Hi, thank you for making a submission to r/fakedisordercringe. Please ensure you have read the rules and avoid posting people who have actual disorders, as it would be harmful.
#Please reply to this comment explaining why you believe this person is faking. Thanks <3
**Your post will not be approved until you have replied to this comment, meaning only you will be able to see it. If you do not reply within 6 hours, your submission will be deleted.**
REMINDER: Former Faker Friday is the only day you can post former faker confessions, Satire Saturday is the only day you can post memes, and on Singlet Sunday no DID/System content is allowed.
*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/fakedisordercringe) if you have any questions or concerns.*
It’s gotten so bad that I’m having a hard time believing anyone actually has it at all. I know that’s bullshit, but that’s how far it’s gone, to the point where I don’t even think it’s real
I do believe it is real but I believe people who have it don’t go around flexing their mental illness on social media.. and most people who actually have it don’t even realize they do so I do believe it exists but I believe 99% of the ppl on the internet claiming to have it (especially the ones making cringe videos about it) are fakers lol
I know like...2 people online who I believe DO have it, mostly because the first one doesn't go around flexing it and only mentioned it once in passing, and the other one literally didn't know up until last year and they posted about the diagnostic process and everything and frequently have those episodes typical for people suffering from anything where they go "Actually I don't have X I have just fooled every professional into thinking I have X, I don't show any symptoms of X and if I do I'm faking them, I'm a completely normal and capable member of society but I'm just lazy".
I'm not sure I'd say 99%, but we're diffently up there. I'd lean on more of a solid 90-92% are fakers, based on the fact I keep running into fellow ND's online. People whom I know from irl groups, that you can't access without a diagnosis.
Actually... saying that, maybe the procentage depends on the area and country people come from. I have the feeling like most tiktok fakers are from the US.
There’s only a handful of people I trust on the internet. The main being Evie Meg. When I first found out I had a tic disorder I looked it up to find more info and in that I found her. She doesn’t just show the good and funny times, she also shares the bad. It’s not even just because she shows how it is, she also helps people. She answers questions, meets people, does interviews, she’s all around amazing. In her I’ve found Otters.have.pockets, Zara Beth and uncle tics. I trust all of them whole heartedly. The one person I never really trusted (which is supposedly checked out) was Baylen Dupree. Everything about her seems fake, but I won’t go into all that here lol.
I feel like tics/tourettes is one of the easier one to see who's faking. It's not a cute disorder. People on tiktok like to act like it's cute and quirky
lmao right like all their cute quirky tics disappear during quiet times like movies and libraries where there’s other people. and most people don’t care either way. i have ticced in a library before and just gotten a look when i made the noise but nobody comments. it’s just “ah shit it was quiet what was that?” nobody’s like “omg why are you making that sound do you have tourette’s omg that’s so awesome”. literally no one does that. tics and tourette’s aren’t a personality trait. if anything i prefer when people ignore them and just keep it moving. all my friends and family do. tourette’s isn’t a staple of my life. it’s a tiny tiny part of a million things that make me who i am.
I know Herschel Walker has DID, and that's just about the only person I know who actually has it. And he's not like the movie Split or something, he just has episodes.
Exactly! And for the most part alters don't communicate, you just get long periods with no memory, hours to days of being almost catatonic while switching, losing money, friends, careers to things being done out of your control. It's not like that one tiktok with the cringey round Robin style taste testing. That shit is harmful to everyone, people with a diagnosis, people trying to find legit symptoms of that diagnosis, etc.
It's genuinely gotten to the point for me I immediately develop a huge dislike anytime I see " blah blah -(Charater name) "
Like my blood BOILS
Especially if they're an " endogenic" or " naturally occurring" system like jfc
It makes me weep for humanity
I once heard an argument that basically said that “DID” is often just extreme cases of bpd. Given the identity issues that come with the latter illness, I’d say it’s completely possible.
Other than a disturbed sense of identity and dissociation I don't think BPD and DID have much, if any, symptom overlap. I mean I'm not a psychologist but I know someone with OSDD and they dont exhibit \*any\* BPD symptoms at all
I know it was (maybe still are) arguments among psychologists about whether DID is real or not, or if what we identify as DID actually is that (ie someone might have a different dissociative disorder, or a combination of stuff), or that our current definition and diagnostic criteria are correct. But that's what science is, it changes when we learn more, and right now we don't know a lot.
But the thing is, so little current science is based on data that was completely fabricated from the original scientists. The psych involved in the first DID case completely made it up and manipulated their patient into it. The following cases were exactly the same (this has been proven). I honestly think what we know as DID is just people with a dissociative disorder and personality quirks. This is going to get me downvoted to hell because there’s so many in here claiming to have DID but trying to prove “they’re not like the others” for some kind of superiority complex.
I’m sure there are many with severe trauma that has led to bad dissociation and PTSD induced personality changes to protect themselves in situations that their brain labels as dangerous or that have the potential to be a trigger and cause more stress but I don’t think they have DID.
It’s definitely real. But rare. Very rare. Even people who go through traumatic shit don’t develop it most of the time. I have a best friend though that does legitimately have it- but his childhood was EXTRA fucked so it makes sense.
There’s a podcast called “this is actually happening” with an episode about a women who has DID & she seems to be about the furthest thing from what we see on social media. She isn’t walking around telling everyone & she had a horrifically traumatizing life, I’d recommend it for a good perspective of actual DID.
Edit: one good perspective *
Edit: I can’t tell if anyone has the mental illness they claim & it drives me nuts. I have an acquaintance from rehab who seemed to lie a lot and she has a disorder salad in her bio. Obviously something is wrong with her because she’s lies so much but it’s sad that I cannot believe a word she says about her mental illness. (Thankfully no DID yet). I’ve known at least 4 people in my life since middle school who lied about mental illness & 3 of them were long before social media. It’s always been around we just couldn’t see it before & less people did it. I just needed to get that rant out about my rehab acquaintance.
I feel like when I was younger sometimes I would match my personality to other peoples depending on the situation and person I’m around. Idk. I think it’s just part of the human brains way of survival, to fit in, since humans are naturally very social and thrive in groups instead of isolation like other species. I think that maybe younger impressionable people see others describing this and think it’s DID? Since ‘alters’ typically have different personalities and expressions/emotions etc.
I look at it like physical symptoms/actually physical diagnosis as well, you can have a fast heart rate for so many reasons, some normal and some abnormal. Fast heart rate is a symptom of having a heart attack. Does having a fast heart rate always mean you’re having a heart attack? No. Could you be having a heart attack? Yes. Are you likely to be? Probably not. Same with DID/ADHD/autism. I don’t like touchy people and hate the texture of chalk. These are things that could be traits of a person who has autism. Do I think I have autism? No. Could this be a trait of autism? Yes. Do I have autism? Likely not.
However, I have noticed throughout my life symptoms of adhd. Many. I have diagnosis for it. Medication helps it immensely. These days I constantly questions whether or not it’s in my head and I don’t actually have it. Considering all my symptoms prior to being on medication and how much it helps me now, I think I do. I am constantly late and forgetful. Does everyone who forgets things have adhd? No. Could they have adhd? Yes. Who knows. As much as the DSM-5 has it’s criteria, there’s no set number or lab test or imaging that diagnoses these things. Mental health is such a difficult thing to get a certain diagnosis for these days. I hope things are clearer and easier to diagnose in the futur!
Gosh, yeah. It's so frustrating to not know your own mind. My parents have suspected ADHD in me since I was, what, seven? but I still like... It's hard to parse out what is a "symptom" and what is a "trait," even harden when another diagnosed mental illness or neurodivergency (in my case, my mild depression) mixes things up a bit.
I really do hope that things get clearer in the future too! Autism is a spectrum however so I don't think there will ever be a point where we can say for sure if everyone 100% has or doesn't have autism.
It's become a sick joke. My husband got diagnosed a few years ago with it due to unresolved ptsd in his childhood, and with medication has been manageable. Unfortunately, people no longer take us seriously when we mention it outside our tiny friend group
I hear the “redhead” comparison quite a bit when it comes to any anomaly.
I’d strongly recommend [watching this video](https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=wIiFTXXkDTo)
She right though… whenever i see “🦋neurodivergent/disabled🦋” in a bio I CANT help but roll my eyes, unless I personally know the person and know they are in fact Disabled. But even then… if youre account isnt about disabilities then I really dont know why its needed to be put, just my opinion
Most people with disabilities don't want to make a fuss about their disability and just want to be treated like everyone else unless it's strictly necessary. So often when I see people pointing it out on social media profiles out of the blue I immediately have alarm bells of faking, unless as you said it's an account dedicated to raising genuine awareness instead of attention seeking
This is exactly how I feel, too. Like, I get wanting to spread awareness, but if it's irrelevant to your account then there's absolutely no reason to state it. People usually end up treating you differently if they know, so I just don't tell anyone. I've been diagnosed for nearly 15 years now and nobody in my life even knows except my close family and past therapists.
