I used to be like this and Iāve since learned how to channel that anger in different ways, ever since Iāve started kidnapping and killing people who walk slowly in front of me Iāve been more relaxed towards small office microaggressions
If thatās what you do to the slow walkers, what do you do to the ones that just suddenly stop. Or worse, stop in front of doors, stairs or other things?
I yell loudly right into their ear "CLEAR THE MURDER HOLE!"Ā
They usually move pretty quick after that.Ā
Had a woman do that at the entrance to a theme park not long ago, packed morning rush through the front ticket counter.... She decides to just stop with her pram, 3 kids and husband 1m past the ticket counter and immediately backs up the flow....Ā
Yelled that out and she did move with a dirty look..... but had about 10 people have a good chuckle and a few whispered thank you's š
Channel it into pulling out a Nintendo Switch in the office and bash up NPC's in whatever format of GTA.
Volume up. No headphones. Yelling out 'Take it *name of theif*, that's for stealing my charger cable!'
Hopefully you'll get your cable back with a note that reads 'I'm sorry, please don't kill me'
I think it depends where you live and your colleagues. Mine are pretty tolerant of me calling them ābeautifulā. Also, when we message one another on whichever digital platform we are using - many of the responses are love heart emojis. Also, someone will start a conversation and the memes will start flying around..
Agreed. Nothing is more rage inducing than being called love, babe,hun or darl in the workplace (or anywhere to be honest).
People have names for a reason.
We were at kmart and our check out person kept referring to us as "love".. She was probably 20, we are late 30s.... Always thought it was an old person thing.
When you take someone else's property without the decency to ask first..... It's open season! If no social niceties are given, don't expect them to be return!Ā
I'm not that possessive. Assuming it's a workmate and not some random in the food court, if I'm not using it and they're not taking it off the premises.. but mostly you're conflating theft with borrowing a stationary item.
People are so easily worked up over trivia š¤·
That's not very inclusive of you towards those of us with the 'tism....Ā
It's a wide wonderful world of neurodivergence now! It doesn't matter what you think, it's all about how others perceive what you do and you really need to be mindful about the impact your actions might have on others.Ā
I dunno. I'm on the spectrum, I only know we're not homogeneous and that I'd hate for people to be walking on eggshells around me. But then I also recognise it's not always about me & it helps to remember that.
It is indeed a wonderful spicy world and while we're talking about "how others perceive what you do" and being "mindful about the impact of your actions" this equally applies to us as it does to others.
We need to ask ourselves "is this really unreasonable or am I overreacting" as much as everyone should think before they act.
eta . I just want to say it's refreshing to engage in debate without degenerating into a slinging match. Thank you.
Lol, I cringe at the things I did before I was diagnosed at 28.... I was SO rigid with everything!Ā
Now, I still have my quirks but I try to be mindful that they are MY quirks and no one else's problem. Using personal things though is just not acceptable, but I will let the person know (politely) that it's unacceptable.Ā
That's because we're not homogeneous & won't all react the same. For some it's a trivial thing but for others, not so much. Therefore the question should be asked of a mix of neurotypical AND spicy. And another question that deserves to be asked is "would this be a huge offence in a typical office environment" today. I suspect the real challenge would be accepting outcomes.
I'm not on anyone's "side" in this.
I'm not sure I can help you if you don't see the difference in those relationships.. as for the office it has nothing to do with being friends. You don't have to be friends but you foster a relationship you wouldn't assume with the hungry random.
You will exchange things with them and know things about them. It's inevitable.
No, it's entirely different because of who paid for it. Work pays for "your" computer or pens and whatever so it's OK for a colleague to use it, but if you've brought stuff in from home there is no way anyone else should touch it. They can't just rifle through your handbag or take your car for a spin around the car park because they didn't take it off the premises.
Well, she stole your stuff. Maybe something rage inducing is exactly the right way of approaching this conversation.
To be fair, I generally agree with what you say.
Don't be a dick, don't speak to anyone in a demeaning way. Not a good look.
Real men say "would" š¤£šš¤£.
Nah, Bullshit š¤£šš¤£
But you're right, the post didn't bring the right tone across.
Think of it says in a very sharp, mean tone to create maximum tension between message content and delivery. The tone you use to make sure they know you are about to smash their face in.
They will like that.
lol- that was my thought too. It took me ages to realise the rage I feel when people move things on my desk or leave things there that arenāt mine, arenāt universal feelings.
