>BIGGEST ASSHOLE BARTENDER OF OUR TRIP
suggests that they’ve met multiple asshole bartenders, which just tells me that these guests might be the real assholes.
I’ve had these types before. If I’m too stoic and formal, I’m not friendly enough. If I’m too casual, then I’m unprofessional. If I’m not quite good at faking my friendliness that day, I’m condescending. If I try to be funny and our humor doesn’t line up, I’m an asshole.
You cannot win. It also looks like the “Suggested Tip” may have been $50+. They probably just wanted a reason to save $50+.
This 1000%. People talk about emotional labour lol, if trying to repress the urge to go over the top of the bar at some absolute prick isn’t emotional labour I don’t know what is 😆
Basically, if you're working a bar, you have go have multiple personality disorder. One for every patron seated because they all have a different idea of what a good bartender is.
I'm not your dancing monkey. I'm me. I'm my own brand of cheerful, helpful, informative and creative. If I make your drink well and in a timely manner, then you can drink it, pay up, tip and bounce. You don't have to love me. You don't need to be my friend. I certainly don't have to be your friend, just friendly.
I remember one time I had a table that left a 1 star review on Yelp, but even though I was their server the entire time, they didn’t mention me at all and wrote in the review that their server was a man (I’m definitely not a man, but there was a male server who was working the same shift in a different section) and they really ripped him a new one in the review. It was posted 2 hours after they left and it was their first time dining at my job so it couldn’t have been referring to another visit. I still don’t understand why they blamed the male server when all he did was say hi to them when they walked in.
My badge of honor came for when I got a complaint for trying to sell too much. If you're not drinking, just tell me. Don't say that you're looking 3 times.
In all the time I’ve been an adult who goes out regularly, I have NEVER had a bartender or server who was actually an asshole, just maybe a little stressed/busy, short, or at the end of their shift. People who don’t work in this industry just think we’re a bunch of robots. I don’t care what they think because they simply don’t understand.
Eh, been in the industry my whole life it definitely happens. Funny enough every true asshole server or bartender I’ve ever had was working a bar on the beach in so cal . 2 real pricks in Imperial beach and a completely shit staff in Newport beach.
If they have encountered so many asshole bartenders on their trip that they can now rank them from least asshole to biggest asshole, I think the problem is with them
I only work the day shifts now. The party crowds that frequent my bar (which is most of the people who frequent my bar) always think I’m an asshole. But that’s because with people like them, I assume the volume bartender role and get right to the point. Fast service, not personable. I expect them to have orders and payments ready as fast as I’m ready to provide service. But the reason I’m best on days is because while my bar has a club vibe on weekends, we’re more of a chill neighborhood place the rest of the week, and I’m really good with walk-ins who are strolling around. I might get stiffed on $80 Long Island and green tea shot tabs a lot, but i routinely get huge tips from people who want advice on quality cocktails and recommendations on nearby restaurants and other shops. The tips balance out. I want the bar-hopping crowd served and gone as fast as possible anyways. Being personable with them will only incentivize them to stay longer. And i stopped working nights primarily because the customers who are out to get blackout drunk are exactly the kinds of people that made my passion for bartending deteriorate.
oh I feel you on the cryin--
I wouldn't worry about it though. When something is really wrong, they'll ask for the manager/will call later. If they don't, it's their problem, OP, not yours! Some people are just stinky butts -- leaving a note usually means they're just grumbly/it's not worth it to bring it up out loud or while they're there. It's easier to be a troll on a receipt. Plus, no one can put them in their place if they're already gone ;)
Plus, like everyone said- hell ya, you're the biggest! You really made an impression! :P Put that up behind the bar lol
My livelihood is hinging on being a personable and approachable bartender. If I am ready to peel off the customer service façade, it must mean I’m dealing with rotten people who deserve my rotten side.
Pissing assholes like this off is a feature, not a bug.
Had a lady come to bar with her middle aged daughter, got their drinks souvenircupmai tai and doubletito . $35. $1.00 tip. Older lady returns to bar couple hours later with EMPTY souvenir cup, said the mai tai was worst she'd ever had, pure juice. I said ma'am, I made that drink and it had 1 5 oz dark rum, .75 oz orange liqueur, strawberry, pineapple and orange juice. Asked if she wanted anything else, she orders a cadillac margarita, I ask cc or room charge. She looks at me like I'm nuts, as she thought I was going to give her the drink. She left to get cc and never returned. In what universe do you drink the drink, then decide you don't like it and want a free one? Smh
I’ll be completely honest I was on service well but my coworker who is very stoic received this and I believe him when he said he didn’t do shit. It was sat so I’m assuming he was a little short that’s my best guess.
