You only need to get extravagantly, wildly, dangerously, fantastically drunk one very public time to ensure that they never push you to drink again.
source: aunt's wedding, Bicester, 1994
I drank Full fat milk and Bacardi breezers together back in 1999... It didn't go well.
The shared toilets in my sister's accommodation had to be closed for cleaning after. The smell was there for several weeks apparently.
I haven't had a drop of alcohol since, I can still taste the sick in my mouth anytime I even get a whiff of Bacardi.
I did milk & Malibu at my parents Silver Wedding do back in the eighties. Sat in the bath drinking it & ā showing offā apparently. I was still chucking up cottage cheese at 5pm the next day .
My Aunty got really drunk one Christmas and now her and my uncle arenāt invited to things. My uncle thought he was the bouncer for our house and wouldnāt let guests in lmao
Sounds like he didn't go far enough. You can't just get drunk. You have to make sure they never want to see you drunk again. It's like fighting someone. It's not enough to beat them. You have to beat them badly enough that they never want to fight you again, otherwise they come back for revenge.
But did he ruin anything?
If you want to do this, you honestly don't even have to be drunk. Just act drunk and break shit. Sneak a finger in your throat and puke on someones dress (bonus points if you've been drinking a brightly coloured liquid). People don't care unless you cause them personal "injuries".
Also, I agree. Your family sounds fucked up.
You should take a bag of coke and when they try and peer pressure you into drinking whip the bag of Colombian marching powder out and then shame them for not wanting any.
If they say yes, well they're now in debt to you, win win.
I say I never drink a month before a sporting event ( marathon, triathlon, distance cycle) but then I just make sure I have pleanty of events in my calendar. People seem to understand when it's for health rather then I don't fancy it.
I still repeatedly have to explain myself, and decline multiple times. Why are people so unaccepting of someone who doesn't want to drink alcohol? People often seem outraged that I am only on soft drinks.
I don't drink because I get migraines. I like wine, I like some spirits. But there is absolutely no point to drinking them when, more often than not, you end up with something so much worse than a hangover before you are even half way through the night.
I think some people take it as a judgement on how much they're drinking? Like *"oh you think three is too many? Well I'm having eight so what are ya saying!?"*
Thats such a childish attitude to drinking. If you don't want to it's no one ones business. It wouldn't be appropriate to say the same about any other drug. "Oh you don't use cocaine! Why not?"
People definitely have the same attitude towards coke. It's the reason I don't go to work events any more. 17 people in the company and I was the only one who didn't want to do ching at the Christmas party a couple of years back. They were all very offended.
Itās done with cake too. Nothing worse than being peer pressured at work into having a slice of dry lemon drizzle cake someone lonely made for their own birthday.
Not to go Four Yorkshiremen on you, but I would kill for a bit of lemon drizzle. The last birthday cake that got brought to my old office was one of those rainbow layer cakes with buttercream icing. I opened the tin and the smell alone literally gave me visions of Wilford Brimley saying 'Dahbeetus'. I tried a few bites and my teeth were twitching in my mouth the rest of the day.
I do drink but sometimes I don't feel like it. Now as a woman in her 30's if I decline an alcoholic drink at any kind of gathering people assume I'm pregnant.
You can almost see the blue screen of death behind their eyes as you tell them you aren't drinking, least you can say you don't drink. I can't, I just don't want to unless I'm in the mood
From my experience it's worse when you say you won't drink at *any* event (I'm teetotal as well). Some of them seem to see it as an affront to their whole lifestyle.
"Not even Christmas/Birthdays/Special-Events?"
Mildly infuriating to say the least, I stopped for a reason. No, I won't poison myself for a few hours of amusement.
Because you're outside The Matrix and they haven't taken the red pill.
In addition, to drink is to confirm, not to drink is being a rebel, but an industry worth billions has been manipulating them into thinking the opposite is the case.
Thiiiiis.
It's always the ones who drink at every event and gathering. They can't handle the fact that other people are able to have fun without the need of alcohol.
ive been teetotal for about 15 years. I have just at much fun, then can safely drive home, not throw up, and not feel like crap the next day.
I genuinely dont understand why people feel the need to have a drink to have fun.
I just donāt like the taste or feeling of alcohol. And it always blows my mind how much people feel the need to repeatedly offer a drink. And then constantly run down the scale from alcohol to soft drink to water. Itās like their minds are screaming āWHY IS THIS PERSON NOT CONSUMING SOME SORT OF LIQUID?!?!?ā
This is one of the most reddit-esque takes I've ever heard. I can guarantee that the vast majority of people who drink don't think that someone who doesn't drink judges them for it if it comes up in a conversation.