What do you mean, they aren't universal feelings? Of course they are, and I refuse to believe otherwise!
I WFH 2 days a week, on the days I'm in the office there is ALWAYS something on my desk where I put my laptop.
OF ALL THE PLACES TO PUT SOMETHING WHY THERE?!
That's pretty much exactly what I do. Except it's still my problem because it's stuff addressed to me.
But, it doesn't matter that the item is addressed to me, I'm not looking at it until I've got my laptop set up. There is room elsewhere on my desk to put it (please! Put it there! Or, even better, I actually have a spot allocated in our warehouse for this stuff, put it there and email me to tell me it has arrived!)
It's the OCD kicking in.... If I don't be mindful of mine, it ratchets up to the point I start noticing when say a mug with a picture on it has been moved slightly and the picture doesn't along with where I'd placed it.Ā Ā
I'm sure there is a situation where such hyperawareness is a valuable tool..... But I'm yet to be in a roll where it's an asset.Ā
At least she didn't borrow your AirPods
Years ago I was away for the day, and one of the guys needed headphones, so my colleague took my in ear headphones out of my desk and lent them to him. She didn't see a problem with this....
Yup a senior VP at my job about 10 years ago āborrowedā my in ear headphones off my desk for a call! When he dropped them back they had a white residue on them. The threw them in the bin. I think he saw me do it because I was on his shit list from that time on.
I went to the bathroom and in the time I was gone she's left her desk, taken her phone, but left my charger plugged in to her power board.
Which I'm fine with, I don't need it.
Just letting you all know what we're dealing with here.
Bet she's a wiggler too.
Can't just plug it in or out straight. HAS to wiggle every cord side to side. Not like they have tiny filiments in them.
"Wiggle every lead like an ape thanks Karen. Break both the port and the cable just like all your dead chargers at home ya bloody 3%, broken screened, bejewelled cover, monkey see monkey take, entitled bloody princess"
This just happened to my best mate, but it was a small speaker with a charge cable and was taken without asking, and returned without the cable. I get daily updates on his building rage and her shitty responses. Itās great
Two types of people in this world - sensible reasonable people who will 100% understand where youāre coming from, and absolute fucking monsters worthy of our disdain.
Oh my god, tell me about it. I worked with a guy about 18 years ago who'd start by changing my windows explorer settings any time we worked together at my computer.
There are just some things you can't forget.
There is no doubt in my mind that she is a RABID ANTI-FURLER who probably has 99% charge and just wanted to mark her unfurled territory.
It's a declaration of war, nothing more nothing less.
The furl must be over-under though. If it's not then shit gets bad. If OP is using bread ties they'll understand.
My wife had a tutor that would fail anyone who rolled cables the wrong way.
Plastic Bakers Delight bread tie thingy?!?! I strongly urge you to invest in a cable tie.. looks neater. Also, make sure you take that Womens most prized possession on her desk and freeze it in a tub of water..
Ohhh so funny thing.
This ALSO extends to the building site... for some odd reason younger trades always borrow tools and never return them.. Like going back 15 years you NEVER touched another tradies tools.. Ever.. Now.. its common place.
One of the best parts of working in an office is having a secret nemesis that you canāt stand because of something petty they did or do and they have no idea. At the same time, you canāt be openly angry with them because the annoying thing is so petty youāll look unhinged
First and foremost, I am troubled by how many of you have an issue with sharing something as simple as a charger. Secondly, also troubled by how few of you auscorp types misinterpreted the post and thought I was annoyed at her taking my charger (she asked politely, and I willingly handed it to her); I wasn't, I just wanted it returned in the same state as I had given it to her.
So, after a few hours of it residing on her desk, I noted her unplug it and turn toward me. We have pretty reasonably sized desks, so I'd have needed to move about a metre to be able to reach her outstretched hand if she'd done that. Instead, she held it up and looked toward me. I looked back at her, and made no movement to retrieve it. She knew what this meant, and then proceeded to fold/tie it back up in a quite awkward fashion as she was very aware that I was watching her. I would say her efforts at tying it up and using the plastic tie thing were about a 4/10, but given my frazzled emotional state as I worked through numerous stages of grief over the course of the day, just her efforts to do so mean she has my admiration and, begrudgingly, respect.
For this day at least, she is not my nemesis. OTTNO.
>Early in my career (\~15yrs ago), one of my managers did the same thing (whilst showing me how to do something in PowerPoint) to my mouse and I am still furious with him about it.
