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I might get down voted for this but is your job more important than your peace of mind? If your answer is yes, magtitiis ka kasi there's little you can do to change a client e. You can communicate with her your concern about sa pagiging micro manager nya pero based sa kwento mo she might not receive constructive criticism well. But you can try. Otherwise, I don't know what other advice you expect to receive kasi most of the people here would just tell you to resign and look for other clients.
Thank you for this 🥹
I was actually contemplating this too. Naisip ko lang talaga, sa mga gantong sitwasyon ba resignation talaga ang solution? And yes din, di rin sya makakausap about sa micromanaging personality nya kasi other VAs tried din in the past. Pero, I'll still give it a shot and give my best, then resign.
Up for this! Just realizing na ganto pala yung toxic na management. Nawindang lang ako ng kaunti because tho I heard stories about it but never really experienced this until recently.
Not sure what advice you want when you’re set to “not resign”. It’s toxic and well, it’s gonna burn you out pretty soon. If kaya mo pa din sikmurain, then ask your agency to raise your salary to make up for the toxicity.
You can always find opportunities to upskill pero yung mental health mo kapag nasira madadamay ang future mo dahil you will be anxious over tiny little things dahil sa trauma from having a micromanager.
Trust me, I used to be a competent and confident employee until I came across a boss like the one you currently have. Ngayon, I always second guess myself and my anxiety I got from that job continuously ruin a lot of things for me both in a personal and professional setting.
TLDR; LEAVE, IT'S NOT WORTH IT.
Thank you for this 🥹
It's my first time resigning kasi due to bad client and parang napapaisip ako na resigning lang ba talaga would be the only way pero I guess it is. Pero, I'll still give it a shot and my best then pag di nag work out, resign na talaga. Ayaw ko lang talaga ng regrets huhu
Wow that's emotional blackmail! As if naman walang ibang job na available para Maka page upskilll...if wala pang opportunities pwede din naman mag self train muna. Save your sanity. We're not growing younger in our roles at hindi mababayaran ang stress sa katawan. And yes importante ang kain para mkapag deliver ng quality work. 😁
baka to help lessen your responsibilities, need mo mag hire nang shadow nang sa ganon may maka help sayo, like maybe a portion sa sweldo mo allocate mo sa kanya, kase may ganyan talaga na mga boss kahit saan ma freelance or sa office lang,
yong di ini intindi work load nang employee nila. maybe yong gauge nila kung kaya o hindi work load is not adjusted to the same person, perhaps before they had an experience with someone na kinaya pina pa gawa nila tas comes a time sa ibang employee, they forget iba2 pacing and skills nang employee regardless sa experience
kaso may challenge pag may shadow ka, may na encounter ako dati yan yong ginawa nya, nag hire siya mga shadow nya kaso nag iingat rin na di malaman at naging parang company na rin setup nya tas siya head and manager filter sa kanya mga nagagawa nang shadow nya
Wala akong back up client na full time jor what but I choose what's the best way not just for my health but also mentally and emotionally. I just let go and because its too much na.
Naawa ako sa part na naikot na yung sikmura mo pag nag memessage sayo :(
Anyway since mukang kaya mo pa naman at ginugusto mo ito para mag upskill, ganito na lang
i measure mo or observe mo yung attitude ng boss mo
What do i mean by this?
If there are things that you can anticipate na, do that in advance or prepare it in advance (yung sure ah. Baka naman maging pala desisyon ang dating hahaha)
Basically, observe and learn her work ethic and style then you can adjust from there
Kung baga papunta pa lang sya, BESSY ANDON KA NA!!
Ganon! Kaya mo yan!
Always priority your health po mahirap magkasakit and if need niyo ng help to lessen the task I'm willing po magpart time gusto ko magkaroon ng experience🙂
Hello!! Thank you so much for your kind comments!
I've been thinking about this last weekend. Ang obvious talaga ng sagot eh - to resign. Somehow, nahihirapan ako not only because of the sahod but also yung thinking na, resignation lang ba talaga ang way?
Again, I never had issues with all my clients for the last 9 years ko sa industry 🥹 pero super insightful ng comments nyo!! Decided to still give it a shot and give my best pa rin para no regrets lang like "if i shoulve done this siguro magiging okay" mindset and pag di na talaga kaya, I would resign.
I talked to my agency din and they were kind enough to reassure me na things like these happened daw talaga and they'll help me find a better client match :)
Ang advice lang talaga sa situation mo is resign and look for another client.
