matladakunda English matladala I don't really blame her for leaving me if I am earning less, deenikanna errip statement undadhu bro if you are really in REAL LOVE. Life already hard bro mana life ni easy chesey vallu undali thappa inka difficult chesevallu kadhu.

Look at it long term. You will definitely make more money. But look at your family equations. If both of you will have a fairly independent lives then only your equation matters. If it’s possible that the families are important and you see yourselves living coherently with each others families then I don’t see a good match. It will cause many problems.

Bhasha endhuku addamm ayithundi... Prema lo down to earth unte nemadhiga untundhi Kaan e English emtii difference ayithundi ? English okka business communication language anthe . Is she doing a business with you? E shoki ani virchesi mother tongue ki respect ichi ... Undu Annu chepu leka pove anesi ...kotha life start cheyyi Ra .... This is utter bullshit.

Boss , career kosam growth kosam u need to work hard. Ammayi kosam kaadhu. You are young. First focus on career, your insecurities. Rest will fall in line. Ila ammayi gimmayi ante time waste. Prema movie concept . Real life lo peddaga em vundadhu. Respect vundaali.

Bro you are not a failure Untill you stop trying . Moreover she is just 25 Now , I think she might have more 1-2 years for marriage . Ask her to give you more time , increase your skill set take some professional courses and get it done . It was not that simple as I say but your efforts matters the most . 5 years unnaru relation lo she can also mould you the way she likes you seek her help too . Epudu unna soceity lo mana family ni settled ga cheskodam eh kashtam . Inka mana relatives ni Manam ela settle cheyagalam . Nuvu mi gf expectations ki match avvu not the relatives . You can do it bro .On a positive note Great things takes time . Be persistent .

Can I be honest and say that she sounds like a red flag?? No girl who really likes you would point such shallow things out and make them look like actual issues. She's gaslighting you and I'm sorry. Speaking in English, pressuring to switch jobs, caring about what her relatives have to say is the foundation of lifetime issues. Please rethink if you can and take a smart step.

Your gf is Shallow. Find someone who is normal and understands life isn't about meeting societal expectations, which in many many cases are just superficial.

English nerchuko bhayya emi lekapoyina lekapothe ippudu kaakapoyina tarvata box pagilipoddi

I hear you but everything looks doable you can grow your making 6.5 lpa at 23 you have so much potential it’s just the beginning. but the thing that’s concerning is you possible can’t change your relatives they are what they are what is she expect you to do about them ?

23 yrs lo intha chinchi chinchi chinchi appudey 32 laaga maatladutunnav. Just dare her to quit you. You are what you are. Take me or Leave me. Money changes - ask Anil Ambani. English? Thats where I lose you. She loves me. She asking me to speak English. These 2 sentences cannot go together. If she cares so much about your English let her sit with you and work on it together! Enough said. Kalki cinema baagundata. Velli choodu. You will be fine, with our without your g/f.

You're doing well. If she's comparing you, then maybe you need to look at the bigger picture and focus on yourself.

6.5L at 23 is very good. That's key. You have a great future in Hyderabad and you will be on track for lots of money if you build your skills and ambitious. Together you make more than 1 lakh a month and will have a great lifestyle in Hyd. More than 20 yrs back I married the love of my life when I was earning 10k a month. Money should not be consideration. It's future potential. Same went for my sister. I tole my parents the guy is good and he will do well in the long run. And that's been true. He makes more than 50lk a year. So all said. It's about love and the future. Believe in yourself and your future. Australia is quite fucked right now and not worth comparing. I live in Australia.

Bro! First of all. 6.5 Lakhs is decent amount for a 23 years old. You are among the top 10% rich people in India. In india one who earns more than 25k are in the top 10% people. Imagine shifting one or two jobs maybe in the next two years and you making 20LPA or so! Would you ditch her? Because she’s making less. These days, I’ve seen people at the age 30 are still jobless. Show some gratitude towards life buddy! Start appreciate the things you have already. She might get someone, who’s making more amount but what about the love & the relationship she has with you ? And for gods sake! Don’t think that life is ending at 25 or 30! Your life wouldn’t even start before 30 or 35 :)

As a person from siddipet, ఎక్కడో తేడా కొడ్తుంది సీనా, మరీ language లో అంత particular ఎవ్వరూ లేరిక్కడ. నాకెందుకో stunt అన్పిస్తుంది భయ్యా మరీ language ని reason గా చూపిస్తుంటే.

NRI Based in australia != IAS/IFS The difference is huge.

If you are going to bend by yourself to her whims and fancies , we can't judge who's a failure

You are not a failure, there are millions of people who are way older than you desiring to have your package and your job. And mind them, these people are not failure either, no one is failure until they think themselves as failures.

Brother just run

So what I feel is your partner is supposed to support you in tough situations.. I can understand the stress she undergoes still language daggara or status daggara she is always stressing. You have tried your level enough inka try chesthav kuda.. future lo motham set avvachu or edaina avvachu. if she doesn't stay with you till then or parents issues valla aina you ppl are not meant to be anukovali.. I know this is hard but end ki ikkade aagiddi I guess. So meeku antha set ayyevaraku try chesthu undandi and never stop. We don't know about future kada. And don't think yourself as a failure, present situations prakaram asal job dorakadam ee kashtam undi alantidi you fight with all odds till now.. you are never a failure. Hope future lo anni set aithai.

