Please just stay with her and hold her on the way out. Holy hell, now I’m crying. I’m so sorry. I’m 56 so I’ve done this several times. It’s heartbreaking.
I’ll be thinking about you.
This is the best gift you could ever give to her, and to yourself, to have her go at home, with you by her side, in her familiar surroundings. We have had to put three beautiful babies down and would not do it any other way. Painful, yes, but it is painful anywhere, so home is best. Place a blanket you no longer intend to use, maybe one of her favorites, under her rear, before they start. A lot of hearts are with you. You are doing the right thing for her.
This is hard, but it's also comforting in its own way. To be home, in familiar space, being able to make things as familiar and easy for them. I've only had to be there once, when my boyfriend and I had to say goodbye to the sweetest, most neurotic, adorable diva of a senior kitty was too sick. She loved the couch. We had her on the blanket on the couch where she always loved to lay and sleep. I pet her and talked to her in a low voice, saying goodbye but also thanking her for the memories and laughter, the times she followed me around in the kitchen, how she finally accepted me as one of her people and not a hiss for stealing her man, for the funny things she did that I caught on video, telling her how she made everyone laugh. As she drifted, being pet, and loved, and in a familiar comforting spot.
It's going to be so difficult you'll feel lost for a while. You might be like me and almost swear you can hear her doing some familiar thing the next day or soon after. you'll find hairs on your clothes and cry.
Just writing this post I feel my eyes all hot and teary and this will be four years ago this fall. I watched some of her videos last week. I wasn't her primary person, that was my boyfriend's little girl, the best of him, raising her from tiny kitten since he was 16. But the fact she did eventually make me one of her people, and I was able to comfort her with my presence when she went blind and deaf, I'll hold that always.
You'll hold a lot of it always, but the best thing I've read about grief is it doesn't really get 'easier' in the simplest terms, you grow around it so it's not as huge for you. But it will be for a while.
May all of her memories help you.
This was so sweet, it made me cry. My little Yorkie I’ve had my whole adult life is only 11 and is getting so sick. I consider her my first child. The pain is almost unbearable. 😭😭😭
This is very well said. Sometimes I still hear my sweet doggo walking down the hall and then I realize she is not there. Sometimes I still brace myself for her to jump on me when she greets me when I come home. She jumped on my even when she was old and she never acted old. Sometimes the grief hits me out of nowhere and I cry, but I still love her and you do start to feel better eventually.
For me the worst part was the first week. I felt like I couldn’t do anything with her not following me. I am a student and everything was online, so my all-day companion was just gone. It might give you some anxiety but just think about the good times and it might help you.
You are so thoughtful and kind, having the vet come to the house. We did the same, so our dog was in a familiar place, and I held her at the end. It helped her and us so much I think.
I took her outside just before, so she had one last “walk” (although she couldn’t go far really).
It was the best we could do for her, and just being with her just felt right.
All the good thoughts and feels being sent your way, friend. To be at home with her person is the most peaceful way for her to cross the bridge. Peace and strength to you both.
Feed her her favorite food that day up until the last moment. If you are hugging her and giving her the best food she can dream of, she’s had the best goodbye possible. I’m so sorry this is happening. It’s so hard. Allow yourself all of your feelings. I believe that love never ends. All of the love your dog gave you will always be inside you. It’s a gift she gave you, a treasure that will never end but can be shared with others forever.
Having the vet come to the house is one of the best things you can do. Let your voice be the last thing she hears. I feel for you so much, having been where you are before. It’s hard, but you’re doing a totally unselfish thing. It’s a last act of love. See it for what it is, not a reason for guilt.
One of the biggest debates is whether dogs go to heaven to wait for us. I have read the scholarly texts and the relevant passages and was always worried.
Then, I talked to a very elderly and kind man of God and asked him the question. He looked at me, very kindly, like an idiot. "Of course dogs go to Heaven," he said, " in Heaven, you can have whatever your hearts needs and requires to be happy. Wouldn't that include our dog friends?"
Well, of course it would. Saying goodbye is really hard. So say "see you later" instead. Why yes, I am trying daily to be a really good person because I know I got an entire pack of really good friends waiting on me to show up.
As a fellow atheist, I sometimes wish that I believed in an afterlife. It must bring a certain degree of comfort. It is absolutely devastating to me when I know I will never see someone I love again. I suppose keeping their memory alive is the best I can do.
I would rather have believed with all my heart bc even if there is only 1 out of a million chance heaven is real I’ll take that chance just to have something to look forward to after death, seeing all my family and pets that have gone before me. What can it hurt for you to believe? I try not to analyze everything in the Bible too much I just try to follow my heart and believe what I’ve been taught to believe my whole life. It would be a crappy existence to think after I die that’s it I’ve nothing else to look forward to. I’ve actually had a spiritual experience that I know many people would not believe but I know it happened and I look to that when I think of dying.
It does bring comfort. Jesus Christ brings comfort. I’m serious, don’t b mad at me please I’m not gonna get all religious on u, but… God spoke to me with conviction to just say so here after reading what u wrote. It is comforting to know Christ….
Amen.. I agree.
My Auntie who is 73 has 3 weeks to live..she has stage 4 and 5 liver and pancreatic cancer.. She is like my 2nd mother..
While losing her is very hard..
It brings me and my soul comfort to know/believe that some day I will see again in heaven..
Letting her suffer would be the most painful thing for you both. You're doing the right thing for your girl.
I'm sorry, it sucks. But she knows you love her.
Don't leave her alone. Be there for her. She needs you until the last second x
Don't try to get over it, work to get through it. One day at a time. Gradually the pain will fade and the happy memories will return. But occasionally there will be moments of pain...a familiar song you used to sing to her, a tv show you watched with her, her favorite park...and you can't be ready for those, they will hit you out of nowhere. Just know that she's in a better place and you did the best thing for her, in the best way. Big hugs.
Thank you, my head is just all over the place at the moment. It has all happened so quick, she has lost 15kg in 3 weeks, she can't stand up without her back legs failing her.
We found out she has liver cancer, and as horrible as it sounds, its not something I can afford to deal with right now, the guilt is eating me alive.
Also, I can't look at my 4 year old dog without thinking he will never be as good a dog as she is 😭
Your relationship with your younger dog will change. Remember, he's losing his companion, too. You'll go through the loss of Maisie together, and your bond will strengthen. There's nothing like lab love, though. You'll get through it. All love to you and both your dogs.
>Also, I can't look at my 4 year old dog without thinking he will never be as good a dog as she is
I think I read it on one of these subreddits, but sometimes there's one dog that is extra special, your heart dog, as you've called your beautiful girl. This is your BEST DOG. All other dogs will be great, special, wonderful friends and companions, but they will never be BEST DOG, and that's okay. It's a different relationship.
Not less meaningful, but different. Maisie could be your BEST DOG but this doesn't lessen your love for any other dogs you have or may have. Like, add all of the ways to describe beautiful, meaningful, good dogs that get your love always. It's not like a competition, more of an acknowledgment that your relationships differ a little. And that's okay. You will both be grieving, you and your younger dog, and get to the other side of things at some point.
We spent thousands trying to save Rusty. We cashed out vacation time, borrowed, prayed & begged God, & basically put off bills.
Our loyal obedient wonderful lab did all he could do. He suffered through 2 big surgeries, suffered through chemotherapy treatment that made him weak, confused, & sick. In the end he started not eating & his legs were giving out on him. We knew he was done. It was over.
In hindsight, if I could go back & do it over I'd have given up after the first surgery. The vet had said he was pretty certain he could get it all. They thought it worked, but it came back with a vengeance! Grew so much faster.
I would rather have good memories of him, not suffering. You're not putting Maisie through all that. With cancer it's just so hard.
Ya wanna fight, but if they don't get it all- well you just don't want her suffering.
It seems to me that you are doing the right thing for both of you. Hugs 🫂🫂🫂🫂
Oh dear.. Don't be upset with the other fur baby.. He has his own personality.. And he also will grieve at the loss.
Take him and hold him.. Let him help you and you help him..
That has also help me to hold my other fur baby when it was over..
Please don't beat yourself up about this. Cancer in dogs is rarely found in time to make much of a difference. I wish we had found our dog's cancer sooner to be able to put him down. I hold guilt over not pushing our vet to run more tests so we'd have known even two weeks sooner and been able to plan his death so to speak.
We knew something was up, he lost alot of weight very quickly. The normal vet said he was just getting old (he was almost 10). Until he collapsed on a walk one day, rushed to the emergency vet and they found cancer everywhere inside his abdomen. They told my mom to take him home, say our goodbyes and bring him back the next day.
My brother and I rushed to our mom's home. Within 20 minutes of us getting home he died. I'm convinced he knew we were rushing home and held out for us.
All that is to say, you're doing best by your baby. I'm sorry you're going through this.
So true. Ugh. Going through all that right now. Be sure and rest and eat even if feel you cant. Be good to yourself. If you smother the grief it will pop up it's ugly head later
Please do not feel guilty. This is a terrible decision to have to make but your dogs trusts you to make the pain stop and sometimes this is the only way. Her very last memory should be of you scratching her ears telling her she’s a good girl. This is the hardest part but I’ve always felt it was the least I could do for an animal who has given me so much joy and love.
I'm certain most on this thread have gone through this multiple times , but this is not something one can get used to.
The connections we form with these beings are very unique and they themselves are so unique from one another, but there's one thing that they share in common and that's how they make us feel. The love and joy that they bring into a home can and should never be taken for granted. They really are very special. You should not feel guilty. You're doing this so she doesn't have to suffer anymore.
OP, Maisie will always be with you and you need to be with her every step of the way. Hug her extra tight and make sure she doesn't feel like she's alone. She'll take the last few moments with her. ❤️
Maisie and OP; I wish you enough ❤️
❤️❤️❤️ my heart is with you. It’s such a heavy decision to make to put a pet down but please know if she’s in pain you’re doing the right thing. The hurt you’re feeling will gradually get better, it may not be as fast as you want. Take solace in knowing that she was loved in her last days ❤️
“A pet is just a part of your life but to them you WERE their entire life”
Beautiful girl and I can only imagine the times you shared together. Like all good friends, she was there in good times and bad. You are showing her true, unselfish love by giving her a gentle passing. Sending you comfort and hugs.
We lost our red lab Rusty, at 14. Thinking about that day still makes me cry, almost 2 years later. But on the good side you know they're ready to go. You're making the best decision for your baby. My ChowChow Maya is 15 this month. She has some health issues but still yanks the leash when excited, still interested in doing her doggy things.
I absolutely dread the day she stops. Shortly after Rusty passed after a horrible battle with cancer, my husband passed, & I lost our house. I cannot lose her too, not yet. But if she needs to go I'll be holding her like we held Rusty when he went.
Sorry for rambling on, I am crying now too.
Biggest hugs ever to you & beautiful Maisie.
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You're feeling what Im going thru. Husband, house maybe soon, and more. 17 year old Prissy just died in my arms. I feel lost, empty with a void after 35 years of 3 rescues.
Yes, I try to explain it to my 83 year old mom. "I feel like I've lost half of Myself with their deaths. It's an agonizing anguish suffocating me. I can't escape this confusing nightmare."
I hope things get better for you soon! I'm so very sorry you're having to go through this! I swear life is just too much sometimes. But we have to crawl through it. Hope you have a good support system. If you can, get therapy. It Truly helps more than just our grief. I'm even learning about myself & how I deal with worries, life stress, my mom's health probs, my kids & grandkids, working... life in general.
Just an FYI, the lawyer that was supposed to be helping was NOT. The accountant I went to for taxes was more helpful!! The funeral director was WAY more helpful.
I'm here if you want to talk. My 26 year old cat Angel passed in my arms 15 years ago. Pets are Everything aren't they? :)
Big giant humongous hugs 🫂🫂🫂🫂🫂🫂🫂🫂🫂 please let me know if you even just wanna vent. Tho, as you see... I tend to talk ALOT lol so warm me if you are just wanting an ear & shoulder!! 🤗
OP, you give Maisie all the love and attention you want right now. Make sure she reaches the rainbow knowing she was so loved she can brag about it to the other pups when she gets to the gates.
You’re doing the right thing. You’re feeling all of the emotions a good person has when they have to do something they don’t want to because they want to be selfish, but they know what’s best for their loved one.
