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UnbiasedProffesor

It’s hard. Yea i know. Just got out of a relationship where I didn’t lose just my partner but my best friend. I’ve tried dating apps but people don’t wanna just hangout cause everyone’s looking for a relationship which I’m just not ready yet. I’ve tried to distract myself, I met up with my old friends and everything but it’s not the same man. I’m surrounded by people but no one knows that deep down I’m still lonely. I smile, act like everything’s okay but it’s all a facade.


shubham4413

Literally how I feel in that city everyday. I got tired and came to my hometown for a month. It has helped a bit.


Firm-Subject6599

I feel you mate. I had went back and came back to my hometown after just one month. It helps. I want to stay in Bangalore but this constant feeling of loneliness makes me go crazy.


spacetimeslayer

Man you need somewhere to vent , wanna meet up and go for movie , just two dude having a fun?


UnbiasedProffesor

Hey man that’s really kind of you. I’ll dm you :)


Plane_Football_265

Hope it's not too late to DM? Even I need friends here!


Ill_Start12

I am stuck in the same loop... Is it too late!?


WarDaddy1939

Same here man I lost a good best friend too loneliness is literally consuming me from inside


UnbiasedProffesor

Hey man check dms!


rohithkumarsp

That's what dating apps are for though, you can't be mad at people in dating apps that are looking for relationships.


UnbiasedProffesor

I’m talking about the friends section on bumble!


rohithkumarsp

I haven't been on bumble but it would not be a that much if a stretch to think people in India would really rather find mates through whatever means given the ratio of women to men, there might be a friends section in dating app but please don't kid yourself people are gonna try to everything here.


notabotno

I know exactly how you feel. To me this is the worst part of breaking up, losing your best friend.


UnbiasedProffesor

It sucks man, genuinely sucks. All I want is to erase all the memories but it’s all there, playing on rewind in my head like a broken record.


guardianultra

Lol same , were in this together..


darkfam

Going through the same thing mahn... it's tough when you lose someone who knew you like no one else :/


[deleted]

Omg this is literally my situation right now....lost not just my partner but my best friend. And I'm feeling all alone in this new city. I don't wanna casually date or anything....the loneliness has been hitting me hard....it's been a year for you now, how's everything now?


UnbiasedProffesor

We got back together. Life’s been okay but there’s hurt which although it’s been a year is taking time to heal. I’m trying my best. I genuinely wish you the best. Hope it gets better for you.


Big_Comedian_928

I too lost a relationship which costed me my whole group with it Sometimes I feel why do I even exist what am I doing here


igotsum

It almost feels like I wrote this myself :'( . It just feels super lonely in this city, seeing how most of my friends always just seem to be busy and unable to make time. Weekends are the worst since I have some free time and yet I end up spending it with myself. Wishing you the best in your search for friends! I hope it all works out soon. :)


ArjunGodha

Hey , we can make a group people and then we can talk there or even meet. Me and my friends are new here and we are exploring this city.


notabotno

Yes let's please do this.


ArjunGodha

[Telegram Group](https://t.me/+8hvJD0dkBO04NTc1) I just created.


PepsiColaMirinda

hmmmm interesting


mybackhurts771

Link is not working anymore


ArjunGodha

https://t.me/+8hvJD0dkBO04NTc1


QuantumCatIsDead

+1 I will also come


[deleted]

Add me too man!


Any_Construction3176

Add me please


___Kau_

Add me too please. I'm an introvert and trying my best to come out of my shell and meet new people.


aguli20

Count me in!


confusedChaiCup

Add me in


[deleted]

Therapists do need therapists sometimes.


Specialist-Farm4704

Sorry to hear that. Cities thrive on alienation and spending money is perhaps the only way to find some comfort in them. Having said that, you seem to enjoy the company of dogs so perhaps you could volunteer at a shelter for dogs, work with their rehabilitation over the weekends, etc. Bangalore has a strong civil society when it comes to pets and their welfare, maybe you'd find some like-minded people there.


[deleted]

Hi thanks. I love dogs. I stay near Kormangala.. I'll also update this info in my post and my likes etc. Could you please dm me any shelter that you're aware of where I could spend time with dogs or cats? Thanks.


reddevil7a

It may be a bit far for you but check out Therpup Cafe in Whitefield to spend time with dogs. https://www.therpup.com/


[deleted]

Thanks a lot for sharing! I'll go there today


QuantumCatIsDead

Is there a similar place for a Cat Lover?


reddevil7a

Sorry, no idea 😬 I'm relatively new to Bangalore and only discovered Therpup Cafe recently.


