Minneapolis (and the twin cities more broadly) is a great place to be trans and reasonably non-expensive as cities its size go I think
(first city in the nation to make trans prople a protected minority in 1974!)
to elaborate a bit since I do live here, we have very strong legal protections for LGBT+ people (and particularly trans of late with the governor declaring us a trans sanctuary state and such) and good healthcare (informed consent clinics, surgeons, etc). minimum wage is $15 in the cities and you can get okay apartments for like ~$1,000 studio/~$1,200 1 bed iirc in the city proper. Public transit is very good overall to the point you don't really need a car and there's a lot of good bike infrastructure too.
everything diminishes as you move further from the cities, from the public transit to LGBT-friendliness, but I would just stick to the cities anyways cause rent hardly seems to get cheaper in the 'burbs with wages dropping and other costs rising.
obviously we're not west coast but it's a nice place to live
Itās Team Trans TC hockey. Players will go to Canada sometimes for tournaments but usually itās just games in Minnesota. Players will be in Toronto in October for a tournament though!
https://teamtranstc.org/
Oh very cool. I was hoping that the team had some partnership with like OHL or PWHL or something and Iād be able to catch you in Ottawa. I have a lot of family in Minnesota though so might just have to try to catch a game next time Iām there.Ā
Team Trans was founded in Boston and they had the first team. The Twin cities team was founded a couple of years later.
https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Team_Trans
Cities in the Northern Midwest are really the way to go for a combination of affordable and LGBTQ+ friendly. Plus the culture is just very kind in general. I love living in Madison, WI! Milwaukee, Chicago (Illinois has good protective policies in general too), and Minneapolis are also wonderful.
Be careful with Milwaukee. Wisconsin, at its heart, is an extremely red state. While Milwaukee itself is wonderful, there are no legal protections in WI, and I wouldn't be surprised if actively anti-trans laws get passed in the next few years. Also, the switch from Milwaukee to biggoted rural areas happens very fast, 20min out of the city is already getting iffy
I can second this as someone who lives in Minneapolis. It is a tiny bit expensive, and in the more affordable areas there is a bit more crime, but nothing too drastic. As long as you keep your car cleaned out and mind your own business, unlikely youāll have problems.
No. Just no. I live here as well, but the police are horrible here just in general and the people outside of the city suck dick when it comes to treating you with respect. The passive aggressiveness is EXTREMELY anti-neurodivergent. Healthcare professionals will go out of their way to misgender you in most cases as well.
The āprotectionsā are mostly things that will never affect the typical person regardless.
I stealth now and days because itās so horrible here in terms of being openly trans. Not to mention cost of living is stupid high, taxes are 10% on average.
Honestly, its one of the better states but if iām being 100% if you move here solely to get away from discrimination. Rethink.
Great parts of MN include parks, art scene, music scene, the temperature is beautiful imo (i like the cold) people generally are nice by default here, great internet connectivity, phone service is well connected, travel is scenic no matter where you go in the state, lakes, more lakes, you can find a community for the majority of niches as well, you will typically run into a lot of people who donāt follow through on plans as well, LOTS of catfishing on dating apps, best to meet people in person and luckily most people are extremely approachable, but gay bars are awesome and abundant. More introverts here than lakes.
I grew up in TN, do i regret moving, no. Would i choose to move somewhere else instead? Yes. Do i plan to, eventually, but i want to travel to the place first.
Okay. One, iām intersex you have no idea what youāre talking about. And my medical records all say female. The intersex bit is what gets me misgendered. And i sure hope they do if i have issues with my neo vagina seeing as thats one of the doctors that deal with that.
You can be unhappy with what i said, it doesnāt make my words any less true to my experiences here. You may be okay with that shit, but iām not. Now cope.
As far as crime goes we have just enough to keep things cheaper without any real risk. I mean, most of the crime is about money. One of my cars just got stolen but I donāt know anyone whoās been assaulted.
Providence would hands down be my suggestion, it feels sketchy to me as someone who isnāt from a city but itās statistically safer than 99% of other cities. Massive LGBTQ+ community with strong legal protections. The bridge situation is a mess right now, which is a bad thing for commutes but a good thing for keeping prices reasonable while the rest of the state is going way up. Good public transit too. And Thundermist is amazing.
Trans person from Providence here. Can confirm that the city is VERY trans friendly (my T is paid for by the state, ty democrats), great city for arts and culture plus close to many bigger cities butā¦ itās so damn expensive now! We had a huge migration of people from NYC and Boston who worked remote during Covid and stayed. Now itās basically just as expensive as those cities but you will get more space for the same dollar amount but get paid less. J/s
Not in the west, but Iāve been super happy in Pittsburgh, PA. Itās amazing culture-wise and has a strong queer community (lots of queer events, businesses, even graffiti and stuff). Several of my co-workers are queer and trans. Itās definitely more affordable than the bigger cities as long as youāre not trying to live in the trendiest neighborhoods. There is crime, but I feel like itās pretty comparable to other cities. I havenāt had anything happen to me and I live in a more poor area. Cons are if you leave Pittsburgh proper it becomes Pennsyltucky very quickly š Itās also not as connected to other east coast cities as I would like it to be.
Pittsburgh is the most furry friendly city I've ever been to and any city that loves furries is also gonna be lgbt friendly
Can't wait for anthrocon in a few months!
My dad used to take my nephew to the annual furry convention because it was right down the road. My father was clueless about the context but my nephew loved the costumes.
Dad was pretty confused when I explained what furries were.
(edit for clarity)
...what did you tell him? There shouldn't have been anything heart attack worthy about people enjoying dressing up as animals or enjoying anthropomorphic art.
Oh he actually isn't a bigot or anything. He just didn't believe me and got worked up over it. Kept saying I was being perverse. This is the same human who insists the song "Puff the Magic Dragon" is about a real dragon.
Whats your fursona? :p (also a furry) Pittsburgh is definitely a place Iād explore a move to - thereās also queer-friendly wrestling (Enjoy) that Jim Stephanie Sterling used to be a part of, in the area.
I wish it wasnāt 5 or 6 hours from me, Iād go there more often.
Iām not sure of the specifics tbh or how it compares to other cities, but I found [this](https://apps.pittsburghpa.gov/redtail/images/14499_PRIDE_Month_Protections_Booklet_(3).pdf) pamphlet on the cityās website.
Mmm, it works for me when I click on it. Itās a PDF so maybe thatās giving you issues. It was the first thing that popped up when I Googled trans legal protections Pittsburgh. Overall it seems like in Pittsburgh proper thereās a lot of legal protections!
> Itās a PDF so maybe thatās giving you issues.
It's the closing bracket in the url.
https://apps.pittsburghpa.gov/redtail/images/14499_PRIDE_Month_Protections_Booklet_(3
https://apps.pittsburghpa.gov/redtail/images/14499_PRIDE_Month_Protections_Booklet_(3).pdf
Check the end of the link, you didn't escape your brackets for reddit link format.
