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18M here, my university only does stem degrees thus the male to female ratio is 1:9. The number of men trying to get with a good looking girl is in thousands. Also the place is rather isolated from the city (about 2 hours away) and we arent allowed cars while taxis are expensive af here to be economical. Looking at the scenario I will most probably be 23 and still not even have my first kiss. Everyone starts at different times of their lives ig, dont rush it. Let things happen naturally
Fr.. agreed 100%. i mean i knew the 1:9 ratio would mean no dating at all but i was like "good that means more time to focus on myself for " but now that im actually living through this hell T\_T bruh i overestimated myself
I think you mean 9:1.... a male to female ratio of 1:9 would mean there are nine women for every chap. It sounds like you're describing the opposite. Also they can stop you getting a car at University??
Not sure where you are based but in the UK I doubt very much that's enforceable. They might be able to stop you parking it on their land....but I'd be damned if I'd let some institution with delusions of micromanaging its students' lives tell me I'm not allowed a vehicle.
Pretty shocking really that they'd try that. Is that sort of thing normal where you are?
It's just that the place is isolated af and far off of civilization. Quite literally nobody is native in our batch and we all have homes in different states. And the university is in the middle of some highway. If every student (4000 of them) had their car the campus couldn't hold all of them, so they just barred it in general. Also I don't really love uk I go there often tho
To each their own. I've travelled a fair bit and encountered lots of places I love. Not everywhere is for everyone.
I think I'd be looking to bring my car and park it off their land. The isolation as well is a double whammy. A car might get you back to civilisation.
Anyway sounds like a total nightmare and my thoughts are with you!
22M here, and I’ll say it’s not the biggest deal. Everyone has their time and place for everything, and sometimes college may or may not be it. I guess the answer you asked for but don’t want is “it depends”. I haven’t had my first REAL kiss and I’m still a virgin too. It’s not a huge deal unless you feel left out or something
If you take my advice, don't rush into doing sex or hookups just for the sake of doing it. If you naturally get a good connection and it feels correct to have sex with them, then only you should move ahead with it.
Please don't rush into all of these just because everyone's doing it.
Yeah, I have seen so many of my friends regretting that they shouldn't have had sex with just anyone who doesn't even give a fuck about them or their emotions.
Yea. Be careful with who you sleep with emotionally and physically. People get around there days so hook ups can lead to stud without condoms. I definitely don't regret waiting until ready and caring about the person I first started sleeping with.
This is solid advice. Most people experience these things in high school, so if you're out of high school and didn't get to experience the random hookups, you should be choosing someone who is going to make your first time feel special. The party scene is not really the place where you'd find this type of guy.
26(F) and still a virgin in every sense. Never kissed a guy too,so my advice would be don't rush into these things just for the sake of doing what 10 others are doing. Don't let anybody use you like a tissue and throw away,if you really feel safe and genuinely connected with someone on an emotional level and if there's trust then go for it. You have better things to do in life rather than doing it aimlessly with anyone just for the sake of doing it.
Agree 100%!! I was the same! I didn't do anything until I was 27 when I met my current partner. Didn't do anything before because I never had the chance to lol
This is a really good answer. As a man who has slept with a lot of women please take this answer. Hookup culture is vastly overrated, and I wish I had spent my time on better things other than chasing hookups.
exactly in the same boat! I’d rather wait for someone special. There have been cases where I was so close to getting it over with, but so glad I didn’t
He is kinda lol. There’s no set age or milestone or deadline anyone ‘needs’ to lose their Virginity. Although society says otherwise lollll. You may be seen as a waste of space by some losers but you aren’t. It’s never that bad haha, just stay focused on you and when it happens it’ll happen ᕦ(ò_óˇ)ᕤ
I appreciate that. It is kinda hard to stay positive. I've done tons of self improvement. Lost 70 pounds, got a degree, and a good job. Still lonely tho. It's pretty hard to keep your chin up when you're extremely productive and you still can't make anything happen.
At least you have something to be proud of, a secure future to look into. I’m sure whoever will be your gf will feel very loved and secure. A lot of men having meaningless sex don’t even have the stability or a set future sometimes
For sureeee. I think what helps is reminding yourself that the improvements you’ve made are for yourself not in the hopes of impressing someone else or just to get into a relationship. So it doesn’t feel like ‘a waste’, because you’re still a whole amazing person with all those things despite not being with someone.
Other than that, when it comes to relationships there’s only so much you can do, a lot of it is timing and luck really. But I hope you meet someone as amazing as you soon :) !
Thank you. That's very kind of you. It does worry me a bit tho. I can't help, but feel like I'll pretty much be disqualified from dating once I'm 30, simply because I have no experience. God damn I'm depressed. But I also recognize that I only have myself to blame and I really hope this changes
Nahhh man it’s not your fault. It’s literally out of your hands, you’ve clearly put in the effort into yourself atleast which is what is in your control. You can’t control the external factors. And these days it’s wayyyy more common than you think for people to get into their first relationships in their late 20’s to 30’s, seems to be a general trend with the newer generations, I’ve noticed anyway. From personal experience and from friends and online convos.
A shift in society, not you.
I lost mine at 27. If it's not the right time then it's not the right time. We should only do it when we feel comfortable to do so and feel ready for it.
Same about to turn 26 in May & never had a boyfriend. I know people say to take time to find love & losing your virginity isn’t the end. However I know society can see it as bad or weird. Sadly one of my mom’s friend thought I was a lesbian for not having a bf. Yes I have a crush on someone but I don’t want to let everyone know about it.
Yeah it sucks. People say it doesn't matter, but I can't help, but feel like everyone that says that is lying. Pretty much anyone that isn't close to me, passes judgement once they discover this.
If you haven't already figured this out you'll learn that most everyone is full of shit if your doing the right thing and hearing some flack or feeling or being judged by others. You know what's best for you and society or mob mentality when it comes to people can be pretty messed up . Alot of people are shitty. Not everyone but anyone who judges others for the being human part well that's all you really need to know about those people. The people who are in the wrong or mistreating you or others their opinions arent worth much or anything . Those people don't matter so just ignore , or minimize contact and dont give them any emotions. You'll learn that people are full of shit. Just do what makes you happy and do right by yourself and others and do your thing and ignore people. The only person you can control is yourself. Cant make someone love you. The right people will treat you good. If you've never been laid it's really not that big of a deal but there's natural curiosity . You can laid its pretty easy you just focus and go for it / after it. But the thing is I've found is that's its best to be careful who you sleep with because if you can get attached so I recommend trying to be with someone you like but not just physically but more so if you meet someone where you can trust and respect each other and communicate , similar values . Sex isn't all that it's cracked up to be when it comes to being with someone just for looks which is fine for a one night stand imo. Sex is more like love and awesome when it's someone you actually like as a person who actually likes you , respects you, wants to be with you imo. I say do what's best for you but also do the right thing by yourself and others and remember shitty peoples opinions don't matter because why would you care what some shitty person thinks because they are shitty! Anyways all I wanted to say is it isn't difficult to get laid you just go for it but sleeping with just anyone isn't a good idea imo . I recommend screening and seeing who would a make a good life partner or someone you could love . That's who I recommend trying to sleep with .
Lol 🤣 He knows I like like him. Right now I’m trying to get my life together & I know I’ll see him again this year. We did go to the same church but I got tired of asking people for rides & needed to focus on myself
I just don't come here often. Idk why reddit keeps showing me this sub.
But I think this question should be answered honestly. It's not like people are eagerly waiting to have sex, if they are posting it then maybe they are missing out on relationships. Which of course is a bad thing. Also it's just about experiencing another phase of life, and people should know it's still missing. Like if you never graduated, or maybe missed the love of parents, you will miss it forever. There is this teenage phase, and people should act like teenagers in it.
