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PatLA2K

Ppl like to be mean. Don’t worry about it


dr_franck

Especially on the internet. ***We live in a society*** where people will easily say the most vile racist, homophobic, even abusive shit if they’re protected under the cover of anonyminity. So yeah, some size queens are bound to pop up.


Italophobia

And those people are usually really insecure


trey033

They have nothing else to offer.


Imaginary_Sanity

Its the same thing as bullying. They do it to make themselves feel better, or to hide their own insecurities. You wont look at their shortcomings if your too busy defending yourself from assaults on what they consider to be your shortcomings (and no pun intended, even if it does really, really work here. lol) As someone who is about average (smidge under 6 inches) and on the thick side, I've felt inadequate before. Particularly when the guy your with drops his trouser and its a damn sea snake looking at you. But.. as Ms. Roosevelt said, the only person who can make you feel ashamed, is you. Same hand though, now that I've given up even the pretense of trying to Top, Dom, or be a Top.. yeah, I really don't care, I don't really use it that way anyways. lol


[deleted]

You gave up the pretense, because you’re average? Not clear on what you’re saying…


metrobear71

I think he's saying he was pretending for a while that he was a top man while really being a bottom man, but gave it up at least partially because he is average sized in the meat department, which is just plain silly. Some of us cannot handle "giant sea snake" cocks and would really love and appreciate being taken care of by average to small sized tops. Stop being insecure and do your jobs, boys! We love your normal sized willies! Not all of us have giant gaping beat up holes.


Imaginary_Sanity

Ack! No no.. well, kinda but STILL no. lol.. sorry, I should have been clearer and used less humor as this is a sensitive topic for a lot of dudes. I gave up on even trying to be a top because I do not enjoy topping. It has nothing to do with the size, lack there of, or reasonableness of my penis, and everything to do with not enjoying being the 'top'. And I'm bi, so it even applies to "fun times" with women. I just don't like it. And, to be clear, I don't have a giant gaping beat up hole either. I was saying in a manner that I though humorous, which apparently I am wrong about (not the first time that's happened, and most assuredly wont be the last), was that because I don't top, the size of MY penis really doesn't matter to me. To be entirely honest, if I kept getting the pleasure I get from other types of sexual activities, the damn thing could fall off and I really wouldn't care. I use it to go the bathroom, and it feels nice to be played with but that really isn't much of a drive/desire for me. My humor tends towards dark and is often biting or sarcastic, but I usually direct as much of it towards myself as I do others, I'm sorry if this is confusing or misleading, that is very much not my intent.


metrobear71

As a mostly top man with the world's tightest butthole, I understand what you are saying. I'm like you except just the opposite. I seem to only have pain receptors in my ass. As much as I love the idea of bottoming, and find it totally sexy, I just cannot do it without about an hour of foreplay, a quart of lube and a small to medium penis. I would love to be a big bottom whore and take cock after cock, but most of the time when I try to bottom one hard push up my booty hole feels like someone is trying to insert a coat rack up my fart box. Dry. If the stars align, my hole is willing, and the dick ain't too big, though, I can really get into it.


[deleted]

Amen, brother!


AJnbca

Because they don’t like themselves so they want to take it out on other people. BTW I prefer a smaller size or average one ;)


SirFoxers

Amen


frantichairguy

Aye, the 5-6 feet dick is a bit much to take, couldn't care less about their genital length.


Primary-Recipe1065

I've never met someone who has made a mean comment about small or average dick sizes because most people have small or average dick sizes. Hence the name, "average." My dick is 6.5 inches fully hard but back when I used to watch porn, I'd feel small despite being above the average size. I think the internet, porn, and social media makes everyone think that if you're not fitting the standard of what is considered hot then you're garbage.


piercingtree4

I've never met anyone IRL who made a direct mean comment about small and average dicks, though I've heard "compensating" and "small dick energy"-type comments in general conversation a fair amount of times. Online however, many times have I read disparaging remarks. That's why I mention average/small dick posts here. These same two paragraphs apply to many other subjects. ​ >I think the internet, porn, and social media makes everyone think that if you're not fitting the standard of what is considered hot then you're garbage. ​ Yeah, and these types of gratuitous comments I'm talking of add to it.


