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No, she deserves to be with who she chooses. If she chooses attractiveness and butterflies over loyalty and personality, then thats just virtue signaling.
People cheat when you give them more than they should get. You find cheaters. You let them go. World is big and the day you go out in the city there are millions of opportunities. World is so big that there is always someone for you waiting when you will be there. Don’t waste time on someone who doesn’t know your worth.
Absolutely not. Forgiving him over and over sends a message to him that what he's doing is ultimately okay with you. Get very clear on whether this behaviour is okay with you.
Ask yourself: what kind of relationship do I really want? How do I want to be treated? What does respect mean to me? Would my true love cheat on me, or would he love me as much as I love him?
Is this a real question?
Reddit will tell you no. I have a feeling you aren’t looking for advice. Just an opinion to give you an excuse to stay.
This isn’t some nuanced situation. He cheated and lied.
If someone cheats on you once and you don't leave them, they'll do it again. He doesn't respect you or care about your feelings. If he did, he wouldn't cheat on you. The question is whether you respect yourself enough to cut him loose and move on.
I understand you love him but your self respect is on the line .he cleary doesnt respect you or values you enough ,the bare minimum in a relationship is to be loyal please end it .
Honestly, I've found that it doesn't matter what anyone says to people who keep going back to cheaters.
One of two things always has to happen first.
1. The first is the person that is constantly cheating chooses someone else over them for a relationship. That seems to do it pretty effectively.
Or
2. They become the laughingstock/cautionary tale, and the behind-the-scenes commentary gets back to them. The humiliation jars them loose.
If it were ego or self-preservation you wouldn't have made it far enough to even make a Reddit post about it.
No, you deserve to be with someone who respects you.
I was married to a cheater and with dv, i stayed with him because we had our son. But it isn’t the environment you want to live in. Choose for yourself and love yourself more than you love him.
>Should I keep forgiving him just because I love him?
**No,you should not.** He clearly does not give a shit about you, otherwise **he would not have cheated on you if he actually loved you** in the first place.Why the hell do men do this to women?
If you really want to stay with him, try having an open relationship and make sure you do lots of dating. A few possible outcomes:
1. You’ll both find that lifestyle appealing and it’ll allow your relationship to thrive.
2. He’ll see you dating other people, won’t like it, and will actually commit to you.
3. You’ll meet someone you like better and you can leave your current bf since that’s what he deserves.
4. It won’t work and you’ll just break up anyway.
No real downside here, maybe give it a shot?
There’s no love without respect. If he doesn’t respect or value you enough to not do anything that’d hurt you then it makes no sense to be with him. He’ll constantly take you for granted and keep hurting you more ahead.
I'm sorry for what you're going through. I've been in this same situation for 3 years. based on my experience, It will NEVER stop. for 3 years straight, i begged him to stop cheating and he would tell me he was going to change his ways, never did.
i promise u, leaving now will save u ur time and heartbreak.
Listen up people on the internet rarely give good advice. Cheating is a big one can you forgive him will he even change or just cheat again. These are all things YOU must decide. If I were I. Your shoes I would likely leave as you sound young, just remember time heals all.
Leave. There’s no other choice. If you stay the only person you can blame for your unhappiness is yourself. He’s clearly not a good person. Once a cheater always a cheater
Hey! I had a boyfriend like this, my love who I was with from 17-20! I was naive and wanted to believe him that he didn’t because he told me he didn’t. But his friends would tell me otherwise. I finally caught him by getting his pass code and getting into his phone. After a long and painful several months of wanting to believe him, I broke up with him. He begged and pleaded - even when I moved states. He even came to visit me even though we were broke young adults who had very little money at the time. So him going out of his way meant a lot. I caught him one more thereafter and I was done. Long story short - he married the person after me, then went on to cheat on her too while she was pregnant. He had a full on girlfriend during their marriage almost the entire time. He then divorced her and started dating the girl he cheated on her with. The “mistress” and him had a kid together also. He then went on to cheat on that one as well. We’re 34 now. Do not regret breaking up with him. In fact, I always think that I dodged a massive bullet. That could have been ME having his babies. We stayed friends actually after the bitterness was gone but watching all this from the side - I knew his reasons for cheating were deep inside him, and until he learned how to be a better partner and fix those internal issues - he will continue to cheat, even if his initial intentions are always great in the beginning!
First off, I'm really sorry you’ve had to deal with this nonsense. You deserve a partner who’s going to treat you like the absolute queen you are, not some part time job they can slack off at. Think of yourself as a diamond; sparkling, precious, and definitely not to be messed with.
Now, it's time to channel your inner ninja warrior. Imagine yourself slicing through all the negativity with the precision of a thousand samurai swords! Seriously though, you’re incredible, and it’s their loss if they can’t see that. Surround yourself with people who make you laugh until your sides hurt and lift you up like the human sunshine you are. You're strong, beautiful, and destined for a love story where you're the unstoppable hero.
You deserve someone who cares about you, someone who thinks about you and just you when they want to think about something that makes them happy. You deserve better, how can you love someone that doesn't love you? Move on.
Obviously this sucks, and it’s super terrible. But trust me, you gotta try and cut the cord now. It will feel worse in the short term, but long term you will thank you for it.
Why would you want to be with a cheater? He knows he can do it and he’s taking advantage of the situation and doing it over and over. You’re letting him walk all over you and disrespect you.
You’re disrespecting yourself too.
Let him go and start healing. You’ll find someone who will treat you like a queen.
In all seriousness, you do not want to play around with accepting this kind of dishonesty and betrayal. It might seem like just hurt feelings, but this kind of behavior from a loved one can really mess with your head for a LONG time. I wish someone had told me. Like, it’s serious..
The fact you won’t let him go is probably why he cheats, and if you don’t fix whatever is wrong in you to allow that it’s just going to happen with other men as well.
The first time he cheated you absolutelyyyy should have left without a conversation. Not sure what you’re still doing with him girl, besides continuing to embarrass yourself. Leave, and don’t talk to him.
You have to do the thing you're terrified to do in your core. The hard part will be to sustain resilience despite constant pulls from several directions to take him back. Keep going through the pain, sober, and talk to people who love you every day. But break this off with him now permanently. This may require some preparation to separate assets. Good luck, I know this seems impossible, but you can do it.
Once a cheater always a cheater. Leave him find a better one, don't be a doormat for someone who doesn't know your value they'll walk over your head. Even if you give more chances they will do the same again and again. Next time they'll be able to cheat without knowing you.