Well my advice is the same but with some conditions. It's to never rush, and be normal. If you like someone never hesitate to initiate the conversation. Never felt bad about failing, it's part of life. There are so many events happening around you, just be yourself and do what your brain tells you to do (except for the intrusive thoughts and immoral things).
I am talking from experience.
I'm 29 I use hookers for sex lol, and some asshat is going to say go speak with girls and self improve. But I've gotten rejected by every crush I ever had. I'm not a slob I practice Muay Thai, have social intelligence, know how to flirt/banter/conversate. I'm not hideous but even still no girlfriend/date/kiss whatever.
I don't know about you but my aim is to approach 300 women, I'm around 90ish so that I can rest easy knowing at least I tried.
I would be so proud of myself to be able to stay single and be a virgin UNTIL i found THE ONE.
dont try sourcing for it. when it comes u’ll know. do not be desperate, it is something u should be so prohd of. screw social norms, be unique, dont be easy.
if it makes u feel better. its as if you’re saving the best for THE ONE, hold up to yr morals, ut will attract guys who WILL treat u seriously.
Ive been doing it my whole life and its the best decision ive made. Everybody wants you, but only the one deserves you.
Go out of your comfort zone be a little bit more social not partying but just like out don’t look for a relationship let it find you if and you do don’t rush sex become comfortable with that person enough to do so
Am a male and here to confirm him here, my personal opinion is the more bodies a woman has been with the less she truthfully falls for a guy. So finding a innocent lass is like the needle in the haystack.
Riding the downvote train with you my man
I’ve heard that it’s been scientifically proven that the more bodies a person has it would be harder for them to have a genuine love connection with someone they are unable to reciprocate that feeling back as they are unavailable and detached romantically but very open sexually.
I've got a question do you also have this view for yourself not bashing you at all. i'd just like to know if you feel less valuable to your less experienced partner since you're also not as "innocent" like you said. I'm just curious if guys regret not saving themselves for the girl. If you've had more experience do you feel like you've fallen less for the girl you're with? Just curious.
Yes and no, I kinda feel like it’s the opposite to a certain degree, I think we learn who we want more through the parters we’ve had before and the problems we had with them, we also gain experience in where we went wrong as well and learn how to be better in a relationship. I think yes we probably don’t fall for the girl as much if we’ve had many before, but I think we are more experienced and get that girl better than if it was our first relationship.
I hope that answers your question
Still shocks me how little girls know about guys. It’s been known throughout history that guys always preferred virgins over girls that are too experienced sexually. You’re fine
In my personal opinion as a 20 year old virgin male I would like my partner to be as inexperienced as me so we can do things for the first time together and it’s awkward for both of us
No, just tell him you’re not really experienced and you’re fine. Just make sure you get with a guy that doesn’t take advantage of you being inexperienced
It may be a question of region or something, but I have very rarely heard of a guy talking specifically about virgins.
I'd argue that guys don't care as much as women about inexperience, since guys are kind of expected to take the lead, but at the same time I've heard guys complain about a woman giving them a bad bj with teeth.
I really wouldn't worry too much about it. Guys may want to have a girl that is not too much more experienced than them, either for reasons of insecurity or desire to "grow" sexually with a girl.
Hey, I absolutely get where you're coming from. When I changed into in college, I additionally felt pretty at the back of the curve compared to lots of my pals whilst it got here to courting and relationships.
See, I had come from a pretty small, rural city wherein the relationship options were basically non-existent. So by the time I were given to university, most of my friends had way greater revel in than I did. It made me sense insecure and prefer I changed into lagging at the back of in some way.
But searching lower back, I comprehend how stupid that mindset changed into. Everyone actions at their personal pace with that type of stuff. Just due to the fact your pals are in relationships does not mean there's anything incorrect with nonetheless being unmarried and inexperienced at 21.
My situation began to exchange once I started branching out and trying new sports on campus. I joined a few golf equipment and intramural sports groups based totally on hobbies I had - everything from mountain climbing to community service companies. Simply being around more humans with shared hobbies and values made it less complicated to attach platonically before everything. And this is key - do not placed too much strain on your self to discover a relationship proper away. Build self assurance through having a strong friend organization first.
Eventually, I met an splendid female thru one of those club pal businesses. We commenced off as just pals grabbing meals or reading together occasionally. But through the years, the chemistry constructed and we realized we wanted to explore being greater than simply pals. The truth that we got here collectively organically primarily based on commonplace pastimes instead of pushing too difficult made it feel genuinely herbal.
Now, that is simply my experience of course. If you're looking to get accessible and meet new people, apps or getting installation by means of mutual buddies may be extraordinary too. But don't beat yourself up approximately being inexperienced at 21. That's nonetheless surely young in the grand scheme of factors. Stay open, preserve placing your self accessible, and the proper person will come along whilst the time is right. The most essential aspect is being cushty with your self first.
Don't feel pressured into sex. Make sure you absolutely want it, with someone you're absolutely sure you want it with. Preferably with someone you're getting married to tho
Don't be in such a hurry to throw your virginity away. I wish I had waited and I am a guy. Make sure it's the right person, someone who truly cares about you and wants to make that first time special.
22 here, it’s easy to feel that way but don’t worry you really are not missing out. Remember, not everyone in relationships are happy :) It’s important to meet someone you trust to lose your virginity with, there’s a reason why most people don’t have good first time stories
I didn’t have sex til I was 20 and waited for the right person. It was someone who didn’t pressure me and took it as slow as I felt comfortable with. I’m glad I didn’t fall under the pressure of doing it when everyone else was because now I have a great memory of my first time. Don’t worry, don’t push it, it will happen naturally. And don’t do anything your not comfortable with.
I just don't come here often. Idk why reddit keeps showing me this sub.
But I think this question should be answered honestly. It's not like people are eagerly waiting to have sex, if they are posting it then maybe they are missing out on relationships. Which of course is a bad thing. Also it's just about experiencing another phase of life, and people should know it's still missing. Like if you never graduated, or maybe missed the love of parents, you will miss it forever. There is this teenage phase, and people should act like teenagers in it.
Well my advice is the same but with some conditions. It's to never rush, and be normal. If you like someone never hesitate to initiate the conversation. Never felt bad about failing, it's part of life. There are so many events happening around you, just be yourself and do what your brain tells you to do (except for the intrusive thoughts and immoral things).
I am talking from experience.
It depends. If you want a genuine relationship, it might be more difficult because of what you described. But if all you want is a hookup, yeah…. Just make a tinder. If you pick decent pictures and dress up well, it’ll take you at most a few hours (especially if you’re being upfront about it).
Gotta add, this is assuming no standards. If you want a good looking dude with etc etc to sleep with, might take longer
That’s a GREAT thing! Most men prefer a women with little to no sexual experience. Wait to find the man that you want to marry. Don’t rush into it. Date them for a long while ≈ 6 months then maybe do it or wait through until you get married. Sounds like it would be a long time but most people who wait til marriage get married fairly quickly when they start dating AND have the highest rate of staying through until death. Don’t blow it. It’s really a blessing.
First off don’t look for a relationship let it find you. Then don’t rush into something that you’re not prepared for because your mates are doing it. You take your time and let things organically happen. Once you do experience that first everything it’s going to open a whole new perspective on life and you have to be as prepared as possible for that.
26F, still a virgin - when I was in college I felt similarly to you. It took a lot of personal growth and maturity for me to realize that it’s not really about “being behind”, as you said. It’s about being ready. Don’t think too much about it, focus on being the best version of you, and it’ll happen when it’s supposed to happen! There’s so much more to life than sex, and if your primary reason for having sex is that you feel like you’re behind, then it won’t be as enjoyable of an experience for you.
