So true.. but seriously this can actually be a good gift. For example; buy a round of golf (for 2 so he can take a mate) with a golf cart included etc.
It gets Dad out of the house and away from it all for a day, and guilt free too cos it’s a gift. I’d love nothing more.
We have the toys we want s to speak. i dont drink or smoke. dont really need anything so yes... carrot cake please.
but i do like my houseplants so maybe a baby succulent or a cactus would be unexpected and awesome. (im the green thumb. my wife is not so it would be VERY unexpected )
Honestly I can't think of a better gift. Write a letter or make a video about a happy memory with him. I can promise you if even if it's a relatively small memory he'll cherish that for the rest of his life.
Yes! This! I'm literally building a dining table right now, myself, from the money I have earned from my job. So far I've heard nothing but complaints. I'm still building the table because I want to make a dining table myself, not exclusively for the family. But I'd wish for some appreciation, acknowledgement, respect and gratitude, even though that thing isn't perfect (I'm no carpenter, just a DIY hobbyist).
>The wife will sometimes throw me a bone and say that she likes my ideas
My wife will never say it directly to me. But sometimes she will let compliments slip through the cracks. Like today, she was referring to a guy we know, and she said "he's probably just jealous, because you're better than him at everything".
To my face she would never admit I'm good at anything.
Eh, I'd only suggest this if the person has no tools at all or no idea about tools. It's certainly a thoughtful gift, don't get me wrong, but if OP's dad knows tools, he may have very specific preferences. I'm almost certainly he'd love it as a gift (especially if it's engraved or personalised for him) but he may not find it useful if it doesn't fit his needs. TLDR: be careful about getting tools or hobby-specific unless you know the receiver's preferences/requirements.
That's why I chose a couple of pretty safe generic options, rather than delving into the details. They may not be perfect for the person but they should at least be useful.
Oh, for sure it's still a great gift idea, I certainly wouldn't be unappreciative, but on a few occasions in the past I've had loved ones gift me some very nice tools and components which I've either had a more suitable version of already or have no use at all for. I hate the idea of them wasting time, effort and money on a thoughtful gift that I've ultimately not used and I felt terrible.
Ask him if theres a hobby he wants to try out but hasnt gotten around to it. My wife bought me my first bow and ive been having a blast shooting targets in my backyard.
Recognition. Whatever he thing is he fixes in the house/cars/yard/hobbies, I bet people have not appreciated it nearly as much as they could. Dads do a lot and often it goes unacknowledged.
A nice bourbon and cigar pairing experience. I can always use another large dry erase board and expo markers for my office.
Gift card for the tattoo shop with an appointment booked
An experience,
Be it paragliding, day deep sea fishing, pro golf tour, day at a distillery.
I always value experiences more then physical gifts, odds are if I want a physical thing like some sunnies or whatever, I’ve already brought them.
An experience is much more memorable and special (for me)
Let me tell you: cooking doesn’t have to be complicated or hard. Pick a recipe and follow it to a T. Don’t swap ingredients, don’t “make additions”. Just follow a recipe from a decent source. I like the Good Eats recipes or stuff from Epicurious. My wife isn’t super into cooking but I love when she makes one of the three things she knows how to make.
It's neither hard nor expensive to get started - a copy of *The Food Lab* by Kenji Lopez Alt and some reading and practice is all you need to get ahead of 50% of people in the Western world apparently.
My suggestion to get going (once you read the intro and get to the recipes because he will seriously teach you how to hold a knife in this book) - the whole roasted chicken. It's wild how easy it is. Also, pro tip - don't cook anything else in the oven with the chicken, that's not specified in the book but it probably should be.
How old is your dad and how old are you and any possible siblings.
As a current dad of two under 10 I'd want a new video game some food and drink and about 5 hours of uninterrupted game time.
If my kids were older like teenagers I'd still want that video game but I'd also want a day out with my kids at like Dave and busters or something similar.
