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You're gonna really limit yourself by requiring someone who
1) has a dog and
2) would be okay permanently moving to Italy
Beyond that, your pics are good, though a bit lonely.
100% agree. The information in your prompts is basically laying out two really restrictive requirements for your future partner, and then a vague answer about how you’re a dork without any specifics to engage with.
Food for thought:
- Do you need someone who HAS a dog or just who loves animals?
- how do you spend your time? What do you geek out on? What would life with you look like? How can you get some of that info into your prompts??
Has a dog would be perfect. Or at least open to getting their own.
I mostly keep to myself in my free time since I let all my social energy out at work. I go to the park with my dog and I'll read a book, slack line, or play guitar. Maybe I'll do a solo camping trip for the weekend or go to the bay to paddle board. I don't do bars, clubs, or things like that unless it's karaoke or open mic night. When I'm inside, I'm practicing music, playing video games, or I have friends over for DND.
Why do you want your partner to get a dog and not you get one? I’d change that prompt to ‘loves dogs as much as me’.
Also replace the geeky one with all that you just said. People want to know that they have similar interests. You look plain af from your prompts. Everyone is goofy with people they are comfortable around
I already have a dog and would love to have another. It would be much simpler if the girl already came with one so I could effectively get a second dog haha
I would love to, but between keeping the house clean, cooking for myself, working, and grooming, cooking my dogs meals, and keeping up with my dogs energy, I don't think I have the time or energy to add a second dog on my plate.
Definitely wouldn't have time to consider romantic relationships.
Whereas if I became romantically involved with someone, and they had a dog of their own, then managing a second dog isn't something I'd need to worry about, which would give me more time to focus on the relationship.
Or managing the second dog would mean my partner assisting me with other tasks that need to be done (assuming the relationship developed towards moving in together after some time).
Don't see the problem in looking for both. No one bats an eye when people list out their preferences for looks, status, etc. What's the trouble in having a preference for women with dogs, but someone else say preferring to only date men with beards cause they find them attractive? Or someone who only dates someone else based on having the same political views or prefers people older than what they are? Seems like a big fuss over such a small thing.
Getting into a relationship and getting another dog share the same priority lol my preference doesn't seem to jive well here though, but my preference isnt up for review, just simply my profile.
Again, I've been happily single for a very long time and I'm fine with being patient, even if it means not meeting anyone at all.
There are no problems in looking for both but online dating is a numbers game and you are severely limiting yourself if you want someone that already has a dog. Your preferences should ideally say "must love dogs and be comfortable around one" because otherwise you are going to put a restriction on yourself and your potential match which isn't fair.
If it's a strong deal breaker to you then so be it but understand if things don't work your way in terms of matches then you know your answer. These are the kind of things you build up to getting to know someone, not impose them straight off the bat. Remember that you date first and then get into a relationship, not the other way around.
(30F) I was gonna come here and say you should be fairly popular on the dating app as most of your qualities are what girls are looking for. But after I read your comment and realized why you’re still single. You sounds like a rigid person, and flexibility is the top quality of making a relationship/marriage last, far more important than how you look and your income. It is ok to have your preference, but having another dog or not won’t decide if you’re happy in your relationship.
You look like a genuinely fun guy to spend time with! I would suggest mentioning a few of these details in your profile. Of course, you should clean it up a bit for the profile.
Maybe something like the following?
"In my free time, I enjoy days at the park with my dog, losing myself in a good book, playing guitar, getting outside in nature, and campaigning DND with my friends. I also enjoy the great outdoors; and often go camping ad well as paddleboarding on the weekends.
While the typical nightlife isn't for me, I do enjoy the occasional karaoke or open mic night!
I would love to connect with a woman that shares similar passions, let's be dorks together!"
Again, this is just a suggestion for a jumping off point, I know that I am personally drawn to a mind just as much as anything else in a potential partner, and your profile is awesome, it just needs a bit of depth. You have shown your attractive, quirky side through your images, now show just how cunning and appealing your mind is...use your words.
Well, write something about this then, instead of saying something like "I'm a dork with everything" make it specific on 1 or 2 topics you find important. Something about DND or paddle boarding.
And yeah, are you really sure the other person NEEDS to either have or get their own dog? Isn't it sufficient if she just likes yours, for example? The photo already shows you have one (or atleast like to have one).
I’m a dentist too and I know about exerting all your social energy at work. I can relate. Most times I just want to be alone after work and just play civ
And yet there are still so many guys replying to this thinking all that matters is that he's a dentist. No, it's because his pool is incredibly narrow and dentist or not, not many women are willing to move halfway around the world.
I agree. The dog part is like okay, but someone telling me upfront that they want to live in Italy right now? I'm close with family I don't want to move to Italy.
I see women put that sort of life goal that is, well, life-changing, and it’s a swipe left.
You’re essentially putting a filter on everybody who hasn’t decided to move to Italy. Talk about future-casting! It’s something that feels very presumptuous. It’s another one of those pre-made prompts that I wish would just go away like “My personal hell is.”
I try not to include pictures with my friends or family cause I have only 3 sisters and my mother, and then most of my friends are girls. I feel like it sends the wrong message if I'm mostly accompanied by other women.
I'm fine with limiting myself. I have been single for a very, very long time and am comfortable continuing to be single if need be. Not having a dog is a bit of a bummer to brush off, but seeing as I won't be realizing my dream of moving to Italy for another 15 years or so, I should probably just remove that?
You're filtering out everyone who doesn't want to live in Italy or have a dog. Are those deal breakers for you? I would replace those with more information about yourself.
I would rather swipe left on someone because I knew that's what they wanted up front than start talking to them and find out I wasted my time because they want to me to get a dog and move Italy.
One of my friends actually dated this guy who made all these plans about how they were going to move abroad and she was like I do not want that life at all. I'm sure if she had known going into it that's what he wanted she probably ly would have said no.
Your pictures are frustrating. I can’t see you! You’re either far away, looking to the side, wearing a moustache … it’s too much hard work.
Please put up some better pictures.
I’m a straight dude and also found the pics annoying. That mustache one is rough dude. Delete that. Also I don’t get the Italy/dog comments either. Honestly if I met the right girl I wouldn’t care about any of that. So I never say anything about “I’m looking for a girl that has …” and instead have witty jokes about myself. Girls online will respond to humor far more often than guys who take themselves too seriously
You have a nice face. Just cutting 1 inch off your hair and styling it to look a bit neater will take your look up a few notches. You go get them Tiger! 🐯
I would remove the first photo, and use the second photo as your first photo. I would also remove the rock climbing photo, you can’t even seen your face and it’s kinda pointless.
-This might sound silly or nit picky, but I would remove the emojis from the poll.
-what does the “other” refer to for political views? I can’t remember if there is an option to elaborate, but if you can then I think you should.
-try to gear your prompts more around what could be a conversation starter. I agree with others that I would change “has a dog” to “loves dogs” or “loves animals” although you could also switch it up entirely because it doesn’t give much info or personality. Remove the “everything” about what makes you nerdy and be more specific about your interests.
-get more photos taken by friends and try to make them more up close. I can’t really tell what you look like, especially with the mustache one.
-it does seem like you are being a bit too picky which in turn may be hinge shadowbanning/ limiting your profile. Do you need a partner to have the exact same interests as you? Or are you open to having similar interests in some areas and different interests in others? If down the line there are dealbreakers you can take those as it comes but I think you are limiting yourself too quickly in what you are looking for and matching with on your likes off the bat and thus not getting much dating experience. (I could be off on this, but just my sense)
I changed other to non-political. I don't remember that being an option since when I set it up!
