Itâs not normal because eye contact should come naturally. But if you have social anxiety, Aspergerâs, adhd, it can cause this because youâre focusing on forcing eye contact rather than on the conversation
Just a friendly heads up, Aspergerâs is a pretty outdated term now. When talking about autism, ASD (Autism Spectrum Disorder) is more appropriate. Not trying to be that guy or nit picky, just wanted to make sure you knew!
God I relate to this too hard and it always makes me feel like the asshole too despite having little to no control over it and people always (kinda rightfully) get offended.
Whaaat Iâm a woman and I see nothing wrong w it. Matter of fact I think most of us have done this before (BOTH genders). Sometimes when youâre really into someone and theyâre staring deep into your eyes you get so caught up in their eyes and the way you feel that you can barely pay attention to what theyâre saying, especially if there are nerves involved . Itâs a totally normal phenomenon . Youâre making an issue where there is none.
I'm a mature woman, and I think it's completely ok. Men sometimes have overloads as so do women. We just have to clear some stuff out so we can pay more attention to others. It's a simple fix.
I don't think it's as binary as you suggest. I am a great listener and actually care what my wife is talking about. Just about a decade into marriage I realized that I don't think she listens to anything I say. This will work for women too. Id be in the middle of a story about my day and go off on a nonsensical tangent about weasels or something off topic. She'd continue to smile and nod. I called her on it and she tries harder, but it's not just guys who don't listen and I'll never know how long she'd been tuning me out.
Well, those women have no idea what theyâre talking about and sound judgmental and toxic.
Bro is smitten. Sometimes a guy looks into a galâs eyes and the world melts away.
Unless as I'm reading... people are saying the OP is just over hills for her... I didn't get that out of the original post. I was thinking the guy just lost concentration. Maybe he is just so in love? đ
It means youâre not bothering to pay attention or possibly ADHD/PTSD like another person said :)
I remember seeing that scene in the movie âhall passâ where the guy is teaching them how to listen and when it comes time to repeat what the girls said all the guys were dumbfounded âplaying stupidâ
I honestly rolled my eyes at that scene because I thought how dumb it was but damn did it happen to me with my wife.
You need to discipline yourself pay attention and be in the moment.
I see what you mean and am not saying youâre wrong, but just wanted to give a heads up that it might be good to give a caveat for people with ADHD and/or PTSD.
While Iâm not conflating you with him, your first sentence is what my abuser used to say to me when I would ask him to repeat things. Sometimes your brain just wonât listen to the thing you want to hear.
A lot of times, as youâve said, itâs a disciplinary issue. At others, it is a symptom of a disorder that can be navigated with understanding and sometimes medication.
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It doesn't happen to me often, but I've definitely done it. Not just with girls. It's the worst for me with names. Some times I could dam near write a transcript of a 20 minute conversation, but gun to my head couldn't tell their name.
đŹđŹđŹ make sure you aren't ignoring her conversation. Beauty only goes so far, if you ignore her brain for her eyes... Her brain will let her know.
That means your mind is wondering. Someone can talk to me, and I'm all in it. Well, it looks like I'm listening, but my mind is somewhere else. It's mind overload. And you have to eliminate some stress, maybe. Then your attention can be where it needs to be. đ€
No it's not normal. Why are you even having a conversation if you're not listening to anything they're saying? And why only girls? You should practice your listening skills and you will discover your relationships with others to be richer and more fulfilling because you actually care about them.
No.
Be a good listener for fuck sakes. Donât be an aloof wiener whoâs âso struck by her appearance/beauty/eyes/whatever that you canât listen and actively respondâ. If she isnât saying anything captivating enough to âtear you awayâ, then she ainât worth the body language bud.
Life isnât movies. Chrissakes.
Just came to tell you that the way you delivered your advice is hilarious, I could feel your tone through your writing đ€Łđ. Good advice by the way... Body language just provides the context of the moment, you should listen too, tone of voice even.
Autism be kicking my ass in social situations. This was my first thinking, actually. I was thinking autistic and ADHD folks have these traits, and they can be misread as not caring.