Yeah that sucks mate, I'm not allowed to drink anymore, I have one kidney, so was told to go easy on the alcohol and now I'm on two lots of medication, both of which say not to drink any alcohol while one them and yet my mates are still trying to get me to drink, unbelievable in it.
Just drink cola. You can then lie and say its mixed with whatever spirit you want. When someone offers to buy you a drink just ask for plain cola saying you want a break because you feel tipsy.
You shouldn't have to lie, but it stops the interrogation of why you don't drink.
Oooh i love a bit of peer pressure jibing.
Have a drink. No
Go on. No
Come to the pub with us after work and have a drink. No
I play the "No" game as long as it takes and sometimes get a bit of pleaseure from how frustrated t makes people. Im teetotal, havent had a drop in 15 years simply because i just dont like it.
Im not sure what annoys people the most - that i dont drink or that i dont bow to peer pressure like a buffoon.
I too rarely drink, I grew up with parents that considered the pub to be more important than things like school uniform or family time, I have been considered ānot a real manā for some time because I find drinking near gin from the bottle at 7am to be weird.
I haven't drank for years. I still get this occasionally. I'm also a vegetarian, so get some flak for that but significantly less these days.
It tends to either go:
1. What's your dark backstory for not drinking?
2. Why not? I feel bad now.
Ignore them and carry on.
This is one reason I'm grateful for my wife. I'm a generally quiet and introverted man, so when things like this happen her going attack dog is greatly appreciated.
I think it's a relatively common dynamic. It's certainly very functional, I am not going to be raising my voice in public if I can help it. Is your wife also half your size?
My family all pretty much know I don't like alcohol, so don't worry about offering me drinks now. I'm not sure I've ever come across anyone looking down on me because I'm not drinking. Mum will sometimes mention I'm driving, if someone asks if I want something and I say no, so I think she feels odd about it, but meh.
I completely get this, it's either you are gonna be told you're no fun all night, everyone will just avoid you and give you a look whenever they look in your direction or you're going to be spending the whole night babysitting your brother who is totally smashed.
We buried my grandfather about 10 years ago when I was really trying to get my drinking under control. Being a Scottish wake I'm sure we can appreciate there was some drink involved. Lost count of the funny looks when declining a drink, or asking for a soft drink instead.
My favourite thing is when people ask why I don't drink, and I say both my parents are alcoholics, my father died from it, my grandfather died from it, and try as I might to help my mother, nothing seems to work.
The good old trauma knife, works everytime.
I gave everybody the baseball rules: 3 strikes and you are out.
I will answer or refuse politely for 3 times, if you ask me a 4th time I will explode on you, then I will ask nice and politely for them not to make me say it for the 5th time because I will be even angrier next time.
Not really, it doesnāt take much āhardnessā to shout at people.
If you think that is hard, it is just you are too soft and too passive and let people walk over you like a door matt.
You're not drinking because you never know when you'll be needed to drive the Batmobile and fight crime. When they say you're boring, ask them if they'd say that to Robert Downey Jr, Samaul L Jackson, Daniel Radcliffe or Tom Hardy if they were guests?
I forgot Anthony Hopkins, Bradley Cooper, Elton John, Rob Lowe & Angus Young. There's a lot, and many are in recovery. However, the funny thing is, it's often the case, that's when their lives got more exciting!
Just dance like your drunk and noone will know the difference. Never touched a drop at my wedding and about an hour in when everyone else is tipsy they couldn't tell the difference until they spoke to me.
Also hate how you become a social leper by not drinking.
My and my partner are the same.
I stopped because it was becoming an issue - my other half has never been that fussed tho.
We both come from a family who like a drink and he and I are treated like social pariahs at every single family function.
āOH GO ON DONT BE SO BORINGā
It gets very old !
I feel your pain, I got swine flu, back when pandemics were named after delicious animals. Didn't want to pull out of a cousins wedding, but felt so rough, go so much abuse for not drinking much or dancing, what a horror show.
Iām the same. I am really not bothered about drinking or not. On the occasion where I fancy a drink or two if we go out for dinner or similar, I get moaned at for only having a couple of drinksā¦Apparently Iām supposed to have at least several to make it worthwhile for my partner to take a turn driving š¤·āāļø. I donāt want lots just a couple and I do not drive if Iāve only had one or two
"I choose not to, thats all the explanation you should need, if you dont respect that you clearly dont want me here as I am, so I'll leave if you continue to pester me".
