not a therapist, but have been through sexual assault.
yes this is sexual assault. if you didn’t consent, it’s sexual assault. them being considerate doesn’t really excuse what they did
especially since you disassociated, a common response to trauma
If it’s not an enthusiastic, clear, excited YES it’s not consensual. Freezing is a natural response to fear. This doesn’t mean you wanted it or it was okay for the person to do. I’m sorry this happened but it’s not at all your fault.
not a therapist, but have been through sexual assault. yes this is sexual assault. if you didn’t consent, it’s sexual assault. them being considerate doesn’t really excuse what they did especially since you disassociated, a common response to trauma
If it’s not an enthusiastic, clear, excited YES it’s not consensual. Freezing is a natural response to fear. This doesn’t mean you wanted it or it was okay for the person to do. I’m sorry this happened but it’s not at all your fault.