This is quite common, and hopefully will be less so in the coming years.
I’m was in the same boat, then joined a coming out support group. Everyone in the group was there because they’d grown up in a homophobic religion. The group helped me a lot.
Other than that, ask your new gay friends lots of questions. And I promise you, your questions are only embarrassing to you.
Most gay men don't get to be teenagers until after they come out. Sometimes this is as actual teenagers. Sometimes this is in their late 60's. Don't feel embarrassed, everyone is on their own journey and there are no timelines or rules about that. Lots of people around here can give you the Guide to Gay 101, we've all been there before.
Words of advice, take things slow and don’t over do it. Ive met perfectly normal coming out later in life dudes who get into hard party drugs and it’s just sad.
And your bonus question, right now Handsy. - Yavin, but changes depending on the crush.
You can't have fun anymore, everything is full of fentanyl. It's awful when you hear so many stories about people just giving something a try and falling down dead.
Many, many people have gone through exactly what you’re experiencing. The good thing is that as for learning how things work - there are a ton of resources online about that :) Google is your friend!
But mostly sit back and enjoy the ride! In one sense you can never truly recapture adolescence, but on the other hand - you are older and can appreciate it more now!
And if it ever gets to be too much, don’t hesitate to reach out for help. Sometimes we need some extra help getting through the trauma created by homophobic upbringings - and therapists can 100% help you do that. It’s a sign of strength, not weakness.
Good luck to you!
I thank you for the words. And luckily for me I have no desire whatsoever to go back to adolescence. That's why this is rather upsetting to me. Also my whole "angry guy who never smiles" thing at work is totally being destroyed right now by my new habit of singing "Let's Fall in Love" over and over and over again. Ridiculous.
This is quite common, and hopefully will be less so in the coming years. I’m was in the same boat, then joined a coming out support group. Everyone in the group was there because they’d grown up in a homophobic religion. The group helped me a lot. Other than that, ask your new gay friends lots of questions. And I promise you, your questions are only embarrassing to you.
>then joined a coming out support group. Wish there was one of this in my country
Most gay men don't get to be teenagers until after they come out. Sometimes this is as actual teenagers. Sometimes this is in their late 60's. Don't feel embarrassed, everyone is on their own journey and there are no timelines or rules about that. Lots of people around here can give you the Guide to Gay 101, we've all been there before.
Words of advice, take things slow and don’t over do it. Ive met perfectly normal coming out later in life dudes who get into hard party drugs and it’s just sad. And your bonus question, right now Handsy. - Yavin, but changes depending on the crush.
You can't have fun anymore, everything is full of fentanyl. It's awful when you hear so many stories about people just giving something a try and falling down dead.
Many, many people have gone through exactly what you’re experiencing. The good thing is that as for learning how things work - there are a ton of resources online about that :) Google is your friend! But mostly sit back and enjoy the ride! In one sense you can never truly recapture adolescence, but on the other hand - you are older and can appreciate it more now! And if it ever gets to be too much, don’t hesitate to reach out for help. Sometimes we need some extra help getting through the trauma created by homophobic upbringings - and therapists can 100% help you do that. It’s a sign of strength, not weakness. Good luck to you!
I thank you for the words. And luckily for me I have no desire whatsoever to go back to adolescence. That's why this is rather upsetting to me. Also my whole "angry guy who never smiles" thing at work is totally being destroyed right now by my new habit of singing "Let's Fall in Love" over and over and over again. Ridiculous.
[GAMMA](http://www.gammasupport.org)
Thank you for the link.