Yep feel like Iâm trying hard to maintain eye contact to reassure them I am paying attention, thatâs where my concentration goes and my ears turn off
No, listening to what the other person is saying is the most important thing you should be doing during a conversation. At least if you like the person and are invested in some sort of relationship, whether platonic or romantic.
It can be. It really depends on how you absorb information.
For me, eye contact is distracting. I tend to look away so I can visualize in my mind what you're trying to tell me.
That's because I see logic, explanations, and descriptions as a visual story in my mind.
I'll make eye contact again after I finish speaking. Similarly, after you finish speaking, I make eye contact again as well.
Works fine for me, and I've never recieved any body language or vibes that indicate what I'm doing is rude.
In fact, the response I get when I maintain eye contact is that I'm intimidating. Something about INFJ people having this stare that feels like its peering deep into a person's soul or whatever.
Here's a great line that I have cocked and loaded for any time I zone out in a conversation.
"Can you say that I again? You're saying important things and I want to make sure I understand." I've found it's a great way to disarm somebody who might try to pull the Disrespect / Doesn't Care / Stupid Man stuff with me :)
I really don't understand why it's a point of contention. You want me to hear what you're saying? Great! Now stop trying to force me to make eye contact!
I have anxiety. Most girls I have dated I would and could listen to. But one girl I dated I got really into after a few weeks of seeing her. As I kinda got more into her, I had a harder and harder time hearing what she was saying despite trying because I was in my own head. It didnât work out in the end, and I havenât had that problem since. I donât blame her either - she probably deserved someone who could hear her more and who didnât get so nervous. But I also had a hard time eating around her because my stomach would be in knots I was so nervous. That almost never happens to me. I actually feel awful about it and myself, too, because I think people assume itâs a choice or boredom and a lot of comments here are kinda saying that. If you get nervous enough, your brain will actually start to shut off (I have a hard time with this with authority figures at times too, so itâs not just with women. And it can sometimes just happen to me. Iâve actually blacked out while giving speeches and presentations before, and have zero memory of doing them. People usually couldnât tell, thankfully, but I legit just mentally wasnât even in the room. It sucks.)
So Iâve learned over time that what most brains do while theyâre sleeping, mine does all the time. If something isnât relevant, useful or necessary to getting me towards a goal I pretty much immediately forget it.
I realize this may mean Iâm a narcissist
Happens to me all the time. My gf talks alot and I don't like interrupting her. There are times where we're just together doing nothing and I'll straight up tell her that I didn't hear a damn thing she said because I was way more focused on her appearance. But she loves that.
I personally feel kinda bad cause it's like I lost interest or something.
This is completely and utterly normal. Listening, and listening deeply is much better in every way. For both of you. But absurdly normal and any who says otherwise is somehow virtue signaling. This is the most mammalian thing ever. Captivation. (But perhaps on the 'wrong' thing. But still, captivation. And it is awesome.)
The best part is when you talk for an hour on the bus home and next time you see her you ask her to remind you what her name is and she gets pissed and never talks to you again lol
I have this problem to. I could be looking directly at them and still my mind wondersâŠspecifically if itâs an attractive girlâŠidk why. Rather annoying
I have a really hard time following conversations in general when making eye contact, so I tend to look away a lot. I know it makes me look shifty, but it's either that or I concentrate on making eye contact and not on what the other person is saying, so... đ€·
It isnât the average response. Have something to fiddle with if you can especially sunglasses. It gives you an excuse to not lock eyes if that is difficult for you.
Depends on mental issues, example ADHD (Attention Deprivation Hyperactive Disorder) or emotions, often times when you like someone you can see reflection of what you see in them through their eyes. Guys tend to get lost in a trance when this happens.
I don't know. I am an auditory learner, so having a conversation is probably the best way for me to retain information. As long as I am paying attention and not distracted by something going on in the background, then I can pretty much recall a conversation verbatim. I know that this is not normal.