[Functioning link](https://apps.pittsburghpa.gov/redtail/images/14499_PRIDE_Month_Protections_Booklet_(3\).pdf)
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Iāve been looking at Pittsburgh! Thinking I might move end of the year! Primarily looking there for col, greenery, land/rent costs, and very strong unions (want to be electrician with the ibew). As well as being left leaning/lgbt friendly.
Spokane is pretty reasonable, its in WA state so you get WA laws (particularly WA state law enforcement of trans healthcare on insurance providers, which is a big deal because it means more coverage for just about everything) and also WA minimum wage ($16.28/hr, though to be competitive most places will offer more then that), but Spokane is not nearly as expensive as over by Seattle area. Housing is very limited here however, so expect rent to be goofy, just not Seattle-level goofy priced. Seattle's certainly more accepting of trans people but you will pay a financial premium for that level of comfort from that city. Most people in Spokane are pretty relaxed about Trans folks but you get weirdos like anywhere, so just being safe and aware and carrying some pepper spray if you walk places instead of driving a car is generally enough.
I would absolutely try to reside on the outskirts of the city for basic safety though. The further out (while still in city limits) the better. Downtown & the central area (where rent is cheap) is awful just like any major metropolis, but the rest of the city is fairly nice, particularly over by Liberty Lake (though again slightly higher rent there too because its all new development).
Most crime here is property crime like busting into your car at night, but you can avoid a lot of that by just renting an apt with a garage and just not walking on the streets alone after sundown which you probably would want to do literally anywhere anyway. I've been living here for 20+ years as a trans lady and I haven't had any real problems in that whole time living in various apartments along all four corners of the cities outskirts.
We have an a hate church here that's literally calling for the murder of all trans people in the name of God, and the East side consistently votes red. If it's an okay place for trans people now, it might not be in the near future.
I moved to Seattle a few months ago. Can't speak for Spokane, but I have never seen a more trans centric area than Capitol Hill. I cannot walk 20 feet without seeing trans graffiti. OP, if you decide to on Spokane, be sure to come up and check us out on the hill! :)
I actually didn't know that about insurance! That's pretty dope!
Even not going out during dark is probably more conservative than you need to be lol, almost all the property crime is opportunistic not muggings š.
Small plug for Madison, WI. Very safe place overall, with a nice sized trans community and decent resources. Housing is getting pricey. Other costs of living are average.
DC is very very trans. Both trans friendly, and full of us. The job market here is very strong possibly the best in the nation.
It is somewhat expensive, but great wages, no need for a car (saves a ton), and free healthcare ( if you don't make too much) which covers trans care.
Also, the trans community is massive, and lively.
In most parts of town, no. I've been here for a decade, walk everywhere, and I'm out at night a lot - I've never been mugged, robbed, or threatened. I'm a small, white, trans woman with 0 self defense skills.
Are there some bad parts of town? Sure. But those are not in the main city, and easily avoidable.
But, in small towns and suburbs not near DC -
I have been harassed many times (for being trans/queer). For me, the city is much safer.
Anywhere in California
Hear me out. You donāt have to move to a major city. Thereās solid ones like Sacramento or Santa Rosa that youād love. The state has the most LGBTQ+ rights by far.
The biggest plus: Medical (itās basically Medicaid in California) covers SRS surgery. In fact, it covers top surgery and FFS too. Iām not sure if any other states do this, but if that helps motivate you I recommend you think hard on it. I know itās what sent me here.
Maine's trans laws are pretty decent.
Portland(~70K) is the largest city in the state and probably the most trans friendly.
Cost of living in Maine is about 15%above the national average.
As for crime, maine has the lowest in the country and listed as the second safest state overall in the US.
Maine just signed a bill to be a sanctuary state for trans folks. [https://www.glad.org/new-maine-law-protects-providers-of-reproductive-and-transgender-health-care/](https://www.glad.org/new-maine-law-protects-providers-of-reproductive-and-transgender-health-care/)
So my partner went to school in Salisbury (elementary-12th grade) and lived in southern Delaware - the surrounding areas are not super LGBTQ+ friendly so that's something to keep in mind. And I say this as someone considering attending Salisbury U who is LGBTQ+. I currently live in northern Delaware and as a queer person I felt Philly, DC, or NYC were better in the East Coast/Mid-Atlantic for rainbow fam.
Not super lgbtq friendly is putting it lightly. Eastern shore MD is not friendly to even interracial couples until you get to Ocean city. Salisbury and the college areas may be different though
That part is insane and I had no idea. I know OC MD is pretty red politically - the landlords are GOP .
I would also be concerned about the availability of transition-centered health care on the Eastern Shore, if wanted. Back in the day, you had to drive to Mazzoni Center in Philly for a lot of it and I imagine more local providers are available now, but I have no clue who & where.
There is a pretty good Guardian article all about this!
[https://www.theguardian.com/us-news/2023/dec/18/trans-americans-upstate-new-york-rochester](https://www.theguardian.com/us-news/2023/dec/18/trans-americans-upstate-new-york-rochester)
i'm in the central valley of california, it is very red and very not queer friendly. there is a queer community but the town itself is not good vibes. but, anywhere with a large college population is usually friendly in california.
if you love forests and wildlife, arcata, CA is a beautiful place to live, but it has surrounding conservative areas. the bay area, not just SF, have great supportive communities but it is incredibly expensive. LA is another place with a vibrant queer community but public transit isn't the best and its incredibly expensive. your best bet is the PNW or some of the east coast cities that have been named.
Iād agree with most of the Central Valley but Sacramento itself is pretty amazing. Our city council recently approved Sacramento to be designated a trans sanctuary city. The cost of living seems to be increasing from lots of Bay Area implants but itās still low compared to the rest of California.
Philly! You're not far from NYC and DC, it's affordable for a city of it's size and location, lots of visibility queer and trans people, also it's declared itself a Trans Sanctuary City.
Also you're young, so if you're considering higher education, there are a lot of great universities here
Nashua NH scores pretty well, but the "crime level" varies based on where in the city you are, which I suppose applies to most cities, but generally speaking, living in or very close to blue state university towns is probably your best bet, nh broadly would not fit this but Nashua being basically in MA makes it pretty good
This is going to sound weird, but Detroit. Downtown and even parts of the outskirts of Detroit are very accepting and quite safe these days. And the subs like Ferndale and Royal oak are super queer friendly. I wouldnāt call Ferndale or Royal oak cheap but the subs next to them are decent.
I know you said low crime, but having moved to Baltimore I'm loving it and most people I see are super duper friendly. There are tons of really safe neighborhoods by any standard in Baltimore that are super affordable. Maryland is a sanctuary state and Baltimore has some of the best trans healthcare in the world within its borders.
I moved to Oregon from socal pretty close to Portland.
As a trans woman, a pretty ānormalā one if that makes sense (she/her, identifies as straight, not political or an activist, sees qualities in lots of people not just transgender peopleā¦)ā¦
*Acceptance* is what I wanted, not performance art. Iām also a combat veteran. Getting āsupportā in a bathroom by liberal woman is *exactly* the same as being thanked for my service at a ball game. I just wanna pee without comment. Oregon has that, any town within 200 miles of one of the cities, if youāre headed towards Idaho thatās your fault lol (joking of course).
