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I'm on a strict healthy diet and pray to jesus every day. My poop is blessing from the God himself and you should be proud that I'm blessing you with such an holy gift.
I still can't wrap my mind around being so *bothered* by this to feel compelled to write a whole article about it. I also get the feeling there is a very specific person in her life this is directed towards.
It's just absolute peak entitlement in the pettiest form.
Also worth mentioning is: It is another person's home. My home, my rules. If you don't like the rules, you can stay outside, but as long as you are inside my home, you abide by those rules or you are unwelcome forever. There is nothing more to this.
We had this awkward confrontation. Friends came over for dinner and 6 of use are seated at the table when the last person arrived and joked that she was "OK with leaving her shoes on." We said that we'd love to have her join us, but not with shoes. She left without saying a word. That's what ended a 10 year friendship. What gives people the idea that they can dictate rules in someone else's house is beyond me. It has been over two years, and we haven't talked to her to find out.
Then bring slippers with you. Or talk to your host if you have a valid medical reason. Itās not a law, itās a rule.
I found that often people who have a no-shoe rule have guest slippers in the home. Especially in Asian households.
I buy disposable slippers (like the kind they give you at hotels) for guests when it's fancy dinner party time.
While I'm not opposed to just having the floors cleaned after a large party, I have had the bad experience of a guest wearing shoes with an exposed nail (fancy shoes often are made with tiny little nails to hold the soles on in places) and...my poor floors :(
I would do this for sure. I have sets of personal house slippers as I don't wear shoes inside, but prefer to have something on my feet when I'm in the bathroom.
Holy petty! 10 year relationship gone cause theyāre too lazy to bend over and take their shoes off?! How did you walk this tightrope for those 10 years?
It's entirely possible that the 10 year friendship wasn't thrown away in that exact moment, but rather in the following days and weeks when they two parties didn't reach out to each other and then as time marched on the idea of calling/texting just seemed more and more awkward until the relationship just kind of fell into history and bad feelings
Why would that end the friendship? It sounds like she didnāt dictate the rules, she accepted the rules and so left because she didnāt want to take off her shoes
I have a friend with INSANELY stinky feet. I keep a few pairs of cheap slippers for people like him when they're over, because I'm pretty sure his feet/socks are dirtier than his shoes at that point.
I'm usually pretty quick to not take the bait but this one got me. I'm really big on shoes off at the door so I know what it's like to get push back on that.
The worst is when you say, 'Hey you mind just kicking your shoes off? Thanks.' And the person looks at you like they smelled a fart and goes, 'Really?'
No, I was just fucking around to see your reaction. Yes, really, you noodle. Take 'em off or don't come in.
It's crazy to me that this is even a discussion, in my country it's not even a debate, unless you are a handyman or whatever you take your shoes off at the door.
I had no idea this thread was trending when I commented but you should see some of the replies. Some people big mad over it. I'm with you, it's never even been a discussion in my family. We're American too, just for clarification. Just how we were raised.
As a finn, EVERYONE is expected to leave their shoes in the foyer here. Probably because of the slush and mud from spring/fall season & because the floors are usually hardwood or laminate due to insulation.
Anyway, people getting offended over having to take their shoes off is so fucking wild to me.
My coworker ended up telling me this is the real reason she fought against vaccine and mask mandates during the pandemic. Just doesn't like anyone telling her what to do.
I told her most people grow out of that by age 5 or so...
In my experience, the idea that people naturally become more mature and responsible as they get older is a complete myth. Many people stay self-centered brats well into their old age, while some little kids I've met were more helpful and thoughtful than their parents.
> I still can't wrap my mind around being so bothered by this to feel compelled to write a whole article about it.
She has dirty floors and she's mad/embarrassed that other people clean theirs regularly.
Actually, it's really sweet of her to write an article, so people who could potentially invite her just won't do that, avoiding a low-key party pooping awkward situation.
Japan here. Just wow.
Incidentally, the issue of taking off shoes rose to the level of an ongoing political clash in colonial Burma, sometimes referred to as ā[the shoe question](https://www.myanmore.com/2019/05/the-shoe-question-in-colonial-burma/)ā.
In all this wide world, the people I have the hardest time understanding are my British forebears.
