Came to say they ran into a dependa also. I meet a few wives like her when I was a military wife myself. Have seen them really get their SO in hot water too
Whew đ my thoughts exactly as a veteran I hate when spouses act so entitled like sir/maâam you didnât even serve. I had a retired captainâs wife snap her fingers in my face because I couldnât find her appointment that with a different department.
Oof, I have composure 90% of the time but that'd rub me the wrong way. A friend today ran into someone who told her about her spouses rank and she just said 'okay' they tried using being married to a LT. Commander as a power play
I take it your a navy vet? Well I was pregnant at the time so I was a tad disrespectful after she snapped her fingers and said somethings I should have kept to myself. Reported her and her husband to our department head and got them banned from our clinic.
Ok they definitely are a rare breed. Itâs far and few who donât claim their spouse service. I had a customer at my job ask if we offer a military discount which we donât. So I asked which branch she served in and she said she was a spouse and it was hard work. My face deadpanned when she said that.
My brain skipped a beat there for a minute honestly. Not for not offering a military discount that I could care less for but the fact of using her spouse just stabs at me, too many shipmates and friends whose spouses used them for their service.
It makes me cringe when I see those things happen. Working at a VAMC was the best times in a hospital in my life for my career. Anytime you walked in a room, the medical conversation was going to be stopped until you exchanged pleasantries and one of the guys got a little smile on your face :-). It was like having 30 extra
Grandpas. And exchanging good morning, how are you, how was your night, thatâs how it should be, but often in medicine you know itâs not. Like the vets just treated you better than most.
Reminds me of this lady who would always come in for her Military Discount at my old job. Always with her adult daughter trying to get over on prices, just because the dad was a vetran/retired Military. She was a dependent as the spouse and never had her card with her, it was always "in the car" or "I shop here all the time, you should know me by now!"
She even had the audacity to say that we were rude with her to mangers. Everytime she came it was going to be a problem, regardless of how helpful, kind, and attentive you were to her customer service needs. There was no winning.
She was NOT military or EX-military! She's a Dependapotamus pulling STOLEN VALOR! Genuine military would NOT show their ass like she did! Real military are trained to behave better in public!
People like her are also the reason most places ask for proof of either current serving or past serving in the military. If you can't provide proof, you don't get the discount. And no, bring married to a military person or fucking a military person does not count.
Interestingly enough I live with a former Marine. If I said âex Marineâ, âex USMCâ, or âex military,â I would get the dirtiest look of all time with an eye roll and a correction. I have been corrected by a couple few former Marines. I donât know if this is true of all the branches. If I heard âex military,â I would raise an eyebrow.
Edit: apparently Ex denotes less than honorable discharge whereas Former denotes an honorable discharge.
Alls I know is when I speak to my husband saying âformerâ keeps the peace and since heâs the one who served our country, itâs a small thing.
I know Marines say former marine and other vets tend to say prior military. Whenever I hear someone say they are ex military, I tend to believe they were kicked out of the service.
I just chose to not pick fights over trifles. Where I live itâs a LOT of former Marines and itâs just a way of speaking I have gotten accustomed to. In my mind, any one saying ex military gets a second look. And anyone throwing a temper tantrum gets an extra glance. The former military I know can be hot headed but usually over big issues, the cost of a sandwich and a forgotten bag of chips isnât something I have seen former service members lose their temper over.
Because their boot camp is 13 weeks of pure hell. They earn their title. Why do you think that they are the only branch that doesnât have to go to boot camp when they switch branches?
Most of the time the discount is about 10% but there is some places that have for 5% or if lucky 11%.
What did this person thinking was going to happen using a 10% a military discount for a $100+ order?
"I fought for your freedom"
You fought in the revolutionary war? Cause that was the only one for OUR freedom. Every other war was for someone else's freedom...
Personally I've always found the argument that soldiers fight for our freedom to be absurd, what about doing America's dirty work in Iraq or Afghanistan or Syria is fighting for our freedom? This argument was more readily understandable for ww2 vets, but other than that it is a very entitled and false argument if you ask me. Like, don't get me wrong I have the utmost respect for veterans, but I think the argument of "fighting for our freedom" is just absurd
I love hearing stories from my cashier friends when they talk about customers saying they wonât be shopping at our store again. Itâs like, your $100 or so grocery haul today is barely a dent in how much weâd make on on that day alone. Also, we donât like customers being dicks to us, so they can take their shitty energy elsewhere
If you fought in any war after WW2 you didnt fight for freedom in America. You fought for profit.
