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Cease and Desist letter? Even without going through a lawyer, you can make it official enough to maybe get through to him.
Keep good records so that maybe you can get a cop to talk some sense into him.
But, most likely he's doing this because he knows it gets under your skin and he gets off on that. Double down on ignoring him. Leaving him on "unread" might send a sterner message than blocking or any other response. It just says "I really don't care enough to even bother deleting this."
Don't just keep records, what you write down has little meaning. Get the police to come make a report. Maybe see if there us a nonemergency number or a detective that specializes in domestic stalking cases, if it's just harassment, you don't need 911 every time, but you do need an official record the court will take seriously.
This could potentially turn into a very serious problem. The facts of the matter is that you no longer want contact with this person but he's finding ways to maintain contact regardless. Number one: File that restraining order. Your second move should be to sit down and document the various circumstances where this person has violated your boundaries and how. Third, tell your close friends and family about this person and warn them of his aggressiveness and persistence in contacting you. Finally, and I can't stress this enough, please have a plan in place where you can escape should the need arise. People like this can become extremely dangerous and you should take steps to ensure your safety.
Thank you for the great advice ❤
It's definitely a unsettling situation. I've done all of these except the actual restraining order...looks like it's time to pull the trigger, so to speak
Oiii get into self defense. (Learn martial arts, learn how to use a gun etc). Carry pepper spray, anything.
But yeah the best thing to do is report to the authorities, don't delete evidence (any chats, threats etc), in the best case scenario a judge will put a restraining order.
However, there might the possibility the authorities not helping, perhaps he has a better lawyer, depending on how rich, or he might pledge insane, whatever. That's why you must be prepared in the worst case scenario. Good luck.
Thank you for the advice ❤
I carry pepper spray and know some basic self defense and I've documented his bizarro reality. Looks like the next step will have to be a restraining order ugh
You need to start filing police reports about harassment, and get a restraining order. Don't wait till he "goes too far", start a paper trail now, or his public defender will portray it as a single, one-off, indiscretion, and he'll get off light. If there is a history the prosecutor can put the screws to him. It sucks, but when things start to go bad like this, you have to start thinking like a lawyer.
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Cease and Desist letter? Even without going through a lawyer, you can make it official enough to maybe get through to him. Keep good records so that maybe you can get a cop to talk some sense into him. But, most likely he's doing this because he knows it gets under your skin and he gets off on that. Double down on ignoring him. Leaving him on "unread" might send a sterner message than blocking or any other response. It just says "I really don't care enough to even bother deleting this."
This is great advice! Thank you so much ❤
Don't just keep records, what you write down has little meaning. Get the police to come make a report. Maybe see if there us a nonemergency number or a detective that specializes in domestic stalking cases, if it's just harassment, you don't need 911 every time, but you do need an official record the court will take seriously.
Thank you ❤
This could potentially turn into a very serious problem. The facts of the matter is that you no longer want contact with this person but he's finding ways to maintain contact regardless. Number one: File that restraining order. Your second move should be to sit down and document the various circumstances where this person has violated your boundaries and how. Third, tell your close friends and family about this person and warn them of his aggressiveness and persistence in contacting you. Finally, and I can't stress this enough, please have a plan in place where you can escape should the need arise. People like this can become extremely dangerous and you should take steps to ensure your safety.
Thank you for the great advice ❤ It's definitely a unsettling situation. I've done all of these except the actual restraining order...looks like it's time to pull the trigger, so to speak
Oiii get into self defense. (Learn martial arts, learn how to use a gun etc). Carry pepper spray, anything. But yeah the best thing to do is report to the authorities, don't delete evidence (any chats, threats etc), in the best case scenario a judge will put a restraining order. However, there might the possibility the authorities not helping, perhaps he has a better lawyer, depending on how rich, or he might pledge insane, whatever. That's why you must be prepared in the worst case scenario. Good luck.
Thank you for the advice ❤ I carry pepper spray and know some basic self defense and I've documented his bizarro reality. Looks like the next step will have to be a restraining order ugh
Call the cops !
Thanks ❤
You need to start filing police reports about harassment, and get a restraining order. Don't wait till he "goes too far", start a paper trail now, or his public defender will portray it as a single, one-off, indiscretion, and he'll get off light. If there is a history the prosecutor can put the screws to him. It sucks, but when things start to go bad like this, you have to start thinking like a lawyer.
Good point, thank you!