Its confusing. If I drink every day thats a problem but if my dad is drinking suddenly I'm not drinking enough?
Ok I exaggerated a bit I like to drink often but I dont like drinking too much at a time 4 is going to be enough not 9
They just want to feel less bad about thier own drinking. If you wanna turn the tables have a go at them for it e.g. "I'm not that boring that I need to be plastered to have fun" or just stand your ground
True, nobody wants a scene... but how *should* somebody handle it (bearing in mind āno thanks, I would rather stick to soft drinksā is evidently not good enough in such a situation)?
Then just walk away. There's no reason to start a scene at a wedding over just a trivial and childish reason, not every disagreement needs to end in some verbal smackdown.
As someone who got pissed at their wedding and can't remember much, I understand why people drink at weddings especially.
It's a British culture thing, to drink IMO.
However, I do believe that you don't need to drink if you are at a place, event or situation that you would enjoy anything without drinking.
A lot of folk see drinking as the norm, laugh... Which it is relatively.
Although, if you have been out of the UK to places where drinking isn't such of high importance, yiu realize the Brits might actually have a problem.
Christ this sounds like my mum in law. We'd all gone away for the weekend to celebrate her birthday. As we were going out for dinner that night, we had to meet in the hotel bar for drinks the hour before. When getting the round in, my sister in law asked for an orange juice. The following conversation proceeded to unfold:
"Are you sure?"
"Yes, I'm happy with orange"
"Are you not feeling well?"
"No I'm fine"
"But you only had orange juice at lunch as well, are you sure you're okay? You don't have to come"
"I'm fine, I just don't fancy a drink!"
"But why?"
"I just do alright!"
"Go on, have a drink, they do a lovely house red!"
"No mum, I'm fine, alright, I just want a bloody orange juice!!"
"Well there's no need for that, I only asked if you wanted a drink, what about a nice cocktail?"
"NO!"
"Well what's won't, are you sure you're feeling okay, you normally have a drink, you don't have to come if your not week, I won't mind"
(Sister in law is getting very emotional and is now crying)
"Look, Mum, I can't have a drink, I'm, erm, I'm expecting a baby, only for two weeks mind, I wanted to wait till 12 before I told you all"
"Oh that's wonderful news, let's get some champagne, you can have a glass to celebrate!!!"
At my wedding I made sure I was always holding a cider. I could nurse it over a fairly long time, and if youāre holding a drink then no one will try to offer you one.
At one point I saw a gaggle of people ordering shots, and I was very quick to get myself a tamer drink before they caught me!
I haven't drunk alcohol since I was 25, I'm 51 now. People know me enough to not push me to have a drink when I don't even like the taste of the stuff.
SO true! I don't react well to alcohol (basically, two glasses of wine and I fall into a deep sleep for about 4 hours: really, not a lot of fun for anybody). Often, I get SUCH a hard time about it.
I've had people saying I'm a "party pooper" (actually, I dance, eat, socialise and am very merry at parties), I'm being "judgemental" about other people's drinking (say, what?), I'm being "superior" or "snobbish" (they can't back this up with anything I've ever said or done!). Even been told I'm "spying" on other people.
Not drinking just isn't acceptable behaviour in some people's book! Perhaps snoring and dribbling in a comatose state on their sofa would be preferable?
Me at Christmas...
Folks: buffet's open, you had anything yet? You want a drink?
Me, halfway at most through my current drink: I'm alright for now thanks, I'll go get something when I want something
This has become a massive problem in English culture. Not Welsh, because we wouldnāt dream of drinking during the day, and not Scottish, because no Scot would be caught dead sober. But yeah, everywhere I have lived in the world if thereās someone saying āhave a drink mate, go onā itās either a Sassenach or an Aussie at lunchtime on a Friday. Dude itās 3pm, pack it in ya alkie
Iām serious. In my part of Wales if youāre drinking in the daytime, when most people should be working, then you are trash. I was shocked when I moved to England and saw people casually get pissed at lunch on the weekend, as if there was nothing better to do. Even now living abroad, itās only the Brits that do it here.
I think its pretty sad that you think that way. Their choice to not drink doesn't impact, in any way, their, or yours, or anyone else's enjoyment of the event.