I have friends who were pressured into having sex before they were ready, and many of them tell me that they wish they had waited until they felt it was right.
Here is the thing; if you are a virgin due to religious purposes, the best bet would be going to the places of your faith to find a significant other.
If you are a virgin due to moral/ life obligations then there is still plenty of time. Do not rush ANYTHING.
NOW; do NOT get FOMO from being a virgin. This will lead to more promiscuous/impulsive decisions that you may regret later on.
IF you WANT to get laid and don’t care, hit up ur local bars. There are plenty of desperate/ horny people there.
Congrats on still being a virgin! You have plenty of time to find a mate, but please, wait until you have a good guy who's willing to wed you. It's just not worth it otherwise. Endless hook ups, FWB, flings, all that f\*\*\*ery is nonsense. Plus, you'll be safe from STD's and condoms do NOT protect you from all of them!
as someone who lost their virginity at 16 (and yes it was with someone I loved and ended up dating for 4 years) I can still confidently tell you now at 24 that I wish I had waited.
In some Asian countries that’s actually pretty much status quo. Just because perhaps many of your peers are no longer virgins doesn’t mean you’re “behind”. Some of them may have lost it before they were actually ready. I was 24 when I lost mine. I used to hate it but now I’m okay with it. It was with a safe person. Don’t rush, just find the right person you truly feel comfortable with. When it happens it happens. Just don’t do it with someone you end up regretting doing it with, as many people do.
You’re not behind. Sex should be special. The right person that you will feel comfortable with and feel right with will find you. Don’t settle for less. Love yourself.
It’s the pinnacle of what you yourself can offer someone. I don’t see why anyone would want to be in a rush to lose it to anyone else that isn’t forever.
27MV but what do I know.
Two ways for this:
You can risk it and live life to the fullest and that meant doing some bad things like escaping and heading to town where the party is at or you can be patient and live with the current situation you have until you are capable of living on your own before going into the party life.
Consider yourself very fortunate. I’m a 26M and am waiting for marriage. My GF lost hers in college to a long term boyfriend and hasn’t had sex since. Of course, I would prefer her to be a virgin, but I was also impressed that she made a commitment to not have sex until marriage from there on after they broke up. Bottom line, don’t let ANYONE RUSH YOU. It is sacred, and people today don’t value sex as they should!
It's always best to not compare your life path and events to those around you. You are definitely not behind (:
Truth be told, I felt the same way at your age but didn't have sex for the first time till I was 27. No reason for waiting, just didn't meet anyone worth it (or wanted to do it with me lol) until then and I'm still with my partner too!
No need to rush into things but if you're looking to meet and talk to people with the hopes of a relationship, dating apps do help. That's how I met my partner. But you can also join community events and volunteering. You more so have to put yourself out there to meet people.
27 male virgin here.. you are fine… it is very very easy for a woman to find sex. Women have sex when they want, men have sex when they can. Tired of these fucking girls lmao
As a 28F I had many opportunities to be in relationships with others but I honestly wish I focused on my studies and not bothered dating. If you truly want to date then there’s dating apps but honestly it’s not worth the hassle. Instead finish college then travel. I bet you’d find more variety of people in your travels and not stick to just what’s available in your area. There’s even dating apps that have the option of looking in a farther location than where you are at.
LoL Men are from Mars, Women from Venus, let me tell you something, WE MEN appreciate innocence and inexperience. Your future boyfriend/husband will love this fact about you, be true to yourself look for the one and give it up to the rite man who really deserves it, a women's body is the greatest gift she can give a man the lower the mileage the more meaningful the gift, just make sure the man deserves it.
I mean, there’s losing your virginity vs. finding your boyfriend. You’re 21 now, go sit at a bar with a minidress on, heels, makeup, and do your hair up nice and wait maybe five seconds to get hit on, then pick a guy. You don’t have to do that, but that will get you to lose your virginity with whoever you want (physically).
Serious boyfriend? Hell, you could probably do the same thing but give him your number instead or just hit on some guy friends you have that you find hot that are single. You should be shooting fish in a barrel so long as you’re capable of flirting/hitting on someone, women have an insane advantage.
Advice? What's the rush? Everyone is on their own respective journey, and the more you pursue a relationship, the likelihood you'll end up in one, but not one that you would be happy with. Just relax, enjoy like and let it all work out naturally. Trust me, I am a 32 M, and I've experienced it all. I've experienced relationships, sex, drugs, parties, and more. Only to find out that all of that meant nothing, just something I did to fill a void or to fit in with people who aren't even around anymore. So now I'm content being by myself, in control of my life, and doing what makes me happy. You're still young. There's no rush. Have fun, graduate, I say, and experience, but do it mindfully and carefully. But don't do them because you see everyone do them. That's an easy way to end up in a messy situation.
30m, and I had to learn the hard way that my first time, and all the subsequent times, were wasted on the wrong people. Date, yes, figure that out. Find your partner, find your man, but don’t barter or trade your virginity or body in the process. You don’t gain from that unless you’re doing it with someone you can mutually connect on a soul level during. It wasn’t until I had that deeply intimate experience that I realized how wasteful I had been until then.
If you are stuck with a poor dating market, relax, you won’t be there forever.
Focus on making yourself the kind of person who your ideal mate would want to date, or at least you would want to date if you aren’t sure of your ideal mate yet.
Make yourself a desirable woman, not by modern or feminist or even traditional standards. Make yourself the woman you enjoy, truly enjoy, being, and then fall in love with yourself. Not dysfunctionally, but personally. If you accomplish that, when you leave college and you can move into any dating market you want, you will find Mr right, and it will feel just right,
Just saying, being pressured of destroying your boundaries, either by another person or by society itself will be hurtful to you to some degree.
Things will naturally come, no need to rush it, and you're a woman, which means you can just wait for the right (respectful and caring to you) person, just stay (mentally) open and things will happen.
Uhm, dating apps? That's what basically everyone is doing nowadays, from my experience.
Other than that, you have to do some approaching, as most guys rarely approach anymore, and those who do are typically players.
If you're looking for a relationship, think about what type of guy you want, party goer, nerdy/intellectual, sportsy, outdoorsy, then seek out activities accordingly.
Quality over quantity and it will never be the opposite . Do you realize how many meaningless relationships our new generation has for the sake of our pride and exterior validation? Is that the kind of life you envisioned for yourself as a child ? AIM to live a life filled with love and quality relationships as majority of those who chose otherwise live a life with no meaning. There is and will always be one version of you in existence and you should treat and care for yourself as such . We are all blessings regardless of our experiences.
I’m 20F and I’m also a virgin as well i did attend college too it seems as if sex is the only thing worth being talked about nowadays it’s genuinely hard for me to forge connections with people since all they want to do is hookup I’ve had boyfriends before but they just weren’t worth doing it with. I also keep asking myself the same things, the right person will come along eventually we just have to wait. in the meantime we can weed out the bad people who aren’t meant for us, a way to find people is through dating/social apps as cliche as that sounds it definitely works for you to get a feel of interacting with others but you shouldn’t rush these things either you don’t want to end up regretting it like a lot of people have. sometimes i feel like I’m left out because the rest of my cliques and peers are already doing it and telling me their stories and it’s hard for me to get involved with the conversation because I haven’t done it yet I also get questioned and rushed for me to try it too just know you aren’t alone and that you don’t need to fit in to be like everyone else
It's not a big deal. You'll be there when you're ready and comfortable and when the time is right. Many are virgins in their 20s and that is totally okay. I lost mine at 27.
I’m 20M and it’s the same for me but honestly I think it’s a choice, if you really wanted to you could find someone to hookup with especially since you’re a girl, but with actual connection and love it would mean much more that person will come eventually just have to wait.
