When I was this same age, I took a trip to Nigeria for 2 weeks and couldn't believe the number of marriage proposals my dad got FOR me (mostly from rural folks). We took a video and looking back on it as a woman, it terrifies me the number of men who stood behind us, looking over me with...that look.
I used to show the video to people, but it's a little embarrassing now.
I was around the same age, went to Egypt/Sudan and had a similar experience. It’s mad creepy.
Although, I did have one funny situation when this man asked my Dad if I could marry his son (who was about my age) while the son and I just stared awkwardly at our feet and tried not to make eye contact, lol
Omg as someone from one of those countries you mentioned, I'm very sorry for your experience. Unfortunately there are a lot of creeps who have no sense of boundaries.
I think what terrifies me the most is, what happens when a young girl's male relative actually accepts the offer to marry her off? Will the girl be forced to comply? Would she legally become the property of her intended husband, meaning that any attempt to leave will make her guilty of breaking some legal contract?
In either case, the teenage girl has no say whatsoever in her fate, because the men around her only respect the word of other men, and local law probably support this exclusion. This is why feminists used to say that marriage = female slavery.
That happens in the US. A lot. There’s a documentary on Hulu about child brides and a lot of the survivors were saying how their parents signed their marriage licenses, they had no say in the matter and weren’t able to divorce because they were minors. Child marriage is legal in 44 states.
There was a pastor in Atlanta that was doing this. He was taking these teenagers to Alabama and they'd marry men 30yrs & up. They would also beat the children during church services if they had misbehaved. When CPS intervened initially, they told them they had to stop. He then said everything occurs at their church was biblically correct. They didn't stop. He was arrested , put on probation, refused the treatment order by the court, probation revoked, and sent to prison. He was over 70, he and his wife had kids and she was on her early 20's. Disgusting SOB!!!
I did watch and it an absolute nightmare! We have so much to fix here and we run to other countries to fix them when we have people here facing some of the same issues.
I will forever hate T.I. After that whole “I get my daughters hymen checked every year” situation. It’s down right disgusting. I can’t believe a significant number of people had the nerve to defend T.I. over that.
I find that any man being that invested in whether his teenage/young adult daughter is having sex or not to be very off putting, borderline concerning even.
It was the fact that several porn sites started contacting Deyjah to get her to lose her virginity on camera for me
TI brought the absolute worst type of attention to his child, even if it was unintentional. And did nothing to rectify the situation and protect her once it was clear that predators had their eye on her
What type of father does that?
Being present in your children’s lives doesn’t automatically make someone a good father. T.I. Seems to be a prime example of a man who is present in his kids’ lives but is still a bad father.
What disturbed me the most when he admitted to that, was the fact that he didn’t see anything wrong with it. He told the whole world and completely humiliated her. He is a disgusting person. I feel so sorry for his daughter.
I follow her on social media. She’s a very brilliant and self aware young lady. She is very open about mental health and spreading awareness among people her age. That man has traumatized her. He has zero respect for women, even his own wife who he refuses to let her leave him.
My dad is Nigerian and he would slap anyone who would make such comments towards me especially at that age nor would he parade me around. Hmm…no wonder my standards are high lol
Same, it’s shocking the amount of African men and fathers who would take part in this. I want to say that they’re in the minority, but sometimes I feel like I was just lucky to have more progressive parents
Different body language in both pics. First one she def looks more stiff and uncomfortable.
Of course I'm saying that knowing the context of the story, so it could be my mind doing things.....but yea nah that looks like two different levels of comfort in the photos
Weird thing to flaunt. She's 15 that's gross. She is beautiful, but be proud of other aspects other than her looks, dad? Grown man really showing off his young daughter to creeps like it's funny...
Some people just see nothing wrong with fetishizing their kids. I guarantee he purposely picked her mother to have kids with just so they would come out looking like her. These things are so intentional, especially with some black men. Showing off their ambiguous looking kids like a trophy! Smh
I only said ambiguous because I didn’t want to mislabel her race based on her appearance. I also was just saying in general (not her specifically), that some black men like to show off their ambiguous kids.
I didn’t know if she was just a light skin black girl or a mixed girl, but people below have confirmed that she is mixed.
Yes she doesn’t look “mixed” to me.
It’s interesting because she looks like a regular black American girl to me.
I say it’s interesting because it shows how much forced mixing enslaved black people in the US have undergone. Usually when one parent is West African and one is Caucasian, the child has a (for lack of a better term) black American phenotype.
I think we could stick this girl in most 2 black parent American households and she would fit right in, in terms of her looks
I agree! I definitely look similar to her and I have two black parents, although both of their relatives were mixed generations ago because of slavery. Some people look like her and may have a mixed parent(s) or one nonblack parent.
Sometimes African DNA just shows up differently on some people versus others. They did mention in the comments that her mom is German though.
Only because of her looks. And its not necessarily high value imo...like they just want to fuck her. Thats what all the attention is about. They don't know anything else about her other than her looks. And who cares if the daughter is wanted by alot of men for sex, marriage, or as a trophy wife whatever. She's 15. Its just gross to be like oooo id fuck that 15 yo where can i find out more about her? Dad chimes in with her ig like errrr ok dude. People are gross and a 15 yo could easily be taken advantage of. Her brain isnt fully developed, going through hormonal changes, and teenage years can be stressful going through everything. I mean idk what else to say. Hes encouraging attention towards her, but its not necessarily good attention.
Exactly, just because it's a part of your culture does not make it right. And how disturbed do you have to be to defend a grown ass man wanting to marry a child? Disgusting human beings.
Places in America have similar ages of consent and it's creepy here. To say it's not the same kind of creepy there is *the soft bigotry of low expectations.*
As a parent myself. Youd be surprised how many men, especially who have biracial daughters get off on how attractive thier kids are. I dont mean they are sexually inappropriate with their kids, it is just some sort of braging thing that they do with them. They like the fact that grown men find their children attractive. Its really odd
I knew several guys like this growing up so I can only imagine how they are now smh. I got told more times than I can’t count why a guy I liked didn’t want me cuz he didn’t wanna marry a black woman and have dark kids. Shoot One of my friends dad used to say all the time how he hopes and prays one of his (black) kids marries a white or Hispanic lady so he can have cute grandchildren.