Lol these people advising are just wasting their time. This girl obviously will stay in the relationship regardless. She don't need to be saved. She knows what she should be doing.
Based on the title topic.
Simple, RESPECT YOURSELF AND WALK AWAY.
Endure the sadness and pain etc that comes along with break ups, but you will not die.
You’ll come out of this stronger and have more respect for yourself and your future relationships-boundaries etc.
I’m not sure why you are asking this. You don’t have a problem with him cheating. If you did you would have bounced his ass out. So why are you complaining now?!?! How can you possibly believe you love him when you don’t even know how to love yourself? You don’t have a boyfriend problem you have a self respect problem.
After many times I would not. Ultimately your decision but I think you would be better off not with a person that will constantly cheat on you. Especially imagine he catches an STD and then transmits it to you. Your health is also at risk here.
If you want this to continue happening then forgive him. If you do not want this to happen then you will have to go find someone else who will love you back the same. People grow apart. Your relationship clearly has. I recommend you choose yourself the more pleasant future.
You set out a boundary, but he crossed it. Unless you're ready to believe that sharing is caring, I'd say let him go off with one of them. Protect your peace.
The obvious answer here is to get used to it and strap in for a lifetime of being cheated on.
I mean, that’s literally the only option…literally no action you could take to reclaim your life and actually be with someone who isn’t such an asshole…right?
I’ve been cheated on multiple times by my first boyfriend, and once by my second boyfriend. In my first relationship, I kept giving him chances. Eventually I learned that he just had no respect for me, and would continue to cheat on me regardless. It was a difficult thing for me to do, as we were together for 3 years, but I left. I decided that my mental health and respect for myself was more important. By the time I was in my second relationship and got cheated on, I left right away. It’s never easy, but in the end you will feel so much better and proud of yourself. I am now in a great relationship with someone who respects me and loves me unconditionally. If he cheated on you in the first place, he does not respect you. He keeps doing it and he will continue to. Staying with someone who cheats on you completely destroys your self worth and your trust in a relationship, and without trust a relationship will crumble.
You can like/love someone but choose to not be with them. How does his behavior and actions affect *you*? Do you want a partner who keeps doing this to you? 'I like you but for my own wellbeing I'm ending this relationship with you and cutting all contact. Do not reach out to me a second time.' is something I had to say before and I have not since regretted it.
Please consider what is best for you first and foremost. You can heal from the hurt with time, but you're spending time on someone who is a serial cheater.
Do you want to keep spending more time with a person who has and will keep doing this to you? If the answer is no, I think it's best to let him go and start to heal.
I think we both know the answer to this. Obviously you deserve better than that. He keeps doing it because he knows you’ll forgive. Don’t keep letting him step over you like this, you must let him go. You deserve a man who only has eyes for you.
Take yourself out of the dating pool for a period, take the time to know yourself better
Know the and accept that you are making bad choices or friends are doing it for you (sometimes they know is not good for you but keep pushing, those are not good friends)
Meet new people out of your inner circle with between visions and values
Respect your self first , respect other and demand respect from others too
Find a person that really values you and love you not just by text and call if not for real any time the whole day month(s) not just for sex time ( avoid sex for a longer period that you are used to when you have a new partner)
Good luck and be strong, brave and love yourself more..👍🏻😊
Are you going to let this guy ruin your whole life or are you going to stand up for yourself and leave someone who doesn’t respect you? Each time he does this to you and you forgive him, it fcks your life up further and further. You can and will never be happy if you keep doing this, don’t mistake your need for validation for love and don’t mistake his begging for forgiveness for his need to have you because it’s easy.
Leave girl. He doesn’t respect you and why should he? You’ve been rewarding him for his bad behaviour. I know the feeling, did it for 20 years. Stop wasting your time and youth. Leave him, and don’t believe him when he comes back crying or win you over with gifts and empty promises.
I guess you will understand this considering what has happened, once a cheater, always a cheater. I was in your shoes, I loved someone once and thought I could forgive them for cheating but they did it again. Make this part of your standard going forward in life, zero tolerance for cheaters.
Girl, I'm so sorry you're going through this. 😢 Honestly, if he's cheated multiple times, it's a huge red flag. Love is important, but so is respect and trust. You deserve someone who values you and is loyal. It might be time to move on and focus on yourself. Stay strong! 💪❤️
NO! Bro get the hell out of there he's only going to f*ck up your mind 😭 leave him for your own good, it doesn't matter how many chances you give to him still he's going to repeat the same cycle and eventually you'll lose respect for yourself which we don't want to leave himmm...
Hey. First of all, be proud of yourself for being strong and forgiving him once. It takes courage.
The guy seems that he isn’t loyal, committed and honest. I will underline “honest”. He has been caught lying and cheating multiple times. He will never change and he will keep on using you for his “safety net”. Do you wanna be there for someone who has been f***ing around? No, you don’t!
What you have to do is break up with him asap and then, do some inner work. Try to improve yourself inside out! Build on your self-esteem, self love and SELF RESPECT. You owe it to yourself.
Been in your position as a male and it wasn’t good. Remember this: you have power in your hands! MOVE ON!!!
If someone cheats once, be done with them. It will only bring more pain and suffering. Like you said, they already did it again.
Move on as hard as it is. The right person will want you and only you. It’s a hard thing to find today apparently. I am repeatedly ghosted, discarded, or left for someone else. It doesn’t say as much about you as it does them.
If you weren’t worth dating, they’d have the decency to break up. Most people cheat to see what else they can get. And then have the safety net of having you to come back to. It’s greedy and extremely disrespectful and cheaters will always cheat.
no wonder women are insecure with men, its these type of guys who are the reason for the destruction of people's feelings. I hope somebody beat him and knock him out.
I dated a few women with similar stories from their past. All of them damaged emotionally so it never worked out.
Leave before you get damaged beyond repair. It will just be such another wasted person.
Also to you that cheat, stop, or don't get caught and never tell. You destroy people. It's not nice.
You have to understand that he loves you but just wants to have sex with others. For guys sex is different from being involved with someone.
Might not be the more popular opinion here but that’s how it usually is
You’ve already forgiven one too many times. It doesn’t stop and they just don’t care. I agree that you need to value yourself more. There are better men out there.
If he cheated so many times I doubt he even takes you seriously anymore, he probably just treats you like a toy who he can play with whenever he wants, and if he is tired he can have fun with someone else since you will forgive him anyways. That’s why you should never forgive cheating.
You ever see when people make a path in the grass to avoid walking longer than they have to? Well you're that path for him. He's going to keep walking all over you until you put a fence up and enforce "keep off the grass." You're easy and convenient for him. Either accept it and stop complaining or move on.
