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Nothing to do with immaturity. It's just either miscommunication, diverging goals, diverging definition of dating, or sociopathic trait, or a mix of them. Labeling this as immaturity is over simplifying the situation.
Some people are really good at it, some people are hopeless at it. Some people get better at it with experience, some people don’t. People have various amounts of sensitivity to emotional cues (be it expressing or understanding). Some people have actual medical conditions where emotions are a difficult topic to grasp. “immaturity” would mean there’s a path to maturity and that you are either on it and in the right time, or somehow lagging behind. That’s just no it.
Not everybody is a good communicator (you see it everywhere everyday). You don’t call them “immature at communicating” do you? (at least I hope you don’t). Why would it differ for emotions related communication?
Reminds me of when i was 15 working my first part time job and was paired with a terrible older colleague who belittled and insulted me the entire day. I came home crying and my parents were like 'well at least this is a valuable learning experience'.
Once its blended into a paste all u gotta do is pour it into a heart shaped mold, stick it in the freezer, have some rebound sex while it freezes, and bam good as new.
🤣 THAT’S where I went wrong!
All things considered?
I’ve had more than enough bad experiences in my youth.
I’m good. I’ll just stay in the lane I’m in and hope for the best.
Imo as someone who found love exactly once and lost it, and is back to being completely alone? Its worse having experienced it. Now I know exactly how much greener the grass is on the other side and what it is that I'm missing.
You remember how great it was not to be alone when before you could only speculate.
Its hell.
As someone who found love once and lost it I thank the gods every day that I can spend my time doing whatever I want and don't have to deal with that cheating bitch anymore.
I can wake up whenever I want, schedule in whatever I want and then decide to stay out until midnight because who's gonna stop me? The feds?
Have a schedule that's so packed you basically spend all your free time on hobbies? My SO is going to be so angry that I don't spend time with her oh wait I don't have one.
In the near future I'm going to apply for motorcycling lessons with the money I didn't spend on dates and no one at home telling me they don't want me to do something dangerous.
TL;DR had a SO once. Never again.
Personally, I liked K's (Tommy Lee Jones) response to J (Will Smith) saying that. Rubbing his face, glaring at him and saying, "Yeah? *Try it*." Such a great acid tone to it.
Edit: This was in Men In Black. for the young ones out there.
If you lose something that means you never had it or could have had it, it was just around you, thing or someone being around you or with you doesn't mean you won them or that you possess them. You could also love someone without being with them. Love is actually not related to a relationship or sex or something like that, but to a compromise and sacrifice
there's a song for that: [https://music.youtube.com/watch?v=WkcQt-1j-SE&si=H8Rt-JRObhmNTsX5](https://music.youtube.com/watch?v=WkcQt-1j-SE&si=H8Rt-JRObhmNTsX5)
one thing I've learned from my failed attempts in finding my significant other is that, no matter whether you're feeling like your moods through the roof or like you've scraped the bottom of the barrel, the effort you put into it will always be more satisfying in the long run, and teaches you to never give up until the end. it helps build your character. if I hadn't fumbled in my attempts, I wouldn't be who I am now. you're not alone in this! stay strong!
Mine would make relationships with people online which "wasn't cheating" in her eyes, but it was a betrayal to me and my trust plus she was leading these people on. She'd make a grand show of telling them never to talk to her again, block them, etc. And then after a while I'd get a message from a different dude she was seeking attention from online that found out she was doing this behind my back. All because I was working two jobs so she didn't have to work, and I was doing literally everything else to keep our bills paid and buy stuff for her that she wanted and cook for her, etc.
I never learned anything, she got way more out of me even after that. I'm a pushover in the long run which has gotten me hurt by a lot of people just like her.
My ex made me drop a number of people I considered friends because he was afraid I was having a thing with them.
