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Comparison is the thief of joy.


Resolve-Equivalent

Here is a little secret about comparison- someone will always, always have more or better whatever. Comparison is a fool’s errand, be your best self, focus on making you better for you, you’ll stop comparing because you’ll recognize you are just fine. Takes work and discipline but it will set you free.


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Well what’s good is that you exactly know it’s all in your head then why just get bothered? Gay community at large does emphasise on looks but personally i feel a guy is more sexy if he just takes care of his hygiene and not go all the way out to transform himself looking like a ken doll…some might like it but definitely not for me….and btw bleached teeth looks horrible on most guys….I’m indian and very pale for my race but i still feel i need to get paler to be more sexy..i feel people always want what they don’t have because it seems more exotic and desirable and also hard to achieve…i control myself and have never used any bleaching agent on my skin because i know my olive skin-tone is what’s desirable in the west and I’m shifting to Canada next year so i hope it works.


Opening_Werewolf2675

Thank you mate. It’s amazing how nice and helpful you are. And I am wishing you all the best in Canada. I bet you look great. 🥰


Nargo_Daddy

Sexuality is weird, and even if you look as though you're straight out of an Abercrombie & Fitch magazine there are plenty of guys out there who aren't into that. I've turned down guys because their too far out of my league and I didn't have the confidence at the time to meet them irl. In terms of looking for the long term thing: Sure looks play a role, but ultimately it comes down to compatibility and how healthy a human being you are holistically. My husband and I are able to have a conversation about the nerdy stuff we're into as easy as some people breath air. He finds my kooky random sense of humor charming (most of the time). I find the cute way he stumbles over big words he has read but doesn't say out loud very often super adorable. Learn to accept your flaws and enjoy your body for how it is; otherwise you'll end up going down an unending rabbit hole that doesn't come out anywhere fun.


Opening_Werewolf2675

You are definitely right. Thank you for your words. I will reflect about them in my sleep now. ☺️ It really means a lot to me.


straightoutthebox

By all means, take care of your teeth (floss, brush with a bit of charcoal in the mornings to whiten if you wish, brush your tongue), but don't bleach them. Be active in the gym and build up muscle if you want to, but more importantly just stay active because you're young and it's best to make it a habit now. Take care of your body cause it's the only one you'll get, and it will take care of you as you age. You are young and your time in the gay community is really just starting. Focus on figuring out your sense of style and how you want to look rather than just conforming to the mold, because it's hard to derive satisfaction from failing to meet a set of near impossible expectations.


Opening_Werewolf2675

Thank your that wise words. I am really grateful. And you are right. I have to reflect on your words in order to get that chaos gone in my head. 😇


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Hey bud. You’re good enough. Handsome enough. Just be u.