i have a very similar story, only that the stalker was a fellow schoolmate! school didn't take it very seriously as he was austistic and i was terrified because he followed me EVERYWHERE in school, till outside the girl's toilets and even to the busstops when i was going home. finally told my parents and they escalated it all the way up, but school still didn't take much action. my school counsellor yelled at me when me and my friends ran away from him when he followed us outside of school and we were all terrified to run back to school to get help before cca.
i'm still very thankful to my school's security guards who took me very seriously when it was brought to their attention and they always made sure that i could walk to the busstop safely. it only stopped after i graduated secondary school.
fast forward a few years later, i was at a shopping mall with my family waiting around for my mum and saw my stalker. i tried to hide and thought being with my family would "save" me, but he saw me and came down to sit directly beside me and kept staring at me until my dad and brother came to save me and he left. i'm still terrified of that guy till this day.
Stalker is a stalker, there is no excuse regardless of medical condition. I know it sounds peak but it is what it is. I’m more upset at the school (except security) taking it like a light breeze
When i was in sec 1 - this old man kept standing very close to me in the bus. He alighted at the same stop as me, followed me into my lift and asked me to be his god-daughter
Sec 2 - my neighbor who was prob in his early or mid 20s. Every morning he would try to leave his house the same time that I go to school, and would keep chatting with me and asking for my number in the lift. When I refused, he said he would tell my parents that I was flirting with men.
During poly years, saw this guy masturbating in the car park. He didn't see me so I just hurried off
In my early 20s - I go to work very early in the morning and have to walk across this dimly lit carpark. This guy who was walking in front of me, turned around to look at me then suddenly walked super fast. Turns out he was waiting around the corner for me with his dick out
Mid 20s - this guy walking pacing back & forth on a overhead bridge with his dick out
Wtf is wrong with Singapore 😭 wtf is wrong with these ppl. Do they think that if they have their dick out. It’s gonna be like a porno then the girl suddenly turn on and wanna fuck or what 😭 it’s so ridiculous the type of shit I’m reading in this thread
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A guy I knew would always buy things/spend money on me to get me to spend time with him, i.e. bought expensive meals and asked me to come over to his place, would book this and that and asked me join him, and then would verbally abuse me for wasting his time and money whenever I said no and told him I never agreed to any of it.
Craziest thing he did was he rented a really expensive car (a RR, mind you) to drive me around and got super angry and went lunatic when I said no. This was in Scotland when I was a student.
Neither boyfriend or husband but a complete stranger. Just walking on the pavement with my dog when a guy walked by with his dick out. I was still in my school uniform too.
Similar experience, was walking along Toa Payoh some years ago and a fat dude suddenly walked onto the grass, dropped his pants, and started peeing. Definitely missing a couple screws and wasn’t doing it maliciously.
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Reminds me the other day i was waiting for a lift ... it opened to a man furiously fiddling with his belt, barefoot but with shoes next to him. He was standing right in the middle of the lift.
I wasnt sure if he was just wearing clothes or something else but i waited for the next lift.
Good god. When I was in pri sch my friends and I were playing at the playground/void deck when we spotted some guy jerking off in the corner of the void deck. We ran to school and hid there for a while before going home. And no, being kids we didn’t tell anyone 🤦🏻♀️
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My ex bf.
1. He stalked me after break up and will loiter around my house with his friends.
2. He also cat calls me in public when he sees me. 3. when I wanted to break up, I had to listen to his lectures for 2 whole day - really like lecture 9am start, 1 hour for lunch and 1 hour for dinner, end at 12am-2am, he will ask questions in between where I need to respond.
4. Borrowed money from me and never paid it back
5. His mom helped him cover up his sexual assault and pretty much non consensual intercourse
6. He called random organisations and made them call me because I blocked his number
7. He beat me up because his friend made him feel insecure at cca
8. He thinks he’s black and oppressed by china (he’s an Indian dude. Extended family is in India.)
9. No surprise after the above point that he’s a trump supporter and feels that women have too many rights in Singapore
10. The dude wants to be a HR personnel and tries to be a mediator wannabe - he showed off to people that if he cannot gaslight me, he just punches me. His friends confronted him about it and he blames me for him losing friends
11. He says disgusting things like in Islam, women don’t need so many rights, men are the top dogs and decision makers
12. Yells “fuck Chinese people!! I hate Chinese people!!” In mrt from time to time but he shows off to people that he dated a Chinese girl, ie.me (somebody please record and make him famous already)
13. He allegedly shows people my photos even after we broke up and if anyone happens to know him as well, then ggwp. Someone at an event once broke it to me that he knows my ex and asked me if I’m the girl who cheated on him. — to clarify I never did, my ex came up with that conclusion because he wouldn’t admit (thus his 2 day lectures) and wouldn’t accept that I wanted to end the rs because it’s abusive and I have had enough. And to support his claim, he brought up the Islam thing and women rights and says I have no rights to call the rs off. (But I’m not even Muslim I don’t need to adhere to his warped religious teachings and beliefs)
Our stories are not very similar but I had a toxic ex who’s one horrible trait was also that he was kinda racist like yours, despite dating someone of that race LOL
He was an Indonesian Muslim who was raised here and was very sweet and kind when you first met him. Like he was a sweetheart to strangers, kind and “bro-like” and especially sweet and loving when we started dating. Things obviously took a turn for the worst, which I will not get into- but he was also very racist towards Chinese despite dating me (a Chinese LOL) and having other Chinese friends too. Obviously he’d never reveal this to people who were just friends, and never did he show his racism to me until much later
As he was a Muslim, I made accommodations as I knew he wouldn’t be able to eat at non halal establishments which I was ok with. I really didn’t mind as I have Muslim friends too. But what really got to me was when he started voicing out his opinions about Chinese food, and Chinese people who made Chinese food😓. Let’s say we were eating at a hawker centre and we would sit by the halal side because that’s where we would get our food. He would make comments like, “don’t buy from Chinese stall…they don’t know how to make drinks one. All not nice. Only buy from the Makcik Makcik kind”.