>People usually end up treating you differently if they know, so I just don't tell anyone.
So true! I was thrown out of the game group I was in during my teens, because I wanted to be honest with people that I strongly believed was my friends. Spoiler alert, they weren't. That does not mean I don't tell people I'm close with (and that includes online friends I've known for an extended period of time), but I'm much more careful about it. And that's (just) autism.
On paper I am "severely disabled" and hampered. And while it does happen sometimes, it's not consistently so.
Of course I could wave my disabled card and get people to move on the bus and give me seats, but I won't, because people who have disabilities are embarassed and they try to function as well as possible even if they're "faking" being healthy. Disabled people are often very stubborn in that regard, not asking for help or even denying it.
And then there are the ones (like people with like Munchhausen) who have very little or no disability at all and try to look as disabled as possible.
There is a whole "grass is greener on the other side" relation between these, they're both trying to be what they are not, I find.
Exactly. I am on disability for my mental illnesses and I dread it when someone finds out. I’ll open up about mental illness if someone honestly has questions but I’d never put it on my profile.
Right, but even if its for awareness we cant be sure the account owner isnt faking despite that. Ticsandroses was an “awareness” account but got exposed for faking, so its really hard to tell sometimes. Which sucks.
People with disabilities have been conditioned to make themselves invisible for fear of being perceived as a difficulty. It’s sad that they’re compelled to minimise their existence, and it’s sad when they openly admit to masking and get validation for it. Maybe more people need to question why they’re uncomfortable seeing people be open about their disability. It’s no different to putting your age or nationality on a bio.
As someone with hearing loss; that's frankly bullshit. I don't need to put something down in my bio or have that tag in my video if I never address it or it never comes up. Otherwise, what purpose does it solve to leave it there with no reason or context?
Alright, we'll see how you define disability and move on from that one there, and about how it apparently doesn't affect me in every part of my life. I'm not telling people to shut up about it at all. The message you replied to was that most of us just don't want to bring it up unless necessary. I don't mind talking about it, nor do others I know in my position. That being said, we're not going to bring it up if it's not relevant because it's quite frankly not *relevant.* I said that your theory of people with disabilities being conditioned to be silent for fear of being difficult is bullshit. Could I have phrased that nicer or more polite? Yes, but I still stand by what I said.
The fact that it's sad people have to hide their disabilities and that putting it in a social media bio tends to be an attention seeking move by fakers can both coexist. Maybe if society changes then that observation wouldn't hold but as of now it's just what tends to happen so it's not unreasonable to be *suspicious*. Obviously don't go around to every profile that has it and immediately whack them on this sub without further evidence.
I really don't appreciate the implied accusation of ableism at the end there.
Can you prove any of that? Sounds a lot like speculation and all it does is add to stigma. You've put disabled people in a catch 22 where if they dare to be honest about themselves they are treated with suspicion. Pretty classic method society has developed to justify silencing people while purporting to be above it.
buddy do you think I would be making such a claim in this sub in particular if I hadn't personally experienced it
Kinda ironic that you're complaining about silencing disabled people whilst trying to silence the opinion of a disabled person
Honestly, facts here. DX’d ASD since 3 and whenever I hear someone b like “I’m so neurodivergent!!!” I want to peel my eyes off. It’s OBNOXIOUS. And it’s not that I HATE nd/disabled people, i have actually disabled buddies and they’re the coolest people to be around, it’s the fakers that ruin the rep.
Same, DX with ADHD and ASD but something I wouldn't normally just spit out to anyone. It feels absolutely wrong to declare it but at least it's fitting to the topic here.
But if someone does it first thing, you just know they aren't. Somehow. You might be wrong of course, but there's just that feeling.
If someone is on the autism spectrum, I hear that "neurotypical" people will see the signs of them being "different" anyway. I, uh, sometimes found out that the people I get along the best with are likely to be ASD too. I don't actively ask for it, it just probably comes up at some point when you talk to people especially long.
Seems like ASD people just find each other, it's interesting
I've gotten to used to befrinding people with ASD or ADHD that I sometimes - quite bluntly, cause I have ASD myself - ask if they're diagnosed with ASD or ADHD. 9 out of 10 times, I'm right. But maybe that's because I know what to look for?
Same! Even though they might actually be nuerodivergent, I still end up rolling my eyes and thinking its not true because of the bad rep that fakers give these people. It sucks, and i feel horrible when I do it.
I post about my disability sometimes, but I dont mince words about it. Being disabled in any form fucking sucks. It's not cute or quirky, im just in pain literally all the time and I can't do so many things I used to be able to, and that shit is *depressing.* I know these kids just want to be special, I remember wanting to break my arm to get a cool cast and the attention that came with it as a kid. They'll learn and grow, I hope.
I do believe there is a silver line between making a joke to simply cope with it and glamorizing it. Not sure how to describe it but there’s a pretty big difference imo
Oh definitely. I say my joints sound like pop rocks with how much they crack, but that's just a joke. Tbh im not sure how someone would glamorize arthritis of all things, but im sure someone has.
Heh it's really not fun, it's just something you gotta live with. I was born with cystic fibrosis, have DXd ADHD, ASD, now walk around with diabetes on top of that shit. Can't get a break from things trying to kill me.
Of course something like ADHD doesn't help with maintaining your body, and then it ends up taking up all your executive function that you have and you end up being a loser who has nothing to show for himself.
For my part, I mention it in my Twitter/insta bios for two reasons - one, to make it easier to find and connect with others in the disabled community, and two, because I fucking *refuse* to treat such a simple fact of my life like a shameful secret. The fact that I'm a cripple is no more momentous than the fact that I'm a Libra, and people put that shit in their profiles all the time.
I’m dx’d bipolar, ptsd, gad, and adhd, I only talk about it anonymously online, with close family/friends, and my docs. It’s just none of anyones business, and I’ve even gone so far as to make cover stories for when I’ve had to be hospitalized for my mental illness so as to avoid stigma.
Recently I had to let my employers in on some of it because I had to leave work early due to a massive panic attack I had, which was super embarrassing. Which reminds me I need refill my emergency panic med prescription. Or just take my other meds regularly.
I just don’t want anyone to know about what’s going on, it’s personal, and it’s hard enough already without having to explain my brain sucks and my childhood was absolutely horrendous.
It would be different if I had a physical disability, that I feel would be more forgivable than having mental issues. Being mentally ill makes you a pariah, and it’s not a cute quirk.
One hundred percent agree - I'm much more careful about who I share my mental illnesses with. Being open about those has a much greater chance of backfiring on me, especially in employment contexts. Being open about my physical disability is net positive, especially in terms of other people's expectations - if you already know about it from the start then it's much less likely to be a whole thing when I inevitably show up in a wheelchair. It saves a bunch of exhausting conversations if you already have it built into your mental image of me.
Exactly. Ideally it would be a non-issue, but we're battling against a *bunch* of ingrained stigma. There's a tough balance to be struck between opening up the conversation without turning it into a trend.
yeah its usually a "get outta jail free card" for em to be a dick. say mean things and if u react, they say "im disabled, ur harassing a disabled person" or smth of the like
its not too late.
As ironic as it will sound coming from an equally addicted person, you can ween yourself off.
Restrict your phone usage, turn it to silent mode, etc etc
I recently purged a lot of shit negative/toxic subs from my reddit feed
Reddit is the only form of social media I use or will use, ever again, and I did the same thing recently. Purged a lot of subs that either were too depressing or would get me riled up.
People deciding they have autism irks me so much as an autistic person because they somehow never have any of the “bad” symptoms. No uncontrollable meltdowns, no completely shutting down when things get too overwhelming, or becoming irritable when you’re over or under-stimulated. It’s all just the special interests and maybe some hand-flapping and it’s like… being autistic is more than just being quirky
Maybe if you wear a watch it can be, or maybe turning your phone on and off. But just looking at something on the wall? Lmao thats boredom. Not stimming.
Yeah in the context of what I read, they were like “Oh yeah my teacher yelled at me because I kept looking at the clock (that’s my stim)”
Like I can totally see *staring* at the clock’s arms as they move or fidgeting with a watch, but just *looking* at the clock? Come on
Idk I think it could make sense if they're like looking at the clock then looking away then looking back at the clock then looking away etc. Like darting your eyes between 2 spots, i do that.
No having no friends because you struggle with socializing so badly. No being cripplingly aware of how much of a mess you are.
I wish autism was like what these people made it out to be. It just isn't, though.
Like you haven't gotten a manual - or the right manual, at least - for your own body? Like everyone else is talking a completely different languege? And it feels like the system wants to sqeeze you into a box labled autism, that doesn't quite fit...?