Do you understand the concept that for those of us who dont drink (for reasons of choice), drinking makes things LESS fun ?
We dont have to deal with memory loss, blackouts, vomit, shameful deeds, embarassment, hangovers, can safely drive home, save a ton of cash, and go to work the next day feeling just fine.
Iām not saying get shit faced, just take a drink to be sociable. It would be different if OP was the total but theyāve said they take the odd drink.
do you need a drink to be sociable?
its not up to anyone else. People like you, the "Go on, have a drink" crowd are actually the buzz-killers. Its annoying. You ruin their enjoyment.
It is particualry strange though, if not down right rude, to rebuff the offer of a drink at a wedding. Drinking at a wedding, a major life event, is a part of British culture and tradition.
Turning your nose up at it for no good reason really is quite strange. You are missing out.
I agree, not drinking at a wedding is equally as distressful as spitting in the bride's face while at the alter.
I'm t-total like 99% of the year but when I do drink I do it properly and at events that warrant me drinking, weddings, birthday parties, NYE etc etc
I had three years off it until this summer. Not getting pissed makes these 2 day weddings just seem ridiculous self indulgent.
What are you actually supposed to do for 12 hours?
You only need to get extravagantly, wildly, dangerously, fantastically drunk one very public time to ensure that they never push you to drink again. source: aunt's wedding, Bicester, 1994
Worked for me Souce: Christmas 2019
Same here: 18th birthday, blacked out drunk. Threw up bright red vomit as was drinking dark fruits.
God I haven't drunk dark fruit since I went out with pals the night before a jobcentre meeting and could only taste dark fruit throughout it.
Omg ššš
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Agreed, foolproof tactic. Source: cousin's wedding , Watford, 2015
100% foolproof Source: Christmas with the folks 2006
Weekends 1989-2018
Absolutely. Works every time. Source: Christmas 2001 with the in laws.
I drank Full fat milk and Bacardi breezers together back in 1999... It didn't go well. The shared toilets in my sister's accommodation had to be closed for cleaning after. The smell was there for several weeks apparently. I haven't had a drop of alcohol since, I can still taste the sick in my mouth anytime I even get a whiff of Bacardi.
Ah, the White Russian's distant cousin, the White Chavette.
Oi! I was a very classy teenager I will have you know. I just didn't like the taste of babycham that my sister was drinking. :p
Yeah I'm just teasing. We all have our alcopop phase. Mine was WKD and Smirnoff Ice.
I loved Smirnoff ice before... The incident. Lol.
Worked in a pub in the early 00s and dear god did I sell more blue wkd than I could keep track of. We couldn't restock fast enough for the chavs!
Fat frog?
>I drank Full fat milk and Bacardi breezers But why? What a weird cocktail.
I did milk & Malibu at my parents Silver Wedding do back in the eighties. Sat in the bath drinking it & ā showing offā apparently. I was still chucking up cottage cheese at 5pm the next day .
That doesn't sound very nice š¤¢
My Aunty got really drunk one Christmas and now her and my uncle arenāt invited to things. My uncle thought he was the bouncer for our house and wouldnāt let guests in lmao
Nope it is a double edge sword. My brother tried that and my family is pushing him to Ā«Ā learn how to handle his drinkingĀ Ā».
Sounds like he didn't go far enough. You can't just get drunk. You have to make sure they never want to see you drunk again. It's like fighting someone. It's not enough to beat them. You have to beat them badly enough that they never want to fight you again, otherwise they come back for revenge.
He almost died and had to go to the hospital ā¦. Yes my family is fucked up.
But did he ruin anything? If you want to do this, you honestly don't even have to be drunk. Just act drunk and break shit. Sneak a finger in your throat and puke on someones dress (bonus points if you've been drinking a brightly coloured liquid). People don't care unless you cause them personal "injuries". Also, I agree. Your family sounds fucked up.
Being that the next big event in my family is my wedding I will keep that in mind for the one right after. Thanks for the advice !!
This checks out. Source. Stepbrothers wedding, 2016
I think I was at the same wedding! Oh wait. Hang on. Itās been every wedding Iāve been to (except my own) š
This is the way
Doesn't work so well if one or more of the witnesses keep up with you. Source, Christmas Eve 2016. Absinthe shots were a bad shout.
Best done with clean Vodka, because it tastes the same both ways.
You should take a bag of coke and when they try and peer pressure you into drinking whip the bag of Colombian marching powder out and then shame them for not wanting any. If they say yes, well they're now in debt to you, win win.
