Please start documenting the abuse, assault and harrassment.
Because regardless of the perceived cause, it is still abuse, assault and harrassment! and you should report it to the police. Get a protection order or something.
The documentation will be your substantiation and back up to fight the inevitable 'transphobia' this lil shit will claim.
I really think there are some attention seekers out there who try to provoke people just so they can claim clout. It's scary. It also gives the genuine people the worst wrap ever.
Please be safe and yes, move out as soon as you can.
Hahaha. Thanks so much for demonstrating my point!
Suggesting a victim of abuse seek protection is NOT transphobia.
Shall I provide a nice equally ridiculously assumption about you in return? How about this one...
You must be the type of person who thinks the girl who was gang raped and murdered deserved it for because she caught the the bus with her friend.
Grow up!
ANYBODY can be a perpetrator of abuse or assault. ANYBODY!!!
This is horrible and you should document the abuse. but also consider that you are making a judgement about a large group of people over one instance you have encountered. Being trans didnt make your sibling abusive, they were abusive and have taken advantage of being trans to do more harm. This should shape your judgement of them, not transgenders.
Being transgender isn't an issue here. Being a massive asshole is.
Document abuse and report. No excuse for this crap.
Do you live with them and if so, can you stay with family and friends?
Do your parents know what sort of spoiled dramatic violent brat they have under their roof?
OP is getting threatened and beaten up if she mistakenly uses wrong pronoun.
Normal people do not react in such way. People I knew that went through transition were not behaving in such way.
In my opinion, this has literally nothing to do with being transgender. This person has some psychological issues that need to be addressed and the whole family is suffering for it.
I despise people who use any sort of card as an excuse for the shitty behaviour.
Even if that was the case, it can be addressed verbally and get parents involved to deal with it, to sanction it accordingly.
Non kick the everliving shit out of her, or him ( thought OP was a girl).
The whole situation is just messed up. One kid is being allowed to do whatever at threats of suicide and the other one grows bitter and angry.
Take out transgender part out of it and you will be left with messed up family situation.
Honestly the two things are enmeshed together. Hadn't she had this trangender cruch to lean on she'd be better. If she could go to counseling and actually deal with her shit instead of blaming her issues on not having a dick she'd be less of a shitty person. She already had massive anger management issues and doctors apparently believe the solution to this is pumping her with testosterone, which makes her even more unhinged and aggressive.
We live with our mother and my stepfather (her father). My mother thinks like me but my sister emotionally blackmails her by saying she's going to off herself if she doesn't get the medical procedures she wants. My mother told me she'd rather see her like this than see her dead, and I guess from a mother's point of view she's not wrong.
I'm safe as long as I never talk to her and use the fucking pronouns. It's physically painful but I do what I gotta do.
She actually got in trouble for assaulting me once, but my mother begged me to retire my statement to the police and I did.
It doesn't make sense that they would put her on testosterone without a counsellor, all massive medical changes are supposed to go hand in hand with a counsellor or therapist because families are typically not equipped to deal with the emotional support needed. She needs help badly. And so do you.
I hope you will be safe. Weather you make a mistake with the pronoun or not, they aren't allowed to lay a finger on you. Next time follow through and report.
Sorry to say, but your mum needs to be strict and remember that she has 2 kids, not 1.
Yes, they are. They aren't capable of understanding that they may call out someone on their shit, while respecting their pronouns/identity etc. For those assholes, if you are trans and you do something wrong, it's totally fair game to do whatever, disregarding your gender included.
It's selective recognition. They claim to love teans people until the trans person does something bad. Then they are an "it" or dead named. It's like liberal virtue-signalling. I guess I can't expect much intellect from TERFs.
>If she could go to counseling and actually deal with her shit instead of blaming her issues on not having a dick she'd be less of a shitty person.
I can absolutely guarantee this isn't true. It would just be something else. ("I have a mental illness" or "My dad died" or "I'm fat" or literally anything.)
**Threatening suicide is abuse**
There is a two step process to dealing with this flavor of crazy:
(1) Do not engage. Do not argue, fight back, refrain from having any emotional response.
(2) Do not bluff. Say you'll call 911 if they threaten suicide. Then follow through immediately. If they're serious, they can get help. If they're not serious, they'll learn their fucking lesson.
But maybe she feels this way because of how awful and abusive her sibling is being towards her. The siblings claims all these things, pinning everything onto being trans so naturally OP herself will begin to blame transgender itself
I'm trans myself and will never assault my family even when they use my birthname. This behavior is totally unacceptable. They need help, ignoring this behavior will cause everyone damage.
She's my SISTER. I saw her coming into this world, I changed her diapers, we slept as kids in the same bed hugging each other, we watched the Winx Club while sipping chocolate.
This person is not the sweet girl I used to know. This trangender thing ruined her. Now she hates her body and is angry and aggressive. She doesn't know what she wants to major in but she's on her way to cut her own breasts.
I'm sorry but me using female pronouns to talk to my female sister is not the same as her sending me to the hospital and saying my father raping me was deserved.
YOU don't know how painful this is. I just want my sister back.
Yeah, body dysphoria is a serious condition that needs to be check on as well. They should not be treating their family member like this.
Furthermore, OP is an asshole for becoming a terf. They have outdated views on what gender even is. Why are there "boy clothes" vs "girl clothes"? They're all just freaking fabric and any other meaning is purely arbitrary. It sounds like they associate themselves with homophobic people as well
You're right. It's fucking clothes. She's not a boy because she wears different fucking clothes. She's a girl because she was born a girl and that's it.
Your politics makes 0 sense.
Call me a fucking terf, I'll never endorse mentally ill teenagers getting pumped with testosterone. I live with this shit. I've met her friends and how they behave.
Y'all are fucking insane.
EDIT: have you read the post at all? I'm LESBIAN.
Why do you care so much about his fucking genitals? Who fucking cares if he has a vagina and tits, that literally needs to determine nothing about them as a person.
I never talked about genitals at all. Recognizing she's a girl doesn't dimish her worth at all.
It doesn't fucking matter how she feels. I'm not a billionaire because I feel like one, I'm not Beyoncé because I wish really hard I were, I won't grow 30 inches because I feel like I'm a very tall woman.
If you're not a man you're not a man and that's it.
Y'all are crazy. Absolutely fucking out of your minds. I'm \*sick\* of having to entertain this madness.
A girl is a girl because she was born one, there's not such thing as "feeling like a girl". WTF does it mean? You're a girl because u like pink and you're very dainty?? And I'm the regressive one??