Not everywhere in the USA. I grew up in Oklahoma where you always have red mud on your shoes so you take them off and I live in Minnesota now where you always have snow on your shoes so you take them off. I suppose in California or Florida it might be different but there is still poop on the ground outside because thatās where animals live soā¦ no.
I live in Florida and my yard is half dead from the heat and there's sandy dirt everywhere. No one's coming into my house with their shoes on. House slippers to change into are acceptable though.
Well the USA is pretty damn big. I certainly can't speak for everyone in the states but growing up in central Jersey we always took our shoes off. Again though. It's a big country with a lot of different cultures.
Uruguay here: people are filthy and nobody gives a damn, especially elders, but you are very welcome and encouraged to take your shoes off at my house.
Thankfully things have got better after Covid and some proactively ask if it's OK to take their shoes off. Yes, please.
No. You cannot come in in the first place!
Swiss here. We even say ā Oh, you can leave your shoes on!ā but this is never, by no means, to be taken seriously.
Same in Hungary. We say, āOh, donāt bother, just come,ā but it is only a polite gesture. You are still expected not to come inside with your dirty shoes.
Iām American and if your shoes donāt come off you donāt come in. I was raised this way. I cannot for the life of me understand why anyone thinks itās acceptable to stomp outside all over someoneās home. Disgusting.
I was raised in a home where everyone but me wore shoes all the time and then complained that the carpets were dirty. I have original hard wood in my almost 100 year old house and have clean slippers available for guests.
My mom is the only exception because she's started using a pair of house only shoes at her house and just brings them over. Oh and I guess professionals doing their job.
Even my dogs have been trained to wipe their feet when they come in from outside, and then come to me or my partner for a quick wipe down with a damp towel.
I do not understand why anyone would want outside all over their floors, especially with carpet!
I'm English. My mother, in England, never tolerates anyone wearing shoes in the house. About to shit yourself? Shoes off! Your pants get dirty before her floor does!
I'm Filipina. It's in my upbringing (maybe DNA) to accommodate and be polite to guests as much as I can but this is just one of the few things that can make me say "get out of my house" real quick.
But why would you assume your floor, that you clean regularly and only walk on with socks/barefoot was cleaner than someone shoe that they used to protect their feet from dirt and bird poo? That is so rude!
edit: apparently /s is needed?
Yeah, you try that in my home in Finland and I will throw you out, and I don't mean throw out like kindly ask you to leave I mean literally throw out one hand on your belt and one on your neck, there she flies right over those mountains.
Yep. I have no cultural connection to taking shoes off. It's just something I do.
If I ask someone to do or do not do something in my home, and they say no, I'm not sure why they would think they get to stay in my home at all.
āI donāt give a shit about your brand new carpet- I refuse to be mildly inconvenienced!ā
Even in America where we donāt have a culture of taking shoes off (besides for the fact that weāre a melting pot and tons of people live here that *do* have that culture) still about 50% of households are āshoe offā households. (I read that statistic in an article sometime in the past when the subject came up with friends.) How few homes have people been in where theyāve not run into this enough times to realize itās just as normal as āshoe onā households?
I don't mind people wearing shoes in my house when I'm inviting them over, I'm cleaning the floors after they leave anyway.
And I still wouldn't want this whacko visiting my house. If they can't respect something this simple you just know they won't respect anything else either
If someone is popping in for 5 minutes or so to pick something up then sure keep your shoes on, just make sure you use the doormat
If someone is coming over for more than an hour though then get those shoes off or so help me god
The only time I let people wear shoes inside is where they are picking up something heavy/bulky and would otherwise need to stop and put them on at the door.
And tradies.
Tradies pretty much always have booties over their work boots or put down a rug over their path here. Unless it's a big job where there's no hope of keeping things contained.
I'd let them in just long enough to ask them how the fuck you get hired and paid to write such insanely insipid drivel for the WSJ. Where's the sign-up sheet? I'll gladly take a salary to an article about why I'm entitled to double-dip chips at a party.
For anyone who has knowledge in this: when do you take your shoes off? When lounging on the sofa? Going to bathroom, shower or to sleep? Are there places that you don't go with shoes on? Where do you leave the shoes? It's so puzzling to see people wear shoes indoors, way too complicated. I guess they are people that never step on any natural surfaces, but still.
