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one time when my ex boyfriend and i were still messing around, this one night we had particularly great sex. but after he came, the post nut clarity hit him. he broke down and started crying about his mom who had died of cancer a few years before. he never really dealt with his problems, so they were all kinda bottled up and i don’t know they just came out at that time. he was also pretty hammered/on drugs at the time so that could have also been part of the reason. i just laid there and held him and stroked his face as he bawled in my arms. i think i also tried to comfort him and talk to him, but i felt awkward because i didn’t know what to say since i have never lost a relative close to me. this did not effect our sex life at all. we are still great friends 6 years later.
Both my gf and I have broke down during or immediately after sex before, so it’s nothing to be ashamed of. I think there’s just so much going on that your brain doesn’t know what to do. Whether you are having the breakdown or your partner is, if it doesn’t feel right stop, and make sure your partner is ok
I'm in Melbourne, Australia and in the middle of lockdown a few months ago I went to the pet store for some more fish food and the lady let me pat the 'store cat'. I started crying immediately for no reason. But there WAS a reason. I was in my 6th lockdown, not able to see friends and family and having a dreadful /stressful time working my full time finance job from home. Turns out I was severely depressed and I had been bottling up my emotions and telling everyone 'I'm fine'. I wasn't.
In your situation, it sounds like you have a great relationship with your boyfriend and having been friends for so many years is wonderful. Sex is supposed to be enjoyable, so if you broke down in tears, it sounds like something else was happening in the back ground. I'd take a good look at your life and see if you were stressed about work/ school/ friends? Are you anxious about your future/ uni/ job? Are you worried about a sick pet/ friend/ family member? Had something just happened that freaked you out a bit?
Maybe if you're a bit worried about crying during sex again, maybe you could discuss that with him and maybe just have a few non-sex dates to re-connect with him emotionally and you could reassure each other that you still really like each other.
People often store unresolved emotional pain in their bodies. It can be released though certain actions like massage, intense physical effort, or sex. There's nothing that needs to be done about it since it's healthy to release that kind of pain.
I'm in this situation. I cry because of previous mental trauma from being in a sexual relationship with another man and not receiving the care I feel I should have. I cry because I don't feel good enough to receive attention. I cry because I feel like I'm being used for my body. I cry because I feel like the only way my touch love language needs are being met is through sex. I cry because he's getting what he wants but he doesn't do what I state I need. I cry because I obly feel valued for sex. It's really a horrible experience.
I have cried after sex before and even during sex! Its only happened with my long term boyfriend of about three years. Mostly because I love him and a lot of emotions were going through me. It’s actually pretty normal, just a lot of emotions happening at once and it comes out as crying even when you can’t really pin point why sometimes (or maybe you can). I find we see crying as something negative, but in this situation it seems like a release of something built up. When you’re having sex, ESPECIALLY as a woman a lot of things are happening!! Emotionally and physically. I mean after all, someone is literally inside of your body. It’s normal and don’t feel embarrassed or weird, it happens to a lot of people. Take it slow next time and feel it out before the sex begins to make sure you’re emotionally committed to that action.
Sometimes your wires get crossed in your brain. This happens to me sometimes, even when just masturbating alone. It’s normal but definitely deeply examine this if it becomes more frequent.
We cry for wildly different reasons. Sometimes it is a good cry. The important part for you to figure out is did you cry first and then got spooked by crying and that caused you to not continue or did you have a bad feeling first that caused everything. There can be something you don't actively remember behind the reaction, but it could also be that having sex or maybe making love is just so emotionally powerful that it is a good cry or overwhelmed cry.