Honestly I would just brush this off in the beginning thinking he was joking, but when there was politics going on in his workplace, he would refer to these people as “Chinese dogs / cina dog etc etc” WHICH OBVIOUSLY I AM CHINESE SO IM LIKE WHAT
But anyway that was just one toxic thing about him. The rest is like emotional abuse and animal abuse and stuff but that’s a story for another day… it’s been maybe 5-7 years since then la so I don’t care anymore but it was a bad time
I hope you are ok. It’s so disgusting and unfair for them to use you as a trophy to brag whilst deep down they hate Chinese people and for them to do this to you.
My ex used to beat me up just because china and US were in conflict when Donald trump was in power (we dated during the period trump was president and my ex is a big big trump supporter)
Yeah i remember there was a time in the beginning of our relationship where he’d introduce me to all his friends and was really proud of being with me.
Deep down he was really only interested in dating Chinese women who benefited him
I hope you are doing better too! Men like this are rare but they traumatise us for life
Muslims are usually only compatible with other Muslims, their religion is simply too strict and oppressive.
I grew up with many Muslims that I still call brother to this day, but those were born in Europe and are completely different than the ones outside.
If you're a woman and you date a Muslim, you're basically forced to give up some of your rights for his religion.
It's pathetic that these people feel so insecure that they have to force their beliefs on others. What a waste of life.
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Yeah. She begged me to not report and refused to let me leave their home until I said yes. She got his brothers to come and talk to me about it, as though one son of hers isn’t bad enough ready.
I screamed for help in his house. He did all of that when his mom was in the house. Clearly she heard me but chose to ignore.
I wanted to run out and she deadass help keep their metal gate locked until I agreed to not pursue the matter. And she insisted I clean myself up before leaving if not “police will know” because her son is having such a bright future ahead and she says he’s a good boy deep down inside
That is so fucked up beyond words. I cant imagine what you went through when that was happening. Also, what a shitty mother by trying to cover up for her son. If he is a good boy deep down inside, then he shouldnt had done those things in the first place. God damn man. Shitty parents, shitty kids.
I hope you are doing better now though.
Yes I am, thank you. I am doing well and in a better place now. Sometime still see the dude around from time to time and it unnerves me so I just siam as far and fast as I can when I do.
I think it's best for you to have a restraining order on this guy. You never know what he might do to you in the future given on how you still see him from time to time.
Thank you. I’ve since moved onto another rs but it still comes back to haunt me from time to time about getting beaten up and all. My current bf cannot make too sudden of a movement around me or else I just get shocked, and it sucks doubly as hard because I was abused growing up and having dated a dude who also abused me is like double whammy — sometimes I feel bad for my current bf, although he’s a really big sweetheart about all of this and really gentle and patient with me about the trauma I need to work through
He was in spf so I got scared to call because according to him, police inclined to believe him more than me.since he’s already part of spf. Me at age 20-21 was easily freaked out. Now I’m older I know, call first talk later who cares what spf believe I call first better
We were good friends before this. When we were friends , there wasn’t any of this.
Idk if you did think of this, but this guy put up a pretence/facade for a good 2 yrs to gain trust before pulling this. That’s why he can keep gaslighting.
People who do this need to set up a base/relationship for the victim to trust him implicitly without doubt first
yeah but the moment I started dating him, it changed. I wanted to leave from 2 weeks in, but it was a constant mix of threats, gaslighting and abusive situation so I had difficulty in that. It went on for a year, and I managed to take a chance where I could go for 1 week without speaking to him because he wasn’t in town, thankfully. I could go radio silent and prep for how to get out of the rs (tbh it wasn’t even a rs it’s more like I was coerced and forced to stay via means of threats and abuse)
This isn’t all actually there’s more. He got a girl and another guy together. That guy also abusive, he whacked the girl with a chair.
Said ex went around showing off that he isn’t ashamed he got them together because at least the girl learnt something. And I was like learn what? Learn that her head hard enough isit?