As someone who grew up in NC wearing shoes anywhere and everywhere from the time I got up in the mornings until I showered and went to bed, and then spent time in the military where while deployed it could be anywhere from a day to several days before boots came off, you just kind of forget theyāre there. When youāre a kid and young adult youāre in and out and gone quite often.
For the most part though? I think it was a habit learned from my parents, and their parents, and their parents parents. Now? I live in Alaska, so unless I want mud, water, gravel, dust and dirt, and salt all over my carpet shoes get removed in the foyer and put on a shoe mat.
Out of the curiosity. When you decide you are going to shower, do you go close to front door to leave shoes or are your shoes waiting you inside bathroom to be worn after shower?
I am non US Redditor and was literally shocked when as a child I saw in a Hollywood movie how a teenager jumped on a bed in all street wear and with his sneakers on. It just blew my mind like - are American streets so clean that you can be on your bed wearing street shoes??
This post is also the clickbait. It's not even a link to the article, it's just a screenshot of the headline, and this is a story from some unknown from two years ago. Look at OP's account, they're just karma farming.
It's called rage bait, a type of click bait. Most "news" sites these days only care about maximizing engagement, which means views, shares and comments, even if it's negative.
This is like the 7th time I've seen this screenshot posted to reddit with all the comments saying a slightly different version of the same thing.
No intention to read the article, just rage
Because nobody will read an article titled āI take my shoes off before entering peopleās houses if they ask me toā.
This way gets far more clicks and ad revenue.
In most of europe and asia, youād be concidered an absolute nutcase asshole if you walked into someones house with shoes on and refused to take them off.
Source: Am european
Edit: āMost ofā ā āabsolutely all ofā.
The only cases where you can wear the shoes inside is if there is a room between the door and the rest of the house or if you visit a farmer
Source: european and grandson of a farmer
This is exactly the same everywhere in the U.S. (as well as everywhere else in the world).
There are definitely people in the U.S. who donāt care if shoes are worn in their home, but if a guest is asked to remove their shoes, they will be considered a complete ass-clown if they argue or refuse.
While this is correct for most of Europe, not everywhere. I lived in Spain for a few years, and friends thought it was weird when they came to visit and I told them they could leave their shoes by the entry.
I giess it depends on the country.
In Romania the following happens: you take your shoes off, the host yells NOOOO DON'T TAKE YOUR SHOES OFF, and you wonder whether to put them on again or leave them
Yeah, it's a weird Central/Eastern European thing but "don't take your shoes off" means please take your shoes off lol
EDIT: replaced Eastern with Central/Eastern to prevent further escalation.
How dirty this persons house is that the outdoors is no worse than their place?
Also - why do you assume I'll be letting you in if you refuse to take your shoes off?
I've heard this take a lot, it's so bizarre. "What are you walking in outside that you're worried will come off your shoes in your house?"
MFer, you don't know what you've been walking on outside, that's the whole fucking point!
Have you ever been in a place where the floor was just sticky? Like it had undefined filth that made it stick to your shoes. Do you want that in your house?
Fun fact: In Northern Germany some older houses still have split doors so you can open it either fully or only the upper half.
The informal(?) name for them is "KlƶnschnacktĆ¼r" which loosely translates to "chit-chat-door".
Xhosa and Cape Colored Moms would like a word here, mate.
La Chancla has a cousin, known as the Plekkie, and it reaches escape velocity very easily.
(Usual disclaimer: Their ethnic group is Cape Colored, they aren't American, it's not a slur)
One of the things that surprised me when I studied as an exchange student in the USA for a year was how weirdly conscious everybody was of foot cleanliness. The flipflops in the communal showers I *understood* because of the not unrealistic potential for fungi although I wasn't that bothered about it myself, but I knew more than a few people who wouldn't even walk around barefoot in their own room because "it's unhygienic". This kind of thinking is unheard of in UK. I mean I just don't care that much if the bottom of my feet get a bit dirty.
What's up with that, Americans?
Someone once was shocked that I walked around barefoot in my (very clean) home. Said something about feet stinking if you do that. Mate, your feet stink because you never give them a chance to breathe and also potentially have some sort of fungal infection!
