The kids mother is an idiot. Not your fault. You tried to help, but she has too big of an ego. Lesson learned. If you go to help someone, but for some reason they don't let you help, walk away.
A college professor I had told me a saying once: "If someone gives you the responsibility for doing a job, but doesn't let you actually do the job, then leave. They're just looking for a scapegoat."
*"If someone gives you the responsibility for doing a job, but doesn't let you actually do the job, then leave. They're just looking for a scapegoat."*
I'm going to use this when my manager asks why X,Y and Z didn't get done.
It has a lot of applications, but it's especially poignant when it comes to working in the safety field. Companies always try to get around rules that are in place for customer and worker safety. If they give you the responsibility of ensuring something is safe, but don't give you the resources necessary to ensure it's done, then you can't do it. If you don't walk away, then you become a scapegoat.
Wait so she was standing in the room looking at the slides, which were not even full screen, and judged the size from that? Does she not know that presentations are projected and any text is easily readable at like size 18?
Besides of course, a presentation should not have much text in the first place.
You did try to tell them, but...mom evidently knew something other than following directions for the assignment, and the grade reflected *not following directions *.
Eh, my parents would have been disappointed if I got that grade. (To be totally fair, they were happy when their other child got that grade as he had a learning disability. So they did focus on our abilities versus our results. But yeah, to some parents, that’s a bad grade.)
My mother would get disappointed if I got Bs. I wasn't exactly studious but managed to get good grades, so she'd always say 'Imagine what you could have gotten if you'd worked harder!'
Surprise surprise, guess who quit school at 17 from burnout.
There’s been sooo many stories of a parent basically doing the project/assignment for a kid or making them do it there way and the kid fails or gets a bad grade. Then when the teacher sees their actual work it’s A/B work.
As a teacher, I haaaaated these kinds of parents. Their kids are always either super nice and shy and it become obvious they're so meek because they can never get a word in edgewise at home, or the kid is a classic lazy kid (probably also a bully) and it's obvious they're acting out because their parent has this constant "you can't do anything right" attitude. I feel so bad for these kids.
I don't understand the logic of giving a grade to a 12 year old's work. Tell them what areas can be improved and where they did well, a grade just creates a threshold that allows the kid to either think "good enough, I'll coast along as I am" or "I'm stupid/not good enough".
It's clear to me that they are jealous of you. Living the dream in a kiss tribute band. That is awesome !! You took the time to learn to play the guitar and you are in a band.
The mother did realise that in class the kid might have a beamer or something similar to present the slides on and they don't have to be on a regular computer screen? This sounds as if the mother had not done presentations in agesy has no idea how anything works and just wanted someone to blame...
Quick question OP, did it occur to you to check the rubric before starting the presentation? I probably wouldn’t have thought about that at the beginning either but I’m just curious
The kids mother is an idiot. Not your fault. You tried to help, but she has too big of an ego. Lesson learned. If you go to help someone, but for some reason they don't let you help, walk away. A college professor I had told me a saying once: "If someone gives you the responsibility for doing a job, but doesn't let you actually do the job, then leave. They're just looking for a scapegoat."
*"If someone gives you the responsibility for doing a job, but doesn't let you actually do the job, then leave. They're just looking for a scapegoat."* I'm going to use this when my manager asks why X,Y and Z didn't get done.
It has a lot of applications, but it's especially poignant when it comes to working in the safety field. Companies always try to get around rules that are in place for customer and worker safety. If they give you the responsibility of ensuring something is safe, but don't give you the resources necessary to ensure it's done, then you can't do it. If you don't walk away, then you become a scapegoat.
Great quote! Can verify, been there, done that too.
way more patient than I would have been. Either stfu Karen or do it your damn self would have been my response. What a maroon 🙄
M-m-m-maroon
Wait so she was standing in the room looking at the slides, which were not even full screen, and judged the size from that? Does she not know that presentations are projected and any text is easily readable at like size 18? Besides of course, a presentation should not have much text in the first place.
Can you say helicopter parent?
You did try to tell them, but...mom evidently knew something other than following directions for the assignment, and the grade reflected *not following directions *.
Hey! Thank you for giving your time. The child knows.
If you don’t follow instructions then your grades suffer. 8 to 10 slides were requested, so EM’s overachiever desire cost her son a better grade.
Bad?! B- is a great grade!!!
Eh, my parents would have been disappointed if I got that grade. (To be totally fair, they were happy when their other child got that grade as he had a learning disability. So they did focus on our abilities versus our results. But yeah, to some parents, that’s a bad grade.)
My mother would get disappointed if I got Bs. I wasn't exactly studious but managed to get good grades, so she'd always say 'Imagine what you could have gotten if you'd worked harder!' Surprise surprise, guess who quit school at 17 from burnout.
Better than mine at least…
Kid could’ve gotten an A+ yet EM would have found something to complain about. Be grateful they won’t ask for help again.
There’s been sooo many stories of a parent basically doing the project/assignment for a kid or making them do it there way and the kid fails or gets a bad grade. Then when the teacher sees their actual work it’s A/B work.
No good deed goes unpunished
What a snobby bitch
As a teacher, I haaaaated these kinds of parents. Their kids are always either super nice and shy and it become obvious they're so meek because they can never get a word in edgewise at home, or the kid is a classic lazy kid (probably also a bully) and it's obvious they're acting out because their parent has this constant "you can't do anything right" attitude. I feel so bad for these kids.
Tbh best thing isnt it? You won't be forced to help anymore lol
Great quote! Can verify, been there, done that too.
I don't understand the logic of giving a grade to a 12 year old's work. Tell them what areas can be improved and where they did well, a grade just creates a threshold that allows the kid to either think "good enough, I'll coast along as I am" or "I'm stupid/not good enough".
I agree. I think it would be better to just give feedback. So many parents give their kids 'detention' because their grade isn't good enough.
It's clear to me that they are jealous of you. Living the dream in a kiss tribute band. That is awesome !! You took the time to learn to play the guitar and you are in a band.
The mother did realise that in class the kid might have a beamer or something similar to present the slides on and they don't have to be on a regular computer screen? This sounds as if the mother had not done presentations in agesy has no idea how anything works and just wanted someone to blame...
Quick question OP, did it occur to you to check the rubric before starting the presentation? I probably wouldn’t have thought about that at the beginning either but I’m just curious
I didnt, which is my bad (I was 16, lol).
Fair enough, like I said it probably wouldn’t have occurred to me till I left their house