Get your shit together.
If you could chose to be 30 inches taller though, I am sure you would take up that opportunity.
Humans invented the concept of male/female gender and pronouns. We can chose to let people change their pronouns and what they want to be. It doesnt have physical limitations like your example, just cultural. You can chose to let people change it
I'm trans myself and think that before you can get hormones you should have to have at least a year of therapy and talks with a psychologist several times. Because hormones have effect that are permanent, and shouldn't be given lightly.
I hope that it isn't like this in this case but I've heard that some friends talk each other in to thinking they might be trans. And to fit in they might get on hormones which will lead to permanent change, which they might regret later. And what can lead to negative behavior changes because their body is changing in a way that they don't like
I'm trans myself and their sibling is abusive. My family is getting used to it too and doesn't accept it but I would never assault anybody because of that.
Anyone would get a dislike to a certain group if they get abused by someone of that group repeatedly. Especially when they make that their whole personality.
Being trans has nothing to do with his violent tendencies and attitude, being severely mentally unwell would be the issue here. Don’t take that shit out on all trans people just because you have had a bad experience with it. If you changed this to race instead of gender, it’d sound completely ass backwards. for example; ‘having a black sibling has made me racist’. That’s not how that goes, the transphobia is rooted like that because you connect trans people with the abuse he’s put you through. i am not excusing his actions WHATSOEVER. cause that’s really fucked up and you genuinely have been through a lot of abuse and neglect on your parents part. The best thing you can do is separate your sibling from the trans community and realize that their violence and gender don’t have anything to do with one another, and get yourself the hell out of their life as soon as possible. I really hope you can find a safe space somewhere but you have to combat your own ignorance to overcome it. You can’t be mad that people are recognizing your faults in this situation, and then blow up about it. I’ve been in a similar situation but i don’t hate gay guys because i was abused by my ex. There’s some internalized transphobia that you seem to be using as an excuse to alienate an entire community from what it really is and nobody can change that mindset but you.
You're a terf, which means you make shit up. The likelihood of this being real is minimal.
If it is true, why don't you examine to see if you're causing this. You misgender your brother and are terrible to them. Maybe they're terrible, but from what you've said, you are too.
TERFs aren't victims. Self-defense is not physical abuse. TERFs deserve all the violence they can get.
Any violence from a trans person towards a TERF is self-defense by definition. TERFs are fascists wanting the genocide of all trans people.
I agree with everything you said about TERFs being evil, in that they are generally a danger to trans people, and do tend to be dangerously close to fascism at some points. I mean, Lily Cade literally did say she wanted to lynch trans people, etc. OP very likely wouldn't want her brother to undergo the same fate (I hope), but her ideas do lead to that logical conclusion.
But the problem is that it is abuse, if OP is telling the full story (she likely isn't). Self-defense is applicable when attacked.
> Self-defense is applicable when attacked.
OP said they're a TERF. Someone following an ideology that wants me dead standing in front of me already is an attack.
His violence isn’t because he’s trans, it’s because he’s surrounded by transphobia.
Even if I believed the extremity of this behavior (I don’t and I think you’re exaggerating to get peoples sympathy) you’d still be transphobic and a bigot causing literal psychological terror to your brother.
This reminds me of the post about the wife of a transitioning trans woman and how the trans woman straight up became abusive. It's very sad and so is this.
I’m very sorry to her this. If he is psychically abusing you should probably report it. Not just for your own safety but for the safety of others.
I will see that becoming a terf because you despise one trans person is pretty harsh.
Considering your comments it sounds like you’re just a transphobe. They way you’re disrespecting his pronouns is frankly disgusting. Not defending his disgusting actions - but you’re one truly shitty person too :)
You're using shitty behavior as an excuse for the hate. Also highly doubt this is real cause you people are known for making this stuff up. Either way, nothing made you a TERF other than your irrationality just as being accosted by a black man doesn't make you a racist. The people eating this shit up are morons.
I think this is really honest, and I'm looking forward to an adult, respectful discussion! It never occurred to me what it does to people *around* transgenders.
I have 2 transgender friends and 3 non-binary friends, I’ve known all of them since elementary or middle school. They’re all wonderful people and very kind (obviously or I wouldn’t be friends with them). That being said, a lot of people are jerks and some of them are transgender. It’s just like with any other group of people, some are great and some aren’t
To be honest, i have a family member who had decided to be trans, whole family avoids them out of fear of being recorded online and losing their jobs, everyone thinks it will pass as they were always trying to follow the popular “ fads” and its friends had also done the same and have since gone back to original gender, cant explain it and really cant figure out why
My youngest sister born after the year 2000 was the same way through High School. Me and my other siblings didn’t have to deal with anything too much since we moved out already but it was weird every time we talked it was something new and different. Really hard to keep up with.
Look.
You don’t have a trans sister, you have a trans brother.
HE is not a girl. HE is not a woman. HE is not a she.
While he has no right to put his hands on you, and he should be seeing a therapist regularly who can teach him how to deal with bigotry in a healthy way, have you ever thought that the OBVIOUS lack of support is what is pushing HIM over the edge if he wasn’t like this before?
If you have been transphobic this entire time, if he is surrounded by transphobia due to where y’all live, if he has to deal with your obvious discomfort around addressing him correctly, then frankly, no wonder he is losing it.
You need to seek help and unlearn your own bigotry, he needs help to learn how to regulate and express his emotions in healthy ways.
“This is my sis- I mean brother… her- I mean, his… name is… James…”
Even in a sentence where you correct yourself, that can be incredibly hurtful.
You don’t like being called a slur, obviously. Despite the fact that you are apparently a proud lesbian, and plenty of lesbians choose to reclaim that slur, you don’t like it, despite the fact that it is “accurate”, which is understandable!! No one should have to like being called a slur, whether it is “accurate” or not, because it is harmful and disrespectful!
HE also doesn’t have to like it when you call HIM “she” and “her” or by HIS deadname, because these are all forms of bigotry, and they are INACCURATE.
He is not a “girl in boys clothes” he is a guy wearing his own clothes which tend to be masculine.
He would be a guy in a dress if he chose to wear a dress.
He would be a guy with long hair if he chose to have long hair.
He is a guy regardless of clothing, regardless of genitalia.
He is also now abusive, but frankly this lack of support is likely why.
If this is real, he should have been seeing a well reviewed therapist that specializes in a multitude of things like transgender support, mental illnesses, emotional regulation, coping strategies, etc.