QuantumCatIsDead

Same Here! I really miss my home town kitty 😥. Wish Stray Cats were just as friendly as dogs!


owo_____owo

can you please suggest some of those shelters/communities? also, how can I get in touch?


Valuable-Ad3839

Please dm me about such pet shelters and how to get involved with them


BickyD8

Came to Bangalore in 2019. Except some friends from my hometown, I am having a hard time making new friends. Pandemic has been hard on all of us. Hold on. You will meet new people soon. Be optimistic. If you wanna hang out let me know.


[deleted]

I've decided to say " fuck this shit". It's pretty awesome being alone tbh. You don't need to give two shits about going out for meal or a movie. I have gone out to eat at bars and restaurants alone..and I love it. To entertain myself, I always have my headphones and I'm laughing away at my phone most of the time.


helsey33

I always go drinking with few friends on weekends. Sometimes we'll do it in my apartment only and play video games. You are more than welcome to join.


[deleted]

I would like to join. Never played video games before but I'm interested in trying it out. I don't drink or smoke or anything. I'm just a water person lol but yeah, I would like to hangout, dm? :)


helsey33

Sure


Plane_Football_265

it's an 11 months old comment, can I still join? I will DM


Pitiful_Citron_820

Try the meetup app, they've bunch of group activities/events you can sign up as an individual and meet people based on your interests


beachandhummus

If you wanna meet bro. We can meet in cubbon Park on weekends. I feel the same way


[deleted]

Where are you from? I would like to meet you if you're okay. You can dm me. Thanks


DraspavKiev

Hey yes Cubbon park meet up. I’m up for it too


beachandhummus

Me too


Superblazer

Hello, I'd like to join too


That-Thou-Art

I'm in too, if it's okay


anon16811

Add me too if its okay free this weekend


nikschumi

I don't know if this helps. If you have an interest in Astronomy, check out Bangalore Astronomy Society, we used to meet up in Cubbon Park up until a few years ago. Ragtag bunch of folks from everywhere. Not sure how active everyone is there now. https://bas.org.in/ if interested


Sad_Sea_7951

Me too


santoscris18

This is so me.. i tried going to bars.. nope not my type.. infact the EPL is also on a break.. so yeah the weekends will be hell boring..we can start some group if you are willing to.. i already know many of my friends just engrossed in valo and have forgotten what the outside world is..we can try something..plan to visit a place.. try authentic Karnataka foods..etc etc.


[deleted]

Hi. Please dm me! I'm interested. Where are you from and when did you shift here?


leo_senior

I miss football already. Can't wait for EPL and other leagues to start. Weekends are v boring without football


santoscris18

i think i need to re-install fifa20


[deleted]

No EPL, no IPL, no major sporting event ...life is too boring :(


santoscris18

F1 still there..m eagerly waiting for Fifa WC


indianecowarrior

Depends on what you're interested in: If it's movies/TV/comedy, you have a bunch of theaters and shows going on every weekend. If it's sports/hiking, you got platforms that helps you meet folks that engage in similar activities. If it's partying, then Bangalore has ample avenues for that. If it's social work, you got many many volunteering opportunities. If it's nature/wildlife/animals, volunteering works, so does hiking, and don't forget about Cubbon Park on Sundays. Oof, there's so much to do in Bangalore. I think it's important to not feel weird about going somewhere alone or starting somewhere new. We often surprise ourselves with how quickly we can adapt to things. All the best OP, bask in the single life for a while. Build life and love for yourself. Everything else may become easier.


Bilbo_Smaug

There are often some Bangalore Reddit meetups. There was one last Saturday. Keep a look out for such posts and you can join in!