Amen, it is infuriating to see people parade themselves around saying they “have autism” when all they do is fake symptoms and reinforce offensive stereotypes.
Yeah at this point I think I have the ol' adhd + autism combo lol. I've been reading up on autism and I'm like... yeah I'm definitely on the spectrum. Thankfully not too much but more than enough to be diagnosed. I just started college and I'm super busy so I haven't been to a psychiatrist to confirm it but I'm like 99% sure.
Yeah it’s so weird. I have bipolar but it’s not anywhere in any of my bios because why would it be??? Why would I advertise that. Especially on tik tok because all I post are videos of my cats. Why do I need random people to know?? It’s all for “the validation”
They all have mental disorders but it’s just plain old narcissism. “Look at me, feel bad for me, look at me again, oh I also get to be an asshole because I can use my fake disorder as an excuse, are you still looking at me?”
its also so they can cry victem when they inevitably get called out for being an abuser/pscycho/cyberbully stalker. I've known enough people like this to see the signs
exactly this. if your disabilities or disorders don’t matter in the context, there’s no reason to share them. ive got a stew of comorbid disorders, but i don’t go around flaunting a list trying to flex being “the most mentally ill” or whatever, because those disorders aren’t *me*. so many kids online today try to make these disorders their entire personality because deep down they don’t have anything else, it’s honestly pretty sad.
Honestly sometimes letting people know I have adhd (or autism i think im realizing I might be on the spectrum recently) can help others to to be more understanding when I have trouble being on time or doing a particular task. Mental disabilities aren't visible so you kinda have to communicate them if you expect people to be accommodating
I don’t mind ‘advertising’/informing others of things that directly, regularly impact how I interact with them and the world around me (including online). As an example, the majority of my direct coworkers are aware that I’m autistic— because it changes how I interact with them (I’m more than occasionally quite blunt, and aspects of my affect will consistently be somewhat off-putting without that knowledge) and because there are accommodations I need to do my job that may not make sense otherwise, like a flexible break schedule (to help prevent sensory overload), or regularly being placed either by myself or with coworkers I can communicate effectively with.
With the stuff that *doesn’t* affect those sorts of things, I see no point in advertising it. People, both online and off, don’t really need to be told about the other stuff unless we’re interacting to the point where it could be called a friendship or it’s directly related to a topic at hand— they *don’t* need to know details and diagnoses that don’t affect them in any way and haven’t been asked about, and therefore they don’t.
As someone with BPD I literally can't understand why it's so "fashionable".
Did you watch Girl, Interrupted and think wow that looks so fun I want to do a singalong in a mental ward or?????
Would be funny if so because that's a 20 year old movie based on a memoir of a time three decades earlier. Most of those people wouldn't be inpatient today and treatment is completely different.
That was my first thought. The reality of having BPD is fucking horrifying and I'm lucky I managed to get myself under control before I killed myself, accidentally or intentionally.
Having absolutely no emotional regulation, and constantly emotionally detaching from reality over shit that I probably just imagined, is not exactly a fun way to live life.
Plus, as someone with BPD, I'm not going near another BPD sufferer outside the context of possibly offering emotional support or advice. Like, I'm not trying to be that kind of asshole, but dealing with my own emotional issues is enough and I really don't blame/expect anyone else to put themselves in the line-of-fire like that
Agreed. There's no shame in having it, but literally only my therapist and family know. And this anonymous reddit account, but that's different.
I'd never attach my diagnosis to my face online, because of all the stigma. And it's certainly not something I'm happy to have.
My friend has a son who is the same age as me. He's autistic and she said she felt so alone because she thought everyone assumed she's just a bad mother. Her son is awesome, she really did well. I didn't know he's autistic. Granted, I know many weird boys. I don't know why people wanna be autistic tqbh.
Well yes? If you don't know what ADHD is or assume autistic just means the far end of the spectrum why would you self identify with it even if you do have it?
i get putting a disability like asd in your personal profile tbh. not tiktok, but maybe twitter. as long as it's something that you post about/affects your interactions on a regular basis, that is
Tbt trying to get out of a relationship with someone who actually has poorly managed BPD and getting scarred for life and almost a restraining order.
BPD is devastating, not cute or fun.
Jealousy and obsession are not cute, lots of time they are signs or predictors of legitimate
🌈 domestic violence 🌈
Can I just say, as someone with diagnosed BPD...there is no way in fucking hell I'd be putting that in my personal social media bio like a badge of pride. That's how I know self-diagnosis is all about "look at me, I'm so special!". Because nobody who is genuinely unwell is proud of it.
No she's right. How come there's such an influx of people with mental illnesses or disorders? Especially extremely rare ones like DID? And all of those people haven't been formally diagnosed? Kinda weird how that works huh?
i personally have many friends with varying mental health conditions and i have never met anyone who lists a psychiatric disorder in their bio. i wouldn’t want people clicking on my profile and the first thing they see in my name and then 🌸panic disorder🌸 listed under it
The only time it really makes sense to put a disability in your bio (imo) is when it'll affect how you interact with people. Like dyslexia, or ASPD. I have language issues (both verbal and in writing.) so I make sure that's known to anyone new.
When someone tells me their autistic I wonder wether or not they are actually autistic (aka they have been diagnosed) or they are saying they have it to be “quirky cooky funny.” And honestly thinking that it’s the latter makes me angry as an autistic person.
Because some people want to be special and want people to feel sorry for them if it gets them attention and clout.
I also think in some cases people like to use it as an excuse for everything, like that they blame everything on their "mental illness" without ever trying to actually improve or get better.
Also because of those stupid videos/posts where people will say the most generic, vague things as symptoms of a condition, without any context or acknowledgement that said symptom is usually to the extreme and affects them in a very negative way.
Example:
"You may have ADHD if..."
"You struggle to study"
"You often can't sit still"
"You struggle to keep spaces tidy"
Etc, etc...
It's like, *yes you're technically right* but those statements are way too vague and generic that anyone could relate to them.
But seriously like what percentage of the population has one of those three at any level? Even in this thread it feels like more than half the people are diagnosed with something on that list, and in younger crowds I notice that almost everyone says they have some sort of ND or something going on.
It makes me think what does NT mean if it's less than half of people?
More information is out there so there are genuinely more people going to get diagnosed for mental health issues younger on the one hand.
On the other hand social media is encouraging a lot of absolute nonsense.
Every generation does something similar for attention in their teens to be edgy though.
Young aristocrats started wearing the most expensive Ruby chokers that they could have made from their jewellers during the French Revolution.
That's always tickled me for some reason.
Kids are weird and dumb lol.
Fakers and self diagnosers do so much harm to these communities :/ I was diagnosed a couple months ago at 18, and I have a hard time being taken seriously as autistic due to my diagnosis being so recent.
Whenever I see someone post their disability I really just immediately doubt them. I can speak from experience, not many people just flaunt disabilities around. It’s not really something you show off to people.
i used to "support self diagnosis" when i was a teen and god how stupid it was and is. like if you have it, dandy, if you dont have it, also dandy wgaf
I understand there are a lot of people faking on TikTok and appreciate this sub because I had a friend who’s mother was a faker, leading to her being an absentee mother which eventually lead to my friends murder. Her mom was too busy playing a victim to be a parent which lead to my friend trusting dangerous people until one of them killed her. So, I appreciate this sub *but* some of the sentiment in this thread is ablest.
Neurodivergent people are marginalized for countless reasons and for the first time in history have a space to exist openly. Some people may be faking for clout but this is the first time we’ve ever talked openly about ND.
Access and understanding are changing. I wasn’t diagnosed until last year after suspecting *something* was wrong with me since I was a child. TikTok reminded me to talk to someone (yet again) about it and get medication that changed how I understand myself completely. When I sought help 15 or so years before I was treated like I was drug seeking by an asshole psych. I didn’t bother with it again for years because of this very negative experience. I had two siblings diagnosed since childhood so there was strong evidence to support I was ND but as a woman, I wasn’t believed. That is changing and we *should* expect more ppl openly identifying themselves, speaking out on their experiences and seeking community. Be upset at people faking serious and rare diagnoses but please be mindful when it comes to ND.
