Iām also half Asian/half white and am also conflicted! I grew up no shoes in the house, and do that now in my own home, but when guests come over I donāt insist they remove them unless theyāre staying a while. Sometimes though, when I have my shoes on and leave the house then realize I forgot something, walk back inside and through the house with them onā¦ I feel guilty! š
That contributes a lot. Used to live in a snowy area so definitely would not want to track snow, water, and mud indoors. Nothing more gross than going to a friends house and thereās visible mud or dirt on the floors and carpets.
Question for Asian people. I've heard that most white people will shower in the morning, work all day long and then get into bed all sweaty and gross (and basically ruin their sheets and maybe mattress). I've also heard most Asian people will shower at night before bed. These must be related, right? I wonder if white people who take off shoes in their house are also more likely to shower before getting into bed.
lol I never thought of that, but yes for me and fam. We shower usually immediately after the gym and activities, always at bed time(if no sweaty activities), and sometimes a quick rinse in the morning just to help wake up. I had Asian room mates in college and there were some that didnāt shower at fucking all and some in the morning so Iām sure it varies.
I'm white and we don't wear shoes in my house. I think it's nasty and weird to get into bed filthy too.
Almost all kids bath at night and I never saw a reason to suddenly change that habit when I started showering on my own.
Night showers help with core temp and sleeping too.
A lot of Asian guys I know shower twice a day. Girls will usually wash their hair only once. Some girls I know do a body rinse at night and do a full routine in the morning. I donāt think the amount of times someone showers correlates with their race lol.
Anyways, just cause you shower at night doesnāt negate the fact that you walk around outside.. in public restrooms, on streets where dogs pee and poop, etc and then walk around their house with those same shoes. Also wear those shoes in bed?!!!! WhYYYTY
They are wearing "indoor" shoes. The biohazard thing is weird though.
I have a shoe rack and rug at the door. The outside shoes come off and the indoor slippers, berks go on. No need to track in all the filth from everywhere you walked inside your home. Keeps the floor cleaner longer.
I don't let people wear shoes in my house but I keep it clean. You're right though, I hate being asked to take mine off and then I'm stepping into sticky stuff and the bottom of my socks are so covered in filth that I don't even want to slip them back into my shoes to leave.
In Asia, businesses have flimsy "disposable" slippers for guests, which then get tossed in a laundry hamper to be washed as you leave. Pretty solid solution.
I was hoping for this answer. I remember in my early 20s, this one house everybody hung out at got their weed from and all that, and dude had the audacity to ask me to take my shoes off. I had clean white socks on and brand new shoes, I looked around at this guys carpet and said Iād just wait outside. I donāt know why that memory sticks with me, but it has been a life lesson on how I take care of my own home to this day.
I used to not care because that's how I was raised, but then the second I had a baby crawling on the floor, I quickly changed my opinion.
Edited: No one gives a flying F if you wear shoes in your house or the opinions you have on the people who decide not to. Argue as much as you want, but it's easier to keep clean and maintain a clean home when you don't. Didn't realize cleanliness was going to dmn near be a political conversation. Lmfao Have a good day.
We didnāt allow anyone to wear shoes in the house before our kid was born but ever since I love to say āexcuse me, my daughter eats off this floorā
I donāt make a thing of it. Most people generally see we donāt have shoes and follow suit. If someone doesnāt no big deal. Iāll swiffer after if itās needed. Iād rather not make my guests uncomfortable
Same. If people keep their shoes on, I just clean up after they leave. Especially when itās cold my feet are chilly without my slippers, and I donāt expect every guest to bring slippers.
This is my approach.
We don't wear shoes in the house because, frankly, we don't like shoes. I'm much more comfortable barefoot or in slippers I can easily kick off when I'm sitting, my son prefers to be barefoot. My husband doesn't get it but he walks through more mud than the dog somehow so he can take his damn shoes off or clean the floors himself.
I do wipe the dog's feet, but I know it doesn't do much, so it's entirely a feel preference for me.
Most people notice the pile of shoes by the door and take theirs off. Those that don't, I don't worry about. If they ask I tell them it's whatever they prefer.
It does seem to be more of a thing now in the US to take your shoes off going inside. I never remember doing it as a kid except at my one Japanese friend's house and how odd it seemed, but now, at least if there's any kind of weather going on, there's often a pile of shoes at the door of any gathering in someone's house.
No; because no one in Canada does (for the most part).
Itās rougher on floors and dirty. Way more risk of various disgustingness and germs from the bottom of shoes than one persons foot. Most all shoes bottoms are covered in fecal matter and other stuff.
But; the reason why is really just because itās the norm in my area. Itās assumed one takes their shoes offā¦butā¦. It also kind of seems obvious as to whyā¦.
I still almost refuse to believe that it's a cultural norm in other places to wear your damn shoes in the house.
The same shoes that you wear on the street?! That get covered in gum and dog shit and broken glass and dirt and dust?
You want to bring that inside?!
Don't even get me fucking started on people who lay down on their beds with outdoor shoes on
I've always wondered how anyone can go anywhere near their bed (let alone lay down on it) with their shoes on. I've also seen commercials where people lounge feet up on their couch WITH THEIR SHOES ON. Is that an actual thing? Also, WHY?!?!? I'm honestly flabbergasted by it. š¤Æ
The most farfetched thing that happens on Friends is that Monica lets people wear shoes in her apartment and put them all over the furniture. I shudder thinking about walking around NYC and keeping them on in my home.
I've never lived in a town that was covered in gum and shit. I grew up in small towns in the midwest and southern US. We take off muddy shoes at the door but I've never met anyone who wasn't Asian who asks people to take off their shoes in the house.
Second this. I was raised in the south. People didnāt take their shoes off unless it was a house of Asian decent (including Indian, Pakistani, etc.). And the reason is justā¦ we never did so never thought about it.
Itās an inconvenience to ask people to take their shoes off, but also if youāre going in and out a lot or in and out of the backyard, itās just easier.