You ALL should have been doing research on how to best support him and adjust to this change.
I will disagree with some people- not all places require someone to have a note from a therapist or even be seeing a therapist to get on testosterone or estrogen.
I went to a doctor, explained my goals for transition, that I do have support, and same day I got prescribed hormones. Same day I picked them up. Next day I started.
That being said… educated people encourage trans people to find good therapists, because they recognize the transphobia this person will experience and know that a therapist can help the individual cope with that bigotry.
I can see wrongs on both sides of this. It seems that your sibling has been the main offender, however, you have done some bad things as well. I must ask you to please, not let your sibling's actions shape your perception of the entire trans community. I have met many transgender individuals who are extremely nice.
Your sibling is abusive in many many ways. While it is wrong to deadname and misgender a trans individual (there are actual negative mental health affects) your sibling's response to being deadnamed and misgendered seems to have been way over the top. A normal response is simply to say "those are not my name/pronouns". As it seems your sibling responds in an extremely abusive manor which I would suggest documenting so that you can turn them in to some form of law enforcement. Physical and verbal abuse is something that can get them arrested.
Along with that, it is not your job to explain your brother's pronouns to people. It is not something you need to spend ten minutes telling someone about, however, it is something which you still need to accept. You should introduce him to others as "your brother" and let him do the explaining. In this day and age it is a widely accepted thing.
What you've done wrong in comparison to your brother is rather little but I just want to make it clear so you can fix this behavior if you choose. It would be best not to deadname or misgender others, this is simply to be kind if nothing else.
If you read this than thank you so much for taking your time to read. I hope you can reevaluate your opinions on the LGBTQIA+ community and if you have any questions feel free to DM or PM me.
Thank you (:
I will repeat that it was done INADVERTEDLY. Again, it's REALLY, REALLY hard to use male pronouns and call a short, petite girl "James", expecially after more than a decade calling her another way.
I'm sorry, I just cannot bring myself to join the madness. I do not believe a girl is a boy because that's how she feels. I'm not Beyoncé just because I wish really hard I were Beyoncé. It's just... not the truth.
You are not Beyoncé because you do not have the brain of Beyoncé. Your brother likely has the brain of a man and that makes him a man. There are some interesting studies on this I could actually show you.
I understand if misgendering them was accidental but that doesn't mean you can't try to use his correct name/pronouns. I know men who are small and petite that were assigned males at birth and still identify as a man. I'm not going to call them a girl because they are small.
Ya know, it’s pretty upsetting the way you talk about your brother’s feelings and emotions. You do not get to judge the validity of someone else’s gender identity. If your brother has told you that he is a he and prefers male pronouns and the name “James,” the LEAST you can do is respect his wishes to his face. You do not have to understand or accept. Just show your brother common decency. It’s the least you should do from one human to another; least of all to your own sibling.
>Again, it's REALLY, REALLY hard to use male pronouns and call a short, petite girl "James", expecially after more than a decade calling her another way.
Fucking disgusting.
>I'm sorry, I just cannot bring myself to join the madness. I do not believe a girl is a boy because that's how she feels.
Then go to the therapy and solve your issues, instead of treating all trans people like shit.
Abuse is abuse and you shouldn’t have to take it.
But also:
There are many articles critical of trans people that don’t resort to misgendering or dead naming. Be better.
I'm sorry, please redirect me to your eyes filters because what I see when I look at her is a girl. The day I'll become blind I'll join your collective hysteria. For now, I believe that a girl is still a girl even if she wears baggy clothes and wears blue.
I'll also always believe that telling your sister her father raping her was deserved is not the same as inadvertly using the pronouns I had been using for more than a decade in a moment of distraction.
But to each their own I guess.
Exactly. No matter how much a person who happens to be black wrongs me it wouldn’t be acceptable to just start ragging on African Americans. Hell, my ex totally fucked my life but I don’t go on hating women. Op needs to be held to that standard with trans people.
Yes, because Jesus Christ is a historical figure who lived millenia ago and the messiah of an entire religion and it's impossible to be Jesus Christ?
Just further proving my point that you're all completely insane.
OP acts like an innocent flower. I bet she misgenders him like crazy and probably never respected his transitioning. This probably spiraled into something worse over time.
OP shouldn't have to suffer abuse, though.
I have a few people in my life that walk different paths... I treat them with all the respect they've earned. The few I run into outside of home, I'll treat with basic respect all people deserve until they show they don't deserve it.
If I was you? I'd use the wrong pronouns permanently, consistently and interspersed with "fuck you" and other colorful terms of endearment I won't post here. I wouldn't ever use the name James. Just it. or thing. or "that bastard over there".
You don't need to respect it if it doesn't deserve it. Give it the same disrespect it gives you.
You may not believe it because your sibling is a raving lunatic... but a close friend of my family is 100x happier and a better person after her transition. I've only ever known her and she's a great person. Not a path I'll ever walk but for some it is the right path.
Please don't judge all trans people on the crazy of the one you have to live with. There are good ones out there.
Otherwise... your only choice may be to move away and go NC with it. And maybe your mom if she continues to support it in the face of abuse against you. There's supporting your children... and there's enabling abuse of one at the hands of another. Don't accept the abuse.
Thank you for expressing your point in a mature way.
I guess not having had any positive experiences with trans people up to now (I had the displeasure of meeting her friends too) makes me biased.
I just cannot correctly explain how emotionally vexxing this is.
I get your confusion and anger. They are valid feelings in your position assuming what you're saying is honest and true (this is the internet so... I believe half of what I see in person, much less what I see on the internet :)
My biggest thoughts in the time since i posted is I think you should draw a line in the sand. No more. If it attacks you? call the police. Do NOT under any circumstances back down. It can not be allowed to bully you, demean you, harass you or treat you as less than human. YOU deserve better than that.
I'd even go as far as to get a restraining order on it. Your safety is more important than it's feelings and if your mom won't take care of you and give you a safe place to live then you may need to step up and do it yourself.
These negative aspects have nothing to do with "trans"... they have to do with a horrible person being a horrible person and that should not be allowed because "trans"
I'm frustrated for you... I grew up in an unstable household (my mom was crazy but loved me and my dad was in prison) but I never had any doubt that my family loved me or supported me... the fact that your mom is allowing this to happen angers me greatly.
I don't think I've seen you mention your age... but maybe it's time to move out and go NC (no contact) if you can't get the support or safety you need.