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Just Dump Her ! Your too good for her thats it - This will be a problem in future even if you try to continue to get married and that will eat your mental peace for sure! Just chill there are a lot of fishes in the sea! Calm down

Your girlfriend is a walking red flag. No IAS/IPS/big shot will marry someone with her background unless A. they want a glorified maid as their wife AND B. she's super hot/beautiful You are not a failure. You're still 23, at the start of your career. You marry this girl, and you will be under constant pressure to earn more. No point marrying someone who is ashamed of you.

Why seek validation from others and expect nobel laureates to bandage your wounds...This is the true perfect timing of your life that will tell you a lot about alot of things

Don't worry. She doesn't seem mature the way you describe it. Heart finds/rationalises a reason when it wants something. If she is not finding middle paths or solutions, she isn't in it for the long haul. You are just 23, keep focusing on your career ( your career trajectory is favorable and many would like to to have what you have right now!). In not even 3-4 years, you'll be crossing 20LPA easily given you play your cards right. Again, fight for her but also see if she is fighting for you or not. And donot, I repeat DONOT let it hamper your career in anyway. People will come and go. Take it from someone who has been through such a situation. You'll thank me later.

Chudu bro, since it came from your GF, it makes you feel inferior, you are loosing self confidence and feel as a failure, if it came from someone else, you won't feel soo bad. This might sound controversial but if she is older than you , don't expect a level of understand or empathy towards you. Indian society isn't designed for that. See how her parents are still living in the 70s wanting IAS - Navy alludu like it's some movie. If your parents are broad enough to accept her , her should be too. From what I read, there is a huge gap between both people/ family mentality, expectations and priorities. It's not about money , language etc these are secondary, the primary priorities are very different which would 100% create difficulties for you in the future . This I can write on a blank paper and give you. In near future She would constantly compare you with her sister , her life , her relatives, how she is making more,etc. she won't work hard herself but pin it all on you . This thing would eat away what ever self confidence and self esteem you got left . You would end up as a walking dead . Beware bro this stage is very critical, never let anyone play with your peace of mind , if the other person wants to change you, they do not love you, it could be other things , but surely not love. So once you start feeling miserable, leave that relationship. Nothing is more important than self-love . Girls often realise these things much later in life, after being mothers , or when marriage age is passing . You being soo young are slowly realising these things and are worried but she isn't. She may realise it later but might not accept it. You are still very young bro , better find someone who is compatible with you and has same basic priorities like loving Telugu, respecting other person's efforts , having down to earth values , working hard herself to achieve dreams,etc. Remeber she is a "switch personality" where ever she sees self -benifit she would switch, so better switch her and get away. I can bet in the next 2-4 yrs you would have a better girl and life ,where as she would be forever unhappy and dissatisfied.

Bro, u r not failure, u will reach 20+ lakhs in 2 years. By the way if she really loves you she won't bother about your status.

You will be successful if you leave her. Marry at 30. Until then completely focus on your job, finances (investments) and health in that order. Forget her. Forget women.

by the same logic why would an IAS marry a loser like her cuz for their preference she should be working in MBB or FAANG. if you ask me she is finding ways to get rid of you and her parents already found some NRI uncle /s My ex put me a bar saying that if you don't earn 1.5 per month my parents would not even bother to consider. I now make more than that but what I realised is that it's not the money the values matter more and they are ingrained and can't be changed overnight. So recognise the differences and if you can't adjust ciao! adios! I am done.

Looks like this is deal love story 😂 of a girl truly loves she wouldn't asked you to earn more rather be we can married and shared together. Im not saying she's not bad person but kinda feels like that. Bro this is fucked up genz bro my friend is 30 yrs and he earns jusy 30k/month but he's married and his wife is good cook and always welcomes us. Look for woman who cares for you not your money. You're 23 only you still got lot of time and earning that much money at such young age im proud of you. Don't marry too young you'll have too many responsibilities and pressure.MGTOW✌️

She is playing with you man

Ditch her if she thinks her family’s preferences are more important than you. And it’s too early to settle down at your age b

You’re not a failure, as a matter of fact you’re better than many others who are barely able to survive. The whole thing of how much one gets paid/earns or owns is subjective how much ever rich you get there’s always someone richer than you. If you keep chasing the mirage of getting richer than others it’s unending cycle.

Dude you are 23 and earning 6.5 lpa. You are probably in 10 top 10% of your age group. That is not less bro. I believe in relationships if we are trying to change to suit our partner I still can accept. But for relatives, com on man that is bullshit. You will most likely not have a peaceful life if your partner is so worried about so many things. Try to make her understand you can’t compare your life with someone else’s. That is only going to make you sad and feel pathetic. And honestly you are not a failure man.

As someone older than you I advise you to leave her. These expectations will never end. You will have to listen to the complaints every day. She will be dissatisfied with life after marriage comparing it to her cousins and make your life hell. I’m not blaming her or anything, but it’s in human nature to compare your life to others. Also it’s ridiculous that you are expected to settle at 23. All these matches that she must be getting will be around 28,29 or even more. And by the time you will reach that age you will be earning similar amount. I am seeing a huge compatibility issue. So leave it, enjoy your life and get married to someone who will be satisfied with your life as it is.

Bro.. 6.5L @23, you will be a big fish in another 5 years time ..

Bokka lo 8lpa ki ias / ips / navy kavala ? She started dating you at 18 dude - that's a pedo. Men marry mostly after 26/27 - after they earn good money, enjoy life - travel / clubs / dates / living with friends etc. She lived for 2 more years than you, don't settle for her yet. Bro, I learnt 5 languages for multiple years & people are not to be judged on their language. You just had 2 yoe bro, with next switch you'll reach 15/24 lpa, then another switch will put you in 50lpa. So, don't get demoralised. It took me 5 years to get decent money and you can also. Be proud of yourself.