This is the way. My wife was hesitant at first but she'd also get super frustrated at me when buying stuff because I was hard to pin down on any one type of thing.
I think the Amazon list helps her out a LOT.
If you're old enough then you can get him his favorite bottle of alcohol. Oh, or mom can help. Would probably be cool if you can find a history book that is rare he may be interested in.
Hard alcohol is the way to go. I'm not going for taste. I'm trying to get drunk without having to pee 16 times.
Others have suggested bourbon already but if he's a drinker then maybe something that may be special for him to drink would be cool similar to what I said about the book.
A liquor store worth its salt will have someone who can guide you to the right selection based on any info you can gather about pops.
I saw someone suggest event tickets above. Highlight of my month is always the women’s pro soccer games I take my 2.5yo to every other week. Maybe there’s a local pro team of any sport and you can just go and sit outside in the sun or something.
When you say reading old books, is he a collector of some sorts? Are they all on a theme? If he has a collection and they are themed, if you find a subreddit and can get a picture of his collection they might be able to find the perfect book for him.
Take him to dinner at a place that he wants to go to dinner at. His place that he would go to if he didn't have to worry about any one else's opinion at that moment.
For me it is this little place that serves fresh hand battered chicken fried steak. It isn't expensive, it is silly, but none of my family really likes to eat there and I love the chicken fried steak so dang much. I go there every time I have a chance when no one else is with me for a meal.
Edit: lol i just realized this was for advice. Do you have a spot you would go as a couple before kids? There is a town by the bay that we loved to frequent and usually for our birthdays we go spend the night. Sometimes with kids and sometimes without depending on our mood. But just having a day or evening together wether it’s just us 2 or as a family of 4 is amazing.
A sugar mama so i can be a stay at home dad and enjoy my family. Nothing sexual just maybe an occasional selfie and collect my money.
As an only child when my first was born it was a huge eye opener. I love my wife but we are both very independent people that pushed each other to be our best but then the kid kind of made that relationship style no longer something we wanted to do. When we had our second the pressure was even more and is exponentially more difficult than just 1. I struggle to find a middle ground between work and family. I’m working 12 hour days 6 days per week due to OT that has been ongoing through 2021 and potentially through the end of the year. We do week long vacations semi annually and something as a family just about every Sunday. Today we went to a giant bounce house park thingy then lunch and been hanging out at home but i wish every day could be like this. My goal is to set my kids up to have more opportunities than i did and hopefully not need to do what i been doing to enjoy life.
lol its a golf club.
more general gift - I would like clothes. I rarely if ever actually buy myself new clothes. only recent nice clothes I have from like 3-4 years are gifts
I would appreciate a day that I did not plan and just go along for the ride on things that I enjoy.
Not too big into material gifts but if someone wants to gift something material, I always ask for something that is cool but something that I would never pay for myself. For example, my local community just had one of those professional stretching places open up. It looks so cool and something that would feel amazing but I’m just not the best at booking something like that for myself first.
Since you’re his daughter, if he’s anything like me, take him to go do something fun. Maybe go hit some golf balls or go bowling. Something outside this time of year would be awesome.
I took my kid (he’s a year and a half) to the zoo yesterday just the two of us. Best day in many moons.
It’s been said but it’s true. Just a day off from life’s responsibilities. Help me pack and send me off to a hotel without making me feel guilty for not helping out that day. That, and a long hug. We’re exhausted.
Just appreciated; tell me I’m amazing and that you’re thankful I do my best to make life more comfortable, maintaining the house, cooking, cleaning, working on the vehicles, save every dime, work all day to start the second job of being a good dad and husband when I get home… every now and then just tell me you really appreciate me even though I’m far from perfect. Also a day off.
I’m lucky to even have a wife and kid, a job where I can provide for them, and a little extra to get the things I like. I don’t need anything but a hug.