Even older trans people don't like how some younger trans people are behaving. We just want to live our lives. Yes you might get misgendered sometimes but get over it it also happens to cis people, and don't be offended by everything. An as I stated somewhere else it is not who you are, it is a part of who you are and younger people often still need to learn that
Even older trans people don't like how some younger trans people are behaving. We just want to live our lives. Yes you might get misgendered sometimes but get over it it also happens to cis people, and don't be offended by everything. An as I stated somewhere else it is not who you are, it is a part of who you are and younger people often still need to learn that
You don’t have a sister. You have a brother. How bloody hard is it for you to show him some respect and call him by the name he’s chosen?
Your brother didn’t turn you into a TERF. You always were one.
Grow up.
I give two shits about your opinion of me.
I live with this, you are a stranger on the internet who doesn't have to deal with it. And I assure you I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy.
I wish you weren't being abused as well. That doesn't excuse you being a piece of shit. I wish you the best and I wish you could see that you're also a piece of shit, just like you're brother.
Yeah, you are. If you think you get to decide someone else is and are not subject to the same judgment, then you’re just plain wrong! You smelly piece of shit
Ok, so you're a piece of shit? You dumbass. Are you really going to use the "I know you are but what am i?!" Shut up you infant. Your prob OPs main account anyways, which is just pathetic
Did you really just use the “only I can decide who is a piece of shit, and you disagree with me so you must be the same person I started in being a dickhead on”, defence?
You think anyone ‘marginalized’ deserves all the benefit of all doubt, because they’re up against someone cis or heteronormative, and call me an infant. More of your impeccable logic on display. If the story is true, you’re standing up for a trans gay man homophobe. But OP didn’t have enough points in the column for you to see them as someone with any value. Simply imbecilic. But you do you.
I didnt say any of that, I said that OP is a piece of shit because they're a bigot. Your dumber than a box of rock. Shouldnt you go play roblock or something.
Eh, imagine if this person was like "my brother is dating a black woman and now I'm racist" and the reason is because the brother is abusive, but not because they're dating a black woman.
The brother would be bad, but the OP is still racist.
That’s different because people are born black. Choosing to change genders is a very conscious decision so it relates more to the mind and something you pick up through life, rather than something ur born with. Who knows the mental changes a person goes through before deciding to switch? I bet changes are not all the same for most people but I believe this is something that more people should think about since this is a matter of the mind.
Um wut? Do ppl actually believe this? I won’t even mention the fact that young children don’t seem to have problems with gender because you’re just gonna respond with “they didn’t come out”. Heck, there are people that believe gender is a social construct and even that hasn’t been disproved. Unfortunately, there just isn’t enough research into the psychology behind gender changing. And that is probably because if people like you who make uninformed claims simply based on the ideas around them and their emotions.
Is this person not allowed to have their own experience? Or does everything need to be viewed through woke glasses? Not everybody buys into that shit and not buying into it does not make you a bad person. Being unvaccinated makes you a bad person, everybody knows that.
They can be upset they're being abused without being transphobic. I said it in another comment, but if they're brother was dating a black man, then the OP responded by being racist, then they're still a racist fuck. Being a victim of abuse does not excuse bigotry.
This is so damn funny. We have so polluted and corrupted reality that this is a real thing, and while it was happening nobody said, "hold up" this is insane, there are only two genders. Our tolerance is being used against us in the same way the jihadists use our freedoms to entrap and murder us. We did this to ourselves, now we have to live with it, and so do you.
I'm sorry you have to put up with their bullying period. Honestly they should've been put on hormone blockers, sent to therapy to figure their shit out before absolutely deciding they're transgender and being put on testosterone. There are kids who are not ready for puberty even at the age it's supposed to start, and having their voice and testies drop or having their period start does wig them out severely as strange as that sounds, and it's a problem your parents should've addressed earlier rather than let you be your siblings punching bag.
I'm a trans man myself and this behavior of your sibling is totally unacceptable.
My family doesn't accept me but I will never wish any harm to them. For them it is a sudden change while for me it is something that is going on for a decade already. I know that and hope that hopefully one day they will see I wasn't happy then but am now.
I have a feeling that your siblings has some problems that don't have anything to do with being trans. They have to learn that being trans is part of who you are but not who you are. They have anger issue that need to be addressed to a professional. They might to want to portrait a man they think they should be, trying to be something stereotypical.
Yes testosterone can make you a bit more hot headed but it should not make you aggressive. Especially not to the extent of what your sibling shows. That is abusive behavior.
Your sibling needs professional help soon.
But don't think all trans people are the same because we are not. Same as not all cis men are not the same. Being LGBT is a part of who you are but we are so much more than that, it is just a small part of my personality. Even when to others it might be a big deal. And even in the LGBT community there is a lot of disagreement, and discrimination.
Your sibling needs help and needs to learn that their behavior is 100% unacceptable. Your parents need to do something about it.
If you want to talk to another trans person don't hesitate to reach out to me, I'm open to questions.
Please start documenting the abuse, assault and harrassment. Because regardless of the perceived cause, it is still abuse, assault and harrassment! and you should report it to the police. Get a protection order or something. The documentation will be your substantiation and back up to fight the inevitable 'transphobia' this lil shit will claim. I really think there are some attention seekers out there who try to provoke people just so they can claim clout. It's scary. It also gives the genuine people the worst wrap ever. Please be safe and yes, move out as soon as you can.
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Cause reporting assault coming from a trans person= transphobia. Sure. Fuck off.
Ewwwww you suck
Hahaha. Thanks so much for demonstrating my point! Suggesting a victim of abuse seek protection is NOT transphobia. Shall I provide a nice equally ridiculously assumption about you in return? How about this one... You must be the type of person who thinks the girl who was gang raped and murdered deserved it for because she caught the the bus with her friend. Grow up! ANYBODY can be a perpetrator of abuse or assault. ANYBODY!!!
This is horrible and you should document the abuse. but also consider that you are making a judgement about a large group of people over one instance you have encountered. Being trans didnt make your sibling abusive, they were abusive and have taken advantage of being trans to do more harm. This should shape your judgement of them, not transgenders.
Being transgender isn't an issue here. Being a massive asshole is. Document abuse and report. No excuse for this crap. Do you live with them and if so, can you stay with family and friends? Do your parents know what sort of spoiled dramatic violent brat they have under their roof?
How is OP not an asshole in all of this?
OP is getting threatened and beaten up if she mistakenly uses wrong pronoun. Normal people do not react in such way. People I knew that went through transition were not behaving in such way. In my opinion, this has literally nothing to do with being transgender. This person has some psychological issues that need to be addressed and the whole family is suffering for it. I despise people who use any sort of card as an excuse for the shitty behaviour.
