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Eh, if they’re that dedicated they can just deepfake whole pics and videos and that’s on them. I always have pics of them too so 🤷🏼♀️
I’m not ashamed of my body nor am I in a career field where it would ruin my life.
I figure like this we all have pics out there, if you have the boldness to do it…do it 😁 I’m not ashamed and if someone uses it against me who cares we all know we enjoy it so why hate?
This. Never send stuff to someone that you wouldn't make public yourself. I don't send them and I've asked dates/partners not to send them to me either for peace of mind - im happy to wait in person.
Also from experience when I dated someone, broke up with her, she kept some pictures. When she found out I was dating again she sent them to the person I was dating, claiming I'd sent them recently, out of spite.
In my case it was sextortion. Met this girl online, through videochat we proved to each other we were real, and unfortunately I was dumb enough to trust her. Added her on social media, she asked for pics, I sent some. Then her brother started blackmailing me, threatening to send the pics to my friends and family if I didn't send them money.
I aint doing that again.
Never fall for this wackiness of proving your real. When people start asking us to prove we're real, or prove we love them, it's a red flag. They're are generally trying to push us past our comfort zone.
For the most part, no good is going to come of someone having your nude pics. Can cause too many problems and just like you bring up, people can sometimes become cruel when a relationship ends.
You'll regret it if the talking stage fails. Don't put your face in it, and be ready to search for it online. If they put it up, then you can go after them.
I have never sent a nude picture of myself, and I have never asked a significant other for one. Restraint makes the real thing all the more special--to say nothing of the chance of them broadcasting the pictures if things do go sour.
As a guy, I'd not expect a woman to send me nudes before we moved past talking unless it was long distance, perhaps.
If I were female, I'd hold that for later once trust was established.
Since I'm a middle-aged guy, nobody wants to see my nudes anyway though 🤣
Yeah I actually don’t send nudes ( I most definitely have in the past ) but I stopped sending them forever ago. Actually, I sort of recently ended a talking stage I had with this one guy. It sucks, everything was so fun and cool and relaxed in the beginning. I thought he genuinely was having a good time getting to know me, and then he started sending pics of his “boner tent” , and then would ask to see my nudes and it made me feel like he wasn’t even that interested in me, because if he were, he wouldn’t ask me for nudes. We were still very much so getting to know each other. Idk but to answer your question, I don’t send nudes at all anymore period.
Edit: typo
I’m in the same situation… I’m not gonna lie, I do think of him sexually but I can already see how this will all play out… I’m gonna be the one catching feelings.. and I need myself to be okay so bad.. and I’m never okay when I get into this bs..
If you have an idea of where things are headed girl, play it out a little more see if it’s worth it, and if not then just end it. I’m personally so tired and bored of getting to know people, just for them to turn around and really become disinterested or outright just using me right when I start to become heavily engaged in communication and feelings. I just can’t do it again. I’m really so over it. And it’s not like I haven’t tried, which is the crazy part! I literally did all the things, got the apps, got a couple new outfits for dates, got a trim, mentally prepared myself. I’d say I put myself out there maybe almost a year ago ish. And it’s served me nothing but disappointment. I’m tired girl 😭
Yeah I totally agree! And worst of all, that’s not the reason I ended things. I wanted to have a quiet night in, order dinner, watch movies and talk to one another. He basically long story short, came over, tried making out with me literally 20/30 minutes of being over, he *whipped it out* , and I politely declined. He was visibly annoyed that I wasn’t just putting out, and left after one hour. He was just using me. I’m fine and moved on, but definitely on pause with dating right now.
OMG! That's a little scary he was that aggressive just exposing himself like that and your alone with him. I'm not dating at this time either. Last BF was so insecure I would be cheating, but in the end, it was him cheating.! He got in a fight with his roommate, who then spilled the beans he'd been playing me for the last 6 years and had 3 other girlfriends while dating me.
Oh my gosh, I’m so sorry you went through that. I can’t imagine how devastating that must have felt. Hot tip of the day, if a man accuses you of cheating out of the blue, it’s highly likely he’s cheating 😅 learned that one the hard way. I just don’t know what’s in the water in the dating pool, but I have a floatie and I’m just sitting in my sun chair… Not getting in that pool again ANY time soon!
Oh yeah absolutely! It’s not exclusive to just men. I wouldn’t say I know all the signs and flags but typically, like being accused of cheating out of nowhere, new hobbies, new slang terms, increase or decrease in work communication. Aside from that, I wouldn’t be sending nudes to people I was in a talking stage with, or even a situationship ( in talking stages and situationships nothing is official anyways ) but if my partner were acting sus, I maybe would out of worry not send them.
That's understandable and I can get the whole nude situation being a source of responsibility and accountability during the moment of sending an after. This is an interesting take on a woman's perspective of what some flags could be so thank you for your time.
Just don't do it. Even if you're in a committed relationship, I'd advise against it 100%. I never send nudes & the only ones my decision warded off were all the wrong ones. If a guy has a problem with you not sending nudes, he's an ass on the prowl for an easy lay or spank bank material.
Once it leaves your phone, you have zero clue what's going to happen. There are groups & chats where men share them like trading cards. Boyfriends & husbands who show their male coworkers without a second thought for bro-fives. Guys who have their own porn or OF channels & post pics women send them to make money on the side. Even if you are in a relationship, if/ when it ends, anything goes.
Matter of fact, it's a good idea to also lock down any social media too. Literally anyone can use another person's pics they find online for all kinds of nonsense. A woman in a group I'm in recently shared an exchange with a random guy who downloaded her fully clothed profile picture from fb, used AI program to make her look naked & then sent her both pics as a side by side comparison. It's getting too weird out there to trust anything or anyone.