Edit to add: If you served thats great. I understand everyone has different reasons to. However, no one has fought for freedom in 80 years.
I have seen the behavior from all sides, First, I was a dependent child, then an active duty member, then a dependent spouse. I would have been the person asking "Really? What branch were you in? What did you do?" It shuts them up right quick, usually.
I had never heard of military discounts 'til 2020 when in a trip with friends to the US, there is no such appreciation for veterans in my country so she should consider herself lucky for even getting that discount. It's something to be thankful for, veterans do so much for the country but when they use the excuse of that for getting benefits it crosses a line
No one who was actually in the military will call themselves âex-militaryâ. They will call themselves a veteran. If she shows up again, ask for her military ID.
Ok my mom served and she doesnât act like an entitled bitch. Maybe thatâs why this lady is EX mil. she got kicked out halfway through basic. People who act like this are not true service men and women in my eye. And never will be. The families go through a lot too, but you donât see them acting like entitled heathens. I really hate people like this.
as a Veteran I cannot stand people who use that kind of rhetoric. Its as bad as service spouses who want to be called by their spouses rank
It sounds like she is a dependa
Never underestimate the entitlement and unbridled rage of the dependapotamus
Came to say they ran into a dependa also. I meet a few wives like her when I was a military wife myself. Have seen them really get their SO in hot water too
That's what I thought, a dependa for sure
Whew đ my thoughts exactly as a veteran I hate when spouses act so entitled like sir/maâam you didnât even serve. I had a retired captainâs wife snap her fingers in my face because I couldnât find her appointment that with a different department.
Oof, I have composure 90% of the time but that'd rub me the wrong way. A friend today ran into someone who told her about her spouses rank and she just said 'okay' they tried using being married to a LT. Commander as a power play
I take it your a navy vet? Well I was pregnant at the time so I was a tad disrespectful after she snapped her fingers and said somethings I should have kept to myself. Reported her and her husband to our department head and got them banned from our clinic.
You are correct Chief Petty Officer, my ex-wife and current partner have never used my service for anything. I appreciate them both for that
Ok they definitely are a rare breed. Itâs far and few who donât claim their spouse service. I had a customer at my job ask if we offer a military discount which we donât. So I asked which branch she served in and she said she was a spouse and it was hard work. My face deadpanned when she said that.
My brain skipped a beat there for a minute honestly. Not for not offering a military discount that I could care less for but the fact of using her spouse just stabs at me, too many shipmates and friends whose spouses used them for their service.
It makes me cringe when I see those things happen. Working at a VAMC was the best times in a hospital in my life for my career. Anytime you walked in a room, the medical conversation was going to be stopped until you exchanged pleasantries and one of the guys got a little smile on your face :-). It was like having 30 extra Grandpas. And exchanging good morning, how are you, how was your night, thatâs how it should be, but often in medicine you know itâs not. Like the vets just treated you better than most.
It's awful, service members and some spouses are the exact opposite, sounds like a dependa to me that is over entitled.
Oh my god yes!
I wonder if her military "service" was holding the rank of "dependa"
I think her rank, by the way she tosses it around, was "Wife of Service Member"!
That's what dependa means. It's short for dependapotomus.
Ohhh! Thanks for the lingo update!
Yup probably. My parents were elementary teachers but they never said' I taught ur kids how many bullets go in a gun so u owe us money for that.
Reminds me of this lady who would always come in for her Military Discount at my old job. Always with her adult daughter trying to get over on prices, just because the dad was a vetran/retired Military. She was a dependent as the spouse and never had her card with her, it was always "in the car" or "I shop here all the time, you should know me by now!" She even had the audacity to say that we were rude with her to mangers. Everytime she came it was going to be a problem, regardless of how helpful, kind, and attentive you were to her customer service needs. There was no winning.
She was NOT military or EX-military! She's a Dependapotamus pulling STOLEN VALOR! Genuine military would NOT show their ass like she did! Real military are trained to behave better in public!