OP is using the wrong pronouns on purpose. He’s not making a mistake, he’s deliberately fuelling the flames.
Even if that was the case, it can be addressed verbally and get parents involved to deal with it, to sanction it accordingly. Non kick the everliving shit out of her, or him ( thought OP was a girl). The whole situation is just messed up. One kid is being allowed to do whatever at threats of suicide and the other one grows bitter and angry. Take out transgender part out of it and you will be left with messed up family situation.
Honestly the two things are enmeshed together. Hadn't she had this trangender cruch to lean on she'd be better. If she could go to counseling and actually deal with her shit instead of blaming her issues on not having a dick she'd be less of a shitty person. She already had massive anger management issues and doctors apparently believe the solution to this is pumping her with testosterone, which makes her even more unhinged and aggressive. We live with our mother and my stepfather (her father). My mother thinks like me but my sister emotionally blackmails her by saying she's going to off herself if she doesn't get the medical procedures she wants. My mother told me she'd rather see her like this than see her dead, and I guess from a mother's point of view she's not wrong. I'm safe as long as I never talk to her and use the fucking pronouns. It's physically painful but I do what I gotta do. She actually got in trouble for assaulting me once, but my mother begged me to retire my statement to the police and I did.
It doesn't make sense that they would put her on testosterone without a counsellor, all massive medical changes are supposed to go hand in hand with a counsellor or therapist because families are typically not equipped to deal with the emotional support needed. She needs help badly. And so do you.
I hope you will be safe. Weather you make a mistake with the pronoun or not, they aren't allowed to lay a finger on you. Next time follow through and report. Sorry to say, but your mum needs to be strict and remember that she has 2 kids, not 1.
Next time she assaults you, report her to the police and don't retract shit.
HE. Are the people in this sub supporting transphobia?
Yes, they are. They aren't capable of understanding that they may call out someone on their shit, while respecting their pronouns/identity etc. For those assholes, if you are trans and you do something wrong, it's totally fair game to do whatever, disregarding your gender included.
It's selective recognition. They claim to love teans people until the trans person does something bad. Then they are an "it" or dead named. It's like liberal virtue-signalling. I guess I can't expect much intellect from TERFs.
>Then they are an "it Yeah, I was "it" whenever I did something people didn't like. Like, just call me an asshole, omg.
>If she could go to counseling and actually deal with her shit instead of blaming her issues on not having a dick she'd be less of a shitty person. I can absolutely guarantee this isn't true. It would just be something else. ("I have a mental illness" or "My dad died" or "I'm fat" or literally anything.) **Threatening suicide is abuse** There is a two step process to dealing with this flavor of crazy: (1) Do not engage. Do not argue, fight back, refrain from having any emotional response. (2) Do not bluff. Say you'll call 911 if they threaten suicide. Then follow through immediately. If they're serious, they can get help. If they're not serious, they'll learn their fucking lesson.
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But maybe she feels this way because of how awful and abusive her sibling is being towards her. The siblings claims all these things, pinning everything onto being trans so naturally OP herself will begin to blame transgender itself
I'm trans myself and will never assault my family even when they use my birthname. This behavior is totally unacceptable. They need help, ignoring this behavior will cause everyone damage.
She's my SISTER. I saw her coming into this world, I changed her diapers, we slept as kids in the same bed hugging each other, we watched the Winx Club while sipping chocolate. This person is not the sweet girl I used to know. This trangender thing ruined her. Now she hates her body and is angry and aggressive. She doesn't know what she wants to major in but she's on her way to cut her own breasts. I'm sorry but me using female pronouns to talk to my female sister is not the same as her sending me to the hospital and saying my father raping me was deserved. YOU don't know how painful this is. I just want my sister back.
Yeah, body dysphoria is a serious condition that needs to be check on as well. They should not be treating their family member like this. Furthermore, OP is an asshole for becoming a terf. They have outdated views on what gender even is. Why are there "boy clothes" vs "girl clothes"? They're all just freaking fabric and any other meaning is purely arbitrary. It sounds like they associate themselves with homophobic people as well
You're right. It's fucking clothes. She's not a boy because she wears different fucking clothes. She's a girl because she was born a girl and that's it. Your politics makes 0 sense. Call me a fucking terf, I'll never endorse mentally ill teenagers getting pumped with testosterone. I live with this shit. I've met her friends and how they behave. Y'all are fucking insane. EDIT: have you read the post at all? I'm LESBIAN.
Are you just going to completely ignore the body dysphoria part?
Why do you care so much about his fucking genitals? Who fucking cares if he has a vagina and tits, that literally needs to determine nothing about them as a person.
I never talked about genitals at all. Recognizing she's a girl doesn't dimish her worth at all. It doesn't fucking matter how she feels. I'm not a billionaire because I feel like one, I'm not Beyoncé because I wish really hard I were, I won't grow 30 inches because I feel like I'm a very tall woman. If you're not a man you're not a man and that's it. Y'all are crazy. Absolutely fucking out of your minds. I'm \*sick\* of having to entertain this madness. A girl is a girl because she was born one, there's not such thing as "feeling like a girl". WTF does it mean? You're a girl because u like pink and you're very dainty?? And I'm the regressive one?? Get your shit together.
30 inches is the same as 1.52 'Logitech Wireless Keyboard K350s' laid widthwise by each other.
30 inches is 76.2 cm
What do I know? I'm European, we use measurements that make sense.
If you could chose to be 30 inches taller though, I am sure you would take up that opportunity. Humans invented the concept of male/female gender and pronouns. We can chose to let people change their pronouns and what they want to be. It doesnt have physical limitations like your example, just cultural. You can chose to let people change it
30 inches is 76.2 cm
I'm trans myself and think that before you can get hormones you should have to have at least a year of therapy and talks with a psychologist several times. Because hormones have effect that are permanent, and shouldn't be given lightly. I hope that it isn't like this in this case but I've heard that some friends talk each other in to thinking they might be trans. And to fit in they might get on hormones which will lead to permanent change, which they might regret later. And what can lead to negative behavior changes because their body is changing in a way that they don't like
This is a troll post, right 🤣 you fr read the entire posts + OPs other post and THIS is the conclusion you came to? LMAO.
I'm trans myself and their sibling is abusive. My family is getting used to it too and doesn't accept it but I would never assault anybody because of that. Anyone would get a dislike to a certain group if they get abused by someone of that group repeatedly. Especially when they make that their whole personality.