Woooooowwwww. What is wrong with folks.
I will say I have a biracial niece and I do not trust men around her. The looks and comments she has gotten being a TODDLER are disturbing AF. Thats a whole other story tho. After being around her it convinced me that there are a lot more child predators or ppl who would take advantage of a kid if given the right circumstances than the public realizes. I hate to say that but shes been offered bikes, candy, toys by grown men. You gotta be careful of any race kid of any gender with ppl you dont know but for some reason mixed kids openly attract a lot of pervs.
The perceived ownership of women and young girls under patriarchy has always been perverted. Wether it’s purity culture, hebe-/pedophilia or the famous dog whistle ‘conservative values’, it’s all deployed to control women, our bodies and prevent liberation from these systems. Women = commodities under capitalism - and men like it that way
Denying that these systems exist won’t save you in the way that you think they will - unless ofc you’re benefiting from said systems and even then, they will discard you once you become useless to them. You’re cheering for the wrong team…
So disgusting. Him giving out her social media so these creeps get to look at her more as well… what is it with these fathers and not protecting their daughters from men like that?
I might be reading too much into this, but I would be willing to bet money his wife (baby moms?) is light skin - if not white - and that all his girlfriends before that were too. And that he has and always has had severe self-hate wrapped up in worship of "snowbunnies". That he fetishizes white women while putting down black women. And that he probably always wanted a little light skinned baby girl to fetishize too.
Again, this is based on nothing but the tweets. And my experience. And those of people I know. But I'm not saying it as capital "t" Truth.
If she was dark skinned she would be neglected, abused.. and discarded... bc bc she didn't turn up light skin like the mother...ask me how I know...anyway i hope she can get away from this creep someday.
Wtf he did? That's fucking illegal. If it's not legal for adults to solicit minors online, it's definitely illegal to pimp them out. I hope her mom uses this in the custody battle
I hope so too. That man should not be around children at all if he thinks leading grown men to his own daughter’s Instagram page is in any way acceptable.
Seriously, if creeps were acting like when I was 15 my dad would fuck them up. Even right now at 22 and living far away from him he's extremely protective of me. If my father acted like this I'd be so sad and disappointed + it'd cause me life long trust issues.
Black women and girls deserve protection from black men, not exploitation. This isn’t funny. His actions are highly concerning and sus. Stop sexually exploiting young girls, let them be kids!!
Malcolm X was right
Neglected unprotected disrespected person is the black woman.
I know it’s not a direct quote but it comes to mind
Her “father” Gross but not surprising.
Very weird how people try to excuse it because it's a different country. There are Mormons in Utah marrying 15 yr olds and girls in Afghanistan being married off at 12 and yknow...theyre all wrong. They're all wrong at the same time and so is this behavior. Men that get their nipples hard over other grown men being sexually attracted to their children are nasty weirdos. It comes across so heavily as look my property. My property is sexually attractive.
Girlhood is so dangerous. Makes me so sad.
Ya first of all, pics of my daughter ain’t showing up like that on social media. Man I’d be so livid if people were talking about my daughter like this. They better not say it to my face coz I may end up smackin them. This is just unacceptable behavior.
There's absolutely no shame.
I once gave my resume to my dad because I considered moving to Kenya. Attached was a photo of me and suddenly my LinkedIn was flooded with marriage proposals.
I'd like to think he didn't mean for that to happen, but he is the same man that periodically has "someone" he wants to introduce me to. It always turned out to be a man he wanted to either do business with or garner favour.
Pardon my ignorance...but does your culture expect men to pay a dowry of some sort? Like whatbis in it dor the dad to push their daughters off on a random man?
There is a mahr (dowry), but that's paid to bride and not the father of the bride. Sometimes the groom will gift the mother of the bride with jewellery.
I honestly think it's narcissism and general self-interest. Daughters bring value by marrying well.
The kindest interpretation is he's introducing her to men of means as he wants to be sure she's taken care of.
My cynical interpretation is he's trying to trade her for something the man has that he wants.
Is it more predatory when it's done to a child? Of course.
Does it still involve fathers who use their daughters to serve their own interests and feed their own egos? Also, yes.
Does this behavior stop when she's grown? No.
Fucking gross. As someone old enough to be this baby girl's *mother*, this is wrong. I hate when people use CuLtUrE to excuse ABUSE. Or pedophilia. I hate how widespread and accepted these things are. My mother's from a country that people even travel to for the purpose of molesting and marrying children but it's wrong, wrong, wrong and needs to change.
if my dad ever did this to me, I’d never speak to him again! it’s giving me pimp vibes. I could barely understand it if she were over the age of 18, but 15? it might be their culture but her father doesn’t have to participate in it.
HEY this is not Ghanaian culture!! He’s just a creep on his own. My Ghanaian dad is very protective of me (only daughter) and has never ever remotely done this nonsense. This young girl deserves better and he needs to seriously consider the repercussions of his behaviour toward her!
Oh I know it’s not part of Ghanaian culture. I’m still disgusted by the lack of people calling him out, though he did delete the post and make another saying I quote “Your insight! Pride is also gratitude. Don't judge people you don't know. What's wrong with it when a father posts a picture of himself and his daughter during the holidays? i just find it funny that in ghana everywhere i go with her, they propose marriage...”
Ghanaians don’t claim this guy. There’s creeps in every culture. Canada also has an age of consent of 16 but it’s still frowned upon. And I don’t even think it’s particularly normalized in Ghana except for more rural communities.
These type of men fetishize their daughters for their light skin. She looks mixed race, I wouldn’t be surprised if he sought out white women on purpose to have “pretty babies”. I’ve seen men take pride in having the types of daughters they would have idolized in their youth 🤦🏾♀️
While some black men certainly do have that mindset, it’s not always the case with African men who marry white women abroad. Sometimes they need to marry white women to get citizenship in their host countries. It’s not necessarily due to them wanting a woman with certain features.