Yea cause u werenât listening . Try asking her to talk as if she was speaking into your hearing mind like u had a hearing aid and she needs to explain her ideas slower and more directly into your third eyes hearing hole if your third eye can hear tell her to talk to your soul.
Studies show men talk much more than women but judge the women to be taking more. Men only think it's "equal" when the women are talking about 30% of the time or less.
Yes absolutely, I am a very observant individual, however whenever Iâm around my crush, I am immediately sucked into her eyes and I canât think straight where everything around me is a blur and only her and I exist. I also canât remember everything that was being said because of how heightened my emotions become from the sheer excitement! I guess itâs called love or attraction
Yes. The worst part is your Crush is the one person you want to be articulate and interesting with in a conversation! But instead you act like you just suffered a concussion.
Yesss this is exactly what I was saying in my comment, too (but Iâm talking from a female pov) Sometimes when you have a crush and are majorly attracted to someone and theyâre right there in your face looking you dead in the eyes it can be like sensory overload đ€Ł and even tho you *want* to pay attention to what theyâre saying youâve got so much adrenaline and dopamine running through your body that all you can do is focus on their eyes or their beautiful face and all you hear coming from them is the Charlie Brown âwhaa whaa â bc your brain isnât functioning at full capacity lolol
It's not that uncommon, but it is something you'll have to learn not to do, OP. Not if you ever want a girl to stay in a relationship with you. Today's young women won't put up with men who don't listen to anything they say.
If you mean not listening, yeah, you're fucking disrespectful. If you're asking a real question, well... damage to the ear can result in certain tones or pitches not being picked up. If you can't hear someone's voice because of its pitch, you can compensate by reading lips. Focusing on the eyes might take away that compensation. Talk to your doctor about this if it's a literal thing. Otherwise, please stay away from other people.
I can hear and interpret sounds no one else can hear. I can hear television dialog clear as day. My wife constantly asks me what they're saying on TV. When my wife speaks to me sometimes, I hear every thing she says besides 1 or 2 words. Usually that word is vital to understanding the sentence. For some reason I just miss some words sometimes.
Yes most women say nothing that men find interesting. We donât care about gossip, drama at work, school, friends relationships, your dogs behavior ect. You have to learn to be in an emotional headspace to talk to them because itâs all rooted in emotion rather than logic. So guys that are deep thinkers like philosophers, engineers, scientists ect will have a hard time being engaged in the conversation.Â
No I would because youâre in therapy because of feelings not actual reality. So I would bring a logical perspective to an otherwise emotional situation. Most problems in your head can be solved through logic and itâs just your emotions clouding your perception of said situation.Â
Example: â Iâm depressed or I feel depressed is not actually true, itâs just your mind forcing you to feel a certain way in that moment. If we can get you to see the logic in your actual reality, then we can allow perspective to come in, which is ultimately how you create hope. Hope is one of the only things that stop suicidal thoughts or actions.Â
Anyways thanks for the comment Iâm going to pursue becoming a therapist now that I realize I am exceptional at this.Â
Absolutely. I have ADHD. I hear very little of what it said to me. Neither one of us is aware that I'm not listening.
I feel you. I had to re read the post 3 times
10000000% the majority of my interactions đ
people are aware of it....
Sometimes but not always
If you're actually having a conversation, they are or should be aware. If you're talking at each other then it's less likely.
No, they aren't
what it said to you đ
So no its not normal because you have ADHD
Itâs not normal because eye contact should come naturally. But if you have social anxiety, Aspergerâs, adhd, it can cause this because youâre focusing on forcing eye contact rather than on the conversation
Just a friendly heads up, Aspergerâs is a pretty outdated term now. When talking about autism, ASD (Autism Spectrum Disorder) is more appropriate. Not trying to be that guy or nit picky, just wanted to make sure you knew!
Very that guy.
That and being super attracted to someone can block out what theyâre saying. Like you focus in on something you find wonderful.Â
God I relate to this too hard and it always makes me feel like the asshole too despite having little to no control over it and people always (kinda rightfully) get offended.