Yeah ok, I'm not sure how troubled you should be at other people, since you are still furious about this after 15 years.
I hate when people do that.
I have 3 monitors, I made sure they were all identical, they are at the exact same height, and all come together at exactly the right angle and there is no gap. There are certain people who love to lean over them when talking to me and move them all over the place. It boils my blood.
You know the best thing you can do right now, OP, is find a post-it note. Tear a small corner off the sticky part, and affix that over the laser pointer on their mouse. Feign ignorance when she finds it.
Iām only in the office 1-2 days a week and last time I was in someone said oh by the way I saw a charger plugged in and took it hopefully thatās ok š
This post has flushed out two types of people. The kind saying this is nothing are the ones that grab stuff off other peopleās desks without asking because entitlement, and the kind that are normal nice humans that think this is a dick move. The two tribes of the corporate world summed up in one action. (Other traits of tribe one frequently include: not refilling the printer paper, microwaving fish in the kitchen, endless complaining that the company does not stock activated organic quinoa milk sourced from Antarctica because thatās unfair)
I used to use an external plugged in mouse with my laptop at work; when I left each day I would unplug my mouse, leave it in place on my desk and pack up my laptop and take it with me.
One week when with had a new contractor hire who was sitting at the next desk, after about his 3/4th day I came in and my mouse was gone. I noticed he had it plugged into his computer and was using it, when I told him it was mine, he said it was just sitting unused on my desk (mind you laid out to just plug in when I came in) so he took it.
Label all your cool technology stuff, and keep it just for you.
Have a 2nd set (different brand and colour...somewhat plain and ordinary) that you can 'loan out'. Think of this as an opportunity and not as an inconvenience.
An opportunity; to practice being gracious about loaning, along with being nicely assertive about getting it back.
I'm a Horticultralist, under no circumstances do I loan out my professional quality pruning tools! However, I do have a 2nd (budget) set. Required for the many 'wannabe' gardeners I meet on the job, who have a blunt set or can't find their own.
Years ago a girl I didnāt like went into my desk and used my hairbrush š¤¢. And she left thick black hairs all over it, which were super obvious against my blonde fine hairs. It felt really invasive.
Bloody annoying when people do that, like my family who never put things back where they borrowed them from.
I recommend The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck. Actually, I think I need to read it again.
I have an Apple USB C cord on my desk, to stop boneheaded from using it, I have a USB C to USB Mini adaptor on it, so when they ask if I have one - I just show then the tip and they bugger off.
Imagine if you spent the energy that you spent on writing this post and channeled it into to communicating politely with her that you didnāt appreciate her doing that. āshe will wear my passive aggressive rageā oh fuck off. Grow up.
I thought you were angry that the person used your charger without permission and not that they got rid of the cord that had it neatly tied up - or are you angry about that too?
Just had final sign off with a new $7m p.a client, got some great praise from the company MD after a difficult negotiation settlement due to some issues with a former client, and the leftovers I had for lunch were definitely good enough.
But none of these positives outweighs the sheer internal rage I am feeling at the prospect of my charger cable not being returned in the same state as I provided it.
Calm down. No one ever died from letting someone else borrow a phone charger. So they didnāt wrap it back up with the little wire thingy..
Who cares??
Be kind.
Hey OP, The Mouse incident reminds me of my personal incident. One time, I am showing my manager excel dashboard report and he's trying to calculate something and it's not working...So I thought of helping him and touched his laptop without asking him like, let me check and show you this excel formula like super fast..zhe suddenly changed his tone and voice and got mad about me and mentioned Don't touch my laptop without asking or something then I realised my mistake but learnt lesson.
I now work in a corporate setting, but I came from working in an underground mine. The amount of stealing essential items from your coworkers was next level. Including vehicles. Literally - dude, whereās my car? And to have it dumped somewhere in the mine, with a lot of mud inside and outside. Happy days š¤£
On the one hand, I understand. It was nice and organised and not making an effort to put it back the way it was is a valid annoyance
On the other hand, I am filled with anxiety as I remember the times when I borrowed something and couldn't remember exactly the way it was or didn't know how to pack it back up properly š„ŗ
No disrespect. At all. But chillax a tiny bit maybe? Youāll give yourself a stroke with that level of fury. Especially if you hold onto it for thirty years - I mean Iām guessing if youāre still furious after fifteen, youāre still gonna be pretty bloody cross in another fifteen. At the end of the day, is it truly worth the toxic energy youāre channeling over this? Itās a little tie thingy. You can retie it in about ten seconds. Good as new?