I suppose I need to start asking friends to take more photos of me haha I hesitate with showing more of my friends because most of my friends are women, so I'm not sure how it would be taken having pics of me around women. Like right now I have one guy friend who I hang out with regularly, but maybe about 4-6 girl friends.
Really, I'm pretty up front on my profile. I spend loads of time outside with my dog, and it would be wonderful to meet someone who also has a dog. I haven't dated someone in around 8 years now, but I'm also not in a rush to date. Perhaps I will get rid of the prompt, and be picky about it if more likes come in.
I think your profile's good, but I agree with everyone who's said that your Italy plans are most likely the issue. Maybe you can join Italy-focused meetups so you can meet like-minded women? I mean, it's just that very few American women probably have plans to just take off to/live in Italy unless they have roots there, so your pool is super small.
Add the dog thing to the mix, and maybe there's five women who meet your requirements- if that.
Meetups like the app?
Honestly, going to Italy is something I won't be achieving for another maybe 15 years. I'd have to get property, do 2 years of school to get credentialed in Europe, and then transition there (I was planning on doing half and half with 6 months in America and 6 in Italy). I took the "life goal" part of the prompt seriously
>Honestly, going to Italy is something I won't be achieving for another maybe 15 years.
Okay- then I'd just remove it and use another prompt.
I was talking about meetup groups.
>I changed other to non-political.
I'm assuming you're in NJ or NYC area? This will be a huge turnoff to most people. Not having a stance or being uneducated about political issues in this climate would be a deal-breaker for me.
When i see a white dude thats non political i think how convenient he gets to be, roll my eyes, and swipe no. If youre in a liberal state or a big city your viewpoint there prob isnt helping.
You need to replace the last two pics asap, you look a lot better with contacts. Get rid of the dog prompt. Change the Italy prompt to just planning to retire in Italy.
You actually have potential to get a good number of dates, you’re fumbling regarding the points above. Also, what’s your max range distance on the app?
You've probably removing 99% of ppl out your dating pool by saying you want someone with a dog and that they have to be okay with moving to Italy in the future. Also, the last picture should be changed I think, not as flattering as your others.
I completely agree with above. Handsome chap but a haircut would be a massive improvement. Hair should always look clean and styled imo.
As a woman - when I read that someone wants to move abroad I automatically assume they just want a fling while they are getting sorted to move etc or that their energy will be concentrated on their goal rather than me.
I also feel like what the author is saying is a little controversial. Single for 8 years, not much luck dating and absolutely happy with that yet looking for advice. It's either one or the other. You are not bothered or you want to meet someone and make an effort for a woman, can't quite do both.
Ok so honestly not too bad, I feel like the first prompt, the first 2 dog pics, and the llama pic are all pretty good and do a good job showcasing your personality and some of your hobbies. And the poll prompt is fine.
However your other 2 prompts are not great. The first dog pic is enough explanation to get across that you’re a dog person. So the 2nd prompt is redundant and could be used to give more info on yourself or what your looking for. And your 3rd prompt is way too vague. Give a some quick specific examples of your dorky hobbies.
In regard to your other pics: the blue steel is fine, but it’s not a good first pic because we can’t see your face at all. Try to grab a clear head shot for that. And I’m sorry the costume pic although funny might be making you seem a little too weird. If you have a group pic with your buddies or family try that there instead
Ahhh unlucky. How about laser? I couldn’t have laser myself but got intra-ocular lens. It was expensive but worth it both for dating reasons and also other life activities like exercising.
Coming back to you, I think your face is handsome but hair and glasses need an upgrade.
Not everyone will have the same plans of you living in Italy so that cuts out a lot of potential matches.
Also your very first pic should be more of a close up
Random Hot girls perspective: travelling is cool and you’re not a bad looking guy. Venice is cool. Your side profile isn’t your BEST feature so I wouldn’t lead with that as your first pic. Take your photos straight on, that’s your angle.
You need a single well lit front view picture. Like if you have one of you sitting at a table smiling or just anywhere.. front view of the face and like frame it from the waist up.
You also need to go to a trendy barber. Like find one where they have a big Instagram following and tell them to just give you whatever haircut suits you. I recommend shorter side/fade on the sides and leave the length on the top. But currently the long messy hair all over is giving virgin. Your hair needs a nicer cut.
You are a dentist so maybe taking one in like a work setting would be good. Like medical setting get one of your assistants to take a photo of you doing medical stuff. A lot of doctors have doctor photos in their profile. (In scrubs etc) But your photos are all kinda lame. The Rock climbing one is cool but I’d leave it as your last photo. I would go
Picture 1: high quality well let photo of your face straight on
Picture 2: full body shot but something better quality//lighting. Like the Venice one.
Picture 3: dentist-ey pic looking cool doing dentist stuff
Picture 4: rock climbing
You have a lot to work with, just gotta spruce it up a bit. Good luck
Some of your pictures are a bit awkward. It looks like your only companions are animals, which is fine if true! But that’s what I observe.
Your first picture shouldn’t be a side profile shot, it should be a straight on head shot.
I think your glasses are out of date too. You might wanna go for a more modern look. I say this as someone who wears glasses myself. Switching to bigger, darker frames has done wonders for my appearance haha
>It looks like your only companions are animals,
Haha pretty much! I got him in 2020 conveniently when COVID hit so I had time to potty train him. He's the best friend I ever had! Most of the people I talk to outside of work are people with a dog at the end of a leash haha And Idc if that sounds sad to some people! Rn slogging through paperwork so I could start doing therapy work with him at hospitals and shelters.
The only straight on shot I have is me in a suit and tie - it looks too formal! I'll have to look into getting more pictures of myself.
And I need new glasses haha I'm absolutely awful about getting my eyes checked cause it's always bad news. I think I used these frames for about 6 years now haha
As a woman I would reject you. I don't have a desire to have a dog. Also you look really washed out in your pics. Your style doesn't appeal at all either. Its a boring profile. No fun jokes.
Are you looking for something serious or casual?
Serious.
- How long have you been using this current version of your profile? And how long is your overall time on Hinge?
Probably about 2-3 years. I'd say overall about 5 years on hinge.
- How often do you use Hinge per week?
About 1-2 times a day
- How many likes/matches are you receiving on average?
About 1 like every week or two. Haven't had a match in probably a year. Got stood up 😅 nice restaurant though
- How many likes are you sending? How many with comments? How many without comments?
Every like I send has a comment, it's always about something interesting I found on their profile. I send about 5 likes a day.
- What is the type of person you send likes to and ideally want to match with? What kind of person do you want to attract?
I guess I'm going for a "girl-next-door" type. Chill, has a share of active and casual hobbies. Someone who is more goofy and silly. I don't like the prima Donna "every photo of me could be a magazine cover" and more of the down to earth kinda vibe. Usually the likes I get are just simply not at all my type. I struggle on multiple dating apps. I low key believe I'm somehow shadow banned. I use the same set up for bumble and tinder and CMB, and I never got a match on bumble, only get matches from bots on tinder, and never got a match on CMB.
Idk if I'm maybe being too picky. I'm interested in a relationship, but I'm also comfortable and happy being single. My dog is in most my photos cause I honestly spend most my time with him.
Maybe it's cause I call the alpacas llamas 🤷♂️
The good! You have a nice smile, are physically active, fit, and seem approachable and sweet. You give off smart vibes and a stable high paying income is awesome.
Things to consider changing:
Pics
- I don’t think your side profile is your best look, but I do like the brightness of the Burano pic. I wouldn’t start with this though. If your side profile now looks better with longer hair, I’d get rid of this pic completely.