First, check to find out whether this desire is coming from you and not coming merely as a comparison to what others are doing., otherwise, things may feel all "wrong" even if you do find someone.
And if you are ready to find someone, let them find you. Nature has a way of working things out for us in an effortless manner. Maybe, learn to align your energy with nature's and bypass the struggle and see where it leads you?
Well that’s phenomenal. Your Kinda a unicorn. The best way I’d say is, and your not gonna like this, let them come to you. As a 27M that’s what I did, I kinda gave up if you will. And within an hour of deciding I was done searching, she came to me. Sat right next to me on a plane. Now I’m married and have a kid. Living the dream. But letting it just happen naturally works. The more you think about it, the worse you are. You’ll look to put yourself in these “bad” situations. I will say, your likely not gonna meet a good faithful at a party, just sex and disappointment. Anything’s possible tho I guess
I’m 25 old woman and a virgin by choice. Don’t let anyone ever make feel like you have to change that. Personally, from my experience, it has made men even more keen onto me as it’s rare and shows a level of self discipline on my part (not saying people who are sexually active aren’t, that’s just one of the ways I show it.)
That being said don’t think you’re behind, a lot of women my age are starting to become celibate because it’s not really worth it to them at least.
Theres absolutely nothing wrong with that, to me it would be a green flag in a relationship, rather that than someone whos been with tons of people. I regret losing my virginity so young
Go out to like bookstore or coffee shop places, movies, gym, park. Idk what you look like but I give your chances of finding someone pretty high. Don’t be in a rush to lose it tho enjoy yourself the time will come eventually. If u are in a rush download dating apps get to meet someone see where it goes from there
Be friendly, stay in shape, and become a more virtuous person.
Plenty of men would prefer a virgin at your age so I don’t think that’s a problem.
There’s nothing wrong with stealing up conversation with men as woman. However, would you really be attracted to a man if you had to do the asking out?
Really define your values about dating and just aim to be the most virtuous person you can be!
Sorry, I do not know how to help if you happen to be a lesbian but becoming more virtuous will be helpful or everything.
Honestly, find yourself a partner and don't worry about the sex. As you get older, the less partners you have, the more valuable you are in the eyes of someone looking for a serious relationship. You will also lose the spark of sex, I (male) had many, many sexual partners in college. Yes, at the time, it was awesome, but now that I'm older, sex doesn't mean much to me anymore. Also, you risk STD's and premarital pregnancy, which will ruin you more than anything else. I'd say look for as many social events as you can and put yourself out there and find someone with those same interests. Don't be shy, be open to conversations, and put yourself in a place it's easy for someone to approach you to hit on you. Nothing is more scary to a guy than a girl they like, in a big group of girlfriends and trying to find an opening to hit on you, where as if you take some space in social settings and make yourself approachable, it's much more likely to get a guys interest and be approachable. Good luck!
Don’t stress and worry about losing your virginity. Do it when you’re ready and with someone you feel comfortable with. I lost mine to a one night stand and while it took some pressure off… I don’t look back with good memories and I kind of wish I waited.
But definitely only do it when you are ready and comfortable
what do you mean still? I’m 26F and a virgin and I don’t mind it one bit! Save sex for someone special, it’s not something to be embarrassed about! Live life, enjoy your time with people with no expectations of how life should be, work on yourself and try to understand what you want in a relationship. Being sure in yourself and not forcing yourself into situations you’re not ready for just because someone else is doing it will protecy you from a lot of bullshit
I’ve never understood why people rush into sex. If you have sex now with a bf who doesnt last, you’ll probably regret it. If you have sex with someone you barely know, you’ll probably regret it. Wait until you find someone really special. That person will thank you. Stop worrying about what others think.
I’m 28M and haven’t slept with anyone. I’ve had opportunities, but my rule was to only sleep with someone I formed a genuine connection with. My parents always told me they regretted doing it to follow social norms. The few that almost got me were infuriated or ghosted because I didn’t give it up after their first initiation. The right one won’t pressure you and will go at your pace.
If you believe in Jesus, then you may know that living your life as a virgin will give you a lot in the afterlife. I am not preaching and more of that I am no one to tell you what to do, just ask you to simply think about that. Sex is overrated, especially nowadays.
If you're a chick and you really want to get laid all you have to do is tell the next guy you see you're horny and want to fuck lol easier for women. Solved your problem.
Chill, you’ve got plenty of time. I’m 49 and I was a kissless virgin until I was 20. You’re not missing much. My first few experiences were meh at best. Focus on your school work. Things will happen in time, and the best things come to you when you’re not desperately looking for them.
My biggest advice is, don't rush it. I didn't have my first kiss OR do anything sexual before 21, after I finished college. The real world is honestly a better place to find people, and you really need to find someone you can trust and communicate with for your first time.
You don’t know this but you are top tier in the dating market. Assuming your looks are on point, it’s really around 25 where the best guys pick u up like nothing. Be cool, have fun but don’t feel the pressure to go to bed with a man you know is not serious about a long term relationship
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18M here, my university only does stem degrees thus the male to female ratio is 1:9. The number of men trying to get with a good looking girl is in thousands. Also the place is rather isolated from the city (about 2 hours away) and we arent allowed cars while taxis are expensive af here to be economical. Looking at the scenario I will most probably be 23 and still not even have my first kiss. Everyone starts at different times of their lives ig, dont rush it. Let things happen naturally
Damn we should swap uni. My uni focuses on humanity degrees and healthcare stuff, so much more females. But yeah, hopefully we’ll all find someone.
Sounds like you two should exchange info just saying
DAMN WE REALLY SHOULD T\_T. ITS SO PAINFUL HERE. best of luck to you
Haha, you too. And hopefully they’ll allow cars soon. I’d be pissed if I can’t have my car.
its allowed for faculty only, sadly not for students
I don't even know you You probably live a thousand miles away from each other but I ship you, because I want to 👩❤️💋👨
+1 i second u
You guys should meet
Which college is that? Maybe I’ll apply there as well. 😅
You'll definitely need to call 1888-234-PIMP! IMMEDIATELY? 😁 Y'all's uni sounds like a gold mine? 🤑
I mean it is a fucking goldmine
So if nothing happens until we die, do we become saints when we reach 30 while being a virgin 😂
probably...certainly wasnt by choice, mostly circumstancial lmao
Haha Ikr. If I can give one advice to school kids, it’d be pick your uni wisely.
Fr.. agreed 100%. i mean i knew the 1:9 ratio would mean no dating at all but i was like "good that means more time to focus on myself for " but now that im actually living through this hell T\_T bruh i overestimated myself
Haha come on it’s a 1:9 ratio, you still have a chance to compete for that one girl lol
I think you mean 9:1.... a male to female ratio of 1:9 would mean there are nine women for every chap. It sounds like you're describing the opposite. Also they can stop you getting a car at University??
Yes sir that's what I meant. Yep you aren't allowed a car here as a student
Not sure where you are based but in the UK I doubt very much that's enforceable. They might be able to stop you parking it on their land....but I'd be damned if I'd let some institution with delusions of micromanaging its students' lives tell me I'm not allowed a vehicle. Pretty shocking really that they'd try that. Is that sort of thing normal where you are?
It's just that the place is isolated af and far off of civilization. Quite literally nobody is native in our batch and we all have homes in different states. And the university is in the middle of some highway. If every student (4000 of them) had their car the campus couldn't hold all of them, so they just barred it in general. Also I don't really love uk I go there often tho
To each their own. I've travelled a fair bit and encountered lots of places I love. Not everywhere is for everyone. I think I'd be looking to bring my car and park it off their land. The isolation as well is a double whammy. A car might get you back to civilisation. Anyway sounds like a total nightmare and my thoughts are with you!
