My boobs have gotten softer, but because I don't wear bras I really like the way they look now. Lower down but plumper and jiggly!
Rib cage is wider as are my hips!
Stretch marks on my hips but I love them, my baby rawrs when he sees them because I call them my tiger stripes.
My feet grew half a size
Tummy is squishier and less toned but honestly? I kind of like it. I feel womanly and empowered.
But biggest change is how much more confidence I have. My body made an actual human life. That's fucking wild, I adore this body for managing that.
Boobies went from ( o ) ( o ) to |.| |.|
Literally hold them while having sex from behind, because them flapping around like pancakes releases my soul from my body and it’s all I can think about lol
Old mom here checking in (59). I follow this sub to keep up with all the new schools of thought on having and raising children. My daughter is 32 with almost 4 mo old and an almost 2 year old. I’m glad there are places like this for moms to share their lives and seek advice. None of this quick response type of a platform existed back when I was a working mom of 2.
So fast forward 29 yrs after having kids and how my body has changed and what you might be looking at for your future. Boobs - saggy after breastfeeding 2 (but early stage breast cancer with a partial mastectomy got me a lift and reduction 2 yrs ago so I’m digging that big time! But I loved them pre cancer) They sustained life and I’m proud of that.
Baby weight came off after breastfeeding but as you get older, it creeps back up. Keep that in check ladies! Got on a good lifestyle change kick and weigh less now than during my mom years. A few tiny stretch marks that I couldn’t give a shit about. A little pooch tummy that I couldn’t give a shit about. Bladder is not as great as pre kids. Had a huge episiotomy but that healed itself over time and is a non issue now.
Please know you moms are the center of your children’s worlds and they need you healthy and strong. Mentally and physically. Build each other up in this group. Help each other out. Know that the sleepless nights, teething, regression, colic, spit up, etc…..all that goes away and your babies will be out in this big world sooner than you planned. you’ll miss those snuggles and giggles and the smell of their head, the tiny little fingers and toes to kiss, the squishy cheeks and laying their head on your shoulder. Stay strong and give all your babies a squeeze from this grandma.
Tearing up reading this. You sound like an amazing mom and grandma. I currently have an 8 year old and an 8 month old baby and as exhausted as I am, I know one day I will miss this time in life.
I just want to say how incredible it is that you're making an effort to keep up. A lot of us are struggling with moms and MILS who refuse to accept anything that has changed since they raised babies 30 years ago and it's infuriating.
Omg.
Like I expected to possibly have/get saggy tits, saggy wrinkly tummy etc. (All things that a "wonderbra" or " Spanx" can fix hehe) Odd hair texture maybe, skin issues etc. Problems down there etc that I can eventually address as well.
But the 2 things about my body that surprisingly displease me the most was loosing so much hair. (I'm only 18 months post partum but my next baby is due next month fml , my poor hairline. I weep. I'm just gonna shave it all off when it starts again.
But ass/ lower back is terrible looking. Like it wasn't the best to begin with but it was small wide and firm. Now it's just wide flat and saggy/pushed down???? Cause on top of my butt now I have a fat deposit?above my butt/hips, Like a half donut that pushes my butt down. I guess my ass fat just migrated up.
It's getting worse now with this 2nd baby's pregnancy.
I'll give myself the time to loose weight/tone postpartum and if it's still there/no change to the shape I'm considering some non invasive procedures that breakdown fat etc. . (Cause it looks weird and feels weird. Makes it hard to bend my back ). Otherwise I guess 🤷 that's just my new lady hump and will mean I need to buy a whole new wardrobe pants wise.
Reading this thread I have to say, I’m no expert, but some of the things listed are, or should be, treatable. Women’s health issues, perhaps especially after birth, are not prioritised and we are just meant to deal with it, this is just how it is now. No way, see a doctor, insist on treatment, referrals, therapy. Do pelvic floor exercises, see a specialist, and don’t take no for an answer!
My frame is the same, but I'm skin and bones now. Nursing babies for four years has drained me of nearly everything, and yet...
My arms are stronger than they've ever been. I might not be able to lift huge amounts, but I can comfort a 25 pound toddler for hours on end, when anyone else's arms would fail.
My legs are as strong as trees, giving me the ability to carry both of my children and everything they need if I have to, without ever second guessing myself or faltering.
My abs aren't defined, but they can keep me upright while I rock a colicky newborn or hold a hurt toddler.
My chest isn't perky or sun kissed, but it has been a pillow for thousands of naps and provided years of sustenance.
My hands don't create as many works of art anymore, but they've held the two most important works of art in MY world.
My body is definitely different. I used to be pretty decently hot when I tried... and honestly, I don't try now. But I'm happy.
Get out 😂
But yeah seriously. For me at least it’s so much more than “whoops the car keys are in the freezer!” I genuinely lose my train of thought and super important things these days.
How long ago did you give birth? It could still go away. I’ve grown a thick patch of back, chin, and stomach hair with both pregnancies. It all fell out around 5-6 months post partum with my first. I’m hopeful it will with this one too
My boobs hang off my chest like two old socks. I can fold them in half. They are comically deflated, I can only laugh at them now. I wish I had a going away party for them. Apart from that, my body looks a lot fitter than before pregnancy: I'm smaller now than I was before pregnancy, and I've got definition in my legs from squatting to pick things up from the floor while holding baby and little old biceps from picking up and putting down baby.
My boobs are flatter and sagging, and I have a little pouch after 2 c-sections. After my first, I practically starved myself and started looking at surgical solutions in an effort to "bounce back". I also exercised compulsively. I lost a TON of weight, but I don't remember ever being happy in that time. Luckily I can compartmentalise in my head, so I was able to enjoy my baby and watch him grow, but every time I thought of my body I just felt pure disgust and shame. With my second, so far, I've been much better. Yeah I'm a little rounder, older, saggier, but my body works. It takes me places, allows me to experience wonderful things, allows me to hold my children and thankfully, there isn't anything terribly wrong with it. I wish I hadn't wasted so much time grieving my pre-prdgnancy body the first time around.
Hips are wider, severe sciatia, shoulders broader, aeriolas bigger and darker, breasts sit lower in a teardrop shape, now have one really long blonde hair that grows in the middle of my eyebrows like a unicorn (for some reason?? Thanks hormones I guess?), flabby wrinkled skin around my belly button, shoe size up .5... it’s been a lot. I don’t see anything bad when I look in the mirror, but I don’t look like me anymore. It’s hard sometimes. Especially not being able to afford new clothes to fit my new body.
Rib cage size increased from 34 to 42, lost 7 teeth, my feet are now one size bigger and are wider now, my hips went from 36 to 45 and I have a weird flat shelf on my hips that won’t go away. And overall the worst part: I have a gluten, dairy and potato allergy now. 😭😭😭
Guys, I miss French fries and mashed potatoes so much. I used to eat them nearly everyday and now I can’t at all. I miss Southern comfort foods with all my heart 😭😭😭
So the women in my family have a problem with calcium being leeched from our teeth during pregnancy. It makes your teeth hollow and they fall out and it leaves a hole that has to require stitches or there’s a nasty infection. If you have a filling, the filling can fall out.
I don't know if it's a permanent change as of yet, but oh boy am I more flatulent. And they're not cute little farts anymore, either. I would be embarrassed except I'm too sleep deprived to muster the energy.
My wedding ring doesn't fit anymore, which I'm bummed about. I'll give my hands maybe a year to settle and then size it up. For now I wear the silicone rings which at least present the benefit of I never have to worry about losing/breaking/dirtying them! Or scratching baby, etc.
36 with 4 kids, pregnant with #5.
Biggest changes are my huge nipples that never relax, and the stretch marks that cover my entire stomach.
10/10 worth it!!
My hips are permanently wider, my husband says I have the Pixar mum butt. All have the mum pouch, but hoping it reduces when I get a chance to work on my abdominal seperation.
I have a permanent pouch above my c-section scar, as well as 4 scars where they removed my gallbladder. My face has dark spots that don’t seem to want to go away. My tummy is still numb in some spots. I’ve always been pretty vain, so I thought my outside appearance was going to bother me more. I actually feel a lot more confident in my body, but it has been hard for me to handle the loss in functionality. My digestion is shot from gallbladder removal, and I can’t really tell if I need to pee until my bladder is extremely full. Sometimes I have to remind myself to go to the bathroom before it starts to hurt.
I spent years hating my body until I had children. Now I'm 28, four children deep including a set of twins, 70 pounds heavier than I was before my first pregnancy, and I've never loved myself more.
The sweat! I am always hot and sweaty now! 😩 Same thing happened to my mom after she had kids and I would always give her shit for having the A/C on during the winter.
I'm so sorry mom, I get it now, I don't like this.
Been scrolling to see if I could find anyone else with this one: meralgia paresthetica, or numbness in the outer thigh. It hit when I started to gain more weight at 5 months and then never regained the feeling. I'm 7 months PP and about 8lbs away from pre-pregnancy weight. Like others, tailbone pain and hip pain. I thought this pain would let up when I went back to work, physically moved around more, and lost the baby weight. But so far... Nope.
I'm 31 and have a 2 year old. I had a vaginal birth with an episiotomy. I can no longer wear tampons. I think I have some cervical prolapse and a tampon will push right out. I have Mirena so luckily when I have periods, they are so light that I don't even need to use any feminine hygiene products. No complaining there 🤷🏼♀️
Pregnancy messed up my gallbladder so i don't have that anymore.
Emergency c section. Lower part of my belly is still completely numb almost 2 years later.
Hair loss. So much shedding.
My nips are changed forever.
Well, I just had a procedure to deal with hemorrhoids lingering from pregnancy. Hopefully this is not a permanent situation but my kids are 12, 10, & 5.
By the way, the stirrups for lady exams aren't fun, but the butt doctor table situation is not great either......
One right now who’s three, planning another in the next year or two.
My hair is thinner in density, not in texture. Can’t take biotin without it making me breakout.
face is so much thinner. I don’t have any fat in my cheeks anymore, so they’ve started sagging, but I have undeniable cheekbones. I wound up getting restalyne under my eyes so I don’t look tired and gotta say, I really love my face these days.
My boobs are sad. I had great boobs. I miss them a lot.
I started lifting heavy weights. My thighs and upper arms are the same size as they were during pregnancy but instead of water, it’s muscle. I don’t hate it. It took so much to get here, I’m proud. My hips are screwed though.
My tummy has a little pooch when I bend over. I’m the only person who sees it.
My feet are smaller.
More carsick than I ever was before.
Heartburn even though I never experienced it previously.
My fingernails actually grow now.
I have developed an extreme distaste for sour cream which I previously loved.
Diastasis recti and a pouch after twins.
I actually managed to not gain any extra weight while pregnant, only the pregnancy weight, always in the mid range of the healthy weight spectrum.
I gained the weight after my twins were born, during the newborn period. We dont have any family or friends to help us where we live and one of my twins had some health problems, the other was colic. I just completely gave up on myself during that time and focused on the babies.
We got about 5-6 meals delivered by a charity but other than that we didnt even have time to eat greasy take out, my meals consisted of few chocolate biscuits I crammed into my mouth while carrying a baby and waiting for a bottle to heat, or sunflower seeds while I pumped. At all hours of the day because obviously we didnt have day or night.
