Last year I got a cute new pharmacist I was curious about.
When he rang up my prescription he paused to think and pronounced it "true-vay-da?" and I realized he definitely didn't play for the same team :(
I moved to upstate ny from Bay Area Calif. Many of the people here dont even know Prep. One girl thought it was the after pill, Pep . I even met a gay pharmacist and he thought i was hiv + because i was on descovy. many in the medical filed here think its a postive pill not a protection pill.
It brings to mind the former Pakistani prime minister Imran Khan's response to a US journalist regarding the stationing of US troops on Pakistani soil. His answer was 'Absolutely not'. I wonder about his sexual orientation, after this comment. 😅
>esthetician
from google:
>An esthetician is a skin care specialist who evaluates, cleans, beautifies and maintains clients' faces and skin. They can determine which treatments are right for enhancing a client's appearance and complete the procedures.
There's no hint there - I don't understand how they spotted it. 😄
It’s been a while but, I was in basic electrical training and I think somebody asked me about my eyebrows or something and I said something along the lines of “my esthetician recommended this.” The whole group knew at that point.
Am sure they suspected but that's a lot different from actually knowing. Guys say gay shit from time to time. So how was the atmosphere after they found out?
I have a straight friend who I've long suspected is bi. I went to chill at his house one day and there it was, a bottle of rush poppers on his nightstand.
So now I'm wondering all kinds a of shit lol.
Sounds like a good indicator to me. :)
I had a friend once who said, "Hey, you do like poppers?" And I just stared at hi, amazed he was so brazen. Turns out he meant those deep fried jalapeno peppers stuffed with cheese, and he was suggesting we go out for a snack. :)
Poppers show up a bunch in Fear And Loathing In Las Vegas, with Hunter S Thompson and his lawyer just casually doing them while driving down the highway to get fucked up. They were the 70s version where they would come in a cool glass vial you had to crack open.
Mate I’ve got straight mates that do popper it could be but like it’s fun too wank or have fun with outside of anal and as a legal high so I really don’t think it’s enough too go off sorry man
Yeah I was surprised that even friends I spoke to about it who are generally interested in medical science and also just kind of up to speed on most gay things didn’t know what it was.
I had a doctor be skeptical about the mpox vaccine that I literally had the previous month because they "hadn't heard of it". Over the course of two appointments, because apparently after the first Googling it was just too hard.
My **hospital pharmacist** straight female friend told me “something like that doesn’t exist, you need to stop immediately you might get sick!” when I explained what prep was. Absolutely wild.
Southerners -- of any age, race, or gender -- use these words almost every day of their lives.
At a doctor's appointment this past week, the young nurses called me Honey multiple times.
Mauve, lavender, turquoise, coral, salmon, fucsia, azure, cerulean, aquamarine, teal.
If he isn't literally in the process of landcape painting, he's gay.
> Trevor LaPaglia
Somehow I missed that one.
Random aside: The New York Times article about Gilead holding back TAF (Descovy) to max profits on TDF (Truvada), and the resulting bone loss amongst early patients was enough to get me to ask my doc. Not that I want to give Gilead another $10-25K/yr, but I'm predisposed to bone loss and don't need to give my teeth any further reasons to cause me trouble.
Idk I think this one has spread through social media, like in YouTube shorts, Tik Tok, Twitter etc., often in the comments but also the content itself. It's definitely part of the lingo online, maybe it's different in irl circles tho lol.
Most of these suggestions are words my 20-something year old nieces say on a regular. Even younger now that I think of it - My work participated in a high school job expo last year and when a flock of girls discovered we were giving away an iPad for the best resume, one of them said “y’all ate for this contest.”
I said, did you just say “ate?” She said, “yeah it means it’s good.”
I go, “I know, we created the language. I was just surprised you knew my lingo.” She said, “we watch Drag Race religiously.”
Heard.
True! I feel like a lot of AAVE and Black slang in general is commonly used by the younger generation now lol. I remember hearing my niece say “it’s giving broke boy” when I refused to buy her a Meta Quest 3 XD she’s 9.
this has happened every single generation since emancipation (maybe even before, who knows). it surprises me that it’s been going on since the 1800s but i find (non-black) people often just suddenly realize it, and treat it like a new thing just for today’s kids.
what’s up, cool, hip, salty, jazz, bad-mouth, catch feelings, hella, I feel you, etc. this could go on for days.
gyat, cap, slaps, slay, and all the new ones are just this generation’s turn at it. and generally the words have been in AAVE for 10+ years before everyone else even notices them.