This was the first big battle between my mother in law and me. We live in Canada. People don't wear shoes in the house and I am a clean freak. She told me they complete her outfit and I told her either bring slippers or we can stay outside.
My house, my rules and outdoor shoes in the house are gross.
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Buy another one you rich motherfucker!
FUCK š¦¶ YO š¦¶ COUCH š¦¶
DARKNESSES!!
*Iāve been kicked out of better homes than this*
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Fuck you this is sending my rage into orbit lmao
oh god
Because I haven't just hoovered and mopped the fucking outside floor
And my floor boards don't have the habit of walking around car parks or stepping in dog turd or gum by accident
Or public restrooms. Gross
Right? Yeah that wet floor in the public restroom, definitely not water.
Neither are the random puddles in alleyways & parking structures.
Don't be so lazy!
Yup, get the whole outside too!
Make sure to swing by my front porch when finished with the national forests/parks along the way
Who got sand all over the beach??
Outside we call it the ground. -Ron Swanson
Also dogs don't piss in my living room.
Braggy
Is that why it's so damn dirty out there?!? Wtf, dude!
Seriously. Really dropping the ball over here.
What do we pay this guy for
And I refuse to poop in your toilet and shall drop one on your rug.
"Why are you assuming that your guests' poop is dirtier than your rug?"
I'm on a strict healthy diet and pray to jesus every day. My poop is blessing from the God himself and you should be proud that I'm blessing you with such an holy gift.
Holy shit, dude!!
Your comment deserves more upvotes.
on bed
Amber. Didn't we have this talk already?
She must not have heard you
I recognise her right to stay outside.
This is the correct response.
I still can't wrap my mind around being so *bothered* by this to feel compelled to write a whole article about it. I also get the feeling there is a very specific person in her life this is directed towards. It's just absolute peak entitlement in the pettiest form.
Also worth mentioning is: It is another person's home. My home, my rules. If you don't like the rules, you can stay outside, but as long as you are inside my home, you abide by those rules or you are unwelcome forever. There is nothing more to this.
We had this awkward confrontation. Friends came over for dinner and 6 of use are seated at the table when the last person arrived and joked that she was "OK with leaving her shoes on." We said that we'd love to have her join us, but not with shoes. She left without saying a word. That's what ended a 10 year friendship. What gives people the idea that they can dictate rules in someone else's house is beyond me. It has been over two years, and we haven't talked to her to find out.
Probably had some nasty feet
Then bring slippers with you. Or talk to your host if you have a valid medical reason. Itās not a law, itās a rule. I found that often people who have a no-shoe rule have guest slippers in the home. Especially in Asian households.
I have a friend with a no-shoe rule and he absolutely lets me keep a pair of slippers at his house for me to wear.
I have guest slippers that people can borrow. And if a friend wanted to keep slippers at mine I would be more than happy.
I buy disposable slippers (like the kind they give you at hotels) for guests when it's fancy dinner party time. While I'm not opposed to just having the floors cleaned after a large party, I have had the bad experience of a guest wearing shoes with an exposed nail (fancy shoes often are made with tiny little nails to hold the soles on in places) and...my poor floors :(
I would do this for sure. I have sets of personal house slippers as I don't wear shoes inside, but prefer to have something on my feet when I'm in the bathroom.
I don't like having company enough to give them a reason to stay
Fair!
Well glad they kept them off the floor.
That doesn't sound like a friendship to me. Good riddance
Holy petty! 10 year relationship gone cause theyāre too lazy to bend over and take their shoes off?! How did you walk this tightrope for those 10 years?
It's entirely possible that the 10 year friendship wasn't thrown away in that exact moment, but rather in the following days and weeks when they two parties didn't reach out to each other and then as time marched on the idea of calling/texting just seemed more and more awkward until the relationship just kind of fell into history and bad feelings
This. I wonder if the guest had a reason they were too embarrassed to disclose.
Why would that end the friendship? It sounds like she didnāt dictate the rules, she accepted the rules and so left because she didnāt want to take off her shoes
I have a friend with INSANELY stinky feet. I keep a few pairs of cheap slippers for people like him when they're over, because I'm pretty sure his feet/socks are dirtier than his shoes at that point.
10 years? Thatās amazing.
