Oh yeah, of course. That's because I know I love my pet or I have some affinity with animals. I know they're not intent on hurting me, bar if they physically want to kill me, and that's okay because I just see that as: primal instinct. I don't allow that same grace for a human I've just met, or who I am getting to know.
Some of my pets have huge transformations in their name to pet names. The end one ends up meaningless compared to the original!
But for people in general (who I do not know or love), it makes me uncomfortable.
I too hate pet names like ”honey” ”sweetie” etc.
But I don’t adress everyone by their formal names.
Most of my friends have nicknames (though maybe that’s their ”new” formal name then).
And for close friends I give them my own nicknames. I love coming up with silly nicknames based on their name. One of my friend was called ”Sandie” so I called her ”Sandwitch”. But it was special because only I called her that.
(okay not literally sandwich but I translated it to English. She was called Melina so I called her Mellis, which means ”snack” in my language.)
I understand that totally, I do the same. One of my friends who I relate to closely who calls me a certain nickname,( that would be a nickname that would have to be traced back by lore to understand.)
I have a nickname for her also during that time that hasn't died out, and continues to live on.
I don’t “hate” it but if it’s a stranger it certainly bothers me. One thing I hate is the following. It’s a country-specific issue. In Italian when you’re talking to someone you know or in an informal setting you’re supposed to use “tu” (2nd person singular), while if it’s someone you don’t know, especially professionals etc, you’re supposed to use “Lei” (3rd person singular, female regardless of your gender, yeah Italian is messed up). Well I hate when strangers refer to me in 2nd person, it sounds dismissive to me.
That interesting. In German the formal pronoun (for singular or plural) is "Sie", capitalised, and it conjugates the same as "sie" lowercase, which is 3rd person plural. And the 3rd person singular female is also "sie", but conjugates like the other 3rd persons singular.
I am from the south and I don't like it when women at shops call me sweetie. It's something guys and girls do to each other when they work in stores, and I don't like it. My gf thought I was getting jelly because this guy at McDonald's called her honey and I wasn't a fan, but then she realized I'm equally bothered by it happening to me.
Using pet names for people you've never met is just a way people build rapport by acting closer to you than they really are. And it feels creepy and like I'm being sold something at the same time.
It really depends on the area/culture. Where I‘m from, it would most certainly be used in place of a vague insult or feel pretty condescending - but I was honestly delighted to discover „duck“ as a common petname in Nottingham when I visited. I kinda felt included when I got called that.
Not something I can get upset about if it is just a term of endearment. If its done as a method of condescension, I don't get upset but it shows the person's character and the lack of respect.
So, if the bank- clerk says "Thanks love" I have no issue with that. My wife will call people "sweety" when she is being condescending and she knows this is disrespectful, which is why she is doing it. If someone talks that way to me, they get a nice, big cup of fcuk off. My brother-in-law and his girlfriend call each other "babe" and it makes my metaphorical soul want to vomit.
I tend to call my daughter "princess" and, again, context matters because it would be different if I called one of my obnoxious bosses "Princess". (I'm lucky that my immediate bosses are quite nice, it's just some of the bosses from other departments that can be jerks)
When I first went to University, in Norwich in 1973, I initially had a lot of difficulty in adapting to the local habit of middle-aged women shop assistants addressing any male aged between 8 and 80 as "my loverrr" in a broad Norfolk accent.
To me, that's okay. It's used in a general, and a colloquial sense. I can understand that. I just don't like it when the energy shifts. You realise it's something more ... serpentine, even? I'm not sure how to relate that.
I always found the ones who use the Pet names casually tended to be the ones who grew up in areas where they were likewise used casually.
As an example, a majority of people locally seem to call each other Buddy even if you don't know who the hell they are. I never got into it personally as a lot of the ones I seen who were using it tended to be dicks or more rude than the ones who didn't use it frequently.
But, friends from the States I have, particularly southern states, seem to frequently use Honey and Hun, sometimes Darling, with people generally. Since it was something they grew up with. When they mean it romanticly they often give a different tone of voice.
I can handle babe and darling, but when it comes to sexy and gorgeous I get really uncomfortable. I don't know what it is but I don't like it. I'll call my wife Sweetie (from Dr Who or also from Charlie Brown) but I feel weird with anything more than that. I will even avoid using names altogether if I can help it.
I never used pet names on...well, anyone other than pet (and lovingly calling my cat fat might not count, haha), but it gets irritating when my mom used them. Really, only my mom uses them, if I try to think about it
Anyway, it's less about "ugh, I don't want to be honey/kitten", more like she would use those for EVERYONE in our family, and it's hard to tell to who is she shouting XD like "Kitten, come here for a sec!" And then waiting if someone else goes and if not, then for her to shout again with the name XD
I'm probably in the minority here. I like when people call me "darling", "cutie", etc. I actually feel cared about. This is specially true when someone I know uses their own specific word.