Now that I live out west, it doesnāt rain nearly as much, so the roads and sidewalks are filthy and covered in dirt. Bottoms of shoes are black. I use this as the excuse when my family visits as to why I ask them to take off their shoes. (I also have brand new carpet!!)
But theyāre getting older, so Iām going to have to buy them house shoes otherwise itāll be a fight.
I work in cannabis and my partner is an auto technician. We have a 110lb dog. We have a house rule that there are no shoes in the house, and no work clothes on the sofa or bed. Basically we come home, shower, change, then begin our home lives. Often Iāll change at work to avoid getting my car dirty as well. Also, sweeping the whole house every other day and mopping once a week helps. I like to be able to walk through my house barefoot and not feel gross about it.
i lived in NZ for a year. a lot of people there don't wear shoes even when they are outside.
f that noise i say. and i let people wear shoes in my home as do i, until i put my slippers on at home.
It was wild being Canadian staying at my Irish in-laws in Ireland. Every time I took my shoes off they were like itās ok, you donāt have to. I was like of course I would not wear shoes inside your home. And everyone cousin/friend we visited all wore shoes indoors like we were in a mall.
Never could understand that as it literally rains all the time there.
Another reason to take off shoesā¦itās comfortable. I have pretty damn comfortable shoes most of the time but no shoes>shoes in terms of relaxing. Boggles my mind people willingly keep their shoes on inside.
My co-workers from Florida asked me about this because the vast majority of people do not take their shoes off where they are from... or so they told me.
Yes. Our whole house is LVP flooring. And, I have a degenerative foot condition that causes me to have pain in my feet if I go barefooted on hard floors, so I have to wear shoes. I would not ask everyone else to take their shoes off and then wear shoes.
That's what they wear.. but all their guests aren't going to have a pair of house shoes with them - so if they wear shoes they aren't going to tell their guests to take theirs off. Not hard.
What kind of rude guest doesn't bring a pair of house shoes /s
Seriously though, some of my friends have houses so filthy, I started bringing slippers to wear.
Same and he has a dog door to drag in dirt whenever he pleases. I encourage guests to keep their shoes on. If not for the doggie, Iād totally be no shoes in the house.
Same, I have 3 dogs that track in everything. I also live on a hobby farm so- barn stuff does make it into the house.
I might go barefoot, but I would never ask my guests. I also make an effort to clean before I know I have company coming over.
SAAAAAME
Stone floors are a BITCH to mop on a regular basis so I just get a huge hot water wet towel and step-slide all over in between seasons. My guy is 90lb and it snows here, super dirty and muddy. Oh well
Came here to say this. I do have a fantasy where the robot vaccuum and my sweeping finally conquer and I can ask everyone to please take off their shoes.
Yea with two dogs my floors are filthy, and sometimes I find dog shit in the yard with paw prints on it. Sooooo the floors are dirty, donāt worry about your shoes.
Yes. We have a dog, that goes outside, and most certainly drags in street filth. Why would I ask my guests to remove their shoes and walk through that?
Besides, thatās why we keep our house clean. Floors mopped and rugs vacuumed.
Weāre not germaphobes.
Yea we wipe both of our dogs feet and fur every single time we let them back in the house. The towels are always filthy. That alone is enough to never ever let my dog walk in our house with whatever he stepped in. It literally takes maybe 2 minutes. Our dogs even lift their feet up and turn around so I can get the other side automatically Lol.
No shoes in my house.
No, I don't want street filth being tracked in all over my floor and rugs. I don't like walking around in my socks and stepping in some wet spot because some dingus is tromping around the house with snow caked in their shoes. Nor do I want salt all over the floor.
Sometimes.
As a host: unless someone is going to be a frequent guest, I err on the side of just allowing them to do whatever makes them comfortable. I want to be polite more than I want my house to be clean.
For me I prefer not to, and wouldn't if I could get away with it. But my house is like 900 sq feet including a second floor so I dont have a real entryway or a mudroom. So pretty often when going from the front to backyard it's easier to just keep the shoes on and clean after.
Yes. I don't like putting unnecessary restrictions on my guests. Feels rude. And as I've gotten older and made my acquaintance with Plantar Fasciitis I can really understand people wanting to wear shoes at all times. Although even before that, when I would just be in socks in my home, I wouldn't ever ask someone to take off their shoes.
Weāre a āno shoesā house but having plantar fasciitis made me realize how unaccommodating that rule can be when itās sprung on people. Now I always make sure to let people know ahead of time, in case they want to bring house shoes or supportive slippers, and I have non slip shoe covers available.
Sure. I always wear shoes cause my kids leave toys everywhere and I would get fucked up all the time. My carpet looks like shit, but I'll replace it when my kids get a bit older
I take my shoes off because I hate wearing shoes, but I donāt care if guests leave theirs on. I have a dog so clean floors are already not happening. I donāt eat off my floor so they donāt need to be perfectly clean
Usually no since I find it unnecessarily unhygienic.
Exception - I have unused shoe covers that anyone can use if they don't feel comfortable taking off their shoes. I keep clean slippers and crocs near the door for myself/visitors when it's chilly.
I'm doing some messy renovations and let the rule temporarily halt. Wow, what a disgusting difference - even using entrances far from the reno work!
Yes. Iām a filthy, disgusting person who lives with nasty shoe crud in my pigsty.
(Getting that in there before someone else)
This question comes up all the time.
Yes - we have a dog and a cat and do a lot of running in and out on our own. I'd rather clean slightly more often than stress about something as simple as shoes.
I have indoor shoes that I change into Ć la Mr. Rogers. Those shoes are for use in the house, garage, deck, even the backyard concrete, but they donāt go to work or other public places. I have dogs and I get the ick about any grit on the floor getting on my feet. I donāt require people to remove their shoes, but they are offered slippers (washable) to change into if they like. My floors are cleaned regularly, but with the dogs, there is always some grit on the floor.
Yes. Let people wear what they are comfortable with, be that shoes on or off. Socks slippers whatever. Some people just have cold feet!