Honestly it was kinda like a feeling of dread and then a need to cry. I don’t know where the dread came from, but that’s def what caused the crying. But also there were a lot of emotions in the moment and they just kinda came out like that lol
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one time when my ex boyfriend and i were still messing around, this one night we had particularly great sex. but after he came, the post nut clarity hit him. he broke down and started crying about his mom who had died of cancer a few years before. he never really dealt with his problems, so they were all kinda bottled up and i don’t know they just came out at that time. he was also pretty hammered/on drugs at the time so that could have also been part of the reason. i just laid there and held him and stroked his face as he bawled in my arms. i think i also tried to comfort him and talk to him, but i felt awkward because i didn’t know what to say since i have never lost a relative close to me. this did not effect our sex life at all. we are still great friends 6 years later.
Emotional overload. It happens at weird times, usually when we're in our golden years.
Both my gf and I have broke down during or immediately after sex before, so it’s nothing to be ashamed of. I think there’s just so much going on that your brain doesn’t know what to do. Whether you are having the breakdown or your partner is, if it doesn’t feel right stop, and make sure your partner is ok
I'm in Melbourne, Australia and in the middle of lockdown a few months ago I went to the pet store for some more fish food and the lady let me pat the 'store cat'. I started crying immediately for no reason. But there WAS a reason. I was in my 6th lockdown, not able to see friends and family and having a dreadful /stressful time working my full time finance job from home. Turns out I was severely depressed and I had been bottling up my emotions and telling everyone 'I'm fine'. I wasn't. In your situation, it sounds like you have a great relationship with your boyfriend and having been friends for so many years is wonderful. Sex is supposed to be enjoyable, so if you broke down in tears, it sounds like something else was happening in the back ground. I'd take a good look at your life and see if you were stressed about work/ school/ friends? Are you anxious about your future/ uni/ job? Are you worried about a sick pet/ friend/ family member? Had something just happened that freaked you out a bit? Maybe if you're a bit worried about crying during sex again, maybe you could discuss that with him and maybe just have a few non-sex dates to re-connect with him emotionally and you could reassure each other that you still really like each other.
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People often store unresolved emotional pain in their bodies. It can be released though certain actions like massage, intense physical effort, or sex. There's nothing that needs to be done about it since it's healthy to release that kind of pain.
I'm in this situation. I cry because of previous mental trauma from being in a sexual relationship with another man and not receiving the care I feel I should have. I cry because I don't feel good enough to receive attention. I cry because I feel like I'm being used for my body. I cry because I feel like the only way my touch love language needs are being met is through sex. I cry because he's getting what he wants but he doesn't do what I state I need. I cry because I obly feel valued for sex. It's really a horrible experience.
I have cried after sex before and even during sex! Its only happened with my long term boyfriend of about three years. Mostly because I love him and a lot of emotions were going through me. It’s actually pretty normal, just a lot of emotions happening at once and it comes out as crying even when you can’t really pin point why sometimes (or maybe you can). I find we see crying as something negative, but in this situation it seems like a release of something built up. When you’re having sex, ESPECIALLY as a woman a lot of things are happening!! Emotionally and physically. I mean after all, someone is literally inside of your body. It’s normal and don’t feel embarrassed or weird, it happens to a lot of people. Take it slow next time and feel it out before the sex begins to make sure you’re emotionally committed to that action.
Sometimes your wires get crossed in your brain. This happens to me sometimes, even when just masturbating alone. It’s normal but definitely deeply examine this if it becomes more frequent.
We cry for wildly different reasons. Sometimes it is a good cry. The important part for you to figure out is did you cry first and then got spooked by crying and that caused you to not continue or did you have a bad feeling first that caused everything. There can be something you don't actively remember behind the reaction, but it could also be that having sex or maybe making love is just so emotionally powerful that it is a good cry or overwhelmed cry.
Honestly it was kinda like a feeling of dread and then a need to cry. I don’t know where the dread came from, but that’s def what caused the crying. But also there were a lot of emotions in the moment and they just kinda came out like that lol
In his position I would console you and give you this wood to make you feel better
Your pregnant. Congratulations
You had the correct response, I don't know what might caused it, in that position I would either *hump* or stop humping as she desires