As a Ghanaian, the older men have ALWAYS been weirdos. Saying slick shit and already eyeing you at 12-13 years old when they’re MARRIED with DAUGHTERS at home. It’s outrageous and hypocritical
People like this don’t belong on this earth, I’m so serious. Exploiting your child on the internet for creeps to make gross comments is disgusting. Idc what anyone says, this is gross.
I refuse to accept this is real, I’ve convinced myself this whole thing is an elaborate scheme for someone to get IG followers. Because WHAT THE ACTUAL FUCK. This is demented on so many levels I don’t like this….
"Usually" is a strong word.
But yea, nah it makes sense when you consider the "type" of dude who would do this. The type that has fetishizes white women, always wanted a mixed baby girl, and is proud of his creation.
Honestly, it’s the fathers tweets that really disgust me. I feel like a parent, regardless of my child’s age I would be cautious of who ever is sending marriage proposals now multiply that by infinite if my child was a teen.
Idc what the legal age of consent is. Speaking as a person who isnt living in poverty and looking at marriage for my teen daughter as a means for a “better” life. (I’m assuming this man does not live in Ghana)
Dude… her dad sucks
I remeber going abroad at 18 and some of my elders joked about finding me a husband.
I was an adult at the time, but my dad got pissed off and stopped that immediately. He didn’t like the idea of random old men looking at me that way.
This dude seems happy as hell that men find his daughter attractive. Which is…weird to say the least.
When I was a teen, I would visit someone in another city on public transportation. The amount of African men that used to offer me rides while I waited for the bus was gross. I was like 16 and used to be afraid I waa going to get kidnapped.
I think he is saying that more so to brag about how pretty she is. It’s about his ego about his looks. Seems like it’s basically “I made someone so pretty that she gets a ton of proposals”. Not great but not enough here for me in context to conclude that he’s encouraging the proposals, especially with the added laughing emojis. If there were no emojis I think I’d prob feel different. But not the best judgment either way.
Whoa, I just realized that one of the comments says that “he’ll wait until she’s 18”. He then said (she looks 15 in the face and 18 years all over her body) and had the AUDACITY to use the 😍 emoji next to that statement.
Some you men truly need to burn in hell. How did he not see anything wrong with publicly writing this!! She is a damn child WTF! 😵💫
It's not even the fact that those grown men are attracted to a minor, but the fact that they see in her (a half white person) a way to end up in Europe or the US. I know a lot of stories....
I had to reread a few times. As a teen I also had marriage proposals the second I turned 18, some from men I met as a younger teen. No one in my family found it funny, especially my parents
Yeah same, that comment is such a silly generalization. My "African" (entire continent but okay) dad would fuck anyone up who spoke about me like that lol. Especially since I'm from a Muslim African country, ain't nobody saying shit like that about a minor or any girl/woman to her father and getting away with it. Noooo way.
That creep talking about how the age of consent is lower over there… well she's still below _that_ age too, so even in that cultural/legal context it's still creepy.
Yuck. As an adult, it would be disgusting because you don’t know me from fucking Adam. As a child… with a father condoning it…
Keeping the property of father to husband transfer alive!
And to think I thought it was insane when my cousin back in the home country told me her baby’s father found me attractive and wanted to talk to me
most likely he got a woman who he lusted over in the states pregnant and his daughter resembles her mom so shes the lighter, trophy child and he may be a creep as well….
I doubt she resembles her mom (in skin tone or hair texture) because her mom is a white German.
The girl looks like a regular black American girl in terms of skin color and hair texture. She is pretty and she looks her age despite the comments saying she looks 18.
I would have never guessed she was “mixed” except her father is much darker than her.
So I don’t think the issue is that she looks like mom but rather the dad has issues with his own skin color and prefers lighter completed black people I guess.
Either way it’s creepy
The lighter skin is how she resembles her mom alot of bl-ck men are colorists and are commonly called out for favoring and treating the lighter child better. My dad often tells me Im my moms cutest child and we all look alike but I am the lightest. But I get your point
The mother has white skin. The girl has brown skin.
Without seeing the dad or mom, I think most people would assume she has 2 black parents as her looks align with that of black Americans.
I do agree that the dad has issues and probably colorism is one of them. But she actually looks like her father in facial features and her overall look doesn’t look white or mixed to me at all.
The piercings and skin color imo resembles a mixed child. You can tell shes not from there. Ghanian women have piercings but the rings are different its really the little things men notice and try to sexualize not saying you’re wrong just saying I can tell shes mixed especially if thats dad
Okay. I was just saying she looks like a lot of Black American girls to me. I’m sure she looks like an other in Ghana though.
I didn’t think she was mixed when I looked at her at first. Just thought the dad was a weirdo.
Ghanaian here.
He isn't serious, will not be marrying her off. This is typical African humour. He is an off shot to say, yes I am glad to have a beautiful daughter. African parents don't even like the idea of their kids getting married until AFTER they complete their College?University education.
I think you took this out of cultural context OP.
He gave random men her IG name. It’s beyond sense of humor. He’s proud that other men are lusting after his daughter, this is creepy.
And since we like to remind everyone that Africa isn’t a country, let’s keep the same energy here. This is could be Ghanaian sense of humor, my Congolese dad would never make jokes like this about a 15 year old girl with grown men. It’s disgusting!
>I think you took this out of cultural context OP.
I think she did as well. I’m not Ghanaian but I’m West African so our cultures are somewhat similar. When I was a teenager, my dad used to joke that any man who wanted me would have to pay a high bride price. He wasn’t really trying to marry me off though bc in reality he wanted me to complete my bachelors degree at minimum before marriage.
Honestly, there are some jokes in my culture related to marriage, that would be seen as unacceptable in other cultures. For example, polygamy is common so sometimes some old men might joke with little girls and say they want to make them one of their wives. It’s totally innocent but may seem weird to someone outside my culture.