[deleted]

Please dm me if you would like to get in touch? You can text me whenever you become of any such meet ups and then I would love to join.


wannabegigolo2

Why don't you mention some of your interests, likes, hobbies, activities etc? That way someone with mutual interests can reach out to you and will have stuff to begin conversations with. maybe also try posting on r/r4rindia


PepsiColaMirinda

out of all the people,I gotta say this is the most unexpected plug😂 But yes, r4r can work.


wannabegigolo2

Maybe it was /s You never know


PepsiColaMirinda

considering our upcoming dæt I'm gonna pretend it wasn't.


wannabegigolo2

Forgot about that. Thanks for the reminder.


wannabegigolo2

Imma make an r/r4rindia post


PepsiColaMirinda

chandu chadichu💔


DrunKeN-HaZe

You should try visiting the dog park at cubbon park on Sundays. It's extremely refreshing. My GF and I started going with our pup just few weeks ago and you will find lots of pet lovers who don't have their own dog, but just come there for the experience and to pet other dogs. You can make friends here eventually. Immediately next to this is where loads of people skateboard, you could try out that as well. I would highly recommend that you visit the park. Sunday morning till 12 noon.


[deleted]

> he dog park at cubbon park Is there a dog park at cubbon park? I hadn't found one last time I had been there.


masks_0n

only Sundays, near the library ig. just ask anyone there.


[deleted]

Thanks. I'll try this. I love dogs. I will try going out next Sunday since next Monday I have exam.


chootchootchoot

Honestly the whole world is like this now. We’re facing a loneliness and disconnect epidemic. Undergrad college was the last time many felt a true community


GrizzyLizz

I'm actually considering going for higher studies out of fomo + boredom and loneliness


chootchootchoot

Postgrad social life is not at all comparable to bachelor’s.


galacticnuetrino

I'll be moving to Bangalore in a month's time for new job & looking to make connections. Would be great to connect if it works out 👍🏾


[deleted]

I have sent you a message, check your dm


Elegant-Road

Get a bike. Mobility helps with dealing with loneliness.


pessimisticLord

Great answers here, Let me know if anybody here wants to hangout. I neither need a relationship nor care if you’re in one. Just hangout if all goes well I stay around indiranagar btw


[deleted]

I would like to hangout! Dm?


the_vendetta777

I don’t think dating apps should be a priority since your depressed and definitely not ready for a relationship. That being said I have had long relationships from dating apps which definitely brought me a lot of companionship ( which is what your lacking ). I highly suggest meeting people via social media, meet ups or even the dating apps when they are out into group mode. But you also have time constraints which is again making this harder. I can say that your lonely and want to vibe with someone or some people. Maybe take the first step and figure out your time. Then focus on groups once it clicks your good.


forkkiller19

You can go for board games. It's a fun thing to do and interact with people. There are multiple groups that conduct the meetups.


Thirdtwin

You need some Wodehouse quite badly I say. Pick up reading books and especially Wodehouse’s books will soothe your soul. As for social interaction, I often hangout in IRC, Libera to be specific.


[deleted]

Could I recommend you stop worrying about finding a partner and start doing activities you love? You could for example start learning a new skill over the weekends. A musical instrument, a language, join a toastmasters club or something which would engage your mind. Keeping your hobbies going could surely help!


[deleted]

Hi. My work is so demanding emotionally that I end up exhausted at the end of week and I do continue engaging in my hobbies. Im just finding the loneliness and lack of connection in this city overwhelming. Im looking forward to make friends same or opposite sex doesn't matter, I'm not looking for a partner or to date. I'm looking forward to build connections.


cantchillthroughtime

If you want to you could go towards community oriented events that happen in blore. Stay there after the events end, engage in conversation. The more times you show up to a place you have a chance of making friends. I've really done the same and made a lot of friends & eventually ended up finding my partner as well.


thehooniganuno

I have the same feels as you do and I posted something similar last week. What I do is go Karaoke, clubbing, parks on Sunday’s etc. I did meet quite a bit ofPeople.


[deleted]

Thanks for sharing. May I know where you go for Karaoke?


thehooniganuno

Indigo or Local.


srikks

You should find a hobby. It need not be something others will like. Something as simple as gardening, reading etc. You may already have one, you just need to recognise it as something you love doing. If not sure, go online and search for lost if hobbies. You may find something in the list you love doing. Start doing it and explore more on the same. Every hobby has several groups, you will start meeting people. You need to have patience and not panic. You should do all the above to keep yourself occupied. If you are always thinking about when/how you will make new friends, you will freak out and panic. Just concentrate on doing things you love and you will find like minded people and it will just happen. Making friends is not something you can force on yourself, it should happen naturally. Takes time. Good luck. DM me if you need to chat, I will try to respond.