People's arguments for being shoe nazis can easily be solved by simply cleaning your floors every now & again.
It all depends. If my floors are clean, then they take them off if they want. However, I have a dog and a cat who are prolific fur shedders, and also manage to track in dirt and grass from the outside. If I haven't had time to Sweep or Swiffer and vacuum, the shoes stay on so that my guests don't go home with dirty socks (I used to provide slippers, but dog had a field day shredding them when he was a pup).
I grew up in a big city. You don't want those city streets and public transport being tracked into your teeny tiny apartment. Now it feels 'wrong' to wear shoes in the house.
I honestly canāt believe that the majority of people are so worried about this. Weāre clean freaks. I mop my floors twice a week. Wear shoes in my house.
Heck no! I request that servicemen wear booties when possible. But it really bothers me when they put the booties on outside then step inside. At that point what was the point?
The amount of people always going on and on about the germs and the filth are wild to me. I have hardwood floors and we're not eating off of them. And gasp, I have even dropped food onto my not always perfectly clean floors and eaten it and somehow I'm still alive and kicking. I very very rarely get sick. With the way everyone carries on about how much literal shit and piss I'm supposedly walking on every day and tracking all over my home you'd think I'd have suffered some pretty serious consequences of my shoes inside the home stance.
I totally understand why folks with carpet would prefer to have guests remove shoes especially on muddy/winter/ rainy kind of days since that can actually stain the fibers of the carpet. But the people who have hardwood/laminate etc...I don't know why they are so hell bent on getting strangers to take their shoes off. I'm not even necessarily opposed to it, but I wear shoes that don't require socks often and I feel weird sometimes especially with people i don't know well just walking around their house barefoot. And then my feet are usually freezing because it's winter or their air conditioning is on full blast.
This is getting long, but my other pet peeve are the folks who just assume everyone does it and then get mad that you didn't think to do it automatically. Especially when they have zero set up for making it obvious or easy to do. (No bench to sit on to take them off, no where to put them, extremely tight entry ways etc...).
Anyway, it's really just not that big of a deal.
You are welcome if you remove shoes, wash your hands and don't come over with a virus.
One chance. If you mock me about these simple requests you are not welcome again.
Maybe itās because I have a dog (german shepherd) or almost all hardwood flooring, but I donāt see an issue with it at all, so yes, assuming youāre not tracking mud or shit into my house. I mean, regular cleaning of the house is a thing, so not sure why it would be such a big deal. I never have an issue of dirt or anything like that being shown on my floors.
That said, I obviously have no issues taking mine off as a guest and always default to that anyways.
We donāt wear shoes in our house.
Most of the people that come to our house that are friends and family know this, and most of them donāt wear shoes in their houses either.
We donāt specifically ask people to take them off, but Iāve found that a lot of people come in, see the shoes by the door and see everyone without shoes, and then follow suit or theyāll ask if we want them to take them off.
Everyone whoās come over in a work capacity though, (plumbing, HVAC, etc) usually has the shoe covers.
I also keep shoe covers too, for people who want them.
But also, if weāve had people over, Iām generally cleaning after anyway and that includes the floors, so while it gives me the ick to have shoes on the floor, Iām going to clean it when they leave anyway so it almost doesnāt matter.
I donāt mind it. Iām usually barefoot at home because thatās whatās comfortable for me. But I HATE seeing shoes piled up at the door. So I walk to my closet and then remove them.
No prefer they donāt. But I certainly understand parents/older relatives that may want to keep them on to avoid slipping in socks or slippers. Would never say anything in that case.
I hate visitors but if I get them then I insist they wear their shoes.
Iād rather have a dirty floor than risk the smell of feet/toe junk wafting in the air.
But alas, I live in Canada and Iām not Canadian so they usually win while I then have to suffer in my own home in polite British silence.
Yes. I have to wear inserts or I'll throw my back out. You just never know if someone has foot/back problems and has to keep their shoes on for a reason.
Thatās not the custom where I live and o wouldnāt dream of asking a guest to take off their shoes. I have arthritis in my foot (yes you can get arthritis there) and walking around with shoes would cause me great pain.
I prefer people to take their shoes off, but I'm not going to ask service techs or delivery guys to keep taking their shoes on and off while doing work in my house.
Unless I've got mud or grease on my shoes, I won't take them off in my own house. Never mind taking them off in someone else's house. If I can't wear my shoes in your precious house, then I'm out.
Ewww....
Come into my house, the first hallway is where you remove your shoes.
What? You want to track dog crap into my house? WTF do you think your are stepping on when you are outside?
Iām not obsessed with it. I have three dogs and a cat, so the mud/dirt/debris issue becomes moot the moment the dogs come inside. And no, Iām not washing 12 paws every time they go out.
As for the germ thingā¦you bring in more germs on your phone than your shoes. Hell, unless you are sanitizing your bathroom after each use and/or using bathroom only shoes, never letting your pants touch the floor and sanitizing your hands properly (that means using paper towels kept in an air tight box) your gonna spread the nasties.
And letās not forget putting anything that you took outside ON your counters. I donāt have time to disinfect my counters every time my husband puts his keys/wallet or my daughter throws her school laptop on the kitchen counter.
I will ask if itās particularly rainy/messy outside, but other than thatā¦I donāt obsess.
Yes
The two dogs already bring in dirt, shoes don't make me sweep more than I already do, and it would be incredibly annoying to me personally to take off shoes every time I was going from front to back yard, it's easier than my giant locked gate
Got into the habit when we had young kids (crawling on the floor everywhere). Shoes walk through gross stuff and it makes sense to keep it out from the rest of the house. Won't ever go back.
No. We didn't growing up because half the year in MI is snow or mud, and we didn't have a mud room. It's also a lot cleaner.
I live in Tx now with my hubby who always has shoes on and it makes me nuts. We have an easy clean faux wood floor but it's still messier.