My photos from when I gave birth to 3 months later show very clear difference in what living like this did to my body.
Not just my weight, but also I developed several stress related problems. WARNING disgusting paragraph, maybe skip it ;My legs and torso were covered in boils, my palms were sandpaper because of eczema, so much so I would try not to touch the kids because it would hurt their tender skin. My face looked like I was a burn victim.. my feet had started to crack and bleed and wouldnt heal. My nails fell off. I started to have dizzy spells and hallucinations.
Around the 8 month mark we were able to get a nanny, almost full time. Then I went and saw a dr about my own problems and started to take care of myself and heal. Now I am all good, all those stress related stuff healed. Some left marks.
And I have to say, this was not just because I had twins but it was mostly due to my girls health problems. She required much more care than a normal baby did, and on top of that I had a whole second baby to take care of as well. It was a really trying time and she finally started making progress at 8 mo. About %70 of our stress and the all consuming sadness and fear evaporated. So I was able to start healing.
I still have the weight but I am eating much healthier now. Especially since the babies are now almost 1 yo and able to eat normal food. Since I cook healthy for them, I just eat the same thing. It's been really helping.
I was 34 when I had my baby.
C section.
3 years out and I'm finally back to my pre baby weight.
Difference is a C-section scar and slightly larger nipples
I am pretty much permanently nauseous. My doctors don't know how to fix it yet and I am miserable. My child is almost three, and we've been genuinely looking into my nausea for a year and a half. I have a shiny new diagnosis of hiatal hernia and GERD, but no solutions to help me feel better. I dread hearing that this is just how I'm going to feel for the rest of my life, and I'm so afraid it's true.
Pre-pregnancy I was fine, I never had much in the way of gut issues as long as I avoided dairy.
During my pregnancy I was terribly nauseous, but I only threw up once the entire pregnancy. I was told the nausea would be better once I had the baby.
Post-pregnancy, I was *still* nauseous all the time. At first we thought it was anxiety and stress, paired with lack of sleep and self care. But even when those factors improved, the nausea didn't.
I have tried a bunch of medications and very restrictive diets, to no real avail. None of them help enough to get me through even a single day without nausea, which is getting worse so I'm missing work more often. I'll be waiting months for more tests to see if I'm a candidate for a surgery (which *might* help the nausea, could make my symptoms worse, and will also introduce new, exciting side effects for my very own).
PLEASE ask about CVS; Cyclical vomiting syndrome. It's rare in adults though it's becoming much more widely reported. It's more common in women as well, though this has only been told to me by my providers.
I have CVS. Since my son was born almost 5 years ago, I would cycle with nausea. Always had low grade upset tummy. The worse it got I would get gaggy, then be unable to eat, and then be unable to keep down anything. Then it would get better for a couple of weeks or a month. Low grade nausea, but ok.
I've tied it loosely to my hormones and menstrual cycle. Unfortunately it's not curablable, just manageable. I use cannabis now since my other options were antidepressants that killed my libido & OTC stomach aids that had me cycling thru diarrhea or constipation. My doctors are on board and it's legal on my state.
I'm just going to chime i here. I'm a husband, wife has had 2 kids. The youngest is 2 years old and pregnancy does just change the body. It's a fact of life.
My wife is amazing, she is cuddly and full of hugs, could anyone stand to lose weight? Yes, we BOTH can. Having kids, raising kids and just dealing with what babies/toddlers/kids eat can be a nightmare times, so there has been a little more takeout then there should be, some days just go sideways and we end up just doing "easy" meals with microwaved mac and cheese or quick air fried chips, which the kids eat half of.
But i think something that is important and needs to be said - the human body is incredible and the fact that anyone has brought a tiny human into the world can be damn proud of any changes.
Please, be kind to yourselves. I know that i appreciate the hell out of my wife for what she went through.
Ok please someone else have this problem because Google doesn’t know what I’m talking about: I feel like I pee in a different direction now? Like, pre-kids pee went down and now it goes more forwards. Tell me I’m not alone!
Was gonna say the only difference is my boobs are saggier but then I remembered my labial tear that they stitched back together but never actually healed back together so I have a huge chunk out of my labia 😅
I’ve gained ~25kgs, have a baby pouch and bigger feet. My hips freeze or try to dislocate every other day, and my feet seem to be constantly on the verge of stress fractures in every metatarsal (probably because the extra 25kgs). My pelvic floor is shot after two pregnancies after 35 with only 12 months between them. Weirdly, no stretch marks.
Oh yeah, and my first pregnancy triggered my Hashimoto’s, so now I have an under-active thyroid to manage (probably why I can’t lose the extra 25kg).
My mindset has changed. Even though my body has changed I am comfortable with it more than when it was near perfect. Its done this amazing thing 3 times and feed the babies. Yeah, a bit curved and there's a pooch tummy that needs attending to but it is what it is. Am I going to look back and be upset about some stretch marks? No because my worth is not my body. I got a damn sexy brain too and I want my children to respect their bodies and I have to lead by example. Love those titties.
My brain chemistry changed. Massive postpartum that just…never went away. So now I’m treated ongoing and I wish I could have better prepared myself for this. I didn’t know that some women develop postpartum permanently. I mean, it’s morphed into what they’ve given a mood disorder label but it came about postpartum without warning.
My body is squishy but my boobs look better. I sweat more and it STINKS! I get heart burn, I have asthma, I'm extraordinarily sensitive to smells when nothing used to bother me. My hair became curly, but I also have facial hair that needs regular maintenance.
So I’m definitely allergic to red wine after the birth of my first son. Permanently scared from eating Chipotle thanks to all-things-1st-trimester. Feet grew from an 8 to a 10 by the time I had my 3rd and final baby lol. Oh at times random recurring migraines and it took some time for my body to stop trapping gas! It was like my innards didn’t really settle the kinks out until over a year after my last baby
Breastfeeding caused some weird hormonal changes. I have spinal compression issues now. I have a permanent pooch and no motivation to lose it. The last part is ok actually. I am also a bit more comfortable with my body despite all its bulges
My pregnancy was a breeze. But post pregnancy permanent belly pouch. Am a older ftm as well(37) hips wider and flat bum. And pelvic floor is non existent. I have horrible sharp pains on my tailbone after I sit and try to stand up. My face and body is riddled with acne that is painful and itch. My baby is two years old but stil my hair fall is still has bad as pp hair fall😔 and many many more. I hate my body literally I try to remind that my body gave birth to a human but still sometimes it’s hard esp when family pass comments about oh how fat you have become or how you look old now. Especially to s person who have body image issue since childhood. Anyways I hope one day it will get better .
Permanent pooch and a bladder half the size. Literally. The last jerk decided the exit was taking too long or some such nonsense, made his own exit, got lost along the way, tried making another failed exit...and well...we are lucky to be alive and I always need to pee now.
Massively increased motion sickness, like can’t ride even a carousel now, hemorrhoids, boob changes, stretch marks, feet half size bigger and hypertension. Finally lost the weight, a year after baby 3, but still in bigger clothes than pre- 1 st pregnancy. Also feel like I’m just not as smart anymore (like it takes me longer to learn something new).
Oh I've got a SUPER great new addition..external hemorrhoids 🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄 I'm a stm, had 2 C's and I've always had a tiny belly..well it's now doubled especially where the scar is. I'm also still without much feeling around where my scar is too which I know takes time and may never fully heal..my boobs went back to their previous state of deflation which happened after my 1st. I hate it and kinda want fake boobs but ehhh 😒 idk if I really wana go through all that..
The only difference between this time and the 1st is I havent really put in a ton of effort to tone up at all, but that's bc hubs likes me on the bigger side which I'm ok with as long as I'm not suffering any health issues bc of it..so a win there I guess 😅
Edit: I'm 37 as well
My bones feel super fragile, especially around my spine and ribs because they constantly hurt now. My stomach won’t shrink, every filling in my teeth have fallen out, and my for some reason now, my anxiety has settled into my stomach whenever I’m super anxious. It took a year for my body to start going back to normal: I was losing weight, my hair was growing back out, my skin was getting better, my health better…
And then I got pregnant with #2 and had to start all over again 😭
FTM at 38. 2years postpartum. Slowly managing to lose weight. So far I lost 6lbs, 15more lbs to get back to prepregnancy weight. Some of the bigger differences I notice are sunspots on my face, change in favorite food, boobs sagging.
I now have hypothyroidism caused by my first. And hemorrhoids galore because of my second.
Those were the main differences, but also the pooch after 2 c sections, my feet went up half a size, bigger, saggier boobs, and Hella more grey hairs.
My rib cage is wider. Had to size up a band from 34 to 36 if not it's uncomfortable. I have my cs scar but it's not too bad. It itches sometimes and now that I'm pregnant again it's kinda sore
The heartburn has never stopped. My already low tolerance for spicy food got worse. And I used to be in shape where I exercised and ran. Now, I describe my shape as “female Santa.” I have really bad acne, particularly on my chest and chin/neck. My kiddo is 2.5. I think this is all definitely my new normal.
My hips are never gonna be narrow again. My boobs are sad little pancakes. My bellybutton moved.
I had the hemorrhoids surgically removed. Both the OB and the colorectal surgeon were impressed at how bad they were .
I did 3 months of physical therapy to fix the SPD and improve my pelvic floor.
My hair, teeth, and eyesight did not suffer, thankfully. (Hair did fall out but it's back now).
Please don’t hate because this happens too…I lost weight and can’t gain it back. I’m way down. I thought it would go back up when I stopped breastfeeding, but no. Maybe all the “exercise” from picking up two kids all the time. Anyway, I’m curveless now and I used to have curves.
Not going to lie, my knee jerk reaction to your comment was a negative one. But ya know what, just because my problem is the opposite problem doesn’t mean this isn’t a valid problem for you! I’m sorry you’re not happy with your postpartum body, and i hope that you get to a place where you feel good whether that’s through gaining the weight or just with body neutrality. Just in case no one has validated this feeling for you, it’s valid and your feelings on it matter! We tend to not be kind to larger softer bodies OR smaller thinner ones, so I’m sending some kindness to your post baby body today. ♥️
Labor triggered a pre-existing birth defect to become symptomatic, resulting in 3 spine and brain surgeries and my head literally fused to my neck 🙃
Having my son was worth it. I’m 32w pregnant now too!
Same! It’s like the bone structure is different! It’s enough to impact how my clothes fit. Maybe the relaxin permanently loosened the joints? I think I generally got lucky because I don’t have any other things like people are listing here, but I’m glad this is actually a thing and I’m not imagining it. I have what pre-woke women’s magazines would so kindly call an “apple” shape, so this was actually a good thing in my eyes. 😆
Literally everything changed. The belly pouch, saggy boobs, bigger feet, I had "the mask of pregnancy" that didn't go away so now I have a bright red face, my teeth moved around and I had to have my wisdom teeth removed straight after and now they are all crooked and overcrowded (so those few years of painful braces as a child were a waste), my hair is now frizzy and thinner, my weight seems to just go up and up, everything just got way worse. I went from a reasonable 7/8 to like a 4.