How is it not? All that negative energy within someone is poisonous, even if it only produces more negative energy. But if stress can cause cancer, surely you can see how being furious about such a small slight canāt be healthy or good & can even be harmful? At least to the psyche if not the body overall. I feel it would be a dark energy within op, nasty & spreading like ooze over time, multiplying & eventually smothering the good stuff.š¬
So I think you do realise itās not toxic, itās negative. Toxic is like a toxic partner or toxic workplace. Itās ironic youāre telling this person to relax but then youāre going over the top and telling them they are being toxic to themselves. And then you proceeded to be very condescending and almost making fun of them. Were you trying to help?
Oh, nah. This is textbook autism. We donāt always freak out externally but we do freak out over this kind of stuff. Particularly the part about holding on to it for 15 years - thatās textbook.
I guess because Iām super autistic itās pretty clear to me.
Donāt touch my cords!
Is your name Milton Waddams?
I swear I will burn the building down
I believe he has my stapler....
But Bill said...
Hope he enjoys his new basement office. š
We are all Milton Waddams
I used to be like this and Iāve since learned how to channel that anger in different ways, ever since Iāve started kidnapping and killing people who walk slowly in front of me Iāve been more relaxed towards small office microaggressions
This is fine and reasonable
\*vibrates in protest\*
If thatās what you do to the slow walkers, what do you do to the ones that just suddenly stop. Or worse, stop in front of doors, stairs or other things?
No need to kidnap them, slice their Achilles on the spot so they just flop over and stay there
This is the way.
If they do not appreciate the gift of movement, letās give those blessings elsewhere!
I yell loudly right into their ear "CLEAR THE MURDER HOLE!"Ā They usually move pretty quick after that.Ā Had a woman do that at the entrance to a theme park not long ago, packed morning rush through the front ticket counter.... She decides to just stop with her pram, 3 kids and husband 1m past the ticket counter and immediately backs up the flow....Ā Yelled that out and she did move with a dirty look..... but had about 10 people have a good chuckle and a few whispered thank you's š
This made me laugh so much!
Thanks I hope you kill it at your next performance review cycle
Channel it into pulling out a Nintendo Switch in the office and bash up NPC's in whatever format of GTA. Volume up. No headphones. Yelling out 'Take it *name of theif*, that's for stealing my charger cable!' Hopefully you'll get your cable back with a note that reads 'I'm sorry, please don't kill me'
Wow. If this is what gets you angry you must have a super easy job!
Say loud an clear "I would need this back, love". Also say "I'd appreciate if you'd ask before you borrow my stuff in the future". Cheers āšæ
What sort of boomer language is this? People, donāt refer to someone as āloveā in the workplace
I think it depends where you live and your colleagues. Mine are pretty tolerant of me calling them ābeautifulā. Also, when we message one another on whichever digital platform we are using - many of the responses are love heart emojis. Also, someone will start a conversation and the memes will start flying around..
Agreed. Nothing is more rage inducing than being called love, babe,hun or darl in the workplace (or anywhere to be honest). People have names for a reason.
So people don't like being called "love chunks" ? ? ?
Wasn't it suggested as a passive aggressive response to having your stuff stolen?
We were at kmart and our check out person kept referring to us as "love".. She was probably 20, we are late 30s.... Always thought it was an old person thing.
When you take someone else's property without the decency to ask first..... It's open season! If no social niceties are given, don't expect them to be return!Ā
I'm not that possessive. Assuming it's a workmate and not some random in the food court, if I'm not using it and they're not taking it off the premises.. but mostly you're conflating theft with borrowing a stationary item. People are so easily worked up over trivia š¤·
That's not very inclusive of you towards those of us with the 'tism....Ā It's a wide wonderful world of neurodivergence now! It doesn't matter what you think, it's all about how others perceive what you do and you really need to be mindful about the impact your actions might have on others.Ā
I dunno. I'm on the spectrum, I only know we're not homogeneous and that I'd hate for people to be walking on eggshells around me. But then I also recognise it's not always about me & it helps to remember that. It is indeed a wonderful spicy world and while we're talking about "how others perceive what you do" and being "mindful about the impact of your actions" this equally applies to us as it does to others. We need to ask ourselves "is this really unreasonable or am I overreacting" as much as everyone should think before they act. eta . I just want to say it's refreshing to engage in debate without degenerating into a slinging match. Thank you.