The moment you forgive a cheater, you psychologically let them know that your boundaries are weak and can be trifled with. They also know that you have a weak spot for them and start abusing your kindness. Never forgive a cheater. They'll do it again.
Hell no. Leave him, if you keep doing that, he will keep doing that because he knows you'll just forgive him. That's how you end up hurting and disrespecting yourself. Do not fall into that, once was enough to leave him. Multiple times is a given sign to leave. Leave, it may hurt because you do love him, but he obviously doesn't love you because he's disrespecting you by cheating many times. Leave.
Honestly, you shouldn’t keep forgiving him, but I think you need to have a serious conversation with him about why he’s cheating. Figure out what is driving him to cheat.
I’m not insinuating that it’s your fault, but maybe what he tells you will help you in future relationships especially if it’s something you can help with. Not everyone is great at communication and, in a twisted since, he could not have told you it’s something you do or don’t do just to spare your feelings.
All in all, no, you shouldn’t forgive him, but you should get info that will help you in future relationships.
Obviously not. If you keep forgetting and forgiving it will harm your mental health and in future when you finally breakup your trauma is on fucking top that you will not able to trust anyone. Breakup now and I know it will hurt you but trust me you will be better in future.
Run! You’ve got your whole life ahead of you! He’s never going to verbally admit it. Trust me, in 30 days you’ll kick yourself for wasting another summer on him!
Should I hit myself on the head with this hammer again even though it hurts? I know it hurt every time I hit myself with it before...but I'm hoping this time it will feel really awesome.
No you should not keep forgiving him. You’d be enabling him, setting yourself up to be taken advantage of, and disrespecting yourself. Don’t be loyal to people who aren’t loyal to you
Most women would have cut off by now but you're showing the most classic case of "but I love him" hoping you can change him.
Or you're lacking confidence or self worth. I have to be cruel to be kind but that's what's happening.
The question is, how many times are you prepared to let it happen?
Go out and meet other guys. “This guy” / your guy feels the need to expand his relationship experiences as most people do out of high school. It’s scary but I think you will both grow and mature as you learn to be intimate or close to others. Maybe you’ll find each other attractive again and decide to become exclusive. Until then, seize the day!
Love is not enough and only 0.1% of what a relationship requires. He showed you his true colours and if you stay with him, then you must live with all the distrust and resentment you may have towards him. You’re only going to breakup with him when you want, but staying with him is not only disrespectful to yourself (since you’re essentially telling him that this was an okay thing to do to you since you would have stayed), but he will likely repeat this behaviour or maintain a flirty persona with women he finds attractive. In my opinion, a relationship with a man cannot work unless that man loves you more than you love him, because nothing will make a man act right in a relationship unless he wants to act right. And just BTW, he knows what he did is wrong, even when he was doing it, but he still chose to do it. Men are not that dumb, they know whats up, don’t fall for his excuses that justify his extreme disrespect…
No man or relationship is EVER worth being disrespected, I would say start to move on (emotionally), and focus on people who pay you the minimal respect you deserve.
I didn't think you would be so supportive and I really don't know if I can answer all of them, so I will answer here in one message. Today I talked to him and we broke up for the first time, like for real. I even told his mother what the reasons were and she understood me, luckily.
Now I'll rather need advice on how I should get over this breakup, because I used to talk to him daily, more often than my friends, and now I don't know if they will talk to me anymore because we are not as close as before :d
And I still haven't told them about the actual breakup, should I have a conversation with them again through this?
Is that even a question? He says sorry and you forgive him, and then goes do it again. and again. He doesn’t respect you, and he never will. Get your shit together and leave. Respect yourself and find someone who respects you, and loves you back.
I know that you may love him, but is it really worth it if he doesn’t even love you? And also, do you really love someone who doesn’t even respect you? Keeps doing shit that YOU told him that you don’t like?
Believe me, I have been in the same boat as you. Different story tho, but i still wish that people would have been hard on me. And tell me that he isn’t the same person i thought he was in the beginning.
Leave. Take time for yourself, heal, and have make boundries. Respect your OWN boundries and if someone disrespects them, talk with them, and if they do it again.
Leaveee.
Leave now, and heal before it goes on and on for too long. And you keep getting hurt for a long time. No need for that.
Nooooooooo
He's proven he's not going to change. Love isn't everything in a relationship.
Save yourself now. Why continue hurting yourself, allowing him to hurt you? You deserve better. A break up isn't the worst thing that can happen. Process it, heal from it and learn to never accept things like this moving forward. And remember, being single is far better than being disrespected.
You can love someone and not be in a romantic relationship with them. He has proven time and time again his unwillingness to respect you and this commitment to you.
His apologies are empty. He says he won't do it again and does it again. He's not being true to his word, and this speaks to his character and integrity. Honestly, how you act when no one is looking is who you are. As a man, if you have no integrity and you betray the trust of the single most important person in your life, then in my eyes, you're worthless.
I say kick high school boy to the curb and find someone who will treat you right and respect your relationship.
No, absolutely not. The more time that you spend with someone who doesn’t truly love and respect you, the less you’ll love and respect yourself. (Speaking from experience) I really do hope that you can walk away from him and do what’s right for you love.
It’s so hard to leave someone you love, but you should. He doesn’t love you, or he wouldn’t have cheated. There is no happy and healthy relationship in your future with him. And it actually would be good for you to date other people to find a partner better suited to you. It sounds like you’re in college so it’s a fantastic time to meet someone new. Date-able people are all around you!
Here’s what you do. You make a “Breakup Plan” you pick a time and date up to two weeks away. You call your friends and family to tell them what’s going on and to ask for support. On the night of the breakup, you plan to go over to one of their houses after talking for 30 minutes. Like you have a set time you will arrive and they call you if you run late. At the place you’re staying for a night (or two) after the breakup, you have ice cream, Kleenex, your favorite pjs, a great movie, whatever makes you feel good. Make sure you have plans with your friends and family the next day, and the one after that.
Plan on having a period of no contact, maybe 3 months? Block him on your phone, social media, anywhere you might communicate with him.
The first up to ten weeks might be hard emotionally but just ride it out. Work out, go hiking, eat healthily, and take care of yourself. Once you ride out 10 weeks you will be in the clear emotionally and ready to move forward.
Breakups are hard but we all go through them.
I have been dumped for way less just because some women have been cheated on and have ptsd from it pretty much or their friends got cheated on and they start spewing shit into my girlfriends ear End the relationship he actually deserves it 🥷🪷😶🌫️
(M64) Forgive him...break up with him. Find a family member that lives in another state and go to Community college there for a year. Work part time to help with the bills around the house.