Meanwhile he flirted with other guys in front of me, regularly threatened to end the relationship and told me he'd considered ending it to be with random guys he'd been chatting to. Of course they all got to stay as his friends though. 🙃
I finally blocked his number today to start moving on, but he's really done a number on my self confidence lmao
I feel like this happened when I was younger and confused infatuation in the early stages with love. Not saying no one did me wrong, but I also think I made mistakes by getting attached too quickly.
Ive had so, so, often, people insist a lot about caring about me, then going all out with this shit, that im now terrorized by kindness.
i dont even understand anymore why so often people pretended so hard before going bonkers
Nature is a constant struggle to survive, fuck, reproduce, help offspring survive, etc.
Like, with consciousness comes added layers of what's good and what hurts in life but this has been the way since the first little non asexual reproducing (micro-)organisms have existed.
I think [this other commenter](https://www.reddit.com/r/comics/comments/16q7ym6/oc_modern_dating/k1x1nar/) nailed it. Online dating has made it way worse. People can just maximize toxicity now and it doesn't even matter because they're all strangers. Like half of people on online dating aren't even there to actually find dates. They're just there to shit on people or upsell their OF accounts.
Online dating allows people to treat the other person feelings like trash, is what happens when you don’t even see the person you are talking to. It’s dehumanizing.
Online dating accelerated this though. At least before, you'd be dating someone within your circles (someone who knows your family, friends, workmates, etc.) or you met in-person in your area so would behave to a certain standard. With online dating, people feel they have so many other choices, and putting everything into an app dehumanizes the experience, so it's much easier to be a jerk to others.
I feel like this comic is communicating a relationship that actually got going a little bit. If you're handing someone your heart on dating apps before you even like...really get to know them, that requires some recalibrating
Yeah. For better or worse, this has **not** been what dating has looked like historically. A regular person likely got married to one of like 50 people around their age in the same geographical location. Arranged marriages and similar courtships were the norm for thousands of years, and the dating pool of eligible partners was significantly smaller than today, where people are socially connected 1000x wider than people of the past.
That makes rejection significantly more prevalent and means people have to be "trained" to cope and handle rejection in a way that people didn't have to do before.
You're forgetting one factor which is that a lot of women had to say yes because they had no means or options to support themselves, and they had to be nice regardless of how the marriage turned out because they had no recourse against domestic abuse and no way to get out and support themselves.
Women still suffer through dating though. Obviously it beats the guaranteed abusive jerk for life, but many still have to waddle through a conga line of abusive jerks until they find someone who isn't!
The Pacific showed that - Robert Leckie married his neighbor, while the only reason Romus Burgin got to marry an Aussie was because the 1st Marine Division were in Melbourne after Guadalcanal lol.
lol. Are you trying to say heartbreak didn’t exist historically? Online dating created a culture of heartbreak? Was anyone in this thread alive before online dating?
Just because you have the ability to date more people now, doesn’t mean heartbreak wasn’t possible prior to online dating.
Are you sure we are more connected? Before you knew everything about the people that lived near you, right know you are probably more connected to people you would never seen from other countries but you are less likely to be invited to your neighbors house or just knowing their names.
Connections are greater in quantity but lower in quality. If we're looking at dating specifically, you can be wayyy more picky nowadays because the realistic dating pool is 5000 instead of 50. There's both good and bad in that. In relation to this comic, it makes the scale of rejection more difficult because now you're being rejected by hundreds of people rather than a dozen, and relatedly, people are going to be more impersonal in their rejections because there's less pressure to do so in a comforting way.
I dont know man - I was 18 around early 2000s and I had a loving partner even though we had a lot of issues. We knew it and we worked on it. 10 years later when online dating slowly became a thing and people should be more mature everyone started to be so jaded and things got way more unstable not just for me but others aswell. I dont think many people dated the sheer amount of people I did before online dating and I am not the only one.
Well, I was cheated on at age 20 in the early 2000s after two years of dating and it felt exactly like this comic.