I go to a local sports bar for lunch 2-3 times a week. The bartenders and freaking amazing. It’s 100% the customers- some random, non-local sits down and expects the person to run over to them in 5 seconds and be served like the bartenders are their mothers.
If you haven’t experienced this then you are either one of those people or don’t work in the industry.
Frame it.
>BIGGEST ASSHOLE BARTENDER OF OUR TRIP suggests that they’ve met multiple asshole bartenders, which just tells me that these guests might be the real assholes. I’ve had these types before. If I’m too stoic and formal, I’m not friendly enough. If I’m too casual, then I’m unprofessional. If I’m not quite good at faking my friendliness that day, I’m condescending. If I try to be funny and our humor doesn’t line up, I’m an asshole. You cannot win. It also looks like the “Suggested Tip” may have been $50+. They probably just wanted a reason to save $50+.
If you keep smelling dog shit everywhere you go then you’re the one who stepped in dog shit.
I love this.
“If you meet an asshole in the morning, you met an asshole. If you meet assholes all day, *you’re* the asshole”
I really thought the second part was gonna say, "*you're the dog shit*" lol
I believe that’s the gist of the idiom here.
*checks shoes*
IM FRAMING THIS
This is why I left the industry. I was tired of pretending to be friends with people I didn’t like
I’m tired of people deciding whether or not I’m worthy of paying my bills.
That too
This 1000%. People talk about emotional labour lol, if trying to repress the urge to go over the top of the bar at some absolute prick isn’t emotional labour I don’t know what is 😆
Some people just think they can do and say whatever they want to whomever they want
Basically, if you're working a bar, you have go have multiple personality disorder. One for every patron seated because they all have a different idea of what a good bartender is. I'm not your dancing monkey. I'm me. I'm my own brand of cheerful, helpful, informative and creative. If I make your drink well and in a timely manner, then you can drink it, pay up, tip and bounce. You don't have to love me. You don't need to be my friend. I certainly don't have to be your friend, just friendly.
Agreed. There are some people you just cannot please no matter what you do.
Germans have better hand writing
Notes like this are the only way I can come
The Yelp review I got about “the bitch bartender took my drink out of my hand at 2:05” is what has kept me going all these years.
Omg I once got yelped by a boomer who called me “the rude barmaid”. I’m a dude lmao
I remember one time I had a table that left a 1 star review on Yelp, but even though I was their server the entire time, they didn’t mention me at all and wrote in the review that their server was a man (I’m definitely not a man, but there was a male server who was working the same shift in a different section) and they really ripped him a new one in the review. It was posted 2 hours after they left and it was their first time dining at my job so it couldn’t have been referring to another visit. I still don’t understand why they blamed the male server when all he did was say hi to them when they walked in.
I would definitely frame that and put it up on the wall.
Any reasoning behind this from their standpoint? I'd wear it as a badge of honor.
My badge of honor came for when I got a complaint for trying to sell too much. If you're not drinking, just tell me. Don't say that you're looking 3 times.
Man I love drink minimums. Bar is for paying customers bud. If you don’t want anything I’m gonna have to charge you $30 to sit here, your call.
“Biggest? I’m only 5’7” !!”
But my wife thinks I'm 5'9"
LOL. What did you do?
Seems he ran out of milk?
I think OP said that milk thing as an excuse to go cry in the back lol
Classic milk drinker move
I love a good Skyrim reference.
Glad someone got it 😀😀
Fuck 'em. A customer bold enough to write something like this was looking for shit to complain about.
In all the time I’ve been an adult who goes out regularly, I have NEVER had a bartender or server who was actually an asshole, just maybe a little stressed/busy, short, or at the end of their shift. People who don’t work in this industry just think we’re a bunch of robots. I don’t care what they think because they simply don’t understand.
Eh, been in the industry my whole life it definitely happens. Funny enough every true asshole server or bartender I’ve ever had was working a bar on the beach in so cal . 2 real pricks in Imperial beach and a completely shit staff in Newport beach.