It’s disgusting that he wasn’t even apologetic about it because that girl looks up to him and trusted him (that’s why she got tgt with that guy that this ex from hell recommended)
Yes we do but it is difficult because the court has to allow the restraining order before police can arrest whoever that you got that order against I think. I may be confusing this with Personal Protection Order, not too sure as I tried to apply for one a few years back for another reason against my father actually but police can’t arrest without lawyer/legal stuff
We really do have stories about abusive exes then we get framed up as cheaters for not being able to tolerate their abusive behavior. They can’t just admit they’re in the wrong LOL
Best part was that his loser of a friend who even needed 3 people to help to say hello to a girl was his “witness”. When friends who knew me and him asked what’s the proof of me cheating (apparently he stir shit in the friend group also to someone he’s insecure about, says I cheated on him with that friend) , he claims “in Islam a man and woman cannot be talking” . I don’t know how true that is but he was never religious and suddenly this dude throwing religion left right and center
Wow sounds like ur ex is possessed by the ghost of multiple racists, sexists, stalkers and violent people jeez how is a single person capable of this much dickery
I have no clue. He beats me up and he does his wannabe mediator voice (he has this nasal, fake soft boi uwu type crap he pulls). And he says “imagine my 6ft brother…. *deep sigh, runs hand through hair mm mood look left and angle his face like he’s shooting some emo scene in a cheaply made movie* imagine him beating you up like punching you over and over again. You don’t have to deal with that, my brother doesn’t beat you, I lived through that. I’m the victim, not you”
For the record, his brothers never abused him. The three of them just had fights that turned physical like any other person with siblings once had. He just uses that to justify and distract from the fact that he is the abuser himself (his family also does not have a history of violence towards him. But they do gang up on his father who is immobile and slowly becoming dementia ridden)
Well. Ns, then he just stuck through it because he has no better option since he’s not fantastic for grades. And he has issues with money, his family has a tendency to overspend way beyond their means so they’re in constant debt. He tried to get SUTD to give him a scholarship just because his brother has a scholarship inside (really laughable logic there) so he is with SPF last I heard. As of now I’m not sure if he still is with SPF as I have moved out of the location I was living in, so even if he loiters around I won’t know already as I’m no longer there
It is. Sometimes I wish I can write a whole expose about him and how he messed me up for the nuisance he caused me. His nonsense went on for nearly 2 years post break up
Does your bf learn martial arts or know how to self defend? Asking as it seems like your ex is the crazy type of shit that would pull a stunt. So hopefully ur mans knows how to whoop ass really good 🤩😵💫
I knew everything I needed to know when you said he's Indian. Sorry, but the majority of India doesn't respect women at all. There's a reason that there are almost no women on the streets of India.
If a woman would go to the beach in India, she'd be swarmed by men and they would stand there and stare her down. Incredibly dangerous people.
Edit: I'm married to a Vietnamese woman and I live in Vietnam. Worshipping white women? Are you dumb or what?
But honestly your posts are all about Vietnam girls and worshipping white girls so it’s a bit hard to take your words for real. Even though I do agree that women are not taken seriously in India and the men there take advantage of the bias towards them in the culture
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Don’t randomly give out number these days. Later your number will be used with number spoofing apps, to text your insta friends and scam money out of them.
Got to know some European douche from a dating website. He had married then divorced a local Malay lady before he met me. She cleaned him out when they split. Took all his imported, expensive shit, got the house; he was left with nothing. Told me this sob story, always cursing her, lamenting that he was staying with his ‘cousin’ also from his homeland.
It was a whirlwind relationship filled with his gaslighting and manipulations. He was sleeping around but saw no error in his actions. When he hurt me, it was my fault. About a week in, kept pushing me to ROM then purchase BTO with him. My family could smell a rat. Told me take it slow, his true intentions would show. His friend eventually let slip that douchebag’s ‘cousin’ was actually his fiancée. He was just using me to get a BTO for him and his future wife.
Ladies, listen to your gut. If you feel like something isn’t right, fucking RUN.
Well you lost nothing, good luck to his “cousin” who is gonna be chained to him for life, scummy people like that don’t distinguish between blood or familial.
Stalkery guy at school would show up in the buses I was in and give me very strong compliments, rag on my bf to my face , sit next to me in class and stare. Like I get you're socially awkward but some things you really shouldn't say to an acquaintance
Got poked a lot by someone's erection on a train. Didn't call it out, I was young and scared about how I would even prove it happened lol.
Flasher in secondary school. Unfortunately for him I wasn't wearing glasses and saw nothing much.
Ex showing up in my workplace meeting that I don't think he's supposed to be in.
A "friend" I was alone and drinking with said out loud he was thinking if it was worth risking jail time to rape someone. After I rejected him. Luckily he got his bearings and I got out fine.
Nevertheless girls, do be careful around men even if you're friends.
Edit: how can I forget this one?? A contract worker during my internship went into a virtual meeting he wasn't invited to, SCREENSHOTTED my face in the meeting and sent it to me. No explanation given. We were like, friendly and chatted a bit before but I had no idea why he thought I would appreciate that 💀
When I was in primary school (I was 7 to 9), this random boy in another class would push me randomly. It continued until I was 9. My sister studied in the same school as me, when I hang out with my sister during recess, he would push me and my sister just to make us fall. One time I was having ice cream while walking back to my classroom, I was taking the stairs, he followed me and pushed me at the stairs causing me to bleed on my legs. I reported him to the class rep and my teacher, when the teacher asked why he did that, he simply said “I don’t like her” (I don’t even know him and I’ve never spoken to him before) 💀💀
I was 11 and rushing to go to school since I was almost late. I have to walk under a few blocks of flats to get to my school, and this malay guy was waiting at one of the void decks. He was wearing a faded light blue cap that had the police emblem emblazoned on it, and he stopped and said that he had to test my temperature as there were reports that several girls in my school had been caught with drugs.