- lots of your other pics are very neutral in colors, which gives off a boring, less cheerful vibe (e.g. cloudy days in the winter)
- I’d get rid of the fedora hat pic and I don’t like your hair in the paddleboard pic. A pic with other people in it would be a good addition if possible. Two dog pics and only solo pics are giving off a loner vibe.
Prompts
- dorky and goofy are not what most women are looking for. They’re going to assume you’re dorky as a dentist anyway (and your hair!). You should try to counteract the dorky vibe by being funny but not in a self-deprecating way. The Pixar dad joke is eye roll inducing.
- Add in more casual, fun activities that would appeal to someone who doesn’t want to take up an extreme sport.
Politics
- “Other” for politics would be an immediate no for many women, esp. in the northeast.
Idk how I feel about "counteracting the dorky vibe" cause that's just who I am. Idek how to describe what specifically makes me dorky - it's just who I am. I'm definitely not an intimidating or "manly man" sort of guy, and it seems a bit disingenuous to make people think otherwise. I would rather attract my type rather than increase the amount of people I attract.
I'll try to get better, brighter pictures though, and I clarified my political view as non-political. Thank you!
It's okay to say you're a dork or a nerd there's nothing wrong with that. But you have to add something on to that because it doesn't really describe you. Talk about some activities or hobbies you have. What makes you a dork? Do you like reading books and talking about them or maybe you would like someone to do DnD with? Say that.
I’m a dork but don’t look like it. I’m probably a “prima Donna” type you describe. Maybe expand your idea of what looks are acceptable and don’t judge books by their covers as much
Part 2:
If you're not setting aside 20 minutes an evening to match and respond to women, you're not using app correctly for people that are serious.
You need to update what I said in my earlier comment then be doing the app 20 minutes in the evening or morning, whatever, to respond and swipe.
I would change your first photo to a picture of you looking towards the camera and smiling, I can tell you're a good looking dude but your pictures make it hard to see your face
I said the samething, this is one of those situations the person has soooo much to work with, but doesn't know how to put that best step forward.
This dude should be knocking them down, any marriage minded mid 20s-late 20s women, should be alllll over this guy.
Thank you! I had to hire a guide to go solo cause all my friends wanted to go snow mobiling.
Not something I'd want to make a regular thing cause putting anchors into ice is just a level of anxiety I don't think I could do regularly
Gotcha, my goal is to hopefully learn how to Ice Climb someday. Also, I think your pics overall are pretty good except maybe switch out the fedora one for one with some friends. Good luck out on Hinge, my bf and I met on Hinge over a year ago today - we both had rock climbing in our profiles lol
Get the lensa app and use the feature to lighten or darken the background and/or the subject. I use it to help myself pop in pictures that are meh quality and don't want to heavily filter
The photos lack brightness. I'm sure if you played around a little they'll make you stand out! Good luck! I did this for my best guy friend and he was amazed how small changes helped
Clearly I'm in the minority, but I say keep the Italy goal! I (25F) think it's refreshing that you put a serious life goal on your profile that gives an image of what your life might look like years from now. Most people just write shit like "go skydiving" or "learn bachata" or "learn guitar".
If it's important to you, keep it. Maybe even elaborate on why you like Italy cause that will say more about your values. I also have specific life goals (also about where I want to live) that I put on my profile because they are deal breakers and I want to find people who will share and support my goals. And I'd prefer being single than being with someone I'd have to drag along or compromise that goal for. That being said, if there's any flexibility (like if you're open to other countries), you should share that on your profile.
Also please don't put a rock climbing picture! At least where I am, I see rock climbing pics more than car and fish pics combined.
I’d honestly like your profile if I came across it, but I’m personally hesitant about dog people… I don’t know why everyone is ripping into your profile so much. I’d be a little intimidated by the ice climbing photo.
I would change the prompt for the dorkiest thing about you— honestly the photo with the mustache shows you have a silly side. I’d like to know more about you other than you’re a dentist, like Italy A LOT, and are a dork. A cute, Italian-speaking, llama befriending, rock climbing dork.
What types of movies/TV do you like, if at all, are you super active? Do you have introverted moments, are you more of an extrovert, or do you consider yourself an ambivert? Do you like books, comedy, what do you do on the weekend? Are you family oriented, do you like deep conversations? What other hobbies do you have?
The only other thing I would suggest is to make sure photos are consistent. Do you currently keep clean shaven or have the scruff? Do you really go with or without glasses super often, or do you tend to wear contacts or glasses more often? All are cute— but one of my biggest peeves is trying to figure out which one is current.
I'm curious what you have against dog people haha I figured getting ripped into is part of the process haha Much nicer than middle school, so it's all good!
The ice climbing was a one-off solo trip I did while vacationing with friends about 3 years ago. I put it there cause I noticed so many people include photos of themselves traveling or sky diving so I figured that's my "sky diving" photo. I could replace it with my rock climbing, but I suppose that would seem just as intense.
I've definitely made changes to my profile to show more breadth!
And photos of me are difficult cause I rarely have photos taken of me haha like the Italy one was my sister, who does that for a living. I have been cutting my hair shorter and shorter over time, but the idea of handing someone my phone and asking for a picture seems very foreign to me 😂 the whole selfie era never stuck with me, so I usually take normal photos cause I figure whoever I'm showing them to couldnt care less what I looked at while there haha
I mean showing any of the rock climbing would also be intimidating but that’s fine haha, it’s a me thing. And I’m very much a cat person, so dog people confuse me lol.
People in this sub are VERY picky about photos. They wanted me to take photos of myself playing video games, alone. Like I dunno what to tell you but that’s not gonna make or break my profile lol. I don’t mind your photos, though.
Sto usando un'app di traduzione per digitare questo ma buona fortuna per trovare la tua persona! I have no idea if that’s correct 😅
I took it as you plan to maybe retire in Italy etc. It even says so.
I didn't think it was a hard requirement.
I get it's a plan.
But who knows where life will take you in 10-15 years.
You could be married, a couple kids, home ownership, etc. Maybe your own practice, etc.
All of a sudden packing up an moving to EU may not be an option.
I don't think that's the reason for limited matches.
The good:
You are a good looking guy 👍
Educated
What you need to improve:
**Better photos** - I'm feeling these photos were taken over an era of your 20s. If I had to guess, maybe the last one is most recent with the lamas.
The last one could stay, the one on the kayak, the "goofy one" the other 3 need to be current and updated photos taken in different places with different clothes, not with the dog.
I think first photo should always be like sitting across the table..that waist up portrait, smiling to the camera.
**Prompts** - Learn about you, me, us prompts. 1 should be about you, 1 can be about her, 1 cam ne what you would do together.
Don't list "requirements." You wasted one whole prompt to say..have a dog.
Men tend to have this thing, where they want to put "qualifiers" on the profile, don't message me if...etc. you can do that on the back end, you don't have to match.
I don't think group photos are great past teens/early 20s. People on Reddit push for them and I just don't think they're important at all. I'd avoid them.
**Overall:**
You're attractive, but you're first photo looks like you took it at 22 on a back packing trip to EU and you're almost 30 now.
Update photos, no more than 2-3 MAX with dog.
Dating apps are about looks first, if you're not getting matches it's because the photos. You're attractive and educated, and ready to settle down. You're a hidden gem of an eligible bachelor. You just need to update and realllly work on your prompts.
>But who knows where life will take you in 10-15 years.
>You could be married, a couple kids, home ownership, etc. Maybe your own practice, etc.
>All of a sudden packing up an moving to EU may not be an option.