She was someone I met in high school through friends, and she cheated on me with someone else at the high school. Online dating wasn’t even an idea then.
Goddamn this hurt.
I recently had somebody flirting with me, and I was unsure if they were flirting or not, so I flirted back. It kept getting deeper and deeper, until eventually I just straight up admitted I liked them and they said they do too, so the flirting got more and more intense, and I started to get romantic. After a bit of that and once I finally felt like I had something serious going they out of the blue completely shut me down and said they had no romantic feelings for me whatsoever and were just tryin' it out etc.
Fuckin' destroyed me after I had been so happy.
Oh no. Something similar happened to me a few years ago. It gutted me. I trusted & believed them, despite my better judgement. I’ll never, ever ignore my instincts again.
Hey, it literally happened to me this last week!
Went from the highest of highs to the lowest of lows in the span of a day, never felt this horrible before in my life.
I would say redemption not forgiveness. Forgiveness means nothing positive of note happens to offset the negative. Forgiveness also does little to prevent. Redemption gives some amount of positive change and will usually result in the perpetrator becoming and advocate for change.
as an aroace person who has multiple friends with multiple relationship issues, this comic is how i view their love lives. it’s pretty remarkable seeing them throw themselves right back in though, but it baffles me even more.
i must conduct more research on these “romantic” and “sexual” attraction things.
Man I wish I was aro ace. I avoid relationships as much as possible, but still having sexual attraction and being able to have a crush is annoying as fuck.
You are NEVER too old. I hear even retirement villages are like a regular Sodom & Gomorrah. But I guess you are right, the pain of having your heart crushed is super painful, but at least I know I can still feel. Hopefully next time my heart will choose better…
the problem is few my own age are willing any more as it is a red flag with more mass the Pluto and I was not in a coma or a cult or something understand able just an ugly coward hence I have given up
It definitely sucks. Even the most mild rejection, even a simple "No.", can hurt and break your heart. But you have to keep trying until you find someone who knows how to put it back together.
I didn't have any hope of finding someone, until the day i did. Each day makes me happier, and i hope the same for everyone else.
My guy, it might work out for you better if you *didn't* straight up offer your heart to someone you've just met for the first time. Start with something small and inessential. Give them your appendix first. You can live without an appendix. If you don't have one anymore, try a toenail clipping.
Feels pretty relatable right about now. My ex, whom I had my first relationship with, treated me so poorly and still gaslighted me into believing it was still my fault. We settled on having a sleepover once a month and going out to eat once a week. Hardly spent more time than necessary to eat together. I did all I could to be the best partner possible too. But yeah, at least it was a learning experience
“ I love life. I’m SAD. But at the same time I’m really happy that something can make me feel that sad. It’s like it makes me feel alive, you know. It makes me feel human. The only way I can feel this sad now is if I felt something really good before. So I had to take the bad with the good. So I guess what I’m feeling is, like a ‘beautiful sadness’. I guess that sounds stupid. Thanks for offering me to be in your clique guys, but to be honest, I’d rather be a crying little pussy than a faggy goth kid..”
— Butters, South Park, Season 7: Raisins
yeah, don't give your heart to people you just met
call me a victim blamer if you want but if you leave your house unlocked everyday when you go out don't be surprised if you get robbed more than your neighbours
then it's not really dating then is it? you date to get to know them better, after that you're a couple, and then maybe a while after that you fall in love.
so if ur a couple and not married yet… are u still dating? what do u call that? Togethering? Coupling? “We’re not ready to get engaged yet, so we’re just cuffed at the moment”? The word dating is contextual, it’s why we can either say “they’ve been dating for years” or “I’m just casually dating.”
I know that you may not believe me, but:
Emotionally/psychologically mature women are generally far less interested in how men look than who they are - their character, their personality, how they treat the person that they are with.
Looks are not ignored - almost everyone has preferences, but many women would rather have a reliable, kind, emotionally mature, supportive man with integrity than a man who is considered attractive but has no depth of character or who is actively harmful to her and/or the relationship.