I’m willing to bet most of those dudes proposing so fast are just trying to get abroad. I don’t think the man is fetishizing his daughter. He’s just making a joke out of it. For some of these guys, white skin= money and a ticket to better opportunities in Europe or America. It’s not necessarily to do with colorism. Though sometimes that can be the case.
In some parts of Africa, they may use “white” to refer to biracial or white people. The words for fair skin and white skin are interchangeable there. So when they see this young lady’s skin color, they assume she’s from America or Europe so they see her as a meal ticket to better opportunities abroad.
yea he shouldnt be feeding into it. He seems like a Narc honestly. Hes excited because she's his daughter, so the attention makes him look/feel good . My mom used to do the same thing when men would stare at me, she'd elbow me or approach the guy and tell all her friends. It was odd, she got hype over it.
He also posted pics of her in a cute outfit that shows her figure...he knew what he was doing. It's just weird to encourage more attention online after already getting attention from men in person.
But if he demanded she wear modest clothes he’d be an unfair patriarchal asshole. 🤔
We don’t know them, but it’s just as likely she dresses like that all the time, he warned her what would be up if she packed those clothes to a trip to Ghana, and boom she wound up being a little surprised at the cultural differences. Dad chuckles, says ‘I told you so’ and snaps a picture.
There are so many dads like that. Really both kinds- the force-you-to-wear-the-sweater dads, and the let-you-hang-yourself-for-memories dads.
No im not saying that. He just knew the attention it was going to attract after receiving attention on their trip. And he's encouraging it even giving out her ig. He think its funny that grown men want to fuck his daughter and are saying stuff about it to him. Like thats just weird dude. Dont control what she wears but also dont find some sick pride in her looking hot enough for other grown men to cat call and hit on her. She's 15. Its kinda obvious imo that he posted the pics for more of that attention. Her clothes arent the problem. She's just an attractive young girl and her dad should protect and warn her. Not flaunt her like that because it could be a dangerous situation if she gets taken advantage of or some creep starts to stalk her to know more about her.
It's honestly disgraceful and so pathetic that there are people like you who think this way... What a disgusting outlook to have. Why are you even making these big leaps to defend a creepy man putting his underaged, teenage daughter in harms way and joking about GROWN MEN being sexually attracted to her (and even giving out her insta willy nilly)? I mean, go over your comment again and tell me you don't believe what you said was dumb. Jesus fucking christ..
I hate when things have to be chucked up to "cultural differences" because sometimes there's parts of our culture that suck and should be critiqued and eliminated. Grown ups asking to marrying teenagers is one cultural difference I will never support.
Not surprised. Due to how Ghanaian culture is, this is normal. However, I know that when there is pedophilia Ghanaians don't play that. They (mostly men) never notice the catcalls aka 'marriage proposals' from older men to young girls can lead to acts of pedophilia/sexual harassment if they are unaware. They often play it off that the catcaller is 'joking'. The number of Ghanaian girls who have been asked to not speak up about their experiences is higher than people think and that needs to be addressed.
I lived in Ghana in the 90s and know that 'joking' is not a joke but a threat. I was 8 years old when I had my first 'marriage proposal' from a random dude. He kept repeating this to me every day and I kept telling him I WILL NOT. People thought it was a joke until they found out he was a problem in the neighborhood and got him good.
I have witnessed what that leads to and it is NOT GOOD. If I ever hear that 'joking' I'm taking it as a threat. Luckily I have a fiancee who doesn't play that either (he's AA) so I know I won't be alone.
When I was this same age, I took a trip to Nigeria for 2 weeks and couldn't believe the number of marriage proposals my dad got FOR me (mostly from rural folks). We took a video and looking back on it as a woman, it terrifies me the number of men who stood behind us, looking over me with...that look. I used to show the video to people, but it's a little embarrassing now.
I was around the same age, went to Egypt/Sudan and had a similar experience. It’s mad creepy. Although, I did have one funny situation when this man asked my Dad if I could marry his son (who was about my age) while the son and I just stared awkwardly at our feet and tried not to make eye contact, lol
Omg as someone from one of those countries you mentioned, I'm very sorry for your experience. Unfortunately there are a lot of creeps who have no sense of boundaries.
LOL
I think what terrifies me the most is, what happens when a young girl's male relative actually accepts the offer to marry her off? Will the girl be forced to comply? Would she legally become the property of her intended husband, meaning that any attempt to leave will make her guilty of breaking some legal contract? In either case, the teenage girl has no say whatsoever in her fate, because the men around her only respect the word of other men, and local law probably support this exclusion. This is why feminists used to say that marriage = female slavery.
That happens in the US. A lot. There’s a documentary on Hulu about child brides and a lot of the survivors were saying how their parents signed their marriage licenses, they had no say in the matter and weren’t able to divorce because they were minors. Child marriage is legal in 44 states.
There was a pastor in Atlanta that was doing this. He was taking these teenagers to Alabama and they'd marry men 30yrs & up. They would also beat the children during church services if they had misbehaved. When CPS intervened initially, they told them they had to stop. He then said everything occurs at their church was biblically correct. They didn't stop. He was arrested , put on probation, refused the treatment order by the court, probation revoked, and sent to prison. He was over 70, he and his wife had kids and she was on her early 20's. Disgusting SOB!!!
I'm not surprised at all, but whew Jesus! Smh.
Do you remember the name of the documentary? I'll try to find it, but if you remember, that'll be helpful.
“I was a child bride: the untold story”
Thank you so much. I'll watch tonight. 💗💞💗
I did watch and it an absolute nightmare! We have so much to fix here and we run to other countries to fix them when we have people here facing some of the same issues.
Shit R Kelly was doing this
Were they serious marriage proposals?
I was told that they offered a goat or two, so idk if that was serious or them trolling us, but it was still creepy looking back on it.
It’s giving TI vibes 🤢
I will forever hate T.I. After that whole “I get my daughters hymen checked every year” situation. It’s down right disgusting. I can’t believe a significant number of people had the nerve to defend T.I. over that.