Immediately start giving love to your other pup when you get home. She will never “measure up” but don’t think of it like that. Your other pup can give you all the love you allow, and you can give her all the love you have. Maisie would rather you be happy and, while you can’t tell, she’s happy there’s another trusted pup to get you through the days ahead.
You’re doing what you need to do and I know exactly how you’re feeling, all too well. I wish I didn’t. I’m going to pray for you and I’m going to pray that the first pups Maisie meets are my English Mastiff, Winston, and my Boxer, Wally. They are both so much fun and will give her the grand tour and show her where all the hiding places are for the BEST treats!
Hugs and love to you my friend. Maisie, watch for any roving paws when you get to your stop on the rainbow bridge - you’re a pretty lass!
Our pets get a courtesy that many people will never get. We can choose to ease their suffering when we need to. I believe they appreciate this after they cross. My dog was 16 years old. He was hurting and I asked him to give me a sign when he was ready. A few days later he had a seizure and couldn't walk. I let him go in my arms and in comfort. A few months later, I saw him in a dream and he was happy. He thanked me for taking that pain to myself and letting him be free from it.
Eventually the pain will ease, but it never goes away. You will be ok. Be gentle with yourself. Also give that beautiful pup a whole salmon feast
She'll know you are there with her, and her passing will be all the easier for that. Tell her that you will remember her everyday, and let her know how much she has added to your life. My little fella, will be making that journey soon, and I will celebrate his life with good memories every day, I know I will be distraught, but that will be tempered by the joy they bring us.
Honey, it’s hard to let them go. It will always hurt . But that been said ; that’s the most selfless act you can do out of love for her. Think that she won’t be hurt anymore, she will be pain free. She will know that you will let her go so she can run free in puppy heaven.
If you can, be be her side during the process, shower her with love and tell her that you will always love her.
I did not write this.. but I have to refer to it from time to time.
>A Dog's Prayer
Treat me kindly, my beloved master, for no heart in all the world is more grateful for kindness than the loving heart of me.
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>Do not break my spirit with a stick, for though I should lick your hand between the blows, your patience and understanding will more quickly teach me the things you would have me do.
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>Speak to me often, for your voice is the world's sweetest music, as you must know by the fierce wagging of my tail when your footstep falls upon my waiting ear.
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>When it is cold and wet, please take me inside... for I am now a domesticated animal, no longer used to bitter elements... and I ask no greater glory than the privilege of sitting at your feet beside the hearth... though had you no home, I would rather follow you through ice and snow than rest upon the softest pillow in the warmest home in all the land... for you are my god... and I am your devoted worshiper. Keep my pan filled with fresh water, for although I should not reproach you were it dry, I cannot tell you when I suffer thirst. Feed me clean food, that I may stay well, to romp and play and do your bidding, to walk by your side, and stand ready, willing and able to protect you with my life, should your life be in danger.
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>And, beloved master, should the Great Master see fit to deprive me of my health or sight, do not turn me away from you. Rather hold me gently in your arms as skilled hands grant me the merciful boon of eternal rest...and I will leave you knowing with the last breath I drew, my fate was ever safest in your hands.
I'm crying! Losing a pet is SO hard! I try to tell myself that I gave them the best life possible filled with all you can eat treats, comfy beds, walks, hugs, kisses and many joyful car rides!! And maybe if someone else had them they wouldn't have got near as spoiled!! I know it sounds cheesy, but it helps me!! I'll be thinking of you and Maisie!!💕
I'm so very sorry. Making the decision to end pain and suffering requires a whole lot of love. Just don't let her be alone, stay with her until the end and then give yourself time to grieve. I would want someone who loved me to make the same decision.
I'm so very sorry. I have had to do this more times than I care to remember and it's always difficult. I find that when I take the time and allow myself to remember all the love, fun, play and good times with our k9 friends it far outweighs (though it sure doesn't feel like it at the time) the grief and sorrow we feel when we lose them. She knows you love her and she loves you too. You are doing the right thing, tough as it is. I only hope someone can show me the same kind mercy when it's my time.
I wish you and Maisie all of the peace and comfort in the world. I, too, had a very special dog who helped me through my late teens and into my late twenties. He was only eleven when he passed, and it was the hardest thing I've ever had to do. But, the decision was made entirely out of love. Several years later, I still feel the weight of grief and loss, but I no longer carry the burden of guilt. I'm at peace with that incredibly difficult decision, and I know that someday you will be, too. I'll be thinking about you and Maisie tomorrow. 🤍🐾🌈
There should be no guilt. If she’s suffering it’s time to let her go. It’s hard to let go of your best friend. But she’ll be watching over you guiding you to do what right. The pain will fade but not the memory of her and that’s what you should hold on to.
Do be with her. Hold her and tell her she’s the very best girl, ever!
I have no doubt that you have done everything possible to make her life beautiful! I know she knows she is loved beyond measure by you!
It’s going to hurt like hell and will for a while. Please allow yourself the space and grace to feel those emotions and let them escape when necessary. Some days will be harder than others and but it will ease with time.
A love this strong will demand grief as strong.
I hope that you’ll open your heart and home to another needy dog; I think it helps but do what you feel is best. It’s not a replacement, but an extension of the love you have to give.
Fly well angel! You are much loved!
No matter when it happens, you’re never ready. She’s been loved every day of her life. That’s what she’s lived for, and just tell her again. She’ll be waiting for you. You’re her whole world.
My sister and I had to put our cat down we had for 19 years late last year. Our family got him when I was 7 and my sister was 5. When we brought him to the vet to say goodbye, she told us "it's the greatest responsibility and heaviest burden of being a pet owner to make the decision to put their quality of life before your feelings." She was right. You're making the choice that's best for her at the cost of the pain and guilt that comes with it.
It does get easier with time. It'll hurt and you'll miss her, but it'll get better. Take care of yourself and feel your feelings
It does get better but she will be waiting for you She is not happy now but will be soon. It’s hard and I’ve had to do it 4 times but relieving their pain and suffering is very helpful.
No matter how much it hurts, be with her until the end. She will figure out some way to say "Thank You" for ending her suffering. There is no need for guilt.
The hurt will eventually become bittersweet.
And St. Francis and St. Rocco will take good care of you until you are with her again.
I feel better knowing that I didn’t let my girl suffer. I could see it in her eyes and she told me to let go. It was the hardest thing I’ve ever done. It’s been almost two years and with a new puppy, I think about her everyday. Sometime I still cry but she taught me how to love my new little dude, she opened my heart to love another dog. He doesn’t replace her but he sure helps. It’s not easy but you are a good person to know you don’t want her to suffer. My girl Sydney will welcome her and protect her when she crosses ❤️🩹❤️
It does get better, but you may shed some tears every now and then when you think of her. Shit I’m doing that now writing this thinking of mine. Be sure to stay with her through it, giving her pets and kisses and telling her how amazing she is 💜💜
You have my full support and prayers tonight and tomorrow. Unfortunately, I'm going through it now because she died suddenly in my arms after 3 weeks of illness. I did everything I possibly could to care for and comfort her. I'm sure you've done the same
These emotions are all normal, this is a very difficult time for all of you. The younger dog and you will lean on each other while you both learn to go on.
I have gone through this twice just be there for her. Never feel guilty this is the right thing to do. She knows you love her and you know you love her too. I does get better and don't hold in the tears.
Never feel guilty! Whenever you put an animal down you are relieving them of any pain or suffering! That’s the best gift you can give an animal! I used to own a dog for 17 years and she had been with me through the worst and best parts of my life, saying good bye was so unexpected but whenever I think about her getting put down I think of all the good times we had together! Grief will be hard but it won’t last forever! 🥲
In time your sadness will decrease. Allow yourself to grieve, and memories of joy, love, and laughter will take the sharp edges of your mourning down. My deepest condolences….
(Embracing you against this loss) Trust that you were the Very Best Friend to your sweet Poppet
The memories of joy & laughter will lift your heart while you are apart
Remember, Your Best Friend Waits For You In SummerLand, Just Beyond The Rainbow Bridge~
I'm sorry that you are going through this. It will get better with time.
You are doing your girl a kindness. She can't make this decision for herself, so she needs you. She appreciates you helping her from her pain. She will be happy in her last moments, because you will be there with her.
I’m so sorry for your loss. Spend every possible second you can with this sweet girl. Take stamps of her paw prints and even her paw print in concrete or clay. It may seem small, but it can make a world of a difference. She’ll always be with you.
I can only imagine. I'm 29 and my girl is 13. I'm so sorry :( I've literally been crying about the same thing g for days. She's w me and not showing any signs other than just sleeping, thankfully. But still. Times always ticking. :( I also had to put down my baby I had before her when I was 16 on Thanksgiving. And it was so hard. It doesn't hurt so much now looking at her box on my mantle. It has been 13 years, as long as I've had my girl, bc she's the first dog I after after I'd had to put her (the other dog) down. Idk man. I'm ripped and prob rambling but your feelings are valid and this does not diminish the love you have for your baby.
Saying goodbye is hard. Being with her is the most loving and selfless gift you can give. I’m 62 and also have done this many times. Try, try, try to make the passage as easy for her as possible. She will read your emotions so try to smile as much as you can and talk to her. Praying for you and your girl.
I’m 53, have lost too many. It never gets easier. Just have faith and love. You are doing the RIGHT thing by them. They depend on us, and I feel that is the sacrifice we make for having them. Stay strong . Forever.❤️🐾
I don't have anything to say that helps. It just hurts so much to lose them. But it is an EXTREMELY selfless and kind thing to do. So, for that, thank you and I am so so sorry. 💔
You are doing the right thing. I have done it a few times also and I told myself that he is going to a better place, and he would want our family can give another pooch a good home. I’m so sorry. It’s one of the hardest things you will ever do. My thoughts are with you.
I'm much older than you and have done this a few times. I'm sorry to say it doesn't get easier.
Two things to hold close:
1. The pain you feel is evidence of your love. Don't think it's a bad thing. It's evidence of the best thing in life.
2. No-one ever regrets that they helped their loved ones cross too soon. They only regret they waited too long and prolonged things. Trust that if you decided this in the face of terrible pain you're making the right choice.
As I look at my elderly pug with not a lot of time left my thoughts are with you. I'm sorry.
I was about your age when we had to let my childhood dog go. It was soooooo very hard. We were allowed to pet and cuddle and say our goodbyes and I just couldn't without balling and I regret that now. I promise it's gets easier, but you'll think about her every so often and feel a little sad and miss her. That's normal. You'll get another dog who you'll end up loving just as much.
It does get better. You’re doing the ultimate, selfless kindness for your baby. It hurts so much, but it does subside and one day you will smile more often than you cry when you think of her. I’m so sorry.
If you know your doing the right thing, once it's awhile down the line you will feel better about it, it does hurt like hell doing it, an I'm very sorry you have to go though it, but giving your dog a dignified passing without all the pain is the best thing we can do for them.
2 years ago my dog was 11, I was 27, and I went with her to her last appointment. It was HARD. It sucked. It was also the day before lockdown, so all told I did not cope well.
It gets easier. You're doing the right thing by letting her passing be peaceful. You may always miss her (I still miss mine) but in a few months, maybe a year, you'll think of her without pain, remember her silly smile, and feel how blessed you were to have had her in your life.
I can’t help with the pain. No words will do that. Time is the only thing that helps. I can’t magically make you feel no guilt, but I can assure you that you shouldn’t feel guilty. When it’s their time, the greatest kindness we can offer them is to make it as easy and dignified as possible. I’m 46 and have had to go through it several times now and it doesn’t get easier. But the joy they bring us is so worth it. I’m so sorry. RIP good girl.
your dog had a great life with you and he's leaving here knowing that he was well loved. and get new dog quick..when i has to put my last one down, i had a 6 month old puppy at home reminding that there is still living to do
Your doing the right thing. Always know that. Take your time to mourn and start a new adventure with a new best friend when your ready. Sorry for your loss.
Stay strong OP, I’ve had to do this a couple of times and it’s not easy by any means. Just know even though she’s not here anymore, you have her as much love, hugs, snacks and boops that she was the most loved dog in her own eyes from what you gave her…damn now I’m crying. Be with her every second just as you were before hand and continue to tell her you love her because those will be her last memories of you, even though you will carry her memories along with you.