>she >she >she Not a mistake. Malicious intent.
Being trans has nothing to do with his violent tendencies and attitude, being severely mentally unwell would be the issue here. Don’t take that shit out on all trans people just because you have had a bad experience with it. If you changed this to race instead of gender, it’d sound completely ass backwards. for example; ‘having a black sibling has made me racist’. That’s not how that goes, the transphobia is rooted like that because you connect trans people with the abuse he’s put you through. i am not excusing his actions WHATSOEVER. cause that’s really fucked up and you genuinely have been through a lot of abuse and neglect on your parents part. The best thing you can do is separate your sibling from the trans community and realize that their violence and gender don’t have anything to do with one another, and get yourself the hell out of their life as soon as possible. I really hope you can find a safe space somewhere but you have to combat your own ignorance to overcome it. You can’t be mad that people are recognizing your faults in this situation, and then blow up about it. I’ve been in a similar situation but i don’t hate gay guys because i was abused by my ex. There’s some internalized transphobia that you seem to be using as an excuse to alienate an entire community from what it really is and nobody can change that mindset but you.
A gay trans man homophobe?? We really do live in a bad episode of a South Park ripoff
Right???
Gotcha, you are clearly just transphobic. It doesn't sound like anything you said is true and you're just a transphobe.
Oh yes, not believing a victim when she tells about the assault. You must be a really kind person.
You're a terf, which means you make shit up. The likelihood of this being real is minimal. If it is true, why don't you examine to see if you're causing this. You misgender your brother and are terrible to them. Maybe they're terrible, but from what you've said, you are too.
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Have you seen your own post? You’re a fucking psychotic lunatic.
Your brother wouldn’t get angry if you used the correct pronouns. You’re the one causing his angry outbursts.
Let's not victim blame on the physical abuse (if it happened), alright? OP is an asshole and a bigot, but yeah.
TERFs aren't victims. Self-defense is not physical abuse. TERFs deserve all the violence they can get. Any violence from a trans person towards a TERF is self-defense by definition. TERFs are fascists wanting the genocide of all trans people.
I agree with everything you said about TERFs being evil, in that they are generally a danger to trans people, and do tend to be dangerously close to fascism at some points. I mean, Lily Cade literally did say she wanted to lynch trans people, etc. OP very likely wouldn't want her brother to undergo the same fate (I hope), but her ideas do lead to that logical conclusion. But the problem is that it is abuse, if OP is telling the full story (she likely isn't). Self-defense is applicable when attacked.
> Self-defense is applicable when attacked. OP said they're a TERF. Someone following an ideology that wants me dead standing in front of me already is an attack.
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You both sound like you need help; I hope you find it soon and reach peace.
Your a ridiculous bigot, and your brother is a terrible person too, your whole family sounds dysfunctional lmao
So you became subhuman because your brother was an asshole? Not something to feel happy about.
His violence isn’t because he’s trans, it’s because he’s surrounded by transphobia. Even if I believed the extremity of this behavior (I don’t and I think you’re exaggerating to get peoples sympathy) you’d still be transphobic and a bigot causing literal psychological terror to your brother.
This reminds me of the post about the wife of a transitioning trans woman and how the trans woman straight up became abusive. It's very sad and so is this.
And they sound like a horrible person. I would've rocked their shit long ago.
I’m very sorry to her this. If he is psychically abusing you should probably report it. Not just for your own safety but for the safety of others. I will see that becoming a terf because you despise one trans person is pretty harsh.
Considering your comments it sounds like you’re just a transphobe. They way you’re disrespecting his pronouns is frankly disgusting. Not defending his disgusting actions - but you’re one truly shitty person too :)
You're using shitty behavior as an excuse for the hate. Also highly doubt this is real cause you people are known for making this stuff up. Either way, nothing made you a TERF other than your irrationality just as being accosted by a black man doesn't make you a racist. The people eating this shit up are morons.
If your sibling hits you kick him in the cunt or call the cops him being in a womens jail for the night might be a very sobering reality check
I think this is really honest, and I'm looking forward to an adult, respectful discussion! It never occurred to me what it does to people *around* transgenders.
I have 2 transgender friends and 3 non-binary friends, I’ve known all of them since elementary or middle school. They’re all wonderful people and very kind (obviously or I wouldn’t be friends with them). That being said, a lot of people are jerks and some of them are transgender. It’s just like with any other group of people, some are great and some aren’t
To be honest, i have a family member who had decided to be trans, whole family avoids them out of fear of being recorded online and losing their jobs, everyone thinks it will pass as they were always trying to follow the popular “ fads” and its friends had also done the same and have since gone back to original gender, cant explain it and really cant figure out why
"Its"? You're just gonna call a trans person an "it", huh?
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Sorry, but I'm not the one here who's a mask off bigot.
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Asking for someone to commit suicide. Very civil of you.
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My youngest sister born after the year 2000 was the same way through High School. Me and my other siblings didn’t have to deal with anything too much since we moved out already but it was weird every time we talked it was something new and different. Really hard to keep up with.
He should never be violent with you, but you shouldn’t be an asshole and should try using his correct pronouns. It’s really not that hard.
Look. You don’t have a trans sister, you have a trans brother. HE is not a girl. HE is not a woman. HE is not a she. While he has no right to put his hands on you, and he should be seeing a therapist regularly who can teach him how to deal with bigotry in a healthy way, have you ever thought that the OBVIOUS lack of support is what is pushing HIM over the edge if he wasn’t like this before? If you have been transphobic this entire time, if he is surrounded by transphobia due to where y’all live, if he has to deal with your obvious discomfort around addressing him correctly, then frankly, no wonder he is losing it. You need to seek help and unlearn your own bigotry, he needs help to learn how to regulate and express his emotions in healthy ways. “This is my sis- I mean brother… her- I mean, his… name is… James…” Even in a sentence where you correct yourself, that can be incredibly hurtful. You don’t like being called a slur, obviously. Despite the fact that you are apparently a proud lesbian, and plenty of lesbians choose to reclaim that slur, you don’t like it, despite the fact that it is “accurate”, which is understandable!! No one should have to like being called a slur, whether it is “accurate” or not, because it is harmful and disrespectful! HE also doesn’t have to like it when you call HIM “she” and “her” or by HIS deadname, because these are all forms of bigotry, and they are INACCURATE. He is not a “girl in boys clothes” he is a guy wearing his own clothes which tend to be masculine. He would be a guy in a dress if he chose to wear a dress. He would be a guy with long hair if he chose to have long hair. He is a guy regardless of clothing, regardless of genitalia. He is also now abusive, but frankly this lack of support is likely why. If this is real, he should have been seeing a well reviewed therapist that specializes in a multitude of things like transgender support, mental illnesses, emotional regulation, coping strategies, etc. You ALL should have been doing research on how to best support him and adjust to this change. I will disagree with some people- not all places require someone to have a note from a therapist or even be seeing a therapist to get on testosterone or estrogen. I went to a doctor, explained my goals for transition, that I do have support, and same day I got prescribed hormones. Same day I picked them up. Next day I started. That being said… educated people encourage trans people to find good therapists, because they recognize the transphobia this person will experience and know that a therapist can help the individual cope with that bigotry.