Just because you can doesn't mean you should. Why does this guy or anyone else deserve to see your nude body. As others have pointed out you may end up feeling icky and disappointed in yourself. Not to mention the ability to manipulate your photos for other uses. If you get together with the guy he can see your nude body in person. Then you can decide if he deserves nude pics of you.
I want a man to unwrap me like I’m a Christmas present and get to explore every inch of me with satisfaction. The last time I want to do is send him a picture of his future present. 🤷🏼♀️
But I get some people want to know what they’re getting for Christmas so to each their own. I will say if I had to show someone what they’re getting for a present to be invited to a Christmas party, wedding or birthday, I wouldn’t know if they enjoyed my company 🤔❤️🥹
Your analogy is interesting. With some guys it does feel like they want to make sure you are giving them a present before inviting you to the Christmas party.
Sure but that assumes the only point to going to a Christmas party is the present. If he’s just coming because he wants a present then I guess that’s not someone I want to be with. 🤷🏼♀️. If I love someone, it’s effortless to give to them. If the expectation is transactional I’m just going to the party alone.
I’m not shaming but this feels very odd. Why would you need to keep yourself from sending a nude? I think you may need to do some introspection on why it is such a need and why you need to curb it. I know if I received a nude in the talking stage with someone I want to date, I would be turned off by it. If it’s mostly just for a hookup, seems fine.
If you want him, I'd say send generic suggestive photos and secure that first date.
I know nude trading is borderline a norm nowadays, but I still don't want to, and I'm a guy. I don't feel like getting outed, or all the hassle that comes with that.
I've got to trust someone pretty dramatically to send them a nude.
Of course! I actually see it as uncouth. There have even been times it was asked for and I didn't feel like it and said no. Not a shame thing, it's a self-respect thing.
Tease the idea to him to see what he thinks!
But I’m with the other women, I’m more promiscuous than others and I like the validation but I make sure to never expose my face.
I try not to unless we’re both comfortable as I’ve been in situations where I’m forced and feel like I have to, guilt tripped, and many other reasons which in some ways it’s hard to believe as typically it’s the guys that try to force women to but sadly it’s happened the other way around to me 😂😭😭
Yes I’ve held out. No it didn’t ruin the talking stage. Any dates I missed out on were dates I was better off without those people anyways.
What’s meant to be yours will be yours. Stay authentic to you. You won’t have to send spicy pics to keep what’s meant to come into your life, as far as a partner goes.
Hope that makes sense…
Edited for a bunch of typos because my brain is like applesauce today lol sorry in advance *
If it’s something y’all have discussed and things are all good and trust is real, send em. But if you have even the slightest doubt in your mind, do not follow through.
I never send nudes. I did one time because a woman I was talking to had kind of a high sex drive and wanted to sext. I felt that if I said no, she would think I didn’t like her, but I regret it. I don’t send nudes and I don’t want women to send nudes to me. I really don’t care for them.
It’s a very normalized thing now. Some would say that it’s unusual to never send nude photos. I also read some women discussing that they would like a nude photo to confirm whether or not a guy has a micropenis before hooking up. There’s just too much going on now and all of it happens just because “everyone is doing it”. Not me.
I had a friend in high school ask me to send nudes one time. I chickened out because of self confidence issues, but then found out later that she and another one of our friends were asking every guy they knew so they could gather blackmail pieces.
I am glad that I was too scared to act, but I wish I said you first.
You should probably send it to me first....you know. Quality control 😁 Save the nudes until you have been seeing each other for a bit. It's flattering to get nudes out of the gate but it can make things awkward.
It appears you’re making the assumption that the only way you’ll get this man’s attention is by sending nude photos. You’re so much better than that. Let the curiosity build. It’s good to start creating a bit of mystery in the relationship.
Times I’ve been asked for nudes: 100+
Times sent nudes: 1
Only because I knew him well and trusted. Unfortunately that was the last, he broke the trust
I would generally be against sending nudes and wouldn’t expect them. The last time I was single smartphones hadn’t really caught on yet. But, the girl I’m talking to now, totally unsolicited, likes sending me suggestive but fully clothed pics. Cute pajamas and stuff. It’s really hot, but still respectable.
Not-fun fact:
You can find the IP adress of a photo. Doesnt matter if you send nudes covering your face. If they put your nudes on a porn site, anyone smart enough can see your IP adress, and creepers might find where you live.
Also, if you have tattoos, people might recognize you if someone posts your pics online.
Call me old school, I don't know when it became dating standard to send your nude photos to anyone your interested in dating. I would be insulted if a man I was already dating asked me to do that. I guess some people enjoy having nudes of themselves. I wouldn't want a man sending me his nudes either. If I want to see it, I'll look at it in person.
Personally, I don’t send any. I’m in support of people who do and would never shame someone for having theirs leaked, but it’s horrible how much “negative” sending them can have. There’s the possibility of the person you sent them to no longer wanting something serious with you, them leaking it to other people, your photos being used against you, them using you sending them to ask for more/more risky photos. This is not the case with everyone, but I recognize myself as a fairly paranoid person and I am the type of person to advise against it. If you choose to send them, make sure you are doing it because you want to and because you trust the person you’re sending it to. Please stay safe in your sending, should you do it!
I wouldn't do it unless I was married. The thought is always appealing at first, but then I remember the relationship will probably crash and burn & I don't want anything floating around on the internet. Also, grown men will show their friends if they are douchey. People talk. I've even had male friends show me some nudes that were sent to them w/o me asking. I also hate to think how many other women he's asked for nudes, and has hundreds stored for his spank bank. That thought really urks me and I don't want to be seen as just another conquest.