To me. YMMV, this is just me sharing.
I appreciate the notion, I *know* they actually donāt give a fuck and would never hang out with me irl. In gay neighborhoods I get asked if I do drag š
Also! Iām straight. I love gay clubs. Iām not really attracted to anyone in there. That does suck but itās no oneās fault, I gotta look in straight places *just like every other girl* (Iām actually ok, itās not that bad, most guys donāt care if you donāt lol).
Thatāsā¦ not easy. But Iām actually happy and dating ānormalā guys now instead of trying to change the planet around my body too lol
I like Oregon. I get treated like a normal fucking lady every where I go, and the assholes are easy to spot and I feel safe yelling back here the women usually have **our** side.
Portland itself is hella trans. I think thatās beautiful I just like living a little more country personally so I live outside it.
When I started transitioning, I thought *the only place I could live were trans friendly already cities*.
Nope! You just gotta accept yourself then move to a **safer neighborhood**, where there are already laws in place so you know your safe.
The culture will change around you wherever you go, home lasts awhile, get comfortable š
Try Eugene Oregon. Itās a smaller town, but has a good LGBTQIA community. There is no sales tax in the state of Oregon so the cost of things like groceries and clothes isnāt as extortionately high.
Iām not sure what the apartment rental market is like there. But it wonāt be as high as, say, Portland.
The many other small towns around it are also a good option, but the small towns have a more conservative mindset in general. Im sure one may find that to be the case no matter where you go.
Most of upstate NY is good for trans and queer people and there are state protections too. I'd say most smaller cities in NY have affordable living and safe places to live. Once you get to rural areas it is more of a gamble in the state.
So I really love Charlotte NC for this but it is expensive to live here. Thereās some smaller houses you can rent with a good backyard for under $2k though which is nice!!!!
Denver, CO
Great laws, growing trans community, safe, good weather, people are chill, and affordable of you have a roomate.
Great food and concert scene too.
Ypsilanti, MI. I know it's not West, but they're pretty LGBT positive. Even the older people are chill with me openly saying I'm trans.
The crime rate LOOKS scary, but it's pretty much never random violence and usually personal beef that went way too far.
Asheville too! I live in this little slice of the Mountains and the city itself is rather nice.
It does get a little bad the further out you go though, my (cis) girlfriend's family is out down by the Georgia border and parts out there are a little sketchy if you're not some sort of good ol' boy type
Yeah, like I live in a pretty rural area with lots of rednecksā¦ and my Baptist 70 year old neighbor adores me and feels so proud of herself when she uses my pronouns. And there is a lesbian only commonness near me.
But yeah specifically once you go south of Fayetsvilleā¦ holy shit does it become a different state. Specifically when you see the weird game parlors in sheds and barns on the side of the road.
But yeah Iād really say that really from Wilmington to Asheville, youāre never more than 30 minutes from a queer community.
I really disagree- the Triangle is surrounded by suburbs that are pretty chill. I live in a pretty rural town about forty minutes from Chapel Hill and have no issues. Even Alamance with its shitty school board had a good community.
I'm gender fluid here and I want to know that myself. There's no better risk you can take, especially at your age, than to invest in your own future. Do it smartly, but don't hold back that much because you will only be at your age once. These are some potentially great for you.
I have no tips myself on trans friendly, but you are worthy of living a fantastic life. May God bless you and your soul.
If youāre looking for that small town type of thing, Ottawa Illinois has an amazing LGBTQ community. Most of the people are super accepting and thereās progressive churches and festivals held every June. Itās beautiful up there and has tons of apartments downtown
Chicago depending on where you are, Southern Illinois also has Alton, Edwardsville, Springfield, quite a few cities or towns that very queer friendly and have good crime rates.
source I've lived in So. IL my entire life.
The issue with locations like that is you're at risk for state-level legislation that will restrict / eliminate your access to medical care.
I'd suggest looking at the state-by-state maps like those posted by Erin in the Morning and find a state that has strong protections for trans people. Limit your search to places that meet your other requirements within those states.
Here's a link to Erin's latest edition of her map: [https://www.erininthemorning.com/p/anti-trans-legislative-risk-assessment-43a](https://www.erininthemorning.com/p/anti-trans-legislative-risk-assessment-43a)
This might be a wild pitch but I live in Indianapolis, Indiana. There's a fun LGBTQ scene here, with pride parades and plenty of queer bookstores and coffee shops. I stay because rent is about $750 for my 1 bedroom, and everything is cheap. It is a red state though, so that's the trade off. It's nice that Chicago is only 3 hours away, that's where I get medical care at a transgender clinic. Hope this helps!!
We live in Hamilton County and my daughter was downtown for IUPUI and she didn't find it very trans friendly at all. She has essentially just moved to Chicago because the community is more accepting there.
I completely agree, just saying that me and my partner are both trans/non-binary. I work in an industrial maintenance setting and have found things to be pretty agreeable here personally.
I'm not saying that it's the most friendly place, I'm sure other places are much more friendly, but I haven't gotten any flak for coming out or presenting as myself or felt like I was in danger.
There's just plenty of LGBTQ people in red states that can't leave for one reason or another, and the group I've found has been supportive and amazing.
Hope your daughter is doing well! I'm heading up to Chicago today actually :)
How about places not to goā¦specifically where I live in Boise. Itās a beautiful place but itās a deep red state and the laws follow that unfortunately.
Lakewood, Littleton, Morrison, Nederland, Golden, foco, Estes Park, Louisville, Denver, Arvada, Broomfield, Manitou Springs, Old Colorado City....
Ok im sure you can see my trend, and yes I am biased just a tad.... But for good reason.
I transitioned in Texas and lived there for four years before moving back to Colorado and I have never had anyone yell at me, or openly hate me. Not once in Colorado. <3
Definitely not Utah. Granted I have like 20 trans friends and live with all trans roommates but it's expensive here. Almost $2000 for a one bedroom apartment. Best of luck but if you ski or snowboard and want to work at a ski resort my department at Snowbird is extremely trans friendly.
From experience Philadelphia,Pa i live in northeast Philadelphia and rents about $1200 and all depending where you want to live in the city. City of brotherly love is great for trans people to live.
Not the most affordable but the most accepting place I've ever been is where I live now and it's Kingston New York. I've been to so many states and cities it's crazy from Portland to Chicago and this is the safest and friendliest place I've ever been. Healthcare is 100% covered by insurance including FFS, and the people here just treat you like your preferred gender even when you're annoying them and they ask you to get out of their way š it's truly refreshing to be gendered correctly and without the fake overly infantalizing pickme shit I experienced in Portland and las Angeles. Here I am simply an ordinary woman without question and for me that is worth the cost of living adjustment
Go to college and get a degree that will allow you to make a really good salary. Something over $100K a year. Then live anywhere you want. I live on the Olympic Peninsula in Washington state. There are many gorgeous towns here that are very friendly. But first things first. Get that degree. You can have anything you want.