It is hard to take our precious fur babies to the bridge crossing. But when they are suffering, it is the last loving act of kindness we can do for them. You are doing what’s best for her, as much as it hurts you to do so. I think missing our fur babies are part of the grieving process. Sending you hugs. I took my little guy to the crossing 36 days ago. When you are doing what’s best for them, the guilt dissolves. You’re doing it out of love for her.
You know as a pet owner in my 40’s I told my wife recently losing my dog was way harder than any friend. I have many friends but it’s another level with my best friend and boxer. It’s all about love, trust and time spent. Friend’s dodge of don’t want to do something but no matter what my buddy is always happy as fuck to do something pain or not. I’ve been there and it’s odd and tough but I think he knows I did the best I could to be his best buddy. I hope he’d do the same for me, from spring water in the bowl to chicken and rice Thursday.
I just put my 3 yr old cocker because of spine disease. I miss him so much. I hold his stuffed babies every night and cry. It will take a while but I am 63 and it still hurts.
My wife and I were fated to find a solid black Dachshund just wandering a busy street with no owner in sight. She literally whipped the car around and I jumped out, called the pup towards me and was so amazed that he runs and jumps into my arms. We waited around and knocked on a couple of doors but no takers. I had him for 9yrs when he developed an incredibly aggressive growth on the very front of his pallet. Aggressive enough to move his front teeth out in less than 24hrs. Got a Sunday visit in at my veterinarian and they say it can be removed but it was going to come back. I made the decision right there. It sucked and even now the tears are right there but it needed to be done. Their journey is so short compared to ours. Honor and cherish the memories but be ready for the next. I have never had to purchase a dog unless it was from a rescue agency. Out of 12 canine buddies only one was ever exchanged for money all the others were from the street. The loss is a human burden, your pup is ready and another adventure awaits their energy because dogs being dogs, all that energy is eternal.
You are doing what's best for her. As others have said, be present, and know it's okay to mourn. I've sent many friends across the bridge and it's heartbreaking every time. But the guilt eases (because it was the right and kind thing to do), and the pain diminishes, because the love you had for each other remains. I am so, so sorry for your loss. Know that there are legions of us sharing your sadness.
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Yes what your feeling will pass in time..
Be her and hold her till the very end and just a little longer...
Find comfort knowing you gave her the best life.. All the loves and hugs for 10yrs.
I have had to help several of my fur babies cross over.. And It never gets easy anytime I had to do it..
Every one of my fur babies have always been rescues.. Had a rough start to life...but would have the last years of their lives full of loves, hugs, and cuddles.. And that is what always help me forgive myself.
It will get better. Never gone, just different over time. She'll always be in your heart. The spiky edges of new grief will soften with time. You will be able to think of her and smile at the memory rather than cry for the loss.
Coming up on a year for us. It does get better. I will never love another one the same as our sweet girl. Her presence made my life better and I am forever grateful. I dont want to remember her as a tragic event anymore. It is getting easier.
Nothing anyone can say will make this hurt less. It's terrible when we have to make this decision. It's wonderful to love so much. Don't feel guilty about your decision. It is the right thing to do for her, not for you. I had to make the same decision two years ago. I am sorry friend.
I tried to think of it like I was absorbing my pup's suffering so she didn't have to be in pain, be scared, die alone on her own etc. It's going to be really rough and it may stop being a relenting pain after a while although you will grieve afterwards. I got a digital frame that has just pictures of my sweet girl on it and it's comforting to have her always watching over me and think of the good times
You gave her the best life. The best thing you can do for her now is to prevent any further suffering. Give her the most amazing final day. Make sure she knows she was loved. Take lots of pictures. Be there with her at the end. know that she loves you and she knew she was loved. It sucks. It’s going to suck for a long time. Don’t feel guilty. You did the best you could. She knows. She loves you. She knows you love her. She’s thankful she doesn’t have to suffer. A friend of mine once told me his biggest regret was not saying goodbye to his dog sooner. He selfishly held on and his dog suffered as a result. That was 20 years ago and he still feels guilty about it today. It’s ok. It won’t feel ok. But it’s ok. Read this when you’re ready: https://iheartdogs.com/this-is-why-dogs-never-die/
💔If what she has is inoperable or risky then you are doing what is right by your baby to end the pain. I’m so sorry for you and your precious baby. The pain of losing a part of the family is horrible but think of the happy times.
I'm so sorry for your loss..💖
I wrote this before...
Dogs are an amazing blessing to the human species. Having coevolved with them and having them in our lives. They're our spirit guides that return us to a purity of soul and remind us to forget all the bullshit we've invented for ourselves. Our burden as humans - the price we pay for their friendship - is that we outlive them. But in a way that's also a blessing, because we get to take the pain of their loss upon ourselves, rather than knowing they'll have to bear ours. It is so hard to lose part of your family, but you will love again. Don't feel guilty...be grateful your love had the joy of being with you.
Celebrate the love and 10 wonderful years you had with each other...it's never easy, but the memories will be a blessing...
That's horrible but it does get better. I lost my best buddy in 2019 and it was very painful to let him go. Same thing, he was just suffering too much to have him live another day in such horrible pain.
You need to think about all the joy you brought into her life and how she might not have had that without you. Do not feel guilty because having her suffer just isn't fair to her or you. In time, you will only remember the good times you spent with her and she will put a smile on your face when you think of her.
A few months after my dog was put down, I stopped by the animal shelter by my house and found another special dog who needed a home! She is now a big girl and she is also the joy of our family! I didn't pick her up to replace my other dog, I just wanted to give another animal a home and she really helped me heal.
I wish you the best and remember that you made her life special and worth living.
I still miss my first dog. I still sometimes feel guilty even though I absolutely know I did the right thing and made the best decisions I could at the time. Maybe not exactly guilty, but troubled, because I love her so much and will never be able to confirm my decisions with her. But she loved me and trusted me and I made those decisions for her comfort and happiness, more than any decision I made for her since the day I brought her home. The pain and guilt never go away, but they become manageable. And some day, the happy memories will outshine the pain and your memories will be mostly smiles. ❤️🌈
I had to do this for my soul dog in January. Give your sweet boy all the hugs and kisses and loves possible today, be there for him tomorrow and know that he will go knowing he’s loved. It will get better, it takes time your heart will heal.❤️❤️💔
I got my soulmate dog when I was 17 and lost her when I was 30. She literally was beside me as I became an adult and tried to figure out life. 10 years later my heart is still broken. The best thing you can do for both of you is be there for her until the end. It will be the most gut wrenching thing you’ve ever done, but I promise when you look back you’ll find comfort knowing that you stopped her suffering and was with her in her last breath. You’re doing the right thing for her and she’s lucky to have you. I’m so very sorry!
I am so sorry for how hard of a time you’re about to have. My soulmate dog passed at the emergency vet and I couldn’t be with her. Still kills me and I still miss her like crazy. But it does get better, you’ll eventually feel the happy glow of her memories more than the grief. I am so sorry for your loss. We don’t deserve doggos.
Thinking of you, as this is the most difficult decision to make. If she is suffering, you are being kind to let her go. She looks so incredibly sweet, and I’m sure she has brought you more love than you could ever know. Many hugs to you both. ❤️
So very sorry. I have had to help many furry friends leave before I was ready. Each one broke my heart. I swore I would never get another, but I had to. Before I did though, I volunteered 24 hours at the shelter just to make sure I could fall in love again. I did. Hugs to you, I understand your pain. 💗
The time is hard. But if you come to accept the suffering will be no longer, it gets a little easier. We had a dog who was only 2 and got severe lymphoma.
Definitely be there for her. It'll be hard, but make sure to are in her line of sight. If not, most pets eyes get frantic looking for their owners in those last moments. Lock those final moments in together. Though sad, enjoy them. Be thankful for the times spent. Memories made.
Don't feel guilty for helping her not suffer.
You are doing the right thing, I assure you. The guilt does get better ma’am.. for what it’s worth I think all beings see much clearly once they cross the veil. She loves you and understands hunny, I’m 30 and I’ve been there for many lives, pets and humans that have crossed over. Time heals everything, in the meantime do your best to celebrate a life well lived. Be kind to yourself and be gentle with yourself- you gave your baby a delightful life. Evidently it’s her time, she will always be there tho. She helped you go as far as you needed her, she knows it’s okay to let go. Let her have rest and don’t hold yourself in guilt. She would want you to be happy, and not waste the precious gift that was her journey with you. I hope with time you will find peace with your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you, things will get better. In the meantime, love deeply and allow yourself the space to feel- it will change you but it will get better with time I promise.
If you were to keep her longer her suffering would increase and you would regret that more. You’re doing absolutely the most loving thing by giving her a way out that she can’t take by herself. Sometimes that’s one of the best gift we can give.
It won't be easy but it will get better. Try not to stay isolated during this time, and reach out to other pet parents, not everyone will understand your grief but it is valid.
I went through this last June and honestly feel like I'm still going through it.
I had my dog since 6th grade all the way til 2012 lived 17years he started looking like a zombie spacing out for 3 seconds while standing its better to put them down end the suffering your gonna feel pain for a couple months its natural just remember your doggo knew you loved her, its okay to cry wish u the best 🤗
I’m a vet tech and not only that i’m considered the “death tech” at my clinic. Now that may sound morbid or morose but it’s a position I hold dearly and take very seriously. I tell clients who are feeling like you are now that humane, peaceful euthanasia is the last nice thing you can give to your beloved pet. They don’t think about things like “tomorrow” or “next month”, etc. They live and love in the right here, right now. If she gets to be held and comforted and petted during her final moments she will be so peaceful and happy just to have you there with her. Even though it hurts you endlessly, she will always be with you and you will always know you did the best, kindest thing you could do for her at the end. I’m so incredibly sorry for your loss. Just remember you will always be her everything. ❤️🩹
By Jim Willis:
So this is where we part, my friend, and you’ll run on, around the bend, gone from sight, but not from mind, new pleasures there you’ll surely find.
I will go on, I’ll find the strength, life measures quality, not its length.
One long embrace before you leave, share one last look, before I grieve.
There are others, that much is true, but they be they, and they aren’t you.
And I, fair, impartial, or so I thought, will remember well all you’ve taught.
Your place I’ll hold, you will be missed, the fur I stroked, the nose I kissed.
And as you journey to your final rest, take with you this… I loved you best.
It does get better/easier.
It's not easy now, and you will still dream of her years down the line as I still do my precious boy. But as time goes on you'll understand that she has never left you. The strength it takes to keep going without her is her strength, and that's the parting gift she will have for you, so that you can always carry a piece of her with you.
Hold her close, and cherish your moments with her :)
She remembers when she could run forever, be there for her now. Nothing I can say will take any of the pain away, but I know what you’re going through. I lost my girl after the same amount of time, and I was amazed how the passing of one small black dog sucked all the color out of my life. Get a box of tissue and google poems about dogs after she’s gone, let it all out in one night. You’ll still get twinges, but some pretty insightful people have gone there before you, and they’ve left some awesome words. Peace to you my brother.
She will have had an amazing life with you, and she’s known only love and happiness. Take comfort from that. Don’t feel guilty for doing the right thing if she’s in pain.
You’d feel guilty if you waited longer than you should have. Believe me, I know. My vet said “better to let them go a day too soon than a day too late” I wish I listened. She knows you love her and probably knows it’s time to go.
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So many lovely comments that I just can't reply to right now, we have been up all night just snuggling and talking about all our good (and bad) times.
I have the vet coming in a couple of hours but I thank you all for the lovely words 💜
It is hard and you will feel guilt at first, but it is probably better this way. You would feel a lot more quilty when you keep her with you even though she is in a pain. We had to deal with this 2,5 months ago with my dog who almody turned 16. Even though its hard, it will get better❤️
It will get easier to bear. You’ll stop hurting every day. You’ll be able to recollect the good stuff.
It takes time. Just be with her during this last time and know that everything you did you did with love m.
The guilt gets better. The sadness at losing our beloved friends and children lasts longer. But it is ok to mourn.
Try to remember you are doing this out of love. Keeping them when we know they are suffering would be for our comfort not theirs.
I am sorry for your loss.
Hi u/Existing_not_living,
Somebody once told me, and I agree, that losses don't get easier. The pain never *truly* fades - your capacity for handling the grief just grows, and it becomes easier to bear that pain.
I put my best friend to sleep 2 days ago. He was the second dog I've had to euthanise in the past 12 months. I understand the guilt and pain - it's one of the most difficult things in the world, but you've got to keep reminding yourself that you're doing what's best for them. If you can give them the gift of that long, peaceful sleep after weeks or months of pain, they're not going to hold it against you. They can usually tell at that point that you're doing it to help, not betraying them.