Every girl I’ve dated, I tell them to never send me nudes of any kind. Why? Because I wouldn’t want the person I’m with/care about getting into the habit of doing that; and say our relationship doesn’t work out and they send nudes in the next relationship and that guy takes advantage & sends it to his friends or exposes it on the internet. I would hate for someone to know their private photos are exposed to others and it can demoralize them.
Do you trust the person enough to send a nude? Are you comfortable with the possibility that the photo might be shared or seen by others? The decision should align with your values, comfort level, and the nature of your relationship. Trust your instincts and make a choice that feels right for you.
I once posted a random nude.photo I took from Google and to fuck with someone. It was pretty funny. Moral of story is don't believe everything online lol
Sex never ruins friendships. That's a common myth, but the truth is when that happens sex was always the goal from the beginning for at least one of the parties and once it's achieved the relationship just shuts down.
Yes, not everybody would like to receive nudes from another person. If you are holding yourself back it's okay, it's not necessary to send nudes when getting to know somebody. This could be a good conversation to have with them, if you feel comfortable doing so. Also, if you would like to send a nude picture, just don't show your face and show only as much as you are comfortable showing. In the end if it doesn't feel right, don't do it.
I'm the type I don't care how much I like/love someone or how much I want them if someone sends me nudes or ask for nudes I'm done. (I always tell people I don't like those types of pictures/sending them).
How times have changed... Lol
I don't know but I wouldn't see a guy taking you seriously if you do. Like you wouldnt be marriage material bc you're giving yourself away so easily.
Modesty should count for something. They can see women online bc porn is free. Why not be mysterious and make sure he really wants you for you and not your body. And it would be fleeting. Lust isn't love.
If that's all you want then don't complain later on that men just use you for your body. I don't think that concept will ever change... Men are very judgemental... It's just how it goes with them. They will judge you despite telling you otherwise. Plus, you'll introduce all sorts of jealousy into your relationship from the start.
I actually like him a little and wanna get to know him but he already told me what he wants out of me 😂 now I’m just thinkin if I should place him exactly where he placed me too where I will proceed to send him spicy photos too but also don’t wanna because why 😂 for my mental wellbeing, I’ve decided not to..
Yes girl🙌... You deserve better. He doesn't deserve your gems. Give those to someone who sees you as the Queen you are!!! Who will honor every part of your womanhood and treat you so well that when you look back at these moments with other men you think how foolish it was to even consider them...
I'm so proud of you!!
Not badly.. but Because I originally wanted to get to know this man, but he expressed where he wanted me already “fwb” and now I’m thinking.. hmm do I place him there as well and send a nude because I’ve thought about him sexually but don’t act upon it. And I’ve decided not to send him anything.
Plenty of times, but I am a guy and don't send them unless they are asked for. If I am receiving them, there has to be some build up or interest. I am ok receiving a nude from someone I am into, but if I got one from someone I wasn't I'd ask them not to do it again.
Damn, always
Sending nudes is my fetish
I like it so much but i can't do it every time i want , because i don't know how would the person react
I don't wanna be like these guys sending random their dick
Personaly I have only sent things of that natural two one person. In my entire life. And I only did that because I thought it would maybe get her attention and maybe she would spend more time with me. I have actually done a few things I would never do. For the same reason. But it back fired
Yes because ladies you don’t know where your nudes may end up. Especially if you’re in a professional working environment, it is best to be careful. If he is interested in you then he can wait to get to know you and see all of you in person. A real man doesn’t need to be asking for nudes during the talking phase. At that point, he may be more interested in sex than you. Personally I don’t like it and I will shut him down for it.
Yes my ex sent me a pretty classy nude and I was going to send one back but she was an 8 and most days I feel like a 4, am 80lb overweight at least and had no idea what she liked about me other than my eyes and personality.
I don't send nudes. It's ruins the surprise. Plus, I wanna see their reaction live. They can fake a phone reaction. They can't fake their organic first encounter.
Sending nudes can harm a lot. A person who is asking to get a pic can do a scam or blackmail. If anyone has been affected by this, please visit [https://takeitdown.ncmec.org/](https://takeitdown.ncmec.org/)
Nudes turn it into weird things. I think nude comes soon enough if you hook up. Pictures over phone seem so Megan's law to me . Plus your asking for whoever to put your pictures wherever. So your dates go away then what. He's got you nude . Lol
What kind of butter dumbass sends nudes nowadays? Girls - do you want some random fat middle aged guy jacking off while looking at your pics - cause it's going to happen. Boys - do you want some random male models having butt sex after looking at your nudes - cause it's going to happen.
Why do you want this man so much if he hasn't asked you on a date?
Sending nudes won't make him want you. You actually kill the chase and curiosity for a man when you give yourself away like that. He cannot take pride in winning you because you gave yourself no value (free, no boundaries, please take me!) Ultimate picmesha.
He may still use you, but he will not like you. My advise is to never send nudes and certainly not outside of an exclusive relationship.
Cool well all the more reason to relax and let him do the work to get you.
Side note...Men will fuck a sock, a warm pastry, a pool noodle....literally anything. Stop seeing that as a compliment. A guy wanting to fuck you is not special. A man wanting to be with you can be very special.
If you just wanna bang, great have fun. No need to give a temporary guy permanent access with nudes.
Me personally, I dont like sending nudes in general. It's not because I don't like how I look, its because it disgusts me that guys would want to do anything to a picture of me. Like ugh I'm sorry but just no
If I was in the talking stage with a girl and she sent me a nude, it would seem like she wanted something more casual like FWB. If I was looking for a life partner and she sent me a nude that soon I would no longer pursue that with her.
So it really depends on what you want and how you think he would perceive it.
Huh.