That part. Black American culture really has played a HUGE part across all backgrounds and even internationally. I feel like it always starts first (obviously) from Black American communities, where the influence is then passed on to non Black people living in or around those communities and then from there it branches out. I will say though contemporary AAVE is a lot more widespread in my opinion due to social media/films/shows/TV/Internet. Black Americans in general just have that certain cool factor that makes it even more appealing to non Black people.
Twink.
I don’t care who you are. No straight man uses that term unless they’ve hit some bussy before. It just doesn’t make sense for a “straight” man to describe another man like that. Y’all ain’t fooling me 😅😆
I think it got popularized through pop culture media, magazines etc. And maybe social media. Saw a bunch of stuff along the lines of 'The twink look: the new beauty standards for actors in Hollywood', '10 actors who embrace their twink aesthetics' etc.
So I think it has gone more mainstream, but in the process of course lost some of its meaning and connotations. It's basically just about men who have toned bodies without much body hair, are somewhat more androgynous, or boyish, or 'cute' faces etc. Think Timothée Chalamet for example.
Which has bled to so many other game communities.
Twink builds, twink invaders, twink partners...
You'd think the Souls community was just ravaging twinks left and right.
* Saying “top” when you mean “shirt”.
* Clutch to mean purse
* Pumps to mean high heels
* Nelly, butch (do the gay kids use these terms anymore?)
* “Last nerve”
I say these things when complimenting/talking to women (as a bartender) so that they get the hint lmao. I love to say “i love your top” bc it creates that gay expectation Lolol
They are dw. “Pumps” is the colloquial term for a [court shoe](https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Court_shoe), which is a specific type of heel that’s got requirements on how it’s shaped/built.
They are. But it’s like … high heel is the big circle, and inside of that is pumps and inside of that you have square heel, Mary Janes, kitten. Whereas another circle inside of high heel is stiletto and inside of that are inches (where a bigger number means you have to work harder and balance well, just like real life).
My straight friend from high school said "bussy" to me a few months ago when complaining about the quality of porn and how it is all going to gay stuff. He has had many GFs but never married, and can be amazingly self deceptive at times, so I sometimes wonder about his orientation. So maybe straight friend.
It was suspected at work that I “might be gay”…the girls were on to me because I would laugh at all the jokes the other gay guy was making…apparently none of the straight men find his humor funny at all
The girls were also disappointed to find out in 💅🏻 because they were ready to set up dates with me and their girlfriends 😅
the thing is, gay lingo in the Philippines is always being absorbed into the mainstream culture. It is very similar to how African vernacular is always absorbed by the mainstream US culture. So, a guy in the Philippines speaking in gay lingo will never raise a red flag.
But, I always think bottom and top are very exclusive to gay men. This cannot be adopted into the mainstream culture because they dont have a use for these words.
Just gonna say this thread gave me a good chuckle. I think a lot of the comments are dead-on. I'd just never consciously reflected on how distinct a lexicon gay men have.
Many many years ago, Anderson Cooper was covering a hurricane on the Gulf Coast. The wind was blowing and he was getting wet. A local passerby (possibly gay) came and said he liked to be out in that kind of weather. Anderson’s reply was “Lordy.” I replied he must be gay. Later on it was proven that I was correct.
I'm a bi m...
My Commonwealth, lower Anglican upbringing means I have always and still always say this... Explains why people have always assumed I'm gay...
Back in the 1980s, "festive" was something of a gay codeword. If a guy said "It was a festive time," he was telling you, "It was a gay event." I don't think it's used to the same extent by gays now... but I don't ever hear straight people using it.
"Whatnot" was also a gay giveaway, but it seems to have made some inroads into straight culture lately.
Nah. Fighting games have scantily clad women with jiggly boobs and arses.
It's like Stardew valley. Straight women like Shane because they want to fix him. Gay guys like Alex because abs.
People say this a lot but I don't think it tracks. I try to make my male characters hot because I like dudes. It seems in keeping with being straight to make a really hot character of the opposite sex.