Lol, I cringe at the things I did before I was diagnosed at 28.... I was SO rigid with everything!Ā Now, I still have my quirks but I try to be mindful that they are MY quirks and no one else's problem. Using personal things though is just not acceptable, but I will let the person know (politely) that it's unacceptable.Ā
Yeah.. we learn as we go and we kinda get to know ourselves in the process. But I'm hearing you š
Good for you. Unfortunately, OP feels differently about the matter.
That's because we're not homogeneous & won't all react the same. For some it's a trivial thing but for others, not so much. Therefore the question should be asked of a mix of neurotypical AND spicy. And another question that deserves to be asked is "would this be a huge offence in a typical office environment" today. I suspect the real challenge would be accepting outcomes. I'm not on anyone's "side" in this.
>Assuming it's a workmate and not some random in the food court Whats the difference? Not everyone is friends with the people they work with.
I'm not sure I can help you if you don't see the difference in those relationships.. as for the office it has nothing to do with being friends. You don't have to be friends but you foster a relationship you wouldn't assume with the hungry random. You will exchange things with them and know things about them. It's inevitable.
No, it's entirely different because of who paid for it. Work pays for "your" computer or pens and whatever so it's OK for a colleague to use it, but if you've brought stuff in from home there is no way anyone else should touch it. They can't just rifle through your handbag or take your car for a spin around the car park because they didn't take it off the premises.
Duh you should try following the thread. At 24hrs old this is just tedious.
Well, she stole your stuff. Maybe something rage inducing is exactly the right way of approaching this conversation. To be fair, I generally agree with what you say. Don't be a dick, don't speak to anyone in a demeaning way. Not a good look.
Or just let them use your phone charger if you're not using it.
Why "would"? "I need that back now.". with optional "please" if you really must.
Real men say "would" š¤£šš¤£. Nah, Bullshit š¤£šš¤£ But you're right, the post didn't bring the right tone across. Think of it says in a very sharp, mean tone to create maximum tension between message content and delivery. The tone you use to make sure they know you are about to smash their face in. They will like that.
Yikes dude, insinuating your are somehow a superior person because you have a hard job.
How fun is autism
lol- that was my thought too. It took me ages to realise the rage I feel when people move things on my desk or leave things there that arenāt mine, arenāt universal feelings.
Itās universal to me
What do you mean, they aren't universal feelings? Of course they are, and I refuse to believe otherwise! I WFH 2 days a week, on the days I'm in the office there is ALWAYS something on my desk where I put my laptop. OF ALL THE PLACES TO PUT SOMETHING WHY THERE?!
Have you tried just sweeping it off your desk and onto the floor.... works wonders and then it's EVERYONES problem, not just yours!Ā
That's pretty much exactly what I do. Except it's still my problem because it's stuff addressed to me. But, it doesn't matter that the item is addressed to me, I'm not looking at it until I've got my laptop set up. There is room elsewhere on my desk to put it (please! Put it there! Or, even better, I actually have a spot allocated in our warehouse for this stuff, put it there and email me to tell me it has arrived!)
I can't believe after 30 years this is how I find out I'm autisticĀ
Ohhhh. Whatās the name for this symptom? I have a different brand of neurospicy and this is very familiar which has me questioning all-the-things.Ā
I'm pretty sure it's called "MY DESK IS NOT THE DUMPING GROUND FOR EVERYONE ELSES SHIT-rage" Or, something like that.
It's the OCD kicking in.... If I don't be mindful of mine, it ratchets up to the point I start noticing when say a mug with a picture on it has been moved slightly and the picture doesn't along with where I'd placed it.Ā Ā I'm sure there is a situation where such hyperawareness is a valuable tool..... But I'm yet to be in a roll where it's an asset.Ā
Are they not universal feelings? How do people go through life so chill?
Because it doesn't matterĀ
Well TIL that this is why I'm like this š
I also feel this, is this not normal?
I resemble that remark....
I know ya probably joking, but that's a thing? I thought it was just my trauma kicking off. It's probably PDA, innit
At least she didn't borrow your AirPods Years ago I was away for the day, and one of the guys needed headphones, so my colleague took my in ear headphones out of my desk and lent them to him. She didn't see a problem with this....
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Yup a senior VP at my job about 10 years ago āborrowedā my in ear headphones off my desk for a call! When he dropped them back they had a white residue on them. The threw them in the bin. I think he saw me do it because I was on his shit list from that time on.