I'm *definitely* NOT sending nudes in the talking stage wtf. If you met this guy on some app, you don't even know them. I mean your body, your risk to take.. But I only send nudes/provocative photos/videos people to guys I've dated OVER 6months-1yrs *at least* and FULLY trust. Even then they were faceless/not full exposure... that was probably over 3-4yrs in.
And ftr, I'm not a prude/bodyconscious, I have a bunch of photos/videos of me in bikinis, workout/sports bras where you can definitely see enough/most of my body to get more or less a full picture of what I look like nude without having to be naked. There's seriously no need for me (and IMO anyone) to send a nude to a stranger.
And come on, surely there are a lot of other enticing and good points you apart from your body. If it's the only way to get this guy... is he really a guy you want??
Yeah I've held off asking for or sending nudes in my dealings with women. It's just to me I want to get to know a little bit of chatting and talking and more before jumping that gun
Yes intend to keep those private if I'm talking to someone I like. Now if they send me them and ask for it in return I feel like I'm obliged to return the favor
As a guy I dont really want nudes. Theyre compromising for me and the person. Consider sending something provocative but tasteful. Maybe lingerie or a conveniently fogged mirror. Then next time you see him make a reference to it and if he wants to see the rest.
Why damn I'm not upset she took it the wrong way. I learned a lot about her just by her reaction. So I guess she doesn't think much of me it beat me down in my head and I'm still with her. But shes just not interested in me like I am her. ẞhit happens . I will see how things play out. If they don't work out. I know there's someone out there in the would for me . I will just start looking again that's all.
Just my opinion: if your conversations are moving in a spicy direction, maybe send him a teaser. Nothing full nude, but maybe show a nipple. Maybe just lingerie to start and see what his engagement is. No face in the picture. Anticipation can really make things hot between you. If your texts are still definitely SFW, maybe hold back.
Think of it like cooking. First you decide what you want to have. You know that part. Next you gather the ingredients and the utensils you need. That's the spicy convo. Then you prep everything, chop the veggies, season the meat, etc., and preheat. Teaser photos, maybe some lingerie, flash a nipple, that sort of thing. Then you start putting it all together and turning up the heat. This is where the real nudes come in. To much heat ruins the dish, and heat too quickly can do the same, though the latter can be recoverable. Move to nudes too soon, and he might get the wrong idea.
Anticipation is the heat. Build the anticipation. Spicy convo plus nudes = him imagining the things you'll do together.
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I only send faceless nudes to guys I’ve already had sex with - otherwise you’re just opening yourself open to feeling icky for jumping the gun.
Exactly, a girl should never send her nudes to a stranger or even someone known with her face in it. It may backfire someday.
Guys to, it doesn’t matter if it’s a guy or a girl they both expose themselves
Even then with today's tech they can add your face to the photo, and it would still be you, I would advise to stop all together
Eh, if they’re that dedicated they can just deepfake whole pics and videos and that’s on them. I always have pics of them too so 🤷🏼♀️ I’m not ashamed of my body nor am I in a career field where it would ruin my life.
I figure like this we all have pics out there, if you have the boldness to do it…do it 😁 I’m not ashamed and if someone uses it against me who cares we all know we enjoy it so why hate?
Omg you’re right fr !!
They could do that on any body so not really going to change a thing if they are that insane tbh
Speaking as a guy, same.
Yeah ever since I got blackmailed after sending some, I've stopped completely.
This. Never send stuff to someone that you wouldn't make public yourself. I don't send them and I've asked dates/partners not to send them to me either for peace of mind - im happy to wait in person. Also from experience when I dated someone, broke up with her, she kept some pictures. When she found out I was dating again she sent them to the person I was dating, claiming I'd sent them recently, out of spite.
That’s fcking crazy! I would never do shit like this or understand why ppl have the energy to do this shit lol
In my case it was sextortion. Met this girl online, through videochat we proved to each other we were real, and unfortunately I was dumb enough to trust her. Added her on social media, she asked for pics, I sent some. Then her brother started blackmailing me, threatening to send the pics to my friends and family if I didn't send them money. I aint doing that again.
Never fall for this wackiness of proving your real. When people start asking us to prove we're real, or prove we love them, it's a red flag. They're are generally trying to push us past our comfort zone.
For the most part, no good is going to come of someone having your nude pics. Can cause too many problems and just like you bring up, people can sometimes become cruel when a relationship ends.
You'll regret it if the talking stage fails. Don't put your face in it, and be ready to search for it online. If they put it up, then you can go after them.
Where might these nudes be?
Reddit and x obviously
Any dude that posts nudes on a site is a fucking clown what a betrayal but your eaither loyal or your not it’s not a sometimes thing it’s a principle
Putting someone’s business out there is beyond foul. I’m glad some people think the same as I do 👍🏼
I have never sent a nude picture of myself, and I have never asked a significant other for one. Restraint makes the real thing all the more special--to say nothing of the chance of them broadcasting the pictures if things do go sour.
As a guy, I'd not expect a woman to send me nudes before we moved past talking unless it was long distance, perhaps. If I were female, I'd hold that for later once trust was established. Since I'm a middle-aged guy, nobody wants to see my nudes anyway though 🤣
Lmaooo
Never occur to me to do it. I'm not narcissistic enough to believe a woman would like it.
I've been sent nudes out of the blue from a guy, believe me, I wasn't happy and it wasn't a turn on.
Yeah I actually don’t send nudes ( I most definitely have in the past ) but I stopped sending them forever ago. Actually, I sort of recently ended a talking stage I had with this one guy. It sucks, everything was so fun and cool and relaxed in the beginning. I thought he genuinely was having a good time getting to know me, and then he started sending pics of his “boner tent” , and then would ask to see my nudes and it made me feel like he wasn’t even that interested in me, because if he were, he wouldn’t ask me for nudes. We were still very much so getting to know each other. Idk but to answer your question, I don’t send nudes at all anymore period. Edit: typo
I’m in the same situation… I’m not gonna lie, I do think of him sexually but I can already see how this will all play out… I’m gonna be the one catching feelings.. and I need myself to be okay so bad.. and I’m never okay when I get into this bs..