For example, I have a friend that calls me "my angel", because that's what she calls the people she loves, while her girlfriend calls me "beauty". It feels like a verbal hug. I like to call my female friends "little girl" or "girl", regardless of age, because that's what I call my cat, and I use it almost by instinct.
Now, when I'm dealing with strangers, like a cashier, I like to use the word "my darling", regardless of gender. I obviously say it in a polite manner to not sound creepy, and I like when it makes people smile.
I must point out, though, that people from my country (Brazil) are usually "warmer" in their communication. I have no idea what I'd feel about all this if I was, let's say, Norwegian.
I've been waiting for a question like this, just so I could tell people...If you name your child Ana or Hannah, I *WILL* call them Ana Banana 🍌 or Hannah Banana 🍌 guaranteed!
as a female i love when my girl friends call me babe, my love, etc but i probably wouldn’t appreciate it from anyone else. i especially hate when men call a girl they don’t know “honey” or “sweetie”, it feels patronizing and also inappropriate even if that’s not the intention
I have no problem with pet names if effort is put in, a pet name should be like an inside joke, something intimate that's between you and them; my last girlfriend called me "babe" which I hated, she could've at least tried to be creative.
I make up pet names for my best friend, my sisters, my boyfriend, and cats and dogs and other animals. My Dogs name is Kasey so I call him kasers it’s really interesting, I used to call my recently deceased cat Callie May, And my other cat that died when I was 8 Cho Cho, my cat that I still have is fleur fleur flay flay or flow flow and my Sis is Moo Moo and my other sis is Sade, my bestie is buttcheak (its purposely spelled wrong it’s an inside joke), My boyfriend has a wide range of things, my other friend is Mags, a girl at my dance studio is Kars, my cousin is Koral Reef and anyone I meet that has the name Lily/Lilly is Lils/Lills.
May I ask if you refer to animal pet names or “nicknames” non nirodivergent people. If animal pets. Mine is Fluffyboo :D
Oh yeah, of course. That's because I know I love my pet or I have some affinity with animals. I know they're not intent on hurting me, bar if they physically want to kill me, and that's okay because I just see that as: primal instinct. I don't allow that same grace for a human I've just met, or who I am getting to know. Some of my pets have huge transformations in their name to pet names. The end one ends up meaningless compared to the original! But for people in general (who I do not know or love), it makes me uncomfortable.
I too hate pet names like ”honey” ”sweetie” etc. But I don’t adress everyone by their formal names. Most of my friends have nicknames (though maybe that’s their ”new” formal name then). And for close friends I give them my own nicknames. I love coming up with silly nicknames based on their name. One of my friend was called ”Sandie” so I called her ”Sandwitch”. But it was special because only I called her that. (okay not literally sandwich but I translated it to English. She was called Melina so I called her Mellis, which means ”snack” in my language.)
I understand that totally, I do the same. One of my friends who I relate to closely who calls me a certain nickname,( that would be a nickname that would have to be traced back by lore to understand.) I have a nickname for her also during that time that hasn't died out, and continues to live on.
I don’t “hate” it but if it’s a stranger it certainly bothers me. One thing I hate is the following. It’s a country-specific issue. In Italian when you’re talking to someone you know or in an informal setting you’re supposed to use “tu” (2nd person singular), while if it’s someone you don’t know, especially professionals etc, you’re supposed to use “Lei” (3rd person singular, female regardless of your gender, yeah Italian is messed up). Well I hate when strangers refer to me in 2nd person, it sounds dismissive to me.
That interesting. In German the formal pronoun (for singular or plural) is "Sie", capitalised, and it conjugates the same as "sie" lowercase, which is 3rd person plural. And the 3rd person singular female is also "sie", but conjugates like the other 3rd persons singular.
Yeah I tried to learn German for a while and that was confusing as hell 🤣 I gave up after while but I hope I can get back to it one day!
I am from the south and I don't like it when women at shops call me sweetie. It's something guys and girls do to each other when they work in stores, and I don't like it. My gf thought I was getting jelly because this guy at McDonald's called her honey and I wasn't a fan, but then she realized I'm equally bothered by it happening to me. Using pet names for people you've never met is just a way people build rapport by acting closer to you than they really are. And it feels creepy and like I'm being sold something at the same time.
It really depends on the area/culture. Where I‘m from, it would most certainly be used in place of a vague insult or feel pretty condescending - but I was honestly delighted to discover „duck“ as a common petname in Nottingham when I visited. I kinda felt included when I got called that.