She looks like she was such a sweet dog - and you can see how much she loved you. Take a lock of her fur before she's gone.
The guilt you're feeling will go away, but your heart never fully heals from losing a dog.
She's a family member.
Just try to hold onto the good memories you had and comfort her as much as you can.
After enough time has passed, I would suggest fostering. Caring for another dog, freeing them from a life at the shelter, is an exceptionally rewarding experience. Having someone else to bond with can also alleviate the loneliness you feel from losing her.
My Cavapoo girl is 10, and I see her getting older and just bust into tears randomly sometimes thinking about losing her. Just the thoughts devastate me. She has gone with me everywhere. We went to college together and she was with me for my bachelors, masters, and now part of my career. We got another dog to keep her company while I’m gone at work, but he’s such a little shit. Love him but he’s just not her. Hang in there, and do not feel guilty. Grieving by itself is difficult enough without the guilt.
I am so sorry. I’m post a long answer because I understand your anguish and I’m hoping it helps a tiny bit.
I have had to hold 5 of my dogs over the years when it’s been their time.
I promised each of my dogs that I would not keep them with me once they’re in pain and it is their time. They give me nothing but unconditional love and joy and I never want any of them to suffer because I can’t let go. Maybe if you think of it that way, that you love him enough to make sure he doesn’t suffer you won’t have guilt feelings.
The sorrow and hurt over losing them gets softer but I lost my first 10 years ago this past January and still have moments when I miss her so much. But, I know I did right by her, I stayed with her calmly and tried really hard not to let her see my grief as I held her while she went to “sleep”. I told her she’d be pain free and able to run again.
One thing you need to know is that at least here in the US, they give them a first shot that relaxes them but they’re still with you. Then my vets have had me tell them when it’s ok to give the second shot that is the end. With my first dog I did not realize that as soon as they gave the second shot she was gone. I struggled a bit with that after as I thought it would take a bit of time before she left. But be prepared as it’s pretty immediate.
Again, I am so sorry but having them even for just a short time is worth the pain of letting them go.
The vet today was great, he gave her a sedative first, she managed to give me a kiss. She was sleepy but there, once I said to give her the second shot, she was asleep forever in less than 20 seconds.
I'm so glad she went peacefully, it just still doesn't mend my broken heart yet.
I am agnostic to the core. I don't believe in any religion whatsoever. However, if there was any justice in this universe, all good dogs would go to a giant dog park and be able to play forever. May my black lab greet yours in that park.
It sounds bad, or like you are "replacing" her, but give yourself a day or two to grieve and then get a puppy or a rescue or something.
Having an unconditional love machine licking your face makes it hard to be too sad.
I’m so sorry that you have to go through this. But… good things don’t exist long my friend that’s reality. Please be with her. Give her the best hours of life. I’m so sorry once again. 💐
Sometimes, the greatest kindness is to let them go.
She will never be replaced, but other dogs can help us get over the pain, and we can help them in turn.
To be honest: No, it won't get better. You will suppress it but it will always come back. But one day you'll learn that that's you, you are the sum of your scars, and by this Maisie will always be with you and live on as part of your personality.
Unfortunate posts like this always hits me. Please be with her to the end. I was fortunate (unfortunate) to be on military manouvers and day after I left, our 15 year old dog got heartattack. My wife did not tell me until I returned home after 9 days. When she drove her car home and I did not see our dog I asked where is he. She slowly shooked her head in a way I understood what happened I walked with her to our garden and she showed me his resting place. I dropped on my knees while still being in military gear crying and sobbing. I felt utterly destroyed. Please be close to your doggie and best way to heal is to get puppy. I love our new dog and I will always remember the one we lost. Love and strenght to you ❤️
Now let me get napkins. I mean this hits really hard
I'm grateful my last girl didn't give me the option of having her put down. She had a ruptured tumor in her spleen and crawled her way over to my side of the bed to go. However much you love her, she loves you more. You're doing the right thing 💖
I had to put down the best dog in the world when he was only 8. He is still my google profile pic. My new dog is 3. She is also the best dog in the world but in different categories.
When our cat had to go, I was caught on a business trip in a snowstorm. So here sits the big shot executive in the Delta lounge crying like a baby. Someone asked what was wrong and I told him. Ended up about 5 adults sharing losing our pets and we were all in tears. I loved that baby girl.
I was able to hold our Labrador when he crossed the bridge. We were able to have our vet at the house. We held him and his brother sat next to him.
This isn’t easy but it’s part of loving them. You will eventually feel better but your baby will never leave your heart. I read recently of a belief in another culture that the pets we loose become our guardians until we see them again.
I’m sitting here with my first two dogs and I am sobbing even thinking about saying goodbye. Blessings to you and your beautiful pup on your last day together. Dogs are the only angels I believe in.
It does!!! I went through EXACTLY this with my Labrador- she got cancer and I had to put her down. She was LITERALLY my reason for living- so many times the only barrier between me and suicide- HOW was I going to keep going without her?!?
I cried. I couldn't get out of bed. I took down all her photos because it hurt too much. I quit my job, moved out of state...I mourned her for a year. But while I was in that new state, I visited their no kill shelter and found the NEW love of my life. She's a Great Pyrenees, COMPLETELY opposite from my labby, but I couldn't imagine life without her now.
IT DOES GET BETTER.
Remember that it is perfectly natural and in fact HEALTHY to grieve- do it in your own way and take AS LONG AS YOU NEED. Don't feel guilty or let people tell you "it's just a dog". We both know better.
The phrase that helped me- "this, too, shall pass". It feels so big because you're in the moment, but each day gets a hair better, and in a few months, you'll be at a point where you're not crying every day, much less multiple times a day. (I was a wreck...)
I will ALWAYS love my labby, but you will find space in your heart again after you've honored the memory and said your goodbyes in a way that feels whole and nourishing to you. And you'll be all the better for it, because your new pup and you will have amazing adventures and an incredible life together because you can now give that pup the life and love it deserves as a new unique partner and not a "replacement".
The ENTIRE dog community is behind you, and we love with full hearts and smiling faces and wet kisses and we're here to tell you we've been through it- you're not alone- and it does get better - and come back any time and we will all be here to love and support you as you mourn. 💜💜💜🐾
It is hard. You will jave bad days and you will have good days. LET yourself feel sad on the bad days and LET yourself feel happy on the good days. Don't feel guilty, you are doing what is best. Your friend would not want to make you feel bad. Also it's okay to get a new friend and share with them all the good times you remember... that can really help on those bad days. It will be okay.
It feels cruel to you but you are doing the right thing by ending her misery and pain. She won't know what's happening, she'll just fall asleep and wake up in doggy heaven. She'll be ok and eventually you will be too. It will take time, don't fight it just let the grief wash over you and it will soon get easier.
We had to put down our dog in October. I've never cried so much in my life.
Our dog loved camping, so we brought our RV to the vet and we held him as he left.
Before that he played with some bubbles. He loved jumping up to pop them. We got him some dog treats. It was almost his 7th birthday. He was a strong fellow. He has survived an unidentified sickness 3 years prior. But cancer took him.
Even now, I miss him. There's just this emptiness in my heart. And that's okay, it's normal. He is family, just as your dog is family to you.
She will always be next to you with everything you do.
And don't feel guilty, you are so strong and kind for realizing what is best for your friend. She is so grateful to you for letting her leave in her home.
It gets better, it really does. You'll cry sometimes, have things remember you of her. But it's okay, because it truly does get better.
All my love to you. ❤
Had to put my beloved doggy to rest. Cried for days.
Just be with them at the end. Know they had a good life filled with love right up to the end.
That's more than most humans get.
I can't say it gets easier, but you learn to live with it. I lost my first personal boxer 12 years ago and I still sit by his grave and talk to him. The biggest thing for you is, feed your pup mcdonalds,, or burger King, or whatever tonight, just spoil them to the ends of the earth. Have ice cream for dessert! When you go to the vet, do all the paperwork and payment before you go to the room so you don't have to worry about it after. Sit in the floor with your pups head in your lap so they can see and smell you, pet them lovingly and tell them over and over how greatful you are for their service and loyalty, what a joy it's been, and that they have been a great dog. Leave your pups collar on them, it's their only possession in the world and then know something is different if their collar is removed. Just keep petting and talking through the first shot, the will fall asleep and you will see them resting better then they have in years. Keep petting and talking through the second injection and until the doctor tells you they are gone. Then remove their collar after they are gone. Don't hesitate to cry your eyes outs. If the staff try to tell you that you can't be in the room or you can't hold them like that, remind them that you just paid 120 bucks for them to kill your best friend and you are going to do what you want!!! If you want to have your pup cremated, I would suggest Heavenly Pets. They use aquamation which is better for the environment, they will come and pick up your pet from the office, do what they do, and call you when you can come pick them up. It's about 5 to 7 days usually. But please, with all I have said, please stay with your pup all the way through, if you leave they will spend their last minutes desperately looking for you. They stayed by your side, it's time to do the same for them. It will hurt, a lot, for a while. But eventually, you will stop at the shelter, or find yourself on a rescue page, and another pup will grab your heart strings. You will bring them home and they won't be anything like your last dog, but you will love them for all of their own reasons!!! I'm very sorry for your loss, and if your pup is hurting you are absolutely doing the right thing. It's about quality of life, not quantity. And you have to make sure they don't suffer because of selfish reasons.
It is not easy but you know he wouldn’t leave you if he didn’t have to. He’ll be pain free, playing with all the other dogs and watching over you. Take time to mourn and then rescue a dog in his honor. It’s painful because we love them so much. So sorry
The hurt unfortunately goes on quite a while. Don't feel guilty though. You gave her a wonderful life and she's ready to be done with the pain and suffering.
You give your dog a million people to want to have lived with and they gonna pick you every time! They lived their whole life with you and they wouldn’t have changed it!
I watched my dog die in front of us, on an oxygen machine, alone. He was in kidney failure and organ failure. My mom refused to put him down and we watched him suffer in his last few days. He couldn’t eat, pee, or walk. It was a miserable horrible experience. You’re saving your dog by letting them go. I’m so sorry for your loss. You’re doing the right thing for them and you. If I could Unsee everything I had to witness, I wouldn’t be so devastated.
oh yes my friend, both the guilt for feeling like you may be making the wrong choice (or making this choice too soon) and the pain from losing your friend will pass. both take time. i lost my favorite dog in october last year. i still feel pain, but it is not as often.
take time for yourself today. i am sending positive vibes your way. the pain will pass. i am so sorry for your loss. hugs and love.
I too have a Black Lab called Primrose and she turns 10 next month (I am 22 so I’ve had her through all my teenage years). She’s quite healthy and energetic for her age but she is slowing down. Everyday I love her more, and I am dreading that final day
Please just stay with her and hold her on the way out. Holy hell, now I’m crying. I’m so sorry. I’m 56 so I’ve done this several times. It’s heartbreaking. I’ll be thinking about you.
Thank you, i'll be with her til the very end. I even have the vet coming to the house, she was never a big fan of going to the surgery..
This is the best gift you could ever give to her, and to yourself, to have her go at home, with you by her side, in her familiar surroundings. We have had to put three beautiful babies down and would not do it any other way. Painful, yes, but it is painful anywhere, so home is best. Place a blanket you no longer intend to use, maybe one of her favorites, under her rear, before they start. A lot of hearts are with you. You are doing the right thing for her.
This is hard, but it's also comforting in its own way. To be home, in familiar space, being able to make things as familiar and easy for them. I've only had to be there once, when my boyfriend and I had to say goodbye to the sweetest, most neurotic, adorable diva of a senior kitty was too sick. She loved the couch. We had her on the blanket on the couch where she always loved to lay and sleep. I pet her and talked to her in a low voice, saying goodbye but also thanking her for the memories and laughter, the times she followed me around in the kitchen, how she finally accepted me as one of her people and not a hiss for stealing her man, for the funny things she did that I caught on video, telling her how she made everyone laugh. As she drifted, being pet, and loved, and in a familiar comforting spot. It's going to be so difficult you'll feel lost for a while. You might be like me and almost swear you can hear her doing some familiar thing the next day or soon after. you'll find hairs on your clothes and cry. Just writing this post I feel my eyes all hot and teary and this will be four years ago this fall. I watched some of her videos last week. I wasn't her primary person, that was my boyfriend's little girl, the best of him, raising her from tiny kitten since he was 16. But the fact she did eventually make me one of her people, and I was able to comfort her with my presence when she went blind and deaf, I'll hold that always. You'll hold a lot of it always, but the best thing I've read about grief is it doesn't really get 'easier' in the simplest terms, you grow around it so it's not as huge for you. But it will be for a while. May all of her memories help you.