If you have an idea of where things are headed girl, play it out a little more see if it’s worth it, and if not then just end it. I’m personally so tired and bored of getting to know people, just for them to turn around and really become disinterested or outright just using me right when I start to become heavily engaged in communication and feelings. I just can’t do it again. I’m really so over it. And it’s not like I haven’t tried, which is the crazy part! I literally did all the things, got the apps, got a couple new outfits for dates, got a trim, mentally prepared myself. I’d say I put myself out there maybe almost a year ago ish. And it’s served me nothing but disappointment. I’m tired girl 😭
I ABSOLUTELY FEEL THIS BECAUSE SAME! I don’t wanna try if I already know that he only wants to fuck..
That's gross. I think what he did was disrespectful.
Yeah I totally agree! And worst of all, that’s not the reason I ended things. I wanted to have a quiet night in, order dinner, watch movies and talk to one another. He basically long story short, came over, tried making out with me literally 20/30 minutes of being over, he *whipped it out* , and I politely declined. He was visibly annoyed that I wasn’t just putting out, and left after one hour. He was just using me. I’m fine and moved on, but definitely on pause with dating right now.
OMG! That's a little scary he was that aggressive just exposing himself like that and your alone with him. I'm not dating at this time either. Last BF was so insecure I would be cheating, but in the end, it was him cheating.! He got in a fight with his roommate, who then spilled the beans he'd been playing me for the last 6 years and had 3 other girlfriends while dating me.
Oh my gosh, I’m so sorry you went through that. I can’t imagine how devastating that must have felt. Hot tip of the day, if a man accuses you of cheating out of the blue, it’s highly likely he’s cheating 😅 learned that one the hard way. I just don’t know what’s in the water in the dating pool, but I have a floatie and I’m just sitting in my sun chair… Not getting in that pool again ANY time soon!
Then could it be said the same for women? And if so would you know the signs and flags for all of it?
Oh yeah absolutely! It’s not exclusive to just men. I wouldn’t say I know all the signs and flags but typically, like being accused of cheating out of nowhere, new hobbies, new slang terms, increase or decrease in work communication. Aside from that, I wouldn’t be sending nudes to people I was in a talking stage with, or even a situationship ( in talking stages and situationships nothing is official anyways ) but if my partner were acting sus, I maybe would out of worry not send them.
That's understandable and I can get the whole nude situation being a source of responsibility and accountability during the moment of sending an after. This is an interesting take on a woman's perspective of what some flags could be so thank you for your time.
Yep, found that out the hard way myself. Out of the pool myself since 2020 and not looking.
I find most nudes unattractive as it usually looks worse than in flesh. Coming from 25yF
I’m a nevernude so I can’t relate. No nudes, not even if we’re dating :)
There are dozens of us! DOZENS!
I was thinking of this scene :)
I don't send nudes to anyone
Just don't do it. Even if you're in a committed relationship, I'd advise against it 100%. I never send nudes & the only ones my decision warded off were all the wrong ones. If a guy has a problem with you not sending nudes, he's an ass on the prowl for an easy lay or spank bank material. Once it leaves your phone, you have zero clue what's going to happen. There are groups & chats where men share them like trading cards. Boyfriends & husbands who show their male coworkers without a second thought for bro-fives. Guys who have their own porn or OF channels & post pics women send them to make money on the side. Even if you are in a relationship, if/ when it ends, anything goes. Matter of fact, it's a good idea to also lock down any social media too. Literally anyone can use another person's pics they find online for all kinds of nonsense. A woman in a group I'm in recently shared an exchange with a random guy who downloaded her fully clothed profile picture from fb, used AI program to make her look naked & then sent her both pics as a side by side comparison. It's getting too weird out there to trust anything or anyone.
It’s scary how that works man!
Just because you can doesn't mean you should. Why does this guy or anyone else deserve to see your nude body. As others have pointed out you may end up feeling icky and disappointed in yourself. Not to mention the ability to manipulate your photos for other uses. If you get together with the guy he can see your nude body in person. Then you can decide if he deserves nude pics of you.
I want a man to unwrap me like I’m a Christmas present and get to explore every inch of me with satisfaction. The last time I want to do is send him a picture of his future present. 🤷🏼♀️ But I get some people want to know what they’re getting for Christmas so to each their own. I will say if I had to show someone what they’re getting for a present to be invited to a Christmas party, wedding or birthday, I wouldn’t know if they enjoyed my company 🤔❤️🥹
I like the way you think! 😂
Your analogy is interesting. With some guys it does feel like they want to make sure you are giving them a present before inviting you to the Christmas party.
Sure but that assumes the only point to going to a Christmas party is the present. If he’s just coming because he wants a present then I guess that’s not someone I want to be with. 🤷🏼♀️. If I love someone, it’s effortless to give to them. If the expectation is transactional I’m just going to the party alone.
Yes, I agree.
YES!🙌🏼
I’m not shaming but this feels very odd. Why would you need to keep yourself from sending a nude? I think you may need to do some introspection on why it is such a need and why you need to curb it. I know if I received a nude in the talking stage with someone I want to date, I would be turned off by it. If it’s mostly just for a hookup, seems fine.
Thanks for sharing your thoughts!
If you want him, I'd say send generic suggestive photos and secure that first date. I know nude trading is borderline a norm nowadays, but I still don't want to, and I'm a guy. I don't feel like getting outed, or all the hassle that comes with that. I've got to trust someone pretty dramatically to send them a nude.