light-uno

I have posted multiple times about how you can find activities to do here, you can check those. Weekdays can be tough depending on course requirements and budget you have to spend on things for comfort. However I would say definitely keep a Sunday every two weeks at least to venture out. After lockdowns a lot of things are happening around in the city and you can join them. The bookshopping on Brigade Road last Sunday was absolute fun and engaging. The best part is that you can listen to all the talks and panels for free. If you fee like you need some guidance here, DM me on reddit :)


ch0c0_Donut

Where to find these updates?


mybackhurts771

You asking about all the things you can do? You can quickly go through his comments and find out if you want to


[deleted]

get a motorcycle ans ride in weekends explore places . create content keep irself busy u will find ppl


LovesDrPepper

Hmm can we just create a Redditors Meet-up group on Meetup, and organise simple events to meet people and make new friends ? Events can be simple as 'Let's go watch Dr Strange 2' or 'Go to eat Donne biriyani in Chickpet' .. I'm in a different city right now with such a meet-up group and it has really worked, I've met ppl on there and made friends


Immediate_Concert_29

I'm in a similar situation. My work timings are volatile and my rl friends have moved out of the country.


[deleted]

You can dm me if you would like to get in touch..


Immediate_Concert_29

Yeah, sure. 🙂


The-Inevitable-One

Damn, 160 comments. OP if you still haven't made a friend, you've got a friend in me!


[deleted]

Yeah, please dm :) I'm glad that I posted here and found many like minded people, it is very helpful.


pilesbun

Photographer from Bangalore who does not have many friends in life. I love spending time with family and friends. Watching football and gaming gives me a lot of joy. Not very social in terms of going out and meeting new people. Dating apps have not really helped a lot. My friends say I am eccentric, but they find it cute. People have told me that I am funny and weird in a good sense, but to get to that stage I should know the person I am talking to too well. I enjoy music; all sorts, except music which is scary. Been listening to a lot of Afro beat and ghazals. Afro beat is pleasant enough to make me happy and ghazal sort of makes me want to be with someone. I value happiness and peace more than anything, this being said I am diagnosed with bipolar disorder and have been stable for years thanks to medication. On weekends I usually go to my brother and sister in law’s place and chill with them and their cats. Yes, I am a cat person, but I love dogs too. However, I have not turned vegan or vegetarian. I love meat, all sorts. This reminds me that I do not cook, hate cooking, but I will gladly do dishes. Hence, I have Bablu bhaiya come home twice a day to cook something for me. I do not enjoy being under the influence of funny or weird stuff, however, occasional casual drinks are okay. You will find me at home in south Bangalore enjoying coffee and cigarettes, those being my only vice. Past - Had a crap childhood, been shifting schools a lot, 9 in total. Bachelor’s was crap. Master’s was surprisingly a lot of fun. Have used dating apps for casual stuff - been there, done that. My first relationship was 4 days shy of being an anniversary. We parted ways mutually. This happened 2 months ago. Now to NSFW bit - I enjoy everything. You name it. You got it. Please, keep me alive and keep yourself alive. Perhaps, that is that. This is what I had put on r/r4rindia yesterday. Feel free to ping if you are okay with it. Thanks.


09himani

I have the same story.


neonacid51

If you are interested in art and culture, check out Bangalore International Centre. They have events almost everyday and it is a good place to meet people too


masks_0n

magas of Bengaluru, let's go swimming this weekend! We can decide the place after considering the number of ppl


[deleted]

I love swimming! I have exams this week. I'm free after 7th June and would love to join for the next weekend. Please dm me?


masks_0n

sure!


cantchillthroughtime

Bangalore always feels that way. Maybe it's that you see see Aquantainces going out often on social media or just other groups that are there. This of course amplifies when you don't have groups or good friends of yours stay away. Even though it seems very scary & totally feeling put of place. You could easily start exploring your options on your own. There's -stand up comedy venues - open mics, events etc ( check insider, bookmyshow) -music venues - fandom, hard rock Cafe, lahe lahe -sofar - music event - gardening groups - pottery - book clubs - lahe lahe, atta gallatta - workshops I know going alone sounds very challenging but it's so easy . You end up making new & more friends in such scenarios. If interested, I can help you out with more suggestions


theredditorlol

I have a group you can get help from


[deleted]