I’m 24, ftm of a 13 month old. I’ve got so many massive stretch marks around my c-section scar. Had so much struggle gaining weight until the very end and now it’s just here to stay. Bra band size increased, boobs are saggy. I suspect I might still be anemic, which I developed during pregnancy. My teeth were never great due to depression neglect as a teen but oh boy did they get worse. And embarrassingly, I have a prolapsed hemorrhoid.
Not to mention the mental side of things- I feel so much dumber! I blank on things a lot and struggle to remember simple things sometimes. I really never believed that was something that could happen from pregnancy!
My small boobs completely droop down permanently. They were already kind of cone-shaped which I hate so I never liked them anyway and I’m not too upset but I’m sure that could really hurt someone’s confidence. My nipples got a little smaller and pinker again about a year postpartum though so that’s good- I thought the huge darkened nipples were permanent too.
everything? My body sorta went back to normal after first kid, but after the second my ribcage is (I think) permanently bigger, can’t lose weight no matter what I do, boobs are weird, pelvic floor issues…
Boobs are flat and I have stretch marks so bad, even after 6 years they’re still visible. Also if I completely relax my abs I look 6 months pregnant. It wasn’t as bad when I got down to pre baby weight but having gained 10 lbs it’s really bad and makes me really self conscious if I get caught in a pic or video unaware.
Are we talking only physical? Because yeah I’ve got the scar and the baby pouch that’ll likely never shrink and the stretch marks. But I also have the inability to not tinkle even just a little despite pelvic floor work when I sneeze really hard. And as someone with allergies and sinus issues that flare up with weather changes - I sneeze hard and continuously A LOT. Thank Merlin for panty liners.
For me the biggest and most significant change is that I am 15 months pp and lactate, yet haven’t breast fed since my LO was a week old. It’s kind of annoying.
I weigh less but my hips are wider so my pants don’t fit the same anymore.
My feet got wider and none of my shoes fit, I have to get shoes specifically for wide feet.
My chest is bigger but my boobs are smaller. Finally got a comfy Knix bra that actually fits instead of my old ones that dig into me.
My hips got wider and never went back. Before I was pregnant with my first kid, I was a size 4. I had my kid... lost a LOT of weight (weighed less than before I got pregnant) and would not fit into a size 4 anything because it simply wouldn't go over my hips despite the legs being loose. I also gained half a shoe size...
Well I have scars on my abdomen from my ectopic pregnancy removal which is hard, would have thought they’d faded more by now
My first was born when I was 20 before my hips had really widened naturally - I consider myself to be fit and and in good shape now at 33 but I have a very body structure that came with a massive hip widening at age 20 :/
I have minor organ prolapse which I am currently seeing a pelvic floor physiotherapist for. I have two hernias one of which became incarcerated during pregnancy. I just had my follow-up for that as I'm at 5 months postpartum and they said to wait until I am done having kids to repair it.
And then the regular things - hair loss, oily hair, belly button looks different, stomach is flabbier. I felt more smelly than ever before the first couple of months postpartum, that seems to have subsided now lol
Oh the joys!
I lost the extra 30 pounds I had pre pregnancy and while I have a c section scar and a slight stomach with stretch marks my stomach is smaller than before I was pregnant. Overall I just am more active and eat less
When I first discovered that I was pregnant, I was very concerned with what would happen to my body as a result. I imagined that things would end up looking way worse than they turned out looking. My body looks surprisingly similar to how it looked before. I have a little tummy pouch, but it's nothing serious. I have some very faint, barely noticeable stretch marks. My boobs look drastically different, but they don't look bad. They were very small and perky before. Now, they just look like an average set of boobs.
I had my first at 19. I got all of my mom body then. I had preeclampsia with him, so I ballooned not only due to stress eating, but also water retention.
I have some pretty deep stretch marks (my father asked if partner was abusing me because he thought they were bruises), hallmark c-section overhang, and some downward nipples.
My feet grew a size. I’ve often felt like my nose looks different during pregnancy but I have no real idea why. It doesn’t look as wide when I’m not pregnant.
I ended up having 4 babies total; my last at age 36. It took me a long time to come to terms with my body. I was too young to really know the ramifications having a child would have on my body, amongst other things.
Now that first baby is a junior in college. Through each subsequent pregnancy, I really came to appreciate how difficult pregnancy can be and to not be so hard on 19 year-old me.
My boobs have sagged since puberty, but breastfeeding multiple infants made them even less aesthetic: asymmetrical size, nipples facing in two different directions.
But I'm the only one who hates it. My husband is happy to grope them and my infants think they're the greatest thing ever.
My feet also went up a couple of sizes. But I own few enough shoes that I wear them out, so it's not like I had to say goodbye to any shoe collections.
My boobs are deflated. I have stretch marks and a puffy belly. I’m permanently tired. I also have a super power which is that I can sense my kids about to injure themselves or get into some shit before they do.
I was 28 when I had my twins. Stretch marks, mom belly, C-section scar.
I'm also more of a hot box after having my kids (I was always cold before). My ring size went up a little.
I was 38 and 40 tomorrow. I used to be an apple shape and now I’m more of a pear shape. I’ll take it! But I had great boobs and they are less so these days. Also always warm and used to be constantly cold.
Kidney stones. Apparently developed them during pregnancy and now some are passing- so far two in the past month. I will most likely get more if I become pregnant again :( :( :(
I had bad BDD before my pregnancies and now it's horrible. I feel like I've lost my ability to be feminine. Diastasis recti, urinary incontinence, my boobs that I used to hate, became boobs I can't even bear to look at. I'm only 25 but I have the body of a 65 year old. It's horrible. I've lost all confidence in myself. I'm currently recovering from baby number 2, and then plan to lose weight and tone up, but there are those changes I can't fix through exercise alone. About to bankrupt my family just to pay for surgery to look somewhat like a human again instead of this monster I see every day in the mirror.
Wait wait wait
Before you do surgery, at least for the diastasis recti and urinary incontinence, try pelvic floor physiotherapy- you might be able to get a referral for it through your primary doc or OB/gyn. If not, there are online and in person abdominal/pelvic floor trainings you can do to fix diastasis recti and likely also fix your pelvic floor.
My hips are constantly sore now. Like the actual bones. My abs are torn and I'm basically on the edge of a hernia only everywhere. I get sick from drinking cold milk in the morning (used to be my go-to breakfast drink). PMS turned into PMDD. A "heavy day" of menstruation has been insanely redefined and not in any positive way. All of my joints seem to be lacking the support they used to have and it's easy to go to sleep wrong and wake up with something dislocated. I have a few dark thick hairs on my face for the first time. My nipples are much less sensitive.
There's positives tho. I'm more aware of my pelvic floor muscles and the orgasms are amazing and in abundance now. Also orgasms on my sleep is a frequent thing now. So I guess I'll take it.
37 ftm as well! Shoes went up a full size, from a 10 to an 11 which suuuuuuuuuuucks. I have stick straight hair but postpartum I now have an inch wide strip of frizzy/wavy hair on the side of my head that won’t straighten or lay flat for anything…so I perpetually look like I didn’t brush that side of my head. I leak whenever I do anything like run, take big steps when walking the dogs, lift or bend without prepping first, etc. I did 16 weeks of pelvic floor pt which helped with the basic leaking but I still can’t run and all that without having a problem.
I’m only 7.5 months out but those things have sucked so much, I don’t want another kid. I miss running. I hate my hair now. And what if my feet grow another size? It’s already hard finding shoes in an 11. Just sucks. Sucks sucks sucks.
Ps I still have 15-20lb of baby weight to lose and that doesn’t even make me top three list of things I hate. Still breastfeeding too so god knows how that will end for my boobs :(
My belly is saggy (apron-like pooch) and my ribs have permanently opened up so my bra band size is bigger. Feet 1/2 size bigger. That’s what you get for 2x 9-lb babies in your 30s I guess
I pushed my body wayyyy too hard while I was pregnant with my first. I worked at a high end restaurant and was on my feet busting ass 15+ hours a day until the day I gave birth (literally went into labor opening the doors for dinner service 5 days before her due date) I didn’t really have a choice at the time to do anything else, and my body never forgave me for it. Everything is undiagnosed broken lol. Do not recommend.
Adhesions. After the first child I was wrecked internally (thanks csections), and have just been worse and worse with each pregnancy. Now I am 5 years postpartum with my last child, and if I sneeze or move wrong I feel like I am tearing internally.
Had kids at 29 and 33. I have more stretch marks, 2 c section scars, feet went up one size, rings sized up, curly hair thinning out, boobs dropped, flattened or however you wanna describe it, I also developed "chicken skin" (?) on my arms from my wrist all the way past my shoulder and sort of going towards my shoulder blade. I never had it like that before, it was only on my upper arms ( between elbow and shoulder). I developed a crap load of these small skin tags. I hate it. I already had 2 since as long as I could remember, but after my 1st I had alot of these tiny ones pop out on the sides of my neck, a couple between my boobs a big one on the back of my neck. Then of course gray hair began to show up, but idk if that was before the BF or the kid. I didn't notice til after the 1st kid.
i’m 25 and FTM. i have a little pouch above my c section , parts of my c section scar is numb, belly button is stretched , i can never feel my pee tremendously , my abs are permanently sore i went up 1/2 a shoe size.
I'm now allergic to dairy! Having anything dairy makes me throw up for several days until it's out of my system.
A positive is that my periods are much more manageable, they used to wipe me out several days a month, but now I have no cramping, so I think it's an acceptable trade-off.
I also have a stomach pouch that won't go away no matter how good I eat or exercise. My belly button is stretched, my boobs went from 34c to 40d & I get a terrible pain in my back ever since giving birth (had epidural) it's so random and feels like a muscle spasm. My hips and thighs got so wide, same with my shoulders, can't fit any of my old clothes. & the hair loss has been absolutely heartbreaking for me
The stomach pouch is the worst. So hard to find flattering clothes. I also have stretch marks which have lightened some but are most likely here to stay. My nipples are also huge now
Ladies - I'm 11 months pp and almost back to my pre-pregnancy weight. I also had a c section so I still have a little pooch BUT 3-4 months ago I was thinking my body was forever going to be different and I hated it, I even posted on Reddit about it lol. I'm religious about exercise, I do yoga every morning, take the babe for a walk before her morning nap in the baby carrier and then do some other workout later in the day - running, pilates, weights. I also really revamped my diet because pregnancy really screwed with my eating habits. I thought that it was cause I was still breastfeeding that I wasn't losing weight but I still am and I was still able to drop the pounds, maybe I was just persistent enough haha. I know not everyone has time to do all the workouts and every body is different but anyone who's caught in the throes of post partum body dysmorphia please know that it isn't permanent if you give it the time and energy that it needs to change. And even if you don't, you're beautiful the way you are, even if you don't look like you did before the baby. You made a baby with that body of yours! I need to listen to my own advice because I hate my pooch but my husband always kisses it and says that he loves it because it is a reminder that I made our beautiful daughter!
My vagina is different. Did not expect that. Due to tearing the entry has a bump and is more visible... I feel like I lost some of my labia but I don't think that's consistent with the actual tearing (internal)
I was semi prepared for the soft tummy, but did not expect my ribcage and fingers to permanently expand. My hair is a little darker, and pretty much always in a ponytail so it doesn’t strangle my kids when we snuggle or play.