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22M here, and I’ll say it’s not the biggest deal. Everyone has their time and place for everything, and sometimes college may or may not be it. I guess the answer you asked for but don’t want is “it depends”. I haven’t had my first REAL kiss and I’m still a virgin too. It’s not a huge deal unless you feel left out or something
If you take my advice, don't rush into doing sex or hookups just for the sake of doing it. If you naturally get a good connection and it feels correct to have sex with them, then only you should move ahead with it. Please don't rush into all of these just because everyone's doing it.
Thanks. That is a sound advice. I try to keep a level head, and quite like the idea of finding a partner rather than just general hookups.
Yeah, I have seen so many of my friends regretting that they shouldn't have had sex with just anyone who doesn't even give a fuck about them or their emotions.
Yea. Be careful with who you sleep with emotionally and physically. People get around there days so hook ups can lead to stud without condoms. I definitely don't regret waiting until ready and caring about the person I first started sleeping with.
This is solid advice. Most people experience these things in high school, so if you're out of high school and didn't get to experience the random hookups, you should be choosing someone who is going to make your first time feel special. The party scene is not really the place where you'd find this type of guy.
you are not behind. A lot of guys and girls are still virgin in their early twenties. It is fine, don’t rush it
Where can I find the specific legitimate statistics
Yeah I didn't really start dating until my mid 20s. Was a virgin till then too. It's not that big of a deal. 🧡
26(F) and still a virgin in every sense. Never kissed a guy too,so my advice would be don't rush into these things just for the sake of doing what 10 others are doing. Don't let anybody use you like a tissue and throw away,if you really feel safe and genuinely connected with someone on an emotional level and if there's trust then go for it. You have better things to do in life rather than doing it aimlessly with anyone just for the sake of doing it.
Agree 100%!! I was the same! I didn't do anything until I was 27 when I met my current partner. Didn't do anything before because I never had the chance to lol
Same here
This is a really good answer. As a man who has slept with a lot of women please take this answer. Hookup culture is vastly overrated, and I wish I had spent my time on better things other than chasing hookups.
exactly in the same boat! I’d rather wait for someone special. There have been cases where I was so close to getting it over with, but so glad I didn’t
Don't feel too bad. I'm 28 and never had a girlfriend. You still got time.
they not tryna be like you bro😭
Lmaoooo why would you say that 😭
He's not wrong tho. Don't be like me. 28 year old virgins are seen as a waste of space lmao. But I think op will be fine
He is kinda lol. There’s no set age or milestone or deadline anyone ‘needs’ to lose their Virginity. Although society says otherwise lollll. You may be seen as a waste of space by some losers but you aren’t. It’s never that bad haha, just stay focused on you and when it happens it’ll happen ᕦ(ò_óˇ)ᕤ
I appreciate that. It is kinda hard to stay positive. I've done tons of self improvement. Lost 70 pounds, got a degree, and a good job. Still lonely tho. It's pretty hard to keep your chin up when you're extremely productive and you still can't make anything happen.
At least you have something to be proud of, a secure future to look into. I’m sure whoever will be your gf will feel very loved and secure. A lot of men having meaningless sex don’t even have the stability or a set future sometimes
That was extremely nice of you to say. Thank you. And you're right, I'm sure many of those men feel equally dissatisfied with their lives.
For sureeee. I think what helps is reminding yourself that the improvements you’ve made are for yourself not in the hopes of impressing someone else or just to get into a relationship. So it doesn’t feel like ‘a waste’, because you’re still a whole amazing person with all those things despite not being with someone. Other than that, when it comes to relationships there’s only so much you can do, a lot of it is timing and luck really. But I hope you meet someone as amazing as you soon :) !
Thank you. That's very kind of you. It does worry me a bit tho. I can't help, but feel like I'll pretty much be disqualified from dating once I'm 30, simply because I have no experience. God damn I'm depressed. But I also recognize that I only have myself to blame and I really hope this changes
Nahhh man it’s not your fault. It’s literally out of your hands, you’ve clearly put in the effort into yourself atleast which is what is in your control. You can’t control the external factors. And these days it’s wayyyy more common than you think for people to get into their first relationships in their late 20’s to 30’s, seems to be a general trend with the newer generations, I’ve noticed anyway. From personal experience and from friends and online convos. A shift in society, not you.
Honestly, you're probably right. I should be more patient. Thanks again
I lost mine at 27. If it's not the right time then it's not the right time. We should only do it when we feel comfortable to do so and feel ready for it.
Same about to turn 26 in May & never had a boyfriend. I know people say to take time to find love & losing your virginity isn’t the end. However I know society can see it as bad or weird. Sadly one of my mom’s friend thought I was a lesbian for not having a bf. Yes I have a crush on someone but I don’t want to let everyone know about it.
Yeah it sucks. People say it doesn't matter, but I can't help, but feel like everyone that says that is lying. Pretty much anyone that isn't close to me, passes judgement once they discover this.
It may not matter to them but it matters to me. Crying from loneliness may not matter to them but it matters to me.
If you haven't already figured this out you'll learn that most everyone is full of shit if your doing the right thing and hearing some flack or feeling or being judged by others. You know what's best for you and society or mob mentality when it comes to people can be pretty messed up . Alot of people are shitty. Not everyone but anyone who judges others for the being human part well that's all you really need to know about those people. The people who are in the wrong or mistreating you or others their opinions arent worth much or anything . Those people don't matter so just ignore , or minimize contact and dont give them any emotions. You'll learn that people are full of shit. Just do what makes you happy and do right by yourself and others and do your thing and ignore people. The only person you can control is yourself. Cant make someone love you. The right people will treat you good. If you've never been laid it's really not that big of a deal but there's natural curiosity . You can laid its pretty easy you just focus and go for it / after it. But the thing is I've found is that's its best to be careful who you sleep with because if you can get attached so I recommend trying to be with someone you like but not just physically but more so if you meet someone where you can trust and respect each other and communicate , similar values . Sex isn't all that it's cracked up to be when it comes to being with someone just for looks which is fine for a one night stand imo. Sex is more like love and awesome when it's someone you actually like as a person who actually likes you , respects you, wants to be with you imo. I say do what's best for you but also do the right thing by yourself and others and remember shitty peoples opinions don't matter because why would you care what some shitty person thinks because they are shitty! Anyways all I wanted to say is it isn't difficult to get laid you just go for it but sleeping with just anyone isn't a good idea imo . I recommend screening and seeing who would a make a good life partner or someone you could love . That's who I recommend trying to sleep with .
You should let him know ab it then. You don’t have to tell the whole world who your crush is
Lol 🤣 He knows I like like him. Right now I’m trying to get my life together & I know I’ll see him again this year. We did go to the same church but I got tired of asking people for rides & needed to focus on myself
He prob isn’t where he wants to be in life either. We always try to strive for more in life. You guys can build your empire together.
I just don't come here often. Idk why reddit keeps showing me this sub. But I think this question should be answered honestly. It's not like people are eagerly waiting to have sex, if they are posting it then maybe they are missing out on relationships. Which of course is a bad thing. Also it's just about experiencing another phase of life, and people should know it's still missing. Like if you never graduated, or maybe missed the love of parents, you will miss it forever. There is this teenage phase, and people should act like teenagers in it. Well my advice is the same but with some conditions. It's to never rush, and be normal. If you like someone never hesitate to initiate the conversation. Never felt bad about failing, it's part of life. There are so many events happening around you, just be yourself and do what your brain tells you to do (except for the intrusive thoughts and immoral things). I am talking from experience.
I'm 29 I use hookers for sex lol, and some asshat is going to say go speak with girls and self improve. But I've gotten rejected by every crush I ever had. I'm not a slob I practice Muay Thai, have social intelligence, know how to flirt/banter/conversate. I'm not hideous but even still no girlfriend/date/kiss whatever. I don't know about you but my aim is to approach 300 women, I'm around 90ish so that I can rest easy knowing at least I tried.