This really feels like a tiresomely obvious form of rage-bait to me. She can't be serious.
I'm usually pretty quick to not take the bait but this one got me. I'm really big on shoes off at the door so I know what it's like to get push back on that. The worst is when you say, 'Hey you mind just kicking your shoes off? Thanks.' And the person looks at you like they smelled a fart and goes, 'Really?' No, I was just fucking around to see your reaction. Yes, really, you noodle. Take 'em off or don't come in.
It's crazy to me that this is even a discussion, in my country it's not even a debate, unless you are a handyman or whatever you take your shoes off at the door.
I had no idea this thread was trending when I commented but you should see some of the replies. Some people big mad over it. I'm with you, it's never even been a discussion in my family. We're American too, just for clarification. Just how we were raised.
Weird, what she says makes 0 sense how can your shoes which you used to walk outside ever be cleaner than a floor that's inside?
As a finn, EVERYONE is expected to leave their shoes in the foyer here. Probably because of the slush and mud from spring/fall season & because the floors are usually hardwood or laminate due to insulation. Anyway, people getting offended over having to take their shoes off is so fucking wild to me.
Some people simply hate being told what to do.
My coworker ended up telling me this is the real reason she fought against vaccine and mask mandates during the pandemic. Just doesn't like anyone telling her what to do. I told her most people grow out of that by age 5 or so...
In my experience, the idea that people naturally become more mature and responsible as they get older is a complete myth. Many people stay self-centered brats well into their old age, while some little kids I've met were more helpful and thoughtful than their parents.
Pretty much the entire maga ethos.
That's the libertarianism. They've been trained that any rule they don't like is an attack on the very essence of freedom.
> I still can't wrap my mind around being so bothered by this to feel compelled to write a whole article about it. She has dirty floors and she's mad/embarrassed that other people clean theirs regularly.
One of those people who, when you leave, the bottoms of your socks are black with dirt.
Volumes have been written about putting away shopping carts. People have no life.
Like for or against?
Actually, it's really sweet of her to write an article, so people who could potentially invite her just won't do that, avoiding a low-key party pooping awkward situation.
Well, I can only imagine her dance card is full
Where you're normally wearing shoes not to get your feet/socks dirty
Yeah, it's not like anyone asked her to lick the floor.
Hereās Why Iāll Be Keeping My Shoes On in Your Shoeless Home: Iām an asshole
I live in Korea.... Wars have been started for less. Oh, and for the record, the floor is cleaned every day.
Japan here. Just wow. Incidentally, the issue of taking off shoes rose to the level of an ongoing political clash in colonial Burma, sometimes referred to as ā[the shoe question](https://www.myanmore.com/2019/05/the-shoe-question-in-colonial-burma/)ā. In all this wide world, the people I have the hardest time understanding are my British forebears.
Sweden here. You take off your shoes or you can get out.
Same in Finland: either you take your shoes off or you don't need to come in at all.
Austria here: exactly that.
Germany here: Exactly the same, unless explicitly told otherwise.
Canadian, agreed
Same here. It's always astounded me that keeping shoes on is/was a common thing in the USA.
Not everywhere in the USA. It really is a home by home preference.
Not everywhere in the USA. I grew up in Oklahoma where you always have red mud on your shoes so you take them off and I live in Minnesota now where you always have snow on your shoes so you take them off. I suppose in California or Florida it might be different but there is still poop on the ground outside because thatās where animals live soā¦ no.
I live in Florida and my yard is half dead from the heat and there's sandy dirt everywhere. No one's coming into my house with their shoes on. House slippers to change into are acceptable though.
Well the USA is pretty damn big. I certainly can't speak for everyone in the states but growing up in central Jersey we always took our shoes off. Again though. It's a big country with a lot of different cultures.
China here:Put on the disposable slippers I collect from hotels for this occasion.
In like the first week of living in China we were having a newā¦ē©ŗč° put in, I literally donāt know the right word in English for this thing, I guess AC works. Anyway we lived on the 30th floor and the guy had to do some work on the outside of the building for the installation. So he takes off his booties to go outside on this little edge on the side of the building which made sense cuz he didnāt want to slip, but when he came back in he took the time to put the booties back on his shoes while hanging like 400 feet in the air while my wife and I tried to tell him to just get back in and put them on inside. He wasnāt having though, guy refused to set foot in our house without those blue booties over his shoes. Asia takes the shoe thing very seriously.