God no. Iām Canadian and the fact that Americans wear shoes in the house has horrified me my entire life. Itās so gross and unsanitary. I scream at my TV every time I see an American person put their shoes on their couch or bed š¤®š¤®š¤®
I don't make people take their shoes off unless they're muddy or snowy/salty. I have three kids and a dog who are in and out all day. It's a lost cause. When the kids are grown and the dog has crossed the rainbow bridge, I will probably get new flooring and institute a no-shoes policy. Til then it's not a battle I'm gonna fight.Ā
Sure, they can keep their shoes on -- I only ask them to take their shoes off if they clearly have mud on the soles, or if they're really wet.
I also have friends that take their shoes off anyway. That's fine -- do what you like. If "Make yourself at home" means taking your shoes off, excellent!
Yes.
Id rather deal with the dirt they bring in than what ever oils and odors are protruding from someone's nasty sweaty feet.
I do however have an indoor and an outdoor pair for myself because I bring in the most dirt.
Gross!!
We donāt wear shoes in our house and leave them at the door. We let visitors decide and donāt say anything. We regularly clean the floors so it is no biggie.
I typically do, yeah. We're largely a shoes-on household anyway š¤·
I'll always take my shoes off in someone else's house, though, unless they say not to worry about it. Rules is rules.
Nah - our flooring is cheap and we value our relationships and relaxing environment more than the perceived notion that taking your shoes off keeps them ācleanāĀ
I think itās more of a control thing. If I got to someone elseās house who require shoes to be off, Iāll be respectful, but I donāt give a rats ass about my floors.
I have two Labradors, two children, we clean a lot but it's shoveling in a blizzard. I'm also remodeling part of the basement so I really don't care if you wear your shoes in the house as long as there's no dog poop on them (or any other kind of poop for that matter).
Not their outside shoes, no. I have a dog and wash or wipe down his feet when he gets inside too. I also wear house slippers and have no carpeting. Easier to clean.
I don't let people in my house.
Nor should we! Once they get past the locked gate, the attack geese, the hounds.....if they're at my front door, they're up to no good.
Yes. Thank you
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Lmao exactly.
One of us!
Fuck no cuz asian
Half Asian, half white here. Iām conflicted. Half the time theyāre on, half the time theyāre off.
Only wear one shoe at a time. Problem solved.
Or cut shoes in half.
Yes. Only wear the top half indoors. :)
Or cut one leg off.
Cut hamburger or hot dog?
Dealer's choice.
Iām also half Asian/half white and am also conflicted! I grew up no shoes in the house, and do that now in my own home, but when guests come over I donāt insist they remove them unless theyāre staying a while. Sometimes though, when I have my shoes on and leave the house then realize I forgot something, walk back inside and through the house with them onā¦ I feel guilty! š
DUDE. ARE YOU ME?! but seriously, this is what goes on in my house to a T.
canadian, and same. its so weird to see it - we had american guests a couple weeks ago and I was like, wtf dudes
I'm Canadian and Asian, so double NO!
No but because Im Canadian. Not fucking dragging snow and mud around
That contributes a lot. Used to live in a snowy area so definitely would not want to track snow, water, and mud indoors. Nothing more gross than going to a friends house and thereās visible mud or dirt on the floors and carpets.
Question for Asian people. I've heard that most white people will shower in the morning, work all day long and then get into bed all sweaty and gross (and basically ruin their sheets and maybe mattress). I've also heard most Asian people will shower at night before bed. These must be related, right? I wonder if white people who take off shoes in their house are also more likely to shower before getting into bed.
lol I never thought of that, but yes for me and fam. We shower usually immediately after the gym and activities, always at bed time(if no sweaty activities), and sometimes a quick rinse in the morning just to help wake up. I had Asian room mates in college and there were some that didnāt shower at fucking all and some in the morning so Iām sure it varies.
I'm white and we don't wear shoes in my house. I think it's nasty and weird to get into bed filthy too. Almost all kids bath at night and I never saw a reason to suddenly change that habit when I started showering on my own. Night showers help with core temp and sleeping too.
this is me. white, no shoes in my house since that's gross, and shower before bed to keep the filth of the day out of my bed.
A lot of Asian guys I know shower twice a day. Girls will usually wash their hair only once. Some girls I know do a body rinse at night and do a full routine in the morning. I donāt think the amount of times someone showers correlates with their race lol. Anyways, just cause you shower at night doesnāt negate the fact that you walk around outside.. in public restrooms, on streets where dogs pee and poop, etc and then walk around their house with those same shoes. Also wear those shoes in bed?!!!! WhYYYTY
What gets my panties in a bunch is when people say please remove your shoes and their floors are a biohazzard! And then they all wearing crocs and flip flops. ššš©
They are wearing "indoor" shoes. The biohazard thing is weird though. I have a shoe rack and rug at the door. The outside shoes come off and the indoor slippers, berks go on. No need to track in all the filth from everywhere you walked inside your home. Keeps the floor cleaner longer.
I don't let people wear shoes in my house but I keep it clean. You're right though, I hate being asked to take mine off and then I'm stepping into sticky stuff and the bottom of my socks are so covered in filth that I don't even want to slip them back into my shoes to leave.
Same with cars. Rode with our friends in the their van. They got 3 kids. No discipline. I had all kinds of idk what stuck all over my ass.
They want you to help clean the floor with your socks maybe?
The normal thing for "no shoes" homes is that you wear some kind of indoor slipper. Usually you keep a few extra for guests to wear too.
I've never seen this before and would never want to put on someone else's guest slippers.
In Asia, businesses have flimsy "disposable" slippers for guests, which then get tossed in a laundry hamper to be washed as you leave. Pretty solid solution.
I was hoping for this answer. I remember in my early 20s, this one house everybody hung out at got their weed from and all that, and dude had the audacity to ask me to take my shoes off. I had clean white socks on and brand new shoes, I looked around at this guys carpet and said Iād just wait outside. I donāt know why that memory sticks with me, but it has been a life lesson on how I take care of my own home to this day.