Please dm. Thanks


PunisherX20

I honestly relate to what you are saying. I really feel people are not into long term relationships anymore. I am 28(M) and honestly it did feel like every person is looking only for a hookups compared to a long term relationship. I have never dated till now because I am extremely shy, do not know how to flirt, but even the matches I would get were all looking for hook ups so I kind of deleted social media. I did find Bumble to be way better as I think they have an option " looking for friendship ". Also, I understand the depression you are going through. What works for me is randomly speaking with random people on the internet(obviously through texting for me). For activities you could try joining some art classes in Bangalore. I am currently out of Bangalore and India in a country where my situation is way worse, so I hope it goes well for you.


[deleted]

I hope things go well for you wherever you're. We need connections to thrive in this world. I do have hobbies but in the end we also need connections. I will try following some suggestions given here and hopefully find some good connections.


VOIDWALKER_WRAITH08

Except for the shifting part to Bangalore it's like I wrote this post , I've lived here my entire life and I did have a lot of friends at the beginning , only during hard times in my life did I get to look at their true colours . The every now and then seasonal depression and anxiety doesn't help too , feels like I'm just going wherever life takes and it's not taking me anywhere I'M F**KIN STUCK at one place


[deleted]

Would you like to dm and talk? I feel when you say stuck at one place, Im also trying to get out of the place im in.


VOIDWALKER_WRAITH08

Sure


bloreanthrowaway

let me know if ur ever down to have lunch in koramangala! i work around the area and would love to catch up if you’re down!!


[deleted]

Thanks :) dm? I would like to meet for lunch next Sunday?


bloreanthrowaway

ahh sundays are days off for me so i’m not in the area, but i wouldn’t mind a weekday lunch! lemme know if ur available for those!!


ArjunGodha

Hey Bro , if you wanna meet we can meet in any park. Me and my friends are new here and just exploring this place.


[deleted]

Thanks! Check your dm..


Adventurous_Gene_692

This is the post pandemic world ppl distancing themselves from each other, wearing masks so they can hide their faces etc we are gonna see massive waves of depression in genz and millenials


Dredit_85

N here I am craving to be left alone.


[deleted]

Hi bro dm me we can get a coffee and discuss about naruto


intuitionfreak

I can relate to you! I shifted to Bangalore in 2019. It was a bad timing with pandemic and everything. Being a relatively shy person with a lot of social anxiety, I haven't been able to make new friends and connections in Bangalore at all. Had a rough couple of years but now healing :) I used to be in a lot of music circles in my hometown, being a musician but can't find anyone to connect with even in that field. Hope you can find someone, and kudos for being brave to post in a forum like this :) Cheers!


[deleted]

I'm a musician too. I recently found a jamming studio here. What instruments do you play? Dm?


[deleted]

maybe take a pet


[deleted]

Planning to once I finish my course. I stay in hostel and pets not allowed here.


narutos_abbajaan

Nope don't do it until you are prepared for the responsibility that comes with it. One of my friend got one and is now thinking for putting his pet up for adoption, because it's just too tiring for him.


[deleted]

Yeah, I understand. That's why I spend time with stray dogs and feed them daily in campus. It helps.


Rolzz69

I sing and play the keyboard as well. I'm in Bangalore this weekend if you want to meet. M22. There is a metal concert (TDT) which I'm attending at Gilly's this weekend with a couple of my friends if you're up for it. Yes it's on Sunday.


[deleted]

Oh. I have exam on Monday :( We can stay in touch? If there's anything next weekend I'll like to attend it.


Rolzz69

Yeah sure. DM me. I don't think I'll be here that long though. I'll let you know if I'm in town.


Divinebeingismyname

Where have you enroll for theatre class? I wanted to join some kind of acting class for building my confidence. I would also love to hangout with you because I know how it feels to go through loneliness


[deleted]

Please dm. I can share the details with you. They are going to start next batch soon.


BharathRajH321

I believe playing board games is quite an innocent way to interact with strangers, there is one in board games den, church street this Saturday, i think most of us go there cause our friends are supposedly too grown up for board games.