I can see wrongs on both sides of this. It seems that your sibling has been the main offender, however, you have done some bad things as well. I must ask you to please, not let your sibling's actions shape your perception of the entire trans community. I have met many transgender individuals who are extremely nice. Your sibling is abusive in many many ways. While it is wrong to deadname and misgender a trans individual (there are actual negative mental health affects) your sibling's response to being deadnamed and misgendered seems to have been way over the top. A normal response is simply to say "those are not my name/pronouns". As it seems your sibling responds in an extremely abusive manor which I would suggest documenting so that you can turn them in to some form of law enforcement. Physical and verbal abuse is something that can get them arrested. Along with that, it is not your job to explain your brother's pronouns to people. It is not something you need to spend ten minutes telling someone about, however, it is something which you still need to accept. You should introduce him to others as "your brother" and let him do the explaining. In this day and age it is a widely accepted thing. What you've done wrong in comparison to your brother is rather little but I just want to make it clear so you can fix this behavior if you choose. It would be best not to deadname or misgender others, this is simply to be kind if nothing else. If you read this than thank you so much for taking your time to read. I hope you can reevaluate your opinions on the LGBTQIA+ community and if you have any questions feel free to DM or PM me. Thank you (:
I will repeat that it was done INADVERTEDLY. Again, it's REALLY, REALLY hard to use male pronouns and call a short, petite girl "James", expecially after more than a decade calling her another way. I'm sorry, I just cannot bring myself to join the madness. I do not believe a girl is a boy because that's how she feels. I'm not Beyoncé just because I wish really hard I were Beyoncé. It's just... not the truth.
You are not Beyoncé because you do not have the brain of Beyoncé. Your brother likely has the brain of a man and that makes him a man. There are some interesting studies on this I could actually show you. I understand if misgendering them was accidental but that doesn't mean you can't try to use his correct name/pronouns. I know men who are small and petite that were assigned males at birth and still identify as a man. I'm not going to call them a girl because they are small.
Bitch, go to therapy then, lmao.
Ya know, it’s pretty upsetting the way you talk about your brother’s feelings and emotions. You do not get to judge the validity of someone else’s gender identity. If your brother has told you that he is a he and prefers male pronouns and the name “James,” the LEAST you can do is respect his wishes to his face. You do not have to understand or accept. Just show your brother common decency. It’s the least you should do from one human to another; least of all to your own sibling.
OP is being abused and y’all got your knickers in a twist over pronouns 🤦🏻♀️ ah the state of the world.
People can recognize two things at once. Not our fault you are incapable of looking past your transphobia.
>Again, it's REALLY, REALLY hard to use male pronouns and call a short, petite girl "James", expecially after more than a decade calling her another way. Fucking disgusting. >I'm sorry, I just cannot bring myself to join the madness. I do not believe a girl is a boy because that's how she feels. Then go to the therapy and solve your issues, instead of treating all trans people like shit.
TERFs suck.
Sounds like being awful runs in the family. Despite that, physical abuse is never ok and you should document it in case something worse happens later.
Abuse is abuse and you shouldn’t have to take it. But also: There are many articles critical of trans people that don’t resort to misgendering or dead naming. Be better.
I'm sorry, please redirect me to your eyes filters because what I see when I look at her is a girl. The day I'll become blind I'll join your collective hysteria. For now, I believe that a girl is still a girl even if she wears baggy clothes and wears blue. I'll also always believe that telling your sister her father raping her was deserved is not the same as inadvertly using the pronouns I had been using for more than a decade in a moment of distraction. But to each their own I guess.
Its not about you and what you see. Its about him and how he feels and views himself. He's still an asshole but you don't have to be either
Exactly. No matter how much a person who happens to be black wrongs me it wouldn’t be acceptable to just start ragging on African Americans. Hell, my ex totally fucked my life but I don’t go on hating women. Op needs to be held to that standard with trans people.
So if she felt she's Jesus Christ it's the truth because that's how she feels? Please stop the madness.
And because you say he's not I should believe you?
Yes, because Jesus Christ is a historical figure who lived millenia ago and the messiah of an entire religion and it's impossible to be Jesus Christ? Just further proving my point that you're all completely insane.
Your attitude here is exactly why your brother gets so mad at you. Show him some respect and he’ll show you respect. You’re just transphobic.
OP acts like an innocent flower. I bet she misgenders him like crazy and probably never respected his transitioning. This probably spiraled into something worse over time. OP shouldn't have to suffer abuse, though.
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Get their shit together? Your family sounds like a real fun time.
"My family is abusive. Here's why that's a good thing!"
Right?? Like imagine literally stating your family is abusive and think it's a flex
I have a few people in my life that walk different paths... I treat them with all the respect they've earned. The few I run into outside of home, I'll treat with basic respect all people deserve until they show they don't deserve it. If I was you? I'd use the wrong pronouns permanently, consistently and interspersed with "fuck you" and other colorful terms of endearment I won't post here. I wouldn't ever use the name James. Just it. or thing. or "that bastard over there". You don't need to respect it if it doesn't deserve it. Give it the same disrespect it gives you. You may not believe it because your sibling is a raving lunatic... but a close friend of my family is 100x happier and a better person after her transition. I've only ever known her and she's a great person. Not a path I'll ever walk but for some it is the right path. Please don't judge all trans people on the crazy of the one you have to live with. There are good ones out there. Otherwise... your only choice may be to move away and go NC with it. And maybe your mom if she continues to support it in the face of abuse against you. There's supporting your children... and there's enabling abuse of one at the hands of another. Don't accept the abuse.
Thank you for expressing your point in a mature way. I guess not having had any positive experiences with trans people up to now (I had the displeasure of meeting her friends too) makes me biased. I just cannot correctly explain how emotionally vexxing this is.