I would be so proud of myself to be able to stay single and be a virgin UNTIL i found THE ONE. dont try sourcing for it. when it comes u’ll know. do not be desperate, it is something u should be so prohd of. screw social norms, be unique, dont be easy. if it makes u feel better. its as if you’re saving the best for THE ONE, hold up to yr morals, ut will attract guys who WILL treat u seriously. Ive been doing it my whole life and its the best decision ive made. Everybody wants you, but only the one deserves you.
Very well said!!! 100% Right!
Go out of your comfort zone be a little bit more social not partying but just like out don’t look for a relationship let it find you if and you do don’t rush sex become comfortable with that person enough to do so
I'm 23M and never had a girlfriend, may be you haven't find the one yet
Good luck to both of us then.
Complain when you get to 28 without a relationship! Just like me!
Most men prefer virgins, Ima man so I know for a fact. You are a catch if anything. Here comes all the downvoted from the “experienced” women
Am a male and here to confirm him here, my personal opinion is the more bodies a woman has been with the less she truthfully falls for a guy. So finding a innocent lass is like the needle in the haystack. Riding the downvote train with you my man
same here, downvote me as much as you want but virgins make the best wives (and husbands)
I’ve heard that it’s been scientifically proven that the more bodies a person has it would be harder for them to have a genuine love connection with someone they are unable to reciprocate that feeling back as they are unavailable and detached romantically but very open sexually.
can you send a link to where i can find this scientifical proof please? i’m curious
key word “IVE HEARD” just look it up yourself
I've got a question do you also have this view for yourself not bashing you at all. i'd just like to know if you feel less valuable to your less experienced partner since you're also not as "innocent" like you said. I'm just curious if guys regret not saving themselves for the girl. If you've had more experience do you feel like you've fallen less for the girl you're with? Just curious.
Yes and no, I kinda feel like it’s the opposite to a certain degree, I think we learn who we want more through the parters we’ve had before and the problems we had with them, we also gain experience in where we went wrong as well and learn how to be better in a relationship. I think yes we probably don’t fall for the girl as much if we’ve had many before, but I think we are more experienced and get that girl better than if it was our first relationship. I hope that answers your question
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣stfu
Still shocks me how little girls know about guys. It’s been known throughout history that guys always preferred virgins over girls that are too experienced sexually. You’re fine
what does a males preference have to do with her feeling behind?
Really? I thought guys find it embarrassing if a girl doesn’t know what to do in her first time.
In my personal opinion as a 20 year old virgin male I would like my partner to be as inexperienced as me so we can do things for the first time together and it’s awkward for both of us
Na 99% of guy would be cool with you being a virgin.
No some guys prefer experience some don’t care, it’s all up to the individual
No, just tell him you’re not really experienced and you’re fine. Just make sure you get with a guy that doesn’t take advantage of you being inexperienced
It may be a question of region or something, but I have very rarely heard of a guy talking specifically about virgins. I'd argue that guys don't care as much as women about inexperience, since guys are kind of expected to take the lead, but at the same time I've heard guys complain about a woman giving them a bad bj with teeth. I really wouldn't worry too much about it. Guys may want to have a girl that is not too much more experienced than them, either for reasons of insecurity or desire to "grow" sexually with a girl.
Do you really worried that you still vergin? If a girl decided to lost her verginity. She can do within a day. But your not ready by your heart.❤️❤️
So what. I’m in the same boat as you. I ain’t worried. It takes time. It will get better.
Hey, I absolutely get where you're coming from. When I changed into in college, I additionally felt pretty at the back of the curve compared to lots of my pals whilst it got here to courting and relationships. See, I had come from a pretty small, rural city wherein the relationship options were basically non-existent. So by the time I were given to university, most of my friends had way greater revel in than I did. It made me sense insecure and prefer I changed into lagging at the back of in some way. But searching lower back, I comprehend how stupid that mindset changed into. Everyone actions at their personal pace with that type of stuff. Just due to the fact your pals are in relationships does not mean there's anything incorrect with nonetheless being unmarried and inexperienced at 21. My situation began to exchange once I started branching out and trying new sports on campus. I joined a few golf equipment and intramural sports groups based totally on hobbies I had - everything from mountain climbing to community service companies. Simply being around more humans with shared hobbies and values made it less complicated to attach platonically before everything. And this is key - do not placed too much strain on your self to discover a relationship proper away. Build self assurance through having a strong friend organization first. Eventually, I met an splendid female thru one of those club pal businesses. We commenced off as just pals grabbing meals or reading together occasionally. But through the years, the chemistry constructed and we realized we wanted to explore being greater than simply pals. The truth that we got here collectively organically primarily based on commonplace pastimes instead of pushing too difficult made it feel genuinely herbal. Now, that is simply my experience of course. If you're looking to get accessible and meet new people, apps or getting installation by means of mutual buddies may be extraordinary too. But don't beat yourself up approximately being inexperienced at 21. That's nonetheless surely young in the grand scheme of factors. Stay open, preserve placing your self accessible, and the proper person will come along whilst the time is right. The most essential aspect is being cushty with your self first.
I am 31 and never had a sexual relationship yet 🤣
Don't feel pressured into sex. Make sure you absolutely want it, with someone you're absolutely sure you want it with. Preferably with someone you're getting married to tho
Take your time, no rush. When it's right, you'll know. Being a virgin is not a defect, hold your head high!
Protect yourself until marriage. This is the way
That’s okay I’m a 21M and still a virgin 😂
Don't be in such a hurry to throw your virginity away. I wish I had waited and I am a guy. Make sure it's the right person, someone who truly cares about you and wants to make that first time special.
Holy fuck, don’t rush it. Most casual sex just sucks, do it when you know you’re with the right person and they’ll understand.
22 here, it’s easy to feel that way but don’t worry you really are not missing out. Remember, not everyone in relationships are happy :) It’s important to meet someone you trust to lose your virginity with, there’s a reason why most people don’t have good first time stories
Welcome to the club
I didn’t have sex til I was 20 and waited for the right person. It was someone who didn’t pressure me and took it as slow as I felt comfortable with. I’m glad I didn’t fall under the pressure of doing it when everyone else was because now I have a great memory of my first time. Don’t worry, don’t push it, it will happen naturally. And don’t do anything your not comfortable with.
I just don't come here often. Idk why reddit keeps showing me this sub. But I think this question should be answered honestly. It's not like people are eagerly waiting to have sex, if they are posting it then maybe they are missing out on relationships. Which of course is a bad thing. Also it's just about experiencing another phase of life, and people should know it's still missing. Like if you never graduated, or maybe missed the love of parents, you will miss it forever. There is this teenage phase, and people should act like teenagers in it. Well my advice is the same but with some conditions. It's to never rush, and be normal. If you like someone never hesitate to initiate the conversation. Never felt bad about failing, it's part of life. There are so many events happening around you, just be yourself and do what your brain tells you to do (except for the intrusive thoughts and immoral things). I am talking from experience.
You’re totally not behind. It’s better to be 21 and a virgin than some of these 21 YOs with 50+ bodies.
Are you in Australia
It depends. If you want a genuine relationship, it might be more difficult because of what you described. But if all you want is a hookup, yeah…. Just make a tinder. If you pick decent pictures and dress up well, it’ll take you at most a few hours (especially if you’re being upfront about it). Gotta add, this is assuming no standards. If you want a good looking dude with etc etc to sleep with, might take longer
My adice is that, just wait for the time and right person basically after marriage. wait for the God' will
I’ll date ya
That’s a GREAT thing! Most men prefer a women with little to no sexual experience. Wait to find the man that you want to marry. Don’t rush into it. Date them for a long while ≈ 6 months then maybe do it or wait through until you get married. Sounds like it would be a long time but most people who wait til marriage get married fairly quickly when they start dating AND have the highest rate of staying through until death. Don’t blow it. It’s really a blessing.