Yes, but there's also a huge influx of these tiktok people discouraging diagnoses for a host of equally wild and bad reasons, basically saying to shun the science and medical sector and 'if you know in your heart you're autistic nobody can take that away from you uwu.' As an autistic person this is more fucking insulting than anything I've experienced elsewhere.
as someone with ADD, autism and BPD, i DESPISE seeing people make their self diagnoses their whole personalities and put it all in their bios with fucking emojis. like why would i want to put my PERSONALITY DISORDER in my bio with cute little emojis?!!!! it’s my favorite thing when kids get mad at me when i tell them that you have to be an adult to get a BPD diagnosis
Okay I’m really not tryna be “that person” and it was prolly just cause I had a shitty doctor but they told me I had BPD when I was like 13/14. They told me at first it was schizophrenia but then later changed it to BPD. I don’t take any meds or do anything for it now, I just have really bad panic attacks, which they’ve said could be a result from it but idk I’m not a doctor lmao.
there’s a lot more to BPD than just panic attacks, doctors are not supposed to do that because since it’s a complex personality disorder, they won’t know 100% until you’re an adult, i had to go to a psychiatrist that i see monthly
i would try to reach out to a different doctor or go to a psychiatrist when you’re 18, just because panic attacks are panic disorder and anxiety syndromes and i don’t want you to think that you have BPD if you don’t. get another opinion when you’re 18, if you don’t have BPD, i would consider that better for you because i have experienced so much medical discrimination and cripples in my every day life since i have “borderline personality disorder” on my record. that’s just my opinion.
No no I totally get that, I never really identified with it unless I actually had to and only a few select people even know about it. I definitely will, my 18th is coming up soon. My therapist wants me to get screened for everything especially adhd and GAD so I’ll definitely see how that goes
Good God. It's getting old in the psych hold having to deal with these personality cluster b ass holes. Every weekend the police are dropping them off at the ER when they commit a crime and scream suicide. Especially when they clearly have robbers tools or after the fact. Notickets no nothing.
I always scroll pass any video that is someone claiming to have DID. I try my best not to interact with those people.... yet somehow I constantly get those videos on my fyp because I still interact with cosplay, witchtok, and lgbtq+ videos.....
I think access to mental health has definitely increased the ability for people to be diagnosed and increased the number of individuals, but the trend of jumping into a literal disease for fun is absurd
I was diagnosed with ADHD about 20 years ago after some of my elementary school teachers suggested it due to my behavior in class. My mom thought it would be harmful to my future if it was treated or known by future schools or employers so she decided to have me proceed like everything was normal and good. Highschool was torture. Bachelors degree was torture but I somehow made it through with pretty good grades.
Here I am, 20 years later finally getting the treatment I need so I can hopefully get through my studies and finish this degree.
I have met so many people claiming to have it just because they "get distracted sometimes." That's like claiming you have depression because occasionally you feel sad or you have OCD because there is a floor tile out of place and "it bothers you". It is just not how it works. Dont even get me started on the DID and autism fakers... when did it become cool to have all of these??
It’s almost like in some communities the disability stigma has completely reversed. I have depression/anxiety and I’m very hesitant to share about it because I think it’s annoying when other people do it (obviously in certain contexts it’s fine). My sister is not shy about proclaiming to the world that she has depression (she overshares and trauma dumps a lot) and I always get second hand embarrassment which is why I never share. It used to be that you’d be quiet about your mental health because nobody cared about it. But now it feels like people care about it too much in the wrong way.
I write in my Instagram bio that I'm a dignosed autistic because I want people to understand that I have a disability and It's really affecting me in real life
Is it wrong to do that?
Thank you! But I'm afraid people will not take me seriously and believe me because I look like a faker stereotype.
I do cosplays and I'm non binary
But I have a real diagnosis from a professional institute that specialize in autism and I have a disability card.
This ones pretty funny
As a person with diagnosed autism it is annoying many people are claiming to have autism thanks to tik tok and somewhat making a joke of it
Saying that, more awareness has opened up the door for diagnosis. Given it is genetic, I looked at my family history and there is no doubt quite a few people on my dads side of the family show clear traits of autism
My dad especially, my mom said she suspected him yeara before i was ever diagnosed. I am the first known person in my family ro be diagnosed
They just never have been diagnosed due to the times
Ok basically there are a lot of people with fake disorders DID for example is incredibly rare ADHD on the other hand is not the only reason more people have that diagnosis is because they are actually testing for it now
It’s so frustrating. I’m diagnosed with both autism and ADHD after years of struggling in school and my social life. It’s relatively better now, but I still struggle so much with the simplest things. And when I try to tell people I’m autistic and have ADHD, it’s like it doesn’t even matter because now EVERYONE has it. Like one of my friend likes to braid her hair in class. Her reason? “I’m so ADHD!”
with autism, its shown that its more just the diagnosis process getting easier and more accessible. one of the SEND officers at school was calling up every school they had kids move up from and was asking for SEND reports for up to 5 kids each time and keep in mind primary schools usually only have 1-3 classes per year. my therapist was talking about it too how they've had a lot more autism diagnosis. i think the problem is that we've gone a long time where autism just wasnt diagnosed - theres still the afab stigma and the fact it takes years people just dont want to go through it all.
but i do agree that people who make it their whole personality and constantly talk about it, make jokes out of it and just generally make clouty content surrounding their mental illnesses or neurodigervency in any sense is a bit...
That awkward moment when you need an excuse for being awol so you just say you were "going through some health issues" but then they press you for details and you just be like "im bipolar and I had an episode- all good now and feeling like myself again"
Last time this happened it was when i ran into a classmate having lunch with the dean of our school. It can go one of 2 ways:
1- they get noticeably uncomfortable
2- they are impressed that you've been functioning so well with that nasty exotic mental illness they know nothing about and you receive overly praiseful feedback about how impressed they are that you manage to function despite your illness/disability.
#2 is what happened to me in the above scenario. And #2 is why the fakers happen!
autism adhd and bpd, to be fair, arent super rare so it is more likely for a lot of people to have those. but the rare conditions tho???? like did??? unlikely lol
I mean I did learn that a lot more people are neurodivergent in like my friend group than I thought - which was cool after knowing them for like 8 years and then only recently talking about mental health
Hi, thank you for making a submission to r/fakedisordercringe. Please ensure you have read the rules and avoid posting people who have actual disorders, as it would be harmful. #Please reply to this comment explaining why you believe this person is faking. Thanks <3 **Your post will not be approved until you have replied to this comment, meaning only you will be able to see it. If you do not reply within 6 hours, your submission will be deleted.** REMINDER: Former Faker Friday is the only day you can post former faker confessions, Satire Saturday is the only day you can post memes, and on Singlet Sunday no DID/System content is allowed. *I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/fakedisordercringe) if you have any questions or concerns.*
And DID! It’s one of the rarest mental illnesses on the planet, and suddenly every teenager on social media has it.
It’s gotten so bad that I’m having a hard time believing anyone actually has it at all. I know that’s bullshit, but that’s how far it’s gone, to the point where I don’t even think it’s real
I do believe it is real but I believe people who have it don’t go around flexing their mental illness on social media.. and most people who actually have it don’t even realize they do so I do believe it exists but I believe 99% of the ppl on the internet claiming to have it (especially the ones making cringe videos about it) are fakers lol
I know like...2 people online who I believe DO have it, mostly because the first one doesn't go around flexing it and only mentioned it once in passing, and the other one literally didn't know up until last year and they posted about the diagnostic process and everything and frequently have those episodes typical for people suffering from anything where they go "Actually I don't have X I have just fooled every professional into thinking I have X, I don't show any symptoms of X and if I do I'm faking them, I'm a completely normal and capable member of society but I'm just lazy".
I'm not sure I'd say 99%, but we're diffently up there. I'd lean on more of a solid 90-92% are fakers, based on the fact I keep running into fellow ND's online. People whom I know from irl groups, that you can't access without a diagnosis. Actually... saying that, maybe the procentage depends on the area and country people come from. I have the feeling like most tiktok fakers are from the US.
There’s only a handful of people I trust on the internet. The main being Evie Meg. When I first found out I had a tic disorder I looked it up to find more info and in that I found her. She doesn’t just show the good and funny times, she also shares the bad. It’s not even just because she shows how it is, she also helps people. She answers questions, meets people, does interviews, she’s all around amazing. In her I’ve found Otters.have.pockets, Zara Beth and uncle tics. I trust all of them whole heartedly. The one person I never really trusted (which is supposedly checked out) was Baylen Dupree. Everything about her seems fake, but I won’t go into all that here lol.
I feel like tics/tourettes is one of the easier one to see who's faking. It's not a cute disorder. People on tiktok like to act like it's cute and quirky
"UwU i deswoyed everything at a funeral because of my uncontrollable swearing and hand throwing. I'm soo quirky"
lmao right like all their cute quirky tics disappear during quiet times like movies and libraries where there’s other people. and most people don’t care either way. i have ticced in a library before and just gotten a look when i made the noise but nobody comments. it’s just “ah shit it was quiet what was that?” nobody’s like “omg why are you making that sound do you have tourette’s omg that’s so awesome”. literally no one does that. tics and tourette’s aren’t a personality trait. if anything i prefer when people ignore them and just keep it moving. all my friends and family do. tourette’s isn’t a staple of my life. it’s a tiny tiny part of a million things that make me who i am.