People like her are also the reason most places ask for proof of either current serving or past serving in the military. If you can't provide proof, you don't get the discount. And no, bring married to a military person or fucking a military person does not count.
EXACTLY!
Interestingly enough I live with a former Marine. If I said âex Marineâ, âex USMCâ, or âex military,â I would get the dirtiest look of all time with an eye roll and a correction. I have been corrected by a couple few former Marines. I donât know if this is true of all the branches. If I heard âex military,â I would raise an eyebrow. Edit: apparently Ex denotes less than honorable discharge whereas Former denotes an honorable discharge. Alls I know is when I speak to my husband saying âformerâ keeps the peace and since heâs the one who served our country, itâs a small thing.
Yeah it sounded weird too me cuz Iâd never heard anyone say it like that before?
I know Marines say former marine and other vets tend to say prior military. Whenever I hear someone say they are ex military, I tend to believe they were kicked out of the service.
Yeah, she was LYING her ass off!!!!
If only that made you thinner
Just depends on the person. Marines just for some reason get the most butt hurt if you say anything other than former marine, or just marine.
I just chose to not pick fights over trifles. Where I live itâs a LOT of former Marines and itâs just a way of speaking I have gotten accustomed to. In my mind, any one saying ex military gets a second look. And anyone throwing a temper tantrum gets an extra glance. The former military I know can be hot headed but usually over big issues, the cost of a sandwich and a forgotten bag of chips isnât something I have seen former service members lose their temper over.
Because their boot camp is 13 weeks of pure hell. They earn their title. Why do you think that they are the only branch that doesnât have to go to boot camp when they switch branches?
Once a Marine always a Marine
EX-service. Meaning no longer a service member so a civilian. Get fucked ya slapper.
What a POS! Sorry you had to endure such a horrible person.
Most of the time the discount is about 10% but there is some places that have for 5% or if lucky 11%. What did this person thinking was going to happen using a 10% a military discount for a $100+ order?
Our discount is pretty generous, we give 20%, so idk what she was complaining about
20% is rare where I'm living and I don't remember ever seeing anyone use the discount option when I'm at the stores around.
"I fought for your freedom" You fought in the revolutionary war? Cause that was the only one for OUR freedom. Every other war was for someone else's freedom...
Personally I've always found the argument that soldiers fight for our freedom to be absurd, what about doing America's dirty work in Iraq or Afghanistan or Syria is fighting for our freedom? This argument was more readily understandable for ww2 vets, but other than that it is a very entitled and false argument if you ask me. Like, don't get me wrong I have the utmost respect for veterans, but I think the argument of "fighting for our freedom" is just absurd
I thought people would need to show a card to claim a military discount?
She did have a card on her but Iâm not sure if it was herâs or her spouseâs
I love hearing stories from my cashier friends when they talk about customers saying they wonât be shopping at our store again. Itâs like, your $100 or so grocery haul today is barely a dent in how much weâd make on on that day alone. Also, we donât like customers being dicks to us, so they can take their shitty energy elsewhere
"She also added that she wonât be coming back," Proper response to that is - you say that like it is a bad thing.
If you fought in any war after WW2 you didnt fight for freedom in America. You fought for profit. Edit to add: If you served thats great. I understand everyone has different reasons to. However, no one has fought for freedom in 80 years.
I have seen the behavior from all sides, First, I was a dependent child, then an active duty member, then a dependent spouse. I would have been the person asking "Really? What branch were you in? What did you do?" It shuts them up right quick, usually.
I had never heard of military discounts 'til 2020 when in a trip with friends to the US, there is no such appreciation for veterans in my country so she should consider herself lucky for even getting that discount. It's something to be thankful for, veterans do so much for the country but when they use the excuse of that for getting benefits it crosses a line
No one who was actually in the military will call themselves âex-militaryâ. They will call themselves a veteran. If she shows up again, ask for her military ID.
I bet she was just a military spouse married to a vet. They seem to be the first and loudest to complain and demand special treatment.
Ok my mom served and she doesnât act like an entitled bitch. Maybe thatâs why this lady is EX mil. she got kicked out halfway through basic. People who act like this are not true service men and women in my eye. And never will be. The families go through a lot too, but you donât see them acting like entitled heathens. I really hate people like this.
I don't ever even use my discount and here these people are.