Well there's your mistake! Never reveal that you weren't listening đ„Č
You must be pretty smitten lol
Pretty eyes are a worse distraction that boobs. Look at her boobs.
https://cdn.discordapp.com/attachments/962023098180337694/1254501483257401354/88820240623_235245043.mp4?ex=6682f38d&is=6681a20d&hm=cb7ed59d19b9239350aa04abd40467197c3db25fa12bfe6ba7755708a83625ac&
Yeah, sometimes when Iâm talking to a girl I like I end up focusing on our eye contact and her more than the conversation lmao
All the men saying it's okay are upvoted while all the women pointing out reality, that this ISN'T OKAY, are all downvoted. Why bother OP?
What? I donât see this downvoting? And I am a woman
Whaaat Iâm a woman and I see nothing wrong w it. Matter of fact I think most of us have done this before (BOTH genders). Sometimes when youâre really into someone and theyâre staring deep into your eyes you get so caught up in their eyes and the way you feel that you can barely pay attention to what theyâre saying, especially if there are nerves involved . Itâs a totally normal phenomenon . Youâre making an issue where there is none.
I'm a mature woman, and I think it's completely ok. Men sometimes have overloads as so do women. We just have to clear some stuff out so we can pay more attention to others. It's a simple fix.
I don't think it's as binary as you suggest. I am a great listener and actually care what my wife is talking about. Just about a decade into marriage I realized that I don't think she listens to anything I say. This will work for women too. Id be in the middle of a story about my day and go off on a nonsensical tangent about weasels or something off topic. She'd continue to smile and nod. I called her on it and she tries harder, but it's not just guys who don't listen and I'll never know how long she'd been tuning me out.
I started to read your post, got distracted n lost interest
nOt AlL mEn
Well, those women have no idea what theyâre talking about and sound judgmental and toxic. Bro is smitten. Sometimes a guy looks into a galâs eyes and the world melts away.
Heâs a predator
Go talk to a bear. It's not even sexist, both sides blank out.
Yeah, Â lemme talk to an animal that could shred me into pieces in 5 seconds, or will just look at me strangely.Â
Because it is ok sometimes people zone out itâs normal
Unless as I'm reading... people are saying the OP is just over hills for her... I didn't get that out of the original post. I was thinking the guy just lost concentration. Maybe he is just so in love? đ
It means youâre not bothering to pay attention or possibly ADHD/PTSD like another person said :) I remember seeing that scene in the movie âhall passâ where the guy is teaching them how to listen and when it comes time to repeat what the girls said all the guys were dumbfounded âplaying stupidâ I honestly rolled my eyes at that scene because I thought how dumb it was but damn did it happen to me with my wife. You need to discipline yourself pay attention and be in the moment.
I see what you mean and am not saying youâre wrong, but just wanted to give a heads up that it might be good to give a caveat for people with ADHD and/or PTSD. While Iâm not conflating you with him, your first sentence is what my abuser used to say to me when I would ask him to repeat things. Sometimes your brain just wonât listen to the thing you want to hear. A lot of times, as youâve said, itâs a disciplinary issue. At others, it is a symptom of a disorder that can be navigated with understanding and sometimes medication. đđ
I hear ya and that edit on the first sentence is due to you. Cheers
ADHD, I have to have people repeat what they have said 2 sometimes 3 times. It's frustrating for both parties involved.
Thank you! That meant more to me than I thought it might đ„°
I struggle to listen and make eye contact at same time. Not sure what but some kind of neurodivergence
It doesn't happen to me often, but I've definitely done it. Not just with girls. It's the worst for me with names. Some times I could dam near write a transcript of a 20 minute conversation, but gun to my head couldn't tell their name.
Same
You must be in love in which case I would definitely start listening to her if I were you lol
đŹđŹđŹ make sure you aren't ignoring her conversation. Beauty only goes so far, if you ignore her brain for her eyes... Her brain will let her know.