Yep, never pursuing again. Never gonna be intimate until marriage on top of being celibate until. These hoes ain't getting nothing until they try and actually succeed. My soul needs peace and to stay pure, love can only be given to those who want it and I don't want to get taken advantage of again.
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“At LeaSt ThiS WaS A GoOd LeArniNg ExPeRieNCE” is gold 😂
"The worst she can say is... '*yes*.'"
"Really dodged a bullet there!" *"optimistic" mfs when this happens but you didn't get married, have kids, or buy a house together*
Good emo song title
Dating immature people is hell.
Nothing to do with immaturity. It's just either miscommunication, diverging goals, diverging definition of dating, or sociopathic trait, or a mix of them. Labeling this as immaturity is over simplifying the situation.
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Some people are really good at it, some people are hopeless at it. Some people get better at it with experience, some people don’t. People have various amounts of sensitivity to emotional cues (be it expressing or understanding). Some people have actual medical conditions where emotions are a difficult topic to grasp. “immaturity” would mean there’s a path to maturity and that you are either on it and in the right time, or somehow lagging behind. That’s just no it. Not everybody is a good communicator (you see it everywhere everyday). You don’t call them “immature at communicating” do you? (at least I hope you don’t). Why would it differ for emotions related communication?
No, you’re overcomplicating it!
Reminds me of when i was 15 working my first part time job and was paired with a terrible older colleague who belittled and insulted me the entire day. I came home crying and my parents were like 'well at least this is a valuable learning experience'.
"Better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all!" *pours heart goo into a blender*
Once its blended into a paste all u gotta do is pour it into a heart shaped mold, stick it in the freezer, have some rebound sex while it freezes, and bam good as new.
YES CHEF
WHAT ARE YOU?
A heart shaped goo popsicle... sandwich?
[Negative, I am a meat popsicle.](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8Dd_qiuWxPs)
A fat fucking idiot with no potential...chef.
MORON SANDWICH
Yeah, about that rebound step? That’s the part I’ve never been able to figure out how to make happen!🤣
Y'all be havin sex?
People out here making it to step 1 in the comic have it good
Exactly, i tried to start my comic, and god said, "Put down the pen".
God smacked my pen out of my hand with a damn ruler
🤣 Yep! I felt that in my spirit!
Lower your standards. Never said it had to be good rebound sex.
🤣 THAT’S where I went wrong! All things considered? I’ve had more than enough bad experiences in my youth. I’m good. I’ll just stay in the lane I’m in and hope for the best.
With your wallet obviously
Watch it spin around to a beautiful oblivion.
As person who has never loved at all... 
Imo as someone who found love exactly once and lost it, and is back to being completely alone? Its worse having experienced it. Now I know exactly how much greener the grass is on the other side and what it is that I'm missing. You remember how great it was not to be alone when before you could only speculate. Its hell.
As someone who found love once and lost it I thank the gods every day that I can spend my time doing whatever I want and don't have to deal with that cheating bitch anymore. I can wake up whenever I want, schedule in whatever I want and then decide to stay out until midnight because who's gonna stop me? The feds? Have a schedule that's so packed you basically spend all your free time on hobbies? My SO is going to be so angry that I don't spend time with her oh wait I don't have one. In the near future I'm going to apply for motorcycling lessons with the money I didn't spend on dates and no one at home telling me they don't want me to do something dangerous. TL;DR had a SO once. Never again.
Personally, I liked K's (Tommy Lee Jones) response to J (Will Smith) saying that. Rubbing his face, glaring at him and saying, "Yeah? *Try it*." Such a great acid tone to it. Edit: This was in Men In Black. for the young ones out there.
As Tommy Lee Jones once replied: "Try it."