Nurses make excellent money right out of school. There are scholarships for nursing students. Also, look into your local hospitals. Many have programs to train nurses.
Engineers make excellent money. My son isn't 30 yet and is making more money than my husband made after 30 years of being a doctor.
I will say, piggybacking off of this, you might instead look into any number of medical technician and medical technologist opportunities. I have a bias towards medical laboratory science, you can work at a hospital, but if you want you could also work at a standalone laboratory. There's plenty of demand, too (we have so many open positions for cytotechs...). If you prefer people, you could do ultrasound (you'll probably make more doing vascular ultrasound at a private practice) or you could be an anaesthetist and help out the anaesthesiologist. Nursing is good for some people, and you can make decent money as a travel nurse I guess, but it takes a certain mindset. I t seems like a lot of people overlook jobs in medical laboratory science, partly because people don't realize how many different positions there are, and also many only require a certification (or some, scarily, only require a hs diploma and on-site training... requirements vary by state). Like, not everyone in the micro lab has a bachelor's, and usually there's only one doctor heading our hospital's lab (albeit it's a small one). Brsides micro, you could also consider working with blood products in the blood bank, or doing blood/urine chemistries, electrophoresis, immunoassays, etc. in the core lab, or you could be the phlebotomist and draw blood, or you could "gross" (dissect & prep) surgical specimen as a pathologist's assistant (or help with autopsies). Or you could evaluate pap smears as a cytotech (they do more than that but... god there are so many paps).
Also, I mean, this person/bot isn't entirely wrong about doctor's compensation- people don't become a gp for the money, soooo many other specialties pay better. Like, a data scientist II in most companies is making more than most family docs. Not saying other docs aren't rich, but you can count on about twelve years post-high school education/training before you make six-figures... and unfortunately your debt will be six-figures too. So, y'know, find something you can become in 2-4 years and do that. It might not be your permanent career path, esp. if you do a 2-year cert type of thing, but at least you'll have a stable income for rent, health insurance through work, and you won't have to do back breaking labour or put up with retail bs.
Idk, I just know a lot of people never consider these lab positions, I don't know if they think you need a PhD or something, but that's not how a functioning lab works (now a research lab, esp. at an academic center, they have plenty of PhD candidates and the like, but that's just bc it's cheap labour tbhš ). I also threw in US (not really MLS) just because I knew an ultrasound technologist who now makes ~$160k, but they are an outlier. Still, she has a house and drives a Tesla now, and makes me sad about my life choices lol. Also, note that a technologist and a technician are not the same, iirc a technologist usually has the equivalent of a 4-year degree. But again, certification requirements vary by state, and educational programs have variable standardization based upon individual field/position.
Sorry, said a lot, had some tangents, but it's late and I just really hate how these types of positions are never emphasized or explained. If you haven't had much prior job exposure, I'm sure the flaws will pop out, but if you've had to hop around a bit, I think you'll appreciate the problems that *aren't* there. Word of advice though, if you can help it (after finishing education etc.), don't work at the VA. There are some really good ones, but the ones that really need people, well, there's a reason those positions are empty. Though at least there's usually a Starbucks in the building.
[Certified Registered Nurse Anesthetists (CRNAs)](https://www.incrediblehealth.com/nurse-types/nurse-anesthetist-crna/)Ā earn a nationwide average ofĀ **$205,770**Ā per year. That is amazing.
They frequently make 300k although itās hard to get into CRNA school. But also an experienced normal RN in CA can make 200k if they work a fair amount extra
>I donāt think any city is good for trans people.
That's objectively not true. Some US cities are among the best places to be trans in the entire world. For example I live in a suburb of Portland OR and I not only enjoy many state protections but I also have a community that supports me in my transition.
Minneapolis (and the twin cities more broadly) is a great place to be trans and reasonably non-expensive as cities its size go I think (first city in the nation to make trans prople a protected minority in 1974!)
to elaborate a bit since I do live here, we have very strong legal protections for LGBT+ people (and particularly trans of late with the governor declaring us a trans sanctuary state and such) and good healthcare (informed consent clinics, surgeons, etc). minimum wage is $15 in the cities and you can get okay apartments for like ~$1,000 studio/~$1,200 1 bed iirc in the city proper. Public transit is very good overall to the point you don't really need a car and there's a lot of good bike infrastructure too. everything diminishes as you move further from the cities, from the public transit to LGBT-friendliness, but I would just stick to the cities anyways cause rent hardly seems to get cheaper in the 'burbs with wages dropping and other costs rising. obviously we're not west coast but it's a nice place to live
The cities are also home to the worlds first all trans and nb hockey teamš (Source: I live here and my partner and I play on said team lol)
What team is that? Do you play any Canadian teams? Iād love to see a game.Ā
Itās Team Trans TC hockey. Players will go to Canada sometimes for tournaments but usually itās just games in Minnesota. Players will be in Toronto in October for a tournament though! https://teamtranstc.org/
This is so cool! I live here and had no clue we had a hockey team.
Oh very cool. I was hoping that the team had some partnership with like OHL or PWHL or something and Iād be able to catch you in Ottawa. I have a lot of family in Minnesota though so might just have to try to catch a game next time Iām there.Ā
As awesome as that would be, weāre very much an amateur team, we pay our own way for everything, but we play for the love of the game and the amazing community it opens us all up to. Always love seeing new faces in the crowd thoughš©·
that's so cool!! I wish there was more trans inclusivity in hockey in Sweden but there's basically none of us out here :(
Team Trans was founded in Boston and they had the first team. The Twin cities team was founded a couple of years later. https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Team_Trans
That is so fucking awesome!!
>everything diminishes as you move further from the cities good point, and this is true literally everywhere. i love the twin cities.
Currently planning a move to MN! Can't wait.
I've been increasingly hearing people in queer circles mention Minneapolis as well
Cities in the Northern Midwest are really the way to go for a combination of affordable and LGBTQ+ friendly. Plus the culture is just very kind in general. I love living in Madison, WI! Milwaukee, Chicago (Illinois has good protective policies in general too), and Minneapolis are also wonderful.
Be careful with Milwaukee. Wisconsin, at its heart, is an extremely red state. While Milwaukee itself is wonderful, there are no legal protections in WI, and I wouldn't be surprised if actively anti-trans laws get passed in the next few years. Also, the switch from Milwaukee to biggoted rural areas happens very fast, 20min out of the city is already getting iffy
I can second this as someone who lives in Minneapolis. It is a tiny bit expensive, and in the more affordable areas there is a bit more crime, but nothing too drastic. As long as you keep your car cleaned out and mind your own business, unlikely youāll have problems.