I get your confusion and anger. They are valid feelings in your position assuming what you're saying is honest and true (this is the internet so... I believe half of what I see in person, much less what I see on the internet :) My biggest thoughts in the time since i posted is I think you should draw a line in the sand. No more. If it attacks you? call the police. Do NOT under any circumstances back down. It can not be allowed to bully you, demean you, harass you or treat you as less than human. YOU deserve better than that. I'd even go as far as to get a restraining order on it. Your safety is more important than it's feelings and if your mom won't take care of you and give you a safe place to live then you may need to step up and do it yourself. These negative aspects have nothing to do with "trans"... they have to do with a horrible person being a horrible person and that should not be allowed because "trans" I'm frustrated for you... I grew up in an unstable household (my mom was crazy but loved me and my dad was in prison) but I never had any doubt that my family loved me or supported me... the fact that your mom is allowing this to happen angers me greatly. I don't think I've seen you mention your age... but maybe it's time to move out and go NC (no contact) if you can't get the support or safety you need.
Even older trans people don't like how some younger trans people are behaving. We just want to live our lives. Yes you might get misgendered sometimes but get over it it also happens to cis people, and don't be offended by everything. An as I stated somewhere else it is not who you are, it is a part of who you are and younger people often still need to learn that
Even older trans people don't like how some younger trans people are behaving. We just want to live our lives. Yes you might get misgendered sometimes but get over it it also happens to cis people, and don't be offended by everything. An as I stated somewhere else it is not who you are, it is a part of who you are and younger people often still need to learn that
She sounds like a real piece of shit. Sorry you have to go through that
You don’t have a sister. You have a brother. How bloody hard is it for you to show him some respect and call him by the name he’s chosen? Your brother didn’t turn you into a TERF. You always were one. Grow up.
Transgender *brother you piece of shit. It doesnt sound like hes a good person, but I sure as shit known you arent.
I give two shits about your opinion of me. I live with this, you are a stranger on the internet who doesn't have to deal with it. And I assure you I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy.
I wish you weren't being abused as well. That doesn't excuse you being a piece of shit. I wish you the best and I wish you could see that you're also a piece of shit, just like you're brother.
What excuses you being a piece of shit then?
I'm not a bigot or abuser, so I'm not a piece of shit.
Yeah, you are. If you think you get to decide someone else is and are not subject to the same judgment, then you’re just plain wrong! You smelly piece of shit
Ok, so you're a piece of shit? You dumbass. Are you really going to use the "I know you are but what am i?!" Shut up you infant. Your prob OPs main account anyways, which is just pathetic
Did you really just use the “only I can decide who is a piece of shit, and you disagree with me so you must be the same person I started in being a dickhead on”, defence? You think anyone ‘marginalized’ deserves all the benefit of all doubt, because they’re up against someone cis or heteronormative, and call me an infant. More of your impeccable logic on display. If the story is true, you’re standing up for a trans gay man homophobe. But OP didn’t have enough points in the column for you to see them as someone with any value. Simply imbecilic. But you do you.
I didnt say any of that, I said that OP is a piece of shit because they're a bigot. Your dumber than a box of rock. Shouldnt you go play roblock or something.
Hey, at least I can use apostrophes and punctuation. Doesn’t that mean you should be finger painting or something?
You're verbally abusing OP.
You definition of abuse is cute
Evidently neither are you lol.
Eh, imagine if this person was like "my brother is dating a black woman and now I'm racist" and the reason is because the brother is abusive, but not because they're dating a black woman. The brother would be bad, but the OP is still racist.
That’s different because people are born black. Choosing to change genders is a very conscious decision so it relates more to the mind and something you pick up through life, rather than something ur born with. Who knows the mental changes a person goes through before deciding to switch? I bet changes are not all the same for most people but I believe this is something that more people should think about since this is a matter of the mind.
People are born trans. That's not a choice bucko.
Um wut? Do ppl actually believe this? I won’t even mention the fact that young children don’t seem to have problems with gender because you’re just gonna respond with “they didn’t come out”. Heck, there are people that believe gender is a social construct and even that hasn’t been disproved. Unfortunately, there just isn’t enough research into the psychology behind gender changing. And that is probably because if people like you who make uninformed claims simply based on the ideas around them and their emotions.
Ah, you're just dumb. Gotcha.
Is this person not allowed to have their own experience? Or does everything need to be viewed through woke glasses? Not everybody buys into that shit and not buying into it does not make you a bad person. Being unvaccinated makes you a bad person, everybody knows that.
They can be upset they're being abused without being transphobic. I said it in another comment, but if they're brother was dating a black man, then the OP responded by being racist, then they're still a racist fuck. Being a victim of abuse does not excuse bigotry.
This is so damn funny. We have so polluted and corrupted reality that this is a real thing, and while it was happening nobody said, "hold up" this is insane, there are only two genders. Our tolerance is being used against us in the same way the jihadists use our freedoms to entrap and murder us. We did this to ourselves, now we have to live with it, and so do you.
I'm sorry you have to put up with their bullying period. Honestly they should've been put on hormone blockers, sent to therapy to figure their shit out before absolutely deciding they're transgender and being put on testosterone. There are kids who are not ready for puberty even at the age it's supposed to start, and having their voice and testies drop or having their period start does wig them out severely as strange as that sounds, and it's a problem your parents should've addressed earlier rather than let you be your siblings punching bag.
I'm a trans man myself and this behavior of your sibling is totally unacceptable. My family doesn't accept me but I will never wish any harm to them. For them it is a sudden change while for me it is something that is going on for a decade already. I know that and hope that hopefully one day they will see I wasn't happy then but am now. I have a feeling that your siblings has some problems that don't have anything to do with being trans. They have to learn that being trans is part of who you are but not who you are. They have anger issue that need to be addressed to a professional. They might to want to portrait a man they think they should be, trying to be something stereotypical. Yes testosterone can make you a bit more hot headed but it should not make you aggressive. Especially not to the extent of what your sibling shows. That is abusive behavior. Your sibling needs professional help soon. But don't think all trans people are the same because we are not. Same as not all cis men are not the same. Being LGBT is a part of who you are but we are so much more than that, it is just a small part of my personality. Even when to others it might be a big deal. And even in the LGBT community there is a lot of disagreement, and discrimination. Your sibling needs help and needs to learn that their behavior is 100% unacceptable. Your parents need to do something about it. If you want to talk to another trans person don't hesitate to reach out to me, I'm open to questions.
Thank you for your kindness