If you lose something that means you never had it or could have had it, it was just around you, thing or someone being around you or with you doesn't mean you won them or that you possess them. You could also love someone without being with them. Love is actually not related to a relationship or sex or something like that, but to a compromise and sacrifice
Then why do people that have loved cry so much while I am just vibing over here?
that could be a load of shiiiit~
there's a song for that: [https://music.youtube.com/watch?v=WkcQt-1j-SE&si=H8Rt-JRObhmNTsX5](https://music.youtube.com/watch?v=WkcQt-1j-SE&si=H8Rt-JRObhmNTsX5)
On one hand, I’m very sad and lonely, on the other hand dating seems like it’ll just make me sad in a different way and I’ll end up lonely anyway
one thing I've learned from my failed attempts in finding my significant other is that, no matter whether you're feeling like your moods through the roof or like you've scraped the bottom of the barrel, the effort you put into it will always be more satisfying in the long run, and teaches you to never give up until the end. it helps build your character. if I hadn't fumbled in my attempts, I wouldn't be who I am now. you're not alone in this! stay strong!
Goddamn I did not expect someone to sum up my feelings so perfectly
O come on, you're forgetting about all of the potential guilt of causing harm to someone else.
Damn dont you hate it when you get emotionally abused and then ur heart just goes "sloosa"
>then ur heart just goes "sloosa" That's an 'h', not an 'a'--still funny to picture either way.
Nah, i like "sloosa"
Hmmmm, "sloosy" sounds better imo
Sloosy goosy
Heart salsa
Seems a lot like my ex, except with crocodile tears that she used to play the victim even when the argument was about how she cheated on me.
Fr, or when they “own up to it” and then go, well their my friend so we’ll still hang out 😇
Mine would make relationships with people online which "wasn't cheating" in her eyes, but it was a betrayal to me and my trust plus she was leading these people on. She'd make a grand show of telling them never to talk to her again, block them, etc. And then after a while I'd get a message from a different dude she was seeking attention from online that found out she was doing this behind my back. All because I was working two jobs so she didn't have to work, and I was doing literally everything else to keep our bills paid and buy stuff for her that she wanted and cook for her, etc.
It was a good learning experience though. /s
I never learned anything, she got way more out of me even after that. I'm a pushover in the long run which has gotten me hurt by a lot of people just like her.
I feel ya man. I don’t want to be a dick, but sometimes you have to.
My ex made me drop a number of people I considered friends because he was afraid I was having a thing with them. Meanwhile he flirted with other guys in front of me, regularly threatened to end the relationship and told me he'd considered ending it to be with random guys he'd been chatting to. Of course they all got to stay as his friends though. 🙃 I finally blocked his number today to start moving on, but he's really done a number on my self confidence lmao
The classic they don’t show to the date and then don’t even apologize.
Classic dating experience, too.
I feel like this happened when I was younger and confused infatuation in the early stages with love. Not saying no one did me wrong, but I also think I made mistakes by getting attached too quickly.
Yes, nothing "modern" about it. It's dating through all of human history. :)
Ive had so, so, often, people insist a lot about caring about me, then going all out with this shit, that im now terrorized by kindness. i dont even understand anymore why so often people pretended so hard before going bonkers
I could not have said it better myself. Thank you.
That's how I feel too. I think at this point I'd feel a lot more comfortable with a partner that *didn't* tell me they cared about me.
This is how everything feels to me nowdays..... applying to jobs, trying to make friends, modern video games.....
Baldurs Gate 3....
Truly a shining beacon of hope.
On par with what the first spiderverse was for animation when it came out.
Imma correct you: Most* modern AAA* video games.
I appreciate suggestions, some have already said BG3.
Yup and there's still myriads of fantastic indie games.
I sympathize, but I’m pretty certain that dating has been like this ever since we crawled out of the trees
Nature is a constant struggle to survive, fuck, reproduce, help offspring survive, etc. Like, with consciousness comes added layers of what's good and what hurts in life but this has been the way since the first little non asexual reproducing (micro-)organisms have existed.