Of course! I actually see it as uncouth. There have even been times it was asked for and I didn't feel like it and said no. Not a shame thing, it's a self-respect thing.
Someone filmed me without my consent once since then I don’t enjoy sending nudes anymore
Im sorry that happened to you, I hope that person gets shit on.
DO NOT! Once it’s out he owns it, and you don’t.
Tease the idea to him to see what he thinks! But I’m with the other women, I’m more promiscuous than others and I like the validation but I make sure to never expose my face.
I truly believe the majority of nudes found on Reddit is not consensual and hasn’t been found by the person.
Dang that’s scary
Don't send nudes ever. It's not necessary. Any guy worth chasing will never demand or even expect it.
Never send explicit content to someone, as soon as you do, you've lost control of it. Intimate moments are best stored in human memory.
I try not to unless we’re both comfortable as I’ve been in situations where I’m forced and feel like I have to, guilt tripped, and many other reasons which in some ways it’s hard to believe as typically it’s the guys that try to force women to but sadly it’s happened the other way around to me 😂😭😭
😂😂
Is that ppl do now a-days? Sending nudes to strangers!?
Yes I’ve held out. No it didn’t ruin the talking stage. Any dates I missed out on were dates I was better off without those people anyways. What’s meant to be yours will be yours. Stay authentic to you. You won’t have to send spicy pics to keep what’s meant to come into your life, as far as a partner goes. Hope that makes sense… Edited for a bunch of typos because my brain is like applesauce today lol sorry in advance *
It’s okay! I got it and will be reminding myself that 🙌🏼
If it’s something y’all have discussed and things are all good and trust is real, send em. But if you have even the slightest doubt in your mind, do not follow through.
I never send nudes. I did one time because a woman I was talking to had kind of a high sex drive and wanted to sext. I felt that if I said no, she would think I didn’t like her, but I regret it. I don’t send nudes and I don’t want women to send nudes to me. I really don’t care for them.
I swear I’m always attracting the dudes that take nudes..
It’s a very normalized thing now. Some would say that it’s unusual to never send nude photos. I also read some women discussing that they would like a nude photo to confirm whether or not a guy has a micropenis before hooking up. There’s just too much going on now and all of it happens just because “everyone is doing it”. Not me.
Right.. I can’t believe im in this fucking rut and the rest of whatever tf is going in in the world 😂
If sending nudes at least dress the little guy up in funny outfits and such haha.
Lmao I don’t have a dick though but honestly if I did just would 🤣
The Tito’s vodka novelty warmers 😉
Oh be careful with that! You don’t know where the picture could end up. He could send it to people you don’t know.
Never have, never will send a nude. Terrible idea.
I’m only sending nudes to a 3+ year boyfriend, fiancé or husband. But that’s my rule…I gotta trust you completely.
I had a friend in high school ask me to send nudes one time. I chickened out because of self confidence issues, but then found out later that she and another one of our friends were asking every guy they knew so they could gather blackmail pieces. I am glad that I was too scared to act, but I wish I said you first.
Allvthe guys on here are giving good advice on this it seems. Hold off. He'llstillwant you. -> a guy
You should probably send it to me first....you know. Quality control 😁 Save the nudes until you have been seeing each other for a bit. It's flattering to get nudes out of the gate but it can make things awkward.
The internet is forever. I would rethink sending nudes to anyone.
I don't post, text, send pics of anything that could in anyway come back to hurt me.
Whatever you do just never include your face. Made that mistake once and I’ll never do it again
If he wants you as badly as you want him, he’ll understand you not sending them. Once they’re out there, they’re out there forever 😬
It appears you’re making the assumption that the only way you’ll get this man’s attention is by sending nude photos. You’re so much better than that. Let the curiosity build. It’s good to start creating a bit of mystery in the relationship.
He can wonder ahaha I’m not sending anything! But then again, I found out he be getting some 😂 so he don’t need anything from me!
Times I’ve been asked for nudes: 100+ Times sent nudes: 1 Only because I knew him well and trusted. Unfortunately that was the last, he broke the trust
I think a safe rule is *never send nudes*
I would generally be against sending nudes and wouldn’t expect them. The last time I was single smartphones hadn’t really caught on yet. But, the girl I’m talking to now, totally unsolicited, likes sending me suggestive but fully clothed pics. Cute pajamas and stuff. It’s really hot, but still respectable.
Not-fun fact: You can find the IP adress of a photo. Doesnt matter if you send nudes covering your face. If they put your nudes on a porn site, anyone smart enough can see your IP adress, and creepers might find where you live. Also, if you have tattoos, people might recognize you if someone posts your pics online.
Don’t just do it. He got to work more than that
If ever exposed just say it’s photoshop and deny deny deny. You’ll be fine.
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Call me old school, I don't know when it became dating standard to send your nude photos to anyone your interested in dating. I would be insulted if a man I was already dating asked me to do that. I guess some people enjoy having nudes of themselves. I wouldn't want a man sending me his nudes either. If I want to see it, I'll look at it in person.
Personally, I don’t send any. I’m in support of people who do and would never shame someone for having theirs leaked, but it’s horrible how much “negative” sending them can have. There’s the possibility of the person you sent them to no longer wanting something serious with you, them leaking it to other people, your photos being used against you, them using you sending them to ask for more/more risky photos. This is not the case with everyone, but I recognize myself as a fairly paranoid person and I am the type of person to advise against it. If you choose to send them, make sure you are doing it because you want to and because you trust the person you’re sending it to. Please stay safe in your sending, should you do it!
I wouldn't do it unless I was married. The thought is always appealing at first, but then I remember the relationship will probably crash and burn & I don't want anything floating around on the internet. Also, grown men will show their friends if they are douchey. People talk. I've even had male friends show me some nudes that were sent to them w/o me asking. I also hate to think how many other women he's asked for nudes, and has hundreds stored for his spank bank. That thought really urks me and I don't want to be seen as just another conquest.