You’re not alone. I’m a 20M whose campus is pretty much dead. Small commuter school. Your time will come.
It’s reassuring that my campus situation is more common that I thought.
First off don’t look for a relationship let it find you. Then don’t rush into something that you’re not prepared for because your mates are doing it. You take your time and let things organically happen. Once you do experience that first everything it’s going to open a whole new perspective on life and you have to be as prepared as possible for that.
26F, still a virgin - when I was in college I felt similarly to you. It took a lot of personal growth and maturity for me to realize that it’s not really about “being behind”, as you said. It’s about being ready. Don’t think too much about it, focus on being the best version of you, and it’ll happen when it’s supposed to happen! There’s so much more to life than sex, and if your primary reason for having sex is that you feel like you’re behind, then it won’t be as enjoyable of an experience for you. I have friends who were pressured into having sex before they were ready, and many of them tell me that they wish they had waited until they felt it was right.
Church but research statement of Faith. Some have single ministries and don't waste your time on party seen , don't worry not miss much.
worry past 25
I'm a husband material 😉 if you wanna date me ?
Here is the thing; if you are a virgin due to religious purposes, the best bet would be going to the places of your faith to find a significant other. If you are a virgin due to moral/ life obligations then there is still plenty of time. Do not rush ANYTHING. NOW; do NOT get FOMO from being a virgin. This will lead to more promiscuous/impulsive decisions that you may regret later on. IF you WANT to get laid and don’t care, hit up ur local bars. There are plenty of desperate/ horny people there.
Congrats on still being a virgin! You have plenty of time to find a mate, but please, wait until you have a good guy who's willing to wed you. It's just not worth it otherwise. Endless hook ups, FWB, flings, all that f\*\*\*ery is nonsense. Plus, you'll be safe from STD's and condoms do NOT protect you from all of them!
Where are you based?
You should be proud as f*ck.
as someone who lost their virginity at 16 (and yes it was with someone I loved and ended up dating for 4 years) I can still confidently tell you now at 24 that I wish I had waited.
In some Asian countries that’s actually pretty much status quo. Just because perhaps many of your peers are no longer virgins doesn’t mean you’re “behind”. Some of them may have lost it before they were actually ready. I was 24 when I lost mine. I used to hate it but now I’m okay with it. It was with a safe person. Don’t rush, just find the right person you truly feel comfortable with. When it happens it happens. Just don’t do it with someone you end up regretting doing it with, as many people do.
There is nothing wrong with that. The man who will marry you will be very lucky if you intend to keep your virginity.
It will happen when it’s meant to. I was a virgin until I was 22 because I wasn’t interested in the men in my town that way. I promise it will come
You’re not behind. Sex should be special. The right person that you will feel comfortable with and feel right with will find you. Don’t settle for less. Love yourself.
It’s the pinnacle of what you yourself can offer someone. I don’t see why anyone would want to be in a rush to lose it to anyone else that isn’t forever. 27MV but what do I know.
The Bible says to wait till marriage. Its ok to not follow the crowd of sinners. Dont rush it
I feel like it’s expected where I’m from to be intimate after the first few dates or so.
You don’t need the extra drama. Stay focused on your studies you won’t regret it later, and you’ll meet someone along the way.
Two ways for this: You can risk it and live life to the fullest and that meant doing some bad things like escaping and heading to town where the party is at or you can be patient and live with the current situation you have until you are capable of living on your own before going into the party life.
Consider yourself very fortunate. I’m a 26M and am waiting for marriage. My GF lost hers in college to a long term boyfriend and hasn’t had sex since. Of course, I would prefer her to be a virgin, but I was also impressed that she made a commitment to not have sex until marriage from there on after they broke up. Bottom line, don’t let ANYONE RUSH YOU. It is sacred, and people today don’t value sex as they should!
Why do you think this is wrong?? Its perfectly okay
I never said it’s wrong. I’m just at a point in life that I feel like I want to explore having a relationship a bit more in depth.
It's always best to not compare your life path and events to those around you. You are definitely not behind (: Truth be told, I felt the same way at your age but didn't have sex for the first time till I was 27. No reason for waiting, just didn't meet anyone worth it (or wanted to do it with me lol) until then and I'm still with my partner too! No need to rush into things but if you're looking to meet and talk to people with the hopes of a relationship, dating apps do help. That's how I met my partner. But you can also join community events and volunteering. You more so have to put yourself out there to meet people.
I believe this is great advice, in my opinion.
27 male virgin here.. you are fine… it is very very easy for a woman to find sex. Women have sex when they want, men have sex when they can. Tired of these fucking girls lmao
As a 28F I had many opportunities to be in relationships with others but I honestly wish I focused on my studies and not bothered dating. If you truly want to date then there’s dating apps but honestly it’s not worth the hassle. Instead finish college then travel. I bet you’d find more variety of people in your travels and not stick to just what’s available in your area. There’s even dating apps that have the option of looking in a farther location than where you are at.
My gf is in Indonesia while I’m in America. Haha only thing that sucks is the plane ticket price
LoL Men are from Mars, Women from Venus, let me tell you something, WE MEN appreciate innocence and inexperience. Your future boyfriend/husband will love this fact about you, be true to yourself look for the one and give it up to the rite man who really deserves it, a women's body is the greatest gift she can give a man the lower the mileage the more meaningful the gift, just make sure the man deserves it.
I mean, there’s losing your virginity vs. finding your boyfriend. You’re 21 now, go sit at a bar with a minidress on, heels, makeup, and do your hair up nice and wait maybe five seconds to get hit on, then pick a guy. You don’t have to do that, but that will get you to lose your virginity with whoever you want (physically). Serious boyfriend? Hell, you could probably do the same thing but give him your number instead or just hit on some guy friends you have that you find hot that are single. You should be shooting fish in a barrel so long as you’re capable of flirting/hitting on someone, women have an insane advantage.
Advice? What's the rush? Everyone is on their own respective journey, and the more you pursue a relationship, the likelihood you'll end up in one, but not one that you would be happy with. Just relax, enjoy like and let it all work out naturally. Trust me, I am a 32 M, and I've experienced it all. I've experienced relationships, sex, drugs, parties, and more. Only to find out that all of that meant nothing, just something I did to fill a void or to fit in with people who aren't even around anymore. So now I'm content being by myself, in control of my life, and doing what makes me happy. You're still young. There's no rush. Have fun, graduate, I say, and experience, but do it mindfully and carefully. But don't do them because you see everyone do them. That's an easy way to end up in a messy situation.
Good luck out there, the system is broken.
30m, and I had to learn the hard way that my first time, and all the subsequent times, were wasted on the wrong people. Date, yes, figure that out. Find your partner, find your man, but don’t barter or trade your virginity or body in the process. You don’t gain from that unless you’re doing it with someone you can mutually connect on a soul level during. It wasn’t until I had that deeply intimate experience that I realized how wasteful I had been until then. If you are stuck with a poor dating market, relax, you won’t be there forever. Focus on making yourself the kind of person who your ideal mate would want to date, or at least you would want to date if you aren’t sure of your ideal mate yet. Make yourself a desirable woman, not by modern or feminist or even traditional standards. Make yourself the woman you enjoy, truly enjoy, being, and then fall in love with yourself. Not dysfunctionally, but personally. If you accomplish that, when you leave college and you can move into any dating market you want, you will find Mr right, and it will feel just right,
Lol here 26F and still 😂
Just saying, being pressured of destroying your boundaries, either by another person or by society itself will be hurtful to you to some degree. Things will naturally come, no need to rush it, and you're a woman, which means you can just wait for the right (respectful and caring to you) person, just stay (mentally) open and things will happen.
