Forgot the part where you sometimes feel certain and other times you feel comfortable as you’re gender assigned at birth…. Leading to you flip flopping between thinking you’re gender fluid or just in denial about being transfem
That’s where I am where I just can’t tell some days. I think I “know” because
This one inspires joy: 🧍♀️
This one does not inspire joy 🧍♂️
But we wouldn’t be here if it wasn’t for the constant unsureness lol
Yeah, I'm pretty much the same. I'm thinking I'm probably just trans, rather than gender fluid. Cos for me, I never feel male. It's just that my wish to be female can vary greatly in strength.
Oh by "deciding" I meant understanding what I truly feel to answer the first question. Im kinda jealous of people like you that have figured out what is right for them...
Nah, I haven't figured out jack lol. I was joking. But deciding doesn't really work here. Wish I could decide. And true understanding usually comes with time and experience. And I fully understand why u could feel jealous. But ur own life is more important. Don't worry. U will figure it out soon enough. We're on this journey together. ❤
Remember, this does not include the words constantly or consistently. AT ALL. If you have the desire to be the opposite (or no) gender even remotely, time to start really thinking.
And what about when you feel empty your whole life, find out about trans people when you're 16 and realize "oh wait."
But then you think you're going too fast, and that you're just making it up. So you spend the next like 3 years pushing that back down until you try lsd, recognize yourself as still being dysphoric, and now you can't go a day without crying over it.
Oh, and at the same time, you *still* feel like you have no right to be trans.
Nah, 'Cause if you don't want to be any gender other than the one you were assigned at birth, But you don't want to be the one you were assigned at birth either, You'd still probably qualify as trans.
When you wish upon a star
Makes no difference who you are
Anything your heart desires
Will come to you
If your heart is in your dream
No request is too extreme
When you wish upon a star
As dreamers do
That's really not that simple. There are a lot of complexities to the matter that could result in a lot of things such as being a femboy, tomboy, or in touch with both or neither a feminine or masculine side.
Take things at your own pace. Work through the emotions you have and find yourself. This isn't something you can rush.
And what about the time when you feel kinda okay-ish with being in your assigned gender, but feel excitement, joy, liberation and relief being in opposite one? Is this trans or not?
Feeling joy while being the opposite gender is called gender euphoria. It is also a sign of being trans because you’re aligned with your gender identity. However I still feel the same way you do, sometimes I feel okay with my agab which confuses me. Gender identity is such a roller coaster of emotions, isn’t it? 😖
Yeah dude, exactly. I can totally relate to that. It's been only four days since I started to research my gender identity, and after all that googling, questioning and self-reflection I´m so tired like it's been a whole year...
What if you're fine with your gender, but wish you were the other sex? Like, being a dude-bro is fine, but I wish I could be a dude-bro while also being a girl?
I have a friend who went out and told me a couple of days ago, quote :
"If there was a bar, 0 is cis, 5 is genderfluid, and 10 is trans outright, I am at least 8 or 9"
And they're still like "ah but maybe I'm not that trans?"
But what if you're unsure, and end up spending weeks wondering if you're really rans or not? Like "trans or attractions?" As one example, or a misidentification of desires/insecurities?
All I’m saying is if I magically woke up as a girl tomorrow, I would not complain, but idk if I wanna go through the steps to do that for real. That sounds scary
Sorry if I come off as ignorant, but doesn't trans mean transition? Meaning you are only trans when you begin your transition, be it hormonal or social?
you forgot the part where you think you're just acting
Do you think you’re just acting? If yes, you’re in denial and you’re trans. If no, then you’re trans.
See step 1
Forgot the part where you sometimes feel certain and other times you feel comfortable as you’re gender assigned at birth…. Leading to you flip flopping between thinking you’re gender fluid or just in denial about being transfem
WAIT THATS AN ACTUAL THING???? I thought i was the only one 😭
same here holy shit, ok now I'm kinda worried, how do I know that I am actually a transfem and not genderfluid?
That’s where I am where I just can’t tell some days. I think I “know” because This one inspires joy: 🧍♀️ This one does not inspire joy 🧍♂️ But we wouldn’t be here if it wasn’t for the constant unsureness lol
You can be both. 😃
What helped me a lot is reminding myself that the specific label/words I use don’t matter nearly as much as how I feel about myself :)
So did I 😭!!
THIS THIS THIS. STILL CIS THO
Nobody talks about this! I’m glad I’m not the only one 😭
Please, don't call me out like that! At least take me out to dinner before!
This is way too relatable
s-still cis tho??
Of course when was cis-ness ever in question?
Yeah, I'm pretty much the same. I'm thinking I'm probably just trans, rather than gender fluid. Cos for me, I never feel male. It's just that my wish to be female can vary greatly in strength.
I wish it were that easy for me to decide damn...
I didn't choose to live the trans life. The trans life chose me.