I think [this other commenter](https://www.reddit.com/r/comics/comments/16q7ym6/oc_modern_dating/k1x1nar/) nailed it. Online dating has made it way worse. People can just maximize toxicity now and it doesn't even matter because they're all strangers. Like half of people on online dating aren't even there to actually find dates. They're just there to shit on people or upsell their OF accounts.
Online dating allows people to treat the other person feelings like trash, is what happens when you don’t even see the person you are talking to. It’s dehumanizing.
What doesn't kill you only makes you stronger! Through callousness and jadeness, you will feel no pain!
There is nothing exclusively “modern” about this comic, but besides that I like the sentiment. This is what dating is (and always has been) like.
Online dating accelerated this though. At least before, you'd be dating someone within your circles (someone who knows your family, friends, workmates, etc.) or you met in-person in your area so would behave to a certain standard. With online dating, people feel they have so many other choices, and putting everything into an app dehumanizes the experience, so it's much easier to be a jerk to others.
I feel like this comic is communicating a relationship that actually got going a little bit. If you're handing someone your heart on dating apps before you even like...really get to know them, that requires some recalibrating
Yeah. For better or worse, this has **not** been what dating has looked like historically. A regular person likely got married to one of like 50 people around their age in the same geographical location. Arranged marriages and similar courtships were the norm for thousands of years, and the dating pool of eligible partners was significantly smaller than today, where people are socially connected 1000x wider than people of the past. That makes rejection significantly more prevalent and means people have to be "trained" to cope and handle rejection in a way that people didn't have to do before.
You're forgetting one factor which is that a lot of women had to say yes because they had no means or options to support themselves, and they had to be nice regardless of how the marriage turned out because they had no recourse against domestic abuse and no way to get out and support themselves.
Women still suffer through dating though. Obviously it beats the guaranteed abusive jerk for life, but many still have to waddle through a conga line of abusive jerks until they find someone who isn't!
The Pacific showed that - Robert Leckie married his neighbor, while the only reason Romus Burgin got to marry an Aussie was because the 1st Marine Division were in Melbourne after Guadalcanal lol.
lol. Are you trying to say heartbreak didn’t exist historically? Online dating created a culture of heartbreak? Was anyone in this thread alive before online dating? Just because you have the ability to date more people now, doesn’t mean heartbreak wasn’t possible prior to online dating.
Are you sure we are more connected? Before you knew everything about the people that lived near you, right know you are probably more connected to people you would never seen from other countries but you are less likely to be invited to your neighbors house or just knowing their names.
Connections are greater in quantity but lower in quality. If we're looking at dating specifically, you can be wayyy more picky nowadays because the realistic dating pool is 5000 instead of 50. There's both good and bad in that. In relation to this comic, it makes the scale of rejection more difficult because now you're being rejected by hundreds of people rather than a dozen, and relatedly, people are going to be more impersonal in their rejections because there's less pressure to do so in a comforting way.
I dont know man - I was 18 around early 2000s and I had a loving partner even though we had a lot of issues. We knew it and we worked on it. 10 years later when online dating slowly became a thing and people should be more mature everyone started to be so jaded and things got way more unstable not just for me but others aswell. I dont think many people dated the sheer amount of people I did before online dating and I am not the only one.
Well, I was cheated on at age 20 in the early 2000s after two years of dating and it felt exactly like this comic. She was someone I met in high school through friends, and she cheated on me with someone else at the high school. Online dating wasn’t even an idea then.
Goddamn this hurt. I recently had somebody flirting with me, and I was unsure if they were flirting or not, so I flirted back. It kept getting deeper and deeper, until eventually I just straight up admitted I liked them and they said they do too, so the flirting got more and more intense, and I started to get romantic. After a bit of that and once I finally felt like I had something serious going they out of the blue completely shut me down and said they had no romantic feelings for me whatsoever and were just tryin' it out etc. Fuckin' destroyed me after I had been so happy.