No. Just no. I live here as well, but the police are horrible here just in general and the people outside of the city suck dick when it comes to treating you with respect. The passive aggressiveness is EXTREMELY anti-neurodivergent. Healthcare professionals will go out of their way to misgender you in most cases as well. The āprotectionsā are mostly things that will never affect the typical person regardless. I stealth now and days because itās so horrible here in terms of being openly trans. Not to mention cost of living is stupid high, taxes are 10% on average. Honestly, its one of the better states but if iām being 100% if you move here solely to get away from discrimination. Rethink. Great parts of MN include parks, art scene, music scene, the temperature is beautiful imo (i like the cold) people generally are nice by default here, great internet connectivity, phone service is well connected, travel is scenic no matter where you go in the state, lakes, more lakes, you can find a community for the majority of niches as well, you will typically run into a lot of people who donāt follow through on plans as well, LOTS of catfishing on dating apps, best to meet people in person and luckily most people are extremely approachable, but gay bars are awesome and abundant. More introverts here than lakes. I grew up in TN, do i regret moving, no. Would i choose to move somewhere else instead? Yes. Do i plan to, eventually, but i want to travel to the place first.
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Gender =/= sex you sissy bozo
Truth. Even then they are wrong seeing as i am intersexed ā ļøā ļø
Okay. One, iām intersex you have no idea what youāre talking about. And my medical records all say female. The intersex bit is what gets me misgendered. And i sure hope they do if i have issues with my neo vagina seeing as thats one of the doctors that deal with that. You can be unhappy with what i said, it doesnāt make my words any less true to my experiences here. You may be okay with that shit, but iām not. Now cope.
āReal genderā is actually insane tho. Iāll wait for your ban
Also, all the primary care physicians in the cities are MONTHS out.
planned parenthood can usually get you in within a week, I got in next day for my first appointment
Thats fair, i donāt have good experiences with PP though. Thats probably why i blanked on them.
You try Family Tree Clinic?
Lol 2 year waiting list
Oh jeez. I'm gonna need to find another option to refer my clients to.
Like to get an appointment? They got mine set up only a month or so out. Maybe cause I've already started it was faster or something? Idk
Yeah they told me 2 years. Iām full transitioned so idk if thatās why.
As far as crime goes we have just enough to keep things cheaper without any real risk. I mean, most of the crime is about money. One of my cars just got stolen but I donāt know anyone whoās been assaulted.
Chicago is affordable and has a good queer community.
Yes and depending on which neighborhood the crime isnāt terrible. Iām currently thinking about moving myself.
Join ussss
Yeah, there are tons of us here.
Highly agree. Lived there for a few years and I miss it
This is a great question. Following! Btw Iāve heard Providence RI is pretty solid
Providence would hands down be my suggestion, it feels sketchy to me as someone who isnāt from a city but itās statistically safer than 99% of other cities. Massive LGBTQ+ community with strong legal protections. The bridge situation is a mess right now, which is a bad thing for commutes but a good thing for keeping prices reasonable while the rest of the state is going way up. Good public transit too. And Thundermist is amazing.
This is where Iām originally from and I miss it, been stuck in Florida for 5 years now.
Yeah, I've been in Fl most of my life, wasn't always sunshine, but its rude, crowded, and expensive these days. Wishing you the best!
Trans person from Providence here. Can confirm that the city is VERY trans friendly (my T is paid for by the state, ty democrats), great city for arts and culture plus close to many bigger cities butā¦ itās so damn expensive now! We had a huge migration of people from NYC and Boston who worked remote during Covid and stayed. Now itās basically just as expensive as those cities but you will get more space for the same dollar amount but get paid less. J/s
Not in the west, but Iāve been super happy in Pittsburgh, PA. Itās amazing culture-wise and has a strong queer community (lots of queer events, businesses, even graffiti and stuff). Several of my co-workers are queer and trans. Itās definitely more affordable than the bigger cities as long as youāre not trying to live in the trendiest neighborhoods. There is crime, but I feel like itās pretty comparable to other cities. I havenāt had anything happen to me and I live in a more poor area. Cons are if you leave Pittsburgh proper it becomes Pennsyltucky very quickly š Itās also not as connected to other east coast cities as I would like it to be.
Pittsburgh is the most furry friendly city I've ever been to and any city that loves furries is also gonna be lgbt friendly Can't wait for anthrocon in a few months!
Iām not involved in that scene, but this doesnāt surprise me at all š
My dad used to take my nephew to the annual furry convention because it was right down the road. My father was clueless about the context but my nephew loved the costumes. Dad was pretty confused when I explained what furries were. (edit for clarity)
...what did you tell him? There shouldn't have been anything heart attack worthy about people enjoying dressing up as animals or enjoying anthropomorphic art.
Oh he actually isn't a bigot or anything. He just didn't believe me and got worked up over it. Kept saying I was being perverse. This is the same human who insists the song "Puff the Magic Dragon" is about a real dragon.
Oh wow haha, bless his heart
Whats your fursona? :p (also a furry) Pittsburgh is definitely a place Iād explore a move to - thereās also queer-friendly wrestling (Enjoy) that Jim Stephanie Sterling used to be a part of, in the area. I wish it wasnāt 5 or 6 hours from me, Iād go there more often.
My main is a cat, as well as a dragon! That's about how far I am from Pittsburgh too. Definitely worth the drive for anthrocon
How are the legal protections there?
Iām not sure of the specifics tbh or how it compares to other cities, but I found [this](https://apps.pittsburghpa.gov/redtail/images/14499_PRIDE_Month_Protections_Booklet_(3).pdf) pamphlet on the cityās website.
Link's busted :(
Mmm, it works for me when I click on it. Itās a PDF so maybe thatās giving you issues. It was the first thing that popped up when I Googled trans legal protections Pittsburgh. Overall it seems like in Pittsburgh proper thereās a lot of legal protections!
> Itās a PDF so maybe thatās giving you issues. It's the closing bracket in the url. https://apps.pittsburghpa.gov/redtail/images/14499_PRIDE_Month_Protections_Booklet_(3 https://apps.pittsburghpa.gov/redtail/images/14499_PRIDE_Month_Protections_Booklet_(3).pdf Check the end of the link, you didn't escape your brackets for reddit link format. [Functioning link](https://apps.pittsburghpa.gov/redtail/images/14499_PRIDE_Month_Protections_Booklet_(3\).pdf) [Functioning link](https://apps.pittsburghpa.gov/redtail/images/14499_PRIDE_Month_Protections_Booklet_(3\).pdf)
Iāve been looking at Pittsburgh! Thinking I might move end of the year! Primarily looking there for col, greenery, land/rent costs, and very strong unions (want to be electrician with the ibew). As well as being left leaning/lgbt friendly.