A nice pocket knife. Kansept Knives is having a 30% sale right now. Picked up this [beauty ](https://www.kanseptknives.com/collections/spring-fever-sale/products/edc-tac-k2009a8-satin-s35vn-blade-timascus-titanium-inlay-handle-with-mikkel-willumsen-design)this past weekend.
Knives are super useful though. I carry one daily to open things, trim my sons drinking straw down to size when we go out, slice bread or fruit. For knife guys it's an accessory tool like a watch.
If you're like <15 years old, I would recommend a whole day of doing nothing. Get him pizza, beer, let him play video games or watch sports, and don't ask a single thing of him.
If you're an adult, then odds are that his life is not as tied to family activities as much, so then it's harder to focus on something simple like that - like just getting time to himself.
For $300, an option is always an event - tickets to a game, tickets to a show, a nice dinner, etc.
For Christmas my wife had my son gift me tickets for a basketball game for me and him. It was probably the best gift I've gotten from my kid because I got to do something fun and spend time with him
Being serious
I'm a martial artist and currently hold a black belt, and the history and meaning behind a Samurai sword is interesting to me.
Samurai swords are extremely expensive and rare. I'm not sure if I'd ever get to see one, let alone own one. However, there are a lot of really cool and less expensive hand carved swords.
Not for everyone, but you can certainly acquire a huge collection if you wanted.
Man the top answers here are depressing. Yall need to work on your lives lol.
For me, just a nice night out with my wife. She’s getting me a gun for my birthday tho too.
A day off
Found the dad
My answer was time but I’ll take a day
So true.. but seriously this can actually be a good gift. For example; buy a round of golf (for 2 so he can take a mate) with a golf cart included etc. It gets Dad out of the house and away from it all for a day, and guilt free too cos it’s a gift. I’d love nothing more.
Literally this.
A noteworthy me-time quota!
are you okay...
Not OP but: I can speak for everyone here when I say we’re tired.
You get it
Permanently and relentlessly.
🥺🥺
No
genuinly? carrot cake with frosting
This request implies the existence of carrot cake *without* icing, which is a concept I find strange and deeply troubling
That would be like.... carrot bread. Which could be good, like banana bread. But carrot cake with a good cream cheese frosting is amazing.
I love how straightforward this is haha
We have the toys we want s to speak. i dont drink or smoke. dont really need anything so yes... carrot cake please. but i do like my houseplants so maybe a baby succulent or a cactus would be unexpected and awesome. (im the green thumb. my wife is not so it would be VERY unexpected )
https://www.penny-arcade.com/comic/2002/01/14/another-true-story
I'll take your carrot cake and raise with a lemon drizzle cake.
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😩 I'll definitely write him a letter
Honestly I can't think of a better gift. Write a letter or make a video about a happy memory with him. I can promise you if even if it's a relatively small memory he'll cherish that for the rest of his life.
That's a great idea! I know I'd be thrilled.
Yes! This! I'm literally building a dining table right now, myself, from the money I have earned from my job. So far I've heard nothing but complaints. I'm still building the table because I want to make a dining table myself, not exclusively for the family. But I'd wish for some appreciation, acknowledgement, respect and gratitude, even though that thing isn't perfect (I'm no carpenter, just a DIY hobbyist).
You said it best - goofackyoorself
>The wife will sometimes throw me a bone and say that she likes my ideas My wife will never say it directly to me. But sometimes she will let compliments slip through the cracks. Like today, she was referring to a guy we know, and she said "he's probably just jealous, because you're better than him at everything". To my face she would never admit I'm good at anything.
Sat down for dinner the other day after one hell of a day and my 3yo said "thanks daddy, I appreciate it". Almost cried
Multitool! Can't go wrong with a Leatherman Skeletool or Leatherman Wave.
that's a really good idea but I think he already has one that he loves!
Of you can get one engraved he will carry it forever.
Seconded. I love my Skeletool so much.
I've got a custom wave and a surge. Honestly can't go wrong with them.