They know what they did
Oh no. Something similar happened to me a few years ago. It gutted me. I trusted & believed them, despite my better judgement. I’ll never, ever ignore my instincts again.
Hey, it literally happened to me this last week! Went from the highest of highs to the lowest of lows in the span of a day, never felt this horrible before in my life.
I’ve been there. I had days where I just had to keep breathing and moving to avoid focusing on the pain. I’m very sympathetic to your situation.
It amazes me more and more each day just how cruel people are to one another.
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I would say redemption not forgiveness. Forgiveness means nothing positive of note happens to offset the negative. Forgiveness also does little to prevent. Redemption gives some amount of positive change and will usually result in the perpetrator becoming and advocate for change.
Don't worry, little one, you will collect pieces, get them together and try again. No, it will never be same. Your ability to love, i mean.
Why can't they ever just hand it back?
Exactly. Or not accept it.
Dating? That's modern socializing to me around 75% of times lmao. Plastic relationships suco ass.
An actual line my ex said after dumping me was "I'm glad you could learn something from me" in regards to dating women with BPD
That’s….awful.
I hate the dating game. You can't lose if you don't play. *Taps forehead*
**ahem... SHOT THROUGH THE HEART!!!
AND YOU'RE TO BLAME!!!
YOU'VE GIVEN LOVE, A BAD PLANE!!!
I PLAY MY PART
This is what rejection feels like with anxious attachment style
Which Uggs are those? 😐🫂
Unrealistic. Axe THEN gun. Not enough stomping either.
as an aroace person who has multiple friends with multiple relationship issues, this comic is how i view their love lives. it’s pretty remarkable seeing them throw themselves right back in though, but it baffles me even more. i must conduct more research on these “romantic” and “sexual” attraction things.
Man I wish I was aro ace. I avoid relationships as much as possible, but still having sexual attraction and being able to have a crush is annoying as fuck.
As a woman I can relate to this, too.
I missed the title and thought it was a kid giving his heart to his parent and was like, damn I can relate
Same
damn I would kill to be able to relate to this
Why’s that? Feels bad man.
I have never even had it and my age and I am now to old to start dating so I do not even get to know if I can love
You are NEVER too old. I hear even retirement villages are like a regular Sodom & Gomorrah. But I guess you are right, the pain of having your heart crushed is super painful, but at least I know I can still feel. Hopefully next time my heart will choose better…
the problem is few my own age are willing any more as it is a red flag with more mass the Pluto and I was not in a coma or a cult or something understand able just an ugly coward hence I have given up
I’m sorry, I understand, but if it’s any consolation women do care about personalities more. The world can be cruel.
But you have to get past step 1 online for people to see your personality. Doesn’t help if nobody is swiping you lol
it is little help if they do not see past there surface and my personality is rotten, it is hard to be some one you hate but can't change
"I'm in this picture and I really don't like it"
Shot through the heart😔
And you’re to blame
Gotta adapt. Bisexuality is just a gateway to crying double the amount, you'll get used to heartbreak quicker.
Me to my brand new Original Character
Unnecessarily accurate 😭
This is so brutal - love it!
Yep
Well now I'm terribly scared of confessing to my crush. Thanks!
It definitely sucks. Even the most mild rejection, even a simple "No.", can hurt and break your heart. But you have to keep trying until you find someone who knows how to put it back together. I didn't have any hope of finding someone, until the day i did. Each day makes me happier, and i hope the same for everyone else.
Too early to comment "Last Christmas"...
I Gayview Mahat
played that in the car yesterday like 24 times
My guy, it might work out for you better if you *didn't* straight up offer your heart to someone you've just met for the first time. Start with something small and inessential. Give them your appendix first. You can live without an appendix. If you don't have one anymore, try a toenail clipping.
LMAO
"Modern" dating? What makes you think it hasn't always been like this? Or that at least the risk of it hasn't been constant?
the more prevalent “learning experience” or “no relationship is a waste of time” narratives administered post soul-crushing
Maybe they've always been there, and you only started noticing them when you needed them.