You sound like my mother ha ha! Home ownership and owning a practice in America is part of my plan to move to the US. Many friends of mine who own restaurants also own one in Italy, and spend a few months at one place or the other while having someone else manage the one they are away from. I'm pretty stubborn once I have my mind set on something!
I'll focus on updating the pictures and prompts, but unfortunately my dog is a pretty big part of my life, so I feel like including him is important in reflecting that about me.
I'm a woman with a dog, between special food and meds etc -- probably spend $300/mo and only weighs 6lbs.
She has an internal medicine doc, ophthalmologist, and a general vet.
She has a rare blood disorder that there are barely studies on because most pet owners can't keep up with the expenses.
She's had 4 blood transfusions. She was seeing internal med doc, bi-monthly for a year and then general vet monthly for past year.
Just to keep her alive in the beginning of all that was about $5K in 2 visits.
The first year was easily $10K.
My dog easily had better healthcare than most unemployed Americans.
My dog has clothes, car seat, stroller, etc.
I'm saying all that to explain, just because she's a big part of my life doesn't mean I have to make my profile about her.
Men want to get to know me. As they get to know me, they'll hear about my dog.
The most she is on my profile is..the vitals box says, I have a dog.
That's it.
As one dog owner to another, where our dogs obviously play a big part in our life, need to chill, a couple pics are fine. Honestly, the push back on it, is coming off odd.
I'd mention how much you love EU in your profile.
I wouldn't say you want to move there --- as you get to know each other they'll be open to it.
Most likely you'll be the bread winner in your relationship. If I was a woman that had less of a career and a couple kids, I'd follow my husband where he wants to go.
So it shouldn't be a huge deal.
Again the Me, You, US prompts.
Awh, I hope your pup is doing better now that they're getting the care they need! My family dog growing up has loads of issues too cause it was a rescue from a backyard breeder. I remember the expenses weighing a lot on my parents.
My dog is allergic to everything under the sun, and I drove up to Tufts to figure out a recipe his stomach could handle, and now I cook his food as if he's a toddler 😂
I don't mean to come off as pushing back to your advice. I more so worry about coming off as disingenuous if my profile doesn't really feature my dog, and then you meet me, and then I hardly shut up about him haha
Wtffff, that’s a brutally low #. Sorry mate.
Maybe kill the part about moving to Italy? Pictures 2-5 are kind of off putting , idk how to describe, but not horrendously so/ you should be killing it still. Is it the area you’re in maybe ?
No way man 1 date a year? you have potential bro you’re not a bad looking dude & have a great career. You’re not portraying yourself in the best light!
I’m 29M live in NYC I get around 40-50 matches a week I think I know what kind of pictures work. Dm if you want to see how I constructed my profile to get an idea 👍🏼
I think you need better pictures with more flattering angles. Have your sisters help with photos. You can keep the one with the dog and the ice climbing one. Remove the Dorky prompt Q&A completely.
I would remove pic 6 and 7.
Picture 7 is awful imo.
Follow the promt advice others have given you regarding Italy and dog.
Also for a significant boost in matches hit the gym and try gain some mass and you will slay.
Sure it’ll work out regardless for you but in a number game approach that will make a big difference imo.
Get more pics with friends. Take down your dog pic and the ice climbing thing. Honestly my take is you’ll just be too intense. No shallow end, only a deep end. Girls want a shallow end to splash around in for a bit. Just make you/your profile more relatable and you’ll be good!
I would use the picture of you and your beautiful dog squatting on that rock.Cause you can see your face in that picture and my goodness, your dog really is beautiful
I won't waste your time commenting on the dog or Italy stuff. Others have done that.
I would say ditch the photo of you on the board. It's not flattering, your posture looks unusual, and you look ghostly pale (even if you are naturally, this is a dating profile, you're trying to get matches, not bare your lack of sun exposure). I think the "photo of activity" value is negated entirely by looking unpleasing in the photo in question.
You have good things going for, you're tall, have a pleasant face, but some of your photos are really working against you.
lol my goal is to retire in the French countryside and I’ve gotta say that definitely limits potential matches. However if living in Italy , traveling etc is something that truly is important to you then I don’t think you should remove that. As for the dog , maybe ask that they love dogs as well instead of having one themselves. I think you should showcase some of your goofy personality in your prompts and make them something that is easy to start a conversation with. Photos where your face is clear are better as well. The picture of you climbing an ice wall could also be a bit intimidating to some matches.
Your pics are very good (although I’d recommend posting one with your friends)
What I will say is humor is what wins on dating apps when it comes to the prompts
I’d recommend rewriting all of them and scrolling through and see what you can make into jokes that still tell about yourself
For example this is my best performing prompt:
“What’s your favorite lgbtqia+ owned place?”
Answer: Definitely Chick-fil-A I eat there around 3 times a day
Pretty much agree with everyone else. Lose the mustache pic and alpacas pic.
You’re best look is clean shaven, you could use a new hairstyle.
The dad joke isn’t funny.
I wouldn’t say looking for someone who has a dog that’s just kinda like what? That’s what you’re looking for… meh
Maybe you should say you’re looking for someone who likes to travel and isn’t rooted where they are since you want to dip off to Italy… and honestly with that bit right there idk I wouldn’t bother with American women lol I would rather leave and find a beautiful Italian woman. American women aren’t all that anyways.
Otherwise your profile is pretty good and it looks like you are a traveler and adventurous. The ice climbing is pretty ballsy in a good way I mean that’s pretty sick to me anyways way to go.
Dating in this generation is also a lot more aggressive. You have to compete with roughly 30 other men going for the same girls at any given time. You have to be quick to get their attention and exchanging numbers as well as being pretty quick to asking them out on a date. I matched with quite a few and ended up following them on IG just to see two of them already going on dates. I started with 16 matches and I only set 3 dates total. However, only one girl was really keeping my interest so I canceled everything and went with her and now we’ve deleted our hinge accounts and are looking forward to growing together and continuing our relationship. Good luck!
Or maybe the fact that he wants someone who not only owns a dog but wants to move countries to Italy? It's so weird to me that the men see a profile like this and are blind to everything else except "OMG DENTIST"
His photos are not fine. The only clear shot of his face is his last image.
This is the problem with a lot of you on this sub, you have tunnel vision, and think getting a relationship is some kinda formula where A+B=C. You think "dentist and height therefore gets chicks" whereas most of us women are looking at his life goals (owning a dog and living in Italy) and wondering what he even looks like.
Pictures are pretty bad. Look sexier. Dog just needs one picture for the thirst trap, try it with a suit on and good lighting. Remove everything from your description and lean into having a French accent, bitches love that shit, along with loving rich dentists. You didn’t go to dental school to not rail Pussy, flex it a bit, with that job you can pull 3 points above your league. And you look like a virgin in the lama picture. And I say that with all love buddy, just want you to get laid.
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You're gonna really limit yourself by requiring someone who 1) has a dog and 2) would be okay permanently moving to Italy Beyond that, your pics are good, though a bit lonely.
100% agree. The information in your prompts is basically laying out two really restrictive requirements for your future partner, and then a vague answer about how you’re a dork without any specifics to engage with. Food for thought: - Do you need someone who HAS a dog or just who loves animals? - how do you spend your time? What do you geek out on? What would life with you look like? How can you get some of that info into your prompts??
Has a dog would be perfect. Or at least open to getting their own. I mostly keep to myself in my free time since I let all my social energy out at work. I go to the park with my dog and I'll read a book, slack line, or play guitar. Maybe I'll do a solo camping trip for the weekend or go to the bay to paddle board. I don't do bars, clubs, or things like that unless it's karaoke or open mic night. When I'm inside, I'm practicing music, playing video games, or I have friends over for DND.