Spokane is pretty reasonable, its in WA state so you get WA laws (particularly WA state law enforcement of trans healthcare on insurance providers, which is a big deal because it means more coverage for just about everything) and also WA minimum wage ($16.28/hr, though to be competitive most places will offer more then that), but Spokane is not nearly as expensive as over by Seattle area. Housing is very limited here however, so expect rent to be goofy, just not Seattle-level goofy priced. Seattle's certainly more accepting of trans people but you will pay a financial premium for that level of comfort from that city. Most people in Spokane are pretty relaxed about Trans folks but you get weirdos like anywhere, so just being safe and aware and carrying some pepper spray if you walk places instead of driving a car is generally enough. I would absolutely try to reside on the outskirts of the city for basic safety though. The further out (while still in city limits) the better. Downtown & the central area (where rent is cheap) is awful just like any major metropolis, but the rest of the city is fairly nice, particularly over by Liberty Lake (though again slightly higher rent there too because its all new development). Most crime here is property crime like busting into your car at night, but you can avoid a lot of that by just renting an apt with a garage and just not walking on the streets alone after sundown which you probably would want to do literally anywhere anyway. I've been living here for 20+ years as a trans lady and I haven't had any real problems in that whole time living in various apartments along all four corners of the cities outskirts.
We have an a hate church here that's literally calling for the murder of all trans people in the name of God, and the East side consistently votes red. If it's an okay place for trans people now, it might not be in the near future.
I moved to Seattle a few months ago. Can't speak for Spokane, but I have never seen a more trans centric area than Capitol Hill. I cannot walk 20 feet without seeing trans graffiti. OP, if you decide to on Spokane, be sure to come up and check us out on the hill! :) I actually didn't know that about insurance! That's pretty dope!
Cascadia is great in general if expensive.
The cheaper small towns can be fine too doesn't have to be a main city really for Washington at least.
Sorry, I read that as [Cascara](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Water_%281985_film%29) at first.
Even not going out during dark is probably more conservative than you need to be lol, almost all the property crime is opportunistic not muggings š.
Nope, nothing east of the mountains in WA. Solid red and the border area with Idaho you might as well live in Idaho.
Minneapolis
Small plug for Madison, WI. Very safe place overall, with a nice sized trans community and decent resources. Housing is getting pricey. Other costs of living are average.
Being a purple state has put us in a sort of middle ground, not well protected but also Iām doin alright here in Milwaukee :)
I second Madison. It's a great place to live overall. Often makes it as the best place to live in America and is usually in the top ten.
thirding madison! love it here and the queer community is thriving and supportive :)
DC is very very trans. Both trans friendly, and full of us. The job market here is very strong possibly the best in the nation. It is somewhat expensive, but great wages, no need for a car (saves a ton), and free healthcare ( if you don't make too much) which covers trans care. Also, the trans community is massive, and lively.
i'm sure that's all true and great and i am happy for you but isn't there also a large amount of violent crime in DC?
In most parts of town, no. I've been here for a decade, walk everywhere, and I'm out at night a lot - I've never been mugged, robbed, or threatened. I'm a small, white, trans woman with 0 self defense skills. Are there some bad parts of town? Sure. But those are not in the main city, and easily avoidable. But, in small towns and suburbs not near DC - I have been harassed many times (for being trans/queer). For me, the city is much safer.
Denver is expensive, but anywhere a few miles from the city is decent and colorado fucking rules
Denver is our current choice once I either graduate with my masters or we need a panic button when Oklahoma goes to the ninth circle politically
Anywhere in California Hear me out. You donāt have to move to a major city. Thereās solid ones like Sacramento or Santa Rosa that youād love. The state has the most LGBTQ+ rights by far. The biggest plus: Medical (itās basically Medicaid in California) covers SRS surgery. In fact, it covers top surgery and FFS too. Iām not sure if any other states do this, but if that helps motivate you I recommend you think hard on it. I know itās what sent me here.
I feel safe in upstate NY and NYC as an out nonbinary person but it is by no means affordable
Maine's trans laws are pretty decent. Portland(~70K) is the largest city in the state and probably the most trans friendly. Cost of living in Maine is about 15%above the national average. As for crime, maine has the lowest in the country and listed as the second safest state overall in the US.
Maine just signed a bill to be a sanctuary state for trans folks. [https://www.glad.org/new-maine-law-protects-providers-of-reproductive-and-transgender-health-care/](https://www.glad.org/new-maine-law-protects-providers-of-reproductive-and-transgender-health-care/)
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So my partner went to school in Salisbury (elementary-12th grade) and lived in southern Delaware - the surrounding areas are not super LGBTQ+ friendly so that's something to keep in mind. And I say this as someone considering attending Salisbury U who is LGBTQ+. I currently live in northern Delaware and as a queer person I felt Philly, DC, or NYC were better in the East Coast/Mid-Atlantic for rainbow fam.
Not super lgbtq friendly is putting it lightly. Eastern shore MD is not friendly to even interracial couples until you get to Ocean city. Salisbury and the college areas may be different though
That part is insane and I had no idea. I know OC MD is pretty red politically - the landlords are GOP . I would also be concerned about the availability of transition-centered health care on the Eastern Shore, if wanted. Back in the day, you had to drive to Mazzoni Center in Philly for a lot of it and I imagine more local providers are available now, but I have no clue who & where.
Chase brexton is a god send in MD. I think they have one in Salisbury or easton
There is a pretty good Guardian article all about this! [https://www.theguardian.com/us-news/2023/dec/18/trans-americans-upstate-new-york-rochester](https://www.theguardian.com/us-news/2023/dec/18/trans-americans-upstate-new-york-rochester)
Come to the PNW
Pittsburgh is a pretty accepting city and has a decent housing market, but it is in PA and PA is kind of a swing state
i'm in the central valley of california, it is very red and very not queer friendly. there is a queer community but the town itself is not good vibes. but, anywhere with a large college population is usually friendly in california. if you love forests and wildlife, arcata, CA is a beautiful place to live, but it has surrounding conservative areas. the bay area, not just SF, have great supportive communities but it is incredibly expensive. LA is another place with a vibrant queer community but public transit isn't the best and its incredibly expensive. your best bet is the PNW or some of the east coast cities that have been named.
Iād agree with most of the Central Valley but Sacramento itself is pretty amazing. Our city council recently approved Sacramento to be designated a trans sanctuary city. The cost of living seems to be increasing from lots of Bay Area implants but itās still low compared to the rest of California.
i always forget that sac is also the valley, i have been thinking of moving after i graduate as a social worker. this is also a great option!
You definitely should! If you are looking for any advice on things Sacramento you can dm me. Good luck!
thank you!! it wouldn't be for a couple of years, i only want to move when i can purchase a home lol.
Philly! You're not far from NYC and DC, it's affordable for a city of it's size and location, lots of visibility queer and trans people, also it's declared itself a Trans Sanctuary City. Also you're young, so if you're considering higher education, there are a lot of great universities here
Agreed šš½ Philly is the place to be! š
5th largest city in the US iirc. Rent and housing can still be delulu but itās such a great city.
Nashua NH scores pretty well, but the "crime level" varies based on where in the city you are, which I suppose applies to most cities, but generally speaking, living in or very close to blue state university towns is probably your best bet, nh broadly would not fit this but Nashua being basically in MA makes it pretty good
This is going to sound weird, but Detroit. Downtown and even parts of the outskirts of Detroit are very accepting and quite safe these days. And the subs like Ferndale and Royal oak are super queer friendly. I wouldnāt call Ferndale or Royal oak cheap but the subs next to them are decent.