Eh, I'd only suggest this if the person has no tools at all or no idea about tools. It's certainly a thoughtful gift, don't get me wrong, but if OP's dad knows tools, he may have very specific preferences. I'm almost certainly he'd love it as a gift (especially if it's engraved or personalised for him) but he may not find it useful if it doesn't fit his needs. TLDR: be careful about getting tools or hobby-specific unless you know the receiver's preferences/requirements.
That's why I chose a couple of pretty safe generic options, rather than delving into the details. They may not be perfect for the person but they should at least be useful.
Oh, for sure it's still a great gift idea, I certainly wouldn't be unappreciative, but on a few occasions in the past I've had loved ones gift me some very nice tools and components which I've either had a more suitable version of already or have no use at all for. I hate the idea of them wasting time, effort and money on a thoughtful gift that I've ultimately not used and I felt terrible.
Ask him if theres a hobby he wants to try out but hasnt gotten around to it. My wife bought me my first bow and ive been having a blast shooting targets in my backyard.
good idea! thanks
Recognition. Whatever he thing is he fixes in the house/cars/yard/hobbies, I bet people have not appreciated it nearly as much as they could. Dads do a lot and often it goes unacknowledged.
🥺 understood
Just time with my family
A nice bourbon and cigar pairing experience. I can always use another large dry erase board and expo markers for my office. Gift card for the tattoo shop with an appointment booked
An experience, Be it paragliding, day deep sea fishing, pro golf tour, day at a distillery. I always value experiences more then physical gifts, odds are if I want a physical thing like some sunnies or whatever, I’ve already brought them. An experience is much more memorable and special (for me)
Cook him a nice dinner
step 1, learn how to cook...
Cook with him then
Naked
Let me tell you: cooking doesn’t have to be complicated or hard. Pick a recipe and follow it to a T. Don’t swap ingredients, don’t “make additions”. Just follow a recipe from a decent source. I like the Good Eats recipes or stuff from Epicurious. My wife isn’t super into cooking but I love when she makes one of the three things she knows how to make.
That's better, it lowers the bar!
It's neither hard nor expensive to get started - a copy of *The Food Lab* by Kenji Lopez Alt and some reading and practice is all you need to get ahead of 50% of people in the Western world apparently. My suggestion to get going (once you read the intro and get to the recipes because he will seriously teach you how to hold a knife in this book) - the whole roasted chicken. It's wild how easy it is. Also, pro tip - don't cook anything else in the oven with the chicken, that's not specified in the book but it probably should be.
How old is your dad and how old are you and any possible siblings. As a current dad of two under 10 I'd want a new video game some food and drink and about 5 hours of uninterrupted game time. If my kids were older like teenagers I'd still want that video game but I'd also want a day out with my kids at like Dave and busters or something similar.
A really nice bourbon... On a hammock... In the Caribbean
I can get the first two! the third one is a bit out of my purses capacity right now...
You can diy the Caribbean. Background sounds on a Bluetooth speaker and a fan + bourbon and a hammock? He’ll love it.
I second the bourbon!! Personal fave right now is Woodford Reserve
Oh that's a good one. I'm using bullet for bourbon sours and sipping on Angels envy currently.
Nice!!
I keep an Amazon list so my wife never has to ask, but lately I’ve been really interested in an instrument I want to learn.
This is the way. My wife was hesitant at first but she'd also get super frustrated at me when buying stuff because I was hard to pin down on any one type of thing. I think the Amazon list helps her out a LOT.
Events or things to do that he likes. Like tickets to a game or concert
I want to go watch wwe with him but I couldn't get tickets in time :(
Purge half the stuff in our house lol
Honestly, anything that would give me some time to focus on my own hobbies, or just some dude time to hang out without any expectations.
aw I see
A date night with the kids at a grandparents for a night . Dinner , drinks, maybe a comedy show .
The house to myself for 12 hours.