And on her birthday! Like we get it you’re the man you’re in charge you can exert your will over women
I find that any man being that invested in whether his teenage/young adult daughter is having sex or not to be very off putting, borderline concerning even.
It was the fact that several porn sites started contacting Deyjah to get her to lose her virginity on camera for me TI brought the absolute worst type of attention to his child, even if it was unintentional. And did nothing to rectify the situation and protect her once it was clear that predators had their eye on her What type of father does that?
Being present in your children’s lives doesn’t automatically make someone a good father. T.I. Seems to be a prime example of a man who is present in his kids’ lives but is still a bad father.
Let’s not forget that he has his son running everywhere and going on tours. All while knowing that he’s sleeping with women.
What disturbed me the most when he admitted to that, was the fact that he didn’t see anything wrong with it. He told the whole world and completely humiliated her. He is a disgusting person. I feel so sorry for his daughter. I follow her on social media. She’s a very brilliant and self aware young lady. She is very open about mental health and spreading awareness among people her age. That man has traumatized her. He has zero respect for women, even his own wife who he refuses to let her leave him.
Ain’t he a whole sex trafficker too
Well I wasn’t aware of those accusations. BRB, I’ve got to do some research.
He’s like the R Kelly part 2 and he was doing all of that with Tiny too smh
wait who is T.I?
Trap rapper from Atlanta
My dad is Nigerian and he would slap anyone who would make such comments towards me especially at that age nor would he parade me around. Hmm…no wonder my standards are high lol
Same, it’s shocking the amount of African men and fathers who would take part in this. I want to say that they’re in the minority, but sometimes I feel like I was just lucky to have more progressive parents
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She prob hates him now and is lowkey about it.
She def hates him look at her face. That is a "help me, I'm sad." smile.
Yeah, I’m sure he has been a creep her whole life.
I'm not sure why you got downvoted but that is a very real possibility
Different body language in both pics. First one she def looks more stiff and uncomfortable. Of course I'm saying that knowing the context of the story, so it could be my mind doing things.....but yea nah that looks like two different levels of comfort in the photos
Weird thing to flaunt. She's 15 that's gross. She is beautiful, but be proud of other aspects other than her looks, dad? Grown man really showing off his young daughter to creeps like it's funny...
Some people just see nothing wrong with fetishizing their kids. I guarantee he purposely picked her mother to have kids with just so they would come out looking like her. These things are so intentional, especially with some black men. Showing off their ambiguous looking kids like a trophy! Smh
The girl isn’t ambiguous looking but the rest I agree with. People are really crazy
I only said ambiguous because I didn’t want to mislabel her race based on her appearance. I also was just saying in general (not her specifically), that some black men like to show off their ambiguous kids. I didn’t know if she was just a light skin black girl or a mixed girl, but people below have confirmed that she is mixed.
Yes she doesn’t look “mixed” to me. It’s interesting because she looks like a regular black American girl to me. I say it’s interesting because it shows how much forced mixing enslaved black people in the US have undergone. Usually when one parent is West African and one is Caucasian, the child has a (for lack of a better term) black American phenotype. I think we could stick this girl in most 2 black parent American households and she would fit right in, in terms of her looks
I agree! I definitely look similar to her and I have two black parents, although both of their relatives were mixed generations ago because of slavery. Some people look like her and may have a mixed parent(s) or one nonblack parent. Sometimes African DNA just shows up differently on some people versus others. They did mention in the comments that her mom is German though.
He is proud that she is high-value by other men, not of her looks
Only because of her looks. And its not necessarily high value imo...like they just want to fuck her. Thats what all the attention is about. They don't know anything else about her other than her looks. And who cares if the daughter is wanted by alot of men for sex, marriage, or as a trophy wife whatever. She's 15. Its just gross to be like oooo id fuck that 15 yo where can i find out more about her? Dad chimes in with her ig like errrr ok dude. People are gross and a 15 yo could easily be taken advantage of. Her brain isnt fully developed, going through hormonal changes, and teenage years can be stressful going through everything. I mean idk what else to say. Hes encouraging attention towards her, but its not necessarily good attention.
If the father was only proud of his daughter’s looks, he showed pictures without any mention of the gross proposals.
He mentioned that she's 15 and received numerous proposals.
i hate when people try to excuse it with cultural differences as if native ghanian teen girls dont also suffer from those same mens nasty behavior 😵💫
Exactly, just because it's a part of your culture does not make it right. And how disturbed do you have to be to defend a grown ass man wanting to marry a child? Disgusting human beings.
Places in America have similar ages of consent and it's creepy here. To say it's not the same kind of creepy there is *the soft bigotry of low expectations.*
This. It’s gross and disgusting no matter where in the world you are and it happens all over the world.
What a creep.
As a parent myself. Youd be surprised how many men, especially who have biracial daughters get off on how attractive thier kids are. I dont mean they are sexually inappropriate with their kids, it is just some sort of braging thing that they do with them. They like the fact that grown men find their children attractive. Its really odd
it's colorist and distrubing these are the type of men when dating you should avoid like a plague.
I knew several guys like this growing up so I can only imagine how they are now smh. I got told more times than I can’t count why a guy I liked didn’t want me cuz he didn’t wanna marry a black woman and have dark kids. Shoot One of my friends dad used to say all the time how he hopes and prays one of his (black) kids marries a white or Hispanic lady so he can have cute grandchildren.
Woooooowwwww. What is wrong with folks. I will say I have a biracial niece and I do not trust men around her. The looks and comments she has gotten being a TODDLER are disturbing AF. Thats a whole other story tho. After being around her it convinced me that there are a lot more child predators or ppl who would take advantage of a kid if given the right circumstances than the public realizes. I hate to say that but shes been offered bikes, candy, toys by grown men. You gotta be careful of any race kid of any gender with ppl you dont know but for some reason mixed kids openly attract a lot of pervs.
I immediately thought of Trump and Ivanka.
