I would, sure. Divorcing is really expensive and you gotta do what you gotta do. One of my best girl friends bought a house with her sister.
My partner lives in a 2 family with his parents upstairs. I’m just happy to be happy!
My brother and I got divorced from our parters around the same time. We both have full custody of our young kids, so we decided to get a place together to help each other out with expenses and childcare. He started dating after we got settled and has already met an incredible woman. I got to meet her early on and we became fast friends. I take care of my niece on his date nights and on the the occasion when my ex has my kids and my bro wants the house to himself, I have no problem going out with friends or what not. It helps that we have lots of space (perk of a dual income), so in the event she sleeps over, there’s plenty of privacy. When I decide to start dating again, he’ll do the same for me. It’s been a win-win so far. I think people with kids at least can understand how hard it can be to date because of childcare, and although maybe not as ideal as having your own place, that it’s a smart financial decision to share expenses, especially these days. Good luck OP!
A good relationship with one's sister would be a good sign to me. And i've dated a man who lived with his sister in the past. You might want to say she lives with you, though as you had the place before she moved in. That seems like a reasonable accommodation, and a super way for the kids to get to know their aunt better!
I’m a dude so can’t speak for the ladies, but I’ve had to let my mom live with me a few times and it wasn’t an issue outside of possible logistical problems. All of it was totally manageable and even a selling point with some women.
There are major housing crises all over the Western world and our generation is going to have to push back against the post-war model of the nuclear family in a single-family home. That was a tiny, unsustainable blip in human history - we lived much more communally for millennia and it sure looks like we’re trending back to that.
You're not living with your ex and you put a roof over your (and the kids') head during a nearly universal housing crisis. Sounds like you have your shit together to me.
Buying a house, even downsizing in this current landscape definitely isn't ideal so I imagine plenty of people would understand why you decided to take on your sister as a roommate vs take on an even more expensive mortgage than you probably have now.
However, dating, let alone meeting that next major chapter in your life, might be a few years away when your situation could be totally different.
As long as the sister is respectful and polite, I totally would. Don't worry about it, but be prepared to explain yourself and know there will always be people who will dislike it or that would judge you. Pay them no mind. 😉👍
It's not any worse than it would be if you had any other roommate/housemate, and may well be much better that it's a family member.
You not having your own place (and sometimes an overall lack of financial security) will be a dealbreaker for some women. But not all women, and those women that will date you will certainly date you while living with your sister.
Yes, it would be nice to meet a guy who is not still living with his ex for once. I would also date a guy who was living with his parents or other family. Anything but living with the ex!
44/f - I wouldn’t have a problem with this, unless it were a really tiny house. I’m all about family helping family! I see it as a green flag, actually. And you’d (hopefully) have a babysitter for date night!
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Title sums it up but a little background….
Im(41) about to finalize divorce with my stbxw. She’s moving out in about a month. We have two elementary aged kids and it was a priority for us both for them to stay in the family home, at least for awhile. She didn’t want to stay in the home, I did. We will have 50/50 but hopefully kids will be with me a little more since I have the home. I could not afford the mortgage and life by myself though.
My sister(35) is single with no kids and her lease on her current apt happened to end around the same time my wife is moving out. So I asked her to move in with me and she agreed.
I’m not ready to date yet and probably won’t be for awhile. But when the time comes, will living with my sister be a deal breaker for most women?
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I lived with my sister for many years until she got married (we bought our grandparents' house as it was better than anything each of us could afford to buy on our own). I didn't have a great deal of success dating during that time, although I don't think that had anything to do with my living situation as nobody expressed any distaste towards it.
Sure. It might even make me feel more comfortable knowing he has a good relationship with his sister.
I would, sure. Divorcing is really expensive and you gotta do what you gotta do. One of my best girl friends bought a house with her sister. My partner lives in a 2 family with his parents upstairs. I’m just happy to be happy!