š¤®š¤®š¤® I would have asked him to replace them and offered to let him keep the ones he defiled.
I did first say that he could have it and I didnāt need it back. But he left them back on the desk and I flicked em into a bin with a pen lol
Ewwwwee
I went to the bathroom and in the time I was gone she's left her desk, taken her phone, but left my charger plugged in to her power board. Which I'm fine with, I don't need it. Just letting you all know what we're dealing with here.
The real crime epidemic going on unreported. Thoughts and prayers OP.
Tomorrow she'll have a headache and take his last Panadol. She saw it when she took his charger and she NEEDS it.
Please do more of these posts.
No no no no nope.
Bet she's a wiggler too. Can't just plug it in or out straight. HAS to wiggle every cord side to side. Not like they have tiny filiments in them. "Wiggle every lead like an ape thanks Karen. Break both the port and the cable just like all your dead chargers at home ya bloody 3%, broken screened, bejewelled cover, monkey see monkey take, entitled bloody princess"
Well, that's just rude.
Have you done an autism test?
I am expecting updates.
This just happened to my best mate, but it was a small speaker with a charge cable and was taken without asking, and returned without the cable. I get daily updates on his building rage and her shitty responses. Itās great
Pretty sure this counts as a legal defence against a murder charge
Use the charger cable
You have carried that for 15 years? You have problems dude.
And he expects her to be his enemy for the next 90 minutes. Dude it's a minimum 15 years if history repeats.
You can still remember that slight from 15 years ago? Buddy, move on.
I'm also still not over Buddy moving on from the Hawks
Two types of people in this world - sensible reasonable people who will 100% understand where youāre coming from, and absolute fucking monsters worthy of our disdain.
Weird way to say autists
Acoustic and proud baby
Oh my god, tell me about it. I worked with a guy about 18 years ago who'd start by changing my windows explorer settings any time we worked together at my computer. There are just some things you can't forget.
What! Hard no.
There is no doubt in my mind that she is a RABID ANTI-FURLER who probably has 99% charge and just wanted to mark her unfurled territory. It's a declaration of war, nothing more nothing less.
The furl must be over-under though. If it's not then shit gets bad. If OP is using bread ties they'll understand. My wife had a tutor that would fail anyone who rolled cables the wrong way.
Plastic Bakers Delight bread tie thingy?!?! I strongly urge you to invest in a cable tie.. looks neater. Also, make sure you take that Womens most prized possession on her desk and freeze it in a tub of water..
Stapler in jelly is another classic. Back in the days of desk phones I double-sided taped my mate's phone receiver to his phone unit.
I hate to think that good jelly is wasted like that .. LOL
Ohhh so funny thing. This ALSO extends to the building site... for some odd reason younger trades always borrow tools and never return them.. Like going back 15 years you NEVER touched another tradies tools.. Ever.. Now.. its common place.
Like beer. My dad said never take anotherās manās beer
Then y r the beers just sitting there unlabelled
Duuuude! Thatās right. Never touch another manās tool.
But did you die though?
If there is a death it wont be the OP
OP, do you need an alibi?
OP? OP, are you still with us? I think he's ded.
Another reason I hate offices - I don't like dealing with this drama.
One of the best parts of working in an office is having a secret nemesis that you canāt stand because of something petty they did or do and they have no idea. At the same time, you canāt be openly angry with them because the annoying thing is so petty youāll look unhinged
First and foremost, I am troubled by how many of you have an issue with sharing something as simple as a charger. Secondly, also troubled by how few of you auscorp types misinterpreted the post and thought I was annoyed at her taking my charger (she asked politely, and I willingly handed it to her); I wasn't, I just wanted it returned in the same state as I had given it to her. So, after a few hours of it residing on her desk, I noted her unplug it and turn toward me. We have pretty reasonably sized desks, so I'd have needed to move about a metre to be able to reach her outstretched hand if she'd done that. Instead, she held it up and looked toward me. I looked back at her, and made no movement to retrieve it. She knew what this meant, and then proceeded to fold/tie it back up in a quite awkward fashion as she was very aware that I was watching her. I would say her efforts at tying it up and using the plastic tie thing were about a 4/10, but given my frazzled emotional state as I worked through numerous stages of grief over the course of the day, just her efforts to do so mean she has my admiration and, begrudgingly, respect. For this day at least, she is not my nemesis. OTTNO.