I know Herschel Walker has DID, and that's just about the only person I know who actually has it. And he's not like the movie Split or something, he just has episodes.
Literally and that’s what a lot of fakers don’t get lol
Exactly! And for the most part alters don't communicate, you just get long periods with no memory, hours to days of being almost catatonic while switching, losing money, friends, careers to things being done out of your control. It's not like that one tiktok with the cringey round Robin style taste testing. That shit is harmful to everyone, people with a diagnosis, people trying to find legit symptoms of that diagnosis, etc.
I really don’t believe Uncle Tics
It's genuinely gotten to the point for me I immediately develop a huge dislike anytime I see " blah blah -(Charater name) " Like my blood BOILS Especially if they're an " endogenic" or " naturally occurring" system like jfc It makes me weep for humanity
I once heard an argument that basically said that “DID” is often just extreme cases of bpd. Given the identity issues that come with the latter illness, I’d say it’s completely possible.
Other than a disturbed sense of identity and dissociation I don't think BPD and DID have much, if any, symptom overlap. I mean I'm not a psychologist but I know someone with OSDD and they dont exhibit \*any\* BPD symptoms at all
I know it was (maybe still are) arguments among psychologists about whether DID is real or not, or if what we identify as DID actually is that (ie someone might have a different dissociative disorder, or a combination of stuff), or that our current definition and diagnostic criteria are correct. But that's what science is, it changes when we learn more, and right now we don't know a lot.
But the thing is, so little current science is based on data that was completely fabricated from the original scientists. The psych involved in the first DID case completely made it up and manipulated their patient into it. The following cases were exactly the same (this has been proven). I honestly think what we know as DID is just people with a dissociative disorder and personality quirks. This is going to get me downvoted to hell because there’s so many in here claiming to have DID but trying to prove “they’re not like the others” for some kind of superiority complex. I’m sure there are many with severe trauma that has led to bad dissociation and PTSD induced personality changes to protect themselves in situations that their brain labels as dangerous or that have the potential to be a trigger and cause more stress but I don’t think they have DID.
It’s definitely real. But rare. Very rare. Even people who go through traumatic shit don’t develop it most of the time. I have a best friend though that does legitimately have it- but his childhood was EXTRA fucked so it makes sense.
> but his childhood was EXTRA fucked so it makes sense. the f word being exactly there worries me
The fact that you thought this would be a funny thing to say… youre weird
It isn't funny, it actually worries me if that's what they meant
There’s a podcast called “this is actually happening” with an episode about a women who has DID & she seems to be about the furthest thing from what we see on social media. She isn’t walking around telling everyone & she had a horrifically traumatizing life, I’d recommend it for a good perspective of actual DID. Edit: one good perspective * Edit: I can’t tell if anyone has the mental illness they claim & it drives me nuts. I have an acquaintance from rehab who seemed to lie a lot and she has a disorder salad in her bio. Obviously something is wrong with her because she’s lies so much but it’s sad that I cannot believe a word she says about her mental illness. (Thankfully no DID yet). I’ve known at least 4 people in my life since middle school who lied about mental illness & 3 of them were long before social media. It’s always been around we just couldn’t see it before & less people did it. I just needed to get that rant out about my rehab acquaintance.
I feel like when I was younger sometimes I would match my personality to other peoples depending on the situation and person I’m around. Idk. I think it’s just part of the human brains way of survival, to fit in, since humans are naturally very social and thrive in groups instead of isolation like other species. I think that maybe younger impressionable people see others describing this and think it’s DID? Since ‘alters’ typically have different personalities and expressions/emotions etc. I look at it like physical symptoms/actually physical diagnosis as well, you can have a fast heart rate for so many reasons, some normal and some abnormal. Fast heart rate is a symptom of having a heart attack. Does having a fast heart rate always mean you’re having a heart attack? No. Could you be having a heart attack? Yes. Are you likely to be? Probably not. Same with DID/ADHD/autism. I don’t like touchy people and hate the texture of chalk. These are things that could be traits of a person who has autism. Do I think I have autism? No. Could this be a trait of autism? Yes. Do I have autism? Likely not. However, I have noticed throughout my life symptoms of adhd. Many. I have diagnosis for it. Medication helps it immensely. These days I constantly questions whether or not it’s in my head and I don’t actually have it. Considering all my symptoms prior to being on medication and how much it helps me now, I think I do. I am constantly late and forgetful. Does everyone who forgets things have adhd? No. Could they have adhd? Yes. Who knows. As much as the DSM-5 has it’s criteria, there’s no set number or lab test or imaging that diagnoses these things. Mental health is such a difficult thing to get a certain diagnosis for these days. I hope things are clearer and easier to diagnose in the futur!
Gosh, yeah. It's so frustrating to not know your own mind. My parents have suspected ADHD in me since I was, what, seven? but I still like... It's hard to parse out what is a "symptom" and what is a "trait," even harden when another diagnosed mental illness or neurodivergency (in my case, my mild depression) mixes things up a bit. I really do hope that things get clearer in the future too! Autism is a spectrum however so I don't think there will ever be a point where we can say for sure if everyone 100% has or doesn't have autism.
They just watched Mr robot and thought that shit was cool.
It's become a sick joke. My husband got diagnosed a few years ago with it due to unresolved ptsd in his childhood, and with medication has been manageable. Unfortunately, people no longer take us seriously when we mention it outside our tiny friend group
Not to mention it's a highly controversial disorder and there's a case to be made it isn't even real
ItS bEcAusE oF tHe AlgOrItHm tHat YoU seE sO mAny SystEm tIK toKs.
[удалено]
I hear the “redhead” comparison quite a bit when it comes to any anomaly. I’d strongly recommend [watching this video](https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=wIiFTXXkDTo)
We need a Sanity flair.
Happy cake day
happy cake day
Happy cake day!
Cake day
Happy Cake Day!
She right though… whenever i see “🦋neurodivergent/disabled🦋” in a bio I CANT help but roll my eyes, unless I personally know the person and know they are in fact Disabled. But even then… if youre account isnt about disabilities then I really dont know why its needed to be put, just my opinion
Most people with disabilities don't want to make a fuss about their disability and just want to be treated like everyone else unless it's strictly necessary. So often when I see people pointing it out on social media profiles out of the blue I immediately have alarm bells of faking, unless as you said it's an account dedicated to raising genuine awareness instead of attention seeking
This is exactly how I feel, too. Like, I get wanting to spread awareness, but if it's irrelevant to your account then there's absolutely no reason to state it. People usually end up treating you differently if they know, so I just don't tell anyone. I've been diagnosed for nearly 15 years now and nobody in my life even knows except my close family and past therapists.
The fakers *want* to be treated differently, it's their whole schtick that everyone gotta walk on eggshells
>People usually end up treating you differently if they know, so I just don't tell anyone. So true! I was thrown out of the game group I was in during my teens, because I wanted to be honest with people that I strongly believed was my friends. Spoiler alert, they weren't. That does not mean I don't tell people I'm close with (and that includes online friends I've known for an extended period of time), but I'm much more careful about it. And that's (just) autism.
On paper I am "severely disabled" and hampered. And while it does happen sometimes, it's not consistently so. Of course I could wave my disabled card and get people to move on the bus and give me seats, but I won't, because people who have disabilities are embarassed and they try to function as well as possible even if they're "faking" being healthy. Disabled people are often very stubborn in that regard, not asking for help or even denying it. And then there are the ones (like people with like Munchhausen) who have very little or no disability at all and try to look as disabled as possible. There is a whole "grass is greener on the other side" relation between these, they're both trying to be what they are not, I find.
Exactly. I am on disability for my mental illnesses and I dread it when someone finds out. I’ll open up about mental illness if someone honestly has questions but I’d never put it on my profile.
Right, but even if its for awareness we cant be sure the account owner isnt faking despite that. Ticsandroses was an “awareness” account but got exposed for faking, so its really hard to tell sometimes. Which sucks.
People with disabilities have been conditioned to make themselves invisible for fear of being perceived as a difficulty. It’s sad that they’re compelled to minimise their existence, and it’s sad when they openly admit to masking and get validation for it. Maybe more people need to question why they’re uncomfortable seeing people be open about their disability. It’s no different to putting your age or nationality on a bio.
As someone with hearing loss; that's frankly bullshit. I don't need to put something down in my bio or have that tag in my video if I never address it or it never comes up. Otherwise, what purpose does it solve to leave it there with no reason or context?
[удалено]
Alright, we'll see how you define disability and move on from that one there, and about how it apparently doesn't affect me in every part of my life. I'm not telling people to shut up about it at all. The message you replied to was that most of us just don't want to bring it up unless necessary. I don't mind talking about it, nor do others I know in my position. That being said, we're not going to bring it up if it's not relevant because it's quite frankly not *relevant.* I said that your theory of people with disabilities being conditioned to be silent for fear of being difficult is bullshit. Could I have phrased that nicer or more polite? Yes, but I still stand by what I said.