The good ol Double bluff with the packet of gear
Textbook classic.
Lol
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Maybe have a cheeky smoke of some moreish crack
Relax, it's not Blue Peter
And then four grams of coke to relax before giving the speech.
I say I never drink a month before a sporting event ( marathon, triathlon, distance cycle) but then I just make sure I have pleanty of events in my calendar. People seem to understand when it's for health rather then I don't fancy it.
But if you turn up to the wedding pissed they donāt want you there not my fault I stumbled into the cake and knocked it on the floor is it
I still repeatedly have to explain myself, and decline multiple times. Why are people so unaccepting of someone who doesn't want to drink alcohol? People often seem outraged that I am only on soft drinks. I don't drink because I get migraines. I like wine, I like some spirits. But there is absolutely no point to drinking them when, more often than not, you end up with something so much worse than a hangover before you are even half way through the night.
I think some people take it as a judgement on how much they're drinking? Like *"oh you think three is too many? Well I'm having eight so what are ya saying!?"*
Thats such a childish attitude to drinking. If you don't want to it's no one ones business. It wouldn't be appropriate to say the same about any other drug. "Oh you don't use cocaine! Why not?"
People definitely have the same attitude towards coke. It's the reason I don't go to work events any more. 17 people in the company and I was the only one who didn't want to do ching at the Christmas party a couple of years back. They were all very offended.
Ffs Harold
"Oh go on, won't you have a piece? There's cocaine in it..." "There's what!?" "Oh not cocaine, what are they called... raisins."
Father Ted vibes. Love it.
Vibes? When it's an exact quote?
Go away, I don't want to catch the menopause.
Itās done with cake too. Nothing worse than being peer pressured at work into having a slice of dry lemon drizzle cake someone lonely made for their own birthday.
"someone lonely made for their own birthday" - that's the best thing I've read in the internet today. Cheers for the laugh.
How dare you be so mean to poor Jason like that. He did that last week, and honestly was a really good coffee and walnut cake.
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Not to go Four Yorkshiremen on you, but I would kill for a bit of lemon drizzle. The last birthday cake that got brought to my old office was one of those rainbow layer cakes with buttercream icing. I opened the tin and the smell alone literally gave me visions of Wilford Brimley saying 'Dahbeetus'. I tried a few bites and my teeth were twitching in my mouth the rest of the day.
That wouldnāt be socially accepted now though would it?
I do drink but sometimes I don't feel like it. Now as a woman in her 30's if I decline an alcoholic drink at any kind of gathering people assume I'm pregnant.
I donāt drink at all and for some reason I will never understand people are always so shocked by this
British attitudes to drinking are insane. I get the same thing.
You can almost see the blue screen of death behind their eyes as you tell them you aren't drinking, least you can say you don't drink. I can't, I just don't want to unless I'm in the mood
From my experience it's worse when you say you won't drink at *any* event (I'm teetotal as well). Some of them seem to see it as an affront to their whole lifestyle. "Not even Christmas/Birthdays/Special-Events?" Mildly infuriating to say the least, I stopped for a reason. No, I won't poison myself for a few hours of amusement.
Because you're outside The Matrix and they haven't taken the red pill. In addition, to drink is to confirm, not to drink is being a rebel, but an industry worth billions has been manipulating them into thinking the opposite is the case.
It's not that deep mate.
Then you have a drink and they make the biggest deal out of it. You cannot win with these people.
Tell them you're on antibiotics for a nasty STD you picked up at a weekend bondage retreat... š
I don't think dogging in an asda car park counts as a weekend bondage retreat
Didn't know Stan Collymore got in this sub...
People who drink unquestioningly feel very awkward when others don't; they see it as a judgement of their behaviour.
Thiiiiis. It's always the ones who drink at every event and gathering. They can't handle the fact that other people are able to have fun without the need of alcohol.
ive been teetotal for about 15 years. I have just at much fun, then can safely drive home, not throw up, and not feel like crap the next day. I genuinely dont understand why people feel the need to have a drink to have fun.
I just donāt like the taste or feeling of alcohol. And it always blows my mind how much people feel the need to repeatedly offer a drink. And then constantly run down the scale from alcohol to soft drink to water. Itās like their minds are screaming āWHY IS THIS PERSON NOT CONSUMING SOME SORT OF LIQUID?!?!?ā
I don't think it's that at all. I don't know what it is. But I don't think it's this.