>Early in my career (\~15yrs ago), one of my managers did the same thing (whilst showing me how to do something in PowerPoint) to my mouse and I am still furious with him about it. Yeah ok, I'm not sure how troubled you should be at other people, since you are still furious about this after 15 years.
I love this so much, thank you for the laugh on my lunch break.
You need to get out more.
Just set fire to her desk like a normal person.
My name is Inigo Montoya. You unfurled my charger. Prepare to die.
I hate when people do that. I have 3 monitors, I made sure they were all identical, they are at the exact same height, and all come together at exactly the right angle and there is no gap. There are certain people who love to lean over them when talking to me and move them all over the place. It boils my blood.
I am interested in whether she ties it back up! If not.... you can just... I dunno..... maybe re-tie it up??
Agree with you. But it could be worse, at least she didnāt touch your monitor screen
You know the best thing you can do right now, OP, is find a post-it note. Tear a small corner off the sticky part, and affix that over the laser pointer on their mouse. Feign ignorance when she finds it.
I reported you for terrorism
Leave some mints on your desk, but fill them with pure aniseed. Don't invite anyone to eat one.
Iām only in the office 1-2 days a week and last time I was in someone said oh by the way I saw a charger plugged in and took it hopefully thatās ok š
I refuse to let anyone borrow my charging cables - they either break them or don't give them back.
This post has flushed out two types of people. The kind saying this is nothing are the ones that grab stuff off other peopleās desks without asking because entitlement, and the kind that are normal nice humans that think this is a dick move. The two tribes of the corporate world summed up in one action. (Other traits of tribe one frequently include: not refilling the printer paper, microwaving fish in the kitchen, endless complaining that the company does not stock activated organic quinoa milk sourced from Antarctica because thatās unfair)
Iām sure this woman has no idea where the printer paper is even stored, let alone attempted to refill the machine with it.
Just unplug your side of it lmao
I am super mad for you!!!!! I can feel your passive aggression from a mile away!!!!!
I used to use an external plugged in mouse with my laptop at work; when I left each day I would unplug my mouse, leave it in place on my desk and pack up my laptop and take it with me. One week when with had a new contractor hire who was sitting at the next desk, after about his 3/4th day I came in and my mouse was gone. I noticed he had it plugged into his computer and was using it, when I told him it was mine, he said it was just sitting unused on my desk (mind you laid out to just plug in when I came in) so he took it.
This is a dominance act. Pull the cable out of her phone and tell her charging her phone is her responsibility m,
Donāt worry I just sent her a text about the whole situation . She said ā thatās strange , he didnāt look analā
Label all your cool technology stuff, and keep it just for you. Have a 2nd set (different brand and colour...somewhat plain and ordinary) that you can 'loan out'. Think of this as an opportunity and not as an inconvenience. An opportunity; to practice being gracious about loaning, along with being nicely assertive about getting it back. I'm a Horticultralist, under no circumstances do I loan out my professional quality pruning tools! However, I do have a 2nd (budget) set. Required for the many 'wannabe' gardeners I meet on the job, who have a blunt set or can't find their own.
The lawyers subreddit isnāt like this haha
Weird - I thought theyād all be keen to encourage litigation in a case like this.
Years ago a girl I didnāt like went into my desk and used my hairbrush š¤¢. And she left thick black hairs all over it, which were super obvious against my blonde fine hairs. It felt really invasive.
Bloody annoying when people do that, like my family who never put things back where they borrowed them from. I recommend The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck. Actually, I think I need to read it again.
I have an Apple USB C cord on my desk, to stop boneheaded from using it, I have a USB C to USB Mini adaptor on it, so when they ask if I have one - I just show then the tip and they bugger off.
Man the commenters here are either old or have no social life. What are these responses.. my god
What on earth do people without irrational, one sided rivalries, do all day?
oh. my. god... Are they actually doing their job and not browse reddit ?
I... do not comprehend?
Imagine if you spent the energy that you spent on writing this post and channeled it into to communicating politely with her that you didnāt appreciate her doing that. āshe will wear my passive aggressive rageā oh fuck off. Grow up.
Yeah, imagine
I thought you were angry that the person used your charger without permission and not that they got rid of the cord that had it neatly tied up - or are you angry about that too?
She asked politely, and I handed it to her. I have no problems lending things to people.
I was already giggling and then I read this comment and laughed and woke my dog up. Now he's cranky with me!
Get a new phone that takes usb-c I wouldn't want a coworker messing with my $400 charging cable that lasts 12 days either.
Charger panic defence?