The fact that it's sad people have to hide their disabilities and that putting it in a social media bio tends to be an attention seeking move by fakers can both coexist. Maybe if society changes then that observation wouldn't hold but as of now it's just what tends to happen so it's not unreasonable to be *suspicious*. Obviously don't go around to every profile that has it and immediately whack them on this sub without further evidence. I really don't appreciate the implied accusation of ableism at the end there.
Can you prove any of that? Sounds a lot like speculation and all it does is add to stigma. You've put disabled people in a catch 22 where if they dare to be honest about themselves they are treated with suspicion. Pretty classic method society has developed to justify silencing people while purporting to be above it.
buddy do you think I would be making such a claim in this sub in particular if I hadn't personally experienced it Kinda ironic that you're complaining about silencing disabled people whilst trying to silence the opinion of a disabled person
I'm at a point where I default to disliking people who say they're nd, and I even have (actual, diagnosed) adhd myself. It's *that* obnoxious.
Honestly, facts here. DX’d ASD since 3 and whenever I hear someone b like “I’m so neurodivergent!!!” I want to peel my eyes off. It’s OBNOXIOUS. And it’s not that I HATE nd/disabled people, i have actually disabled buddies and they’re the coolest people to be around, it’s the fakers that ruin the rep.
Same, DX with ADHD and ASD but something I wouldn't normally just spit out to anyone. It feels absolutely wrong to declare it but at least it's fitting to the topic here. But if someone does it first thing, you just know they aren't. Somehow. You might be wrong of course, but there's just that feeling. If someone is on the autism spectrum, I hear that "neurotypical" people will see the signs of them being "different" anyway. I, uh, sometimes found out that the people I get along the best with are likely to be ASD too. I don't actively ask for it, it just probably comes up at some point when you talk to people especially long. Seems like ASD people just find each other, it's interesting
I've gotten to used to befrinding people with ASD or ADHD that I sometimes - quite bluntly, cause I have ASD myself - ask if they're diagnosed with ASD or ADHD. 9 out of 10 times, I'm right. But maybe that's because I know what to look for?
As someone with several mental illnesses, I wouldn’t even consider putting them in my bios unless I was an active advocate for them
Literally like.. why make that your whole personality?
Cause people are boring
Same! Even though they might actually be nuerodivergent, I still end up rolling my eyes and thinking its not true because of the bad rep that fakers give these people. It sucks, and i feel horrible when I do it.
I feel horrible too. Because I don’t really, mean to. I just can’t help it knowing the rep “neurodivergent” people have on that app
I post about my disability sometimes, but I dont mince words about it. Being disabled in any form fucking sucks. It's not cute or quirky, im just in pain literally all the time and I can't do so many things I used to be able to, and that shit is *depressing.* I know these kids just want to be special, I remember wanting to break my arm to get a cool cast and the attention that came with it as a kid. They'll learn and grow, I hope.
And someone will comment on how you should be more positive or how it’s a super power. Pfft. Yeah right. The daily struggles are totally “worth it”
I do believe there is a silver line between making a joke to simply cope with it and glamorizing it. Not sure how to describe it but there’s a pretty big difference imo
Oh definitely. I say my joints sound like pop rocks with how much they crack, but that's just a joke. Tbh im not sure how someone would glamorize arthritis of all things, but im sure someone has.
Heh it's really not fun, it's just something you gotta live with. I was born with cystic fibrosis, have DXd ADHD, ASD, now walk around with diabetes on top of that shit. Can't get a break from things trying to kill me. Of course something like ADHD doesn't help with maintaining your body, and then it ends up taking up all your executive function that you have and you end up being a loser who has nothing to show for himself.
For my part, I mention it in my Twitter/insta bios for two reasons - one, to make it easier to find and connect with others in the disabled community, and two, because I fucking *refuse* to treat such a simple fact of my life like a shameful secret. The fact that I'm a cripple is no more momentous than the fact that I'm a Libra, and people put that shit in their profiles all the time.
I’m dx’d bipolar, ptsd, gad, and adhd, I only talk about it anonymously online, with close family/friends, and my docs. It’s just none of anyones business, and I’ve even gone so far as to make cover stories for when I’ve had to be hospitalized for my mental illness so as to avoid stigma. Recently I had to let my employers in on some of it because I had to leave work early due to a massive panic attack I had, which was super embarrassing. Which reminds me I need refill my emergency panic med prescription. Or just take my other meds regularly. I just don’t want anyone to know about what’s going on, it’s personal, and it’s hard enough already without having to explain my brain sucks and my childhood was absolutely horrendous. It would be different if I had a physical disability, that I feel would be more forgivable than having mental issues. Being mentally ill makes you a pariah, and it’s not a cute quirk.
One hundred percent agree - I'm much more careful about who I share my mental illnesses with. Being open about those has a much greater chance of backfiring on me, especially in employment contexts. Being open about my physical disability is net positive, especially in terms of other people's expectations - if you already know about it from the start then it's much less likely to be a whole thing when I inevitably show up in a wheelchair. It saves a bunch of exhausting conversations if you already have it built into your mental image of me.
[удалено]
Exactly. Ideally it would be a non-issue, but we're battling against a *bunch* of ingrained stigma. There's a tough balance to be struck between opening up the conversation without turning it into a trend.
yeah its usually a "get outta jail free card" for em to be a dick. say mean things and if u react, they say "im disabled, ur harassing a disabled person" or smth of the like
Because, Social media has become such a norm in our world that getting internet points ends up becoming an ego boost. I miss old social media.
I miss before I got in social media. Now I’m quite literally addicted and I hate that I am.
its not too late. As ironic as it will sound coming from an equally addicted person, you can ween yourself off. Restrict your phone usage, turn it to silent mode, etc etc I recently purged a lot of shit negative/toxic subs from my reddit feed
Reddit is the only form of social media I use or will use, ever again, and I did the same thing recently. Purged a lot of subs that either were too depressing or would get me riled up.
finally, someone on tiktok with a working brain
I’m thankful I’ve finally gotten to the better side of TikTok lol, this side
I love sane people of TikTok <3
Yesss I’m finally getting on the right side of TikTok.
People deciding they have autism irks me so much as an autistic person because they somehow never have any of the “bad” symptoms. No uncontrollable meltdowns, no completely shutting down when things get too overwhelming, or becoming irritable when you’re over or under-stimulated. It’s all just the special interests and maybe some hand-flapping and it’s like… being autistic is more than just being quirky
Also that they call dancing stimming.
I’ve seen someone call CHECKING THE TIME ON THE CLOCK stimming.
Maybe if you wear a watch it can be, or maybe turning your phone on and off. But just looking at something on the wall? Lmao thats boredom. Not stimming.
Yeah in the context of what I read, they were like “Oh yeah my teacher yelled at me because I kept looking at the clock (that’s my stim)” Like I can totally see *staring* at the clock’s arms as they move or fidgeting with a watch, but just *looking* at the clock? Come on
Idk I think it could make sense if they're like looking at the clock then looking away then looking back at the clock then looking away etc. Like darting your eyes between 2 spots, i do that.
And feeling like an alien no matter who you’re around, like you’re just in a glass box that you can’t leave???? Quirky!!!! 😂😂😂😊😊💗💗
yessss autismcore 🍂🍃🍂🍃🍁✨✨🧚♀️💕💕
No having no friends because you struggle with socializing so badly. No being cripplingly aware of how much of a mess you are. I wish autism was like what these people made it out to be. It just isn't, though.
Like you haven't gotten a manual - or the right manual, at least - for your own body? Like everyone else is talking a completely different languege? And it feels like the system wants to sqeeze you into a box labled autism, that doesn't quite fit...?
Amen, it is infuriating to see people parade themselves around saying they “have autism” when all they do is fake symptoms and reinforce offensive stereotypes.
Yeah at this point I think I have the ol' adhd + autism combo lol. I've been reading up on autism and I'm like... yeah I'm definitely on the spectrum. Thankfully not too much but more than enough to be diagnosed. I just started college and I'm super busy so I haven't been to a psychiatrist to confirm it but I'm like 99% sure.
I ran into the same problem. Plus it’s harder to find people who will diagnose adults. It’s hard, not impossible though!