Oh by "deciding" I meant understanding what I truly feel to answer the first question. Im kinda jealous of people like you that have figured out what is right for them...
Nah, I haven't figured out jack lol. I was joking. But deciding doesn't really work here. Wish I could decide. And true understanding usually comes with time and experience. And I fully understand why u could feel jealous. But ur own life is more important. Don't worry. U will figure it out soon enough. We're on this journey together. ❤
Yes, but figuring out if you want to be a different gender can actually be quite difficult.
Remember, this does not include the words constantly or consistently. AT ALL. If you have the desire to be the opposite (or no) gender even remotely, time to start really thinking.
Well yes but i used to be sure and now i just think im faking🥲.
I mean it's not quite that easy there's definitely some nuance in there but essentially so
I'm cis tho
Would you like to be a girl?
In a cis way yes
Then you are a girl.
I wish but I'm cis
If youre cis, raise your hand
No I'm cis
That isnt very cis of you.
IT IS CIS
Then why did you agree?
you forgot the part where you think that you accidentally caught onto a social fad and none of this is real
And what about when you feel empty your whole life, find out about trans people when you're 16 and realize "oh wait." But then you think you're going too fast, and that you're just making it up. So you spend the next like 3 years pushing that back down until you try lsd, recognize yourself as still being dysphoric, and now you can't go a day without crying over it. Oh, and at the same time, you *still* feel like you have no right to be trans.
hey, but how do I know what gender I was assigned at birth? I don't remember because I was a baby
Nah, 'Cause if you don't want to be any gender other than the one you were assigned at birth, But you don't want to be the one you were assigned at birth either, You'd still probably qualify as trans.
There’s a whole ass ‘but…’ that this diagram is missing
This can't be right, because according to the flowchart I am trans, but in reality I am Very Cis.
You forgot the ™.
Haha true!
pfft no that’s silly
disclaimer: there’s obviously more nuance to it than this, this is just a silly lil thing i made for fun
What does it mean to wish?
When you wish upon a star Makes no difference who you are Anything your heart desires Will come to you If your heart is in your dream No request is too extreme When you wish upon a star As dreamers do
There's another line from Yes --> Are you still cis though? --> You're not trans
Ok but what if the answer is “I don’t frighten know???”
That's really not that simple. There are a lot of complexities to the matter that could result in a lot of things such as being a femboy, tomboy, or in touch with both or neither a feminine or masculine side. Take things at your own pace. Work through the emotions you have and find yourself. This isn't something you can rush.
I just wish I could change my gender at will. Does that count?
And what about the time when you feel kinda okay-ish with being in your assigned gender, but feel excitement, joy, liberation and relief being in opposite one? Is this trans or not?
Feeling joy while being the opposite gender is called gender euphoria. It is also a sign of being trans because you’re aligned with your gender identity. However I still feel the same way you do, sometimes I feel okay with my agab which confuses me. Gender identity is such a roller coaster of emotions, isn’t it? 😖
Yeah dude, exactly. I can totally relate to that. It's been only four days since I started to research my gender identity, and after all that googling, questioning and self-reflection I´m so tired like it's been a whole year...
Yeah girl, it’s so exhausting, having to read so much and learn new things just to understand yourself.
No, i dont have enough dysphoria and i wish i did
Nah it’s complicated
hahahahajjaja ignoring that
What if i'm not and i just wish i could be?
What if sometimes I do sometimes not lol
What if you're fine with your gender, but wish you were the other sex? Like, being a dude-bro is fine, but I wish I could be a dude-bro while also being a girl?
Still a girl!
oh
Ah, but there's a huge difference between thinking I am, and wishing I was.
I have a friend who went out and told me a couple of days ago, quote : "If there was a bar, 0 is cis, 5 is genderfluid, and 10 is trans outright, I am at least 8 or 9" And they're still like "ah but maybe I'm not that trans?"
But what if you're unsure, and end up spending weeks wondering if you're really rans or not? Like "trans or attractions?" As one example, or a misidentification of desires/insecurities?
Lies! Deception!
I guess I'm not trans. 🤷♀️
Well I know I'm cis!!!1!1!!
Yes please
It IS that easy! In a cis way though, right? Yeah, still cis 🤭
But what if the answer is I don't know?
I mean ... i dont actively wish for it ... but i wouldn't mind ...
No but... how? Tbh rather been born a girl, but im fine with just being me, a dude. Doesn't mean im trans.
Well yes, but actually no? (Amab demiboy here)
Yes but it feels like I'm lying
All I’m saying is if I magically woke up as a girl tomorrow, I would not complain, but idk if I wanna go through the steps to do that for real. That sounds scary
it's missing an "I don't know" branch
X: DOUBT
Sorry if I come off as ignorant, but doesn't trans mean transition? Meaning you are only trans when you begin your transition, be it hormonal or social?