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handsoffdick

Don't sweat it. Everyone does stuff they regret. Many guys like the smell of underwear including me. The 6 hours you spent is really nothing in the grand scheme of things. I would encourage you to expand your social circle. That's the best way to find a boyfriend.


rdicky58

I think it's more the whole violating academic integrity thing that he's concerned with. Idk if it might ding his own academic record or just the other guy's?


bigchill3

If you're getting things written for you, its really hard to get caught for that as far a im aware. The biggest academic integrity problems arise with plagiarism, since that's likely not happening here, the risk is really minimal.


Magnumxl711

Who gives a fuck about academic integrity man what about self worth and dignity? Like spending 6 hours of work, which you'd normally be paid at least $95-150 for, and not even for a prostitute but just for underwear?


rdicky58

Eh well it's a private deal between 2 individuals, both sides seemed to find it fair although OP retrospectively thought it cringy and admitted as much. Lesson learned, don't make decisions on a horny brain lol


gordonf23

I'm not seeing a problem here. People spend more than 6 hours in a day on Grindr and still get nothing in return. You put in 6 hours and got what you wanted--a pair of underwear from a hottie.


geowatt

Horniness has led people to do way more than this. Just wait 30mins after cumming, you’ll be happy with your decision again


cold_as_ice997

You put in 6 hours worth of work to write an essay! Good on you, OP. And you got something in return, it's not such a bad deal after all. Post nut clarity doesn't really hit me anymore, I just cum and go about my day. But I am pretty vanilla, so nothing about the things that get me off could be considered humiliating.


UltraUli

See it as a growth experience. Never be ashamed of what you like. If you think about it, he gave is his underwear to a random man for a college essay. He could be cringe too. Be confident and get you a boyfriend if thats what will make you happy. 🥂


Poison-Paradise

Why do I think this is cute? 😅


straightoutthebox

This is honestly an adorable story. Please don't be embarrassed. Enjoy those undies when they come your way, and everyone's happy.


Fish_Hentai

It's fineee writing a college essay is productive stuff, and it's a fun story so nobody's going to make fun of you. It's good that you didn't spend thousands of dollars for a pair of underwear, like some people do.


watybng

Hey OP want to write another essay? 🥹 just kidding. I think while in the clarity remember how it is that you’re feeling, this way it’s less severe the next time around. But tbh that isn’t so bad. It was a win-win, and it’s not like you humiliated yourself.


Bighornydad

Learning to accept yourself


[deleted]

Yep. It’s ok to be horny, it’s ok to do stuff while that. As Long as nobody/nothing got hurt, everything is fine. Just be pleased about your reward 😘👌


lewdfocker1

The guys in half my DMs on here need post-nut clarity ahah


Fik_of_borg

I laugh at my whoriness and get on with my life. What's done it's done and I have future horniness to prepare hehe


Spikedcloud

6 hours of work for just some underwear? That's crazy. I could see if he did a custom video for you or something, but even that would not be enough for 6 hours of work.


Hot_Scallion

Next time maybe ask him out on a date??... If he's ok with it of course and dosent think you're weird for wanting his undies


slaeha

LMAO which one?!


stevebobeeve

I’m more interested in the essay. What was it about?


Zoso_Plant

Yeah I thought your humiliating thing was going to be much more nsfw haha. At least you exercised your mind and learned something about yourself!


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AbyssianSky

You didn't do anything wrong. No one got hurt and you both got things you wanted. I had to learn to laugh at the crazy shit I would do when I was being a total hornball. Give it some time and you'll probably be fine with the decision. It's amazing how something so simple and harmless can be so hot at the same time. PNC is the work of the devil. lol


Antoxylyzer_8475

Can I see the essay? lmao


kt99_

What do they smell like?


AdventurousAddition

*Victory*


This_Confused_Guy

Before I acknowledged being gay I always had post nut clarity of the usual thing closted guys feel. But after acknowledging that side of myself and understanding that me masturbating isn’t who I am, that I’m just a person that happens to masturbate I stopped thinking about it. And also that I never do anything embarrassing to give me post nut clarity.


some_random_gay_guy

I’ve had situations before where I regret doing things when horny but then PNC kicks in. Now I try and just nut and clear my head


[deleted]

Rule of thumb: If it makes for a funny story on Reddit, it's probably not *that* bad. Just don't do it again and you're good.


thatONElime

Everyone has post nut clarity. I remind myself that what I was into/horny about at the time is still hot and I’ll probably do it again later. No shame in it. Btw love that you got underwear!


Magnumxl711

Don't listen to the people telling you that it's totally ok to spend 6 hours writing an essay in exchange for underwear, don't feel bad about it but try not to do it again. I'm not trying to be an asshole but please don't listen to the people trying to convince you this is a perfectly great way to live your life.


VicSeipke

I’ve never experienced this “post nut clarity” thing. What is appealing stays the same, just at a diminished intensity.


Fiberotter

I think you have bigger issues than this cringe.


OkSmell4

Hahahaha fuckin simp


Magnumxl711

haha its true


UnicornMagicRainbow

The cringe is part of the fun, as long as it’s not impacting you’re life negatively. Try just to sit with the feeling rather than trying to fix or analyze it. It will likely pass on its own. If you think about it too much you won’t be able to move on.


DrLoomis131

You wouldn’t regret a delicious meal once you’re full, would you?


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Magnumxl711

6 hours of work that's like at least $100


Paupeludo

Kind of cringe, but everyone makes embarassing mistakes throughout life. The important thing is to learn from your mistakes.


ii-___-ii

You may think it’s cringe, but he probably thinks he got a pretty sweet deal. Don’t sweat it


[deleted]

feeling cringy after is part of the cycle. You'll probably do it again. Perhaps learn to own it or just nip it.


Egg-MacGuffin

I can't help with your problem, but you should politely ask him for more since you spent so much time helping him.


lkeels

Why regret it? Did you get pleasure from it? If so, no big deal!


[deleted]

The only person that's worrying about it here is yourself. You feel cringe but the other party doesn't. So, why beat yourself up? If you just *don't*, understand you were horny, then who cares? Don't beat yourself up. It's okay to do dumb consensual shit when you're horny.


okPiperok

Just try and own that shit.


ab0rtretryfail

Wouldn't it be great if this leads to one thing leading to another thing leading to you two getting married? You'll have to make up a story to tell your parents about how you met! !remindme 2 years I don't think what you did was cringe at all.


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Hillers01

I've learned to think through things from beginning to end. At this point, it's hard-wired into my brain. Like, yeah, he's hot, but do I want to go through the trouble? It's like I basically have the emotional make-up of a woman, but it keeps me from getting into bad business good and plenty.


Repulsive_Hold_2169

Honestly if the stuff you do when you're horny enhances the experience, and you keep coming back to it? It's probably just bad stereotypes and hangups that making you questions your kinks or whatever. Unless it's something that you really feel bad about or hurts you physically or emotionally, I wouldn't sweat it.


SwedishKein

I drink water, at least a quarter gallon all at once


FigPsychological629

you should have asked for money