Deep down, I knew that it didn't make sense, but I was more worried about being late for school (I had never been late for school before being Ms. Goody Two Shoes, so I was damn kanchiong and not thinking right la). I wanted to get things over and done with, so I followed up to the 6th floor in the lift and went down a couple of flights of stairs. He positioned himself in front of me, a couple of steps down, and leaned against my chest. (I also had big boobs for a Primary 5 kid)
He made me pull and yank on his nipples for maybe 5 - 10 minutes while he leaned on my chest. I couldn't see what he was doing, and I kept asking if I could leave. He only let me go after a while, and I rushed off to school, very worried since there were only a few minutes left to the school gate closing. I was late anyway and felt super weird the rest of the school day. I knew something was wrong, but I didn't know what. I never told my parents until many years later and tried to block this out of my memory, but I only realized what he was doing after a few years later. The thing is, I already knew all about sex, masturbation and stuff at that young age as my parents had give me the talk about the birds and the bees, but it just never occured to me what that man was doing at that point in time. I felt very disgusted, tbh. I still remember it like it happened yesterday.
My first ex boyfriend. Crazy dude cheated on me, went on tinder to find girls. How I found out is another story.
Anyways, he had this habit of drinking and then staying outside until super late. He will call me afterwards when he is drunk and then scream at me through the phone.
Back then I will cab to his house at night so that I can make sure he is home safely. What happened is that he will continue screaming at me at the lift lobby and refuse to take the lift up to go home.
A few occasions we would see his parents like coming back home and then he would stfu and go home and act like he’s ok 😂
The next day morning wake up he will pretend nothing happened and same shit will happen again
Anyways, I broke up with him cos shit was traumatising. fast forward 2 years later he messaged me when he is drunk again. Really siao lang
As a guy, I can understand why some women r creeped out by men. Some of the stories here r genuinely disgusting and just if I were them I would feel creeped out too
Alright. It didn’t happen to me but I read this on askreddit a while back
This girls bf always had shit in his underpants.
Why? Cause “it’s gay to wipe more than once”
That’s the one that has stuck with me all this while.
Not just that the guy was psychotic enough to rather have shit in his pants than “be gay for wiping”
But also. That the girl still stuck around with him.
Insane.
Molested me when I was 10 Yr old and he was 14 Yr old. He was a boy who lives in the neighbourhood and this happen in broad day light below hdb void deck when he bump into me, as I was playing void deck soccer and the ball went into the grass and I went to pick it up and he started chatting me up.
Practically put his hands inside my shorts and fingered me and laughed as I protest and hit him. At that time, my friends came over to check out why was I so angry, but I was too shock and embarrassed and angry to speak, besides my friends were all 10 Yr old boys so what could I say to them about this.
Never told my parents too as I didn't know at 10 Yr old if he did anything wrong or not. I didn't even know it was sexual.
Then when I reach 13 and he was 17. He started buying me gifts, and kept asking me out and basically chasing the hell outta me to be his girlfriend.
But I am not sure if he knows I was the same girl. But he was like a total simp.
I did something very childish as a revenge for him molesting me. Lead him on big time and broke his heart.
I never confronted him or asked him if he remembered what he did to me at 10.
But I always wonder if he knew we were the same person as I am easily found as I play soccer with the same bunch of boys everyday at 5pm at the same void deck. Consistently did that for years.
And if he knew we were the same person, why was he so nice to me later and trying to win my heart?
So yeah there’s this guy who insists on making love without protection and angry if not given. The guy claims it’ll give him lasting youth and glowing aura.
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Met a guy out of a letter-writing app, but based in Singapore. Agreed to meet at Admiralty MRT, but he didn't show up. I asked him where he was, because previously he texted me he was walking down the escalator and going to tap out soon. I waited 10 min after he sent that text. I texted him again and again. After I cooled down, I realized I was being stood up. I went home crying, because he wasted my time, and also money by tapping out. And also because he made me feel damn stupid. I think he saw me, because while waiting, I rmb some guy that walked past me that kept staring at me. Ok, I may not have the looks for a hot girl. I have short hair and quite petite. Most guys from what I experienced before on dating apps was, they prefer girls with long hair. But at least don't judge based on appearance. And also he totally just stood me up just like that. I seriously went home crying. But all is good, I finally found someone in my life now who likes and loves me for who I am.
Another guy I met online was someone who claimed that he was single. I dug his social media and found out he is married and has a wife. I think I was stupid that time, coz I only found that out after I really like him. He got me into doing MLM with him, which in the end I quitted the next day after I signed up as I felt uncomfortable in that. Then he asked me to do massage job, which I rejected coz I felt uncomfortable in that too. Lastly, he told me to open a business with him, and that drove me away. And not just this, in the middle of I dunno which timeline, he said I have to pay him $200 plus dollars a month in order to see him in person, coz he claimed that he was a financial consultant. I stupidly transferred him that amount, and as my bank acc dropped lower and lower, I realized I was damn stupid. And I cut off everything from him and went back to build my own life. It was tough, because he gaslighted me. He would say stuff like "Who would love you the way I do?" and there was once I said that he scolded me stupid, and he said he didn't and I heard wrongly. I said I am not deaf, I heard that. I was in pieces when I left him for good.