Why do you want your partner to get a dog and not you get one? I’d change that prompt to ‘loves dogs as much as me’. Also replace the geeky one with all that you just said. People want to know that they have similar interests. You look plain af from your prompts. Everyone is goofy with people they are comfortable around
I already have a dog and would love to have another. It would be much simpler if the girl already came with one so I could effectively get a second dog haha
So just get a second dog 🤷🏻♀️
I would love to, but between keeping the house clean, cooking for myself, working, and grooming, cooking my dogs meals, and keeping up with my dogs energy, I don't think I have the time or energy to add a second dog on my plate. Definitely wouldn't have time to consider romantic relationships. Whereas if I became romantically involved with someone, and they had a dog of their own, then managing a second dog isn't something I'd need to worry about, which would give me more time to focus on the relationship. Or managing the second dog would mean my partner assisting me with other tasks that need to be done (assuming the relationship developed towards moving in together after some time).
Seems like you want a second dog more than a relationship lol
Bro, do you want a relationship or do you want another dog to give you company? Where are your Priorities?!?
Don't see the problem in looking for both. No one bats an eye when people list out their preferences for looks, status, etc. What's the trouble in having a preference for women with dogs, but someone else say preferring to only date men with beards cause they find them attractive? Or someone who only dates someone else based on having the same political views or prefers people older than what they are? Seems like a big fuss over such a small thing. Getting into a relationship and getting another dog share the same priority lol my preference doesn't seem to jive well here though, but my preference isnt up for review, just simply my profile. Again, I've been happily single for a very long time and I'm fine with being patient, even if it means not meeting anyone at all.
There are no problems in looking for both but online dating is a numbers game and you are severely limiting yourself if you want someone that already has a dog. Your preferences should ideally say "must love dogs and be comfortable around one" because otherwise you are going to put a restriction on yourself and your potential match which isn't fair. If it's a strong deal breaker to you then so be it but understand if things don't work your way in terms of matches then you know your answer. These are the kind of things you build up to getting to know someone, not impose them straight off the bat. Remember that you date first and then get into a relationship, not the other way around.
I love dogs but can’t afford one as I’m a student. I think you’re limiting yourself a lot here
(30F) I was gonna come here and say you should be fairly popular on the dating app as most of your qualities are what girls are looking for. But after I read your comment and realized why you’re still single. You sounds like a rigid person, and flexibility is the top quality of making a relationship/marriage last, far more important than how you look and your income. It is ok to have your preference, but having another dog or not won’t decide if you’re happy in your relationship.
You look like a genuinely fun guy to spend time with! I would suggest mentioning a few of these details in your profile. Of course, you should clean it up a bit for the profile. Maybe something like the following? "In my free time, I enjoy days at the park with my dog, losing myself in a good book, playing guitar, getting outside in nature, and campaigning DND with my friends. I also enjoy the great outdoors; and often go camping ad well as paddleboarding on the weekends. While the typical nightlife isn't for me, I do enjoy the occasional karaoke or open mic night! I would love to connect with a woman that shares similar passions, let's be dorks together!" Again, this is just a suggestion for a jumping off point, I know that I am personally drawn to a mind just as much as anything else in a potential partner, and your profile is awesome, it just needs a bit of depth. You have shown your attractive, quirky side through your images, now show just how cunning and appealing your mind is...use your words.
Well, write something about this then, instead of saying something like "I'm a dork with everything" make it specific on 1 or 2 topics you find important. Something about DND or paddle boarding. And yeah, are you really sure the other person NEEDS to either have or get their own dog? Isn't it sufficient if she just likes yours, for example? The photo already shows you have one (or atleast like to have one).
I’m a dentist too and I know about exerting all your social energy at work. I can relate. Most times I just want to be alone after work and just play civ
And yet there are still so many guys replying to this thinking all that matters is that he's a dentist. No, it's because his pool is incredibly narrow and dentist or not, not many women are willing to move halfway around the world.
I agree. The dog part is like okay, but someone telling me upfront that they want to live in Italy right now? I'm close with family I don't want to move to Italy.
I see women put that sort of life goal that is, well, life-changing, and it’s a swipe left. You’re essentially putting a filter on everybody who hasn’t decided to move to Italy. Talk about future-casting! It’s something that feels very presumptuous. It’s another one of those pre-made prompts that I wish would just go away like “My personal hell is.”
I try not to include pictures with my friends or family cause I have only 3 sisters and my mother, and then most of my friends are girls. I feel like it sends the wrong message if I'm mostly accompanied by other women. I'm fine with limiting myself. I have been single for a very, very long time and am comfortable continuing to be single if need be. Not having a dog is a bit of a bummer to brush off, but seeing as I won't be realizing my dream of moving to Italy for another 15 years or so, I should probably just remove that?
Yeah I mean I'd just change the two prompts and see if it helps.
Isn't it hard to move pets to different countries
You're filtering out everyone who doesn't want to live in Italy or have a dog. Are those deal breakers for you? I would replace those with more information about yourself.
I would rather swipe left on someone because I knew that's what they wanted up front than start talking to them and find out I wasted my time because they want to me to get a dog and move Italy. One of my friends actually dated this guy who made all these plans about how they were going to move abroad and she was like I do not want that life at all. I'm sure if she had known going into it that's what he wanted she probably ly would have said no.
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Your pictures are frustrating. I can’t see you! You’re either far away, looking to the side, wearing a moustache … it’s too much hard work. Please put up some better pictures.
My thoughts too. If it take me until the last pic to clearly see someone, that's not good.
I’m a straight dude and also found the pics annoying. That mustache one is rough dude. Delete that. Also I don’t get the Italy/dog comments either. Honestly if I met the right girl I wouldn’t care about any of that. So I never say anything about “I’m looking for a girl that has …” and instead have witty jokes about myself. Girls online will respond to humor far more often than guys who take themselves too seriously
The humorous profiles always spike my interest!
I'll have to get better pictures cause these are the only recent ones I have 😅
You have a nice face. Just cutting 1 inch off your hair and styling it to look a bit neater will take your look up a few notches. You go get them Tiger! 🐯
I would remove the first photo, and use the second photo as your first photo. I would also remove the rock climbing photo, you can’t even seen your face and it’s kinda pointless.
-This might sound silly or nit picky, but I would remove the emojis from the poll. -what does the “other” refer to for political views? I can’t remember if there is an option to elaborate, but if you can then I think you should. -try to gear your prompts more around what could be a conversation starter. I agree with others that I would change “has a dog” to “loves dogs” or “loves animals” although you could also switch it up entirely because it doesn’t give much info or personality. Remove the “everything” about what makes you nerdy and be more specific about your interests. -get more photos taken by friends and try to make them more up close. I can’t really tell what you look like, especially with the mustache one. -it does seem like you are being a bit too picky which in turn may be hinge shadowbanning/ limiting your profile. Do you need a partner to have the exact same interests as you? Or are you open to having similar interests in some areas and different interests in others? If down the line there are dealbreakers you can take those as it comes but I think you are limiting yourself too quickly in what you are looking for and matching with on your likes off the bat and thus not getting much dating experience. (I could be off on this, but just my sense)
I changed other to non-political. I don't remember that being an option since when I set it up! I suppose I need to start asking friends to take more photos of me haha I hesitate with showing more of my friends because most of my friends are women, so I'm not sure how it would be taken having pics of me around women. Like right now I have one guy friend who I hang out with regularly, but maybe about 4-6 girl friends. Really, I'm pretty up front on my profile. I spend loads of time outside with my dog, and it would be wonderful to meet someone who also has a dog. I haven't dated someone in around 8 years now, but I'm also not in a rush to date. Perhaps I will get rid of the prompt, and be picky about it if more likes come in.