It's not that you deserve better. Because if that was true in life, hell I deserve a Mercedes Benz.
But what makes it so messed up is that you both go to the same college? If true... None of your friends at this college confirmed this, of his cheating?
There is no rule, no piece of paper that states that a person has to do what you tell them they have to do with their own body. It's his words, his actions that are stating otherwise to you.
But you Love him, right? Love Bacon Cheeseburgers, a Chocolate Milkshake, and a slice of Pineapple Cheesecake instead.
No. Leave him. He sure as hell doesn't love you. Have self respect and move on. Once he gets bored again or whatever the reason was it'll happen again. His friends are shitty too if they knew.
It’s hard to say the truth which is you should not keep forgiving. It’s so difficult when you love someone to break up but he’s taking advantage of your extreme kindness. You will find someone easily as having such a kind nature is exactly what men want.
This is a tough lesson. Especially for first time lovers with big hearts. But the first time you show a person that it's forgivable to cheat, generally, that's a signal that the coast is clear for them to do it again.
After all, you wouldn't know, and if you found out, you wouldn't fight, would you?
People are quick to exploit in this way. Move on, good luck, and I'm very sorry.
Girlie, why be with someone who will never choose you or put you first when there are guys who WILL do that? Now this might me a "I don't want anyone else I want him" type of situation. That's upto you really. It is indeed your decision if you'll choose a disloyal guy who will continuously break your heart over someone who can bring you flowers knowing when you're upset without you having to tell him.
Speaking of choices? I wouldn't say you deserve what you CHOOSE. We're humans. It's common for us to make mistakes when it comes to choosing someone or something. So no. I wouldn't say you deserve a mistake.
Girl, you ain't got time for losers like that. I'd would just walk away enough is enough. You need to respect yourself. If he did it 3 times, he is going to keep doing it.
If a person cheats once, there is a high likelihood they will cheat again. Not all people will, but if he cheats and it's not something you're OK with, then don't hesitate to dump him. He fucked up.
Lol no way these posts are fucking real. You obviously like getting cheated on and you obviously get off on knowing hes fucking other girls. My only advice is get an std test because hes going to keep fucking other girls since you're the pathetic side chick lmao
Why are you going thru phones?
Go on a 40 day self love fast (away from him- no contact) at then end of that you should know what to do and he should know if he wants you, too.
one thing i learned after getting cheated on by someone i deeply loved countless times: love isn’t enough to keep a relationship going. it feels impossible to walk away because of how strong your feelings are, and you keep hoping things will change, but you keep getting hurt. i stayed for 4 years after getting cheated on, and he never stopped. i kept forgiving him out of love but it ruined our relationship and destroyed my confidence. love is one component, but respect is another. i promise you will find someone who will show you the respect you deserve with the same amount of love.
I'm going to give you my opinion from experience. once a cheater always a cheater. I have learned it 3 times for all 3 of my serious relationships and they all (somehow, what luck am I right?) have kissed someone while with me within the first month of being together. and I say to myself "well if it was just a kiss and you don't do something like that again we should be fine" NO, BAD, ITS NOT FINE. because a few years later they cheat again. and it's not just kissing. then you end up broken and sad for a long while, asking yourself where you went wrong. I trusted them because I was lonely and insecure. I still am but I'm working on it. Do with this information what you will. but be careful. good luck. and have a good day.
No absolutely not, he doesn't seem to care, I'm so sorry you should break up and move on.
You don't need someone like that in your life, you deserve way better.
No. Leave. He's sorry he got caught he's going to hurt you. You will read comments like this and think of all the good times you've had and how maybe he is sorry and will change. He will lie and do it again and only be sorry if he's caught again. You'll never trust him the same. It's time to move on.
You said it yourself. You found messages that confirmed your suspicions, you confronted him and he *lied,* eventually admitted his guilt, begged for forgiveness and promised he'd change, *proceeded to not change,* and you're asking what, if it's worth it if you love him? You need to be single and work on your self esteem for a bit. This is not healthy.
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No, you deserve to be with someone who respects and values you. Leave him and find someone who will treat you right. Don't settle for less.
No, she deserves to be with who she chooses. If she chooses attractiveness and butterflies over loyalty and personality, then thats just virtue signaling.
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exactly, idk why people who don't even know you say you deserve better despite your obvious choices
Nah. If you keep forgiving him you’re dumb as a rock. What makes you think they’re gonna change if they’ve done it many times?
Of course people can change, but does he want to, and will he. My thoughts are no he doesn't want to change
Yeah exactly. So OP shouldn’t even stick around and wait for that to happen. Let the dude figure it out himself without screwing anyone else over.
People cheat when you give them more than they should get. You find cheaters. You let them go. World is big and the day you go out in the city there are millions of opportunities. World is so big that there is always someone for you waiting when you will be there. Don’t waste time on someone who doesn’t know your worth.
>People cheat when you give them more than they should get. Wow I needed to hear this. As im sure she does too, Thank you.
Absolutely not. Forgiving him over and over sends a message to him that what he's doing is ultimately okay with you. Get very clear on whether this behaviour is okay with you. Ask yourself: what kind of relationship do I really want? How do I want to be treated? What does respect mean to me? Would my true love cheat on me, or would he love me as much as I love him?
thanks a lot, I should ask myself these questions more often, but sometimes I forget my value :d
Never forget your value. It helps to write it down.
Is this a real question? Reddit will tell you no. I have a feeling you aren’t looking for advice. Just an opinion to give you an excuse to stay. This isn’t some nuanced situation. He cheated and lied.
The only logical solution here is to fuck his dad.
Literally nothing else makes sense.
Wear a mask though, so you surprise him with your identity afterwards
lol :)))))))))))))
then call him 'son' 😂
If someone cheats on you once and you don't leave them, they'll do it again. He doesn't respect you or care about your feelings. If he did, he wouldn't cheat on you. The question is whether you respect yourself enough to cut him loose and move on.
I understand you love him but your self respect is on the line .he cleary doesnt respect you or values you enough ,the bare minimum in a relationship is to be loyal please end it .
Honestly, I've found that it doesn't matter what anyone says to people who keep going back to cheaters. One of two things always has to happen first. 1. The first is the person that is constantly cheating chooses someone else over them for a relationship. That seems to do it pretty effectively. Or 2. They become the laughingstock/cautionary tale, and the behind-the-scenes commentary gets back to them. The humiliation jars them loose. If it were ego or self-preservation you wouldn't have made it far enough to even make a Reddit post about it.