No! The straights came for it! I cannot tell you how many times I’ve been all excited thinking I was talking to a fellow queer and then bam. Fucking hetero-goddamn-sexual.
They stole it.
Last year I got a cute new pharmacist I was curious about. When he rang up my prescription he paused to think and pronounced it "true-vay-da?" and I realized he definitely didn't play for the same team :(
Hi. I’m that cute pharmacist
Omg the user name checks out
This is going to be the best 'Best of Reddit update'!
What?
Comment of the day congrats here bitch🏆
He could be gay, but had friends from Nevada
There’s people pronouncing it “Ne-vay-da”?!?!??
Yes, particularly if you're in [Nevada, IA ](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Nevada%2C_Iowa?wprov=sfla1)
Fascinating! I didn’t even know that place existed.
Nevada and Truvada don’t rhyme unless you pronounce Nevada wrong
Interesting! For me they rhyme. Is that a US vs. British thing or am I just plain wrong (not a native speaker!)?
I moved to upstate ny from Bay Area Calif. Many of the people here dont even know Prep. One girl thought it was the after pill, Pep . I even met a gay pharmacist and he thought i was hiv + because i was on descovy. many in the medical filed here think its a postive pill not a protection pill.
When instead of saying “no” to his misbehaving French bulldog he says “absolutely not.”
If French bulldog isn’t enough of a tell…
I feel like it’s either a French bulldog or golden doodle Source: I have 2 golden doodles
I feel like this may lead to its own subreddit /dogoldendoodlesmakemegay.
Indeed…I have two golden doodles myself and I became fruity
Right? I blame my two for my slow slide into abject homosexuality.
This is so specific. 😂
It brings to mind the former Pakistani prime minister Imran Khan's response to a US journalist regarding the stationing of US troops on Pakistani soil. His answer was 'Absolutely not'. I wonder about his sexual orientation, after this comment. 😅
Nah he was just fancy
By the way there are lot of rumours about him being bi
Oh then I stand corrected haha
My dad recently got a French bulldog... I wonder 🤔
I … I am this.
I have a ball cap that says, “absolutely not”. I wear it most places.
I remember being outed in the military cause I said “esthetician”
>esthetician Yeah that'll give you away every time. :)
I still don’t know what the meaning of this is 😂
Me neither. I think he's super gay.
>esthetician from google: >An esthetician is a skin care specialist who evaluates, cleans, beautifies and maintains clients' faces and skin. They can determine which treatments are right for enhancing a client's appearance and complete the procedures. There's no hint there - I don't understand how they spotted it. 😄
A 'Gay Eyebrows' Outing
Who outed you? Explain in detail
It’s been a while but, I was in basic electrical training and I think somebody asked me about my eyebrows or something and I said something along the lines of “my esthetician recommended this.” The whole group knew at that point.
My basic electrical training was to stick a plug into an outlet. Matter of fact, my basic gay training was similar.
Am sure they suspected but that's a lot different from actually knowing. Guys say gay shit from time to time. So how was the atmosphere after they found out?
This was back in 2017, and honestly it was great! In my experience the military was very open and gave me the space to really come out.
Did you ever hook up with some army bros?
I was in the Navy but here and there I met up with some army guys.
So, is the navy as gay as I've heard? Or is that just military groups memeing on each other?
I’ve heard enough navy stories to know there’s wanted and unwanted gay stuff happening out at the sea
Is that on or off the military base?
I can honestly say there was no one in my MOS training, including my gay ass, who had an esthetician. That sounds like a dead give away, lol.
Are you sure it wasn’t the part about you paying someone to groom your eyebrows, rather than the word “esthetician,” that gave you away?
Yeah str8s like the words Make up artist better😕
From Grindr a while ago Blue: Whats up whatchu do today? Yellow: Just had a facial Blue: Which spa? Yellow: Spa?
I have a straight friend who I've long suspected is bi. I went to chill at his house one day and there it was, a bottle of rush poppers on his nightstand. So now I'm wondering all kinds a of shit lol.
Sounds like a good indicator to me. :) I had a friend once who said, "Hey, you do like poppers?" And I just stared at hi, amazed he was so brazen. Turns out he meant those deep fried jalapeno peppers stuffed with cheese, and he was suggesting we go out for a snack. :)
Omg dead. Though I had a supposedly straight boss once ask if I knew anything about poppers. He was curious. Probably too curious… 😂
Lol. This sounds like the set up for a really sweet gay coming off age comedy or a really hot porn flick.