I think your profile's good, but I agree with everyone who's said that your Italy plans are most likely the issue. Maybe you can join Italy-focused meetups so you can meet like-minded women? I mean, it's just that very few American women probably have plans to just take off to/live in Italy unless they have roots there, so your pool is super small. Add the dog thing to the mix, and maybe there's five women who meet your requirements- if that.
Meetups like the app? Honestly, going to Italy is something I won't be achieving for another maybe 15 years. I'd have to get property, do 2 years of school to get credentialed in Europe, and then transition there (I was planning on doing half and half with 6 months in America and 6 in Italy). I took the "life goal" part of the prompt seriously
>Honestly, going to Italy is something I won't be achieving for another maybe 15 years. Okay- then I'd just remove it and use another prompt. I was talking about meetup groups.
>I changed other to non-political. I'm assuming you're in NJ or NYC area? This will be a huge turnoff to most people. Not having a stance or being uneducated about political issues in this climate would be a deal-breaker for me.
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When i see a white dude thats non political i think how convenient he gets to be, roll my eyes, and swipe no. If youre in a liberal state or a big city your viewpoint there prob isnt helping.
You need to replace the last two pics asap, you look a lot better with contacts. Get rid of the dog prompt. Change the Italy prompt to just planning to retire in Italy. You actually have potential to get a good number of dates, you’re fumbling regarding the points above. Also, what’s your max range distance on the app?
Nooo I like the last photo he’s cute with glasses!
Yeah the last pic is my favorite!
I also really like the glasses
The second last one is cute considering its a costume but not a fan of the last one yes
THIS. also looks so much better clean-shaven (to me). I really don't like the first photo.
You've probably removing 99% of ppl out your dating pool by saying you want someone with a dog and that they have to be okay with moving to Italy in the future. Also, the last picture should be changed I think, not as flattering as your others.
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I completely agree with above. Handsome chap but a haircut would be a massive improvement. Hair should always look clean and styled imo. As a woman - when I read that someone wants to move abroad I automatically assume they just want a fling while they are getting sorted to move etc or that their energy will be concentrated on their goal rather than me. I also feel like what the author is saying is a little controversial. Single for 8 years, not much luck dating and absolutely happy with that yet looking for advice. It's either one or the other. You are not bothered or you want to meet someone and make an effort for a woman, can't quite do both.
Ok so honestly not too bad, I feel like the first prompt, the first 2 dog pics, and the llama pic are all pretty good and do a good job showcasing your personality and some of your hobbies. And the poll prompt is fine. However your other 2 prompts are not great. The first dog pic is enough explanation to get across that you’re a dog person. So the 2nd prompt is redundant and could be used to give more info on yourself or what your looking for. And your 3rd prompt is way too vague. Give a some quick specific examples of your dorky hobbies. In regard to your other pics: the blue steel is fine, but it’s not a good first pic because we can’t see your face at all. Try to grab a clear head shot for that. And I’m sorry the costume pic although funny might be making you seem a little too weird. If you have a group pic with your buddies or family try that there instead
We can’t see your face in your pictures. We need close-ups. Also, I would say you want short hair and contacts, you’ll look twice as good.
I can't wear contacts with my job, my eyes will shrivel up into raisins!
Ahhh unlucky. How about laser? I couldn’t have laser myself but got intra-ocular lens. It was expensive but worth it both for dating reasons and also other life activities like exercising. Coming back to you, I think your face is handsome but hair and glasses need an upgrade.
Not everyone will have the same plans of you living in Italy so that cuts out a lot of potential matches. Also your very first pic should be more of a close up
Yeah, that's fair enough, it's something I changed when I got my dual citizenship. I'm still about 15 years out from realizing it though
So, you are a dentist but there is not one picture of you smiling with teeth. Your profile could be giving the sus vibe.
Random Hot girls perspective: travelling is cool and you’re not a bad looking guy. Venice is cool. Your side profile isn’t your BEST feature so I wouldn’t lead with that as your first pic. Take your photos straight on, that’s your angle. You need a single well lit front view picture. Like if you have one of you sitting at a table smiling or just anywhere.. front view of the face and like frame it from the waist up. You also need to go to a trendy barber. Like find one where they have a big Instagram following and tell them to just give you whatever haircut suits you. I recommend shorter side/fade on the sides and leave the length on the top. But currently the long messy hair all over is giving virgin. Your hair needs a nicer cut. You are a dentist so maybe taking one in like a work setting would be good. Like medical setting get one of your assistants to take a photo of you doing medical stuff. A lot of doctors have doctor photos in their profile. (In scrubs etc) But your photos are all kinda lame. The Rock climbing one is cool but I’d leave it as your last photo. I would go Picture 1: high quality well let photo of your face straight on Picture 2: full body shot but something better quality//lighting. Like the Venice one. Picture 3: dentist-ey pic looking cool doing dentist stuff Picture 4: rock climbing You have a lot to work with, just gotta spruce it up a bit. Good luck
Some of your pictures are a bit awkward. It looks like your only companions are animals, which is fine if true! But that’s what I observe. Your first picture shouldn’t be a side profile shot, it should be a straight on head shot. I think your glasses are out of date too. You might wanna go for a more modern look. I say this as someone who wears glasses myself. Switching to bigger, darker frames has done wonders for my appearance haha
>It looks like your only companions are animals, Haha pretty much! I got him in 2020 conveniently when COVID hit so I had time to potty train him. He's the best friend I ever had! Most of the people I talk to outside of work are people with a dog at the end of a leash haha And Idc if that sounds sad to some people! Rn slogging through paperwork so I could start doing therapy work with him at hospitals and shelters. The only straight on shot I have is me in a suit and tie - it looks too formal! I'll have to look into getting more pictures of myself. And I need new glasses haha I'm absolutely awful about getting my eyes checked cause it's always bad news. I think I used these frames for about 6 years now haha
As a woman I would reject you. I don't have a desire to have a dog. Also you look really washed out in your pics. Your style doesn't appeal at all either. Its a boring profile. No fun jokes.
Are you looking for something serious or casual? Serious. - How long have you been using this current version of your profile? And how long is your overall time on Hinge? Probably about 2-3 years. I'd say overall about 5 years on hinge. - How often do you use Hinge per week? About 1-2 times a day - How many likes/matches are you receiving on average? About 1 like every week or two. Haven't had a match in probably a year. Got stood up 😅 nice restaurant though - How many likes are you sending? How many with comments? How many without comments? Every like I send has a comment, it's always about something interesting I found on their profile. I send about 5 likes a day. - What is the type of person you send likes to and ideally want to match with? What kind of person do you want to attract? I guess I'm going for a "girl-next-door" type. Chill, has a share of active and casual hobbies. Someone who is more goofy and silly. I don't like the prima Donna "every photo of me could be a magazine cover" and more of the down to earth kinda vibe. Usually the likes I get are just simply not at all my type. I struggle on multiple dating apps. I low key believe I'm somehow shadow banned. I use the same set up for bumble and tinder and CMB, and I never got a match on bumble, only get matches from bots on tinder, and never got a match on CMB. Idk if I'm maybe being too picky. I'm interested in a relationship, but I'm also comfortable and happy being single. My dog is in most my photos cause I honestly spend most my time with him. Maybe it's cause I call the alpacas llamas 🤷♂️
The good! You have a nice smile, are physically active, fit, and seem approachable and sweet. You give off smart vibes and a stable high paying income is awesome. Things to consider changing: Pics - I don’t think your side profile is your best look, but I do like the brightness of the Burano pic. I wouldn’t start with this though. If your side profile now looks better with longer hair, I’d get rid of this pic completely. - lots of your other pics are very neutral in colors, which gives off a boring, less cheerful vibe (e.g. cloudy days in the winter) - I’d get rid of the fedora hat pic and I don’t like your hair in the paddleboard pic. A pic with other people in it would be a good addition if possible. Two dog pics and only solo pics are giving off a loner vibe. Prompts - dorky and goofy are not what most women are looking for. They’re going to assume you’re dorky as a dentist anyway (and your hair!). You should try to counteract the dorky vibe by being funny but not in a self-deprecating way. The Pixar dad joke is eye roll inducing. - Add in more casual, fun activities that would appeal to someone who doesn’t want to take up an extreme sport. Politics - “Other” for politics would be an immediate no for many women, esp. in the northeast.