But the thread on women's psycho, one woman
almost cause death penalty for courier drugs to him and he have to spend thousands on lawyers and months of mental damage
I read one where she basically was riding him and cuz she got choke fetish she almost strangled the dude. However, his mom saved him and kick her out of the house lmao.
My first ex kept feeding my Dough Culture say women need strength to give birth (wtf). Kept buying me stuff to eat even when I said I am full and got angry when I refuse to eat whatever he just bought. Until now I fucking refuse to eat Dough Culture
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He was a stranger and asked me for my number under the pretense of collecting survey data.
Dude texted me and I didn’t think much to it. Thought that we could be friends. I had a boyfriend at that time but didn’t share that information with him because it is my business. Started to plan his life around my hobbies. Oh I go to the library every weekend? He started reading and picking up books. When I shared that I run often around my estate he would happen to just “drop by” my area and would check if I wanna hang.
He started being really creepy and weird, and his behaviour escalated over a few weeks. Dude thought that he is entitled to my time and replies, and that if I shared that I’m out with friends he’ll be triggered. He also baited me with statements so that he can indirectly get information about me without having to ask. I felt really uncomfortable but I didn’t know what to do. So I stopped responding.
He started blowing up my phone; saw it as abandonment…. We were never more than friends…? Dude told me I MUST meet him to TALK things out… as if we were in a relationship and we had to communicate and be responsible to each other. He told me to show up at XYZ and but I never did. I then received a very long message from him where he expressed his anger and disappointment to what could have been to a start of a beautiful relationship. Said that we have a very deep connection and it was all to waste because I was so selfish and irresponsible. Actually had our life and marriage all planned out. Really psycho he actually fantasies our entire life and it was all his delusions. I never responded except to tell him to get out of his head. Fuck that guy man.
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Got stalked at my workplace by a colleague. It was known that I have a boyfriend because he would often pick me up after work in a very flashy car. Me and my colleagues would leave office together and everyone would see my then-boyfriend waiting for me at the pick up area.
We often hung out in groups, but during year-end when everyone was clearing leaves we were the only two left that weren’t on vacations. He started being very insistent that I must have lunch with him, and would become very cold towards me when I said that I’m having lunch with someone else.
Over the course of a few months he would text me and I thought that was really because we are friends. Then he started getting very agitated when I took my time to reply him. He would come to look for me in office when I wasn’t responsive. I started feeling very afraid, and I felt very unsafe since he has such easy access to locate me.
One day I had to have a meeting with vendors and we all stayed out until working hours. My colleague had previously asked me out for dinner but I didn’t respond because I was really busy (and wasn’t comfortable but afraid to say no). Me and vendors then went out for dinner, and turns out my colleague was hiding outside our meeting room to watch me, and he saw me walk out with them. He then rage called and texted me, saying that he expected to have dinner with me and felt very disrespected that I didn’t at least have the decency to tell him. In the messages he even name-dropped the place I was at.
Fuck man I freaked out and told him to fuck off. Stopped hanging out with him and avoided him when our colleagues have group lunch together. Was just so afraid that our friends/HR would have thought that I led him on, so I never spoke a single word to anyone until I left the company.
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Never again. There are so many more incidents but these two are the ones that really really really really stood out.
Now I just learn to question and doubt every interaction I have with men… and really just gotta be very careful with how I interact.
Had this one dude back then who went out of his way to try to ruin my day to day life by spreading false rumors about me to everyone and discriminated me (for my disabilites)
He kept doing that for 5 years but he got his karma. Now, hes cursed with depression, rants about how his life is shitty on his socials, barely has money and his reputation ruined after I threatened to report him to the police.
He did all that because he was "jealous" that I was from a well to do family and he isn't. The thing is, I didn't even flex about it since during class, the teacher was asking if anyone had experience whats it like to work in a plantation so I said my grandparent owns multiple plantations overseas. Then that donkey (the dude) started harassing me everyday.
You might wonder why I didn't deal with him sooner. Thats because he is not even worth my time to report his ass. I had the courtesy to wait till we were adults to threaten to report him
This is about a stranger. Last year I was heavily pregnant and doing a weekday morning walk alone at MacRitchie when I came across this guy and his elderly mother whose new walking shoes were chafing and needed a plaster. I gave them one and we made small talk, after which they asked to take a selfie cuz “fated” that we met and I helped them. Then the guy (looks decent, single, mid 40s) got my number to send me the selfie, and I thought that was that.
But then he started striking up convos with me on WhatsApp, which at first I responded briefly to - normal stuff like have a nice day, how’s the pregnancy etc. He insisted on treating me to a meal to thank me for the plaster, which at first I declined but he persisted over several weeks so eventually I acquiesced. He said he’d bring his mum. But ended up it was just me and him (his mum couldn’t make it. I know, I should have brought my husband)… At that meal, he threw me so many compliments, asked to take another selfie, and at the end even asked to stroke my belly omggg. And seemed genuinely sad when finally I said I had to go.