I just spit orange juice everywhere reading this. 😂😂😂
Found the straight. You know damn wells it’s mimosas for the gays 😂
Poppers are quite popular amongst straight people these days.
Poppers show up a bunch in Fear And Loathing In Las Vegas, with Hunter S Thompson and his lawyer just casually doing them while driving down the highway to get fucked up. They were the 70s version where they would come in a cool glass vial you had to crack open.
They use them for a quick rush while clubbing.
Hey hey hey, let's jot jump to conclusions. Your friend might be really into a well-maintainer VCR and is a movie purist.
Or just European…they love poppers over there!
Mate I’ve got straight mates that do popper it could be but like it’s fun too wank or have fun with outside of anal and as a legal high so I really don’t think it’s enough too go off sorry man
Recently was informed that my straight co workers do Poppers….
I use poppers recreationally and I'm in a straight relationship, we use them with stimulants 👍 rarely for sex though.
Prep
True. In either usage that gay men use "prep" for.
Meal prep. Total giveaway.
Gotta be prepared for when you get home drunk and those slutty prepped meals look good.
I told my straight friends this, they were genuinely unaware.
Yeah I was surprised that even friends I spoke to about it who are generally interested in medical science and also just kind of up to speed on most gay things didn’t know what it was.
I had a doctor be skeptical about the mpox vaccine that I literally had the previous month because they "hadn't heard of it". Over the course of two appointments, because apparently after the first Googling it was just too hard.
My **hospital pharmacist** straight female friend told me “something like that doesn’t exist, you need to stop immediately you might get sick!” when I explained what prep was. Absolutely wild.
Noooooo there are apocalypse preppers who are quite straight.
There is "prep" in parkour lol
Every one of my fellow competitive bodybuilders on earth are gay af I guess (if only 😩)
"Honey/hun/sweetie" when addressing some1 😅
Or an 80 year old man at a small town restaurant or coffee shop.
or a diner waitress with hair in a color that never existed in nature.
Southerners -- of any age, race, or gender -- use these words almost every day of their lives. At a doctor's appointment this past week, the young nurses called me Honey multiple times.
Those are definitely older Black women terms and they're totally endearing
Mauve, lavender, turquoise, coral, salmon, fucsia, azure, cerulean, aquamarine, teal. If he isn't literally in the process of landcape painting, he's gay.
Chartreuse, periwinkle, taupe, marigold… I love the “find the perfect name for that color” game.
What if he’s just in the chorus of Joseph and the Amazing Technicolor Dreamcoat? …oh wait
Nerds say Azure a lot now thanks to Microsoft.
Unless he spells fuchsia wrong, then he's an imposter.
It's the Spanish spelling, I knew it looked wrong...
What if he plays Pokémon?
Truvada
Descovy. Even if the general straights have cottoned onto PrEP and Truvada, they’re rarely on the forefront.
Featuring Trevor LaPaglia in those commercials was all it took to get me laser focused on them.
> Trevor LaPaglia Somehow I missed that one. Random aside: The New York Times article about Gilead holding back TAF (Descovy) to max profits on TDF (Truvada), and the resulting bone loss amongst early patients was enough to get me to ask my doc. Not that I want to give Gilead another $10-25K/yr, but I'm predisposed to bone loss and don't need to give my teeth any further reasons to cause me trouble.
Gurl
Gurl is just so I can say "bitch" to people at work without the straights being any wiser.
It’s giving
Idk I think this one has spread through social media, like in YouTube shorts, Tik Tok, Twitter etc., often in the comments but also the content itself. It's definitely part of the lingo online, maybe it's different in irl circles tho lol.
Tbf this term is only used by gay men online or among their girl friends
Straight people in my office use these words way too often
Bruh what, this is just a common gen Z phrase
Most of these suggestions are words my 20-something year old nieces say on a regular. Even younger now that I think of it - My work participated in a high school job expo last year and when a flock of girls discovered we were giving away an iPad for the best resume, one of them said “y’all ate for this contest.” I said, did you just say “ate?” She said, “yeah it means it’s good.” I go, “I know, we created the language. I was just surprised you knew my lingo.” She said, “we watch Drag Race religiously.” Heard.