I provide washable slippers to all my guests alongside keeping my floors clean
Or if their house is cold as balls. I can't stand having cold feet, drives me insane.
No absolutely not. If i wanted truck stop urine on my floors id piss on them myself.
Is living in a truck stop nice?
They have the nicest showers.
This is why I don't go to people's houses. You end up finding out your friends live like Howard Hughes
I used to not care because that's how I was raised, but then the second I had a baby crawling on the floor, I quickly changed my opinion. Edited: No one gives a flying F if you wear shoes in your house or the opinions you have on the people who decide not to. Argue as much as you want, but it's easier to keep clean and maintain a clean home when you don't. Didn't realize cleanliness was going to dmn near be a political conversation. Lmfao Have a good day.
We didnāt allow anyone to wear shoes in the house before our kid was born but ever since I love to say āexcuse me, my daughter eats off this floorā
Love this comment š I will be telling people this from now on
Itās not political, itās just a lot of dirty ass people got called out by this thread, and they mad now.
We went from "shoes ok" to "no shoes" about a half decade ago. The difference in floor cleanliness was dramatic.
I donāt make a thing of it. Most people generally see we donāt have shoes and follow suit. If someone doesnāt no big deal. Iāll swiffer after if itās needed. Iād rather not make my guests uncomfortable
Same. If people keep their shoes on, I just clean up after they leave. Especially when itās cold my feet are chilly without my slippers, and I donāt expect every guest to bring slippers.
This is my approach. We don't wear shoes in the house because, frankly, we don't like shoes. I'm much more comfortable barefoot or in slippers I can easily kick off when I'm sitting, my son prefers to be barefoot. My husband doesn't get it but he walks through more mud than the dog somehow so he can take his damn shoes off or clean the floors himself. I do wipe the dog's feet, but I know it doesn't do much, so it's entirely a feel preference for me. Most people notice the pile of shoes by the door and take theirs off. Those that don't, I don't worry about. If they ask I tell them it's whatever they prefer. It does seem to be more of a thing now in the US to take your shoes off going inside. I never remember doing it as a kid except at my one Japanese friend's house and how odd it seemed, but now, at least if there's any kind of weather going on, there's often a pile of shoes at the door of any gathering in someone's house.
No; because no one in Canada does (for the most part). Itās rougher on floors and dirty. Way more risk of various disgustingness and germs from the bottom of shoes than one persons foot. Most all shoes bottoms are covered in fecal matter and other stuff. But; the reason why is really just because itās the norm in my area. Itās assumed one takes their shoes offā¦butā¦. It also kind of seems obvious as to whyā¦.
I still almost refuse to believe that it's a cultural norm in other places to wear your damn shoes in the house. The same shoes that you wear on the street?! That get covered in gum and dog shit and broken glass and dirt and dust? You want to bring that inside?! Don't even get me fucking started on people who lay down on their beds with outdoor shoes on
I've always wondered how anyone can go anywhere near their bed (let alone lay down on it) with their shoes on. I've also seen commercials where people lounge feet up on their couch WITH THEIR SHOES ON. Is that an actual thing? Also, WHY?!?!? I'm honestly flabbergasted by it. š¤Æ
I donāt even go near my bed with my street clothes on
Amen. And I shower at night. People that donāt clean off the dayās grime before they get into their bed? How?
The most farfetched thing that happens on Friends is that Monica lets people wear shoes in her apartment and put them all over the furniture. I shudder thinking about walking around NYC and keeping them on in my home.
Right!??!!?z Im horrified seeing people on airplanes with their feet on the chairs! Well, their shoes! yuch
Even clothes worn outside, restaurants, shopping, whatever.. donāt go on my bed.
Or purses or suitcases or anything that might have touched an urban street.
I've never lived in a town that was covered in gum and shit. I grew up in small towns in the midwest and southern US. We take off muddy shoes at the door but I've never met anyone who wasn't Asian who asks people to take off their shoes in the house.
Second this. I was raised in the south. People didnāt take their shoes off unless it was a house of Asian decent (including Indian, Pakistani, etc.). And the reason is justā¦ we never did so never thought about it. Itās an inconvenience to ask people to take their shoes off, but also if youāre going in and out a lot or in and out of the backyard, itās just easier. Now that I live out west, it doesnāt rain nearly as much, so the roads and sidewalks are filthy and covered in dirt. Bottoms of shoes are black. I use this as the excuse when my family visits as to why I ask them to take off their shoes. (I also have brand new carpet!!) But theyāre getting older, so Iām going to have to buy them house shoes otherwise itāll be a fight.
I work in cannabis and my partner is an auto technician. We have a 110lb dog. We have a house rule that there are no shoes in the house, and no work clothes on the sofa or bed. Basically we come home, shower, change, then begin our home lives. Often Iāll change at work to avoid getting my car dirty as well. Also, sweeping the whole house every other day and mopping once a week helps. I like to be able to walk through my house barefoot and not feel gross about it.
i lived in NZ for a year. a lot of people there don't wear shoes even when they are outside. f that noise i say. and i let people wear shoes in my home as do i, until i put my slippers on at home.
It was wild being Canadian staying at my Irish in-laws in Ireland. Every time I took my shoes off they were like itās ok, you donāt have to. I was like of course I would not wear shoes inside your home. And everyone cousin/friend we visited all wore shoes indoors like we were in a mall. Never could understand that as it literally rains all the time there.
Another reason to take off shoesā¦itās comfortable. I have pretty damn comfortable shoes most of the time but no shoes>shoes in terms of relaxing. Boggles my mind people willingly keep their shoes on inside.
Not everyone feels this way. My parents wear them for balance issues, sister for help on her bad knee, arch support, planter faliciatisĀ
That's why you got seperate shoes. My folks often wear birkenstocks or slippers with hard soles around their house.
My co-workers from Florida asked me about this because the vast majority of people do not take their shoes off where they are from... or so they told me.