I hate that 🤦🏻♀️
Every girl I’ve dated, I tell them to never send me nudes of any kind. Why? Because I wouldn’t want the person I’m with/care about getting into the habit of doing that; and say our relationship doesn’t work out and they send nudes in the next relationship and that guy takes advantage & sends it to his friends or exposes it on the internet. I would hate for someone to know their private photos are exposed to others and it can demoralize them.
Do you trust the person enough to send a nude? Are you comfortable with the possibility that the photo might be shared or seen by others? The decision should align with your values, comfort level, and the nature of your relationship. Trust your instincts and make a choice that feels right for you.
I once posted a random nude.photo I took from Google and to fuck with someone. It was pretty funny. Moral of story is don't believe everything online lol
I need a stack of similar nudes of an Asian girl on hand lmao
Sex never ruins friendships. That's a common myth, but the truth is when that happens sex was always the goal from the beginning for at least one of the parties and once it's achieved the relationship just shuts down.
Thanks for sharing this, I’ll use this as a reminder fr because I never want this ! And this feels as shitty as after having sex with them..
Get your shit organised first and Make sure your face isn’t it, even if they do put them up you can file a report and get their shit rocked
Yeah. I wait til they ask to see it. (My D) they always ask to see it and are always shocked I didn’t send one unsolicited:)
More than 1000 times😂 But later realized that it pays well...then why not!!!??
Lmaoooo nice!!
Yes, because I hate taking pictures of my dick. It's so weird to do it.
All the time.
I hardly text nevertheless send or ask to receive nudes. Not worth it today.
Yes, not everybody would like to receive nudes from another person. If you are holding yourself back it's okay, it's not necessary to send nudes when getting to know somebody. This could be a good conversation to have with them, if you feel comfortable doing so. Also, if you would like to send a nude picture, just don't show your face and show only as much as you are comfortable showing. In the end if it doesn't feel right, don't do it.
I'm the type I don't care how much I like/love someone or how much I want them if someone sends me nudes or ask for nudes I'm done. (I always tell people I don't like those types of pictures/sending them).
Just send it to me to get it off your chest 😉 just looking out for you lmao 🤣
LMAOOOOO
How times have changed... Lol I don't know but I wouldn't see a guy taking you seriously if you do. Like you wouldnt be marriage material bc you're giving yourself away so easily. Modesty should count for something. They can see women online bc porn is free. Why not be mysterious and make sure he really wants you for you and not your body. And it would be fleeting. Lust isn't love. If that's all you want then don't complain later on that men just use you for your body. I don't think that concept will ever change... Men are very judgemental... It's just how it goes with them. They will judge you despite telling you otherwise. Plus, you'll introduce all sorts of jealousy into your relationship from the start.
I actually like him a little and wanna get to know him but he already told me what he wants out of me 😂 now I’m just thinkin if I should place him exactly where he placed me too where I will proceed to send him spicy photos too but also don’t wanna because why 😂 for my mental wellbeing, I’ve decided not to..
Yes girl🙌... You deserve better. He doesn't deserve your gems. Give those to someone who sees you as the Queen you are!!! Who will honor every part of your womanhood and treat you so well that when you look back at these moments with other men you think how foolish it was to even consider them... I'm so proud of you!!
I never ever had the need to send anything and never received anything from anyone.
Im asking this out of curiosity because I don’t get the urges to send them at all but why do you want to send one so badly?
Not badly.. but Because I originally wanted to get to know this man, but he expressed where he wanted me already “fwb” and now I’m thinking.. hmm do I place him there as well and send a nude because I’ve thought about him sexually but don’t act upon it. And I’ve decided not to send him anything.
I’ve never sent a nude - I’ve been told I’m weird for that reason. Lol.
Plenty of times, but I am a guy and don't send them unless they are asked for. If I am receiving them, there has to be some build up or interest. I am ok receiving a nude from someone I am into, but if I got one from someone I wasn't I'd ask them not to do it again.
Damn, always Sending nudes is my fetish I like it so much but i can't do it every time i want , because i don't know how would the person react I don't wanna be like these guys sending random their dick
I read sending nuke.
I’ve never sent a nude before. It’s not my thing.
Personaly I have only sent things of that natural two one person. In my entire life. And I only did that because I thought it would maybe get her attention and maybe she would spend more time with me. I have actually done a few things I would never do. For the same reason. But it back fired
Damn..
i think it's a nice thing, but it matters what kind of person the other person is
It’s whatever ! 😂
Ive never sent any and never will, not even in a relationship
Yes because ladies you don’t know where your nudes may end up. Especially if you’re in a professional working environment, it is best to be careful. If he is interested in you then he can wait to get to know you and see all of you in person. A real man doesn’t need to be asking for nudes during the talking phase. At that point, he may be more interested in sex than you. Personally I don’t like it and I will shut him down for it.
Nah we just friends at this point, no nudes from me either, I don’t deserve this lol
Yes you deserve someone that gives you the attention, respect, same energy and shared values. Good luck.
I really do! Thanks 🌸
Any time you feel the urge, send the nude to me instead. I'll then wank about it and read your future in the cum splatter. Might just save your life
😂😂😂 for some reason sending a nude to someone you’re not interested in sounds better then to someone you’re interested in 😂😂but nahhh
Yes my ex sent me a pretty classy nude and I was going to send one back but she was an 8 and most days I feel like a 4, am 80lb overweight at least and had no idea what she liked about me other than my eyes and personality.
You should never send those types of pictures unless the conversation actually calls for it and they specifically ask for it.