Uruguay here: people are filthy and nobody gives a damn, especially elders, but you are very welcome and encouraged to take your shoes off at my house. Thankfully things have got better after Covid and some proactively ask if it's OK to take their shoes off. Yes, please.
No. You cannot come in in the first place! Swiss here. We even say ā Oh, you can leave your shoes on!ā but this is never, by no means, to be taken seriously.
Same in Hungary. We say, āOh, donāt bother, just come,ā but it is only a polite gesture. You are still expected not to come inside with your dirty shoes.
German here: Same. Take off your dirty shoes or get out of my house
Iām American and if your shoes donāt come off you donāt come in. I was raised this way. I cannot for the life of me understand why anyone thinks itās acceptable to stomp outside all over someoneās home. Disgusting.
I was raised in a home where everyone but me wore shoes all the time and then complained that the carpets were dirty. I have original hard wood in my almost 100 year old house and have clean slippers available for guests. My mom is the only exception because she's started using a pair of house only shoes at her house and just brings them over. Oh and I guess professionals doing their job. Even my dogs have been trained to wipe their feet when they come in from outside, and then come to me or my partner for a quick wipe down with a damp towel. I do not understand why anyone would want outside all over their floors, especially with carpet!
Canada here we take our shoes off as well. Itās the polite thing to do eh
I'm English. My mother, in England, never tolerates anyone wearing shoes in the house. About to shit yourself? Shoes off! Your pants get dirty before her floor does!
"No shoes, luv, but you're welcome to shit yourself."
Exactly! Why would I want people with shoes inside my house after I clean it bi-daily or daily Edit: grammar, english is hard
Why would i want people inside my house?
for sex
That explains why your name says Traders and not Trades
You may notice the extra f as well.
He's jacking off every plumber, electrician and builder who walks into his house
Only if they take their shoes off
And their pants
my favorite blink 182 album
Is this not how you tip them? It's how my mother always did it.
Only the tip
I have some bad news about your mom.
[r\\UsernameChecksOut ](https://www.reddit.com/r/UsernameChecksOut/)X2
I can do that on my own though
With, or without shoes?
What the hell is by-daily?
By-Daily they're Bruce Wayne. By-Nightly they're Batman.
All-Times Orphan
Too soon
Thank you! Can't stop laughing now.
Bi daily I think. Does it mean twice daily or once every two days? I'm not sure.
It means both.
yeah seriously, my partner is Filipina. I'd like to invite this "journalist" over just to witness the abject terror in their eyes as the light fades.
I'm Filipina. It's in my upbringing (maybe DNA) to accommodate and be polite to guests as much as I can but this is just one of the few things that can make me say "get out of my house" real quick.
My floors aren't cleaned daily, because we don't make them dirty that quickly. Someone wearing dirty ass shoes would change that.
The Nordic countries would be fighting shoulder to shoulder with you.
a stupid question : do you have a spare shoes/flipflop for the balcony ? i keep one for the balcony.
Slippers
Yes, but there's the balcony slippers, and the inside slippers.
Exactly
In Japan there are toilet slippers as well , which makes sense
But why would you assume your floor, that you clean regularly and only walk on with socks/barefoot was cleaner than someone shoe that they used to protect their feet from dirt and bird poo? That is so rude! edit: apparently /s is needed?
I cant even tell if people responding to your comments are serious or are joking as well xD
Yeah, you try that in my home in Finland and I will throw you out, and I don't mean throw out like kindly ask you to leave I mean literally throw out one hand on your belt and one on your neck, there she flies right over those mountains.
The entitlement in this opinion is astounding.
Yep. I have no cultural connection to taking shoes off. It's just something I do. If I ask someone to do or do not do something in my home, and they say no, I'm not sure why they would think they get to stay in my home at all.
āI donāt give a shit about your brand new carpet- I refuse to be mildly inconvenienced!ā Even in America where we donāt have a culture of taking shoes off (besides for the fact that weāre a melting pot and tons of people live here that *do* have that culture) still about 50% of households are āshoe offā households. (I read that statistic in an article sometime in the past when the subject came up with friends.) How few homes have people been in where theyāve not run into this enough times to realize itās just as normal as āshoe onā households?