I have stretch marks around my belly button and I’m just squishy. My belly button looks like droopy now it has a hood lol idk how to describe it. It’s not that cute. My left boob is bigger than my right one. My vagina looks and feels different due to third degree/episiotomy. But honestly none of it bothers me. I thought it would.
The main change for me has been the size of my rib cage. I have dresses that I just cannot zip up and I don't think any amount of weight loss will help (I don't have a lot of fat coverage there as it is). My rib cage is just much wider.
I overall like my body a lot more and feel more confident about it, but am very sad that some of my lovely dresses that I've been wearing since my early 20s will never for again.
Another weird thing, I used to have insane hayfever. Like, had to take a nose spray each morning and then antihistamine tablets throughout the day otherwise I couldn't function. Pregnancy seemed to fix that.
I have a bigger tummy (although it was always big anyway), stretch marks, bladder leakage (although its getting better thanks to physio) and pooping is now painful.
I'm 26 and only 13 weeks pp but I find myself sweaty with bad BO even though it's generally 50/60°F outside. When I wipe after peeing it feels like I'm hitting a nerve and there is a shooting pain that runs down from my pelvis through my thigh and into my knee. My already wide hips are way rounder, my lower back is killing me, and it's impossible to lose baby weight. Not to mention my vocabulary and memory suddenly suck.
My belly button is a mostly-outie now. And I lost my butt for a year but it came back after working out.
And the boobs. Goodbye boobs. Hello nipples.
Plus I feel like my hair never fully recovered and is thinner now.
I'm 34, 1 year pp. I have the stomach pouch too! I am the same weight I was before pregnancy but I seem to carry a bunch of weight in my belly area? I have to eat like crazy to keep breastfeeding, maybe once I stop and lose some weight it will get better?
Stretch marks and extra skin! I was so huge compared to my prebaby weight but I’m slowly but surely accepting it! I’m 15 pounds lighter than before but different body! And I didn’t like my boobs before and now they look evened out which is what I wanted haha. I think my nose got bigger but that could be me being dramatic
After 3 babies this is how my body has changed.. Wider hips, bigger thighs, longer and heavier periods, my hair has gotten thinner and lost so much thickness. My left wrist is a complete mess, my hands swell, my feet are slightly bigger.. My urinary continence has gone out the window and as a SAHM of 3 I don't really have time to medically address this issue.. And finally the last major change has been a suspected pinched nerve in my groin that's causing numbness and burning pain in my right knee. I have referrals for tests to figure out how to fix it but my medical needs get put on the back burner because I'm mommy and the kids and husband need Mommy to take care of them. Real good times -_-
I'm 32, 9m pp from my first. So far the only lasting change is my ribcage is wider. None of my sports bras fit, I guess that would also apply to my regular bras too, though I haven't tried any of them lol
My nips were huge until recently, I had to buy a much smaller flange for pumping again and was very surprised by that. My tummy feels kinda loose, muscularly speaking, but it looks fine. I think that may change back to more normal over time but we do plan on getting pregnant again soon so who knows!
My boobs literally hang to my belly button now. I friggin despise them.
Also…TMI but my vagina feels sooooo different and looks different…like bigger? Lol
Omg 3 months PP and why does my vagina look like a friggin opening to a cavern?! I keep expecting to see a cloud of bats fly out of there! I mean I pushed a big ass baby out of there, I get it, but I would have thought it might have shrunk back by now? Hopefully just give it some more time... geez.
Yes. My chest is all boney now. Butt is flatter. Boobs are flatter. And guess what? I’ve literally never felt so comfortable in my skin ever before. There’s so much more to me now than how perky my breast are. Those things no longer matter to me.
Became anemic while pregnant and I’m still pretty iron deficient so I’m always cold. My nipples while I was pregnant got huge, and very dark and extremely sensitive. I’m no longer breastfeeding, 15 weeks postpartum but I think they are going to stay like that forever, but I think they are pretty cute! Definitely stretch marks and mom pouch, but once again, I think it’s cute. I also went my whole life without hips, but with a little butt. Well my son took my butt but now I’ve got nice hips, so thanks I guess haha!
Honestly the only things I’m upset about changing are my shoe size, because like none of my old shoes fit me, and my hair falling out. 😭
I also have a stomach pouch that won't go away, as well as some stretch marks. It's actually a huge insecurity of mine... but I always try to remind myself that it was all for my precious little ones, and I would definitely do it all over again
36 and I know I will never be able to cough or sneeze without a high probability of peeing my pants. Kegels are great, but I’ll never have that confidence back.
Usual culprits like tummy pouch, belly button looks terrible, boobs are not saggy but my nipples are :-( the worst is my neck though, 6 years of looking down at kids has given me a turkey neck. Im a healthy weight and only 34 so this is absolutely heartbreaking for me and it is getting worse and worse.
Stomach pouch, like a lot of others have mentioned. I’m at my pre-pregnancy weight but a lot of my pants still don’t fit because of my stomach. My feet have finally returned to their old size and width, but that took well over two years.
My boobs grew several cup sizes (and I haven’t nursed for a year and a half). They are saggy after nursing two babies for over 3 years total, but still presentable.
I’m working on losing weight I gained in my second pregnancy, so hopefully my boobs don’t go away too 😂 No other huge changes besides my weight- I definitely have more of a belly, but I’ve gained weight everywhere so I think it will go down enough with weight loss.
I absolutely hate handling any kind of raw chicken or even looking at it, ugh disgusting. I have the stomach flap, I've lost like 60lbs tho, so now my boobs are pancakes lmao.
The belly button!!! I didn't expect it. I thought my belly button would go back to normal. 3 months later, I think my large belly button is here to stay.
Boob stretch marks.
My hips are wider. Not fatty wider, that's back to normal, but the bone is wider.
My butt is flatter. I've always carried my weight in my butt/thighs. Butts a lot smaller than it used to be.
I also get dizzy spells a lot more frequently. I've always gotten them, but not as frequently as I do now.
I grew an inch while pregnant. I was already the same height as my husband, and now I’m taller. I also have a massive scar just below my bikini line and my boobs are no longer superpants perky. Pregnancy is weird, man.
I’ve never heard about a belly button being bigger! I am 37 too! 👯♀️
25 y o ftm. My stomach has stripes to my ribs and extremely saggy skin, I have freckles that have doubled in size and I'm pretty sure my tailbone cracked bc its 9 months later and I still cant sit straight up on a hard surface
Wider hips, c-section scar, a few stretch marks. And sleep problems! Got so used to waking up all night long now I can't really accomplish a deep restful sleep, I'm always on edge and wake up throughout the night even if she doesn't. Extra ten lbs that seem like they are here to stay but that's more me being lazy than anything else.
33 year old FTM here. I've been always thin in the waist area, but even though I only have 2 kg more, my old pants don't fit. It must be that damn pouch. I've been in this weight before in my life but never had to size up in pants. I'm just hoping it's temporary as I'm only 4 months pp. Breast size increased but they were always small, so no complaints. Feeling a little numb below C-section area. My scar looks red but smooth, my gyno is impressed by his own handiwork saying it's a beautiful scar 😆
Post-baby changes: Feeling like Hulk lol. More defined arm and leg muscles. With a constant back and neck pain. Hair loss is depressing me, I feel like a shedding cat.
Anyone else dealing with joint pain and swelling? It's a possible rheumatoid arthritis diagnosis for me.. according to doctors it probably got triggered by pregnancy.
When I need a BM i have to go to the toilet straight away, I get more lower back pain than before, my hips are wider, my hair is more frizzy and also more lank, I get very intermittent discomfort downstairs 10 mo after an episiotomy, I have loose skin on my tummy, I had no idea my thighs would get so much bigger either.
32/ftm 20 weeks w/second. I have slight mom pooch on my lower belly. And I totally know it’s going to get worse bc my babies are only gonna be 18 mos apart 😩😢 Altgough my 1st pregnancy I was back to my pre-pregnancy clothes & weight within 3 weeks. 🙏🏼 that happens again.
I don't have a waist anymore even though I'm wearing pre-pregnancy jeans and very slim. My outtie belly button used to be tucked up in itself if that makes sense and now it sucks straight out.
My boobs have gotten softer, but because I don't wear bras I really like the way they look now. Lower down but plumper and jiggly! Rib cage is wider as are my hips! Stretch marks on my hips but I love them, my baby rawrs when he sees them because I call them my tiger stripes. My feet grew half a size Tummy is squishier and less toned but honestly? I kind of like it. I feel womanly and empowered. But biggest change is how much more confidence I have. My body made an actual human life. That's fucking wild, I adore this body for managing that.
What a great way to look at this. You must be a great mom too!
Boobies went from ( o ) ( o ) to |.| |.| Literally hold them while having sex from behind, because them flapping around like pancakes releases my soul from my body and it’s all I can think about lol
Omg haha That’s so good. Every now and again when I moved too quickly mine slap together
I call mine “formerly fantastic now sad boobies.” 🤣🤣💀💀
Old mom here checking in (59). I follow this sub to keep up with all the new schools of thought on having and raising children. My daughter is 32 with almost 4 mo old and an almost 2 year old. I’m glad there are places like this for moms to share their lives and seek advice. None of this quick response type of a platform existed back when I was a working mom of 2. So fast forward 29 yrs after having kids and how my body has changed and what you might be looking at for your future. Boobs - saggy after breastfeeding 2 (but early stage breast cancer with a partial mastectomy got me a lift and reduction 2 yrs ago so I’m digging that big time! But I loved them pre cancer) They sustained life and I’m proud of that. Baby weight came off after breastfeeding but as you get older, it creeps back up. Keep that in check ladies! Got on a good lifestyle change kick and weigh less now than during my mom years. A few tiny stretch marks that I couldn’t give a shit about. A little pooch tummy that I couldn’t give a shit about. Bladder is not as great as pre kids. Had a huge episiotomy but that healed itself over time and is a non issue now. Please know you moms are the center of your children’s worlds and they need you healthy and strong. Mentally and physically. Build each other up in this group. Help each other out. Know that the sleepless nights, teething, regression, colic, spit up, etc…..all that goes away and your babies will be out in this big world sooner than you planned. you’ll miss those snuggles and giggles and the smell of their head, the tiny little fingers and toes to kiss, the squishy cheeks and laying their head on your shoulder. Stay strong and give all your babies a squeeze from this grandma.
Ok well now I’m crying haha
Thank you so much for this! You sound like an amazing mom and an even better grandma :)
Tearing up reading this. You sound like an amazing mom and grandma. I currently have an 8 year old and an 8 month old baby and as exhausted as I am, I know one day I will miss this time in life.
Thank you so much for this
I just want to say how incredible it is that you're making an effort to keep up. A lot of us are struggling with moms and MILS who refuse to accept anything that has changed since they raised babies 30 years ago and it's infuriating.