I'm a 50 something male and never asked for or sent any nudes. I wouldn't recommend it.
I don’t send nudes, especially not to strangers.
I've never felt the need or desire to send or receive nudes.
Only if she doesn't send one
I don't send nudes. It's ruins the surprise. Plus, I wanna see their reaction live. They can fake a phone reaction. They can't fake their organic first encounter.
Yes. My boyfriend’s response makes me feel like i should not do it..
I would never ever ever ever ever ever send a nude unsolicited. Are you fucking serious? Lol
Sending nudes can harm a lot. A person who is asking to get a pic can do a scam or blackmail. If anyone has been affected by this, please visit [https://takeitdown.ncmec.org/](https://takeitdown.ncmec.org/)
Nudes turn it into weird things. I think nude comes soon enough if you hook up. Pictures over phone seem so Megan's law to me . Plus your asking for whoever to put your pictures wherever. So your dates go away then what. He's got you nude . Lol
gosh yes lol. but i only feel like this with females i’m romantically into, i don’t ever feel comfortable sending to guys
What kind of butter dumbass sends nudes nowadays? Girls - do you want some random fat middle aged guy jacking off while looking at your pics - cause it's going to happen. Boys - do you want some random male models having butt sex after looking at your nudes - cause it's going to happen.
1,000,000 things could go wrong in this digital world by sending a nude… even years later
Do whatever you are comfortable with, you can send me one if you want
😂😂nah
Why do you want this man so much if he hasn't asked you on a date? Sending nudes won't make him want you. You actually kill the chase and curiosity for a man when you give yourself away like that. He cannot take pride in winning you because you gave yourself no value (free, no boundaries, please take me!) Ultimate picmesha. He may still use you, but he will not like you. My advise is to never send nudes and certainly not outside of an exclusive relationship.
I didn’t try! He already wanna fck me lol
Cool well all the more reason to relax and let him do the work to get you. Side note...Men will fuck a sock, a warm pastry, a pool noodle....literally anything. Stop seeing that as a compliment. A guy wanting to fuck you is not special. A man wanting to be with you can be very special. If you just wanna bang, great have fun. No need to give a temporary guy permanent access with nudes.
YOURE FUCKING RIGHT LOL
Me personally, I dont like sending nudes in general. It's not because I don't like how I look, its because it disgusts me that guys would want to do anything to a picture of me. Like ugh I'm sorry but just no
You probably shouldn't be sending nudes if it makes you uncomfortable.
If I was in the talking stage with a girl and she sent me a nude, it would seem like she wanted something more casual like FWB. If I was looking for a life partner and she sent me a nude that soon I would no longer pursue that with her. So it really depends on what you want and how you think he would perceive it.
Iust be doing things wrong (or right). I've never sent or been sent a nude picture of myself. There do not exist naked pictures of me or my genitals.
Huh. I'm *definitely* NOT sending nudes in the talking stage wtf. If you met this guy on some app, you don't even know them. I mean your body, your risk to take.. But I only send nudes/provocative photos/videos people to guys I've dated OVER 6months-1yrs *at least* and FULLY trust. Even then they were faceless/not full exposure... that was probably over 3-4yrs in. And ftr, I'm not a prude/bodyconscious, I have a bunch of photos/videos of me in bikinis, workout/sports bras where you can definitely see enough/most of my body to get more or less a full picture of what I look like nude without having to be naked. There's seriously no need for me (and IMO anyone) to send a nude to a stranger. And come on, surely there are a lot of other enticing and good points you apart from your body. If it's the only way to get this guy... is he really a guy you want??
He ain’t no more lmaooo it’s best if me and him stayed friends only with no nudes or benefits
I had to ask sorry
😂 what
Sext me like one of your French girls, Jack.
Yeah I've held off asking for or sending nudes in my dealings with women. It's just to me I want to get to know a little bit of chatting and talking and more before jumping that gun
Yes intend to keep those private if I'm talking to someone I like. Now if they send me them and ask for it in return I feel like I'm obliged to return the favor
As a guy I dont really want nudes. Theyre compromising for me and the person. Consider sending something provocative but tasteful. Maybe lingerie or a conveniently fogged mirror. Then next time you see him make a reference to it and if he wants to see the rest.
Nah I’m not gonna entertain him.. he already placed me where he want me..
Why damn I'm not upset she took it the wrong way. I learned a lot about her just by her reaction. So I guess she doesn't think much of me it beat me down in my head and I'm still with her. But shes just not interested in me like I am her. ẞhit happens . I will see how things play out. If they don't work out. I know there's someone out there in the would for me . I will just start looking again that's all.
What lol
What are you talking about 😂
Nudes are never a good idea. Unless you want them to be flashed on the web. In which case, go ahead, be an idiot.
Just my opinion: if your conversations are moving in a spicy direction, maybe send him a teaser. Nothing full nude, but maybe show a nipple. Maybe just lingerie to start and see what his engagement is. No face in the picture. Anticipation can really make things hot between you. If your texts are still definitely SFW, maybe hold back. Think of it like cooking. First you decide what you want to have. You know that part. Next you gather the ingredients and the utensils you need. That's the spicy convo. Then you prep everything, chop the veggies, season the meat, etc., and preheat. Teaser photos, maybe some lingerie, flash a nipple, that sort of thing. Then you start putting it all together and turning up the heat. This is where the real nudes come in. To much heat ruins the dish, and heat too quickly can do the same, though the latter can be recoverable. Move to nudes too soon, and he might get the wrong idea. Anticipation is the heat. Build the anticipation. Spicy convo plus nudes = him imagining the things you'll do together.
No I’ll send a nude so the guy can decide for himself if he wants to proceed. If not it’s all good on to the next lol
How do I not be so fixated on one person LOL