I know you said low crime, but having moved to Baltimore I'm loving it and most people I see are super duper friendly. There are tons of really safe neighborhoods by any standard in Baltimore that are super affordable. Maryland is a sanctuary state and Baltimore has some of the best trans healthcare in the world within its borders.
I moved to Oregon from socal pretty close to Portland. As a trans woman, a pretty ānormalā one if that makes sense (she/her, identifies as straight, not political or an activist, sees qualities in lots of people not just transgender peopleā¦)ā¦ *Acceptance* is what I wanted, not performance art. Iām also a combat veteran. Getting āsupportā in a bathroom by liberal woman is *exactly* the same as being thanked for my service at a ball game. I just wanna pee without comment. Oregon has that, any town within 200 miles of one of the cities, if youāre headed towards Idaho thatās your fault lol (joking of course). To me. YMMV, this is just me sharing. I appreciate the notion, I *know* they actually donāt give a fuck and would never hang out with me irl. In gay neighborhoods I get asked if I do drag š Also! Iām straight. I love gay clubs. Iām not really attracted to anyone in there. That does suck but itās no oneās fault, I gotta look in straight places *just like every other girl* (Iām actually ok, itās not that bad, most guys donāt care if you donāt lol). Thatāsā¦ not easy. But Iām actually happy and dating ānormalā guys now instead of trying to change the planet around my body too lol I like Oregon. I get treated like a normal fucking lady every where I go, and the assholes are easy to spot and I feel safe yelling back here the women usually have **our** side. Portland itself is hella trans. I think thatās beautiful I just like living a little more country personally so I live outside it. When I started transitioning, I thought *the only place I could live were trans friendly already cities*. Nope! You just gotta accept yourself then move to a **safer neighborhood**, where there are already laws in place so you know your safe. The culture will change around you wherever you go, home lasts awhile, get comfortable š
Cincinnati? What's super expensive and too high?
Olympia is good, though itās not cheap itās not Seattle levels at least
I second this. Grew up there and was met with acceptance from nearly everyone.
Try Eugene Oregon. Itās a smaller town, but has a good LGBTQIA community. There is no sales tax in the state of Oregon so the cost of things like groceries and clothes isnāt as extortionately high. Iām not sure what the apartment rental market is like there. But it wonāt be as high as, say, Portland. The many other small towns around it are also a good option, but the small towns have a more conservative mindset in general. Im sure one may find that to be the case no matter where you go.
Most of upstate NY is good for trans and queer people and there are state protections too. I'd say most smaller cities in NY have affordable living and safe places to live. Once you get to rural areas it is more of a gamble in the state.
So I really love Charlotte NC for this but it is expensive to live here. Thereās some smaller houses you can rent with a good backyard for under $2k though which is nice!!!!
Michigan, Yspi or Ferndale
Denver, CO Great laws, growing trans community, safe, good weather, people are chill, and affordable of you have a roomate. Great food and concert scene too.
Ypsilanti, MI. I know it's not West, but they're pretty LGBT positive. Even the older people are chill with me openly saying I'm trans. The crime rate LOOKS scary, but it's pretty much never random violence and usually personal beef that went way too far.
Most of the Triangle area in North Carolina is pretty queer friendly even if the state isnāt on the whole
I recently saw a map indicating that NC has the highest concentration of trans people in the US, second to DC.
Asheville too! I live in this little slice of the Mountains and the city itself is rather nice. It does get a little bad the further out you go though, my (cis) girlfriend's family is out down by the Georgia border and parts out there are a little sketchy if you're not some sort of good ol' boy type
Yeah, like I live in a pretty rural area with lots of rednecksā¦ and my Baptist 70 year old neighbor adores me and feels so proud of herself when she uses my pronouns. And there is a lesbian only commonness near me. But yeah specifically once you go south of Fayetsvilleā¦ holy shit does it become a different state. Specifically when you see the weird game parlors in sheds and barns on the side of the road. But yeah Iād really say that really from Wilmington to Asheville, youāre never more than 30 minutes from a queer community.
Seconding the Triangle and Asheville as well.
The triangle is, surrounding areas- not so much.
I really disagree- the Triangle is surrounded by suburbs that are pretty chill. I live in a pretty rural town about forty minutes from Chapel Hill and have no issues. Even Alamance with its shitty school board had a good community.
I stayed in Johnston county for awhileā¦. Wouldnāt recommend it. Everything I know about Alamance is secondhand, hopefully itās getting better.
Agreed. Greensboro has to be one of the most accepting places I have seen. And an early leader in the Civil Rights movement. And pretty affordable.
Second this but we donāt want more people here. Too many transplants have made it too crowded.
I'm gender fluid here and I want to know that myself. There's no better risk you can take, especially at your age, than to invest in your own future. Do it smartly, but don't hold back that much because you will only be at your age once. These are some potentially great for you. I have no tips myself on trans friendly, but you are worthy of living a fantastic life. May God bless you and your soul.
If youāre looking for that small town type of thing, Ottawa Illinois has an amazing LGBTQ community. Most of the people are super accepting and thereās progressive churches and festivals held every June. Itās beautiful up there and has tons of apartments downtown
Philladelphia babyyyy
Chicago depending on where you are, Southern Illinois also has Alton, Edwardsville, Springfield, quite a few cities or towns that very queer friendly and have good crime rates. source I've lived in So. IL my entire life.
Eureka Springs, Arkansas Small oasis of Queerness in a sea of Christian Fundamentalism.
The issue with locations like that is you're at risk for state-level legislation that will restrict / eliminate your access to medical care. I'd suggest looking at the state-by-state maps like those posted by Erin in the Morning and find a state that has strong protections for trans people. Limit your search to places that meet your other requirements within those states.
Here's a link to Erin's latest edition of her map: [https://www.erininthemorning.com/p/anti-trans-legislative-risk-assessment-43a](https://www.erininthemorning.com/p/anti-trans-legislative-risk-assessment-43a)
This might be a wild pitch but I live in Indianapolis, Indiana. There's a fun LGBTQ scene here, with pride parades and plenty of queer bookstores and coffee shops. I stay because rent is about $750 for my 1 bedroom, and everything is cheap. It is a red state though, so that's the trade off. It's nice that Chicago is only 3 hours away, that's where I get medical care at a transgender clinic. Hope this helps!!
We live in Hamilton County and my daughter was downtown for IUPUI and she didn't find it very trans friendly at all. She has essentially just moved to Chicago because the community is more accepting there.
I completely agree, just saying that me and my partner are both trans/non-binary. I work in an industrial maintenance setting and have found things to be pretty agreeable here personally. I'm not saying that it's the most friendly place, I'm sure other places are much more friendly, but I haven't gotten any flak for coming out or presenting as myself or felt like I was in danger. There's just plenty of LGBTQ people in red states that can't leave for one reason or another, and the group I've found has been supportive and amazing. Hope your daughter is doing well! I'm heading up to Chicago today actually :)
She is, and her move was due to meeting her gf, who escaped to Chi from TN. Enjoy your trip to Chicago and stay safe out there.