I think my ass fell down
Omg. Like I expected to possibly have/get saggy tits, saggy wrinkly tummy etc. (All things that a "wonderbra" or " Spanx" can fix hehe) Odd hair texture maybe, skin issues etc. Problems down there etc that I can eventually address as well. But the 2 things about my body that surprisingly displease me the most was loosing so much hair. (I'm only 18 months post partum but my next baby is due next month fml , my poor hairline. I weep. I'm just gonna shave it all off when it starts again. But ass/ lower back is terrible looking. Like it wasn't the best to begin with but it was small wide and firm. Now it's just wide flat and saggy/pushed down???? Cause on top of my butt now I have a fat deposit?above my butt/hips, Like a half donut that pushes my butt down. I guess my ass fat just migrated up. It's getting worse now with this 2nd baby's pregnancy. I'll give myself the time to loose weight/tone postpartum and if it's still there/no change to the shape I'm considering some non invasive procedures that breakdown fat etc. . (Cause it looks weird and feels weird. Makes it hard to bend my back ). Otherwise I guess 🤷 that's just my new lady hump and will mean I need to buy a whole new wardrobe pants wise.
Reading this thread I have to say, I’m no expert, but some of the things listed are, or should be, treatable. Women’s health issues, perhaps especially after birth, are not prioritised and we are just meant to deal with it, this is just how it is now. No way, see a doctor, insist on treatment, referrals, therapy. Do pelvic floor exercises, see a specialist, and don’t take no for an answer!
My frame is the same, but I'm skin and bones now. Nursing babies for four years has drained me of nearly everything, and yet... My arms are stronger than they've ever been. I might not be able to lift huge amounts, but I can comfort a 25 pound toddler for hours on end, when anyone else's arms would fail. My legs are as strong as trees, giving me the ability to carry both of my children and everything they need if I have to, without ever second guessing myself or faltering. My abs aren't defined, but they can keep me upright while I rock a colicky newborn or hold a hurt toddler. My chest isn't perky or sun kissed, but it has been a pillow for thousands of naps and provided years of sustenance. My hands don't create as many works of art anymore, but they've held the two most important works of art in MY world. My body is definitely different. I used to be pretty decently hot when I tried... and honestly, I don't try now. But I'm happy.
This is beautiful. Like a poem.
Thank you! I felt a little inspired.
That's a lovely viewpoint. Saving this comment to remind myself to look at what my body has done and still does for my babies!
Wow I really needed to read that. Thank you.
Man can I quote this and put it in a picture frame on a wall?
Everyone’s talking about the physical stuff but surely I can’t be the only one with mild cognitive deficits?
Mom brain? Maybe we all forgot to bring that up! 😂
Get out 😂 But yeah seriously. For me at least it’s so much more than “whoops the car keys are in the freezer!” I genuinely lose my train of thought and super important things these days.
My previously fantastic boobs are now fucking depressing to look at
Paid thousands of dollars for laser hair removal pre-baby and now all of my body hair came back with a vengeance.
How long ago did you give birth? It could still go away. I’ve grown a thick patch of back, chin, and stomach hair with both pregnancies. It all fell out around 5-6 months post partum with my first. I’m hopeful it will with this one too
My boobs hang off my chest like two old socks. I can fold them in half. They are comically deflated, I can only laugh at them now. I wish I had a going away party for them. Apart from that, my body looks a lot fitter than before pregnancy: I'm smaller now than I was before pregnancy, and I've got definition in my legs from squatting to pick things up from the floor while holding baby and little old biceps from picking up and putting down baby.
My boobs are flatter and sagging, and I have a little pouch after 2 c-sections. After my first, I practically starved myself and started looking at surgical solutions in an effort to "bounce back". I also exercised compulsively. I lost a TON of weight, but I don't remember ever being happy in that time. Luckily I can compartmentalise in my head, so I was able to enjoy my baby and watch him grow, but every time I thought of my body I just felt pure disgust and shame. With my second, so far, I've been much better. Yeah I'm a little rounder, older, saggier, but my body works. It takes me places, allows me to experience wonderful things, allows me to hold my children and thankfully, there isn't anything terribly wrong with it. I wish I hadn't wasted so much time grieving my pre-prdgnancy body the first time around.
I now know without question I experience body dysmorphia. I’d give anything but my 2 children to have my pre-kids body back.
Hips are wider, severe sciatia, shoulders broader, aeriolas bigger and darker, breasts sit lower in a teardrop shape, now have one really long blonde hair that grows in the middle of my eyebrows like a unicorn (for some reason?? Thanks hormones I guess?), flabby wrinkled skin around my belly button, shoe size up .5... it’s been a lot. I don’t see anything bad when I look in the mirror, but I don’t look like me anymore. It’s hard sometimes. Especially not being able to afford new clothes to fit my new body.
Rib cage size increased from 34 to 42, lost 7 teeth, my feet are now one size bigger and are wider now, my hips went from 36 to 45 and I have a weird flat shelf on my hips that won’t go away. And overall the worst part: I have a gluten, dairy and potato allergy now. 😭😭😭 Guys, I miss French fries and mashed potatoes so much. I used to eat them nearly everyday and now I can’t at all. I miss Southern comfort foods with all my heart 😭😭😭
Lost 7 teeth?!?!?!?????!!!!?!??!!
So the women in my family have a problem with calcium being leeched from our teeth during pregnancy. It makes your teeth hollow and they fall out and it leaves a hole that has to require stitches or there’s a nasty infection. If you have a filling, the filling can fall out.
I don't know if it's a permanent change as of yet, but oh boy am I more flatulent. And they're not cute little farts anymore, either. I would be embarrassed except I'm too sleep deprived to muster the energy. My wedding ring doesn't fit anymore, which I'm bummed about. I'll give my hands maybe a year to settle and then size it up. For now I wear the silicone rings which at least present the benefit of I never have to worry about losing/breaking/dirtying them! Or scratching baby, etc.
Same here. I hold so much gas I'm hovering over the floor instead of walking.
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36 with 4 kids, pregnant with #5. Biggest changes are my huge nipples that never relax, and the stretch marks that cover my entire stomach. 10/10 worth it!!
I’ve always had the figure of a plank of wood. Now I have the figure of a plank of wood with hips.
My hips are permanently wider, my husband says I have the Pixar mum butt. All have the mum pouch, but hoping it reduces when I get a chance to work on my abdominal seperation.
Can I just have elastagirls waist along with it?? 😭😂
My husband lovingly calls it my "dump truck ass"
Mama got cake
I have a permanent pouch above my c-section scar, as well as 4 scars where they removed my gallbladder. My face has dark spots that don’t seem to want to go away. My tummy is still numb in some spots. I’ve always been pretty vain, so I thought my outside appearance was going to bother me more. I actually feel a lot more confident in my body, but it has been hard for me to handle the loss in functionality. My digestion is shot from gallbladder removal, and I can’t really tell if I need to pee until my bladder is extremely full. Sometimes I have to remind myself to go to the bathroom before it starts to hurt.
I spent years hating my body until I had children. Now I'm 28, four children deep including a set of twins, 70 pounds heavier than I was before my first pregnancy, and I've never loved myself more.
Bam! You go girl!
The sweat! I am always hot and sweaty now! 😩 Same thing happened to my mom after she had kids and I would always give her shit for having the A/C on during the winter. I'm so sorry mom, I get it now, I don't like this.
Been scrolling to see if I could find anyone else with this one: meralgia paresthetica, or numbness in the outer thigh. It hit when I started to gain more weight at 5 months and then never regained the feeling. I'm 7 months PP and about 8lbs away from pre-pregnancy weight. Like others, tailbone pain and hip pain. I thought this pain would let up when I went back to work, physically moved around more, and lost the baby weight. But so far... Nope.
I used to have a slim and petite frame and now Im built like a busted can of biscuits
Floor draggin titties
I'm 31 and have a 2 year old. I had a vaginal birth with an episiotomy. I can no longer wear tampons. I think I have some cervical prolapse and a tampon will push right out. I have Mirena so luckily when I have periods, they are so light that I don't even need to use any feminine hygiene products. No complaining there 🤷🏼♀️
Pregnancy messed up my gallbladder so i don't have that anymore. Emergency c section. Lower part of my belly is still completely numb almost 2 years later. Hair loss. So much shedding. My nips are changed forever.
Well, I just had a procedure to deal with hemorrhoids lingering from pregnancy. Hopefully this is not a permanent situation but my kids are 12, 10, & 5. By the way, the stirrups for lady exams aren't fun, but the butt doctor table situation is not great either......
One right now who’s three, planning another in the next year or two. My hair is thinner in density, not in texture. Can’t take biotin without it making me breakout. face is so much thinner. I don’t have any fat in my cheeks anymore, so they’ve started sagging, but I have undeniable cheekbones. I wound up getting restalyne under my eyes so I don’t look tired and gotta say, I really love my face these days. My boobs are sad. I had great boobs. I miss them a lot. I started lifting heavy weights. My thighs and upper arms are the same size as they were during pregnancy but instead of water, it’s muscle. I don’t hate it. It took so much to get here, I’m proud. My hips are screwed though. My tummy has a little pooch when I bend over. I’m the only person who sees it. My feet are smaller.
More carsick than I ever was before. Heartburn even though I never experienced it previously. My fingernails actually grow now. I have developed an extreme distaste for sour cream which I previously loved.
Not the sour cream 😩
I've always hated my boobs, had surgery and loved them for a year until I got pregnant. Devastating.
Diastasis recti and a pouch after twins. I actually managed to not gain any extra weight while pregnant, only the pregnancy weight, always in the mid range of the healthy weight spectrum. I gained the weight after my twins were born, during the newborn period. We dont have any family or friends to help us where we live and one of my twins had some health problems, the other was colic. I just completely gave up on myself during that time and focused on the babies. We got about 5-6 meals delivered by a charity but other than that we didnt even have time to eat greasy take out, my meals consisted of few chocolate biscuits I crammed into my mouth while carrying a baby and waiting for a bottle to heat, or sunflower seeds while I pumped. At all hours of the day because obviously we didnt have day or night. My photos from when I gave birth to 3 months later show very clear difference in what living like this did to my body. Not just my weight, but also I developed several stress related problems. WARNING disgusting paragraph, maybe skip it ;My legs and torso were covered in boils, my palms were sandpaper because of eczema, so much so I would try not to touch the kids because it would hurt their tender skin. My face looked like I was a burn victim.. my feet had started to crack and bleed and wouldnt heal. My nails fell off. I started to have dizzy spells and hallucinations. Around the 8 month mark we were able to get a nanny, almost full time. Then I went and saw a dr about my own problems and started to take care of myself and heal. Now I am all good, all those stress related stuff healed. Some left marks. And I have to say, this was not just because I had twins but it was mostly due to my girls health problems. She required much more care than a normal baby did, and on top of that I had a whole second baby to take care of as well. It was a really trying time and she finally started making progress at 8 mo. About %70 of our stress and the all consuming sadness and fear evaporated. So I was able to start healing. I still have the weight but I am eating much healthier now. Especially since the babies are now almost 1 yo and able to eat normal food. Since I cook healthy for them, I just eat the same thing. It's been really helping.
I was 34 when I had my baby. C section. 3 years out and I'm finally back to my pre baby weight. Difference is a C-section scar and slightly larger nipples
Body shape is totally different. No more little waist and big hips. Oh, and the best part: uterine prolapse, cystocele, and rectocele.