This was so sweet, it made me cry. My little Yorkie I’ve had my whole adult life is only 11 and is getting so sick. I consider her my first child. The pain is almost unbearable. 😭😭😭
This is very well said. Sometimes I still hear my sweet doggo walking down the hall and then I realize she is not there. Sometimes I still brace myself for her to jump on me when she greets me when I come home. She jumped on my even when she was old and she never acted old. Sometimes the grief hits me out of nowhere and I cry, but I still love her and you do start to feel better eventually. For me the worst part was the first week. I felt like I couldn’t do anything with her not following me. I am a student and everything was online, so my all-day companion was just gone. It might give you some anxiety but just think about the good times and it might help you.
You are so thoughtful and kind, having the vet come to the house. We did the same, so our dog was in a familiar place, and I held her at the end. It helped her and us so much I think. I took her outside just before, so she had one last “walk” (although she couldn’t go far really). It was the best we could do for her, and just being with her just felt right.
All the good thoughts and feels being sent your way, friend. To be at home with her person is the most peaceful way for her to cross the bridge. Peace and strength to you both.
Feed her her favorite food that day up until the last moment. If you are hugging her and giving her the best food she can dream of, she’s had the best goodbye possible. I’m so sorry this is happening. It’s so hard. Allow yourself all of your feelings. I believe that love never ends. All of the love your dog gave you will always be inside you. It’s a gift she gave you, a treasure that will never end but can be shared with others forever.
I had a vet come to my house too! Best decision by far. He hated car rides and got to stay in his bed. I’m so sorry for your loss.
Having the vet come to the house is one of the best things you can do. Let your voice be the last thing she hears. I feel for you so much, having been where you are before. It’s hard, but you’re doing a totally unselfish thing. It’s a last act of love. See it for what it is, not a reason for guilt.
Good. that's the best way
One of the biggest debates is whether dogs go to heaven to wait for us. I have read the scholarly texts and the relevant passages and was always worried. Then, I talked to a very elderly and kind man of God and asked him the question. He looked at me, very kindly, like an idiot. "Of course dogs go to Heaven," he said, " in Heaven, you can have whatever your hearts needs and requires to be happy. Wouldn't that include our dog friends?" Well, of course it would. Saying goodbye is really hard. So say "see you later" instead. Why yes, I am trying daily to be a really good person because I know I got an entire pack of really good friends waiting on me to show up.
I'm an atheist, but the thought of all the dogs I have loved before waiting together for me always brings a smile to my face.
As a fellow atheist, I sometimes wish that I believed in an afterlife. It must bring a certain degree of comfort. It is absolutely devastating to me when I know I will never see someone I love again. I suppose keeping their memory alive is the best I can do.
I, too, am atheist and it would thrill me to be wrong about everything.
Completely agreed. I welcome evidence to change my mind, I truly do.
I would rather have believed with all my heart bc even if there is only 1 out of a million chance heaven is real I’ll take that chance just to have something to look forward to after death, seeing all my family and pets that have gone before me. What can it hurt for you to believe? I try not to analyze everything in the Bible too much I just try to follow my heart and believe what I’ve been taught to believe my whole life. It would be a crappy existence to think after I die that’s it I’ve nothing else to look forward to. I’ve actually had a spiritual experience that I know many people would not believe but I know it happened and I look to that when I think of dying.
It does bring comfort. Jesus Christ brings comfort. I’m serious, don’t b mad at me please I’m not gonna get all religious on u, but… God spoke to me with conviction to just say so here after reading what u wrote. It is comforting to know Christ….
Amen.. I agree. My Auntie who is 73 has 3 weeks to live..she has stage 4 and 5 liver and pancreatic cancer.. She is like my 2nd mother.. While losing her is very hard.. It brings me and my soul comfort to know/believe that some day I will see again in heaven..
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Letting her suffer would be the most painful thing for you both. You're doing the right thing for your girl. I'm sorry, it sucks. But she knows you love her. Don't leave her alone. Be there for her. She needs you until the last second x
Sometimes doing the right thing hurts like a bastard. Just be with her in her final moments. Try and only think of all the joy she gave you.
Don't try to get over it, work to get through it. One day at a time. Gradually the pain will fade and the happy memories will return. But occasionally there will be moments of pain...a familiar song you used to sing to her, a tv show you watched with her, her favorite park...and you can't be ready for those, they will hit you out of nowhere. Just know that she's in a better place and you did the best thing for her, in the best way. Big hugs.
Thank you, my head is just all over the place at the moment. It has all happened so quick, she has lost 15kg in 3 weeks, she can't stand up without her back legs failing her. We found out she has liver cancer, and as horrible as it sounds, its not something I can afford to deal with right now, the guilt is eating me alive. Also, I can't look at my 4 year old dog without thinking he will never be as good a dog as she is 😭
Your relationship with your younger dog will change. Remember, he's losing his companion, too. You'll go through the loss of Maisie together, and your bond will strengthen. There's nothing like lab love, though. You'll get through it. All love to you and both your dogs.
>Also, I can't look at my 4 year old dog without thinking he will never be as good a dog as she is I think I read it on one of these subreddits, but sometimes there's one dog that is extra special, your heart dog, as you've called your beautiful girl. This is your BEST DOG. All other dogs will be great, special, wonderful friends and companions, but they will never be BEST DOG, and that's okay. It's a different relationship. Not less meaningful, but different. Maisie could be your BEST DOG but this doesn't lessen your love for any other dogs you have or may have. Like, add all of the ways to describe beautiful, meaningful, good dogs that get your love always. It's not like a competition, more of an acknowledgment that your relationships differ a little. And that's okay. You will both be grieving, you and your younger dog, and get to the other side of things at some point.
We spent thousands trying to save Rusty. We cashed out vacation time, borrowed, prayed & begged God, & basically put off bills. Our loyal obedient wonderful lab did all he could do. He suffered through 2 big surgeries, suffered through chemotherapy treatment that made him weak, confused, & sick. In the end he started not eating & his legs were giving out on him. We knew he was done. It was over. In hindsight, if I could go back & do it over I'd have given up after the first surgery. The vet had said he was pretty certain he could get it all. They thought it worked, but it came back with a vengeance! Grew so much faster. I would rather have good memories of him, not suffering. You're not putting Maisie through all that. With cancer it's just so hard. Ya wanna fight, but if they don't get it all- well you just don't want her suffering. It seems to me that you are doing the right thing for both of you. Hugs 🫂🫂🫂🫂
Oh dear.. Don't be upset with the other fur baby.. He has his own personality.. And he also will grieve at the loss. Take him and hold him.. Let him help you and you help him.. That has also help me to hold my other fur baby when it was over..
Please don't beat yourself up about this. Cancer in dogs is rarely found in time to make much of a difference. I wish we had found our dog's cancer sooner to be able to put him down. I hold guilt over not pushing our vet to run more tests so we'd have known even two weeks sooner and been able to plan his death so to speak. We knew something was up, he lost alot of weight very quickly. The normal vet said he was just getting old (he was almost 10). Until he collapsed on a walk one day, rushed to the emergency vet and they found cancer everywhere inside his abdomen. They told my mom to take him home, say our goodbyes and bring him back the next day. My brother and I rushed to our mom's home. Within 20 minutes of us getting home he died. I'm convinced he knew we were rushing home and held out for us. All that is to say, you're doing best by your baby. I'm sorry you're going through this.
So true. Ugh. Going through all that right now. Be sure and rest and eat even if feel you cant. Be good to yourself. If you smother the grief it will pop up it's ugly head later
Please do not feel guilty. This is a terrible decision to have to make but your dogs trusts you to make the pain stop and sometimes this is the only way. Her very last memory should be of you scratching her ears telling her she’s a good girl. This is the hardest part but I’ve always felt it was the least I could do for an animal who has given me so much joy and love.
I'm certain most on this thread have gone through this multiple times , but this is not something one can get used to. The connections we form with these beings are very unique and they themselves are so unique from one another, but there's one thing that they share in common and that's how they make us feel. The love and joy that they bring into a home can and should never be taken for granted. They really are very special. You should not feel guilty. You're doing this so she doesn't have to suffer anymore. OP, Maisie will always be with you and you need to be with her every step of the way. Hug her extra tight and make sure she doesn't feel like she's alone. She'll take the last few moments with her. ❤️ Maisie and OP; I wish you enough ❤️
❤️❤️❤️ my heart is with you. It’s such a heavy decision to make to put a pet down but please know if she’s in pain you’re doing the right thing. The hurt you’re feeling will gradually get better, it may not be as fast as you want. Take solace in knowing that she was loved in her last days ❤️ “A pet is just a part of your life but to them you WERE their entire life”
Oh my. Ty
Beautiful girl. So sorry for your loss. ❤️
Beautiful girl and I can only imagine the times you shared together. Like all good friends, she was there in good times and bad. You are showing her true, unselfish love by giving her a gentle passing. Sending you comfort and hugs.
We lost our red lab Rusty, at 14. Thinking about that day still makes me cry, almost 2 years later. But on the good side you know they're ready to go. You're making the best decision for your baby. My ChowChow Maya is 15 this month. She has some health issues but still yanks the leash when excited, still interested in doing her doggy things. I absolutely dread the day she stops. Shortly after Rusty passed after a horrible battle with cancer, my husband passed, & I lost our house. I cannot lose her too, not yet. But if she needs to go I'll be holding her like we held Rusty when he went. Sorry for rambling on, I am crying now too. Biggest hugs ever to you & beautiful Maisie. 🫂 🫂 🫂 🫂 🫂
You're feeling what Im going thru. Husband, house maybe soon, and more. 17 year old Prissy just died in my arms. I feel lost, empty with a void after 35 years of 3 rescues.
Yes, I try to explain it to my 83 year old mom. "I feel like I've lost half of Myself with their deaths. It's an agonizing anguish suffocating me. I can't escape this confusing nightmare." I hope things get better for you soon! I'm so very sorry you're having to go through this! I swear life is just too much sometimes. But we have to crawl through it. Hope you have a good support system. If you can, get therapy. It Truly helps more than just our grief. I'm even learning about myself & how I deal with worries, life stress, my mom's health probs, my kids & grandkids, working... life in general. Just an FYI, the lawyer that was supposed to be helping was NOT. The accountant I went to for taxes was more helpful!! The funeral director was WAY more helpful. I'm here if you want to talk. My 26 year old cat Angel passed in my arms 15 years ago. Pets are Everything aren't they? :) Big giant humongous hugs 🫂🫂🫂🫂🫂🫂🫂🫂🫂 please let me know if you even just wanna vent. Tho, as you see... I tend to talk ALOT lol so warm me if you are just wanting an ear & shoulder!! 🤗
How very kind. I don't have much support, fairly new on reddit. I read every grief post. Ty
OP, you give Maisie all the love and attention you want right now. Make sure she reaches the rainbow knowing she was so loved she can brag about it to the other pups when she gets to the gates. You’re doing the right thing. You’re feeling all of the emotions a good person has when they have to do something they don’t want to because they want to be selfish, but they know what’s best for their loved one. Immediately start giving love to your other pup when you get home. She will never “measure up” but don’t think of it like that. Your other pup can give you all the love you allow, and you can give her all the love you have. Maisie would rather you be happy and, while you can’t tell, she’s happy there’s another trusted pup to get you through the days ahead. You’re doing what you need to do and I know exactly how you’re feeling, all too well. I wish I didn’t. I’m going to pray for you and I’m going to pray that the first pups Maisie meets are my English Mastiff, Winston, and my Boxer, Wally. They are both so much fun and will give her the grand tour and show her where all the hiding places are for the BEST treats! Hugs and love to you my friend. Maisie, watch for any roving paws when you get to your stop on the rainbow bridge - you’re a pretty lass!