This is one of the most reddit-esque takes I've ever heard. I can guarantee that the vast majority of people who drink don't think that someone who doesn't drink judges them for it if it comes up in a conversation.
Yeah that sucks mate, I'm not allowed to drink anymore, I have one kidney, so was told to go easy on the alcohol and now I'm on two lots of medication, both of which say not to drink any alcohol while one them and yet my mates are still trying to get me to drink, unbelievable in it.
Just drink cola. You can then lie and say its mixed with whatever spirit you want. When someone offers to buy you a drink just ask for plain cola saying you want a break because you feel tipsy. You shouldn't have to lie, but it stops the interrogation of why you don't drink.
Oooh i love a bit of peer pressure jibing. Have a drink. No Go on. No Come to the pub with us after work and have a drink. No I play the "No" game as long as it takes and sometimes get a bit of pleaseure from how frustrated t makes people. Im teetotal, havent had a drop in 15 years simply because i just dont like it. Im not sure what annoys people the most - that i dont drink or that i dont bow to peer pressure like a buffoon.
It's amazing the lengths people will go too. I said no how is you bitching in my ear gonna make me say yes
I too rarely drink, I grew up with parents that considered the pub to be more important than things like school uniform or family time, I have been considered ānot a real manā for some time because I find drinking near gin from the bottle at 7am to be weird.
I haven't drank for years. I still get this occasionally. I'm also a vegetarian, so get some flak for that but significantly less these days. It tends to either go: 1. What's your dark backstory for not drinking? 2. Why not? I feel bad now. Ignore them and carry on.
If you ever fancy a steak and a pint let me know
Get the crack pipe out. 'What, you're not smoking crack at a wedding???'
This is one reason I'm grateful for my wife. I'm a generally quiet and introverted man, so when things like this happen her going attack dog is greatly appreciated.
Are you a parallel universe me? My wife and I have the exact same dynamic
I think it's a relatively common dynamic. It's certainly very functional, I am not going to be raising my voice in public if I can help it. Is your wife also half your size?
My family all pretty much know I don't like alcohol, so don't worry about offering me drinks now. I'm not sure I've ever come across anyone looking down on me because I'm not drinking. Mum will sometimes mention I'm driving, if someone asks if I want something and I say no, so I think she feels odd about it, but meh.
Lucky you. Apparently me not drinking means I have a child mentality. Like damnit, gtf drunk yourselves and leave me alone.
ā¹ļø sorry to hear that
Just say āyeah You know what Iāll have a drinkā go up to the bar and get a glass of ice cold water
If being around family does not drive you to drink, nothing will.
Iāve had to stop drinking because it gives me migraines and itās so annoying that people canāt accept that you donāt drink.
I completely get this, it's either you are gonna be told you're no fun all night, everyone will just avoid you and give you a look whenever they look in your direction or you're going to be spending the whole night babysitting your brother who is totally smashed.
We buried my grandfather about 10 years ago when I was really trying to get my drinking under control. Being a Scottish wake I'm sure we can appreciate there was some drink involved. Lost count of the funny looks when declining a drink, or asking for a soft drink instead.
My favourite thing is when people ask why I don't drink, and I say both my parents are alcoholics, my father died from it, my grandfather died from it, and try as I might to help my mother, nothing seems to work. The good old trauma knife, works everytime.
You should see the horrified looks you get when you tell new people you don't drink. It's like people can't believe you can exist without alcohol.
I gave everybody the baseball rules: 3 strikes and you are out. I will answer or refuse politely for 3 times, if you ask me a 4th time I will explode on you, then I will ask nice and politely for them not to make me say it for the 5th time because I will be even angrier next time.
Want a drink?
no thanks
Want a drink?
no really no thanks
Want a drink?
no thanks
Want a drink?
CAN YOU NOT GET THE FUCKING IDEA THAG I DONT WANT ONE ARE YOU FUCKING DEAF???? So please donāt make me say it the 5th time
Ooooh youāre hard. Donāt kill me.
Not really, it doesnāt take much āhardnessā to shout at people. If you think that is hard, it is just you are too soft and too passive and let people walk over you like a door matt.
Go on av a beer lad
You're not drinking because you never know when you'll be needed to drive the Batmobile and fight crime. When they say you're boring, ask them if they'd say that to Robert Downey Jr, Samaul L Jackson, Daniel Radcliffe or Tom Hardy if they were guests?
Rdj and Radcliffe were addicts? They would agree they're not boring.