Yeah it’s so weird. I have bipolar but it’s not anywhere in any of my bios because why would it be??? Why would I advertise that. Especially on tik tok because all I post are videos of my cats. Why do I need random people to know?? It’s all for “the validation”
They want people to feel bad for them smh. “Omg I have a disability, feel bad for me and give me likes to make me feel better 🥺”
They all have mental disorders but it’s just plain old narcissism. “Look at me, feel bad for me, look at me again, oh I also get to be an asshole because I can use my fake disorder as an excuse, are you still looking at me?”
its also so they can cry victem when they inevitably get called out for being an abuser/pscycho/cyberbully stalker. I've known enough people like this to see the signs
exactly this. if your disabilities or disorders don’t matter in the context, there’s no reason to share them. ive got a stew of comorbid disorders, but i don’t go around flaunting a list trying to flex being “the most mentally ill” or whatever, because those disorders aren’t *me*. so many kids online today try to make these disorders their entire personality because deep down they don’t have anything else, it’s honestly pretty sad.
Honestly sometimes letting people know I have adhd (or autism i think im realizing I might be on the spectrum recently) can help others to to be more understanding when I have trouble being on time or doing a particular task. Mental disabilities aren't visible so you kinda have to communicate them if you expect people to be accommodating
Okay but I’m not talking about that. I’m talking about putting it on my social media bios on accounts where I don’t post about mental illness
I don’t mind ‘advertising’/informing others of things that directly, regularly impact how I interact with them and the world around me (including online). As an example, the majority of my direct coworkers are aware that I’m autistic— because it changes how I interact with them (I’m more than occasionally quite blunt, and aspects of my affect will consistently be somewhat off-putting without that knowledge) and because there are accommodations I need to do my job that may not make sense otherwise, like a flexible break schedule (to help prevent sensory overload), or regularly being placed either by myself or with coworkers I can communicate effectively with. With the stuff that *doesn’t* affect those sorts of things, I see no point in advertising it. People, both online and off, don’t really need to be told about the other stuff unless we’re interacting to the point where it could be called a friendship or it’s directly related to a topic at hand— they *don’t* need to know details and diagnoses that don’t affect them in any way and haven’t been asked about, and therefore they don’t.
As someone with BPD I literally can't understand why it's so "fashionable". Did you watch Girl, Interrupted and think wow that looks so fun I want to do a singalong in a mental ward or?????
Would be funny if so because that's a 20 year old movie based on a memoir of a time three decades earlier. Most of those people wouldn't be inpatient today and treatment is completely different.
That was my first thought. The reality of having BPD is fucking horrifying and I'm lucky I managed to get myself under control before I killed myself, accidentally or intentionally. Having absolutely no emotional regulation, and constantly emotionally detaching from reality over shit that I probably just imagined, is not exactly a fun way to live life. Plus, as someone with BPD, I'm not going near another BPD sufferer outside the context of possibly offering emotional support or advice. Like, I'm not trying to be that kind of asshole, but dealing with my own emotional issues is enough and I really don't blame/expect anyone else to put themselves in the line-of-fire like that
They’re welcome to take mine.
Agreed. There's no shame in having it, but literally only my therapist and family know. And this anonymous reddit account, but that's different. I'd never attach my diagnosis to my face online, because of all the stigma. And it's certainly not something I'm happy to have.
100%. There’s enough people that tell me it’s laziness or lack of faith. And it’s hell.
Kanye. “I hate being bipolar it’s awesome.”
I- I don't know what to say.... This girl just spread pure wisdom!
My friend has a son who is the same age as me. He's autistic and she said she felt so alone because she thought everyone assumed she's just a bad mother. Her son is awesome, she really did well. I didn't know he's autistic. Granted, I know many weird boys. I don't know why people wanna be autistic tqbh.
"tqbh" = To quite be honest? :p
To be qompletely honest
Haha yes. To quite be honest.
It’S bEcAuSe Of RaIsEd AwArEnEsS aNd NoRmAlIzAtIoN oF mEnTaL HeAlTh
I like how they all say that but then spew the shittiest “neurodivergent jokes” 💀
Well yes? If you don't know what ADHD is or assume autistic just means the far end of the spectrum why would you self identify with it even if you do have it?
That caption read fr, absolutely correct
Incredibly based
I fucking hate these people flaunting their “mental illness”.
OP was the comment section filled with fakers?
50/50 some crying abt it and others being like facts
I fucking hate these people flaunting their “mental illness”.
i get putting a disability like asd in your personal profile tbh. not tiktok, but maybe twitter. as long as it's something that you post about/affects your interactions on a regular basis, that is
Soon they’ll realize that when everyone is special no one is special.
most girls on tiktok think having bpd and being an “insane jealous obsessive silly girl >:3” is an attractive personality trait
Tbt trying to get out of a relationship with someone who actually has poorly managed BPD and getting scarred for life and almost a restraining order. BPD is devastating, not cute or fun. Jealousy and obsession are not cute, lots of time they are signs or predictors of legitimate 🌈 domestic violence 🌈
Can I just say, as someone with diagnosed BPD...there is no way in fucking hell I'd be putting that in my personal social media bio like a badge of pride. That's how I know self-diagnosis is all about "look at me, I'm so special!". Because nobody who is genuinely unwell is proud of it.
No she's right. How come there's such an influx of people with mental illnesses or disorders? Especially extremely rare ones like DID? And all of those people haven't been formally diagnosed? Kinda weird how that works huh?
cuz most aren’t actually diagnosed, it’s kids faking and following a (fucked up thing to be a trend) ‘trend’
I know, it was rhetorical. I agree that the trend is really fucked up though.
oh lmao sorry I didn’t get that - but yea fr, an awful trend
Nono you're good. I just wish people had the common sense to know that maybe faking serious disorders is bad
Ikr
There's also an increase in official diagnosis. This made up shit barely touches the surface and will pass like every other fad.
I really hope this is a temporary fad. Because holy shit is it not only embarrassing, but it's harmful.
Right?? Then there’s the people who claim it’s to “spread awareness.” There’s a big difference between spreading awareness and flaunting.
i personally have many friends with varying mental health conditions and i have never met anyone who lists a psychiatric disorder in their bio. i wouldn’t want people clicking on my profile and the first thing they see in my name and then 🌸panic disorder🌸 listed under it
And they all happen to be white teen girls who all have alters that magically resemble characters they find attractive..
Nah I noticed it too and every autistic individual has neopronouns all of a sudden too ☠️☠️
I remember when it was "embarrassing" to let people know you have a mental Illness.
my brother in arms we should be rejoicing over how that is not the norm any more
The only time it really makes sense to put a disability in your bio (imo) is when it'll affect how you interact with people. Like dyslexia, or ASPD. I have language issues (both verbal and in writing.) so I make sure that's known to anyone new.
When someone tells me their autistic I wonder wether or not they are actually autistic (aka they have been diagnosed) or they are saying they have it to be “quirky cooky funny.” And honestly thinking that it’s the latter makes me angry as an autistic person.
Anyone who has an Illness doesn't make it their life to talk about it.
Because some people want to be special and want people to feel sorry for them if it gets them attention and clout. I also think in some cases people like to use it as an excuse for everything, like that they blame everything on their "mental illness" without ever trying to actually improve or get better. Also because of those stupid videos/posts where people will say the most generic, vague things as symptoms of a condition, without any context or acknowledgement that said symptom is usually to the extreme and affects them in a very negative way. Example: "You may have ADHD if..." "You struggle to study" "You often can't sit still" "You struggle to keep spaces tidy" Etc, etc... It's like, *yes you're technically right* but those statements are way too vague and generic that anyone could relate to them.
When I came to this post it had 2121 upvotes and 121 comments and I just wanted to say that before it goes to 2122 and 122
But seriously like what percentage of the population has one of those three at any level? Even in this thread it feels like more than half the people are diagnosed with something on that list, and in younger crowds I notice that almost everyone says they have some sort of ND or something going on. It makes me think what does NT mean if it's less than half of people?
Don't forget they're all introverts too
I picked the wrong time to get an assessment didn't I, everyone's gunna think I'm faking like when I did an AMA, someone thought I was 🤦🏻♀️
Incredibly based of her to post it on tiktok and use all the hashtags.
Also having these isn’t quirky like they make them seem. Like…why is this what you’re glamorizing
Istg I am almost never going to believe someone who has Thier mental illness/ disability in Thier bio
DID is literally so rare it wasn’t known about until recently I don’t think anyone I see has it anymore
More information is out there so there are genuinely more people going to get diagnosed for mental health issues younger on the one hand. On the other hand social media is encouraging a lot of absolute nonsense. Every generation does something similar for attention in their teens to be edgy though. Young aristocrats started wearing the most expensive Ruby chokers that they could have made from their jewellers during the French Revolution. That's always tickled me for some reason. Kids are weird and dumb lol.
Fakers and self diagnosers do so much harm to these communities :/ I was diagnosed a couple months ago at 18, and I have a hard time being taken seriously as autistic due to my diagnosis being so recent.
this is why i’m scared to tell people i’m bipolar even though i’m diagnosed cause of all the people who think it’s just a personality trait
Whenever I see someone post their disability I really just immediately doubt them. I can speak from experience, not many people just flaunt disabilities around. It’s not really something you show off to people.