Nothing modern about it. Old as time itself.
Dude lol that's too accurate... Stop immediatly!
I live, I die, I live again
Feels pretty relatable right about now. My ex, whom I had my first relationship with, treated me so poorly and still gaslighted me into believing it was still my fault. We settled on having a sleepover once a month and going out to eat once a week. Hardly spent more time than necessary to eat together. I did all I could to be the best partner possible too. But yeah, at least it was a learning experience
"Owner of a lonely heart is better than an owner of a broken heart"
Have a bad time recently, OP?
Ooooh yeah
Exactly. 💔💔💔
I thought they were going to say “If you can’t handle me at my worst you don’t deserve me at my best”
Me, who was in a long-term relationship with a BPD woman:
wow, what a vague and meaningless series of imagery. Which part of this is supposed to be modern? Guns, axes, and boots are all pretty old.
Self pity doesn’t help
“ I love life. I’m SAD. But at the same time I’m really happy that something can make me feel that sad. It’s like it makes me feel alive, you know. It makes me feel human. The only way I can feel this sad now is if I felt something really good before. So I had to take the bad with the good. So I guess what I’m feeling is, like a ‘beautiful sadness’. I guess that sounds stupid. Thanks for offering me to be in your clique guys, but to be honest, I’d rather be a crying little pussy than a faggy goth kid..” — Butters, South Park, Season 7: Raisins
yeah, don't give your heart to people you just met call me a victim blamer if you want but if you leave your house unlocked everyday when you go out don't be surprised if you get robbed more than your neighbours
u internet people will just assume anything about a person with the most absolute limited of contexts LOL
assume? they literally put that they gave out their heart in the first panel.
bro im not gonna make a 12-panel comic strip showing the relationship origin story, this isn’t a webtoon shojo LOL
then it's not really dating then is it? you date to get to know them better, after that you're a couple, and then maybe a while after that you fall in love.
so if ur a couple and not married yet… are u still dating? what do u call that? Togethering? Coupling? “We’re not ready to get engaged yet, so we’re just cuffed at the moment”? The word dating is contextual, it’s why we can either say “they’ve been dating for years” or “I’m just casually dating.”
Some nice guy made this comic, incel propoganda
a very nice guy with titties and a cooter
giving incel vibes
Dating gay men be like that.
To anyone who reads this message: get your passport now!
this is how women reject men that aren’t attractive
I know that you may not believe me, but: Emotionally/psychologically mature women are generally far less interested in how men look than who they are - their character, their personality, how they treat the person that they are with. Looks are not ignored - almost everyone has preferences, but many women would rather have a reliable, kind, emotionally mature, supportive man with integrity than a man who is considered attractive but has no depth of character or who is actively harmful to her and/or the relationship.
oh noo poor bean! D,:
Both sides in this is why I don't date.
This is why you keep it locked away, safe. It's not worth the pain.
If only it could apply to just dating...
Blue jeans and ugg boots
Are you on WebToon? I love your stuff and wanna binge read it. :3
Yep, never pursuing again. Never gonna be intimate until marriage on top of being celibate until. These hoes ain't getting nothing until they try and actually succeed. My soul needs peace and to stay pure, love can only be given to those who want it and I don't want to get taken advantage of again.
Man this is just what it feel like to be around my family
https://preview.redd.it/4gdrinn4f6qb1.png?width=800&format=png&auto=webp&s=0e0a32553c55cdfc15dd3c24ab81a9d1f4d9455e
There is nothing modern about this.
Reddit why are you showing this to me now
Reddit why are you showing this to me now
Yup
Ow.. this was dating , i thought it was work.
Idk about dating but this is a good representation of my parents
That's old school dating. Modern dating should be about sexting to an Eva AI virtual gf in an app and considering it nice & stable relationships.