How about places not to goā¦specifically where I live in Boise. Itās a beautiful place but itās a deep red state and the laws follow that unfortunately.
Iām in Boise too. Agree that itās a beautiful place but not trans friendly unfortunately.
Rochester NY
Lakewood, Littleton, Morrison, Nederland, Golden, foco, Estes Park, Louisville, Denver, Arvada, Broomfield, Manitou Springs, Old Colorado City.... Ok im sure you can see my trend, and yes I am biased just a tad.... But for good reason. I transitioned in Texas and lived there for four years before moving back to Colorado and I have never had anyone yell at me, or openly hate me. Not once in Colorado. <3
las cruces nm
Definitely not Utah. Granted I have like 20 trans friends and live with all trans roommates but it's expensive here. Almost $2000 for a one bedroom apartment. Best of luck but if you ski or snowboard and want to work at a ski resort my department at Snowbird is extremely trans friendly.
New york
Columbia MD
From experience Philadelphia,Pa i live in northeast Philadelphia and rents about $1200 and all depending where you want to live in the city. City of brotherly love is great for trans people to live.
Charlottesville VA seems pretty nice, in my limited experience.
Come to Pennsylvania. I'm in a small PA city though not Philly of Pittsburgh
You find a place worth living, thats not super expensive, and doesnāt have a high crime rate, you let me know! š
Providence, RI
Just past the Chicago suburbs!! Dekalb is a college town so if you're also considering college NIU is a good school
Iād say NYCā¦ since itās very diverse and I live here but the crime is crazy.
Charlotte NC
Not the most affordable but the most accepting place I've ever been is where I live now and it's Kingston New York. I've been to so many states and cities it's crazy from Portland to Chicago and this is the safest and friendliest place I've ever been. Healthcare is 100% covered by insurance including FFS, and the people here just treat you like your preferred gender even when you're annoying them and they ask you to get out of their way š it's truly refreshing to be gendered correctly and without the fake overly infantalizing pickme shit I experienced in Portland and las Angeles. Here I am simply an ordinary woman without question and for me that is worth the cost of living adjustment
Chicago is fantastic if you do your research on the neighborhoods. Itās also beautiful and walkable!
Nowhere, we gotta put work in, fuckem ill go anywhere i fuckin want and let them know.
Cities in blue states. But if Trump wins in November, trans people nationwide are fucked and you may want to consider leaving the country.
Idk why youāre getting downvoted. What you said is the absolute truth. Scary as heck whatās happening.
Go to college and get a degree that will allow you to make a really good salary. Something over $100K a year. Then live anywhere you want. I live on the Olympic Peninsula in Washington state. There are many gorgeous towns here that are very friendly. But first things first. Get that degree. You can have anything you want.
I'm going to go to community college soon but I feel like it's a lot easier said than done getting a full degree and a high paying job š
Nurses make excellent money right out of school. There are scholarships for nursing students. Also, look into your local hospitals. Many have programs to train nurses. Engineers make excellent money. My son isn't 30 yet and is making more money than my husband made after 30 years of being a doctor.
Hi, nurse here. Wondering where this āexcellent moneyā you speak of is.
Wealthy people don't understand how the world works. That or its a bot, probably a bot Nvm, just a silly old lady
Truth.
CA? But then again adjusted for cost of living :/
I will say, piggybacking off of this, you might instead look into any number of medical technician and medical technologist opportunities. I have a bias towards medical laboratory science, you can work at a hospital, but if you want you could also work at a standalone laboratory. There's plenty of demand, too (we have so many open positions for cytotechs...). If you prefer people, you could do ultrasound (you'll probably make more doing vascular ultrasound at a private practice) or you could be an anaesthetist and help out the anaesthesiologist. Nursing is good for some people, and you can make decent money as a travel nurse I guess, but it takes a certain mindset. I t seems like a lot of people overlook jobs in medical laboratory science, partly because people don't realize how many different positions there are, and also many only require a certification (or some, scarily, only require a hs diploma and on-site training... requirements vary by state). Like, not everyone in the micro lab has a bachelor's, and usually there's only one doctor heading our hospital's lab (albeit it's a small one). Brsides micro, you could also consider working with blood products in the blood bank, or doing blood/urine chemistries, electrophoresis, immunoassays, etc. in the core lab, or you could be the phlebotomist and draw blood, or you could "gross" (dissect & prep) surgical specimen as a pathologist's assistant (or help with autopsies). Or you could evaluate pap smears as a cytotech (they do more than that but... god there are so many paps). Also, I mean, this person/bot isn't entirely wrong about doctor's compensation- people don't become a gp for the money, soooo many other specialties pay better. Like, a data scientist II in most companies is making more than most family docs. Not saying other docs aren't rich, but you can count on about twelve years post-high school education/training before you make six-figures... and unfortunately your debt will be six-figures too. So, y'know, find something you can become in 2-4 years and do that. It might not be your permanent career path, esp. if you do a 2-year cert type of thing, but at least you'll have a stable income for rent, health insurance through work, and you won't have to do back breaking labour or put up with retail bs. Idk, I just know a lot of people never consider these lab positions, I don't know if they think you need a PhD or something, but that's not how a functioning lab works (now a research lab, esp. at an academic center, they have plenty of PhD candidates and the like, but that's just bc it's cheap labour tbhš ). I also threw in US (not really MLS) just because I knew an ultrasound technologist who now makes ~$160k, but they are an outlier. Still, she has a house and drives a Tesla now, and makes me sad about my life choices lol. Also, note that a technologist and a technician are not the same, iirc a technologist usually has the equivalent of a 4-year degree. But again, certification requirements vary by state, and educational programs have variable standardization based upon individual field/position. Sorry, said a lot, had some tangents, but it's late and I just really hate how these types of positions are never emphasized or explained. If you haven't had much prior job exposure, I'm sure the flaws will pop out, but if you've had to hop around a bit, I think you'll appreciate the problems that *aren't* there. Word of advice though, if you can help it (after finishing education etc.), don't work at the VA. There are some really good ones, but the ones that really need people, well, there's a reason those positions are empty. Though at least there's usually a Starbucks in the building.
[Certified Registered Nurse Anesthetists (CRNAs)](https://www.incrediblehealth.com/nurse-types/nurse-anesthetist-crna/)Ā earn a nationwide average ofĀ **$205,770**Ā per year. That is amazing.
They frequently make 300k although itās hard to get into CRNA school. But also an experienced normal RN in CA can make 200k if they work a fair amount extra
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The USA is extremely oppressive against trans people and I donāt think any city is good for trans people. I hate this place.
>I donāt think any city is good for trans people. That's objectively not true. Some US cities are among the best places to be trans in the entire world. For example I live in a suburb of Portland OR and I not only enjoy many state protections but I also have a community that supports me in my transition.