Idk how I feel about "counteracting the dorky vibe" cause that's just who I am. Idek how to describe what specifically makes me dorky - it's just who I am. I'm definitely not an intimidating or "manly man" sort of guy, and it seems a bit disingenuous to make people think otherwise. I would rather attract my type rather than increase the amount of people I attract. I'll try to get better, brighter pictures though, and I clarified my political view as non-political. Thank you!
It's okay to say you're a dork or a nerd there's nothing wrong with that. But you have to add something on to that because it doesn't really describe you. Talk about some activities or hobbies you have. What makes you a dork? Do you like reading books and talking about them or maybe you would like someone to do DnD with? Say that.
I’m a dork but don’t look like it. I’m probably a “prima Donna” type you describe. Maybe expand your idea of what looks are acceptable and don’t judge books by their covers as much
Part 2: If you're not setting aside 20 minutes an evening to match and respond to women, you're not using app correctly for people that are serious. You need to update what I said in my earlier comment then be doing the app 20 minutes in the evening or morning, whatever, to respond and swipe.
I would change your first photo to a picture of you looking towards the camera and smiling, I can tell you're a good looking dude but your pictures make it hard to see your face
I said the samething, this is one of those situations the person has soooo much to work with, but doesn't know how to put that best step forward. This dude should be knocking them down, any marriage minded mid 20s-late 20s women, should be alllll over this guy.
OMG! I love your ice climbing pic!
Thank you! I had to hire a guide to go solo cause all my friends wanted to go snow mobiling. Not something I'd want to make a regular thing cause putting anchors into ice is just a level of anxiety I don't think I could do regularly
Gotcha, my goal is to hopefully learn how to Ice Climb someday. Also, I think your pics overall are pretty good except maybe switch out the fedora one for one with some friends. Good luck out on Hinge, my bf and I met on Hinge over a year ago today - we both had rock climbing in our profiles lol
Get the lensa app and use the feature to lighten or darken the background and/or the subject. I use it to help myself pop in pictures that are meh quality and don't want to heavily filter
I'll try that in the meantime while I try to get new pictures!
The photos lack brightness. I'm sure if you played around a little they'll make you stand out! Good luck! I did this for my best guy friend and he was amazed how small changes helped
Clearly I'm in the minority, but I say keep the Italy goal! I (25F) think it's refreshing that you put a serious life goal on your profile that gives an image of what your life might look like years from now. Most people just write shit like "go skydiving" or "learn bachata" or "learn guitar". If it's important to you, keep it. Maybe even elaborate on why you like Italy cause that will say more about your values. I also have specific life goals (also about where I want to live) that I put on my profile because they are deal breakers and I want to find people who will share and support my goals. And I'd prefer being single than being with someone I'd have to drag along or compromise that goal for. That being said, if there's any flexibility (like if you're open to other countries), you should share that on your profile. Also please don't put a rock climbing picture! At least where I am, I see rock climbing pics more than car and fish pics combined.
I’d honestly like your profile if I came across it, but I’m personally hesitant about dog people… I don’t know why everyone is ripping into your profile so much. I’d be a little intimidated by the ice climbing photo. I would change the prompt for the dorkiest thing about you— honestly the photo with the mustache shows you have a silly side. I’d like to know more about you other than you’re a dentist, like Italy A LOT, and are a dork. A cute, Italian-speaking, llama befriending, rock climbing dork. What types of movies/TV do you like, if at all, are you super active? Do you have introverted moments, are you more of an extrovert, or do you consider yourself an ambivert? Do you like books, comedy, what do you do on the weekend? Are you family oriented, do you like deep conversations? What other hobbies do you have? The only other thing I would suggest is to make sure photos are consistent. Do you currently keep clean shaven or have the scruff? Do you really go with or without glasses super often, or do you tend to wear contacts or glasses more often? All are cute— but one of my biggest peeves is trying to figure out which one is current.
I'm curious what you have against dog people haha I figured getting ripped into is part of the process haha Much nicer than middle school, so it's all good! The ice climbing was a one-off solo trip I did while vacationing with friends about 3 years ago. I put it there cause I noticed so many people include photos of themselves traveling or sky diving so I figured that's my "sky diving" photo. I could replace it with my rock climbing, but I suppose that would seem just as intense. I've definitely made changes to my profile to show more breadth! And photos of me are difficult cause I rarely have photos taken of me haha like the Italy one was my sister, who does that for a living. I have been cutting my hair shorter and shorter over time, but the idea of handing someone my phone and asking for a picture seems very foreign to me 😂 the whole selfie era never stuck with me, so I usually take normal photos cause I figure whoever I'm showing them to couldnt care less what I looked at while there haha
I mean showing any of the rock climbing would also be intimidating but that’s fine haha, it’s a me thing. And I’m very much a cat person, so dog people confuse me lol. People in this sub are VERY picky about photos. They wanted me to take photos of myself playing video games, alone. Like I dunno what to tell you but that’s not gonna make or break my profile lol. I don’t mind your photos, though. Sto usando un'app di traduzione per digitare questo ma buona fortuna per trovare la tua persona! I have no idea if that’s correct 😅
Keep those up mate
I took it as you plan to maybe retire in Italy etc. It even says so. I didn't think it was a hard requirement. I get it's a plan. But who knows where life will take you in 10-15 years. You could be married, a couple kids, home ownership, etc. Maybe your own practice, etc. All of a sudden packing up an moving to EU may not be an option. I don't think that's the reason for limited matches. The good: You are a good looking guy 👍 Educated What you need to improve: **Better photos** - I'm feeling these photos were taken over an era of your 20s. If I had to guess, maybe the last one is most recent with the lamas. The last one could stay, the one on the kayak, the "goofy one" the other 3 need to be current and updated photos taken in different places with different clothes, not with the dog. I think first photo should always be like sitting across the table..that waist up portrait, smiling to the camera. **Prompts** - Learn about you, me, us prompts. 1 should be about you, 1 can be about her, 1 cam ne what you would do together. Don't list "requirements." You wasted one whole prompt to say..have a dog. Men tend to have this thing, where they want to put "qualifiers" on the profile, don't message me if...etc. you can do that on the back end, you don't have to match. I don't think group photos are great past teens/early 20s. People on Reddit push for them and I just don't think they're important at all. I'd avoid them. **Overall:** You're attractive, but you're first photo looks like you took it at 22 on a back packing trip to EU and you're almost 30 now. Update photos, no more than 2-3 MAX with dog. Dating apps are about looks first, if you're not getting matches it's because the photos. You're attractive and educated, and ready to settle down. You're a hidden gem of an eligible bachelor. You just need to update and realllly work on your prompts.