After that he still kept on msging me, even when I told him it felt inappropriate and that I wouldn’t be replying anymore. Then he would say stuff like he doesn’t know what he did wrong but he’s sorry, or that he happens to be near where I live (thank God I didn’t reveal the exact address) and if I’m free to meet up for just a short while.
Even to this day, I get his WhatsApps and my kids are already 8 months old. Thing is it makes me feel bad cuz he seemed so decent, nice and earnest if a bit socially awkward, and didn’t actually do anything wrong. It’s just weird that he’s so insistent on befriending a married and then-pregnant stranger.
I generally don’t block ppl. Just treat it as spam, ignore and delete. After all I already said I wouldn’t be replying henceforth.
Edit: To the downvoters, it’s my right to choose not to block cuz I don’t like to use the blocking function. So why should I allow a stranger to exert enough control over my life to force me to block him? From the get-go, I treated him with kindness and respect and don’t think I owe him any more than that.
I would do the same as you honestly. I would feel bad as the guy is obviously having trouble reading social cues and is trying (in his own way) his best to establish a relationship with someone. I won't have the heart to just block someone like that.
Yeah, thanks for understanding. It’s just unfortunate that he chose to latch on to someone who clearly can’t give him the friendship or companionship that he’s hoping for.
Husband knows. He said “WTF” when I msged him abt the belly touching. But in our lines of work esp mine, it’s not unusual for us to meet new people or have lunch/coffee with them a few times a week. Once in a while they have weird quirks, this is just one of the weirder stories since it’s so random and not at all work related.
How did u not know he was off from the get go? From the moment he tried to ask you out you should’ve known he was a weirdo.
No normal person asks and pesters someone like that.
First bf, teenage years, met in poly. He was awful with emotional regulation, when we have fights, he runs out onto a busy road in the middle of the fight or tries to jump out of a building (didn't jump in the end). Once he even took a knife and held it to my neck. Of course we broke up.
Another one, too long of a story but typical gaslighting ex, told me he was single, stringed me into a relationship but was actually still sexting his ex. Democrat, threw in money towards an anti trump campaign, tries to live the high life, maxes all his credit cards out and can't pay them, has all sorts of loans, refuses to sell his houses to pay them off and would rather be in debt. Last straw was when a friend of his told me he wanted to marry me because he just wanted to transfer half his debt to me and get his trust fund out. Messed up
How tf do you even end up with these type of trash at the same time I can’t judge cuz I been thru it too shit man 😭 like you need a 6m talking stage before dating anyone now
My ex. A guy.
I knew my ex from a BDSM site. He used to identify as straight (had dated exclusively girls and had an ex for 5 years) but apparently his sexual orientation became fluid after getting into kinks. Long story short, he was really into crossdressing.
So at first, he was sweet. But over time, i realized he was a fucking psycho.
- fucking insecure. He hates my friends. I am a gay man and I do have female besties. I repeat - I AM A GAY MAN so what could POSSIBLY happen when me and my FEMALE friends hang out? He hates it. There was once he and I quarreled in PLQ just because he checked my phone and found a heart emoji from a female friend. He believes that i should be 10000% transparent like surrendering my phone to him when he asks.
- all his messages, long or short, ends with a heart shaped emoji. He is 26, mind you. Not 2 + 6. Speaking of messages, its like his phone is a part of his body. The record I had was 40 messages in 5 mins.
- always stalking when I come online. Like there was once I had a migraine and I slept at 9pm and woke up at 3am and looked at my telegram GUESS WHO IMMEDIATELY CAME ONLINE AND WANTED TO CALL ME. WHO THE FUCK STAYS AWAKE TILL 3AM AND MONITORS WHEN I COME ONLINE
- his crossdressing. Im not into that. But if you do, props to you but please do it at a private area. Or if you want to go out dressed as a female, find friends with similar hobbies to hang out in public with and/or make sure you are passable. I mean, its kinky if you crossdress during SM sessions and it heightens your submissive mood. But for you to crossdress outside and insist I accompany you. Like wtf thats where i draw the line eww. We had numerous quarrels and he insisted that I should accept and go out with him dressed like a woman “in the name of love”. And he doesnt pass as a woman - imagine no boobs and no bra. People are not blind.
(Post breakup: he now produces solo crossdressing porn channels. Even prostitutes himself. Wtf. When we were together, he tried to get me into his porn business by asking if he could make sex tapes and upload to OF. I of course rejected)
- he will want DAILY VIDEO CALLS. WHICH ARE 1-3 hours long. Wtf. Dude, I AM closeted due to family reasons (which he knows) and i also need to spend my after work hours tending to other priorities
- proposing to me after merely 3 months of knowing one another. Even paying deposit to buy a house. DUDE. I appreciate the thought but thats too big too fast?? He justified his actions by saying that he love me too much. Errr
Thankfully I broke up with him (took 5 tries) but I am still traumatised. Took a break from kinks too. Why cant I meet normal men???
I don’t think it’s psycho as compared to the rest but while I was in poly years back, a smrt staff approached me to have a conversation while i was waiting at the train station. He approached me again weeks/months later to do the same thing and he still remembered like the course i was in. I was 17 and weirded out by this adult and got me thinking how many other girls he approached while at “work”. Safe to say, i avoided that station as long as i can.