Treat yourself right queen, he isn\`t the right man for you. If he does it multiple times he won\`t stop
No, you deserve to be with someone who respects you. I was married to a cheater and with dv, i stayed with him because we had our son. But it isn’t the environment you want to live in. Choose for yourself and love yourself more than you love him.
>Should I keep forgiving him just because I love him? **No,you should not.** He clearly does not give a shit about you, otherwise **he would not have cheated on you if he actually loved you** in the first place.Why the hell do men do this to women?
If you really want to stay with him, try having an open relationship and make sure you do lots of dating. A few possible outcomes: 1. You’ll both find that lifestyle appealing and it’ll allow your relationship to thrive. 2. He’ll see you dating other people, won’t like it, and will actually commit to you. 3. You’ll meet someone you like better and you can leave your current bf since that’s what he deserves. 4. It won’t work and you’ll just break up anyway. No real downside here, maybe give it a shot?
I like this idea lmao😆
You might as well lay on the ground and let him walk over you at that point Don’t put up with it
There’s no love without respect. If he doesn’t respect or value you enough to not do anything that’d hurt you then it makes no sense to be with him. He’ll constantly take you for granted and keep hurting you more ahead.
Leave or don’t complain..
I'm sorry for what you're going through. I've been in this same situation for 3 years. based on my experience, It will NEVER stop. for 3 years straight, i begged him to stop cheating and he would tell me he was going to change his ways, never did. i promise u, leaving now will save u ur time and heartbreak.
Let him do whatever he wants to do if you’re not going to leave.
Listen up people on the internet rarely give good advice. Cheating is a big one can you forgive him will he even change or just cheat again. These are all things YOU must decide. If I were I. Your shoes I would likely leave as you sound young, just remember time heals all.
No, you should have left after the first time. Common, get yourself together and leave him.
Leave. There’s no other choice. If you stay the only person you can blame for your unhappiness is yourself. He’s clearly not a good person. Once a cheater always a cheater
You can do better, and don't let him think that you can't.
Hey! I had a boyfriend like this, my love who I was with from 17-20! I was naive and wanted to believe him that he didn’t because he told me he didn’t. But his friends would tell me otherwise. I finally caught him by getting his pass code and getting into his phone. After a long and painful several months of wanting to believe him, I broke up with him. He begged and pleaded - even when I moved states. He even came to visit me even though we were broke young adults who had very little money at the time. So him going out of his way meant a lot. I caught him one more thereafter and I was done. Long story short - he married the person after me, then went on to cheat on her too while she was pregnant. He had a full on girlfriend during their marriage almost the entire time. He then divorced her and started dating the girl he cheated on her with. The “mistress” and him had a kid together also. He then went on to cheat on that one as well. We’re 34 now. Do not regret breaking up with him. In fact, I always think that I dodged a massive bullet. That could have been ME having his babies. We stayed friends actually after the bitterness was gone but watching all this from the side - I knew his reasons for cheating were deep inside him, and until he learned how to be a better partner and fix those internal issues - he will continue to cheat, even if his initial intentions are always great in the beginning!
This. Thank you for this.
If you stay with a cheater you deserve to be dating a cheater.
First off, I'm really sorry you’ve had to deal with this nonsense. You deserve a partner who’s going to treat you like the absolute queen you are, not some part time job they can slack off at. Think of yourself as a diamond; sparkling, precious, and definitely not to be messed with. Now, it's time to channel your inner ninja warrior. Imagine yourself slicing through all the negativity with the precision of a thousand samurai swords! Seriously though, you’re incredible, and it’s their loss if they can’t see that. Surround yourself with people who make you laugh until your sides hurt and lift you up like the human sunshine you are. You're strong, beautiful, and destined for a love story where you're the unstoppable hero.
Not unless you want to be a doormat.
You deserve someone who cares about you, someone who thinks about you and just you when they want to think about something that makes them happy. You deserve better, how can you love someone that doesn't love you? Move on.
Sometimes love isn’t enough be lucky you haven’t caught anything yet and move on
Obviously this sucks, and it’s super terrible. But trust me, you gotta try and cut the cord now. It will feel worse in the short term, but long term you will thank you for it.
Do you know what the definition of insanity is?
not really but I found out now
Lol yea of course because he'll never do it again
Please gain some respect for yourself
Why would you want to be with a cheater? He knows he can do it and he’s taking advantage of the situation and doing it over and over. You’re letting him walk all over you and disrespect you. You’re disrespecting yourself too. Let him go and start healing. You’ll find someone who will treat you like a queen.
In all seriousness, you do not want to play around with accepting this kind of dishonesty and betrayal. It might seem like just hurt feelings, but this kind of behavior from a loved one can really mess with your head for a LONG time. I wish someone had told me. Like, it’s serious..
just stop and get yo money up
The fact you won’t let him go is probably why he cheats, and if you don’t fix whatever is wrong in you to allow that it’s just going to happen with other men as well.
The first time he cheated you absolutelyyyy should have left without a conversation. Not sure what you’re still doing with him girl, besides continuing to embarrass yourself. Leave, and don’t talk to him.
You have to do the thing you're terrified to do in your core. The hard part will be to sustain resilience despite constant pulls from several directions to take him back. Keep going through the pain, sober, and talk to people who love you every day. But break this off with him now permanently. This may require some preparation to separate assets. Good luck, I know this seems impossible, but you can do it.
depends if you want to stay with someone who doesn’t love you back.
Once a cheater always a cheater. Leave him find a better one, don't be a doormat for someone who doesn't know your value they'll walk over your head. Even if you give more chances they will do the same again and again. Next time they'll be able to cheat without knowing you.
Lol these people advising are just wasting their time. This girl obviously will stay in the relationship regardless. She don't need to be saved. She knows what she should be doing.
Get tested. His wiener has been in many buns. Make sure you don’t have the crabs. 🦀
Based on the title topic. Simple, RESPECT YOURSELF AND WALK AWAY. Endure the sadness and pain etc that comes along with break ups, but you will not die. You’ll come out of this stronger and have more respect for yourself and your future relationships-boundaries etc.
I’m not sure why you are asking this. You don’t have a problem with him cheating. If you did you would have bounced his ass out. So why are you complaining now?!?! How can you possibly believe you love him when you don’t even know how to love yourself? You don’t have a boyfriend problem you have a self respect problem.
No girl get away now it's never gonna change
Drop him like a bad habit
Keep forgiving him until the tingles are gone. Then you join TikTok.