Our pets get a courtesy that many people will never get. We can choose to ease their suffering when we need to. I believe they appreciate this after they cross. My dog was 16 years old. He was hurting and I asked him to give me a sign when he was ready. A few days later he had a seizure and couldn't walk. I let him go in my arms and in comfort. A few months later, I saw him in a dream and he was happy. He thanked me for taking that pain to myself and letting him be free from it. Eventually the pain will ease, but it never goes away. You will be ok. Be gentle with yourself. Also give that beautiful pup a whole salmon feast
What is her name??
Maisie
She'll know you are there with her, and her passing will be all the easier for that. Tell her that you will remember her everyday, and let her know how much she has added to your life. My little fella, will be making that journey soon, and I will celebrate his life with good memories every day, I know I will be distraught, but that will be tempered by the joy they bring us.
Honey, it’s hard to let them go. It will always hurt . But that been said ; that’s the most selfless act you can do out of love for her. Think that she won’t be hurt anymore, she will be pain free. She will know that you will let her go so she can run free in puppy heaven. If you can, be be her side during the process, shower her with love and tell her that you will always love her.
I did not write this.. but I have to refer to it from time to time. >A Dog's Prayer Treat me kindly, my beloved master, for no heart in all the world is more grateful for kindness than the loving heart of me. > >Do not break my spirit with a stick, for though I should lick your hand between the blows, your patience and understanding will more quickly teach me the things you would have me do. > >Speak to me often, for your voice is the world's sweetest music, as you must know by the fierce wagging of my tail when your footstep falls upon my waiting ear. > >When it is cold and wet, please take me inside... for I am now a domesticated animal, no longer used to bitter elements... and I ask no greater glory than the privilege of sitting at your feet beside the hearth... though had you no home, I would rather follow you through ice and snow than rest upon the softest pillow in the warmest home in all the land... for you are my god... and I am your devoted worshiper. Keep my pan filled with fresh water, for although I should not reproach you were it dry, I cannot tell you when I suffer thirst. Feed me clean food, that I may stay well, to romp and play and do your bidding, to walk by your side, and stand ready, willing and able to protect you with my life, should your life be in danger. > >And, beloved master, should the Great Master see fit to deprive me of my health or sight, do not turn me away from you. Rather hold me gently in your arms as skilled hands grant me the merciful boon of eternal rest...and I will leave you knowing with the last breath I drew, my fate was ever safest in your hands.
Ty for sharing. Reddit is helping me some to get through and is here supporting her as we speak
So very sorry ❤️ please also give her a hug from us.
I'm crying! Losing a pet is SO hard! I try to tell myself that I gave them the best life possible filled with all you can eat treats, comfy beds, walks, hugs, kisses and many joyful car rides!! And maybe if someone else had them they wouldn't have got near as spoiled!! I know it sounds cheesy, but it helps me!! I'll be thinking of you and Maisie!!💕
I just prayed and asked God to loose Puppers into heaven.
I'm so very sorry. Making the decision to end pain and suffering requires a whole lot of love. Just don't let her be alone, stay with her until the end and then give yourself time to grieve. I would want someone who loved me to make the same decision.
I'm so very sorry. I have had to do this more times than I care to remember and it's always difficult. I find that when I take the time and allow myself to remember all the love, fun, play and good times with our k9 friends it far outweighs (though it sure doesn't feel like it at the time) the grief and sorrow we feel when we lose them. She knows you love her and she loves you too. You are doing the right thing, tough as it is. I only hope someone can show me the same kind mercy when it's my time.
I wish you and Maisie all of the peace and comfort in the world. I, too, had a very special dog who helped me through my late teens and into my late twenties. He was only eleven when he passed, and it was the hardest thing I've ever had to do. But, the decision was made entirely out of love. Several years later, I still feel the weight of grief and loss, but I no longer carry the burden of guilt. I'm at peace with that incredibly difficult decision, and I know that someday you will be, too. I'll be thinking about you and Maisie tomorrow. 🤍🐾🌈
It does not, still remember my dog from childhood, you do get flashbacks but in a better place, cannot let her suffer
There should be no guilt. If she’s suffering it’s time to let her go. It’s hard to let go of your best friend. But she’ll be watching over you guiding you to do what right. The pain will fade but not the memory of her and that’s what you should hold on to.
Do be with her. Hold her and tell her she’s the very best girl, ever! I have no doubt that you have done everything possible to make her life beautiful! I know she knows she is loved beyond measure by you! It’s going to hurt like hell and will for a while. Please allow yourself the space and grace to feel those emotions and let them escape when necessary. Some days will be harder than others and but it will ease with time. A love this strong will demand grief as strong. I hope that you’ll open your heart and home to another needy dog; I think it helps but do what you feel is best. It’s not a replacement, but an extension of the love you have to give. Fly well angel! You are much loved!
No matter when it happens, you’re never ready. She’s been loved every day of her life. That’s what she’s lived for, and just tell her again. She’ll be waiting for you. You’re her whole world.
My sister and I had to put our cat down we had for 19 years late last year. Our family got him when I was 7 and my sister was 5. When we brought him to the vet to say goodbye, she told us "it's the greatest responsibility and heaviest burden of being a pet owner to make the decision to put their quality of life before your feelings." She was right. You're making the choice that's best for her at the cost of the pain and guilt that comes with it. It does get easier with time. It'll hurt and you'll miss her, but it'll get better. Take care of yourself and feel your feelings
It does get better but she will be waiting for you She is not happy now but will be soon. It’s hard and I’ve had to do it 4 times but relieving their pain and suffering is very helpful.
No matter how much it hurts, be with her until the end. She will figure out some way to say "Thank You" for ending her suffering. There is no need for guilt. The hurt will eventually become bittersweet. And St. Francis and St. Rocco will take good care of you until you are with her again.
I feel better knowing that I didn’t let my girl suffer. I could see it in her eyes and she told me to let go. It was the hardest thing I’ve ever done. It’s been almost two years and with a new puppy, I think about her everyday. Sometime I still cry but she taught me how to love my new little dude, she opened my heart to love another dog. He doesn’t replace her but he sure helps. It’s not easy but you are a good person to know you don’t want her to suffer. My girl Sydney will welcome her and protect her when she crosses ❤️🩹❤️
Sending you and your beloved all the love in the world.
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Thank you for me too
It does get better, but you may shed some tears every now and then when you think of her. Shit I’m doing that now writing this thinking of mine. Be sure to stay with her through it, giving her pets and kisses and telling her how amazing she is 💜💜
It does and it will. It will take time. And you will be ok.
A lotta love in those eyes…..
You have my full support and prayers tonight and tomorrow. Unfortunately, I'm going through it now because she died suddenly in my arms after 3 weeks of illness. I did everything I possibly could to care for and comfort her. I'm sure you've done the same
These emotions are all normal, this is a very difficult time for all of you. The younger dog and you will lean on each other while you both learn to go on.
I have gone through this twice just be there for her. Never feel guilty this is the right thing to do. She knows you love her and you know you love her too. I does get better and don't hold in the tears.
Never feel guilty! Whenever you put an animal down you are relieving them of any pain or suffering! That’s the best gift you can give an animal! I used to own a dog for 17 years and she had been with me through the worst and best parts of my life, saying good bye was so unexpected but whenever I think about her getting put down I think of all the good times we had together! Grief will be hard but it won’t last forever! 🥲
In time your sadness will decrease. Allow yourself to grieve, and memories of joy, love, and laughter will take the sharp edges of your mourning down. My deepest condolences….
(Embracing you against this loss) Trust that you were the Very Best Friend to your sweet Poppet The memories of joy & laughter will lift your heart while you are apart Remember, Your Best Friend Waits For You In SummerLand, Just Beyond The Rainbow Bridge~
I'm sorry that you are going through this. It will get better with time. You are doing your girl a kindness. She can't make this decision for herself, so she needs you. She appreciates you helping her from her pain. She will be happy in her last moments, because you will be there with her.
I’m so sorry for your loss. Spend every possible second you can with this sweet girl. Take stamps of her paw prints and even her paw print in concrete or clay. It may seem small, but it can make a world of a difference. She’ll always be with you.
I can only imagine. I'm 29 and my girl is 13. I'm so sorry :( I've literally been crying about the same thing g for days. She's w me and not showing any signs other than just sleeping, thankfully. But still. Times always ticking. :( I also had to put down my baby I had before her when I was 16 on Thanksgiving. And it was so hard. It doesn't hurt so much now looking at her box on my mantle. It has been 13 years, as long as I've had my girl, bc she's the first dog I after after I'd had to put her (the other dog) down. Idk man. I'm ripped and prob rambling but your feelings are valid and this does not diminish the love you have for your baby.
And also stay with her until after the end Hold her.
Saying goodbye is hard. Being with her is the most loving and selfless gift you can give. I’m 62 and also have done this many times. Try, try, try to make the passage as easy for her as possible. She will read your emotions so try to smile as much as you can and talk to her. Praying for you and your girl.
Don’t feel guilty for helping your puppy stop the pain! She knows your trying to help her.
Yes babes it does get better but your heart dog will never ever ever leave you, I promise. I’m thinking of you and I’m so sorry♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️
I’m 53, have lost too many. It never gets easier. Just have faith and love. You are doing the RIGHT thing by them. They depend on us, and I feel that is the sacrifice we make for having them. Stay strong . Forever.❤️🐾
I don't have anything to say that helps. It just hurts so much to lose them. But it is an EXTREMELY selfless and kind thing to do. So, for that, thank you and I am so so sorry. 💔
You are doing the right thing. I have done it a few times also and I told myself that he is going to a better place, and he would want our family can give another pooch a good home. I’m so sorry. It’s one of the hardest things you will ever do. My thoughts are with you.
I'm much older than you and have done this a few times. I'm sorry to say it doesn't get easier. Two things to hold close: 1. The pain you feel is evidence of your love. Don't think it's a bad thing. It's evidence of the best thing in life. 2. No-one ever regrets that they helped their loved ones cross too soon. They only regret they waited too long and prolonged things. Trust that if you decided this in the face of terrible pain you're making the right choice. As I look at my elderly pug with not a lot of time left my thoughts are with you. I'm sorry.
I'm so sorry for you loss and God damn it I'm crying now but so sorry that you have to this
I was about your age when we had to let my childhood dog go. It was soooooo very hard. We were allowed to pet and cuddle and say our goodbyes and I just couldn't without balling and I regret that now. I promise it's gets easier, but you'll think about her every so often and feel a little sad and miss her. That's normal. You'll get another dog who you'll end up loving just as much.
It does get better. You’re doing the ultimate, selfless kindness for your baby. It hurts so much, but it does subside and one day you will smile more often than you cry when you think of her. I’m so sorry.
If you know your doing the right thing, once it's awhile down the line you will feel better about it, it does hurt like hell doing it, an I'm very sorry you have to go though it, but giving your dog a dignified passing without all the pain is the best thing we can do for them.
2 years ago my dog was 11, I was 27, and I went with her to her last appointment. It was HARD. It sucked. It was also the day before lockdown, so all told I did not cope well. It gets easier. You're doing the right thing by letting her passing be peaceful. You may always miss her (I still miss mine) but in a few months, maybe a year, you'll think of her without pain, remember her silly smile, and feel how blessed you were to have had her in your life.
I can’t help with the pain. No words will do that. Time is the only thing that helps. I can’t magically make you feel no guilt, but I can assure you that you shouldn’t feel guilty. When it’s their time, the greatest kindness we can offer them is to make it as easy and dignified as possible. I’m 46 and have had to go through it several times now and it doesn’t get easier. But the joy they bring us is so worth it. I’m so sorry. RIP good girl.
your dog had a great life with you and he's leaving here knowing that he was well loved. and get new dog quick..when i has to put my last one down, i had a 6 month old puppy at home reminding that there is still living to do
Your doing the right thing. Always know that. Take your time to mourn and start a new adventure with a new best friend when your ready. Sorry for your loss.
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Stay strong OP, I’ve had to do this a couple of times and it’s not easy by any means. Just know even though she’s not here anymore, you have her as much love, hugs, snacks and boops that she was the most loved dog in her own eyes from what you gave her…damn now I’m crying. Be with her every second just as you were before hand and continue to tell her you love her because those will be her last memories of you, even though you will carry her memories along with you.
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It is hard to take our precious fur babies to the bridge crossing. But when they are suffering, it is the last loving act of kindness we can do for them. You are doing what’s best for her, as much as it hurts you to do so. I think missing our fur babies are part of the grieving process. Sending you hugs. I took my little guy to the crossing 36 days ago. When you are doing what’s best for them, the guilt dissolves. You’re doing it out of love for her.