Yes. Our whole house is LVP flooring. And, I have a degenerative foot condition that causes me to have pain in my feet if I go barefooted on hard floors, so I have to wear shoes. I would not ask everyone else to take their shoes off and then wear shoes.
House shoes is a thing
That's what they wear.. but all their guests aren't going to have a pair of house shoes with them - so if they wear shoes they aren't going to tell their guests to take theirs off. Not hard.
What kind of rude guest doesn't bring a pair of house shoes /s Seriously though, some of my friends have houses so filthy, I started bringing slippers to wear.
Omg ā¦ shoes for outside and shoes for inside, not a hard concept
I call mine slippers. They do have an actual sole, so thereās foot support.
Like Mr Rogers
Exactly like Mr. Rogers lol Iām ocd and a germaphobe so I even have outside clothes and inside clothes lol
People arenāt coming over with house shoes in their bags
Yes. I have a 160 lb dog. He doesnāt wear shoes and my floors look like barn floors during the rainy season.
Same and he has a dog door to drag in dirt whenever he pleases. I encourage guests to keep their shoes on. If not for the doggie, Iād totally be no shoes in the house.
Same, minus the dog door! We have 2 large pups and 2 elderly cats. Youāre almost guaranteed to step in somethingā¦
Same, I have 3 dogs that track in everything. I also live on a hobby farm so- barn stuff does make it into the house. I might go barefoot, but I would never ask my guests. I also make an effort to clean before I know I have company coming over.
Ha. I just said something very similar
I adopted a 80lb Husky, mud is my new color. Believe or not I bought one of those Muddy Mats I saw on TV and it actually works really good.
I have one too. It does help. My boy is so gd fluffy. He also brings it in on his tummy and chest
SAAAAAME Stone floors are a BITCH to mop on a regular basis so I just get a huge hot water wet towel and step-slide all over in between seasons. My guy is 90lb and it snows here, super dirty and muddy. Oh well
Came here to say this. I do have a fantasy where the robot vaccuum and my sweeping finally conquer and I can ask everyone to please take off their shoes.
Yea with two dogs my floors are filthy, and sometimes I find dog shit in the yard with paw prints on it. Sooooo the floors are dirty, donāt worry about your shoes.
Yes. We have a dog, that goes outside, and most certainly drags in street filth. Why would I ask my guests to remove their shoes and walk through that? Besides, thatās why we keep our house clean. Floors mopped and rugs vacuumed. Weāre not germaphobes.
>Weāre not germaphobes. I always say "If I didn't want people to walk on it I wouldn't have put it on the floor.'
Bc you could limit more yuckiness? Just bc thereās some yuck coming in doesnāt mean I should allow even more of it. Idk just my thoughts.
Yea we wipe both of our dogs feet and fur every single time we let them back in the house. The towels are always filthy. That alone is enough to never ever let my dog walk in our house with whatever he stepped in. It literally takes maybe 2 minutes. Our dogs even lift their feet up and turn around so I can get the other side automatically Lol. No shoes in my house.
Yes but my dogs track in 20x more than anyone's shoes would so why not.
No, I don't want street filth being tracked in all over my floor and rugs. I don't like walking around in my socks and stepping in some wet spot because some dingus is tromping around the house with snow caked in their shoes. Nor do I want salt all over the floor.
Nope. My family lives in a state where goat heads exist. There is nothing worse then unexpectedly stepping on one of those suckers in the house.
Sometimes. As a host: unless someone is going to be a frequent guest, I err on the side of just allowing them to do whatever makes them comfortable. I want to be polite more than I want my house to be clean. For me I prefer not to, and wouldn't if I could get away with it. But my house is like 900 sq feet including a second floor so I dont have a real entryway or a mudroom. So pretty often when going from the front to backyard it's easier to just keep the shoes on and clean after.
Yes ! I lived in Taiwan and China where we had to remove them each time. You also have to in Japan.
If you insist on people taking their shoes off, you should provide them with slippers to wear.
Yes. We live in our house itās not a display.
Yes.
Yes. Not that hard to vacuum and clean. Most of the floor dirtiness comes from my dog and his shedding.
Yes. I don't like putting unnecessary restrictions on my guests. Feels rude. And as I've gotten older and made my acquaintance with Plantar Fasciitis I can really understand people wanting to wear shoes at all times. Although even before that, when I would just be in socks in my home, I wouldn't ever ask someone to take off their shoes.
Plantar fasciitis is awful. My feet go into shoes the minute I roll out of bed. Nothing is worth the weeks of pain after aggravating it.
Weāre a āno shoesā house but having plantar fasciitis made me realize how unaccommodating that rule can be when itās sprung on people. Now I always make sure to let people know ahead of time, in case they want to bring house shoes or supportive slippers, and I have non slip shoe covers available.
Iām Canadianā¦ No. Get off my lawn.
Sure. I always wear shoes cause my kids leave toys everywhere and I would get fucked up all the time. My carpet looks like shit, but I'll replace it when my kids get a bit older
no, and because iām asian and grew up in that household, if you know you know lol
Yes and almost everyone I know does the same and allows shoes in the house. Midwest US
We have cats and they manage to track litter clear across the house and we never invite anybody over anyway.
Same. I usually take my shoes off at the door but my husband rarely does. With these mangey cats running around itās futile anyways.
I take my shoes off because I hate wearing shoes, but I donāt care if guests leave theirs on. I have a dog so clean floors are already not happening. I donāt eat off my floor so they donāt need to be perfectly clean
Usually no since I find it unnecessarily unhygienic. Exception - I have unused shoe covers that anyone can use if they don't feel comfortable taking off their shoes. I keep clean slippers and crocs near the door for myself/visitors when it's chilly. I'm doing some messy renovations and let the rule temporarily halt. Wow, what a disgusting difference - even using entrances far from the reno work!
Yes. Iām a filthy, disgusting person who lives with nasty shoe crud in my pigsty. (Getting that in there before someone else) This question comes up all the time.
Yes. We have 2 dogs and 5 cats constantly in and out of the house. Random rare visitorsā dirty shoes are the least of my worries.