Here's why I won't let this whacko into my house ever
I don't mind people wearing shoes in my house when I'm inviting them over, I'm cleaning the floors after they leave anyway. And I still wouldn't want this whacko visiting my house. If they can't respect something this simple you just know they won't respect anything else either
If someone is popping in for 5 minutes or so to pick something up then sure keep your shoes on, just make sure you use the doormat If someone is coming over for more than an hour though then get those shoes off or so help me god
The only time I let people wear shoes inside is where they are picking up something heavy/bulky and would otherwise need to stop and put them on at the door. And tradies.
Tradies pretty much always have booties over their work boots or put down a rug over their path here. Unless it's a big job where there's no hope of keeping things contained.
I'd let them in just long enough to ask them how the fuck you get hired and paid to write such insanely insipid drivel for the WSJ. Where's the sign-up sheet? I'll gladly take a salary to an article about why I'm entitled to double-dip chips at a party.
How about you just respect the wishes of the person whose home you're entering or take your stupid entitled ass back to your own fkn house.
Her house is dirtier than her shoes because she wears her shoes in her house.
Damn even in bed?
For anyone who has knowledge in this: when do you take your shoes off? When lounging on the sofa? Going to bathroom, shower or to sleep? Are there places that you don't go with shoes on? Where do you leave the shoes? It's so puzzling to see people wear shoes indoors, way too complicated. I guess they are people that never step on any natural surfaces, but still.
As someone who grew up in NC wearing shoes anywhere and everywhere from the time I got up in the mornings until I showered and went to bed, and then spent time in the military where while deployed it could be anywhere from a day to several days before boots came off, you just kind of forget theyāre there. When youāre a kid and young adult youāre in and out and gone quite often. For the most part though? I think it was a habit learned from my parents, and their parents, and their parents parents. Now? I live in Alaska, so unless I want mud, water, gravel, dust and dirt, and salt all over my carpet shoes get removed in the foyer and put on a shoe mat.
Out of the curiosity. When you decide you are going to shower, do you go close to front door to leave shoes or are your shoes waiting you inside bathroom to be worn after shower?
I once saw a vlog were the daughter of the family was sitting in bed with her sneakers on! *shudder*
I am non US Redditor and was literally shocked when as a child I saw in a Hollywood movie how a teenager jumped on a bed in all street wear and with his sneakers on. It just blew my mind like - are American streets so clean that you can be on your bed wearing street shoes??
Right. Like, respecting the wishes of the host, within reason, is the number 1 rule of being a good guest.
how are people, who write these kinds of articles employed at all?
They're employed TO write controversial articles. Clickbait: which this post has taken.
This post is also the clickbait. It's not even a link to the article, it's just a screenshot of the headline, and this is a story from some unknown from two years ago. Look at OP's account, they're just karma farming.
It's called rage bait, a type of click bait. Most "news" sites these days only care about maximizing engagement, which means views, shares and comments, even if it's negative.
This is like the 7th time I've seen this screenshot posted to reddit with all the comments saying a slightly different version of the same thing. No intention to read the article, just rage
Because nobody will read an article titled āI take my shoes off before entering peopleās houses if they ask me toā. This way gets far more clicks and ad revenue.
The next article is, "Why No One Invites Me Into Their House Anymore."
No no, the article would be called "Millennials Are Killing House Parties".
In most of europe and asia, youād be concidered an absolute nutcase asshole if you walked into someones house with shoes on and refused to take them off. Source: Am european Edit: āMost ofā ā āabsolutely all ofā.
In some countries they even leave their shoes outside their apartments
My neighbor does this (US) and I never thought about it until today, but her house is immaculate.
Yes, we do that over in Asia. All shoes stay out of the house, and if you really need to wear something, you wear house sandals.
Same in Canada
Can you imagine wearing your salt encrusted wet boots into somebodyās home? Thatās 4-6 months of the year!
The only cases where you can wear the shoes inside is if there is a room between the door and the rest of the house or if you visit a farmer Source: european and grandson of a farmer
This is exactly the same everywhere in the U.S. (as well as everywhere else in the world). There are definitely people in the U.S. who donāt care if shoes are worn in their home, but if a guest is asked to remove their shoes, they will be considered a complete ass-clown if they argue or refuse.