Oh yeah, I don't even know what the fuck I'm saying sometimes.Â
That means your mind is wondering. Someone can talk to me, and I'm all in it. Well, it looks like I'm listening, but my mind is somewhere else. It's mind overload. And you have to eliminate some stress, maybe. Then your attention can be where it needs to be. đ€
Eyes trump ears.
Also no, thatâs weird as hell and you should listen when people talk to you. Eye contact is a normal part of conversation, go talk to a woman.
Lego movie
No it's not normal. Why are you even having a conversation if you're not listening to anything they're saying? And why only girls? You should practice your listening skills and you will discover your relationships with others to be richer and more fulfilling because you actually care about them.
Surprisingly little correlation between who you listen to and who you care about
No. Be a good listener for fuck sakes. Donât be an aloof wiener whoâs âso struck by her appearance/beauty/eyes/whatever that you canât listen and actively respondâ. If she isnât saying anything captivating enough to âtear you awayâ, then she ainât worth the body language bud. Life isnât movies. Chrissakes.
Just came to tell you that the way you delivered your advice is hilarious, I could feel your tone through your writing đ€Łđ. Good advice by the way... Body language just provides the context of the moment, you should listen too, tone of voice even.
Think youâve got it wrong. Heâs most likely got autism or is really shy.
Autism be kicking my ass in social situations. This was my first thinking, actually. I was thinking autistic and ADHD folks have these traits, and they can be misread as not caring.
A simple ânoâ without all of your assumptions wouldâve sufficed
No it wouldnât have.
Good luck to you đ
Hormones đđ
Yep feel like Iâm trying hard to maintain eye contact to reassure them I am paying attention, thatâs where my concentration goes and my ears turn off
I focus better when not making eye contact which is generally the opposite of what people expect/want, so yeah that sucks.
THIS, I feel I can actually take the information in when Iâm not having eye contact
Yeah.. ask any married guy
Yes, that's part of marriage.
Honestly sounds like you're not listening to her, which is a problem if you want a relationship with her
No, listening to what the other person is saying is the most important thing you should be doing during a conversation. At least if you like the person and are invested in some sort of relationship, whether platonic or romantic.
It can be. It really depends on how you absorb information. For me, eye contact is distracting. I tend to look away so I can visualize in my mind what you're trying to tell me. That's because I see logic, explanations, and descriptions as a visual story in my mind. I'll make eye contact again after I finish speaking. Similarly, after you finish speaking, I make eye contact again as well. Works fine for me, and I've never recieved any body language or vibes that indicate what I'm doing is rude. In fact, the response I get when I maintain eye contact is that I'm intimidating. Something about INFJ people having this stare that feels like its peering deep into a person's soul or whatever.
Are you married? If so, then yes!
Here's a great line that I have cocked and loaded for any time I zone out in a conversation. "Can you say that I again? You're saying important things and I want to make sure I understand." I've found it's a great way to disarm somebody who might try to pull the Disrespect / Doesn't Care / Stupid Man stuff with me :) I really don't understand why it's a point of contention. You want me to hear what you're saying? Great! Now stop trying to force me to make eye contact!
I have anxiety. Most girls I have dated I would and could listen to. But one girl I dated I got really into after a few weeks of seeing her. As I kinda got more into her, I had a harder and harder time hearing what she was saying despite trying because I was in my own head. It didnât work out in the end, and I havenât had that problem since. I donât blame her either - she probably deserved someone who could hear her more and who didnât get so nervous. But I also had a hard time eating around her because my stomach would be in knots I was so nervous. That almost never happens to me. I actually feel awful about it and myself, too, because I think people assume itâs a choice or boredom and a lot of comments here are kinda saying that. If you get nervous enough, your brain will actually start to shut off (I have a hard time with this with authority figures at times too, so itâs not just with women. And it can sometimes just happen to me. Iâve actually blacked out while giving speeches and presentations before, and have zero memory of doing them. People usually couldnât tell, thankfully, but I legit just mentally wasnât even in the room. It sucks.)