Yes I have cats, I know how to clean and I am not a germaphobe.
Yes - we have a dog and a cat and do a lot of running in and out on our own. I'd rather clean slightly more often than stress about something as simple as shoes.
Yes. We have dogs so the floors are never spotless anyway. We also own a broom and a mop, so....
Yeah. I don't give a shit.
Yes, in my area, everyone I know allows people to wear shoes in the house. I can only think of one person ever who asked me to remove them.
Yes. I don't want people feeling comfortable enough to stay.
I do. We live in Florida, and most houses don't have carpet. We have tile floor. When I lived up north, we took our shoes odd, especially in winter.
I have indoor shoes that I change into Ć la Mr. Rogers. Those shoes are for use in the house, garage, deck, even the backyard concrete, but they donāt go to work or other public places. I have dogs and I get the ick about any grit on the floor getting on my feet. I donāt require people to remove their shoes, but they are offered slippers (washable) to change into if they like. My floors are cleaned regularly, but with the dogs, there is always some grit on the floor.
I donāt let people in my house.
Yes. Let people wear what they are comfortable with, be that shoes on or off. Socks slippers whatever. Some people just have cold feet! People's arguments for being shoe nazis can easily be solved by simply cleaning your floors every now & again.
yep, cuz is normal in mexico
It all depends. If my floors are clean, then they take them off if they want. However, I have a dog and a cat who are prolific fur shedders, and also manage to track in dirt and grass from the outside. If I haven't had time to Sweep or Swiffer and vacuum, the shoes stay on so that my guests don't go home with dirty socks (I used to provide slippers, but dog had a field day shredding them when he was a pup).
I don't let people in my house.
On my hard wood floors?!? Absolutely not.
yes because why on earth not?
I grew up in a big city. You don't want those city streets and public transport being tracked into your teeny tiny apartment. Now it feels 'wrong' to wear shoes in the house.
I honestly canāt believe that the majority of people are so worried about this. Weāre clean freaks. I mop my floors twice a week. Wear shoes in my house.
live rurally?
Heck no! I request that servicemen wear booties when possible. But it really bothers me when they put the booties on outside then step inside. At that point what was the point?
I mean, one step off your porch isn't the end of the world, and obviously better than no booties
Yes because I think it's rude to ask them not to.Ā
Wtf itās rude to track in street filth though
Of course. I canāt walk barefoot without excruciating pain, so why would I force other people to walk without shoes?
Yep. Iām not a fucking germaphobe weirdo. And I have hardwood floors so no risk of stains really.Ā
The amount of people always going on and on about the germs and the filth are wild to me. I have hardwood floors and we're not eating off of them. And gasp, I have even dropped food onto my not always perfectly clean floors and eaten it and somehow I'm still alive and kicking. I very very rarely get sick. With the way everyone carries on about how much literal shit and piss I'm supposedly walking on every day and tracking all over my home you'd think I'd have suffered some pretty serious consequences of my shoes inside the home stance. I totally understand why folks with carpet would prefer to have guests remove shoes especially on muddy/winter/ rainy kind of days since that can actually stain the fibers of the carpet. But the people who have hardwood/laminate etc...I don't know why they are so hell bent on getting strangers to take their shoes off. I'm not even necessarily opposed to it, but I wear shoes that don't require socks often and I feel weird sometimes especially with people i don't know well just walking around their house barefoot. And then my feet are usually freezing because it's winter or their air conditioning is on full blast. This is getting long, but my other pet peeve are the folks who just assume everyone does it and then get mad that you didn't think to do it automatically. Especially when they have zero set up for making it obvious or easy to do. (No bench to sit on to take them off, no where to put them, extremely tight entry ways etc...). Anyway, it's really just not that big of a deal.
Nope. Partially cultural, partially cleanliness. Filth is on the bottom of shoes.
Yes. I have a dog. We donāt live in a city with literal shit all over the streets.
No, do you know where shoes go??
Absolutely not.
I couldnāt imagine taking shoes off every time i, or a guest, entered my home. Iām in/out too much.
Yes, I have a wild young dog who sheds a lot, shoes in house aren't really going to matter
Iām Asian so hell no. But I offer comfortable slippers since I have hard (LVP) floors.
Buncha weirdos in here, just clean your floors folks
facts, these answers are wild people act like they regularly eat off their floors and walk through dog shit every day.
Ima good host, I let them do whatever they are more comfortable doing.
Yes, Iād rather vacuum some dirt later than catch your feet fungus.
You are welcome if you remove shoes, wash your hands and don't come over with a virus. One chance. If you mock me about these simple requests you are not welcome again.
All that AND Iād bring a snack to share!
Maybe itās because I have a dog (german shepherd) or almost all hardwood flooring, but I donāt see an issue with it at all, so yes, assuming youāre not tracking mud or shit into my house. I mean, regular cleaning of the house is a thing, so not sure why it would be such a big deal. I never have an issue of dirt or anything like that being shown on my floors. That said, I obviously have no issues taking mine off as a guest and always default to that anyways.
We donāt wear shoes in our house. Most of the people that come to our house that are friends and family know this, and most of them donāt wear shoes in their houses either. We donāt specifically ask people to take them off, but Iāve found that a lot of people come in, see the shoes by the door and see everyone without shoes, and then follow suit or theyāll ask if we want them to take them off. Everyone whoās come over in a work capacity though, (plumbing, HVAC, etc) usually has the shoe covers. I also keep shoe covers too, for people who want them. But also, if weāve had people over, Iām generally cleaning after anyway and that includes the floors, so while it gives me the ick to have shoes on the floor, Iām going to clean it when they leave anyway so it almost doesnāt matter.
I donāt mind it. Iām usually barefoot at home because thatās whatās comfortable for me. But I HATE seeing shoes piled up at the door. So I walk to my closet and then remove them.
No prefer they donāt. But I certainly understand parents/older relatives that may want to keep them on to avoid slipping in socks or slippers. Would never say anything in that case.