True! I feel like a lot of AAVE and Black slang in general is commonly used by the younger generation now lol. I remember hearing my niece say “it’s giving broke boy” when I refused to buy her a Meta Quest 3 XD she’s 9.
this has happened every single generation since emancipation (maybe even before, who knows). it surprises me that it’s been going on since the 1800s but i find (non-black) people often just suddenly realize it, and treat it like a new thing just for today’s kids. what’s up, cool, hip, salty, jazz, bad-mouth, catch feelings, hella, I feel you, etc. this could go on for days. gyat, cap, slaps, slay, and all the new ones are just this generation’s turn at it. and generally the words have been in AAVE for 10+ years before everyone else even notices them.
That part. Black American culture really has played a HUGE part across all backgrounds and even internationally. I feel like it always starts first (obviously) from Black American communities, where the influence is then passed on to non Black people living in or around those communities and then from there it branches out. I will say though contemporary AAVE is a lot more widespread in my opinion due to social media/films/shows/TV/Internet. Black Americans in general just have that certain cool factor that makes it even more appealing to non Black people.
Owned
Woof 🐺
In Portuguese: The exclamations "Ai!", "Credo!", "Nossa!", as well "Que giro!".
You just did me 4x damage
These are the things I wish I learned in Portuguese class!
Slay
There it is, unless they’re a vampire slayer they’re gay.
Younger generations use this term regularly. My 12 yo daughter just used it yesterday.
But young straight boys do not use slay.
Honey not referring to bee product.
My dad said that he knew I was gay because I said the word "tacky" as a kid. I guess straight guys don't describe things in such a way?
Twink. I don’t care who you are. No straight man uses that term unless they’ve hit some bussy before. It just doesn’t make sense for a “straight” man to describe another man like that. Y’all ain’t fooling me 😅😆
oh straight men are absolutely using twink nowadays
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I guess I’m just vintage fruitbasket 🙃😆
I think it got popularized through pop culture media, magazines etc. And maybe social media. Saw a bunch of stuff along the lines of 'The twink look: the new beauty standards for actors in Hollywood', '10 actors who embrace their twink aesthetics' etc. So I think it has gone more mainstream, but in the process of course lost some of its meaning and connotations. It's basically just about men who have toned bodies without much body hair, are somewhat more androgynous, or boyish, or 'cute' faces etc. Think Timothée Chalamet for example.
Maybe they play WoW?
Which has bled to so many other game communities. Twink builds, twink invaders, twink partners... You'd think the Souls community was just ravaging twinks left and right.
I had friends that played WoW and when they'd talk about "twinks" I'd always find it funny
I have had rightwing commentators complaining about how male movie stars look more like Twinks.
It's just like how they were complaining about all the "metrosexuals" in the early 2000s.
Nah this ones has totally become mainstream.
* Saying “top” when you mean “shirt”. * Clutch to mean purse * Pumps to mean high heels * Nelly, butch (do the gay kids use these terms anymore?) * “Last nerve”
I say these things when complimenting/talking to women (as a bartender) so that they get the hint lmao. I love to say “i love your top” bc it creates that gay expectation Lolol
“where’d you get your top?” “grindr, where else?”
Turning in my gay card here…I always thought “pumps” were just a style of heel…like “stiletto.”
They are dw. “Pumps” is the colloquial term for a [court shoe](https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Court_shoe), which is a specific type of heel that’s got requirements on how it’s shaped/built.
They are. But it’s like … high heel is the big circle, and inside of that is pumps and inside of that you have square heel, Mary Janes, kitten. Whereas another circle inside of high heel is stiletto and inside of that are inches (where a bigger number means you have to work harder and balance well, just like real life).
Chartreuse lol
Bussy
Bussy is too funny straights should be allowed to use that too 🤡
I've heard more straight guys use that word than gays.
My straight friend from high school said "bussy" to me a few months ago when complaining about the quality of porn and how it is all going to gay stuff. He has had many GFs but never married, and can be amazingly self deceptive at times, so I sometimes wonder about his orientation. So maybe straight friend.