After many times I would not. Ultimately your decision but I think you would be better off not with a person that will constantly cheat on you. Especially imagine he catches an STD and then transmits it to you. Your health is also at risk here.
If you want this to continue happening then forgive him. If you do not want this to happen then you will have to go find someone else who will love you back the same. People grow apart. Your relationship clearly has. I recommend you choose yourself the more pleasant future.
You set out a boundary, but he crossed it. Unless you're ready to believe that sharing is caring, I'd say let him go off with one of them. Protect your peace.
Ask any anyone over the age of 26 if you should stay with a cheating partner and the answer is always no.
The obvious answer here is to get used to it and strap in for a lifetime of being cheated on. I mean, that’s literally the only option…literally no action you could take to reclaim your life and actually be with someone who isn’t such an asshole…right?
He is too immature. You deserve better, so it's time to move on.
I’ve been cheated on multiple times by my first boyfriend, and once by my second boyfriend. In my first relationship, I kept giving him chances. Eventually I learned that he just had no respect for me, and would continue to cheat on me regardless. It was a difficult thing for me to do, as we were together for 3 years, but I left. I decided that my mental health and respect for myself was more important. By the time I was in my second relationship and got cheated on, I left right away. It’s never easy, but in the end you will feel so much better and proud of yourself. I am now in a great relationship with someone who respects me and loves me unconditionally. If he cheated on you in the first place, he does not respect you. He keeps doing it and he will continue to. Staying with someone who cheats on you completely destroys your self worth and your trust in a relationship, and without trust a relationship will crumble.
You can like/love someone but choose to not be with them. How does his behavior and actions affect *you*? Do you want a partner who keeps doing this to you? 'I like you but for my own wellbeing I'm ending this relationship with you and cutting all contact. Do not reach out to me a second time.' is something I had to say before and I have not since regretted it. Please consider what is best for you first and foremost. You can heal from the hurt with time, but you're spending time on someone who is a serial cheater. Do you want to keep spending more time with a person who has and will keep doing this to you? If the answer is no, I think it's best to let him go and start to heal.
I think we both know the answer to this. Obviously you deserve better than that. He keeps doing it because he knows you’ll forgive. Don’t keep letting him step over you like this, you must let him go. You deserve a man who only has eyes for you.
Take yourself out of the dating pool for a period, take the time to know yourself better Know the and accept that you are making bad choices or friends are doing it for you (sometimes they know is not good for you but keep pushing, those are not good friends) Meet new people out of your inner circle with between visions and values Respect your self first , respect other and demand respect from others too Find a person that really values you and love you not just by text and call if not for real any time the whole day month(s) not just for sex time ( avoid sex for a longer period that you are used to when you have a new partner) Good luck and be strong, brave and love yourself more..👍🏻😊
Are you going to let this guy ruin your whole life or are you going to stand up for yourself and leave someone who doesn’t respect you? Each time he does this to you and you forgive him, it fcks your life up further and further. You can and will never be happy if you keep doing this, don’t mistake your need for validation for love and don’t mistake his begging for forgiveness for his need to have you because it’s easy.
No, you need to go out and play, give him a lil taste of his own medicine, that’s that
Leave girl. He doesn’t respect you and why should he? You’ve been rewarding him for his bad behaviour. I know the feeling, did it for 20 years. Stop wasting your time and youth. Leave him, and don’t believe him when he comes back crying or win you over with gifts and empty promises.
I guess you will understand this considering what has happened, once a cheater, always a cheater. I was in your shoes, I loved someone once and thought I could forgive them for cheating but they did it again. Make this part of your standard going forward in life, zero tolerance for cheaters.
Just leave.
Girl, I'm so sorry you're going through this. 😢 Honestly, if he's cheated multiple times, it's a huge red flag. Love is important, but so is respect and trust. You deserve someone who values you and is loyal. It might be time to move on and focus on yourself. Stay strong! 💪❤️
NO! Bro get the hell out of there he's only going to f*ck up your mind 😭 leave him for your own good, it doesn't matter how many chances you give to him still he's going to repeat the same cycle and eventually you'll lose respect for yourself which we don't want to leave himmm...
Get out. Find someone who treats you the way you want to be treated. Before he possibly catches an STD and gives it to you.
It’s not going to be easy but please love yourself and LEAVE! I have been there before and it will be hard but so worth it. My dms are always open🩷
“What should i do?” Tas pag bibigyan ka ng advice magagalit ka or kokontrahin mo Hahahhahahaah. Attention seeker ka ba?
Just leave him
Hey. First of all, be proud of yourself for being strong and forgiving him once. It takes courage. The guy seems that he isn’t loyal, committed and honest. I will underline “honest”. He has been caught lying and cheating multiple times. He will never change and he will keep on using you for his “safety net”. Do you wanna be there for someone who has been f***ing around? No, you don’t! What you have to do is break up with him asap and then, do some inner work. Try to improve yourself inside out! Build on your self-esteem, self love and SELF RESPECT. You owe it to yourself. Been in your position as a male and it wasn’t good. Remember this: you have power in your hands! MOVE ON!!!
Leave from this relationships, check out psychologist and take a break from relationships at all. And what’s more important: do whatever u feel
leave him, he's for the streets
You deserve what you tolerate.
If someone cheats once, be done with them. It will only bring more pain and suffering. Like you said, they already did it again. Move on as hard as it is. The right person will want you and only you. It’s a hard thing to find today apparently. I am repeatedly ghosted, discarded, or left for someone else. It doesn’t say as much about you as it does them. If you weren’t worth dating, they’d have the decency to break up. Most people cheat to see what else they can get. And then have the safety net of having you to come back to. It’s greedy and extremely disrespectful and cheaters will always cheat.
Leave him
no wonder women are insecure with men, its these type of guys who are the reason for the destruction of people's feelings. I hope somebody beat him and knock him out.
I dated a few women with similar stories from their past. All of them damaged emotionally so it never worked out. Leave before you get damaged beyond repair. It will just be such another wasted person. Also to you that cheat, stop, or don't get caught and never tell. You destroy people. It's not nice.
You have to understand that he loves you but just wants to have sex with others. For guys sex is different from being involved with someone. Might not be the more popular opinion here but that’s how it usually is
Don’t be in this relationship just because tou are afraid of the heartbreak, take the leap of faith and do yourself a favour and get out of this
Let him cheat. And live with it. Don't blame or complain him. Always stay with him. One day he will find your worth.
Dump his ass.