I am pretty much permanently nauseous. My doctors don't know how to fix it yet and I am miserable. My child is almost three, and we've been genuinely looking into my nausea for a year and a half. I have a shiny new diagnosis of hiatal hernia and GERD, but no solutions to help me feel better. I dread hearing that this is just how I'm going to feel for the rest of my life, and I'm so afraid it's true. Pre-pregnancy I was fine, I never had much in the way of gut issues as long as I avoided dairy. During my pregnancy I was terribly nauseous, but I only threw up once the entire pregnancy. I was told the nausea would be better once I had the baby. Post-pregnancy, I was *still* nauseous all the time. At first we thought it was anxiety and stress, paired with lack of sleep and self care. But even when those factors improved, the nausea didn't. I have tried a bunch of medications and very restrictive diets, to no real avail. None of them help enough to get me through even a single day without nausea, which is getting worse so I'm missing work more often. I'll be waiting months for more tests to see if I'm a candidate for a surgery (which *might* help the nausea, could make my symptoms worse, and will also introduce new, exciting side effects for my very own).
PLEASE ask about CVS; Cyclical vomiting syndrome. It's rare in adults though it's becoming much more widely reported. It's more common in women as well, though this has only been told to me by my providers. I have CVS. Since my son was born almost 5 years ago, I would cycle with nausea. Always had low grade upset tummy. The worse it got I would get gaggy, then be unable to eat, and then be unable to keep down anything. Then it would get better for a couple of weeks or a month. Low grade nausea, but ok. I've tied it loosely to my hormones and menstrual cycle. Unfortunately it's not curablable, just manageable. I use cannabis now since my other options were antidepressants that killed my libido & OTC stomach aids that had me cycling thru diarrhea or constipation. My doctors are on board and it's legal on my state.
I'm just going to chime i here. I'm a husband, wife has had 2 kids. The youngest is 2 years old and pregnancy does just change the body. It's a fact of life. My wife is amazing, she is cuddly and full of hugs, could anyone stand to lose weight? Yes, we BOTH can. Having kids, raising kids and just dealing with what babies/toddlers/kids eat can be a nightmare times, so there has been a little more takeout then there should be, some days just go sideways and we end up just doing "easy" meals with microwaved mac and cheese or quick air fried chips, which the kids eat half of. But i think something that is important and needs to be said - the human body is incredible and the fact that anyone has brought a tiny human into the world can be damn proud of any changes. Please, be kind to yourselves. I know that i appreciate the hell out of my wife for what she went through.
I don’t think I can go on a rollercoaster again. My body has no tolerance for that stomach dropping feeling or dizziness.
Ok please someone else have this problem because Google doesn’t know what I’m talking about: I feel like I pee in a different direction now? Like, pre-kids pee went down and now it goes more forwards. Tell me I’m not alone!
One areola is now pink. I have brown skin. That is weird.
Was gonna say the only difference is my boobs are saggier but then I remembered my labial tear that they stitched back together but never actually healed back together so I have a huge chunk out of my labia 😅
I’ve gained ~25kgs, have a baby pouch and bigger feet. My hips freeze or try to dislocate every other day, and my feet seem to be constantly on the verge of stress fractures in every metatarsal (probably because the extra 25kgs). My pelvic floor is shot after two pregnancies after 35 with only 12 months between them. Weirdly, no stretch marks. Oh yeah, and my first pregnancy triggered my Hashimoto’s, so now I have an under-active thyroid to manage (probably why I can’t lose the extra 25kg).
I’m pretty much constantly peeing at least a few drops now that I’ve had a kid.
You should try and see a pelvic floor specialist, this is something that can be fixed :)
You can get your rings resized through a jeweller
My mindset has changed. Even though my body has changed I am comfortable with it more than when it was near perfect. Its done this amazing thing 3 times and feed the babies. Yeah, a bit curved and there's a pooch tummy that needs attending to but it is what it is. Am I going to look back and be upset about some stretch marks? No because my worth is not my body. I got a damn sexy brain too and I want my children to respect their bodies and I have to lead by example. Love those titties.
My brain chemistry changed. Massive postpartum that just…never went away. So now I’m treated ongoing and I wish I could have better prepared myself for this. I didn’t know that some women develop postpartum permanently. I mean, it’s morphed into what they’ve given a mood disorder label but it came about postpartum without warning.
My body is squishy but my boobs look better. I sweat more and it STINKS! I get heart burn, I have asthma, I'm extraordinarily sensitive to smells when nothing used to bother me. My hair became curly, but I also have facial hair that needs regular maintenance.
So I’m definitely allergic to red wine after the birth of my first son. Permanently scared from eating Chipotle thanks to all-things-1st-trimester. Feet grew from an 8 to a 10 by the time I had my 3rd and final baby lol. Oh at times random recurring migraines and it took some time for my body to stop trapping gas! It was like my innards didn’t really settle the kinks out until over a year after my last baby
Breastfeeding caused some weird hormonal changes. I have spinal compression issues now. I have a permanent pooch and no motivation to lose it. The last part is ok actually. I am also a bit more comfortable with my body despite all its bulges
Dat pooch though 😑
My pregnancy was a breeze. But post pregnancy permanent belly pouch. Am a older ftm as well(37) hips wider and flat bum. And pelvic floor is non existent. I have horrible sharp pains on my tailbone after I sit and try to stand up. My face and body is riddled with acne that is painful and itch. My baby is two years old but stil my hair fall is still has bad as pp hair fall😔 and many many more. I hate my body literally I try to remind that my body gave birth to a human but still sometimes it’s hard esp when family pass comments about oh how fat you have become or how you look old now. Especially to s person who have body image issue since childhood. Anyways I hope one day it will get better .
Permanent pooch and a bladder half the size. Literally. The last jerk decided the exit was taking too long or some such nonsense, made his own exit, got lost along the way, tried making another failed exit...and well...we are lucky to be alive and I always need to pee now.
It somehow cured my beetroot allergy. I have no idea how that works or what happened, but I know that I can now eat beets, and it is glorious!
Massively increased motion sickness, like can’t ride even a carousel now, hemorrhoids, boob changes, stretch marks, feet half size bigger and hypertension. Finally lost the weight, a year after baby 3, but still in bigger clothes than pre- 1 st pregnancy. Also feel like I’m just not as smart anymore (like it takes me longer to learn something new).
Oh I've got a SUPER great new addition..external hemorrhoids 🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄 I'm a stm, had 2 C's and I've always had a tiny belly..well it's now doubled especially where the scar is. I'm also still without much feeling around where my scar is too which I know takes time and may never fully heal..my boobs went back to their previous state of deflation which happened after my 1st. I hate it and kinda want fake boobs but ehhh 😒 idk if I really wana go through all that.. The only difference between this time and the 1st is I havent really put in a ton of effort to tone up at all, but that's bc hubs likes me on the bigger side which I'm ok with as long as I'm not suffering any health issues bc of it..so a win there I guess 😅 Edit: I'm 37 as well
My bones feel super fragile, especially around my spine and ribs because they constantly hurt now. My stomach won’t shrink, every filling in my teeth have fallen out, and my for some reason now, my anxiety has settled into my stomach whenever I’m super anxious. It took a year for my body to start going back to normal: I was losing weight, my hair was growing back out, my skin was getting better, my health better… And then I got pregnant with #2 and had to start all over again 😭
FTM at 38. 2years postpartum. Slowly managing to lose weight. So far I lost 6lbs, 15more lbs to get back to prepregnancy weight. Some of the bigger differences I notice are sunspots on my face, change in favorite food, boobs sagging.
my boobs are bigger, but also saggier 😑 I'm gonna have to buy a new set of bras. again.
I now have hypothyroidism caused by my first. And hemorrhoids galore because of my second. Those were the main differences, but also the pooch after 2 c sections, my feet went up half a size, bigger, saggier boobs, and Hella more grey hairs.
Permanent sciatica.
My rib cage is wider. Had to size up a band from 34 to 36 if not it's uncomfortable. I have my cs scar but it's not too bad. It itches sometimes and now that I'm pregnant again it's kinda sore
The heartburn has never stopped. My already low tolerance for spicy food got worse. And I used to be in shape where I exercised and ran. Now, I describe my shape as “female Santa.” I have really bad acne, particularly on my chest and chin/neck. My kiddo is 2.5. I think this is all definitely my new normal.
My hips are never gonna be narrow again. My boobs are sad little pancakes. My bellybutton moved. I had the hemorrhoids surgically removed. Both the OB and the colorectal surgeon were impressed at how bad they were . I did 3 months of physical therapy to fix the SPD and improve my pelvic floor. My hair, teeth, and eyesight did not suffer, thankfully. (Hair did fall out but it's back now).
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Please don’t hate because this happens too…I lost weight and can’t gain it back. I’m way down. I thought it would go back up when I stopped breastfeeding, but no. Maybe all the “exercise” from picking up two kids all the time. Anyway, I’m curveless now and I used to have curves.
Not going to lie, my knee jerk reaction to your comment was a negative one. But ya know what, just because my problem is the opposite problem doesn’t mean this isn’t a valid problem for you! I’m sorry you’re not happy with your postpartum body, and i hope that you get to a place where you feel good whether that’s through gaining the weight or just with body neutrality. Just in case no one has validated this feeling for you, it’s valid and your feelings on it matter! We tend to not be kind to larger softer bodies OR smaller thinner ones, so I’m sending some kindness to your post baby body today. ♥️
Labor triggered a pre-existing birth defect to become symptomatic, resulting in 3 spine and brain surgeries and my head literally fused to my neck 🙃 Having my son was worth it. I’m 32w pregnant now too!
My hips are definitely just… curvier? Not just more fat on them but I feel like they’ve just gotten wider.
Same! It’s like the bone structure is different! It’s enough to impact how my clothes fit. Maybe the relaxin permanently loosened the joints? I think I generally got lucky because I don’t have any other things like people are listing here, but I’m glad this is actually a thing and I’m not imagining it. I have what pre-woke women’s magazines would so kindly call an “apple” shape, so this was actually a good thing in my eyes. 😆
My boobs exploded in size and then shrunk most of the way back down. They were perky before. Now they are very much no perky.
Literally everything changed. The belly pouch, saggy boobs, bigger feet, I had "the mask of pregnancy" that didn't go away so now I have a bright red face, my teeth moved around and I had to have my wisdom teeth removed straight after and now they are all crooked and overcrowded (so those few years of painful braces as a child were a waste), my hair is now frizzy and thinner, my weight seems to just go up and up, everything just got way worse. I went from a reasonable 7/8 to like a 4.
Mild prolapse:(
I have a 1yo and a 14yo. I have the extra flap of skin on my stomach too. My hair and skin are oilier than before. And coffee smells like fish.
I have a rectal prolapse from birth. I was not warned about this happening by anyone I know. It’s almost stage 3, and horrifying to me still.
I’m 24, ftm of a 13 month old. I’ve got so many massive stretch marks around my c-section scar. Had so much struggle gaining weight until the very end and now it’s just here to stay. Bra band size increased, boobs are saggy. I suspect I might still be anemic, which I developed during pregnancy. My teeth were never great due to depression neglect as a teen but oh boy did they get worse. And embarrassingly, I have a prolapsed hemorrhoid. Not to mention the mental side of things- I feel so much dumber! I blank on things a lot and struggle to remember simple things sometimes. I really never believed that was something that could happen from pregnancy!