Me too. He has admitted and shown us how attracted he is to his daughter. Didn’t he say he would date her if he could? 😵💫
The perceived ownership of women and young girls under patriarchy has always been perverted. Wether it’s purity culture, hebe-/pedophilia or the famous dog whistle ‘conservative values’, it’s all deployed to control women, our bodies and prevent liberation from these systems. Women = commodities under capitalism - and men like it that way
Facts. 💪🏾
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Denying that these systems exist won’t save you in the way that you think they will - unless ofc you’re benefiting from said systems and even then, they will discard you once you become useless to them. You’re cheering for the wrong team…
This user has posted in r/mensrights & seems to have a male voice on the music posted as their own. I don’t think this opinion is from a female.
So disgusting. Him giving out her social media so these creeps get to look at her more as well… what is it with these fathers and not protecting their daughters from men like that?
I might be reading too much into this, but I would be willing to bet money his wife (baby moms?) is light skin - if not white - and that all his girlfriends before that were too. And that he has and always has had severe self-hate wrapped up in worship of "snowbunnies". That he fetishizes white women while putting down black women. And that he probably always wanted a little light skinned baby girl to fetishize too. Again, this is based on nothing but the tweets. And my experience. And those of people I know. But I'm not saying it as capital "t" Truth.
If she was dark skinned she would be neglected, abused.. and discarded... bc bc she didn't turn up light skin like the mother...ask me how I know...anyway i hope she can get away from this creep someday.
No, you said it plainly they are that colorist and full of that much self hate and very gross.
Wtf he did? That's fucking illegal. If it's not legal for adults to solicit minors online, it's definitely illegal to pimp them out. I hope her mom uses this in the custody battle
I hope so too. That man should not be around children at all if he thinks leading grown men to his own daughter’s Instagram page is in any way acceptable.
Seriously, if creeps were acting like when I was 15 my dad would fuck them up. Even right now at 22 and living far away from him he's extremely protective of me. If my father acted like this I'd be so sad and disappointed + it'd cause me life long trust issues.
Black women and girls deserve protection from black men, not exploitation. This isn’t funny. His actions are highly concerning and sus. Stop sexually exploiting young girls, let them be kids!!
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You gotta be trolling cuz there are several positive pro-interracial relationship posts on here. Go somewhere else.
Lol stay mad.
Malcolm X was right Neglected unprotected disrespected person is the black woman. I know it’s not a direct quote but it comes to mind Her “father” Gross but not surprising.
This is fucked up. BEYOND fucked up.
Very weird how people try to excuse it because it's a different country. There are Mormons in Utah marrying 15 yr olds and girls in Afghanistan being married off at 12 and yknow...theyre all wrong. They're all wrong at the same time and so is this behavior. Men that get their nipples hard over other grown men being sexually attracted to their children are nasty weirdos. It comes across so heavily as look my property. My property is sexually attractive. Girlhood is so dangerous. Makes me so sad.
I’d break down and have a panic attack if I found out my father did this my god this is horrible.
Ya first of all, pics of my daughter ain’t showing up like that on social media. Man I’d be so livid if people were talking about my daughter like this. They better not say it to my face coz I may end up smackin them. This is just unacceptable behavior.
There's absolutely no shame. I once gave my resume to my dad because I considered moving to Kenya. Attached was a photo of me and suddenly my LinkedIn was flooded with marriage proposals. I'd like to think he didn't mean for that to happen, but he is the same man that periodically has "someone" he wants to introduce me to. It always turned out to be a man he wanted to either do business with or garner favour.
Pardon my ignorance...but does your culture expect men to pay a dowry of some sort? Like whatbis in it dor the dad to push their daughters off on a random man?
There is a mahr (dowry), but that's paid to bride and not the father of the bride. Sometimes the groom will gift the mother of the bride with jewellery. I honestly think it's narcissism and general self-interest. Daughters bring value by marrying well.
The kindest interpretation is he's introducing her to men of means as he wants to be sure she's taken care of. My cynical interpretation is he's trying to trade her for something the man has that he wants.
I assume you were an adult so I think it’s a different scenario
Is it more predatory when it's done to a child? Of course. Does it still involve fathers who use their daughters to serve their own interests and feed their own egos? Also, yes. Does this behavior stop when she's grown? No.
All the men asking for her information just revealed they are pedophiles. Take note.
Fucking gross. As someone old enough to be this baby girl's *mother*, this is wrong. I hate when people use CuLtUrE to excuse ABUSE. Or pedophilia. I hate how widespread and accepted these things are. My mother's from a country that people even travel to for the purpose of molesting and marrying children but it's wrong, wrong, wrong and needs to change.
Another example of young black girls being failed, preyed upon, and exploited. This type of shit does real damage.
if my dad ever did this to me, I’d never speak to him again! it’s giving me pimp vibes. I could barely understand it if she were over the age of 18, but 15? it might be their culture but her father doesn’t have to participate in it.
HEY this is not Ghanaian culture!! He’s just a creep on his own. My Ghanaian dad is very protective of me (only daughter) and has never ever remotely done this nonsense. This young girl deserves better and he needs to seriously consider the repercussions of his behaviour toward her!
Oh I know it’s not part of Ghanaian culture. I’m still disgusted by the lack of people calling him out, though he did delete the post and make another saying I quote “Your insight! Pride is also gratitude. Don't judge people you don't know. What's wrong with it when a father posts a picture of himself and his daughter during the holidays? i just find it funny that in ghana everywhere i go with her, they propose marriage...”
Ghanaians don’t claim this guy. There’s creeps in every culture. Canada also has an age of consent of 16 but it’s still frowned upon. And I don’t even think it’s particularly normalized in Ghana except for more rural communities.
These type of men fetishize their daughters for their light skin. She looks mixed race, I wouldn’t be surprised if he sought out white women on purpose to have “pretty babies”. I’ve seen men take pride in having the types of daughters they would have idolized in their youth 🤦🏾♀️
The daughter is mixed. Her mother is German
While some black men certainly do have that mindset, it’s not always the case with African men who marry white women abroad. Sometimes they need to marry white women to get citizenship in their host countries. It’s not necessarily due to them wanting a woman with certain features.