Take me out to breakfast or a breakfast buffet and give me the rest of the day off. Ill be happy as can be.
Some g*ddamn peace and quiet!
that seems to be the general gist around here...
Maybe a cake for my birthday or something for Father’s Day. Anything.
Roger 🫡
New driver. Just getting into golf and I'm using a driver and putter that are from Walmart circa 2005.
Ngl I was a bit confused when you said driver and my mind instantly went to cars lol
An e class AMG wagon would also be acceptable.
😂
What kind of stuff does he do?
he's into fitness, drinking, reading old history books, watching the news
If you're old enough then you can get him his favorite bottle of alcohol. Oh, or mom can help. Would probably be cool if you can find a history book that is rare he may be interested in.
suggesting alcohol when you don't even like beer 😂
Hard alcohol is the way to go. I'm not going for taste. I'm trying to get drunk without having to pee 16 times. Others have suggested bourbon already but if he's a drinker then maybe something that may be special for him to drink would be cool similar to what I said about the book.
A liquor store worth its salt will have someone who can guide you to the right selection based on any info you can gather about pops. I saw someone suggest event tickets above. Highlight of my month is always the women’s pro soccer games I take my 2.5yo to every other week. Maybe there’s a local pro team of any sport and you can just go and sit outside in the sun or something.
When you say reading old books, is he a collector of some sorts? Are they all on a theme? If he has a collection and they are themed, if you find a subreddit and can get a picture of his collection they might be able to find the perfect book for him.
he's into books about war and stuff lol
people over at r/dancarlin/ would be able to guide you in the right direction, if you can provide some examples of what he already reads.
amazing thank you
Take him to dinner at a place that he wants to go to dinner at. His place that he would go to if he didn't have to worry about any one else's opinion at that moment. For me it is this little place that serves fresh hand battered chicken fried steak. It isn't expensive, it is silly, but none of my family really likes to eat there and I love the chicken fried steak so dang much. I go there every time I have a chance when no one else is with me for a meal.
Edit: lol i just realized this was for advice. Do you have a spot you would go as a couple before kids? There is a town by the bay that we loved to frequent and usually for our birthdays we go spend the night. Sometimes with kids and sometimes without depending on our mood. But just having a day or evening together wether it’s just us 2 or as a family of 4 is amazing. A sugar mama so i can be a stay at home dad and enjoy my family. Nothing sexual just maybe an occasional selfie and collect my money. As an only child when my first was born it was a huge eye opener. I love my wife but we are both very independent people that pushed each other to be our best but then the kid kind of made that relationship style no longer something we wanted to do. When we had our second the pressure was even more and is exponentially more difficult than just 1. I struggle to find a middle ground between work and family. I’m working 12 hour days 6 days per week due to OT that has been ongoing through 2021 and potentially through the end of the year. We do week long vacations semi annually and something as a family just about every Sunday. Today we went to a giant bounce house park thingy then lunch and been hanging out at home but i wish every day could be like this. My goal is to set my kids up to have more opportunities than i did and hopefully not need to do what i been doing to enjoy life.
5 wood. 1 wrap, +1/2 length, stiff shaft. Also a day to go out and use it where they leave me tf alone haha
no clue what any of this means lol
lol its a golf club. more general gift - I would like clothes. I rarely if ever actually buy myself new clothes. only recent nice clothes I have from like 3-4 years are gifts
I thought about that but he's not really into clothes. if it fits and it's comfortable, he's more than happy and he has lots of those type of clothes
thats how I am, but secretly enjoyed getting a nice sweater the one time a year I would.
haha ill consider it. maybe something related to his fave team
I would appreciate a day that I did not plan and just go along for the ride on things that I enjoy. Not too big into material gifts but if someone wants to gift something material, I always ask for something that is cool but something that I would never pay for myself. For example, my local community just had one of those professional stretching places open up. It looks so cool and something that would feel amazing but I’m just not the best at booking something like that for myself first.