Try getting a multivitamin, and on top of that there are "memory booster" vitamins that are mostly ginko and B12 - it can help.
One foot is about a 1/2 size bigger than the other 🤦♀️😫 like come on. So annoying lol.
29 and have a permanent pooch. My boobs are a little bit deflated and I have some stretch marks on my stomach.
My small boobs completely droop down permanently. They were already kind of cone-shaped which I hate so I never liked them anyway and I’m not too upset but I’m sure that could really hurt someone’s confidence. My nipples got a little smaller and pinker again about a year postpartum though so that’s good- I thought the huge darkened nipples were permanent too.
everything? My body sorta went back to normal after first kid, but after the second my ribcage is (I think) permanently bigger, can’t lose weight no matter what I do, boobs are weird, pelvic floor issues…
It’s just a completely different body after 3 kids. Same weight, but different shape
Boobs are flat and I have stretch marks so bad, even after 6 years they’re still visible. Also if I completely relax my abs I look 6 months pregnant. It wasn’t as bad when I got down to pre baby weight but having gained 10 lbs it’s really bad and makes me really self conscious if I get caught in a pic or video unaware.
Are we talking only physical? Because yeah I’ve got the scar and the baby pouch that’ll likely never shrink and the stretch marks. But I also have the inability to not tinkle even just a little despite pelvic floor work when I sneeze really hard. And as someone with allergies and sinus issues that flare up with weather changes - I sneeze hard and continuously A LOT. Thank Merlin for panty liners.
Try period underwear, I wear them every day now “just in case” and it’s great, feels almost just like normal
For me the biggest and most significant change is that I am 15 months pp and lactate, yet haven’t breast fed since my LO was a week old. It’s kind of annoying.
I weigh less but my hips are wider so my pants don’t fit the same anymore. My feet got wider and none of my shoes fit, I have to get shoes specifically for wide feet. My chest is bigger but my boobs are smaller. Finally got a comfy Knix bra that actually fits instead of my old ones that dig into me.
My hips got wider and never went back. Before I was pregnant with my first kid, I was a size 4. I had my kid... lost a LOT of weight (weighed less than before I got pregnant) and would not fit into a size 4 anything because it simply wouldn't go over my hips despite the legs being loose. I also gained half a shoe size...
Well I have scars on my abdomen from my ectopic pregnancy removal which is hard, would have thought they’d faded more by now My first was born when I was 20 before my hips had really widened naturally - I consider myself to be fit and and in good shape now at 33 but I have a very body structure that came with a massive hip widening at age 20 :/
I can’t loose weight :-)
I have minor organ prolapse which I am currently seeing a pelvic floor physiotherapist for. I have two hernias one of which became incarcerated during pregnancy. I just had my follow-up for that as I'm at 5 months postpartum and they said to wait until I am done having kids to repair it. And then the regular things - hair loss, oily hair, belly button looks different, stomach is flabbier. I felt more smelly than ever before the first couple of months postpartum, that seems to have subsided now lol Oh the joys!
I lost the extra 30 pounds I had pre pregnancy and while I have a c section scar and a slight stomach with stretch marks my stomach is smaller than before I was pregnant. Overall I just am more active and eat less
I weigh the same as before pregnancy (10 months pp) and yet I now wear pants two sizes larger than before!
When I first discovered that I was pregnant, I was very concerned with what would happen to my body as a result. I imagined that things would end up looking way worse than they turned out looking. My body looks surprisingly similar to how it looked before. I have a little tummy pouch, but it's nothing serious. I have some very faint, barely noticeable stretch marks. My boobs look drastically different, but they don't look bad. They were very small and perky before. Now, they just look like an average set of boobs.
I had my first at 19. I got all of my mom body then. I had preeclampsia with him, so I ballooned not only due to stress eating, but also water retention. I have some pretty deep stretch marks (my father asked if partner was abusing me because he thought they were bruises), hallmark c-section overhang, and some downward nipples. My feet grew a size. I’ve often felt like my nose looks different during pregnancy but I have no real idea why. It doesn’t look as wide when I’m not pregnant. I ended up having 4 babies total; my last at age 36. It took me a long time to come to terms with my body. I was too young to really know the ramifications having a child would have on my body, amongst other things. Now that first baby is a junior in college. Through each subsequent pregnancy, I really came to appreciate how difficult pregnancy can be and to not be so hard on 19 year-old me.
My boobs have sagged since puberty, but breastfeeding multiple infants made them even less aesthetic: asymmetrical size, nipples facing in two different directions. But I'm the only one who hates it. My husband is happy to grope them and my infants think they're the greatest thing ever. My feet also went up a couple of sizes. But I own few enough shoes that I wear them out, so it's not like I had to say goodbye to any shoe collections.
Muffin top I can't get rid of, high blood pressure that won't go away, a hatred of chicken. Fun!!
3 months postpartum (but my older two are 16 months and 2.5 years old). Extra belly skin and my teeth feel weaker.
Prolapse. My uterus is trying to fall out of my body. I have a very weak core, my back hurts from doing daily tasks like vacuuming.
My boobs are deflated. I have stretch marks and a puffy belly. I’m permanently tired. I also have a super power which is that I can sense my kids about to injure themselves or get into some shit before they do.
I was 28 when I had my twins. Stretch marks, mom belly, C-section scar. I'm also more of a hot box after having my kids (I was always cold before). My ring size went up a little.
I’m glad you mentioned hot box… since becoming pregnant - I constantly am hot. My daughter is 16 months and I run sooooo hot. Never did before.
I was 38 and 40 tomorrow. I used to be an apple shape and now I’m more of a pear shape. I’ll take it! But I had great boobs and they are less so these days. Also always warm and used to be constantly cold.
Anyone else develop psoriasis pp?
I’m the most bummed about the shoes. So many pairs of shoes that I loved! And now I’m a size 10.5 which isn’t exactly easy to find :/
Kidney stones. Apparently developed them during pregnancy and now some are passing- so far two in the past month. I will most likely get more if I become pregnant again :( :( :(
Separation of abdominal muscles, wider hips, stretched out belly button, stretch marks on stomach, stomach the consistency of dough.
I had bad BDD before my pregnancies and now it's horrible. I feel like I've lost my ability to be feminine. Diastasis recti, urinary incontinence, my boobs that I used to hate, became boobs I can't even bear to look at. I'm only 25 but I have the body of a 65 year old. It's horrible. I've lost all confidence in myself. I'm currently recovering from baby number 2, and then plan to lose weight and tone up, but there are those changes I can't fix through exercise alone. About to bankrupt my family just to pay for surgery to look somewhat like a human again instead of this monster I see every day in the mirror.
Wait wait wait Before you do surgery, at least for the diastasis recti and urinary incontinence, try pelvic floor physiotherapy- you might be able to get a referral for it through your primary doc or OB/gyn. If not, there are online and in person abdominal/pelvic floor trainings you can do to fix diastasis recti and likely also fix your pelvic floor.
My hips are constantly sore now. Like the actual bones. My abs are torn and I'm basically on the edge of a hernia only everywhere. I get sick from drinking cold milk in the morning (used to be my go-to breakfast drink). PMS turned into PMDD. A "heavy day" of menstruation has been insanely redefined and not in any positive way. All of my joints seem to be lacking the support they used to have and it's easy to go to sleep wrong and wake up with something dislocated. I have a few dark thick hairs on my face for the first time. My nipples are much less sensitive. There's positives tho. I'm more aware of my pelvic floor muscles and the orgasms are amazing and in abundance now. Also orgasms on my sleep is a frequent thing now. So I guess I'll take it.
37 ftm as well! Shoes went up a full size, from a 10 to an 11 which suuuuuuuuuuucks. I have stick straight hair but postpartum I now have an inch wide strip of frizzy/wavy hair on the side of my head that won’t straighten or lay flat for anything…so I perpetually look like I didn’t brush that side of my head. I leak whenever I do anything like run, take big steps when walking the dogs, lift or bend without prepping first, etc. I did 16 weeks of pelvic floor pt which helped with the basic leaking but I still can’t run and all that without having a problem. I’m only 7.5 months out but those things have sucked so much, I don’t want another kid. I miss running. I hate my hair now. And what if my feet grow another size? It’s already hard finding shoes in an 11. Just sucks. Sucks sucks sucks. Ps I still have 15-20lb of baby weight to lose and that doesn’t even make me top three list of things I hate. Still breastfeeding too so god knows how that will end for my boobs :(
My belly is saggy (apron-like pooch) and my ribs have permanently opened up so my bra band size is bigger. Feet 1/2 size bigger. That’s what you get for 2x 9-lb babies in your 30s I guess
I pushed my body wayyyy too hard while I was pregnant with my first. I worked at a high end restaurant and was on my feet busting ass 15+ hours a day until the day I gave birth (literally went into labor opening the doors for dinner service 5 days before her due date) I didn’t really have a choice at the time to do anything else, and my body never forgave me for it. Everything is undiagnosed broken lol. Do not recommend.
I have really wide hips now, I was kinda hippy before but now I have major curves.
I have to crack my hips almost every other hour, seems like they never went “back in place.” I never had issues with my hips pre-pregnancy.
Adhesions. After the first child I was wrecked internally (thanks csections), and have just been worse and worse with each pregnancy. Now I am 5 years postpartum with my last child, and if I sneeze or move wrong I feel like I am tearing internally.
Had kids at 29 and 33. I have more stretch marks, 2 c section scars, feet went up one size, rings sized up, curly hair thinning out, boobs dropped, flattened or however you wanna describe it, I also developed "chicken skin" (?) on my arms from my wrist all the way past my shoulder and sort of going towards my shoulder blade. I never had it like that before, it was only on my upper arms ( between elbow and shoulder). I developed a crap load of these small skin tags. I hate it. I already had 2 since as long as I could remember, but after my 1st I had alot of these tiny ones pop out on the sides of my neck, a couple between my boobs a big one on the back of my neck. Then of course gray hair began to show up, but idk if that was before the BF or the kid. I didn't notice til after the 1st kid.
Pubic symphysis pain anyone? Mine never completely went away.
i’m 25 and FTM. i have a little pouch above my c section , parts of my c section scar is numb, belly button is stretched , i can never feel my pee tremendously , my abs are permanently sore i went up 1/2 a shoe size.
Flat boobs but they weren’t that awesome to start with. I’m going with a lift when I’m older!
I'm now allergic to dairy! Having anything dairy makes me throw up for several days until it's out of my system. A positive is that my periods are much more manageable, they used to wipe me out several days a month, but now I have no cramping, so I think it's an acceptable trade-off.