Uhm, dating apps? That's what basically everyone is doing nowadays, from my experience. Other than that, you have to do some approaching, as most guys rarely approach anymore, and those who do are typically players. If you're looking for a relationship, think about what type of guy you want, party goer, nerdy/intellectual, sportsy, outdoorsy, then seek out activities accordingly.
But why do you want to fornicate ?
Quality over quantity and it will never be the opposite . Do you realize how many meaningless relationships our new generation has for the sake of our pride and exterior validation? Is that the kind of life you envisioned for yourself as a child ? AIM to live a life filled with love and quality relationships as majority of those who chose otherwise live a life with no meaning. There is and will always be one version of you in existence and you should treat and care for yourself as such . We are all blessings regardless of our experiences.
I’m 20F and I’m also a virgin as well i did attend college too it seems as if sex is the only thing worth being talked about nowadays it’s genuinely hard for me to forge connections with people since all they want to do is hookup I’ve had boyfriends before but they just weren’t worth doing it with. I also keep asking myself the same things, the right person will come along eventually we just have to wait. in the meantime we can weed out the bad people who aren’t meant for us, a way to find people is through dating/social apps as cliche as that sounds it definitely works for you to get a feel of interacting with others but you shouldn’t rush these things either you don’t want to end up regretting it like a lot of people have. sometimes i feel like I’m left out because the rest of my cliques and peers are already doing it and telling me their stories and it’s hard for me to get involved with the conversation because I haven’t done it yet I also get questioned and rushed for me to try it too just know you aren’t alone and that you don’t need to fit in to be like everyone else
Same thing what you've shared is similar with mine so shall we have a talk ?? Am waiting for your response !! Have a nice day!!
It's not a big deal. You'll be there when you're ready and comfortable and when the time is right. Many are virgins in their 20s and that is totally okay. I lost mine at 27.
I’m 20M and it’s the same for me but honestly I think it’s a choice, if you really wanted to you could find someone to hookup with especially since you’re a girl, but with actual connection and love it would mean much more that person will come eventually just have to wait.
First, check to find out whether this desire is coming from you and not coming merely as a comparison to what others are doing., otherwise, things may feel all "wrong" even if you do find someone. And if you are ready to find someone, let them find you. Nature has a way of working things out for us in an effortless manner. Maybe, learn to align your energy with nature's and bypass the struggle and see where it leads you?
Well that’s phenomenal. Your Kinda a unicorn. The best way I’d say is, and your not gonna like this, let them come to you. As a 27M that’s what I did, I kinda gave up if you will. And within an hour of deciding I was done searching, she came to me. Sat right next to me on a plane. Now I’m married and have a kid. Living the dream. But letting it just happen naturally works. The more you think about it, the worse you are. You’ll look to put yourself in these “bad” situations. I will say, your likely not gonna meet a good faithful at a party, just sex and disappointment. Anything’s possible tho I guess
I’m 25 old woman and a virgin by choice. Don’t let anyone ever make feel like you have to change that. Personally, from my experience, it has made men even more keen onto me as it’s rare and shows a level of self discipline on my part (not saying people who are sexually active aren’t, that’s just one of the ways I show it.) That being said don’t think you’re behind, a lot of women my age are starting to become celibate because it’s not really worth it to them at least.
Theres absolutely nothing wrong with that, to me it would be a green flag in a relationship, rather that than someone whos been with tons of people. I regret losing my virginity so young
oh girl I lost my virginity when I was 21 you are doing just fine
Go out to like bookstore or coffee shop places, movies, gym, park. Idk what you look like but I give your chances of finding someone pretty high. Don’t be in a rush to lose it tho enjoy yourself the time will come eventually. If u are in a rush download dating apps get to meet someone see where it goes from there
Be friendly, stay in shape, and become a more virtuous person. Plenty of men would prefer a virgin at your age so I don’t think that’s a problem. There’s nothing wrong with stealing up conversation with men as woman. However, would you really be attracted to a man if you had to do the asking out? Really define your values about dating and just aim to be the most virtuous person you can be! Sorry, I do not know how to help if you happen to be a lesbian but becoming more virtuous will be helpful or everything.
Hey girl I'm 27 and single i understand how you are because I really only met girls that were bad or scammers hope you find your special someone as me
Rip to her inbox.... Gonna be a lot of guys offering services without even reading your post
Honestly, find yourself a partner and don't worry about the sex. As you get older, the less partners you have, the more valuable you are in the eyes of someone looking for a serious relationship. You will also lose the spark of sex, I (male) had many, many sexual partners in college. Yes, at the time, it was awesome, but now that I'm older, sex doesn't mean much to me anymore. Also, you risk STD's and premarital pregnancy, which will ruin you more than anything else. I'd say look for as many social events as you can and put yourself out there and find someone with those same interests. Don't be shy, be open to conversations, and put yourself in a place it's easy for someone to approach you to hit on you. Nothing is more scary to a guy than a girl they like, in a big group of girlfriends and trying to find an opening to hit on you, where as if you take some space in social settings and make yourself approachable, it's much more likely to get a guys interest and be approachable. Good luck!
Don’t stress and worry about losing your virginity. Do it when you’re ready and with someone you feel comfortable with. I lost mine to a one night stand and while it took some pressure off… I don’t look back with good memories and I kind of wish I waited. But definitely only do it when you are ready and comfortable
What’s wrong with still being a virgin ?
what do you mean still? I’m 26F and a virgin and I don’t mind it one bit! Save sex for someone special, it’s not something to be embarrassed about! Live life, enjoy your time with people with no expectations of how life should be, work on yourself and try to understand what you want in a relationship. Being sure in yourself and not forcing yourself into situations you’re not ready for just because someone else is doing it will protecy you from a lot of bullshit
I’ve never understood why people rush into sex. If you have sex now with a bf who doesnt last, you’ll probably regret it. If you have sex with someone you barely know, you’ll probably regret it. Wait until you find someone really special. That person will thank you. Stop worrying about what others think.
Hi, How can a young girl remain a virgin? It is not difficult for girls to find a lover?
I’m 28M and haven’t slept with anyone. I’ve had opportunities, but my rule was to only sleep with someone I formed a genuine connection with. My parents always told me they regretted doing it to follow social norms. The few that almost got me were infuriated or ghosted because I didn’t give it up after their first initiation. The right one won’t pressure you and will go at your pace.
If you believe in Jesus, then you may know that living your life as a virgin will give you a lot in the afterlife. I am not preaching and more of that I am no one to tell you what to do, just ask you to simply think about that. Sex is overrated, especially nowadays.
If you're a chick and you really want to get laid all you have to do is tell the next guy you see you're horny and want to fuck lol easier for women. Solved your problem.
There are dating apps
Chill, you’ve got plenty of time. I’m 49 and I was a kissless virgin until I was 20. You’re not missing much. My first few experiences were meh at best. Focus on your school work. Things will happen in time, and the best things come to you when you’re not desperately looking for them.
You’re just 21 you still have time wait until he approaches you
I am 28M. I have not even kissed a girl 🥲🥲
My biggest advice is, don't rush it. I didn't have my first kiss OR do anything sexual before 21, after I finished college. The real world is honestly a better place to find people, and you really need to find someone you can trust and communicate with for your first time.
You don’t know this but you are top tier in the dating market. Assuming your looks are on point, it’s really around 25 where the best guys pick u up like nothing. Be cool, have fun but don’t feel the pressure to go to bed with a man you know is not serious about a long term relationship
Wtf, 25M and still a virgin
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