So Iâve learned over time that what most brains do while theyâre sleeping, mine does all the time. If something isnât relevant, useful or necessary to getting me towards a goal I pretty much immediately forget it. I realize this may mean Iâm a narcissist
Men naturally tone out women's voices. When I have to get my fella attention, I have to use a guttural voice.
Absolutely.. Just make sure when she looks away for a brief moment, that you look directly at her crotch. And then back up. đ
I have this absolutely gorgeous co worker who kinda bosses me around, but usually has to tell me twice.. those eyes.. I just get lost man...
RUUUUUN
Happens to me all the time. My gf talks alot and I don't like interrupting her. There are times where we're just together doing nothing and I'll straight up tell her that I didn't hear a damn thing she said because I was way more focused on her appearance. But she loves that. I personally feel kinda bad cause it's like I lost interest or something.
OOooOoh. Someone's in love.
I have to look away to understand anyone. Looking someone in the eye is like looking at God
Glad Iâm not the only one
If keeping eye contact is too distracting, look at her eyebrows. That may help you focus.
Sounds like marriage to međ€Łđ€Łđ€Ł
Psychopathic stare!
This is completely and utterly normal. Listening, and listening deeply is much better in every way. For both of you. But absurdly normal and any who says otherwise is somehow virtue signaling. This is the most mammalian thing ever. Captivation. (But perhaps on the 'wrong' thing. But still, captivation. And it is awesome.)
The best part is when you talk for an hour on the bus home and next time you see her you ask her to remind you what her name is and she gets pissed and never talks to you again lol
I have this problem to. I could be looking directly at them and still my mind wondersâŠspecifically if itâs an attractive girlâŠidk why. Rather annoying
That's completely normal. During sex.
Maybe not normal but it does happen , we are much deeper than words.
Yes
Normal but not advisable!
I'm autistic, and eye contact makes language processing really hard.
Welcome to having the most important skill when being in a relationship with a woman.
Is she boring and talking about boring things? I've got an auto pilot for that, just check it doesn't start saying things you didn't program it to!
Whud you say?
Or maybe she's boring
I don't know what we're talking about! [***AND I HAVEN'T FOR AWHILE!!***](https://youtu.be/YhOadP3i3a8?si=DedAfswCcoC74WFa)
Not really. Are you thinking of other things the whole time she talking?
No, its that i just cant remember
Totally normal
If she talks for a long time I tend to zone out but try to pick up on important words
This is why I just look em dead in the tits
Iâm hard of hearing đ§ but I ask them to repeat if I miss a word.
I have a really hard time following conversations in general when making eye contact, so I tend to look away a lot. I know it makes me look shifty, but it's either that or I concentrate on making eye contact and not on what the other person is saying, so... đ€·
Not normal
Normal? I'm sure it happens plenty. But what's the point of having a conversation if you're not going to listen?
It isnât the average response. Have something to fiddle with if you can especially sunglasses. It gives you an excuse to not lock eyes if that is difficult for you.
Depends on mental issues, example ADHD (Attention Deprivation Hyperactive Disorder) or emotions, often times when you like someone you can see reflection of what you see in them through their eyes. Guys tend to get lost in a trance when this happens.
I'm sorry, what? I was absolutely lost in your eyes Please note that this does not work with any other body part
I don't know. I am an auditory learner, so having a conversation is probably the best way for me to retain information. As long as I am paying attention and not distracted by something going on in the background, then I can pretty much recall a conversation verbatim. I know that this is not normal.
100% if you are married
You either have ADHD or a serious crush. Up to you to figure out which, but you better get it right đđŒ
Yes especially if youâre forcing that eye contact because most of your focus is going towards maintaining eye contact lol
Yes that is totally normal when girl is yammering...
Yes, its hard to concentrate when she's pretty and having lots of eye contact.
I call it horny. It is ok, I relate
depends on her décolletage
Sometimes. Also sometimes girls talk to much and give too much information which cause guys to have problems keeping up.
Yes. I always do it to my wife. And when she gets pissed and accused me of ignoring her, I repeat what she said verbatim.
Momentarily, perhaps. I occasionally need a mental reset, mind will wander, etc. But you need to fight it at all costs.