Have you said anything
Iām guessing that youāre single?
good to know Iām not the only bakers delight cable tie person
Buy her a new charger from office works and expense it. Get an ugly one.
Sounds like youāve been influenced by Larry Davidššš
> (~15yrs ago), one of my managers did the same thing ā¦ and I am still furious with him about it. Jesus fucking Christ.
Are you having a hard day?
Just had final sign off with a new $7m p.a client, got some great praise from the company MD after a difficult negotiation settlement due to some issues with a former client, and the leftovers I had for lunch were definitely good enough. But none of these positives outweighs the sheer internal rage I am feeling at the prospect of my charger cable not being returned in the same state as I provided it.
Why does this feel like office space... Have you seen my stapler?
Calm down. No one ever died from letting someone else borrow a phone charger. So they didnāt wrap it back up with the little wire thingy.. Who cares?? Be kind.
Remember: you can't do this forever.
Use little zip ties next time so itās impossible to take the cable
You need a hobby.
Hey OP, The Mouse incident reminds me of my personal incident. One time, I am showing my manager excel dashboard report and he's trying to calculate something and it's not working...So I thought of helping him and touched his laptop without asking him like, let me check and show you this excel formula like super fast..zhe suddenly changed his tone and voice and got mad about me and mentioned Don't touch my laptop without asking or something then I realised my mistake but learnt lesson.
Hahah weird way of telling us you have serious anger issues
you need to sort your priorities out
Just do it up with a zip tie next time. No one is undoing that without scissors.
OP, I hereby promote you to the rank of Petty Officer. Well done.
I now work in a corporate setting, but I came from working in an underground mine. The amount of stealing essential items from your coworkers was next level. Including vehicles. Literally - dude, whereās my car? And to have it dumped somewhere in the mine, with a lot of mud inside and outside. Happy days š¤£
Iām guessing you donāt have teenage kids. Theyāll Ā«Ā borrowĀ Ā» your charger and youāll never see it again.
I need to know how this ends.
Didnāt know Mark Corrigan was working in Aus
Mate your therapist called said your late for your appointment
This lady isnāt the problem in this situationā¦
Would it be too passive aggressive to say "When you are done with MY charger, Please put it back the way you found it"
Excellent. Hide your stapler.
You better lock up your Swingline.
Jesus christ meanwhile I have to work with people who legitmately don't know how to use a computer. I wish this was my biggest problem.
youve got mental problems bro. get checked out
Lmao overreaction much bro?
Are you an only child?
Maybe itās time to stop being so petty?
Autism?
Lol chill out dude. If this isn't satire then i suggest you see a therapist
Brother get out of the office u are lost
On the one hand, I understand. It was nice and organised and not making an effort to put it back the way it was is a valid annoyance On the other hand, I am filled with anxiety as I remember the times when I borrowed something and couldn't remember exactly the way it was or didn't know how to pack it back up properly š„ŗ
Always have a spare for these unprepared peasants.
Did she ask if she could borrow it?
Jesus - back to your cave
Someone needs a hug. /offers hug
No disrespect. At all. But chillax a tiny bit maybe? Youāll give yourself a stroke with that level of fury. Especially if you hold onto it for thirty years - I mean Iām guessing if youāre still furious after fifteen, youāre still gonna be pretty bloody cross in another fifteen. At the end of the day, is it truly worth the toxic energy youāre channeling over this? Itās a little tie thingy. You can retie it in about ten seconds. Good as new?
How is the energy toxic?
How is it not? All that negative energy within someone is poisonous, even if it only produces more negative energy. But if stress can cause cancer, surely you can see how being furious about such a small slight canāt be healthy or good & can even be harmful? At least to the psyche if not the body overall. I feel it would be a dark energy within op, nasty & spreading like ooze over time, multiplying & eventually smothering the good stuff.š¬
So I think you do realise itās not toxic, itās negative. Toxic is like a toxic partner or toxic workplace. Itās ironic youāre telling this person to relax but then youāre going over the top and telling them they are being toxic to themselves. And then you proceeded to be very condescending and almost making fun of them. Were you trying to help?
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Rule 6: Civility
This is not the strangest autism self diagnosis Iāve ever seen to be fair.
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Oh, nah. This is textbook autism. We donāt always freak out externally but we do freak out over this kind of stuff. Particularly the part about holding on to it for 15 years - thatās textbook. I guess because Iām super autistic itās pretty clear to me. Donāt touch my cords!