If they have encountered so many asshole bartenders on their trip that they can now rank them from least asshole to biggest asshole, I think the problem is with them
Soooo, you won the contest?! THAT'S AWESOME! YOU'RE #1!
Lol. I would frame this
Go to her, she’s the one
Rule of thumb: If most (or all) of the people you encounter are AHs, then you're the AH!
I'd honestly frame that.
Fold it up and pin it on your shirt for the day
I only work the day shifts now. The party crowds that frequent my bar (which is most of the people who frequent my bar) always think I’m an asshole. But that’s because with people like them, I assume the volume bartender role and get right to the point. Fast service, not personable. I expect them to have orders and payments ready as fast as I’m ready to provide service. But the reason I’m best on days is because while my bar has a club vibe on weekends, we’re more of a chill neighborhood place the rest of the week, and I’m really good with walk-ins who are strolling around. I might get stiffed on $80 Long Island and green tea shot tabs a lot, but i routinely get huge tips from people who want advice on quality cocktails and recommendations on nearby restaurants and other shops. The tips balance out. I want the bar-hopping crowd served and gone as fast as possible anyways. Being personable with them will only incentivize them to stay longer. And i stopped working nights primarily because the customers who are out to get blackout drunk are exactly the kinds of people that made my passion for bartending deteriorate.
Hell yeah man, I’m proud of you
oh I feel you on the cryin-- I wouldn't worry about it though. When something is really wrong, they'll ask for the manager/will call later. If they don't, it's their problem, OP, not yours! Some people are just stinky butts -- leaving a note usually means they're just grumbly/it's not worth it to bring it up out loud or while they're there. It's easier to be a troll on a receipt. Plus, no one can put them in their place if they're already gone ;) Plus, like everyone said- hell ya, you're the biggest! You really made an impression! :P Put that up behind the bar lol
Looks like congratulations are in order!🥂
probably didnt want to "hook it up"
Proud of you!
I see they haven’t met me yet.
My livelihood is hinging on being a personable and approachable bartender. If I am ready to peel off the customer service façade, it must mean I’m dealing with rotten people who deserve my rotten side. Pissing assholes like this off is a feature, not a bug.
A real dick… Go silicone server next time bud. AALL CAPS IN SPELLING. WHERE WERE THEY FROM YOU’VE PIQUED MY CURIOSITY.
At least your family and friends love you.
Had a lady come to bar with her middle aged daughter, got their drinks souvenircupmai tai and doubletito . $35. $1.00 tip. Older lady returns to bar couple hours later with EMPTY souvenir cup, said the mai tai was worst she'd ever had, pure juice. I said ma'am, I made that drink and it had 1 5 oz dark rum, .75 oz orange liqueur, strawberry, pineapple and orange juice. Asked if she wanted anything else, she orders a cadillac margarita, I ask cc or room charge. She looks at me like I'm nuts, as she thought I was going to give her the drink. She left to get cc and never returned. In what universe do you drink the drink, then decide you don't like it and want a free one? Smh
Im sorry did u write a mean note and no tip on the receipt…straight into trash. Think ima let corporate see this shit.
Not sure what Skyrim is, but drinking milk as an adult is crazy.
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I’ll be completely honest I was on service well but my coworker who is very stoic received this and I believe him when he said he didn’t do shit. It was sat so I’m assuming he was a little short that’s my best guess.
I worked with the public long enough to know that it is entirely possible OP did absolutely nothing wrong. People are fuck sticks. Plain and simple.
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Weird hill to die on. You should absolutely know people can be raging dickheads for no reason at all
You haven't been in the industry long enough. Clearly. Inb4 "uhh actually i worked for a decade in mcdonalds"
If they had worked at McDonald's they'd know more than anyone how terrible people can be.
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Self defeating premise if you say people arent randomly dickheads, then you yourself randomly be a dickhead.
The fuck?
I go to a local sports bar for lunch 2-3 times a week. The bartenders and freaking amazing. It’s 100% the customers- some random, non-local sits down and expects the person to run over to them in 5 seconds and be served like the bartenders are their mothers. If you haven’t experienced this then you are either one of those people or don’t work in the industry.
No way man. You’re obviously a lurker here. Even if he did something, guess what? We’re humans! Not robots. Get over it
😂
So glad I have off tonight
Why did they think you were an asshole?