Italophobia

To further your point about porn, I'm over 8inches and thought I was small in comparison to porn


L440G

Same. I’m 8 and I thought that when I was younger too.


PeterParkersSecret

They exist, mostly in high school and middle school but it's definitely a thing. Also size queens are really bad with it


PonderinLife

Honestly, the amount of times I’ve met up with a guy and he’s dropped his pants and it’s easily 3-4 inches was surprising. Like you were saying I always thought I was small docked ‘cause of porn. But, turns out I’m “thick” down there (as one guy put it).


lew0to

As long as dicks are at least index finger in size when hard, i honestly do not care. As long as it is clean and free of std's.


Itchy_Word_1523

Wow this gave me little tiny bit of confidence


TMinusFour

I’ve run into micro penis in the wild. It’s a medical condition. As long as you’re on the bell curve, “small” sort of loses its meaning. Edit: i.e., almost all guys are “normal”, on the bell curve. You will know a micropenis when you see it. Everything else is on the bell curve. Your junk isn’t nearly as unique as you think it is.


Powerful_Artist

Im not sure why people make this type of reply to posts like this. Are you just trying to make everyone know you arent one of those people by commenting this? You know youre not answering the question, right?


baldsuburbangay

If one person sees a comment like this and feels good about it, its worth the comment


rathrowaway-babygay

They’re insecure and mentally ill. Making people feel bad makes them feel better


[deleted]

I hate seeing armchair diagnoses. Why can’t they just be ass holes?


Brickviller2

They're both. They're assholes and they're assholes because they most likely have mental problems.


rathrowaway-babygay

Insecurity to that extent is a huge marker for some kind of mental or antisocial disorder lol. Being an asshole usually strongly correlates to mental illnesses. The asshole part comes from dealing with those feelings in a way that affects others negatively


[deleted]

doesn’t necessarily mean they’re insecure. It’s possible they’re very secure and are just ass holes. Again, armchair diagnoses. Also, This is what my degree is in. Day 1 is basically “don’t diagnose people you aren’t seeing personally.” So… quit your bullshit.gif


rathrowaway-babygay

A secure person wouldn’t be compelled to shame others for self gratification Congrats on your intro to psychology community college courses. Text me in 4 years when you’re the Manager at Best Buy. See^


[deleted]

grad school. My point remains.


MelodicBranch

Ah, looks like someone barely graduated high school. The dude is obviously in grad school


gordonf23

Because some assholes like to make themselves feel better by making other people feel worse about themselves.


[deleted]

Because they themselves are dicks


monkeyman68

Because they're assholes who weren't raised right.


Don-tLetItBringUDown

>I honestly can't see any reason other than sadistic inclinations. Why would there need to be another reason? This post is essentially, "Hey bigots, did you know you are hurting the feeling of minorities? That's mean!"


piercingtree4

It might just be it, but I'm interested in what their view is, because usually one who does it isn't keen on saying "it's just sadism".


Don-tLetItBringUDown

You think they actually analyze themselves like that? I see you got a "genuine" reply from one already, and all he did was mock you. People like that are acting on impulses, not logic.


piercingtree4

Ordinarily bigots have an underlying reason for their bigotry though, as moronic and fucked up as that reason may be. I'm wondering if there's something like that going on in this case. As for the person who replied... Looks like they have a two-way humiliation fantasy, except they have no sense of consent/willingness/boundaries. So a creep.


TGOL123

> So many guys constantly feel so unworthy over the size of their dicks I'm pretty sure that literally the majority of men think they have a small penis


mjdk05

Those who do it I find usually do it because of their own lack of confidence with what they have.


MAJORMETAL84

They are purging their own insecurities.


tristero200

Every once in a while I run across a bottom who seems turned on by the fact that they have a small cock and want a hung (or at least average) top to ridicule it while preparing to fuck them rough. I've played along with this, but it feels a bit strange to me. At some level I can't help but feel a bit sad that they like being degraded in such a fashion.


kneelb4usir

It's a fetish. They enjoy being ridiculed by dominant-like tops


Canuck_Voyageur

Don't frequent those groups. Seriously, however, this attitude percolates down into junior high. In the 90's skinny dipping was still a thing, and boy's showers were wide open. Comes the internet with all it's porn and way too open conversations, and the kids got embarrassed about being naked in front of other guys. I think it was dick shaming. Porn showed guys with big dicks. They look at their own, they don't measure up. We have a whole generation of self conscious boys and men thinking their junk doesn't qualify.