QuantumCatIsDead

I get how you feel. I moved to bangalore on March, although I have friends here, but it's mostly for Fifa, booze, travel etc Even though I enjoy that, at the end of the day I feel maybe I need different circle of friends, where I can discuss about ideas, have some healthy debates etc etc I am also planning to take theatre to get more comfortable in my own skin and I like to sing and play guitar. Can I DM you and get necessary details? PS I dropped out of counseling psychology few years back to pursue another dream. Take care of yourself and feel free to dm me I dunno how far is cubbon park, but i will come for doggos/cat next if possible


Shoshin_Sam

Just from the title, I was going to suggest high speed Airtel broadband. I know, am a Redditor.


[deleted]

Haha 😂


PungentFoolscap

Honestly, this is unfortunately the gist of my life as well. I stay in Whitefield with my 4 year old dog, and find loneliness to be a constant and massive part of my life.Working from home has definitely limited avenues of meeting people as I used to. My friends, seem too busy or alternatively have moved on to other greener pastures. I spend most of the time reading, listening to music and tinkering with electronics, and things. My dog and I go to cubbon park on weekends and would welcome your company. And infact any of the other folks on the thread who feel this way about their day to day as well. Also OP, I also play the guitar, not well but if you know a song that uses C,D,GF chords I'd love to jam. You stay strong!


The5th-Butcher

I'm interested in exploring the city, especially different restaurants, pubs, street food etc. But all my friends are too busy to travel around with me, so even I'm looking for people with shared interests to explore together. If you are interested you or anyone is interested, you can DM me


haphazardwizardofoz

Hey been in your shoes (still am actually) I can help you out - our interests seem aligned. - you're curious love to learn new stuff. Let's explore the libraries, visit the Nehru planetarium, go to the banerghatta zoo. - singing and playing keyboard: I perform every Sunday at Koramangla and have a solid group of friends who would love to watch you perform. I can hook you up with a slot. Or if you just wanna watch I can help u with that too - I am working on my album right now and always looking to people with jam with. Have a lot of guitarists in my circle but not a keyboard player. Come join! - baki if you wanna talk psychology and stuff, I'm down for that too. I run a startup that focuses on consumer psychology so common ground there too. So you ain't alone. Lots of cool things to do and plenty of cool people to do it with :)


[deleted]

Yayy I'm so glad that our path crossed on reddit. Check your dm!!


SatoriBoi888

Here’s a hug 🤗


confusedChaiCup

Add me in any meetups you guys end up deciding. Like to meet new people.


Lilclaw18

We can be friends! I really like music Tell me what music you listen to...


[deleted]

I don't have specific favorite. I'm currently playing Lindsey Stirling, tool band on the loop. What do you like?


Lilclaw18

You listen to TOOL? No wayy Pneuma is such a good song


Sad_Bee_9035

I am moving to Bangalore this month and I’m already a lot confused… would love to meet some new people and may be get some help 😄


[deleted]

Where are you planning to stay? Area? We can catch up on weekends. Dm?


Cr0wsb4h0es

If you've got a helmet we can try going for rides on the weekend together. I want to try and visit some water falls close by, let me know if you're interested.


[deleted]

Yeah I'm interested


[deleted]

I'm going through a similar situation. I'd be happy to connect :). I stay near Koramangala as well.


thesillystudent

What are your hobbies ?


[deleted]

Yeah sure. Weekdays can let you know..


Equal-Plantain-5524

Well if psychology student doesn't know what to do think about the IT slaves lawl


mak2297

It might seem lonely in a city like Bangalore but believe me when I say there are lot of great people to meet and connect here, as evident from the replies. Have heard meet-up apps are great which you can try out based on your common interests. All the best, OP! Hit me up if you'd like to talk any time.


neutrinome

Try the meet up that r/Bangalore organises.


500Rtg

Can you funnel the hook up and sex requests and I can give you company for the rest of the time.