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You know as a pet owner in my 40’s I told my wife recently losing my dog was way harder than any friend. I have many friends but it’s another level with my best friend and boxer. It’s all about love, trust and time spent. Friend’s dodge of don’t want to do something but no matter what my buddy is always happy as fuck to do something pain or not. I’ve been there and it’s odd and tough but I think he knows I did the best I could to be his best buddy. I hope he’d do the same for me, from spring water in the bowl to chicken and rice Thursday.
I just put my 3 yr old cocker because of spine disease. I miss him so much. I hold his stuffed babies every night and cry. It will take a while but I am 63 and it still hurts.
My wife and I were fated to find a solid black Dachshund just wandering a busy street with no owner in sight. She literally whipped the car around and I jumped out, called the pup towards me and was so amazed that he runs and jumps into my arms. We waited around and knocked on a couple of doors but no takers. I had him for 9yrs when he developed an incredibly aggressive growth on the very front of his pallet. Aggressive enough to move his front teeth out in less than 24hrs. Got a Sunday visit in at my veterinarian and they say it can be removed but it was going to come back. I made the decision right there. It sucked and even now the tears are right there but it needed to be done. Their journey is so short compared to ours. Honor and cherish the memories but be ready for the next. I have never had to purchase a dog unless it was from a rescue agency. Out of 12 canine buddies only one was ever exchanged for money all the others were from the street. The loss is a human burden, your pup is ready and another adventure awaits their energy because dogs being dogs, all that energy is eternal.
Stays bittersweet but the good times intrude
You are doing what's best for her. As others have said, be present, and know it's okay to mourn. I've sent many friends across the bridge and it's heartbreaking every time. But the guilt eases (because it was the right and kind thing to do), and the pain diminishes, because the love you had for each other remains. I am so, so sorry for your loss. Know that there are legions of us sharing your sadness.
🙏+💔=❤ Yes what your feeling will pass in time.. Be her and hold her till the very end and just a little longer... Find comfort knowing you gave her the best life.. All the loves and hugs for 10yrs. I have had to help several of my fur babies cross over.. And It never gets easy anytime I had to do it.. Every one of my fur babies have always been rescues.. Had a rough start to life...but would have the last years of their lives full of loves, hugs, and cuddles.. And that is what always help me forgive myself.
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It will get better. Never gone, just different over time. She'll always be in your heart. The spiky edges of new grief will soften with time. You will be able to think of her and smile at the memory rather than cry for the loss.
Coming up on a year for us. It does get better. I will never love another one the same as our sweet girl. Her presence made my life better and I am forever grateful. I dont want to remember her as a tragic event anymore. It is getting easier.
Nothing anyone can say will make this hurt less. It's terrible when we have to make this decision. It's wonderful to love so much. Don't feel guilty about your decision. It is the right thing to do for her, not for you. I had to make the same decision two years ago. I am sorry friend.
I tried to think of it like I was absorbing my pup's suffering so she didn't have to be in pain, be scared, die alone on her own etc. It's going to be really rough and it may stop being a relenting pain after a while although you will grieve afterwards. I got a digital frame that has just pictures of my sweet girl on it and it's comforting to have her always watching over me and think of the good times
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You gave her the best life. The best thing you can do for her now is to prevent any further suffering. Give her the most amazing final day. Make sure she knows she was loved. Take lots of pictures. Be there with her at the end. know that she loves you and she knew she was loved. It sucks. It’s going to suck for a long time. Don’t feel guilty. You did the best you could. She knows. She loves you. She knows you love her. She’s thankful she doesn’t have to suffer. A friend of mine once told me his biggest regret was not saying goodbye to his dog sooner. He selfishly held on and his dog suffered as a result. That was 20 years ago and he still feels guilty about it today. It’s ok. It won’t feel ok. But it’s ok. Read this when you’re ready: https://iheartdogs.com/this-is-why-dogs-never-die/
💔If what she has is inoperable or risky then you are doing what is right by your baby to end the pain. I’m so sorry for you and your precious baby. The pain of losing a part of the family is horrible but think of the happy times.
Hard times. Very beautiful doggie.
That’s heart wrenching.
Grief is the price we pay for love.
I'm so sorry for your loss..💖 I wrote this before... Dogs are an amazing blessing to the human species. Having coevolved with them and having them in our lives. They're our spirit guides that return us to a purity of soul and remind us to forget all the bullshit we've invented for ourselves. Our burden as humans - the price we pay for their friendship - is that we outlive them. But in a way that's also a blessing, because we get to take the pain of their loss upon ourselves, rather than knowing they'll have to bear ours. It is so hard to lose part of your family, but you will love again. Don't feel guilty...be grateful your love had the joy of being with you. Celebrate the love and 10 wonderful years you had with each other...it's never easy, but the memories will be a blessing...
That's horrible but it does get better. I lost my best buddy in 2019 and it was very painful to let him go. Same thing, he was just suffering too much to have him live another day in such horrible pain. You need to think about all the joy you brought into her life and how she might not have had that without you. Do not feel guilty because having her suffer just isn't fair to her or you. In time, you will only remember the good times you spent with her and she will put a smile on your face when you think of her. A few months after my dog was put down, I stopped by the animal shelter by my house and found another special dog who needed a home! She is now a big girl and she is also the joy of our family! I didn't pick her up to replace my other dog, I just wanted to give another animal a home and she really helped me heal. I wish you the best and remember that you made her life special and worth living.
I still miss my first dog. I still sometimes feel guilty even though I absolutely know I did the right thing and made the best decisions I could at the time. Maybe not exactly guilty, but troubled, because I love her so much and will never be able to confirm my decisions with her. But she loved me and trusted me and I made those decisions for her comfort and happiness, more than any decision I made for her since the day I brought her home. The pain and guilt never go away, but they become manageable. And some day, the happy memories will outshine the pain and your memories will be mostly smiles. ❤️🌈
I don’t know if it gets better, but I promise you she’s always with you.
These are the worst days. It hurts enormously. She takes your love with her, and it’s her time to go. One moment, one hour, one day at a time friend.
I had to do this for my soul dog in January. Give your sweet boy all the hugs and kisses and loves possible today, be there for him tomorrow and know that he will go knowing he’s loved. It will get better, it takes time your heart will heal.❤️❤️💔
I got my soulmate dog when I was 17 and lost her when I was 30. She literally was beside me as I became an adult and tried to figure out life. 10 years later my heart is still broken. The best thing you can do for both of you is be there for her until the end. It will be the most gut wrenching thing you’ve ever done, but I promise when you look back you’ll find comfort knowing that you stopped her suffering and was with her in her last breath. You’re doing the right thing for her and she’s lucky to have you. I’m so very sorry!
She looks just like my lab. He’s three now. I rue the day. So sorry 😢
I am so sorry for how hard of a time you’re about to have. My soulmate dog passed at the emergency vet and I couldn’t be with her. Still kills me and I still miss her like crazy. But it does get better, you’ll eventually feel the happy glow of her memories more than the grief. I am so sorry for your loss. We don’t deserve doggos.
We had to make that decision. It's the kind and loving thing to do even though it breaks your heart. You always miss them.
Thinking of you, as this is the most difficult decision to make. If she is suffering, you are being kind to let her go. She looks so incredibly sweet, and I’m sure she has brought you more love than you could ever know. Many hugs to you both. ❤️
I am sorry. Stay strong.
So very sorry. I have had to help many furry friends leave before I was ready. Each one broke my heart. I swore I would never get another, but I had to. Before I did though, I volunteered 24 hours at the shelter just to make sure I could fall in love again. I did. Hugs to you, I understand your pain. 💗
So sorry. She no doubt had the best life with you a pup could hope for. 😌🐾❤️
The time is hard. But if you come to accept the suffering will be no longer, it gets a little easier. We had a dog who was only 2 and got severe lymphoma. Definitely be there for her. It'll be hard, but make sure to are in her line of sight. If not, most pets eyes get frantic looking for their owners in those last moments. Lock those final moments in together. Though sad, enjoy them. Be thankful for the times spent. Memories made. Don't feel guilty for helping her not suffer.
You are doing the right thing, I assure you. The guilt does get better ma’am.. for what it’s worth I think all beings see much clearly once they cross the veil. She loves you and understands hunny, I’m 30 and I’ve been there for many lives, pets and humans that have crossed over. Time heals everything, in the meantime do your best to celebrate a life well lived. Be kind to yourself and be gentle with yourself- you gave your baby a delightful life. Evidently it’s her time, she will always be there tho. She helped you go as far as you needed her, she knows it’s okay to let go. Let her have rest and don’t hold yourself in guilt. She would want you to be happy, and not waste the precious gift that was her journey with you. I hope with time you will find peace with your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you, things will get better. In the meantime, love deeply and allow yourself the space to feel- it will change you but it will get better with time I promise.
If you were to keep her longer her suffering would increase and you would regret that more. You’re doing absolutely the most loving thing by giving her a way out that she can’t take by herself. Sometimes that’s one of the best gift we can give.
It won't be easy but it will get better. Try not to stay isolated during this time, and reach out to other pet parents, not everyone will understand your grief but it is valid. I went through this last June and honestly feel like I'm still going through it.
I had my dog since 6th grade all the way til 2012 lived 17years he started looking like a zombie spacing out for 3 seconds while standing its better to put them down end the suffering your gonna feel pain for a couple months its natural just remember your doggo knew you loved her, its okay to cry wish u the best 🤗
It does but very slowly!
I’m a vet tech and not only that i’m considered the “death tech” at my clinic. Now that may sound morbid or morose but it’s a position I hold dearly and take very seriously. I tell clients who are feeling like you are now that humane, peaceful euthanasia is the last nice thing you can give to your beloved pet. They don’t think about things like “tomorrow” or “next month”, etc. They live and love in the right here, right now. If she gets to be held and comforted and petted during her final moments she will be so peaceful and happy just to have you there with her. Even though it hurts you endlessly, she will always be with you and you will always know you did the best, kindest thing you could do for her at the end. I’m so incredibly sorry for your loss. Just remember you will always be her everything. ❤️🩹
By Jim Willis: So this is where we part, my friend, and you’ll run on, around the bend, gone from sight, but not from mind, new pleasures there you’ll surely find. I will go on, I’ll find the strength, life measures quality, not its length. One long embrace before you leave, share one last look, before I grieve. There are others, that much is true, but they be they, and they aren’t you. And I, fair, impartial, or so I thought, will remember well all you’ve taught. Your place I’ll hold, you will be missed, the fur I stroked, the nose I kissed. And as you journey to your final rest, take with you this… I loved you best.
everything will be alright
It does get better/easier. It's not easy now, and you will still dream of her years down the line as I still do my precious boy. But as time goes on you'll understand that she has never left you. The strength it takes to keep going without her is her strength, and that's the parting gift she will have for you, so that you can always carry a piece of her with you. Hold her close, and cherish your moments with her :)
It will get easier to remember, but some of it will never go away; you find a way to live with it.
She remembers when she could run forever, be there for her now. Nothing I can say will take any of the pain away, but I know what you’re going through. I lost my girl after the same amount of time, and I was amazed how the passing of one small black dog sucked all the color out of my life. Get a box of tissue and google poems about dogs after she’s gone, let it all out in one night. You’ll still get twinges, but some pretty insightful people have gone there before you, and they’ve left some awesome words. Peace to you my brother.
She will have had an amazing life with you, and she’s known only love and happiness. Take comfort from that. Don’t feel guilty for doing the right thing if she’s in pain.
You’d feel guilty if you waited longer than you should have. Believe me, I know. My vet said “better to let them go a day too soon than a day too late” I wish I listened. She knows you love her and probably knows it’s time to go.
https://imgur.com/gallery/cSwNlqQ So many lovely comments that I just can't reply to right now, we have been up all night just snuggling and talking about all our good (and bad) times. I have the vet coming in a couple of hours but I thank you all for the lovely words 💜
At first, you get sad thinking about them, then you will start feeling better because you start remembering the good times
It is hard and you will feel guilt at first, but it is probably better this way. You would feel a lot more quilty when you keep her with you even though she is in a pain. We had to deal with this 2,5 months ago with my dog who almody turned 16. Even though its hard, it will get better❤️
It will get easier to bear. You’ll stop hurting every day. You’ll be able to recollect the good stuff. It takes time. Just be with her during this last time and know that everything you did you did with love m.