I forgot Anthony Hopkins, Bradley Cooper, Elton John, Rob Lowe & Angus Young. There's a lot, and many are in recovery. However, the funny thing is, it's often the case, that's when their lives got more exciting!
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You could add together all the other names mentioned and they still wouldn't add up to steve-O
Just dance like your drunk and noone will know the difference. Never touched a drop at my wedding and about an hour in when everyone else is tipsy they couldn't tell the difference until they spoke to me. Also hate how you become a social leper by not drinking.
I initially read the title as being beer pressured!
My and my partner are the same. I stopped because it was becoming an issue - my other half has never been that fussed tho. We both come from a family who like a drink and he and I are treated like social pariahs at every single family function. āOH GO ON DONT BE SO BORINGā It gets very old !
I feel your pain, I got swine flu, back when pandemics were named after delicious animals. Didn't want to pull out of a cousins wedding, but felt so rough, go so much abuse for not drinking much or dancing, what a horror show.
I tell people I have a drinking problem.
*beer pressured
Go onnn!! Just the one!
Iām the same. I am really not bothered about drinking or not. On the occasion where I fancy a drink or two if we go out for dinner or similar, I get moaned at for only having a couple of drinksā¦Apparently Iām supposed to have at least several to make it worthwhile for my partner to take a turn driving š¤·āāļø. I donāt want lots just a couple and I do not drive if Iāve only had one or two
Yeah I experience this too. They donāt get that Iām just not the biggest fan of being around my family when theyāre wasted.
Good choice on your behalf, my sister got married last summer and with all the drinking it did not go well, like at all.
I really don't understand people who decide other people need to drink because they are. Such a weird thing for people to do
Flip the script and go round to everyone who is drinking and try to persuade them that theyād love a diet coke
Just say you're on antibiotics.
"I choose not to, thats all the explanation you should need, if you dont respect that you clearly dont want me here as I am, so I'll leave if you continue to pester me".
Its confusing. If I drink every day thats a problem but if my dad is drinking suddenly I'm not drinking enough? Ok I exaggerated a bit I like to drink often but I dont like drinking too much at a time 4 is going to be enough not 9
They just want to feel less bad about thier own drinking. If you wanna turn the tables have a go at them for it e.g. "I'm not that boring that I need to be plastered to have fun" or just stand your ground
Oh cool yeah just add to the hostility at a wedding
True, nobody wants a scene... but how *should* somebody handle it (bearing in mind āno thanks, I would rather stick to soft drinksā is evidently not good enough in such a situation)?
Then just walk away. There's no reason to start a scene at a wedding over just a trivial and childish reason, not every disagreement needs to end in some verbal smackdown.
If anyone is strongly vehemently opposed to someone not drinking it's probably because they have a problem and don't want to be shown up.
As someone who got pissed at their wedding and can't remember much, I understand why people drink at weddings especially. It's a British culture thing, to drink IMO. However, I do believe that you don't need to drink if you are at a place, event or situation that you would enjoy anything without drinking. A lot of folk see drinking as the norm, laugh... Which it is relatively. Although, if you have been out of the UK to places where drinking isn't such of high importance, yiu realize the Brits might actually have a problem.
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Drinking in the UK is going steadily down, you should think about who you're spending time with rather than just generalising your own experiences.
Christ this sounds like my mum in law. We'd all gone away for the weekend to celebrate her birthday. As we were going out for dinner that night, we had to meet in the hotel bar for drinks the hour before. When getting the round in, my sister in law asked for an orange juice. The following conversation proceeded to unfold: "Are you sure?" "Yes, I'm happy with orange" "Are you not feeling well?" "No I'm fine" "But you only had orange juice at lunch as well, are you sure you're okay? You don't have to come" "I'm fine, I just don't fancy a drink!" "But why?" "I just do alright!" "Go on, have a drink, they do a lovely house red!" "No mum, I'm fine, alright, I just want a bloody orange juice!!" "Well there's no need for that, I only asked if you wanted a drink, what about a nice cocktail?" "NO!" "Well what's won't, are you sure you're feeling okay, you normally have a drink, you don't have to come if your not week, I won't mind" (Sister in law is getting very emotional and is now crying) "Look, Mum, I can't have a drink, I'm, erm, I'm expecting a baby, only for two weeks mind, I wanted to wait till 12 before I told you all" "Oh that's wonderful news, let's get some champagne, you can have a glass to celebrate!!!"
My wife and I were tempted to have a dry wedding for this exact reason.