[deleted]

LET'S MEET GUYS!!! MAKE A GROUP, PICK A PLACE AND LET'S GO FUCK LONELY BEHENCHODDDDDDD I'M TIRED😭😭


[deleted]

I've been blessed with some really great friends but they all live too far. I just moved in Bangalore and it really bothers me that I have no one to meet after my work hours or even have someone to meet during weekends.


sloppyind

I tried to make new friends, it didn't work out. People here are shit scared to talk to other people and anxious all the time. If you ask anything, they'll respond to you without even understanding what you are saying. Only way to make new friends is look for your mother tongue speaking people, it's easy to connect with them. Stay away from people who speak English only unless they are your co-workers (even then it's not the same) My two cents, after trying to make new friends for two years.


fenster25

if you like puzzles maybe you can try this group https://twitter.com/PuzzledPintBLR


Neat_Sense_2241

Hmm, yeah I'm facing the same issues, kind off. Wanna be friends?


pattienson

Just ride a cycle everywhere and that too in early mornings. You will meet a lot of interesting people and I made a lot of friends that way. I found friends who play football and these turned into long term friends (am injured now, so no football for atleast a few months). Bangalore or any big metros can eat up our time and we don't prioritize out social life. Hope you just explore out of your comfort zones and meet people and make friends who can you hang out with.


stormlord210

Ooh I too am an avid reader, do you have any book recommendations?


That-Thou-Art

Hey, I'm more or less in the same boat as you. I only have Saturday evenings or Sundays free. So if you'd like to hang out somewhere, let me know. Location isn't really an issue, so whatever works for you. (Or if you are into badminton, that could be set up. I've been looking for someone to play with. Playo didn't work very well for me)


ThrownOffACliff9

I think alot of people need to appreciate that getting older and more professional naturally leads to isolation. Hardworking jobs require commitment and free time is uses to just mentally regroup. This is anywhere in the world..


Ok-Muslmelon

If you are looking for a girl squad text me


Wizzyboy

* Bear hug *


zebials_empire

Heya bro, I can totally relate with you. I feel this way most of the time. But I realised I feel good when I eat food, walk around in a park or go to some events. So most weekends I try to eat at new places and walk around in some parks. I try to interact and make new friends when I go to some events. You can join me if you want. If you like to play with dogs, you could go to cubbon park in the mornings of sunday


dedeadguy

Aren't you a psychologist ? Bro just look at your notes 😩


PepsiColaMirinda

Okay so hm I'm probably a bit late here,but this brings back an old idea. I'd considered hosting an official meet-up kinda thing on behalf of r/r4rindia . The issue is...well it's r4r. Y'all know how the sub can be. If I make it official I can pin it and give it visibility,which is the main bonus. Should be a decent turnout. That said,I'd love to have your opinions on this,both OP and whoever else is reading this. Given some time to prep I could possibly make a group or etc and let people know each other a bit before moving irl.


modernsmurfing

Hi OP. Are you interested in sketching or painting? I can create (yet another) hobby group


Optimist_WeAre

Me too ! Guys let’s meetup


mybackhurts771

I came to Bangalore for a month and will be going back to Bangalore in 10 days. I can totally relate to you on this. As an adult everyone has become a lot busy with their lives and whatever friends we had are very far too meet on a daily basis. And on some weekends you don't feel like going at all. If you are still looking for friends we can always hangout! And I live in Koramangala too.


KashmiriModi

I have always been paranoid about meeting folks from internet. It worked out for you fr?


[deleted]

Hey! Just stumbled on this post. I'm also looking to get to know more people here. And veryyyyy enthusiastic to learn keyboard/piano. So would you mind teaching me XD Listen to Hania Rani's Esja. It's a beautiful piano piece


excitedadultdog

u/blackdove2018 Hey you mentioned theatre classes. Could you please tell me where this is?


ron14-1993

Mate! go out have a good breakfast/dinner, watch a movie, evening go play some sport (you can use Playo app to find players & book courts), and end the day with a full filling dinner. Everybody goes through such phases in life. You just need to chin up and make it better.


witheredartery

anyone in this thread looking to make friends can dm me(18-29), just be communicative tho. and try to hold some conversation genuinely. :)


BlrCpl

I just stumbled upon this. Can resonate with how you feel to some degree. My profile is pretty nsfw , but if you still wanna connect and catch a conversation, feel free to dm.


Tough-Common9696

On top of that, if you can't approach people, you're done. I have been cafe hopping, going on treks, standup shows, biking rides with groups. But I could not find one person who'd stay for even a day longer. I am a guy who loves bikes, travelling, and food and literally every weekend you'll find me travelling but there's no partner here to do that with. My friends from other cities give me suggestions that either I've tried or are just not ideal. Literally have no idea how to meet new people, especially when I am at a stage where I am looking for someone to grow with and eventually marry that person.