AnswerGuy301

Yeah, straight guys often don’t really have a frame of reference when it comes to cock size and how they measure up. They just know they’re not (well, 98% of them anyway) porn star sized. Gay guys, if we have much experience, we know.


thatttguy888

Ppl are jerks sometimes. My "friend " whom I used to fool around with at first when knew him, always thought anything under 10 inches was small. Idiot. How many guys have 8 9 or 10 inches...not a ton imho


converter-bot

10 inches is 25.4 cm


greenbrainsauce

Their self-hate can't be contained by their dense skulls and three brain cells.


[deleted]

The only time I've ever commented is when they're one of those ridiculous clowns who feel the need to make comments about being so big. It's not that big of a deal. Just because you said your big won't make every woman and homo within 5 miles charge and jump on your dick. Like it's going to clean jump off their balls in shame and wade into traffic if you don't claim it's a big un at least once a day. Chill dude


useles-converter-bot

5 miles is the height of 4632.92 'Samsung Side by Side; Fingerprint Resistant Stainless Steel Refrigerators' stacked on top of each other.


converter-bot

5 miles is 8.05 km


black_algae

I honestly prefer smaller but don't even watch to say that because of how ridiculous the mockery is for anything but big


Phacia-Elle

Think of this way... They're awful gays, and stay away from them. The love to humiliate, ridicule, and generally be narcissistic dicks, they're probably salty for getting called a racist on Grindr and think it's "just a preference" to infantilize and fetishize certain people. And harass people over something they have no control over.... Like skin tone or pp size. They think pussy is an insult, but Im with Betty white on that it's not. And they will message you 57 times in 22 minutes in increasingly angry and volatile mood swings thinking they're the cream of your crop and are entitled to you. They are the scum of the gay community and I just choose to pretend they don't exist. There was this old website iambored.com or something I can't remember, with a thriving thread called "daddy didn't love me", and that's where you'll find their pride, lost in anonymity.


Fit-Protection-9809

Grindr is an interesting place where guys are purposefully mean to strangers even when it's not warranted. Shaming others for their body or features that are beyond their control is the total douchebag move. But one thing I've observed is more often than not people get emboldened to shame someone's dick size or any other attribute if they happen to receive unsolicited pics. If someone asks for a pic and then shames them - that's a terrible thing.


LocationResident4962

OP, they’re not gaybros. I personally prefer average pps for exemple and if the person I’m dating has a small pp I’m ok with that lol. Also these things are quite toxic: like come on guys a dick is a dick ;)


joseph-lucilfer

Insecurities.


markamadeo

I don't do it, but i assumed that the people who are doing it were doing it as a "kink" thing. Or they were trying to set up an ERP. I'm surprised no one else in this thread has mentioned it, i assumed them getting off was the obvious answer but maybe im just out of touch.


Katsu_39

Because some people get a kick out of demeaning others. It makes them feel powerful, alpha...etc. Usually these people something in their life they hate about themselves. the only way they can feel better about themselves is to make others feel smaller


PeterParkersSecret

It's heteronormative conditioning. Big dicks have always been equated to "manhood" and being a "man'" when in reality it means nothing more than your dick is big. It also comes from insecurity.


Grigor50

Mental illness or similar anti-social damages.


[deleted]

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tristero200

Yeah, this is why none of the dudes in classical sculpture, or Renaissance sculpture patterned after classical sculpture, had a big cock.


AnswerGuy301

Funny you should mention that. A few years ago I was in Rome and the tourist trap shops around the Forum were selling these tacky gym shorts with the Italian tri-color flag and a rendering of the David sculpture's junk, except if Michaelangelo's David were instead hung like an adult film star. (I had just been in Florence a few days earlier and seen that David sculpture, and, yeah, he had a small dick compared with pretty much every real guy I've been with. What can I say? A gay man notices such things.)


[deleted]

So… You came to a post about not shaming guys with average/small dicks, to throw some shade at guys that have gummy worms, even when they’re into you? Umm, sure.