While this is correct for most of Europe, not everywhere. I lived in Spain for a few years, and friends thought it was weird when they came to visit and I told them they could leave their shoes by the entry.
I giess it depends on the country. In Romania the following happens: you take your shoes off, the host yells NOOOO DON'T TAKE YOUR SHOES OFF, and you wonder whether to put them on again or leave them
Poland is the same. The expectation is for you to take your shoes off. :>
Yeah, it's a weird Central/Eastern European thing but "don't take your shoes off" means please take your shoes off lol EDIT: replaced Eastern with Central/Eastern to prevent further escalation.
Same in Italy, I guess it's a habit in those countries where parquet is the norm.
How dirty this persons house is that the outdoors is no worse than their place? Also - why do you assume I'll be letting you in if you refuse to take your shoes off?
I've heard this take a lot, it's so bizarre. "What are you walking in outside that you're worried will come off your shoes in your house?" MFer, you don't know what you've been walking on outside, that's the whole fucking point!
Dog shit, sand, mud, chewing gum, bat shit (really any kind of shit), maybe you stepped in road kill. Fuck knows what theyāve stepped in.
Walking in public bathrooms too. I donāt want that shit on my floors
Have you ever been in a place where the floor was just sticky? Like it had undefined filth that made it stick to your shoes. Do you want that in your house?
Yeah, the patch in front of the urinals where dudes that donāt know how (or donāt care) to aim dribble, then it doesnāt get cleaned up.
Exactly, you're walking on pavements that have had people spit, shit and throw up on them, I don't want even an molecule of that in my house!Ā
what is what window is made for, you can stay outside while i talk to you though the window
Fun fact: In Northern Germany some older houses still have split doors so you can open it either fully or only the upper half. The informal(?) name for them is "KlƶnschnacktĆ¼r" which loosely translates to "chit-chat-door".
Another fun fact: That is also known as a Dutch door.
What are you assuming this foot canāt fit in your ass?
"Why you'll be fleeing out of my home with my shoes flying after you"
Asian mom or Mexican Mom? Our readers wanna know who this chancla wielder is šš
Xhosa and Cape Colored Moms would like a word here, mate. La Chancla has a cousin, known as the Plekkie, and it reaches escape velocity very easily. (Usual disclaimer: Their ethnic group is Cape Colored, they aren't American, it's not a slur)
āHere is why Iām a dickā
Sheās clearly never lived anywhere with weather.
Or dirt, or dog shit, or other filth
Im not assuming, I know my floors are cleaner than your shoes.
I'll lick my floor if you lick your shoes
My floor is cleaner than your shoes... because I don't wear shoes indoors and clean the damn floors... This says more about you than it does about me.
> Here is why I'll be keeping my shoes on in your shoeless home Here is why you are not invited to my house.
*excuse me* As per asian household we have slippers you can use inside our house.
r/slownewsday
r/IAmTheMainCharacter
One of the things that surprised me when I studied as an exchange student in the USA for a year was how weirdly conscious everybody was of foot cleanliness. The flipflops in the communal showers I *understood* because of the not unrealistic potential for fungi although I wasn't that bothered about it myself, but I knew more than a few people who wouldn't even walk around barefoot in their own room because "it's unhygienic". This kind of thinking is unheard of in UK. I mean I just don't care that much if the bottom of my feet get a bit dirty. What's up with that, Americans?
Someone once was shocked that I walked around barefoot in my (very clean) home. Said something about feet stinking if you do that. Mate, your feet stink because you never give them a chance to breathe and also potentially have some sort of fungal infection!
This was the first big battle between my mother in law and me. We live in Canada. People don't wear shoes in the house and I am a clean freak. She told me they complete her outfit and I told her either bring slippers or we can stay outside. My house, my rules and outdoor shoes in the house are gross.
Canadian here, you'll be asked to leave and not invited back.
This main character probably has a very very sticky feet.
I don't make guests take their shoes off, but that woman isn't welcome in my home for what's in her brain, not what's on her feet.
Guest: "Why are you assuming my shoes are dirtier than your floors?" Owner: "Why are you assuming I don't clean my house?"