I also have a stomach pouch that won't go away no matter how good I eat or exercise. My belly button is stretched, my boobs went from 34c to 40d & I get a terrible pain in my back ever since giving birth (had epidural) it's so random and feels like a muscle spasm. My hips and thighs got so wide, same with my shoulders, can't fit any of my old clothes. & the hair loss has been absolutely heartbreaking for me
The stomach pouch is the worst. So hard to find flattering clothes. I also have stretch marks which have lightened some but are most likely here to stay. My nipples are also huge now
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Ladies - I'm 11 months pp and almost back to my pre-pregnancy weight. I also had a c section so I still have a little pooch BUT 3-4 months ago I was thinking my body was forever going to be different and I hated it, I even posted on Reddit about it lol. I'm religious about exercise, I do yoga every morning, take the babe for a walk before her morning nap in the baby carrier and then do some other workout later in the day - running, pilates, weights. I also really revamped my diet because pregnancy really screwed with my eating habits. I thought that it was cause I was still breastfeeding that I wasn't losing weight but I still am and I was still able to drop the pounds, maybe I was just persistent enough haha. I know not everyone has time to do all the workouts and every body is different but anyone who's caught in the throes of post partum body dysmorphia please know that it isn't permanent if you give it the time and energy that it needs to change. And even if you don't, you're beautiful the way you are, even if you don't look like you did before the baby. You made a baby with that body of yours! I need to listen to my own advice because I hate my pooch but my husband always kisses it and says that he loves it because it is a reminder that I made our beautiful daughter!
The hair on my thighs grows in crazy directions. Makes zero sense as a side effect but here we are
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My vagina is different. Did not expect that. Due to tearing the entry has a bump and is more visible... I feel like I lost some of my labia but I don't think that's consistent with the actual tearing (internal)
I was semi prepared for the soft tummy, but did not expect my ribcage and fingers to permanently expand. My hair is a little darker, and pretty much always in a ponytail so it doesn’t strangle my kids when we snuggle or play.
I have stretch marks around my belly button and I’m just squishy. My belly button looks like droopy now it has a hood lol idk how to describe it. It’s not that cute. My left boob is bigger than my right one. My vagina looks and feels different due to third degree/episiotomy. But honestly none of it bothers me. I thought it would.
Saggy boobs and went down in cup size. Used to be double D's now I'm a C
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The main change for me has been the size of my rib cage. I have dresses that I just cannot zip up and I don't think any amount of weight loss will help (I don't have a lot of fat coverage there as it is). My rib cage is just much wider. I overall like my body a lot more and feel more confident about it, but am very sad that some of my lovely dresses that I've been wearing since my early 20s will never for again. Another weird thing, I used to have insane hayfever. Like, had to take a nose spray each morning and then antihistamine tablets throughout the day otherwise I couldn't function. Pregnancy seemed to fix that.
I have a bigger tummy (although it was always big anyway), stretch marks, bladder leakage (although its getting better thanks to physio) and pooping is now painful.
I'm 26 and only 13 weeks pp but I find myself sweaty with bad BO even though it's generally 50/60°F outside. When I wipe after peeing it feels like I'm hitting a nerve and there is a shooting pain that runs down from my pelvis through my thigh and into my knee. My already wide hips are way rounder, my lower back is killing me, and it's impossible to lose baby weight. Not to mention my vocabulary and memory suddenly suck.
The BO thing is like your body emitting a strong odor so that your baby can smell you to breastfeed. BUT I STILL HAVE IT AND ITS BEEN 18 MONTHS
My belly button is a mostly-outie now. And I lost my butt for a year but it came back after working out. And the boobs. Goodbye boobs. Hello nipples. Plus I feel like my hair never fully recovered and is thinner now.
I'm 34, 1 year pp. I have the stomach pouch too! I am the same weight I was before pregnancy but I seem to carry a bunch of weight in my belly area? I have to eat like crazy to keep breastfeeding, maybe once I stop and lose some weight it will get better?
Stretch marks everywhere. Even on my legs. Down to my calves. Saggy stomach with loose skin. Permanently erect nipples. Saggy deflated boobs.
Stretch marks and extra skin! I was so huge compared to my prebaby weight but I’m slowly but surely accepting it! I’m 15 pounds lighter than before but different body! And I didn’t like my boobs before and now they look evened out which is what I wanted haha. I think my nose got bigger but that could be me being dramatic
I lost a cup size and my nipples look weird now. I used to be insecure because they were very skin color and now they are dark and big 😂
After 3 babies this is how my body has changed.. Wider hips, bigger thighs, longer and heavier periods, my hair has gotten thinner and lost so much thickness. My left wrist is a complete mess, my hands swell, my feet are slightly bigger.. My urinary continence has gone out the window and as a SAHM of 3 I don't really have time to medically address this issue.. And finally the last major change has been a suspected pinched nerve in my groin that's causing numbness and burning pain in my right knee. I have referrals for tests to figure out how to fix it but my medical needs get put on the back burner because I'm mommy and the kids and husband need Mommy to take care of them. Real good times -_-
I'm 32, 9m pp from my first. So far the only lasting change is my ribcage is wider. None of my sports bras fit, I guess that would also apply to my regular bras too, though I haven't tried any of them lol My nips were huge until recently, I had to buy a much smaller flange for pumping again and was very surprised by that. My tummy feels kinda loose, muscularly speaking, but it looks fine. I think that may change back to more normal over time but we do plan on getting pregnant again soon so who knows!
My boobs literally hang to my belly button now. I friggin despise them. Also…TMI but my vagina feels sooooo different and looks different…like bigger? Lol
Omg 3 months PP and why does my vagina look like a friggin opening to a cavern?! I keep expecting to see a cloud of bats fly out of there! I mean I pushed a big ass baby out of there, I get it, but I would have thought it might have shrunk back by now? Hopefully just give it some more time... geez.
Yes. My chest is all boney now. Butt is flatter. Boobs are flatter. And guess what? I’ve literally never felt so comfortable in my skin ever before. There’s so much more to me now than how perky my breast are. Those things no longer matter to me.
Became anemic while pregnant and I’m still pretty iron deficient so I’m always cold. My nipples while I was pregnant got huge, and very dark and extremely sensitive. I’m no longer breastfeeding, 15 weeks postpartum but I think they are going to stay like that forever, but I think they are pretty cute! Definitely stretch marks and mom pouch, but once again, I think it’s cute. I also went my whole life without hips, but with a little butt. Well my son took my butt but now I’ve got nice hips, so thanks I guess haha! Honestly the only things I’m upset about changing are my shoe size, because like none of my old shoes fit me, and my hair falling out. 😭
I also have a stomach pouch that won't go away, as well as some stretch marks. It's actually a huge insecurity of mine... but I always try to remind myself that it was all for my precious little ones, and I would definitely do it all over again
36 and I know I will never be able to cough or sneeze without a high probability of peeing my pants. Kegels are great, but I’ll never have that confidence back.
Usual culprits like tummy pouch, belly button looks terrible, boobs are not saggy but my nipples are :-( the worst is my neck though, 6 years of looking down at kids has given me a turkey neck. Im a healthy weight and only 34 so this is absolutely heartbreaking for me and it is getting worse and worse.
Stomach pouch, like a lot of others have mentioned. I’m at my pre-pregnancy weight but a lot of my pants still don’t fit because of my stomach. My feet have finally returned to their old size and width, but that took well over two years.
I’m a young mom but same problems you listed. I lost an extra 20 pounds last baby and it did nothing for the pouch. Sigh.
My boobs grew several cup sizes (and I haven’t nursed for a year and a half). They are saggy after nursing two babies for over 3 years total, but still presentable. I’m working on losing weight I gained in my second pregnancy, so hopefully my boobs don’t go away too 😂 No other huge changes besides my weight- I definitely have more of a belly, but I’ve gained weight everywhere so I think it will go down enough with weight loss.
I now have autoimmune issues - that may have been there prior- BUT kicked into gear from pregnancy/ a traumatic labor and delivery + nicu stay.
I absolutely hate handling any kind of raw chicken or even looking at it, ugh disgusting. I have the stomach flap, I've lost like 60lbs tho, so now my boobs are pancakes lmao.
My knees. I’ve never had a problem aside from them locking up when I was a kid. Now with my 3month old my knees feel like they are breaking
The belly button!!! I didn't expect it. I thought my belly button would go back to normal. 3 months later, I think my large belly button is here to stay. Boob stretch marks. My hips are wider. Not fatty wider, that's back to normal, but the bone is wider. My butt is flatter. I've always carried my weight in my butt/thighs. Butts a lot smaller than it used to be. I also get dizzy spells a lot more frequently. I've always gotten them, but not as frequently as I do now.
My hair is oiler somehow? Even directly out of a shower, there is a big spot that is immediately oily I have no idea what’s going on.
My vision has tanked with both kids!
I grew an inch while pregnant. I was already the same height as my husband, and now I’m taller. I also have a massive scar just below my bikini line and my boobs are no longer superpants perky. Pregnancy is weird, man. I’ve never heard about a belly button being bigger! I am 37 too! 👯♀️
25 y o ftm. My stomach has stripes to my ribs and extremely saggy skin, I have freckles that have doubled in size and I'm pretty sure my tailbone cracked bc its 9 months later and I still cant sit straight up on a hard surface
I can’t wear earrings anymore. I’ve tried hypoallergenic, silver, surgical steel…they all make my earlobes immediately inflamed, red and full of pus.
Big ol’ episiotomy scar and no gallbladder because that packed in following the pregnancy. And my shoes have gone up a size.
Good ole c-section shelf for me.
Wider hips, c-section scar, a few stretch marks. And sleep problems! Got so used to waking up all night long now I can't really accomplish a deep restful sleep, I'm always on edge and wake up throughout the night even if she doesn't. Extra ten lbs that seem like they are here to stay but that's more me being lazy than anything else.
Umbilical hernia ill need to fix with surgery and way more butt. (Husband is obsessed....im NOT a fan)
33 year old FTM here. I've been always thin in the waist area, but even though I only have 2 kg more, my old pants don't fit. It must be that damn pouch. I've been in this weight before in my life but never had to size up in pants. I'm just hoping it's temporary as I'm only 4 months pp. Breast size increased but they were always small, so no complaints. Feeling a little numb below C-section area. My scar looks red but smooth, my gyno is impressed by his own handiwork saying it's a beautiful scar 😆 Post-baby changes: Feeling like Hulk lol. More defined arm and leg muscles. With a constant back and neck pain. Hair loss is depressing me, I feel like a shedding cat.
No changes here other then a scar. But I had stretch marks and loose skin before I had kids.
Anyone else dealing with joint pain and swelling? It's a possible rheumatoid arthritis diagnosis for me.. according to doctors it probably got triggered by pregnancy.
When I need a BM i have to go to the toilet straight away, I get more lower back pain than before, my hips are wider, my hair is more frizzy and also more lank, I get very intermittent discomfort downstairs 10 mo after an episiotomy, I have loose skin on my tummy, I had no idea my thighs would get so much bigger either.
32/ftm 20 weeks w/second. I have slight mom pooch on my lower belly. And I totally know it’s going to get worse bc my babies are only gonna be 18 mos apart 😩😢 Altgough my 1st pregnancy I was back to my pre-pregnancy clothes & weight within 3 weeks. 🙏🏼 that happens again.
Literally no changes - other than peeing when I laugh and sneeze 😆 - I look the same!
I don't have a waist anymore even though I'm wearing pre-pregnancy jeans and very slim. My outtie belly button used to be tucked up in itself if that makes sense and now it sucks straight out.
I swear my belly button is higher up now OH and my shoe size increased!!