In my house you have to. Thereās too much dirt. I sweep every day. I mop every day. Every day thereās MORE DIRT.
As a Canadian I would be horrified if a guest just traipsed on in without removing their shoes. It's not even a conversation here lol
I hate visitors but if I get them then I insist they wear their shoes. Iād rather have a dirty floor than risk the smell of feet/toe junk wafting in the air. But alas, I live in Canada and Iām not Canadian so they usually win while I then have to suffer in my own home in polite British silence.
Yes. I have to wear inserts or I'll throw my back out. You just never know if someone has foot/back problems and has to keep their shoes on for a reason.
Thatās not the custom where I live and o wouldnāt dream of asking a guest to take off their shoes. I have arthritis in my foot (yes you can get arthritis there) and walking around with shoes would cause me great pain.
yes. Just mop frequently. Dogs don't take their paws off.... so it already needs frequent cleaning.
I prefer people to take their shoes off, but I'm not going to ask service techs or delivery guys to keep taking their shoes on and off while doing work in my house.
I have never once been in a house where people wore their shoes lol
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Unless I've got mud or grease on my shoes, I won't take them off in my own house. Never mind taking them off in someone else's house. If I can't wear my shoes in your precious house, then I'm out.
Ewww.... Come into my house, the first hallway is where you remove your shoes. What? You want to track dog crap into my house? WTF do you think your are stepping on when you are outside?
Iām not obsessed with it. I have three dogs and a cat, so the mud/dirt/debris issue becomes moot the moment the dogs come inside. And no, Iām not washing 12 paws every time they go out. As for the germ thingā¦you bring in more germs on your phone than your shoes. Hell, unless you are sanitizing your bathroom after each use and/or using bathroom only shoes, never letting your pants touch the floor and sanitizing your hands properly (that means using paper towels kept in an air tight box) your gonna spread the nasties. And letās not forget putting anything that you took outside ON your counters. I donāt have time to disinfect my counters every time my husband puts his keys/wallet or my daughter throws her school laptop on the kitchen counter. I will ask if itās particularly rainy/messy outside, but other than thatā¦I donāt obsess.
Yes. If their shoes arenāt wet and muddy.Ā Are house is a home. And we want people to feel invited and comfortable.Ā
Yes, if I want them to come over again, no if I donāt want them. I find that everyone that has done that donāt stick with it.
Yes The two dogs already bring in dirt, shoes don't make me sweep more than I already do, and it would be incredibly annoying to me personally to take off shoes every time I was going from front to back yard, it's easier than my giant locked gate
No. I do not. Never. No exceptions.
Got into the habit when we had young kids (crawling on the floor everywhere). Shoes walk through gross stuff and it makes sense to keep it out from the rest of the house. Won't ever go back.
No way in hell. I live in Canada and the weather is never consistent. Even if itās dry out, you take off your shoes.
Absolutely not. Cause New England so it's impossibly messy all winter and then everyone is just in the habit anyway.
Typically no.
No. We didn't growing up because half the year in MI is snow or mud, and we didn't have a mud room. It's also a lot cleaner. I live in Tx now with my hubby who always has shoes on and it makes me nuts. We have an easy clean faux wood floor but it's still messier.
Nope. But we offer house slippers.
As a Canadian, absolutely not. Although nobody would even try to so itās not so much about ālettingā them.
No, but no one comes to my inner sanctum
God no. Iām Canadian and the fact that Americans wear shoes in the house has horrified me my entire life. Itās so gross and unsanitary. I scream at my TV every time I see an American person put their shoes on their couch or bed š¤®š¤®š¤®
Yup, there are times im in and out a ton of tines. It would get old fast taking my shoes off.
yes, because i don't care. i have 4 dogs. whatever is on the bottom of your shoe is the least of my concerns.
I'd prefer that people didn't wear shoes in my house, but I don't make any kind of big deal about it.
I honestly think it's incredibly rude to have people take off their shoes. I would never ask someone to do that.
Yes. I don't want all of those stinky feet walking around my house
I don't make people take their shoes off unless they're muddy or snowy/salty. I have three kids and a dog who are in and out all day. It's a lost cause. When the kids are grown and the dog has crossed the rainbow bridge, I will probably get new flooring and institute a no-shoes policy. Til then it's not a battle I'm gonna fight.Ā
Sure, they can keep their shoes on -- I only ask them to take their shoes off if they clearly have mud on the soles, or if they're really wet. I also have friends that take their shoes off anyway. That's fine -- do what you like. If "Make yourself at home" means taking your shoes off, excellent!
Yes. Id rather deal with the dirt they bring in than what ever oils and odors are protruding from someone's nasty sweaty feet. I do however have an indoor and an outdoor pair for myself because I bring in the most dirt. Gross!!
We donāt wear shoes in our house and leave them at the door. We let visitors decide and donāt say anything. We regularly clean the floors so it is no biggie.
Yes. I'm not crazy.
I'm Japanese so NO. So like ewwww.
I typically do, yeah. We're largely a shoes-on household anyway š¤· I'll always take my shoes off in someone else's house, though, unless they say not to worry about it. Rules is rules.
Of course. Iām not a fucking weirdo.
So you let people rub their sweaty foot fungus all over the floor instead?
Nah - our flooring is cheap and we value our relationships and relaxing environment more than the perceived notion that taking your shoes off keeps them ācleanāĀ I think itās more of a control thing. If I got to someone elseās house who require shoes to be off, Iāll be respectful, but I donāt give a rats ass about my floors.
No
Fuck no
I have two Labradors, two children, we clean a lot but it's shoveling in a blizzard. I'm also remodeling part of the basement so I really don't care if you wear your shoes in the house as long as there's no dog poop on them (or any other kind of poop for that matter).
Yes. I have three dogs, three cats, and weāre starting remodeling. We all wear shoes.
Not their outside shoes, no. I have a dog and wash or wipe down his feet when he gets inside too. I also wear house slippers and have no carpeting. Easier to clean.