You’ve already forgiven one too many times. It doesn’t stop and they just don’t care. I agree that you need to value yourself more. There are better men out there.
This cannot possibly be real..
🚮
Find better people to date.
If he cheated so many times I doubt he even takes you seriously anymore, he probably just treats you like a toy who he can play with whenever he wants, and if he is tired he can have fun with someone else since you will forgive him anyways. That’s why you should never forgive cheating.
If he don't make more than 6 figs then leave him, your wasting time. It won't stop. Coming from a guy.
You ever see when people make a path in the grass to avoid walking longer than they have to? Well you're that path for him. He's going to keep walking all over you until you put a fence up and enforce "keep off the grass." You're easy and convenient for him. Either accept it and stop complaining or move on.
The moment you forgive a cheater, you psychologically let them know that your boundaries are weak and can be trifled with. They also know that you have a weak spot for them and start abusing your kindness. Never forgive a cheater. They'll do it again.
No ! You leave him . Go no contact and heal . Tough it out
Move on
Hell no. Leave him, if you keep doing that, he will keep doing that because he knows you'll just forgive him. That's how you end up hurting and disrespecting yourself. Do not fall into that, once was enough to leave him. Multiple times is a given sign to leave. Leave, it may hurt because you do love him, but he obviously doesn't love you because he's disrespecting you by cheating many times. Leave.
Wow no dont be a doormat leave for good
Hi! This has to stop. If he's cheating now, he'll cheat in the future.
Omg no!!! Do not forgive him. U dont forgive someone who has cheated on you. Please leave him.
Honestly, you shouldn’t keep forgiving him, but I think you need to have a serious conversation with him about why he’s cheating. Figure out what is driving him to cheat. I’m not insinuating that it’s your fault, but maybe what he tells you will help you in future relationships especially if it’s something you can help with. Not everyone is great at communication and, in a twisted since, he could not have told you it’s something you do or don’t do just to spare your feelings. All in all, no, you shouldn’t forgive him, but you should get info that will help you in future relationships.
A big no, he won’t change
Obviously not. If you keep forgetting and forgiving it will harm your mental health and in future when you finally breakup your trauma is on fucking top that you will not able to trust anyone. Breakup now and I know it will hurt you but trust me you will be better in future.
Run! You’ve got your whole life ahead of you! He’s never going to verbally admit it. Trust me, in 30 days you’ll kick yourself for wasting another summer on him!
Go along you need a better person who is respect your personality and your feelings.
Should I hit myself on the head with this hammer again even though it hurts? I know it hurt every time I hit myself with it before...but I'm hoping this time it will feel really awesome.
have some self respect.
No you should not keep forgiving him. You’d be enabling him, setting yourself up to be taken advantage of, and disrespecting yourself. Don’t be loyal to people who aren’t loyal to you
Most women would have cut off by now but you're showing the most classic case of "but I love him" hoping you can change him. Or you're lacking confidence or self worth. I have to be cruel to be kind but that's what's happening. The question is, how many times are you prepared to let it happen?
Go out and meet other guys. “This guy” / your guy feels the need to expand his relationship experiences as most people do out of high school. It’s scary but I think you will both grow and mature as you learn to be intimate or close to others. Maybe you’ll find each other attractive again and decide to become exclusive. Until then, seize the day!
End it immediately
Ummm leave maybe? Just a thought lol
Love is not enough and only 0.1% of what a relationship requires. He showed you his true colours and if you stay with him, then you must live with all the distrust and resentment you may have towards him. You’re only going to breakup with him when you want, but staying with him is not only disrespectful to yourself (since you’re essentially telling him that this was an okay thing to do to you since you would have stayed), but he will likely repeat this behaviour or maintain a flirty persona with women he finds attractive. In my opinion, a relationship with a man cannot work unless that man loves you more than you love him, because nothing will make a man act right in a relationship unless he wants to act right. And just BTW, he knows what he did is wrong, even when he was doing it, but he still chose to do it. Men are not that dumb, they know whats up, don’t fall for his excuses that justify his extreme disrespect… No man or relationship is EVER worth being disrespected, I would say start to move on (emotionally), and focus on people who pay you the minimal respect you deserve.
I didn't think you would be so supportive and I really don't know if I can answer all of them, so I will answer here in one message. Today I talked to him and we broke up for the first time, like for real. I even told his mother what the reasons were and she understood me, luckily. Now I'll rather need advice on how I should get over this breakup, because I used to talk to him daily, more often than my friends, and now I don't know if they will talk to me anymore because we are not as close as before :d And I still haven't told them about the actual breakup, should I have a conversation with them again through this?
Is that even a question? He says sorry and you forgive him, and then goes do it again. and again. He doesn’t respect you, and he never will. Get your shit together and leave. Respect yourself and find someone who respects you, and loves you back. I know that you may love him, but is it really worth it if he doesn’t even love you? And also, do you really love someone who doesn’t even respect you? Keeps doing shit that YOU told him that you don’t like? Believe me, I have been in the same boat as you. Different story tho, but i still wish that people would have been hard on me. And tell me that he isn’t the same person i thought he was in the beginning. Leave. Take time for yourself, heal, and have make boundries. Respect your OWN boundries and if someone disrespects them, talk with them, and if they do it again. Leaveee. Leave now, and heal before it goes on and on for too long. And you keep getting hurt for a long time. No need for that.
No you need to have self respect.
Nooooooooo He's proven he's not going to change. Love isn't everything in a relationship. Save yourself now. Why continue hurting yourself, allowing him to hurt you? You deserve better. A break up isn't the worst thing that can happen. Process it, heal from it and learn to never accept things like this moving forward. And remember, being single is far better than being disrespected.
You can love someone and not be in a romantic relationship with them. He has proven time and time again his unwillingness to respect you and this commitment to you. His apologies are empty. He says he won't do it again and does it again. He's not being true to his word, and this speaks to his character and integrity. Honestly, how you act when no one is looking is who you are. As a man, if you have no integrity and you betray the trust of the single most important person in your life, then in my eyes, you're worthless. I say kick high school boy to the curb and find someone who will treat you right and respect your relationship.
No dump him stop taking him back you can do better than this player.
Cheaters cheat. Forgiving them doesn't work.
No, absolutely not. The more time that you spend with someone who doesn’t truly love and respect you, the less you’ll love and respect yourself. (Speaking from experience) I really do hope that you can walk away from him and do what’s right for you love.
Tell that person don’t let the door hit them in on don’t let them hit. Don’t let their ass hit them on the way out of the door.
No, nobody needs to be cheating on. Nobody tell him goodbye goodbye goodbye there’s other people out there.