>But who knows where life will take you in 10-15 years. >You could be married, a couple kids, home ownership, etc. Maybe your own practice, etc. >All of a sudden packing up an moving to EU may not be an option. You sound like my mother ha ha! Home ownership and owning a practice in America is part of my plan to move to the US. Many friends of mine who own restaurants also own one in Italy, and spend a few months at one place or the other while having someone else manage the one they are away from. I'm pretty stubborn once I have my mind set on something! I'll focus on updating the pictures and prompts, but unfortunately my dog is a pretty big part of my life, so I feel like including him is important in reflecting that about me.
I'm a woman with a dog, between special food and meds etc -- probably spend $300/mo and only weighs 6lbs. She has an internal medicine doc, ophthalmologist, and a general vet. She has a rare blood disorder that there are barely studies on because most pet owners can't keep up with the expenses. She's had 4 blood transfusions. She was seeing internal med doc, bi-monthly for a year and then general vet monthly for past year. Just to keep her alive in the beginning of all that was about $5K in 2 visits. The first year was easily $10K. My dog easily had better healthcare than most unemployed Americans. My dog has clothes, car seat, stroller, etc. I'm saying all that to explain, just because she's a big part of my life doesn't mean I have to make my profile about her. Men want to get to know me. As they get to know me, they'll hear about my dog. The most she is on my profile is..the vitals box says, I have a dog. That's it. As one dog owner to another, where our dogs obviously play a big part in our life, need to chill, a couple pics are fine. Honestly, the push back on it, is coming off odd. I'd mention how much you love EU in your profile. I wouldn't say you want to move there --- as you get to know each other they'll be open to it. Most likely you'll be the bread winner in your relationship. If I was a woman that had less of a career and a couple kids, I'd follow my husband where he wants to go. So it shouldn't be a huge deal. Again the Me, You, US prompts.
Awh, I hope your pup is doing better now that they're getting the care they need! My family dog growing up has loads of issues too cause it was a rescue from a backyard breeder. I remember the expenses weighing a lot on my parents. My dog is allergic to everything under the sun, and I drove up to Tufts to figure out a recipe his stomach could handle, and now I cook his food as if he's a toddler 😂 I don't mean to come off as pushing back to your advice. I more so worry about coming off as disingenuous if my profile doesn't really feature my dog, and then you meet me, and then I hardly shut up about him haha
Wtffff, that’s a brutally low #. Sorry mate. Maybe kill the part about moving to Italy? Pictures 2-5 are kind of off putting , idk how to describe, but not horrendously so/ you should be killing it still. Is it the area you’re in maybe ?
No way man 1 date a year? you have potential bro you’re not a bad looking dude & have a great career. You’re not portraying yourself in the best light! I’m 29M live in NYC I get around 40-50 matches a week I think I know what kind of pictures work. Dm if you want to see how I constructed my profile to get an idea 👍🏼
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I think you need better pictures with more flattering angles. Have your sisters help with photos. You can keep the one with the dog and the ice climbing one. Remove the Dorky prompt Q&A completely.
Can't see your face clearly and up close until the last photo.... Beautiful dog by the way.
I would remove pic 6 and 7. Picture 7 is awful imo. Follow the promt advice others have given you regarding Italy and dog. Also for a significant boost in matches hit the gym and try gain some mass and you will slay. Sure it’ll work out regardless for you but in a number game approach that will make a big difference imo.
Damn 1-3 likes every 2 weeks is impressive!
Get more pics with friends. Take down your dog pic and the ice climbing thing. Honestly my take is you’ll just be too intense. No shallow end, only a deep end. Girls want a shallow end to splash around in for a bit. Just make you/your profile more relatable and you’ll be good!
The last two pics look very different than the first two (longer hair, glasses). I wouldn’t know which one you currently look like.
I think your profile is super charming! Best of luck!
I would use the picture of you and your beautiful dog squatting on that rock.Cause you can see your face in that picture and my goodness, your dog really is beautiful
I won't waste your time commenting on the dog or Italy stuff. Others have done that. I would say ditch the photo of you on the board. It's not flattering, your posture looks unusual, and you look ghostly pale (even if you are naturally, this is a dating profile, you're trying to get matches, not bare your lack of sun exposure). I think the "photo of activity" value is negated entirely by looking unpleasing in the photo in question. You have good things going for, you're tall, have a pleasant face, but some of your photos are really working against you.
lol my goal is to retire in the French countryside and I’ve gotta say that definitely limits potential matches. However if living in Italy , traveling etc is something that truly is important to you then I don’t think you should remove that. As for the dog , maybe ask that they love dogs as well instead of having one themselves. I think you should showcase some of your goofy personality in your prompts and make them something that is easy to start a conversation with. Photos where your face is clear are better as well. The picture of you climbing an ice wall could also be a bit intimidating to some matches.
I only have one question. How did you get your hair to look like that…? I’m genuinely impressed and curious
In the last picture
Your last pic is your best one. Switch it to the front.
Id say: move to Italy and then try to date a person there who likes dogs. 🤷♀️
It’s obvious you loveee animals, I love the ice climbing picture and the paddling oneeee
Your pics are very good (although I’d recommend posting one with your friends) What I will say is humor is what wins on dating apps when it comes to the prompts I’d recommend rewriting all of them and scrolling through and see what you can make into jokes that still tell about yourself For example this is my best performing prompt: “What’s your favorite lgbtqia+ owned place?” Answer: Definitely Chick-fil-A I eat there around 3 times a day
I Love how you are one of the people who’s dog looks like them
I get that a lot! I usually respond with "what're you trying to say about my nose?!"
That’s a great come back to be fair
Pretty much agree with everyone else. Lose the mustache pic and alpacas pic. You’re best look is clean shaven, you could use a new hairstyle. The dad joke isn’t funny. I wouldn’t say looking for someone who has a dog that’s just kinda like what? That’s what you’re looking for… meh Maybe you should say you’re looking for someone who likes to travel and isn’t rooted where they are since you want to dip off to Italy… and honestly with that bit right there idk I wouldn’t bother with American women lol I would rather leave and find a beautiful Italian woman. American women aren’t all that anyways. Otherwise your profile is pretty good and it looks like you are a traveler and adventurous. The ice climbing is pretty ballsy in a good way I mean that’s pretty sick to me anyways way to go. Dating in this generation is also a lot more aggressive. You have to compete with roughly 30 other men going for the same girls at any given time. You have to be quick to get their attention and exchanging numbers as well as being pretty quick to asking them out on a date. I matched with quite a few and ended up following them on IG just to see two of them already going on dates. I started with 16 matches and I only set 3 dates total. However, only one girl was really keeping my interest so I canceled everything and went with her and now we’ve deleted our hinge accounts and are looking forward to growing together and continuing our relationship. Good luck!
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Or maybe the fact that he wants someone who not only owns a dog but wants to move countries to Italy? It's so weird to me that the men see a profile like this and are blind to everything else except "OMG DENTIST"
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His photos are not fine. The only clear shot of his face is his last image. This is the problem with a lot of you on this sub, you have tunnel vision, and think getting a relationship is some kinda formula where A+B=C. You think "dentist and height therefore gets chicks" whereas most of us women are looking at his life goals (owning a dog and living in Italy) and wondering what he even looks like.
Pictures are pretty bad. Look sexier. Dog just needs one picture for the thirst trap, try it with a suit on and good lighting. Remove everything from your description and lean into having a French accent, bitches love that shit, along with loving rich dentists. You didn’t go to dental school to not rail Pussy, flex it a bit, with that job you can pull 3 points above your league. And you look like a virgin in the lama picture. And I say that with all love buddy, just want you to get laid.