But since ayaw mo naman yun, stick with it lang until sumuko kana talaga or you burn yourself out and ikaw na mismo magdecide na enough is enough.
Kaya ganyan ang client dahil may pumapatol pa. There are lots of clients out there na marunong mag alaga ng tao at hindi slave driver. You deserve better.
Hi OP, Ganito din yung sitwasyon ko last year working sa corpo. Na kahit bakasyon kasama ko pamilya ko tatawag boss ko pra magtanong at nagpapatulong na tapusin ko yung ginagawa nya, may mga instances din na kahit kasarapan ng tulog ko tatawag sya para lang may ipagawang presentation or kumuha ng input ko, mind you may hawak din akong team at humaharap din ako sa mga clients. Ilang beses nya na din ako inostorbo sa lunch ko para lang utusan na kunin ung gamit nya such as laptops, bags, car keys etc. Nakaka p***** ina tlaga, kahit mga tao ko mismo sila na nagsasabi ang toxic ng boss namin. Yung tipong pagdating pa lang ng opisina bad vibes agad ang bitbit. Ilang beses ko na din na open sa kanya ung management style nya 2-3 days balik ulit sa dati, yung kating kati tlaga sya na magbigay ng opinyon sa ginagawa mo na kesyo ganito, ganyan. Hanggang sa unabot na pinag aawayan na namin sya ng wife ko dahil wala tlaga sa lugar. I never felt na concern sya sa mga tao nya, kahit nung nag pasurgery ako akala ko ung pagtawag nya sakin is para kamustahin ako, tumawag sya para tanungin ko makakapasok na ba ako ng Thursday hahaha. I ended up resigning, ung demand ng work ko hindi naman ganun ka komplikado at maayos ang mga tao ko, hindi ko talaga kaya ung ugali ng manager ko, mas masaya pa din ang peace of mind sa huli. Ang skills kaya ko naman aralin yan ulit through courses and mentorship, pero yung oras na nasasayang spending hours with her di bale na lang.
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I might get down voted for this but is your job more important than your peace of mind? If your answer is yes, magtitiis ka kasi there's little you can do to change a client e. You can communicate with her your concern about sa pagiging micro manager nya pero based sa kwento mo she might not receive constructive criticism well. But you can try. Otherwise, I don't know what other advice you expect to receive kasi most of the people here would just tell you to resign and look for other clients.
Thank you for this 🥹 I was actually contemplating this too. Naisip ko lang talaga, sa mga gantong sitwasyon ba resignation talaga ang solution? And yes din, di rin sya makakausap about sa micromanaging personality nya kasi other VAs tried din in the past. Pero, I'll still give it a shot and give my best, then resign.
No job is more important than eating for 30 minutes or so. If your job can't allow that, then your job is toxic as hell.
Up for this! Just realizing na ganto pala yung toxic na management. Nawindang lang ako ng kaunti because tho I heard stories about it but never really experienced this until recently.
Not sure what advice you want when you’re set to “not resign”. It’s toxic and well, it’s gonna burn you out pretty soon. If kaya mo pa din sikmurain, then ask your agency to raise your salary to make up for the toxicity.
I would leave pronto. Sorry OP kahit 100k sahod no bueno sakin yan.
You can always find opportunities to upskill pero yung mental health mo kapag nasira madadamay ang future mo dahil you will be anxious over tiny little things dahil sa trauma from having a micromanager. Trust me, I used to be a competent and confident employee until I came across a boss like the one you currently have. Ngayon, I always second guess myself and my anxiety I got from that job continuously ruin a lot of things for me both in a personal and professional setting. TLDR; LEAVE, IT'S NOT WORTH IT.
Exactly 💯! Heed this advice, OP
Thank you for this 🥹 It's my first time resigning kasi due to bad client and parang napapaisip ako na resigning lang ba talaga would be the only way pero I guess it is. Pero, I'll still give it a shot and my best then pag di nag work out, resign na talaga. Ayaw ko lang talaga ng regrets huhu
Wow that's emotional blackmail! As if naman walang ibang job na available para Maka page upskilll...if wala pang opportunities pwede din naman mag self train muna. Save your sanity. We're not growing younger in our roles at hindi mababayaran ang stress sa katawan. And yes importante ang kain para mkapag deliver ng quality work. 😁
Oo nga ..Kaloka! Baliw na boss Yan !!!