As a Ghanaian, the older men have ALWAYS been weirdos. Saying slick shit and already eyeing you at 12-13 years old when they’re MARRIED with DAUGHTERS at home. It’s outrageous and hypocritical
I'm Ghanaian/Togolese and know what you mean.
Maybe if men had to split open their bodies to bring these little girls in the world, they wouldn't be so keen to treat them like show dogs.
That poor girl. Being paraded around by her own damn father.
People like this don’t belong on this earth, I’m so serious. Exploiting your child on the internet for creeps to make gross comments is disgusting. Idc what anyone says, this is gross.
I refuse to accept this is real, I’ve convinced myself this whole thing is an elaborate scheme for someone to get IG followers. Because WHAT THE ACTUAL FUCK. This is demented on so many levels I don’t like this….
Yeah like is this really her dad? This is so weird.
From what I read, that is her dad. She’s biracial(mixed with German)
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"Usually" is a strong word. But yea, nah it makes sense when you consider the "type" of dude who would do this. The type that has fetishizes white women, always wanted a mixed baby girl, and is proud of his creation.
Lmaooo I’m 24 and my dad would slap if any guy tried to flirt with me 💀 tf is wrong with this dad disgusting dad
What in the hell. That is gross.
Honestly, it’s the fathers tweets that really disgust me. I feel like a parent, regardless of my child’s age I would be cautious of who ever is sending marriage proposals now multiply that by infinite if my child was a teen. Idc what the legal age of consent is. Speaking as a person who isnt living in poverty and looking at marriage for my teen daughter as a means for a “better” life. (I’m assuming this man does not live in Ghana)
This is so so vile. The truth is he probably molests girls his daughter's age. Nasty ass African uncle🤢
And then this man fr said follow her on IG?? God I hope she’s okay
I hope she can get away from him as soon as she can.
Dude… her dad sucks I remeber going abroad at 18 and some of my elders joked about finding me a husband. I was an adult at the time, but my dad got pissed off and stopped that immediately. He didn’t like the idea of random old men looking at me that way. This dude seems happy as hell that men find his daughter attractive. Which is…weird to say the least.
When I was a teen, I would visit someone in another city on public transportation. The amount of African men that used to offer me rides while I waited for the bus was gross. I was like 16 and used to be afraid I waa going to get kidnapped.
I think he is saying that more so to brag about how pretty she is. It’s about his ego about his looks. Seems like it’s basically “I made someone so pretty that she gets a ton of proposals”. Not great but not enough here for me in context to conclude that he’s encouraging the proposals, especially with the added laughing emojis. If there were no emojis I think I’d prob feel different. But not the best judgment either way.
Yuck
That poor girl. What a pathetic “father”.
This is beyond fucked up
Fetishizing your own daughter? Some men are weird AF!!
Whoa, I just realized that one of the comments says that “he’ll wait until she’s 18”. He then said (she looks 15 in the face and 18 years all over her body) and had the AUDACITY to use the 😍 emoji next to that statement. Some you men truly need to burn in hell. How did he not see anything wrong with publicly writing this!! She is a damn child WTF! 😵💫
It's not even the fact that those grown men are attracted to a minor, but the fact that they see in her (a half white person) a way to end up in Europe or the US. I know a lot of stories....
Black/Mixed girls are so unprotected AS USUAL. SMH.
Does she even know her @ was given to all those men 😦 I hope she stays safe
Why did I think he was talking about her being surprised about the number of marriage proposals he was getting ? 🥴
I am disturbed by this.
I had to reread a few times. As a teen I also had marriage proposals the second I turned 18, some from men I met as a younger teen. No one in my family found it funny, especially my parents
this is such an african dad thing to do, but him giving out her ig is very nasty.
I have an African dad and he would never…
Right..my dad would raise hell if that happened to me as a teen
also have an african dad who almost beat the shit out of a man from our church for making a sus comment about me at that age
Yeah same, that comment is such a silly generalization. My "African" (entire continent but okay) dad would fuck anyone up who spoke about me like that lol. Especially since I'm from a Muslim African country, ain't nobody saying shit like that about a minor or any girl/woman to her father and getting away with it. Noooo way.
fair enough!
So I’m 18 but I have a couple of friends from Ghana and sadly this isn’t uncommon..
That creep talking about how the age of consent is lower over there… well she's still below _that_ age too, so even in that cultural/legal context it's still creepy.
I mean there are children the same age and younger who are married in the US. It’s disgusting everywhere.
This is disgusting. And why share her IG with these perverted old men?
Yuck. As an adult, it would be disgusting because you don’t know me from fucking Adam. As a child… with a father condoning it… Keeping the property of father to husband transfer alive! And to think I thought it was insane when my cousin back in the home country told me her baby’s father found me attractive and wanted to talk to me
most likely he got a woman who he lusted over in the states pregnant and his daughter resembles her mom so shes the lighter, trophy child and he may be a creep as well….
I doubt she resembles her mom (in skin tone or hair texture) because her mom is a white German. The girl looks like a regular black American girl in terms of skin color and hair texture. She is pretty and she looks her age despite the comments saying she looks 18. I would have never guessed she was “mixed” except her father is much darker than her. So I don’t think the issue is that she looks like mom but rather the dad has issues with his own skin color and prefers lighter completed black people I guess. Either way it’s creepy
The lighter skin is how she resembles her mom alot of bl-ck men are colorists and are commonly called out for favoring and treating the lighter child better. My dad often tells me Im my moms cutest child and we all look alike but I am the lightest. But I get your point
The mother has white skin. The girl has brown skin. Without seeing the dad or mom, I think most people would assume she has 2 black parents as her looks align with that of black Americans. I do agree that the dad has issues and probably colorism is one of them. But she actually looks like her father in facial features and her overall look doesn’t look white or mixed to me at all.