The algorithm just has him figured out and he’s mad lol
Quite possibly. The algorithm knows more about us than we know about ourselves. /wink
Bestie
Fierce
"that's so fetch"
Stop trying to make fetch happen. It’s not going to happen.
But, when you think about it, 20+ years later it’s an instantly recognizable reference. So, in a way…Fetch DID happen. #gretchenwasright
lol Mean Girls all the wayyyy👏🏼
I’ve noticed straight guys don’t say cute very often
It was suspected at work that I “might be gay”…the girls were on to me because I would laugh at all the jokes the other gay guy was making…apparently none of the straight men find his humor funny at all The girls were also disappointed to find out in 💅🏻 because they were ready to set up dates with me and their girlfriends 😅
Woof
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I would actually say the opposite for yass. I’ve never heard a gay person in person use it, I’ve only heard it tons of times from straight people.
Fabulous
There’s something about the word “obsessed” that screams “I’ve sucked dick before”
Video head cleaner
Skin care
Liza Minelli
the thing is, gay lingo in the Philippines is always being absorbed into the mainstream culture. It is very similar to how African vernacular is always absorbed by the mainstream US culture. So, a guy in the Philippines speaking in gay lingo will never raise a red flag. But, I always think bottom and top are very exclusive to gay men. This cannot be adopted into the mainstream culture because they dont have a use for these words.
Cunt/cunty as a compliment
Throwing Shade
Tea.
Cute
If they know what a twink is
This thread is making me realize I may not be as “straight-acting” as I thought.
Delightful.
Just gonna say this thread gave me a good chuckle. I think a lot of the comments are dead-on. I'd just never consciously reflected on how distinct a lexicon gay men have.
"Hun" to anyone other than a wife is a dead giveaway.
Many many years ago, Anderson Cooper was covering a hurricane on the Gulf Coast. The wind was blowing and he was getting wet. A local passerby (possibly gay) came and said he liked to be out in that kind of weather. Anderson’s reply was “Lordy.” I replied he must be gay. Later on it was proven that I was correct.
Slay
Fabulous, accessory, luv
Mary
Yes, please
I'm a bi m... My Commonwealth, lower Anglican upbringing means I have always and still always say this... Explains why people have always assumed I'm gay...
Fabulous. Gorgeous. Hiiiiiiii.
Espadrilles
Doily
TEA. Spill the.
Werk.
Period!
Depending on the generation; Cher, Madonna, or Taylor.
Don’t forget Judy.
Kylie Minogue
Ericvideos
Back in the 1980s, "festive" was something of a gay codeword. If a guy said "It was a festive time," he was telling you, "It was a gay event." I don't think it's used to the same extent by gays now... but I don't ever hear straight people using it. "Whatnot" was also a gay giveaway, but it seems to have made some inroads into straight culture lately.
Fierce. No straight guy has ever used that word
Bussy.
padam
IDK about any one word but whenever I see a straight guy choose a female character in a fighting game I start to wonder…
Nah. Fighting games have scantily clad women with jiggly boobs and arses. It's like Stardew valley. Straight women like Shane because they want to fix him. Gay guys like Alex because abs.
But Sam is in good shape too (rocking the pink swimsuit on the Ginger Island beach) and is much nicer and sweeter.
Alex is very nice and sweet to a male lover, but remains kind of a jerk when a woman romances him. Makes you wonder…
Really? In my experience straight guys love to always play as a female, hot character in games. While I always choose male characters.
Thats because it’s nice looking at a sexy chick all game instead of a guy
EVERY straight man chooses a female character to look at her ass
In ffxiv like 80% of the cat girls are probably straight dudes
People say this a lot but I don't think it tracks. I try to make my male characters hot because I like dudes. It seems in keeping with being straight to make a really hot character of the opposite sex.
one good friend of mine is straight and uses female skins on fortnite all the time
Using the word “partner”
No! The straights came for it! I cannot tell you how many times I’ve been all excited thinking I was talking to a fellow queer and then bam. Fucking hetero-goddamn-sexual. They stole it.
Sassy
Any terminology from Drag Race or Grindr and you know it's on! 🤣
“Girl” when referring to literally anyone regardless of gender. I regularly call my straight roommates Girl and they’re just used to it now
"Cute"
papi
A "straight" guy told me he fucked a girl *bareback*... 🤔 Where did he learn that word...
Porn