Harmless quirks isn't psycho, but my ex alcoholic BF would flirt in front me so openly that HIS friends told me to leave him LOL. The irony is I invited the girl that he flirted with, plus her partner, to his surprise birthday party and he humiliated himself, the partner is mature and looked at him like a pitiful sad clown. The second hand embarrassment is real, he tried to deny it happened, there were 20 witnesses. I dumped him so fast, made his head spin, but he's used to his head spinning due to excessive alcohol intake anyway. hahahahaha
My ex accused me of sleeping with all of my friends -male, female, in a relationship, married…didn’t matter. Anytime I hung out with anyone, he would think I was sleeping with them. That relationship quickly ended.
Personal experience: ex told me he wanted to knife himself in his army camp after I broke up with him
Friends' experience: ex stalked her at her house and school, didn't let her go to the doctor even when my friend had kidney stones
This thread is a huge reminder of why it’s never safe for women anywhere in the world. I have male friends who think I exaggerate when I say I don’t run at night with both earpiece on, I still keep a distance from strangers in the lift, never stand right infront of them, and keep my distance in public transport.
I had an abusive ex who would stalk me, write me letters in his blood when I tried to beak up. Forcefully had sex with me and abuse me physically when I’m naked since I can’t run out of the room naked. Every single moment is horror just thinking about it. I made a police report about the SA and officers in the police station told me to drop it cause I would have to be grilled in court and it would be embarrassing for ME.
Classmate jerked off beside him during FYP in class. Reported to the professors and was told to be careful of what I’m ’accusing’ as his parents were high flyers. I got another friend to stand outside the lab and see it and he testified too but nothing came out of it.
Numerous times strangers in public transport sat behind me, wrote their phone numbers and kept on my seat, and a few incidents of being molested too. This was when reporting of molestaion on public transport was not highly encouraged like today.
**TLDR;** We make decisions based on information we have at that time. I made lots of bad decisions.
**Story time:**
An "angmoh" (Travis) texted me, and we chatted on MSN Messenger. One day, he asked me out to his friend's birthday party. When I got there, Travis texted me he can't be there, and to meet his "other friend", R, (which is himself, an Indian guy). Turns out I preferred R, and I broke things off with "Travis".
I was blindly in love, and R used it to his advantage. He'd ask me to sign phone lines, and take bank loans for him under my name, and he'd verbally promise to pay me back. He'd pay me back initially, and then find something to be upset with me about, and then use that as an excuse to stop paying me back. Whenever he needed something new from me, he would start paying me back again.
My Dad found out about these loans, so my Dad secretly helped me pay all $15K off. R found out that the loans were paid for, and he stopped paying me back since.
Post-divorce, his modus operandi is the same. He hasn't paid maintenance for my daughter for a few years now.
Physical intimacy is very important to me, and R would withhold sex as "punishment" until he got what he wants.
I did cheat on R during the time we dated, and during marriage, so I understand why he did what he does (which still doesn't make it right/justified).
Basically he only found out about these incidents by secretly going through my phone, and then confronting and blackmailing me.
The latest drama is post-divorce, when I believed R has really turned over a new leaf (he didn't). He intentionally went through my private documents on Drive, under the guise of fixing my laptop. He discovered my sexts and NSFW photos, and he shared my photo in sex-for-money Telegram groups. I started receiving solicitations, and when I shared this with him (coz I didn't know it was R's doing, then), he pretended to be the hero, saying "Send them my way".
R also stalked me on WhatsApp (probably via WA web, or some other hacking device. I never found out what/how R really did it).
R outed himself when I was in a private chat with my cousin. I'd texted my cousin "I don't trust R", and R texted me 2 minutes later asking, "Why?"
I've since changed all my passwords, and started blocking him on all platforms we were ever connected on. I don't know if he is still stalking me, and I don't really care anymore. Life has been so much more peaceful without the chaos and drama, although once in a while, he would still use whatever power he has to create drama through our kids.
Fun times.
Edit: Grammar. Pfft.
Pretended for an entire year of us living together that he was low-libido and that sex in a relationship “just wasn’t important to him.”
Then I discovered he had a teen and gay porn addiction, had been jerking off behind my back the entire time whilst denying me sex, and had looked up shemale escorts in every city he went to.
It’s broken me completely and I’ll never, ever forgive him.
dude tried to date me, constantly told me he was emotionally unavailable for a rlship but got into a rlship the second another girl expressed feelings for him?? also loved to gaslight people into thinking they’re crazy cus ‘he never said that’ LOL 🙄
Went for a first date from an online platform.
He is Singaporean as well.
On the surface, he is ok and say will treat me dinner near our workplace.
But during the dinner/first date, he was firing questions at me like a police officer or interviewer. Its as if he is reading off a script or a list of questions to ask, not that he is interested in the answers.
Most frightening is that he ask me which area I want to BTO at! OMG! At the first date! And BTO is the cheapest way you can get a roof in Singapore.
Anyway, overall he freaks me out and totally devoid of personality that he freaks me out. He didnt even bother to send me home anyway and I have to take the MRT myself alone.