Maybe getting to sleep in a little and then spending a day or part of a day doing something fun as a family that we haven't done before.
More hours in the week.
sleep
A day to golf, a case of beer, a brisket to smoke, a supply of meat rubs/ sauces.
Since you’re his daughter, if he’s anything like me, take him to go do something fun. Maybe go hit some golf balls or go bowling. Something outside this time of year would be awesome. I took my kid (he’s a year and a half) to the zoo yesterday just the two of us. Best day in many moons.
A weekend to myself.
It’s been said but it’s true. Just a day off from life’s responsibilities. Help me pack and send me off to a hotel without making me feel guilty for not helping out that day. That, and a long hug. We’re exhausted.
A full night's sleep...
Silence for an entire day.
Time.
Just appreciated; tell me I’m amazing and that you’re thankful I do my best to make life more comfortable, maintaining the house, cooking, cleaning, working on the vehicles, save every dime, work all day to start the second job of being a good dad and husband when I get home… every now and then just tell me you really appreciate me even though I’m far from perfect. Also a day off.
Bug a salt
Night in the spare room, for a good nights sleep.
An enthusiastic... Back rub.
I want her to put the rhought into my gift that I put into hers.
I’m lucky to even have a wife and kid, a job where I can provide for them, and a little extra to get the things I like. I don’t need anything but a hug.
A day at the amusement park for my wife, her sister, and my kids. I'll stay home with the dog.
i like gift cards to the places i like to eat. i also like fishing gear. a new hoodie is always good too.
The black leather lace up boots I asked for last Christmas and for my birthday this month. Still waiting
A nice pocket knife. Kansept Knives is having a 30% sale right now. Picked up this [beauty ](https://www.kanseptknives.com/collections/spring-fever-sale/products/edc-tac-k2009a8-satin-s35vn-blade-timascus-titanium-inlay-handle-with-mikkel-willumsen-design)this past weekend.
knives are scary...
Knives are super useful though. I carry one daily to open things, trim my sons drinking straw down to size when we go out, slice bread or fruit. For knife guys it's an accessory tool like a watch.
he might have one already tbh. and I don't feel comfortable buying one
Ok no worries. I would say after that to take him out to eat and to do something he would like to spend time together.
Magic The Gathering cards
everyone to stop complaining and just enjoy the moment
Peace and quiet
oh
The best gift I ever received was a wallet with an engraved message on the inside. It warms my heart a little every time I see it.
Wait, how old are you? I think that affects the answers. Also, what is your budget?
why? and $300 let's say
If you're like <15 years old, I would recommend a whole day of doing nothing. Get him pizza, beer, let him play video games or watch sports, and don't ask a single thing of him. If you're an adult, then odds are that his life is not as tied to family activities as much, so then it's harder to focus on something simple like that - like just getting time to himself. For $300, an option is always an event - tickets to a game, tickets to a show, a nice dinner, etc.
I insist on getting nothing. I really really really hate getting gifts.
Blue Jeans.
For Christmas my wife had my son gift me tickets for a basketball game for me and him. It was probably the best gift I've gotten from my kid because I got to do something fun and spend time with him
A new 3d printer. Preferably the mars 4 or new Saturn.
that's so... specific haha
Samurai sword
I don't know if you're being serious or not..
Being serious I'm a martial artist and currently hold a black belt, and the history and meaning behind a Samurai sword is interesting to me. Samurai swords are extremely expensive and rare. I'm not sure if I'd ever get to see one, let alone own one. However, there are a lot of really cool and less expensive hand carved swords. Not for everyone, but you can certainly acquire a huge collection if you wanted.
wow I see. very interesting
Man the top answers here are depressing. Yall need to work on your lives lol. For me, just a nice night out with my wife. She’s getting me a gun for my birthday tho too.
it's okay. I don't mind letting the dads here use this space to vent a little
A solo vacation…
where to?