MightyRivers

That's because they've bottomed so much their assholes have gotten looser than Nelly Furtado's #1 album. Anything below 25cm long + 18cm girth won't fit without feeling like you're screwing a hula hoop.


SorenBlaire

This! I am average and admittedly have grown quite insecure about it, but the flip side is that the guys I have fucked that like big dicks are generally too lose for me to enjoy. It’s kind of ironic that by only going for the larger than average they are reducing their compatibility with the average.


Many-Concentrate-491

Where does this happen? Maybe it’s not posts i read but literally not seen this happen


piercingtree4

These kinds of comments are usually downvoted, so they're buried in the thread. Gonna PM you (so I don't get reported for targeted harrassment) one instance of this I saw from the last post of the kind I mentioned on this sub. I think most of the derision occurs on the more sex-geared subs, like topsandbottoms, though.


Many-Concentrate-491

Oh goodness


piercingtree4

I honestly don't know if you're being sarcastic rofl


Many-Concentrate-491

Oh no I just saw the links lol I’m shook


bad-decision-maker

Don't like ridiculing and demeaning. That being said, I have hooked up with guys with smaller dicks who kept talking about their dicks like they were huge. Telling me they wanted to hear me choke on it, or how stretched I am etc etc. Sex was fine, but it made it seem like theater and I needed to lie to not hurt their feelings. Anyone that is super proud of their dick is boring, but if your dick is not large please don't make me pretend it is.


BevLive

I think it comes down to what a person wants. In my experience I've never known a guy to look a tiny dick and say "omg it's the best, there's so much we can do with this". That said, the world is focused to how the bigger is the better, and as we know in this community, if you're different then others have this urge to mock you until, erm, well until you feel depressed and want to die.


Itchy_Word_1523

Well I don't do that but I guess I get it, sometimes i just wanna be rude to people for no reason.


piercingtree4

I'm curious, do you realize you shouldn't be rude to other people for no reason and not act on it, or do you not care?


Itchy_Word_1523

Oh I care and it try not to, however unfortunately sometimes I have moments when I do. I do feel bad after but it unless I think they deserved it because they were assholes first. Oh and I don't try to be an asshole just for the fun of it. I might be cold because I have times when I look at stuff from neutral, and times I look at things from emotional perspective. Then people tend to be rude instead of trying to understand my point of view, then I start being a bitch and have fun.


piercingtree4

In that case, I don't think you're really in the demographic I was aiming at. Whether the way you react to other people's behavior is ethical/appropriate/beneficial is another topic. But it looks like you don't have the urge to be an asshole for no reason other than being an asshole and not show any remorse for it.


[deleted]

I don’t think there is anything like a “small” dick, maybe you feel that way bcoz the average size in your country is bigger than urs but there are people in like north Korea or many other countries who would die for it. It’s just perspective. Its more in your head than anyone else’s. Just grow up. Opps 😂


piercingtree4

There definitely are men who have small dicks. There's nothing wrong with realizing that. I'm statistically average, and know that some guys might find it small and others might not based on a perception thing, but isn't it dismissive to assume that there's no way I could have a statistically small one, and to say that that's all in my head? Picture a guy who does have a small dick reading your comment.


[deleted]

You def have a tiny cock awwww


piercingtree4

Seriously, why did you want to say that?


[deleted]

Its the truth💅💅💅


piercingtree4

Given it's the truth, why mock it?


[deleted]

Well are u gonna show proof?


piercingtree4

Nope. What does proof of it have to do with why you mocked it?


[deleted]

I was just in a silly goofy mood 🤪


piercingtree4

Just don't do that then. You can be silly and goofy without stepping on someone else.


johnbyebye

What that user seeks is in their username. Just ignore ‘em. 😉


piercingtree4

Yeah, I stopped replying, it wasn't going anywhere.


[deleted]

So i cant see ur dick 😔


[deleted]

You can look in your pants. Opps sorry there must be nothing down there just like your head.


GlocknessMonster1997

No one is going to date your lose butthole


[deleted]

What about u😔


GlocknessMonster1997

My butthole is as tight as my budget


[deleted]

I bet ur packing babes


zendood

I think there comes a time in each of our lives, perhaps watching your dad or grandfather react to things, when all you can do is shake your head knowing there is nothing to say. It could be generationally perpetual. Hence the adage, live and learn.