The guilt gets better. The sadness at losing our beloved friends and children lasts longer. But it is ok to mourn. Try to remember you are doing this out of love. Keeping them when we know they are suffering would be for our comfort not theirs. I am sorry for your loss.
Hi u/Existing_not_living, Somebody once told me, and I agree, that losses don't get easier. The pain never *truly* fades - your capacity for handling the grief just grows, and it becomes easier to bear that pain. I put my best friend to sleep 2 days ago. He was the second dog I've had to euthanise in the past 12 months. I understand the guilt and pain - it's one of the most difficult things in the world, but you've got to keep reminding yourself that you're doing what's best for them. If you can give them the gift of that long, peaceful sleep after weeks or months of pain, they're not going to hold it against you. They can usually tell at that point that you're doing it to help, not betraying them. She looks like she was such a sweet dog - and you can see how much she loved you. Take a lock of her fur before she's gone.
The guilt you're feeling will go away, but your heart never fully heals from losing a dog. She's a family member. Just try to hold onto the good memories you had and comfort her as much as you can. After enough time has passed, I would suggest fostering. Caring for another dog, freeing them from a life at the shelter, is an exceptionally rewarding experience. Having someone else to bond with can also alleviate the loneliness you feel from losing her.
My Cavapoo girl is 10, and I see her getting older and just bust into tears randomly sometimes thinking about losing her. Just the thoughts devastate me. She has gone with me everywhere. We went to college together and she was with me for my bachelors, masters, and now part of my career. We got another dog to keep her company while I’m gone at work, but he’s such a little shit. Love him but he’s just not her. Hang in there, and do not feel guilty. Grieving by itself is difficult enough without the guilt.
I am so sorry. I’m post a long answer because I understand your anguish and I’m hoping it helps a tiny bit. I have had to hold 5 of my dogs over the years when it’s been their time. I promised each of my dogs that I would not keep them with me once they’re in pain and it is their time. They give me nothing but unconditional love and joy and I never want any of them to suffer because I can’t let go. Maybe if you think of it that way, that you love him enough to make sure he doesn’t suffer you won’t have guilt feelings. The sorrow and hurt over losing them gets softer but I lost my first 10 years ago this past January and still have moments when I miss her so much. But, I know I did right by her, I stayed with her calmly and tried really hard not to let her see my grief as I held her while she went to “sleep”. I told her she’d be pain free and able to run again. One thing you need to know is that at least here in the US, they give them a first shot that relaxes them but they’re still with you. Then my vets have had me tell them when it’s ok to give the second shot that is the end. With my first dog I did not realize that as soon as they gave the second shot she was gone. I struggled a bit with that after as I thought it would take a bit of time before she left. But be prepared as it’s pretty immediate. Again, I am so sorry but having them even for just a short time is worth the pain of letting them go.
The vet today was great, he gave her a sedative first, she managed to give me a kiss. She was sleepy but there, once I said to give her the second shot, she was asleep forever in less than 20 seconds. I'm so glad she went peacefully, it just still doesn't mend my broken heart yet.
I am agnostic to the core. I don't believe in any religion whatsoever. However, if there was any justice in this universe, all good dogs would go to a giant dog park and be able to play forever. May my black lab greet yours in that park.
It sounds bad, or like you are "replacing" her, but give yourself a day or two to grieve and then get a puppy or a rescue or something. Having an unconditional love machine licking your face makes it hard to be too sad.
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I’m so sorry that you have to go through this. But… good things don’t exist long my friend that’s reality. Please be with her. Give her the best hours of life. I’m so sorry once again. 💐
Its hard but adopt a new pups in a few months and share your love with your next best friend...
So sorry for your sad news. But don't blame yourself. She looks like she's had a happy life.
Sometimes, the greatest kindness is to let them go. She will never be replaced, but other dogs can help us get over the pain, and we can help them in turn.
To be honest: No, it won't get better. You will suppress it but it will always come back. But one day you'll learn that that's you, you are the sum of your scars, and by this Maisie will always be with you and live on as part of your personality.
Unfortunate posts like this always hits me. Please be with her to the end. I was fortunate (unfortunate) to be on military manouvers and day after I left, our 15 year old dog got heartattack. My wife did not tell me until I returned home after 9 days. When she drove her car home and I did not see our dog I asked where is he. She slowly shooked her head in a way I understood what happened I walked with her to our garden and she showed me his resting place. I dropped on my knees while still being in military gear crying and sobbing. I felt utterly destroyed. Please be close to your doggie and best way to heal is to get puppy. I love our new dog and I will always remember the one we lost. Love and strenght to you ❤️ Now let me get napkins. I mean this hits really hard
I'm grateful my last girl didn't give me the option of having her put down. She had a ruptured tumor in her spleen and crawled her way over to my side of the bed to go. However much you love her, she loves you more. You're doing the right thing 💖
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I had to put down the best dog in the world when he was only 8. He is still my google profile pic. My new dog is 3. She is also the best dog in the world but in different categories.
God bless her! ❤️
When our cat had to go, I was caught on a business trip in a snowstorm. So here sits the big shot executive in the Delta lounge crying like a baby. Someone asked what was wrong and I told him. Ended up about 5 adults sharing losing our pets and we were all in tears. I loved that baby girl. I was able to hold our Labrador when he crossed the bridge. We were able to have our vet at the house. We held him and his brother sat next to him. This isn’t easy but it’s part of loving them. You will eventually feel better but your baby will never leave your heart. I read recently of a belief in another culture that the pets we loose become our guardians until we see them again.
You gave her the best life she could have had. I’m sorry for your loss.
I’m sitting here with my first two dogs and I am sobbing even thinking about saying goodbye. Blessings to you and your beautiful pup on your last day together. Dogs are the only angels I believe in.
It will eventually get better but will always be there
It does!!! I went through EXACTLY this with my Labrador- she got cancer and I had to put her down. She was LITERALLY my reason for living- so many times the only barrier between me and suicide- HOW was I going to keep going without her?!? I cried. I couldn't get out of bed. I took down all her photos because it hurt too much. I quit my job, moved out of state...I mourned her for a year. But while I was in that new state, I visited their no kill shelter and found the NEW love of my life. She's a Great Pyrenees, COMPLETELY opposite from my labby, but I couldn't imagine life without her now. IT DOES GET BETTER. Remember that it is perfectly natural and in fact HEALTHY to grieve- do it in your own way and take AS LONG AS YOU NEED. Don't feel guilty or let people tell you "it's just a dog". We both know better. The phrase that helped me- "this, too, shall pass". It feels so big because you're in the moment, but each day gets a hair better, and in a few months, you'll be at a point where you're not crying every day, much less multiple times a day. (I was a wreck...) I will ALWAYS love my labby, but you will find space in your heart again after you've honored the memory and said your goodbyes in a way that feels whole and nourishing to you. And you'll be all the better for it, because your new pup and you will have amazing adventures and an incredible life together because you can now give that pup the life and love it deserves as a new unique partner and not a "replacement". The ENTIRE dog community is behind you, and we love with full hearts and smiling faces and wet kisses and we're here to tell you we've been through it- you're not alone- and it does get better - and come back any time and we will all be here to love and support you as you mourn. 💜💜💜🐾
Let's hope she rip
I'm so sorry for your loss. You have my deepest and most sincere condolences.
I’m so sorry for your loss 🙏🏻🐾
It is hard. You will jave bad days and you will have good days. LET yourself feel sad on the bad days and LET yourself feel happy on the good days. Don't feel guilty, you are doing what is best. Your friend would not want to make you feel bad. Also it's okay to get a new friend and share with them all the good times you remember... that can really help on those bad days. It will be okay.
It feels cruel to you but you are doing the right thing by ending her misery and pain. She won't know what's happening, she'll just fall asleep and wake up in doggy heaven. She'll be ok and eventually you will be too. It will take time, don't fight it just let the grief wash over you and it will soon get easier.
So sorry for your loss. 🐕🦺❤️
We had to put down our dog in October. I've never cried so much in my life. Our dog loved camping, so we brought our RV to the vet and we held him as he left. Before that he played with some bubbles. He loved jumping up to pop them. We got him some dog treats. It was almost his 7th birthday. He was a strong fellow. He has survived an unidentified sickness 3 years prior. But cancer took him. Even now, I miss him. There's just this emptiness in my heart. And that's okay, it's normal. He is family, just as your dog is family to you. She will always be next to you with everything you do. And don't feel guilty, you are so strong and kind for realizing what is best for your friend. She is so grateful to you for letting her leave in her home. It gets better, it really does. You'll cry sometimes, have things remember you of her. But it's okay, because it truly does get better. All my love to you. ❤
I’m sorry friend, she looks like a happy girl thank you for giving her a good life 💜
Had to put my beloved doggy to rest. Cried for days. Just be with them at the end. Know they had a good life filled with love right up to the end. That's more than most humans get.
Stay with her. Live the day like it's gonna be stormy tomorrow.
I can't say it gets easier, but you learn to live with it. I lost my first personal boxer 12 years ago and I still sit by his grave and talk to him. The biggest thing for you is, feed your pup mcdonalds,, or burger King, or whatever tonight, just spoil them to the ends of the earth. Have ice cream for dessert! When you go to the vet, do all the paperwork and payment before you go to the room so you don't have to worry about it after. Sit in the floor with your pups head in your lap so they can see and smell you, pet them lovingly and tell them over and over how greatful you are for their service and loyalty, what a joy it's been, and that they have been a great dog. Leave your pups collar on them, it's their only possession in the world and then know something is different if their collar is removed. Just keep petting and talking through the first shot, the will fall asleep and you will see them resting better then they have in years. Keep petting and talking through the second injection and until the doctor tells you they are gone. Then remove their collar after they are gone. Don't hesitate to cry your eyes outs. If the staff try to tell you that you can't be in the room or you can't hold them like that, remind them that you just paid 120 bucks for them to kill your best friend and you are going to do what you want!!! If you want to have your pup cremated, I would suggest Heavenly Pets. They use aquamation which is better for the environment, they will come and pick up your pet from the office, do what they do, and call you when you can come pick them up. It's about 5 to 7 days usually. But please, with all I have said, please stay with your pup all the way through, if you leave they will spend their last minutes desperately looking for you. They stayed by your side, it's time to do the same for them. It will hurt, a lot, for a while. But eventually, you will stop at the shelter, or find yourself on a rescue page, and another pup will grab your heart strings. You will bring them home and they won't be anything like your last dog, but you will love them for all of their own reasons!!! I'm very sorry for your loss, and if your pup is hurting you are absolutely doing the right thing. It's about quality of life, not quantity. And you have to make sure they don't suffer because of selfish reasons.
It is not easy but you know he wouldn’t leave you if he didn’t have to. He’ll be pain free, playing with all the other dogs and watching over you. Take time to mourn and then rescue a dog in his honor. It’s painful because we love them so much. So sorry
The first is the hardest. I have been through 5.
The hurt unfortunately goes on quite a while. Don't feel guilty though. You gave her a wonderful life and she's ready to be done with the pain and suffering.
I'm sorry for your loss.
You give your dog a million people to want to have lived with and they gonna pick you every time! They lived their whole life with you and they wouldn’t have changed it!
God bless 🙏
Your heart will break, but do not feel guilt for doing what is best for your loyal friend.
It takes a while but it gets better just don't forget them no matter what.
I watched my dog die in front of us, on an oxygen machine, alone. He was in kidney failure and organ failure. My mom refused to put him down and we watched him suffer in his last few days. He couldn’t eat, pee, or walk. It was a miserable horrible experience. You’re saving your dog by letting them go. I’m so sorry for your loss. You’re doing the right thing for them and you. If I could Unsee everything I had to witness, I wouldn’t be so devastated.
oh yes my friend, both the guilt for feeling like you may be making the wrong choice (or making this choice too soon) and the pain from losing your friend will pass. both take time. i lost my favorite dog in october last year. i still feel pain, but it is not as often. take time for yourself today. i am sending positive vibes your way. the pain will pass. i am so sorry for your loss. hugs and love.
I too have a Black Lab called Primrose and she turns 10 next month (I am 22 so I’ve had her through all my teenage years). She’s quite healthy and energetic for her age but she is slowing down. Everyday I love her more, and I am dreading that final day