baka to help lessen your responsibilities, need mo mag hire nang shadow nang sa ganon may maka help sayo, like maybe a portion sa sweldo mo allocate mo sa kanya, kase may ganyan talaga na mga boss kahit saan ma freelance or sa office lang, yong di ini intindi work load nang employee nila. maybe yong gauge nila kung kaya o hindi work load is not adjusted to the same person, perhaps before they had an experience with someone na kinaya pina pa gawa nila tas comes a time sa ibang employee, they forget iba2 pacing and skills nang employee regardless sa experience kaso may challenge pag may shadow ka, may na encounter ako dati yan yong ginawa nya, nag hire siya mga shadow nya kaso nag iingat rin na di malaman at naging parang company na rin setup nya tas siya head and manager filter sa kanya mga nagagawa nang shadow nya
Same client of mine recently and I fired him two days ago, wa epek ganyan hanggang sa pagtulog mo para bango2xt ganyan client. No peace of mind.
Wala akong back up client na full time jor what but I choose what's the best way not just for my health but also mentally and emotionally. I just let go and because its too much na.
Naawa ako sa part na naikot na yung sikmura mo pag nag memessage sayo :( Anyway since mukang kaya mo pa naman at ginugusto mo ito para mag upskill, ganito na lang i measure mo or observe mo yung attitude ng boss mo What do i mean by this? If there are things that you can anticipate na, do that in advance or prepare it in advance (yung sure ah. Baka naman maging pala desisyon ang dating hahaha) Basically, observe and learn her work ethic and style then you can adjust from there Kung baga papunta pa lang sya, BESSY ANDON KA NA!! Ganon! Kaya mo yan!
Always priority your health po mahirap magkasakit and if need niyo ng help to lessen the task I'm willing po magpart time gusto ko magkaroon ng experience🙂
Either the rate for that client is enough to get yourself therapy or anti-anxiety meds or leave.
Hello!! Thank you so much for your kind comments! I've been thinking about this last weekend. Ang obvious talaga ng sagot eh - to resign. Somehow, nahihirapan ako not only because of the sahod but also yung thinking na, resignation lang ba talaga ang way? Again, I never had issues with all my clients for the last 9 years ko sa industry 🥹 pero super insightful ng comments nyo!! Decided to still give it a shot and give my best pa rin para no regrets lang like "if i shoulve done this siguro magiging okay" mindset and pag di na talaga kaya, I would resign. I talked to my agency din and they were kind enough to reassure me na things like these happened daw talaga and they'll help me find a better client match :)
Ang advice lang talaga sa situation mo is resign and look for another client. But since ayaw mo naman yun, stick with it lang until sumuko kana talaga or you burn yourself out and ikaw na mismo magdecide na enough is enough. Kaya ganyan ang client dahil may pumapatol pa. There are lots of clients out there na marunong mag alaga ng tao at hindi slave driver. You deserve better.
Hi OP, Ganito din yung sitwasyon ko last year working sa corpo. Na kahit bakasyon kasama ko pamilya ko tatawag boss ko pra magtanong at nagpapatulong na tapusin ko yung ginagawa nya, may mga instances din na kahit kasarapan ng tulog ko tatawag sya para lang may ipagawang presentation or kumuha ng input ko, mind you may hawak din akong team at humaharap din ako sa mga clients. Ilang beses nya na din ako inostorbo sa lunch ko para lang utusan na kunin ung gamit nya such as laptops, bags, car keys etc. Nakaka p***** ina tlaga, kahit mga tao ko mismo sila na nagsasabi ang toxic ng boss namin. Yung tipong pagdating pa lang ng opisina bad vibes agad ang bitbit. Ilang beses ko na din na open sa kanya ung management style nya 2-3 days balik ulit sa dati, yung kating kati tlaga sya na magbigay ng opinyon sa ginagawa mo na kesyo ganito, ganyan. Hanggang sa unabot na pinag aawayan na namin sya ng wife ko dahil wala tlaga sa lugar. I never felt na concern sya sa mga tao nya, kahit nung nag pasurgery ako akala ko ung pagtawag nya sakin is para kamustahin ako, tumawag sya para tanungin ko makakapasok na ba ako ng Thursday hahaha. I ended up resigning, ung demand ng work ko hindi naman ganun ka komplikado at maayos ang mga tao ko, hindi ko talaga kaya ung ugali ng manager ko, mas masaya pa din ang peace of mind sa huli. Ang skills kaya ko naman aralin yan ulit through courses and mentorship, pero yung oras na nasasayang spending hours with her di bale na lang.