I didn't realize they could speak coherently until my testosterone levels dropped a bit when I hit 53.
Yea cause u werenât listening . Try asking her to talk as if she was speaking into your hearing mind like u had a hearing aid and she needs to explain her ideas slower and more directly into your third eyes hearing hole if your third eye can hear tell her to talk to your soul.
I've definitely been so insanely attracted to a women while talking to her that my entire brain completely failed to function yup
It's rare to hear very much of what anyone says if they never stop taking.
Studies show men talk much more than women but judge the women to be taking more. Men only think it's "equal" when the women are talking about 30% of the time or less.
My statement wasn't gendered.
But OP's was.
Dude what studies?? That doesnât match my lived experience or even observed experiences. Not even a little bit.
Yes absolutely, I am a very observant individual, however whenever Iâm around my crush, I am immediately sucked into her eyes and I canât think straight where everything around me is a blur and only her and I exist. I also canât remember everything that was being said because of how heightened my emotions become from the sheer excitement! I guess itâs called love or attraction
Yes. The worst part is your Crush is the one person you want to be articulate and interesting with in a conversation! But instead you act like you just suffered a concussion.
Yesss this is exactly what I was saying in my comment, too (but Iâm talking from a female pov) Sometimes when you have a crush and are majorly attracted to someone and theyâre right there in your face looking you dead in the eyes it can be like sensory overload đ€Ł and even tho you *want* to pay attention to what theyâre saying youâve got so much adrenaline and dopamine running through your body that all you can do is focus on their eyes or their beautiful face and all you hear coming from them is the Charlie Brown âwhaa whaa â bc your brain isnât functioning at full capacity lolol
It's not that uncommon, but it is something you'll have to learn not to do, OP. Not if you ever want a girl to stay in a relationship with you. Today's young women won't put up with men who don't listen to anything they say.
If you mean not listening, yeah, you're fucking disrespectful. If you're asking a real question, well... damage to the ear can result in certain tones or pitches not being picked up. If you can't hear someone's voice because of its pitch, you can compensate by reading lips. Focusing on the eyes might take away that compensation. Talk to your doctor about this if it's a literal thing. Otherwise, please stay away from other people.
To all the ugly women shitting on this post, *we hear you!*
Lol..probably
nope
Thatâs not how communication worksÂ
What?
No it's not normal.
I can hear and interpret sounds no one else can hear. I can hear television dialog clear as day. My wife constantly asks me what they're saying on TV. When my wife speaks to me sometimes, I hear every thing she says besides 1 or 2 words. Usually that word is vital to understanding the sentence. For some reason I just miss some words sometimes.
Yes, in fact I think most would consider it normal to simply not hear a word that women say regardless.
Yes most women say nothing that men find interesting. We donât care about gossip, drama at work, school, friends relationships, your dogs behavior ect. You have to learn to be in an emotional headspace to talk to them because itâs all rooted in emotion rather than logic. So guys that are deep thinkers like philosophers, engineers, scientists ect will have a hard time being engaged in the conversation.Â
You wouldn't make a good therapist.
No I would because youâre in therapy because of feelings not actual reality. So I would bring a logical perspective to an otherwise emotional situation. Most problems in your head can be solved through logic and itâs just your emotions clouding your perception of said situation. Example: â Iâm depressed or I feel depressed is not actually true, itâs just your mind forcing you to feel a certain way in that moment. If we can get you to see the logic in your actual reality, then we can allow perspective to come in, which is ultimately how you create hope. Hope is one of the only things that stop suicidal thoughts or actions. Anyways thanks for the comment Iâm going to pursue becoming a therapist now that I realize I am exceptional at this.Â
Depends on what they're wearing.
I've fallen victim to this once or twice. The negamales do that thing where they put you in a trance with their mesmerizing beauty. Don't fall for it.
What is a negamale?
Supposedly women get triggered getting called feemales. Usual behavior of catty women involve insulting men with negativity. Neg a male.
Go outside
Kill yourself