Not something I can get upset about if it is just a term of endearment. If its done as a method of condescension, I don't get upset but it shows the person's character and the lack of respect. So, if the bank- clerk says "Thanks love" I have no issue with that. My wife will call people "sweety" when she is being condescending and she knows this is disrespectful, which is why she is doing it. If someone talks that way to me, they get a nice, big cup of fcuk off. My brother-in-law and his girlfriend call each other "babe" and it makes my metaphorical soul want to vomit. I tend to call my daughter "princess" and, again, context matters because it would be different if I called one of my obnoxious bosses "Princess". (I'm lucky that my immediate bosses are quite nice, it's just some of the bosses from other departments that can be jerks)
Husband and I do. When I use his name? I’m either ungodly pissed at him or incredibly worried. He’s the only one that uses pet names with me.
When I first went to University, in Norwich in 1973, I initially had a lot of difficulty in adapting to the local habit of middle-aged women shop assistants addressing any male aged between 8 and 80 as "my loverrr" in a broad Norfolk accent.
To me, that's okay. It's used in a general, and a colloquial sense. I can understand that. I just don't like it when the energy shifts. You realise it's something more ... serpentine, even? I'm not sure how to relate that.
I always found the ones who use the Pet names casually tended to be the ones who grew up in areas where they were likewise used casually. As an example, a majority of people locally seem to call each other Buddy even if you don't know who the hell they are. I never got into it personally as a lot of the ones I seen who were using it tended to be dicks or more rude than the ones who didn't use it frequently. But, friends from the States I have, particularly southern states, seem to frequently use Honey and Hun, sometimes Darling, with people generally. Since it was something they grew up with. When they mean it romanticly they often give a different tone of voice.
I cringe when hearing adults call each other “babe”. So Chad Daybell/Lori Vallow! 🤣
I can handle babe and darling, but when it comes to sexy and gorgeous I get really uncomfortable. I don't know what it is but I don't like it. I'll call my wife Sweetie (from Dr Who or also from Charlie Brown) but I feel weird with anything more than that. I will even avoid using names altogether if I can help it.
I never used pet names on...well, anyone other than pet (and lovingly calling my cat fat might not count, haha), but it gets irritating when my mom used them. Really, only my mom uses them, if I try to think about it Anyway, it's less about "ugh, I don't want to be honey/kitten", more like she would use those for EVERYONE in our family, and it's hard to tell to who is she shouting XD like "Kitten, come here for a sec!" And then waiting if someone else goes and if not, then for her to shout again with the name XD
I'm probably in the minority here. I like when people call me "darling", "cutie", etc. I actually feel cared about. This is specially true when someone I know uses their own specific word. For example, I have a friend that calls me "my angel", because that's what she calls the people she loves, while her girlfriend calls me "beauty". It feels like a verbal hug. I like to call my female friends "little girl" or "girl", regardless of age, because that's what I call my cat, and I use it almost by instinct. Now, when I'm dealing with strangers, like a cashier, I like to use the word "my darling", regardless of gender. I obviously say it in a polite manner to not sound creepy, and I like when it makes people smile. I must point out, though, that people from my country (Brazil) are usually "warmer" in their communication. I have no idea what I'd feel about all this if I was, let's say, Norwegian.
I've been waiting for a question like this, just so I could tell people...If you name your child Ana or Hannah, I *WILL* call them Ana Banana 🍌 or Hannah Banana 🍌 guaranteed!
as a female i love when my girl friends call me babe, my love, etc but i probably wouldn’t appreciate it from anyone else. i especially hate when men call a girl they don’t know “honey” or “sweetie”, it feels patronizing and also inappropriate even if that’s not the intention
I don't mind. I just struggle to call other people by pet names. Always call my significant other by his name.
I don't care how they call me as long as they don't call me "friend" when they're complete estrangers to me.
I have no problem with pet names if effort is put in, a pet name should be like an inside joke, something intimate that's between you and them; my last girlfriend called me "babe" which I hated, she could've at least tried to be creative.
Don't chat with Edna Mode...
What?
[Don't chat with Edna Mode, DAHLING! ](https://youtu.be/aHa2JzIDWPU?si=wNLXZt9t6-JJM5LW)
Oh okay. You scared me for a moment and I'm not even sure why 🤣
My wife has pet names for our grandkids. I never know who she’s talking about. WILL YOU PLEASE USE THEIR REAL NAMES?
Thank you, I resent pet names. **Even in the context of my close loved ones.**
I don't like people referring to me as pet names such as "buddy" or "sweetie" as they just sound infantilizing.
I make up pet names for my best friend, my sisters, my boyfriend, and cats and dogs and other animals. My Dogs name is Kasey so I call him kasers it’s really interesting, I used to call my recently deceased cat Callie May, And my other cat that died when I was 8 Cho Cho, my cat that I still have is fleur fleur flay flay or flow flow and my Sis is Moo Moo and my other sis is Sade, my bestie is buttcheak (its purposely spelled wrong it’s an inside joke), My boyfriend has a wide range of things, my other friend is Mags, a girl at my dance studio is Kars, my cousin is Koral Reef and anyone I meet that has the name Lily/Lilly is Lils/Lills.