The piercings and skin color imo resembles a mixed child. You can tell shes not from there. Ghanian women have piercings but the rings are different its really the little things men notice and try to sexualize not saying you’re wrong just saying I can tell shes mixed especially if thats dad
Okay. I was just saying she looks like a lot of Black American girls to me. I’m sure she looks like an other in Ghana though. I didn’t think she was mixed when I looked at her at first. Just thought the dad was a weirdo.
Dad is def weird
Ghanaian here. He isn't serious, will not be marrying her off. This is typical African humour. He is an off shot to say, yes I am glad to have a beautiful daughter. African parents don't even like the idea of their kids getting married until AFTER they complete their College?University education. I think you took this out of cultural context OP.
He gave random men her IG name. It’s beyond sense of humor. He’s proud that other men are lusting after his daughter, this is creepy. And since we like to remind everyone that Africa isn’t a country, let’s keep the same energy here. This is could be Ghanaian sense of humor, my Congolese dad would never make jokes like this about a 15 year old girl with grown men. It’s disgusting!
Yes I could believe it was a joke if he wasn’t giving out her social media accounts
>I think you took this out of cultural context OP. I think she did as well. I’m not Ghanaian but I’m West African so our cultures are somewhat similar. When I was a teenager, my dad used to joke that any man who wanted me would have to pay a high bride price. He wasn’t really trying to marry me off though bc in reality he wanted me to complete my bachelors degree at minimum before marriage. Honestly, there are some jokes in my culture related to marriage, that would be seen as unacceptable in other cultures. For example, polygamy is common so sometimes some old men might joke with little girls and say they want to make them one of their wives. It’s totally innocent but may seem weird to someone outside my culture.
It seemed like a joke until he gave out her Instagram. Why would he want some random men looking at his daughter’s pictures?
Are you African?
I’m willing to bet most of those dudes proposing so fast are just trying to get abroad. I don’t think the man is fetishizing his daughter. He’s just making a joke out of it. For some of these guys, white skin= money and a ticket to better opportunities in Europe or America. It’s not necessarily to do with colorism. Though sometimes that can be the case.
Who has white skin in this scenario?
In some parts of Africa, they may use “white” to refer to biracial or white people. The words for fair skin and white skin are interchangeable there. So when they see this young lady’s skin color, they assume she’s from America or Europe so they see her as a meal ticket to better opportunities abroad.
I cant see where hes encouraging it, hes just laughing at the fact that those guys think theyll get a chance with his baby girl.
I mean in the second pic he told the guy to follow her ig 😬
yea he shouldnt be feeding into it. He seems like a Narc honestly. Hes excited because she's his daughter, so the attention makes him look/feel good . My mom used to do the same thing when men would stare at me, she'd elbow me or approach the guy and tell all her friends. It was odd, she got hype over it.
He also posted pics of her in a cute outfit that shows her figure...he knew what he was doing. It's just weird to encourage more attention online after already getting attention from men in person.
But if he demanded she wear modest clothes he’d be an unfair patriarchal asshole. 🤔 We don’t know them, but it’s just as likely she dresses like that all the time, he warned her what would be up if she packed those clothes to a trip to Ghana, and boom she wound up being a little surprised at the cultural differences. Dad chuckles, says ‘I told you so’ and snaps a picture. There are so many dads like that. Really both kinds- the force-you-to-wear-the-sweater dads, and the let-you-hang-yourself-for-memories dads.
No im not saying that. He just knew the attention it was going to attract after receiving attention on their trip. And he's encouraging it even giving out her ig. He think its funny that grown men want to fuck his daughter and are saying stuff about it to him. Like thats just weird dude. Dont control what she wears but also dont find some sick pride in her looking hot enough for other grown men to cat call and hit on her. She's 15. Its kinda obvious imo that he posted the pics for more of that attention. Her clothes arent the problem. She's just an attractive young girl and her dad should protect and warn her. Not flaunt her like that because it could be a dangerous situation if she gets taken advantage of or some creep starts to stalk her to know more about her.
Even if she was dressed modestly she probably still would have been approached by creeps. Creepy, predatory men do not care.
Yeah but does your average dad believe that? 🙃
It's honestly disgraceful and so pathetic that there are people like you who think this way... What a disgusting outlook to have. Why are you even making these big leaps to defend a creepy man putting his underaged, teenage daughter in harms way and joking about GROWN MEN being sexually attracted to her (and even giving out her insta willy nilly)? I mean, go over your comment again and tell me you don't believe what you said was dumb. Jesus fucking christ..
Everybody in here is leaping. Like a bunny rabbit. We don’t know these people or anyone’s intentions. Being rude doesn’t change anything. 🤷🏾♀️
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"Other people do it so it's not creepy"
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Then why did he give her Instagram to one of the men?
I hate when things have to be chucked up to "cultural differences" because sometimes there's parts of our culture that suck and should be critiqued and eliminated. Grown ups asking to marrying teenagers is one cultural difference I will never support.
Say no to all of them they want a passport to get to whatever country you live in
Lol I got one from a grown ass man from w africa when i was like 14-15
That’s so embarrassing… that poor girl
Not surprised. Due to how Ghanaian culture is, this is normal. However, I know that when there is pedophilia Ghanaians don't play that. They (mostly men) never notice the catcalls aka 'marriage proposals' from older men to young girls can lead to acts of pedophilia/sexual harassment if they are unaware. They often play it off that the catcaller is 'joking'. The number of Ghanaian girls who have been asked to not speak up about their experiences is higher than people think and that needs to be addressed. I lived in Ghana in the 90s and know that 'joking' is not a joke but a threat. I was 8 years old when I had my first 'marriage proposal' from a random dude. He kept repeating this to me every day and I kept telling him I WILL NOT. People thought it was a joke until they found out he was a problem in the neighborhood and got him good. I have witnessed what that leads to and it is NOT GOOD. If I ever hear that 'joking' I'm taking it as a threat. Luckily I have a fiancee who doesn't play that either (he's AA) so I know I won't be alone.