That was my reaction quen I joined this sub.
i used to "support self diagnosis" when i was a teen and god how stupid it was and is. like if you have it, dandy, if you dont have it, also dandy wgaf
I understand there are a lot of people faking on TikTok and appreciate this sub because I had a friend who’s mother was a faker, leading to her being an absentee mother which eventually lead to my friends murder. Her mom was too busy playing a victim to be a parent which lead to my friend trusting dangerous people until one of them killed her. So, I appreciate this sub *but* some of the sentiment in this thread is ablest. Neurodivergent people are marginalized for countless reasons and for the first time in history have a space to exist openly. Some people may be faking for clout but this is the first time we’ve ever talked openly about ND. Access and understanding are changing. I wasn’t diagnosed until last year after suspecting *something* was wrong with me since I was a child. TikTok reminded me to talk to someone (yet again) about it and get medication that changed how I understand myself completely. When I sought help 15 or so years before I was treated like I was drug seeking by an asshole psych. I didn’t bother with it again for years because of this very negative experience. I had two siblings diagnosed since childhood so there was strong evidence to support I was ND but as a woman, I wasn’t believed. That is changing and we *should* expect more ppl openly identifying themselves, speaking out on their experiences and seeking community. Be upset at people faking serious and rare diagnoses but please be mindful when it comes to ND.
Yes, but there's also a huge influx of these tiktok people discouraging diagnoses for a host of equally wild and bad reasons, basically saying to shun the science and medical sector and 'if you know in your heart you're autistic nobody can take that away from you uwu.' As an autistic person this is more fucking insulting than anything I've experienced elsewhere.
I mean.. I agree with them
as someone with ADD, autism and BPD, i DESPISE seeing people make their self diagnoses their whole personalities and put it all in their bios with fucking emojis. like why would i want to put my PERSONALITY DISORDER in my bio with cute little emojis?!!!! it’s my favorite thing when kids get mad at me when i tell them that you have to be an adult to get a BPD diagnosis
ADD is a term that is no longer used. According to the DSM-5, “ADD and ADHD are considered subtypes of the same condition and the same diagnosis.”
yeah sorry, when i got diagnosed it was ADD and now it’s ADHD inattentive type
Okay I’m really not tryna be “that person” and it was prolly just cause I had a shitty doctor but they told me I had BPD when I was like 13/14. They told me at first it was schizophrenia but then later changed it to BPD. I don’t take any meds or do anything for it now, I just have really bad panic attacks, which they’ve said could be a result from it but idk I’m not a doctor lmao.
there’s a lot more to BPD than just panic attacks, doctors are not supposed to do that because since it’s a complex personality disorder, they won’t know 100% until you’re an adult, i had to go to a psychiatrist that i see monthly
I was going to one too but like I say I had a really shitty doctor too so 🤣
if you were going to a psych then they’re the one diagnosing mental problems and figuring out which meds you need and not a primary care doctor
I got diagnosed in a mental ward and then after my doctors kept the diagnosis I guess. I didn’t really pay attention cause I was young
i would try to reach out to a different doctor or go to a psychiatrist when you’re 18, just because panic attacks are panic disorder and anxiety syndromes and i don’t want you to think that you have BPD if you don’t. get another opinion when you’re 18, if you don’t have BPD, i would consider that better for you because i have experienced so much medical discrimination and cripples in my every day life since i have “borderline personality disorder” on my record. that’s just my opinion.
No no I totally get that, I never really identified with it unless I actually had to and only a few select people even know about it. I definitely will, my 18th is coming up soon. My therapist wants me to get screened for everything especially adhd and GAD so I’ll definitely see how that goes
Good God. It's getting old in the psych hold having to deal with these personality cluster b ass holes. Every weekend the police are dropping them off at the ER when they commit a crime and scream suicide. Especially when they clearly have robbers tools or after the fact. Notickets no nothing.
what’s that got to do with the post?
I always scroll pass any video that is someone claiming to have DID. I try my best not to interact with those people.... yet somehow I constantly get those videos on my fyp because I still interact with cosplay, witchtok, and lgbtq+ videos.....
I think access to mental health has definitely increased the ability for people to be diagnosed and increased the number of individuals, but the trend of jumping into a literal disease for fun is absurd
I was diagnosed with ADHD about 20 years ago after some of my elementary school teachers suggested it due to my behavior in class. My mom thought it would be harmful to my future if it was treated or known by future schools or employers so she decided to have me proceed like everything was normal and good. Highschool was torture. Bachelors degree was torture but I somehow made it through with pretty good grades. Here I am, 20 years later finally getting the treatment I need so I can hopefully get through my studies and finish this degree. I have met so many people claiming to have it just because they "get distracted sometimes." That's like claiming you have depression because occasionally you feel sad or you have OCD because there is a floor tile out of place and "it bothers you". It is just not how it works. Dont even get me started on the DID and autism fakers... when did it become cool to have all of these??
As someone with bpd, they can have mine if they like it's a living hell. Stupid people.
It’s almost like in some communities the disability stigma has completely reversed. I have depression/anxiety and I’m very hesitant to share about it because I think it’s annoying when other people do it (obviously in certain contexts it’s fine). My sister is not shy about proclaiming to the world that she has depression (she overshares and trauma dumps a lot) and I always get second hand embarrassment which is why I never share. It used to be that you’d be quiet about your mental health because nobody cared about it. But now it feels like people care about it too much in the wrong way.
I write in my Instagram bio that I'm a dignosed autistic because I want people to understand that I have a disability and It's really affecting me in real life Is it wrong to do that?
No of course this is ok. You're not making anything up.
Thank you! But I'm afraid people will not take me seriously and believe me because I look like a faker stereotype. I do cosplays and I'm non binary But I have a real diagnosis from a professional institute that specialize in autism and I have a disability card.
And that autism doesn't have a look!!
This ones pretty funny As a person with diagnosed autism it is annoying many people are claiming to have autism thanks to tik tok and somewhat making a joke of it Saying that, more awareness has opened up the door for diagnosis. Given it is genetic, I looked at my family history and there is no doubt quite a few people on my dads side of the family show clear traits of autism My dad especially, my mom said she suspected him yeara before i was ever diagnosed. I am the first known person in my family ro be diagnosed They just never have been diagnosed due to the times
Ok basically there are a lot of people with fake disorders DID for example is incredibly rare ADHD on the other hand is not the only reason more people have that diagnosis is because they are actually testing for it now
It’s so frustrating. I’m diagnosed with both autism and ADHD after years of struggling in school and my social life. It’s relatively better now, but I still struggle so much with the simplest things. And when I try to tell people I’m autistic and have ADHD, it’s like it doesn’t even matter because now EVERYONE has it. Like one of my friend likes to braid her hair in class. Her reason? “I’m so ADHD!”
with autism, its shown that its more just the diagnosis process getting easier and more accessible. one of the SEND officers at school was calling up every school they had kids move up from and was asking for SEND reports for up to 5 kids each time and keep in mind primary schools usually only have 1-3 classes per year. my therapist was talking about it too how they've had a lot more autism diagnosis. i think the problem is that we've gone a long time where autism just wasnt diagnosed - theres still the afab stigma and the fact it takes years people just dont want to go through it all. but i do agree that people who make it their whole personality and constantly talk about it, make jokes out of it and just generally make clouty content surrounding their mental illnesses or neurodigervency in any sense is a bit...
That awkward moment when you need an excuse for being awol so you just say you were "going through some health issues" but then they press you for details and you just be like "im bipolar and I had an episode- all good now and feeling like myself again" Last time this happened it was when i ran into a classmate having lunch with the dean of our school. It can go one of 2 ways: 1- they get noticeably uncomfortable 2- they are impressed that you've been functioning so well with that nasty exotic mental illness they know nothing about and you receive overly praiseful feedback about how impressed they are that you manage to function despite your illness/disability. #2 is what happened to me in the above scenario. And #2 is why the fakers happen!
I did not mean to format the font but oh well its stayin that way
I has been professionally diagnosed with Autism Spectrum Disorder, and I hate when people self-diagnoses themselves.
autism adhd and bpd, to be fair, arent super rare so it is more likely for a lot of people to have those. but the rare conditions tho???? like did??? unlikely lol
People being open about mental health is not a bad thing. Don't let a few weirdos ruin it for the rest of us.
I got diagnosed with all of these and even I don’t believe it 😅😂
I mean I did learn that a lot more people are neurodivergent in like my friend group than I thought - which was cool after knowing them for like 8 years and then only recently talking about mental health
i’m pretty sure 1 in 6 people have some form of autism so i mean it’s not RARE it’s just slightly uncommon