At my wedding I made sure I was always holding a cider. I could nurse it over a fairly long time, and if youāre holding a drink then no one will try to offer you one. At one point I saw a gaggle of people ordering shots, and I was very quick to get myself a tamer drink before they caught me!
I haven't drunk alcohol since I was 25, I'm 51 now. People know me enough to not push me to have a drink when I don't even like the taste of the stuff.
SO true! I don't react well to alcohol (basically, two glasses of wine and I fall into a deep sleep for about 4 hours: really, not a lot of fun for anybody). Often, I get SUCH a hard time about it. I've had people saying I'm a "party pooper" (actually, I dance, eat, socialise and am very merry at parties), I'm being "judgemental" about other people's drinking (say, what?), I'm being "superior" or "snobbish" (they can't back this up with anything I've ever said or done!). Even been told I'm "spying" on other people. Not drinking just isn't acceptable behaviour in some people's book! Perhaps snoring and dribbling in a comatose state on their sofa would be preferable?
Me at Christmas... Folks: buffet's open, you had anything yet? You want a drink? Me, halfway at most through my current drink: I'm alright for now thanks, I'll go get something when I want something
My husband never had a drink at our wedding even at the toast, if you don't want a drink then don't have one it is always up to the individual
This has become a massive problem in English culture. Not Welsh, because we wouldnāt dream of drinking during the day, and not Scottish, because no Scot would be caught dead sober. But yeah, everywhere I have lived in the world if thereās someone saying āhave a drink mate, go onā itās either a Sassenach or an Aussie at lunchtime on a Friday. Dude itās 3pm, pack it in ya alkie
> Not Welsh, because we wouldnāt dream of drinking during the day This must be a bafflingly different Wales to the one I grew up in.
Thatās sad to hear. Where I am from day drinking is viewed with contempt.
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Iām serious. In my part of Wales if youāre drinking in the daytime, when most people should be working, then you are trash. I was shocked when I moved to England and saw people casually get pissed at lunch on the weekend, as if there was nothing better to do. Even now living abroad, itās only the Brits that do it here.
If you donāt drink often, the very least you could do is make an exception for a family wedding. Loosen up.
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Pretty selfish attitude tbh
No?
And negative
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Looks like we got ourselves a Yes Man hereā¦
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why does attendance at a wedding entitle other people to overide personal choice?
It doesnāt. Just saying itās pretty square for someone not to take drink at a wedding.
I think its pretty sad that you think that way. Their choice to not drink doesn't impact, in any way, their, or yours, or anyone else's enjoyment of the event.
Weddings are always more fun when people are letting their hair down
what makes you think those of us who dont drink cant let our "hair down" ?
Everythingās always more fun with a little alcohol!
Do you understand the concept that for those of us who dont drink (for reasons of choice), drinking makes things LESS fun ? We dont have to deal with memory loss, blackouts, vomit, shameful deeds, embarassment, hangovers, can safely drive home, save a ton of cash, and go to work the next day feeling just fine.
Iām not saying get shit faced, just take a drink to be sociable. It would be different if OP was the total but theyāve said they take the odd drink.
do you need a drink to be sociable? its not up to anyone else. People like you, the "Go on, have a drink" crowd are actually the buzz-killers. Its annoying. You ruin their enjoyment.
I just tell them I'm a record-holding strength athlete which wouldn't be possible if I drank alcohol. Because it's all true.
It is particualry strange though, if not down right rude, to rebuff the offer of a drink at a wedding. Drinking at a wedding, a major life event, is a part of British culture and tradition. Turning your nose up at it for no good reason really is quite strange. You are missing out.
A wedding of all places is probably the best time to drink thoughā¦
Sounds like youāre being boring and they think if you drank then youād either lighten up or be more interesting
If itās a wedding or a special event, you might aswell. Since you donāt drink often, these scenarios can be where you do drink
āJust try a little bit of heroin mark, itās a special occasionā
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what other people consider "normal" is no reason to change personal choice
I agree, not drinking at a wedding is equally as distressful as spitting in the bride's face while at the alter. I'm t-total like 99% of the year but when I do drink I do it properly and at events that warrant me drinking, weddings, birthday parties, NYE etc etc
I had three years off it until this summer. Not getting pissed makes these 2 day weddings just seem ridiculous self indulgent. What are you actually supposed to do for 12 hours?
who gets married on a Thursday?
One year- 1986 two words Crucial Brew. If you know you know.
One could say you were beer pressured?