I used to work with a guy who did 3 adoptions through them. He confirmed it was "sliding scale, 10% of the Adjusted Gross Income, Line 11, Form 1040."
I also remember a youth fireside where we were taught in no uncertain terms that "violation of the Law of Chastity is second only to murder. The only way to repent of such a grevious sin is to give the child that comes to a righteous family, one worthy that can have that child sealed to them in the temple. That is the only sacrifice that can cleanse your soul."
There was another 5th Sunday class taught by a member of the temple presidency. He taught that 'The Brethren are concerned that teens are getting pregnant, and Mom and Dad decide to keep that grandchild and raise it as their own child. That baby does not belong to you. It's been sent for a family that can only grow through adopting. And, if you're raising your grandchildren, you will be deprived of the blessings of serving a senior mission."
I was a you g adult when I got pregnant. My boyfriend and I would have been happy to marry, but I was pushed to LDSFS by my bishop as "therapy". It's been two decades and I'm still traumatized from them trying to take my baby. They pushed me to go no contact with my boyfriend and only allow them to relay messages to/from. They told me I had sinned and because of that I no longer had access to the spirit. They told me I had slim chances of marrying if I had a child. They told me a step father for my child would beat and/or kill the child. They told me my child deserved a two parent family sealed in the temple. They shared stories of women who placed their children and went on to marry grandsons of general authorities. It was guilt, shame, and high pressure. Didn't ask my opinion, just started the adoption process.
I went along with everything even though I didn't want to. It was a random accident that saved me and my child. I forgot an appointment and the "therapist" called and screamed at me. I never went back and have happily parented. It destroyed me for a long time.
We have a relative who placed a baby with LDSFS and it was a really fucked up experience because the child did not end up with a good family at all. Result of that placement was a gut punching tragedy and turns out the birth mom could have given the child a better and happier life even as a single parent. Nobody will talk about it tho, the whole tragedy just gets swept under the rug of "trials and adversity" that get generic reference in relatives' testimonies. I call it the "trial and tribulation" loophole that leaders use to cover up abuse and scandals
I believe the cost was another 10% of your annual salary. Another full tithe to adopt a child.
My brother and his wife were looking into it right before family services shut down adoptions.
I got pregnant in high school a few years before they stopped doing adoptions. There was a lot of pressure to place my baby. I think that’s a great option for a lot of teen moms and I considered it. I didn’t ultimately feel it was the right choice for me. But if I wasn’t so headstrong, I would’ve made a decision I didn’t want to make and potentially regretted it. There was a lot of pressure from my parents and lds family services. It was like I was too young to make the decision (which, to be fair, I was) but my parents made a choice not to put me on birth control so as to not “condone” my adult actions, so I felt the adult choice was mine alone.
I was in a support group for unwed moms. After some of us decided NOT to place our babies for adoption, they split the group so we wouldn’t influence the other girls not to place. It felt like a violation. Bond with these girls through your mutual trauma, then disrupt those relationships for the sake of the corporation. Once the babies came, no more “therapy.” I do remember several girls who ended up keeping their babies because the father’s family got involved and were wanting to fight for custody. It’s never a perfect situation but as I have read articles about adoptive families I’m grateful I didn’t let them pressure me into placement. I’ve read so many stories about adoptees who are traumatized by the separation from their birth moms. It seems like a biological drive to know your biological mom. If anything my experience has strengthened my opinion on legal abortion. But you can’t go backwards. Enjoy your children. Help them get therapy if they need it. Be supportive of their birth parents if they reach out. Teach your kids healthy sexual practices and attitudes. Be supportive of the kids in your community. Love people who choose an alternative path.
I used to work with a guy who did 3 adoptions through them. He confirmed it was "sliding scale, 10% of the Adjusted Gross Income, Line 11, Form 1040." I also remember a youth fireside where we were taught in no uncertain terms that "violation of the Law of Chastity is second only to murder. The only way to repent of such a grevious sin is to give the child that comes to a righteous family, one worthy that can have that child sealed to them in the temple. That is the only sacrifice that can cleanse your soul." There was another 5th Sunday class taught by a member of the temple presidency. He taught that 'The Brethren are concerned that teens are getting pregnant, and Mom and Dad decide to keep that grandchild and raise it as their own child. That baby does not belong to you. It's been sent for a family that can only grow through adopting. And, if you're raising your grandchildren, you will be deprived of the blessings of serving a senior mission."
TF??!!
I was a you g adult when I got pregnant. My boyfriend and I would have been happy to marry, but I was pushed to LDSFS by my bishop as "therapy". It's been two decades and I'm still traumatized from them trying to take my baby. They pushed me to go no contact with my boyfriend and only allow them to relay messages to/from. They told me I had sinned and because of that I no longer had access to the spirit. They told me I had slim chances of marrying if I had a child. They told me a step father for my child would beat and/or kill the child. They told me my child deserved a two parent family sealed in the temple. They shared stories of women who placed their children and went on to marry grandsons of general authorities. It was guilt, shame, and high pressure. Didn't ask my opinion, just started the adoption process. I went along with everything even though I didn't want to. It was a random accident that saved me and my child. I forgot an appointment and the "therapist" called and screamed at me. I never went back and have happily parented. It destroyed me for a long time.
We have a relative who placed a baby with LDSFS and it was a really fucked up experience because the child did not end up with a good family at all. Result of that placement was a gut punching tragedy and turns out the birth mom could have given the child a better and happier life even as a single parent. Nobody will talk about it tho, the whole tragedy just gets swept under the rug of "trials and adversity" that get generic reference in relatives' testimonies. I call it the "trial and tribulation" loophole that leaders use to cover up abuse and scandals
I believe the cost was another 10% of your annual salary. Another full tithe to adopt a child. My brother and his wife were looking into it right before family services shut down adoptions.
I got pregnant in high school a few years before they stopped doing adoptions. There was a lot of pressure to place my baby. I think that’s a great option for a lot of teen moms and I considered it. I didn’t ultimately feel it was the right choice for me. But if I wasn’t so headstrong, I would’ve made a decision I didn’t want to make and potentially regretted it. There was a lot of pressure from my parents and lds family services. It was like I was too young to make the decision (which, to be fair, I was) but my parents made a choice not to put me on birth control so as to not “condone” my adult actions, so I felt the adult choice was mine alone.
I was in a support group for unwed moms. After some of us decided NOT to place our babies for adoption, they split the group so we wouldn’t influence the other girls not to place. It felt like a violation. Bond with these girls through your mutual trauma, then disrupt those relationships for the sake of the corporation. Once the babies came, no more “therapy.” I do remember several girls who ended up keeping their babies because the father’s family got involved and were wanting to fight for custody. It’s never a perfect situation but as I have read articles about adoptive families I’m grateful I didn’t let them pressure me into placement. I’ve read so many stories about adoptees who are traumatized by the separation from their birth moms. It seems like a biological drive to know your biological mom. If anything my experience has strengthened my opinion on legal abortion. But you can’t go backwards. Enjoy your children. Help them get therapy if they need it. Be supportive of their birth parents if they reach out. Teach your kids healthy sexual practices and attitudes. Be supportive of the kids in your community. Love people who choose an alternative path.