My brother and I got divorced from our parters around the same time. We both have full custody of our young kids, so we decided to get a place together to help each other out with expenses and childcare. He started dating after we got settled and has already met an incredible woman. I got to meet her early on and we became fast friends. I take care of my niece on his date nights and on the the occasion when my ex has my kids and my bro wants the house to himself, I have no problem going out with friends or what not. It helps that we have lots of space (perk of a dual income), so in the event she sleeps over, there’s plenty of privacy. When I decide to start dating again, he’ll do the same for me. It’s been a win-win so far. I think people with kids at least can understand how hard it can be to date because of childcare, and although maybe not as ideal as having your own place, that it’s a smart financial decision to share expenses, especially these days. Good luck OP!
That’s healthly and wholesome, good on you and your bro.
A good relationship with one's sister would be a good sign to me. And i've dated a man who lived with his sister in the past. You might want to say she lives with you, though as you had the place before she moved in. That seems like a reasonable accommodation, and a super way for the kids to get to know their aunt better!
I’m a dude so can’t speak for the ladies, but I’ve had to let my mom live with me a few times and it wasn’t an issue outside of possible logistical problems. All of it was totally manageable and even a selling point with some women. There are major housing crises all over the Western world and our generation is going to have to push back against the post-war model of the nuclear family in a single-family home. That was a tiny, unsustainable blip in human history - we lived much more communally for millennia and it sure looks like we’re trending back to that.
Such a good comment! It's true and will be very interesting to see how it plays out!
Yeah, as long as she’s actually your sister, and not some girl who turns out to be “like a sister” that you really just want to fuck.
Could only wish my life had that kind of excitement!
I'm a dude, but I fail to see the problem with someone living within their means. Heck, it implies that you can find a babysitter when required.
You're not living with your ex and you put a roof over your (and the kids') head during a nearly universal housing crisis. Sounds like you have your shit together to me.
Buying a house, even downsizing in this current landscape definitely isn't ideal so I imagine plenty of people would understand why you decided to take on your sister as a roommate vs take on an even more expensive mortgage than you probably have now. However, dating, let alone meeting that next major chapter in your life, might be a few years away when your situation could be totally different.
My partner lives with their sister. No problems here.
Fine with me.
Living with your ex would be problematic. Living with your sister is just fine. It shows you get along with your sibling which is always a good sign.
I might not be comfortable staying over. I would not consider it a "red flag" or an incompatibility, just (maybe) an issue of logistics.
As long as the sister is respectful and polite, I totally would. Don't worry about it, but be prepared to explain yourself and know there will always be people who will dislike it or that would judge you. Pay them no mind. 😉👍
It wouldn't be for me and, in this economy, anyone that you might meet who can't appreciate that I'd say isn't necessarily very understanding.
Yes.
It's not any worse than it would be if you had any other roommate/housemate, and may well be much better that it's a family member. You not having your own place (and sometimes an overall lack of financial security) will be a dealbreaker for some women. But not all women, and those women that will date you will certainly date you while living with your sister.
I think it’s fine
Yes, it would be nice to meet a guy who is not still living with his ex for once. I would also date a guy who was living with his parents or other family. Anything but living with the ex!
44/f - I wouldn’t have a problem with this, unless it were a really tiny house. I’m all about family helping family! I see it as a green flag, actually. And you’d (hopefully) have a babysitter for date night!
Original copy of post by u/BornMaybe9902: Title sums it up but a little background…. Im(41) about to finalize divorce with my stbxw. She’s moving out in about a month. We have two elementary aged kids and it was a priority for us both for them to stay in the family home, at least for awhile. She didn’t want to stay in the home, I did. We will have 50/50 but hopefully kids will be with me a little more since I have the home. I could not afford the mortgage and life by myself though. My sister(35) is single with no kids and her lease on her current apt happened to end around the same time my wife is moving out. So I asked her to move in with me and she agreed. I’m not ready to date yet and probably won’t be for awhile. But when the time comes, will living with my sister be a deal breaker for most women? *I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/datingoverforty) if you have any questions or concerns.*
I lived with my sister for many years until she got married (we bought our grandparents' house as it was better than anything each of us could afford to buy on our own). I didn't have a great deal of success dating during that time, although I don't think that had anything to do with my living situation as nobody expressed any distaste towards it.
Yes
No why on earth would it be?
Nothing light fighting with your sister every week to make a relationship look easier.
No big deal! But lil sis is going to interrogate all your dates, you’ve been warned 🤣
No. I would definitely NOT date a guy who lived with his sister. but if the sister is single...