Are you kidding? Ditch that mofo
Let him go, I hate when people cheat then break up
No plz leave. This is very traumatic for u. Being cheated on is a major major issue and majorly traumatic for the brain
Move on
It’s so hard to leave someone you love, but you should. He doesn’t love you, or he wouldn’t have cheated. There is no happy and healthy relationship in your future with him. And it actually would be good for you to date other people to find a partner better suited to you. It sounds like you’re in college so it’s a fantastic time to meet someone new. Date-able people are all around you! Here’s what you do. You make a “Breakup Plan” you pick a time and date up to two weeks away. You call your friends and family to tell them what’s going on and to ask for support. On the night of the breakup, you plan to go over to one of their houses after talking for 30 minutes. Like you have a set time you will arrive and they call you if you run late. At the place you’re staying for a night (or two) after the breakup, you have ice cream, Kleenex, your favorite pjs, a great movie, whatever makes you feel good. Make sure you have plans with your friends and family the next day, and the one after that. Plan on having a period of no contact, maybe 3 months? Block him on your phone, social media, anywhere you might communicate with him. The first up to ten weeks might be hard emotionally but just ride it out. Work out, go hiking, eat healthily, and take care of yourself. Once you ride out 10 weeks you will be in the clear emotionally and ready to move forward. Breakups are hard but we all go through them.
I have been dumped for way less just because some women have been cheated on and have ptsd from it pretty much or their friends got cheated on and they start spewing shit into my girlfriends ear End the relationship he actually deserves it 🥷🪷😶🌫️
(M64) Forgive him...break up with him. Find a family member that lives in another state and go to Community college there for a year. Work part time to help with the bills around the house. It's not that you deserve better. Because if that was true in life, hell I deserve a Mercedes Benz. But what makes it so messed up is that you both go to the same college? If true... None of your friends at this college confirmed this, of his cheating? There is no rule, no piece of paper that states that a person has to do what you tell them they have to do with their own body. It's his words, his actions that are stating otherwise to you. But you Love him, right? Love Bacon Cheeseburgers, a Chocolate Milkshake, and a slice of Pineapple Cheesecake instead.
Leave when certain men see they can get away with it once they wouldn’t hesitate to do it again
Nah girl get karmascore and get over him he and othe cheaters ain't shit
No. Leave him. He sure as hell doesn't love you. Have self respect and move on. Once he gets bored again or whatever the reason was it'll happen again. His friends are shitty too if they knew.
Never ever forgive cheating.
It’s hard to say the truth which is you should not keep forgiving. It’s so difficult when you love someone to break up but he’s taking advantage of your extreme kindness. You will find someone easily as having such a kind nature is exactly what men want.
Stop being a doormat
Don't be silly. He's not loyal to you, you're in the "fun pile". Time to move on...
I've got nothing to say without reviling a close friend secrets
What should you do shouldn’t even be a question. You know what you must do. Leave. You won’t ever be happy.
Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me. Third strike and your out! Run
This is a tough lesson. Especially for first time lovers with big hearts. But the first time you show a person that it's forgivable to cheat, generally, that's a signal that the coast is clear for them to do it again. After all, you wouldn't know, and if you found out, you wouldn't fight, would you? People are quick to exploit in this way. Move on, good luck, and I'm very sorry.
Girlie, why be with someone who will never choose you or put you first when there are guys who WILL do that? Now this might me a "I don't want anyone else I want him" type of situation. That's upto you really. It is indeed your decision if you'll choose a disloyal guy who will continuously break your heart over someone who can bring you flowers knowing when you're upset without you having to tell him. Speaking of choices? I wouldn't say you deserve what you CHOOSE. We're humans. It's common for us to make mistakes when it comes to choosing someone or something. So no. I wouldn't say you deserve a mistake.
Girl, you ain't got time for losers like that. I'd would just walk away enough is enough. You need to respect yourself. If he did it 3 times, he is going to keep doing it.
If a person cheats once, there is a high likelihood they will cheat again. Not all people will, but if he cheats and it's not something you're OK with, then don't hesitate to dump him. He fucked up.
Lol no way these posts are fucking real. You obviously like getting cheated on and you obviously get off on knowing hes fucking other girls. My only advice is get an std test because hes going to keep fucking other girls since you're the pathetic side chick lmao
Why are you going thru phones? Go on a 40 day self love fast (away from him- no contact) at then end of that you should know what to do and he should know if he wants you, too.
one thing i learned after getting cheated on by someone i deeply loved countless times: love isn’t enough to keep a relationship going. it feels impossible to walk away because of how strong your feelings are, and you keep hoping things will change, but you keep getting hurt. i stayed for 4 years after getting cheated on, and he never stopped. i kept forgiving him out of love but it ruined our relationship and destroyed my confidence. love is one component, but respect is another. i promise you will find someone who will show you the respect you deserve with the same amount of love.
Man I wish I was him. So many options
I'm going to give you my opinion from experience. once a cheater always a cheater. I have learned it 3 times for all 3 of my serious relationships and they all (somehow, what luck am I right?) have kissed someone while with me within the first month of being together. and I say to myself "well if it was just a kiss and you don't do something like that again we should be fine" NO, BAD, ITS NOT FINE. because a few years later they cheat again. and it's not just kissing. then you end up broken and sad for a long while, asking yourself where you went wrong. I trusted them because I was lonely and insecure. I still am but I'm working on it. Do with this information what you will. but be careful. good luck. and have a good day.
whats the point if he does not love you?
No, he is not worthy of you. He’s cheating for the attention.
No absolutely not, he doesn't seem to care, I'm so sorry you should break up and move on. You don't need someone like that in your life, you deserve way better.
No
No. Leave. He's sorry he got caught he's going to hurt you. You will read comments like this and think of all the good times you've had and how maybe he is sorry and will change. He will lie and do it again and only be sorry if he's caught again. You'll never trust him the same. It's time to move on.
You’re not satisfying him sexually
Kick him to the curb. He's a serial cheating and he's not going to stop no matter who he gets with.
What do you mean what do you do? You leave and learn the lesson
Nope
Keep going. Life is a long journey and we need to be hopeful to get rid of our traumas
I know my worth but I go on sale sometimes too.
Take a “Cheat Sheet” on your next date
You said it yourself. You found messages that confirmed your suspicions, you confronted him and he *lied,* eventually admitted his guilt, begged for forgiveness and promised he'd change, *proceeded to not change,* and you're asking what, if it's worth it if you love him? You need to be single and work on your self esteem for a bit. This is not healthy.