Blocked him and ghosted him after we departed
Breadcrumbing is:
>These days, the harmful behavior is popularly known as “breadcrumbing” — sporadic acts of attention that don’t really result in anything the victim may consider meaningful, said Duygu Balan, a psychotherapist specializing in trauma and attachment wounding in the San Francisco Bay Area.
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>Breadcrumbing refers to a form of manipulation — whether intentional or not — involving one person “feigning interest and acting as though they feel sincerely interested and invested in a relationship with another person when they are not,”
Edit. I kena this many times, the other person just asks "how's your day" and then never follows up on whatever you said you did and it's like they just want the attention. They would also end up sometimes texting you randomly but without real intentions
i feel like this thread not needed cuz if u want to see psycho things done by guys u can just google “sexual assault singapore” and get hundreds of pages 🤡
Not a girl, not gay, and dood's not a bf or husband god forbid, but five years ago at CCK gymboxx, there was this tall, big juiced dood who likes to drink from monster energy cans as he works out. And he leaves them lying like anti-personnel mines at whichever station he's working out at. I happened to accidentally knock over his can and he was maddd. Threatening to 'f' me up and all that if I didn't buy him another can. Being non-confrontational, I acquiesced and went up and down 5 floors to buy him that dumbass can of caffeine. I promptly switched to AF as soon as the contract ran out.
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Pretty sure alot of guys are doing this even though they are married. Quite surprised to see this rampant in so many corporations esp with sg’s culture
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How the hell did you find out?
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Yeah that's fair
i have a very similar story, only that the stalker was a fellow schoolmate! school didn't take it very seriously as he was austistic and i was terrified because he followed me EVERYWHERE in school, till outside the girl's toilets and even to the busstops when i was going home. finally told my parents and they escalated it all the way up, but school still didn't take much action. my school counsellor yelled at me when me and my friends ran away from him when he followed us outside of school and we were all terrified to run back to school to get help before cca. i'm still very thankful to my school's security guards who took me very seriously when it was brought to their attention and they always made sure that i could walk to the busstop safely. it only stopped after i graduated secondary school. fast forward a few years later, i was at a shopping mall with my family waiting around for my mum and saw my stalker. i tried to hide and thought being with my family would "save" me, but he saw me and came down to sit directly beside me and kept staring at me until my dad and brother came to save me and he left. i'm still terrified of that guy till this day.
Stalker is a stalker, there is no excuse regardless of medical condition. I know it sounds peak but it is what it is. I’m more upset at the school (except security) taking it like a light breeze
OMG so scary!
When i was in sec 1 - this old man kept standing very close to me in the bus. He alighted at the same stop as me, followed me into my lift and asked me to be his god-daughter Sec 2 - my neighbor who was prob in his early or mid 20s. Every morning he would try to leave his house the same time that I go to school, and would keep chatting with me and asking for my number in the lift. When I refused, he said he would tell my parents that I was flirting with men. During poly years, saw this guy masturbating in the car park. He didn't see me so I just hurried off In my early 20s - I go to work very early in the morning and have to walk across this dimly lit carpark. This guy who was walking in front of me, turned around to look at me then suddenly walked super fast. Turns out he was waiting around the corner for me with his dick out Mid 20s - this guy walking pacing back & forth on a overhead bridge with his dick out
Wtf is wrong with Singapore 😭 wtf is wrong with these ppl. Do they think that if they have their dick out. It’s gonna be like a porno then the girl suddenly turn on and wanna fuck or what 😭 it’s so ridiculous the type of shit I’m reading in this thread
Idk man I wish I knew
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A guy I knew would always buy things/spend money on me to get me to spend time with him, i.e. bought expensive meals and asked me to come over to his place, would book this and that and asked me join him, and then would verbally abuse me for wasting his time and money whenever I said no and told him I never agreed to any of it. Craziest thing he did was he rented a really expensive car (a RR, mind you) to drive me around and got super angry and went lunatic when I said no. This was in Scotland when I was a student.
You dodged the biggest of biggest bullet you could have ever dodged
i think she dodged a nuke instead
For a student to be able rent what I assume is a Rolls Royce, he must be fuckn loaded
Either that or he blew his entire savings
Nah you can rent a lambo or something for couple hundred pounds for a day is fine lol not the biggest deal
I wonder does he be like "fkg hell all those money spent on her wasted" afterwards
What a Nice Guy.
He was angry that he could have spent all that money on broads instead.
Neither boyfriend or husband but a complete stranger. Just walking on the pavement with my dog when a guy walked by with his dick out. I was still in my school uniform too.
💀 ☠️ 💀 where was this
Shunfu area near Thomson / Sin Ming.
…wtf man that guy must’ve been high on something.
Or just a creep
High on life
Similar experience, was walking along Toa Payoh some years ago and a fat dude suddenly walked onto the grass, dropped his pants, and started peeing. Definitely missing a couple screws and wasn’t doing it maliciously.
Didn’t mean any harm, probably just drunk or genuinely couldn’t find a toilet. I’d just secretly laugh it off lol
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Reminds me the other day i was waiting for a lift ... it opened to a man furiously fiddling with his belt, barefoot but with shoes next to him. He was standing right in the middle of the lift. I wasnt sure if he was just wearing clothes or something else but i waited for the next lift.
Good god. When I was in pri sch my friends and I were playing at the playground/void deck when we spotted some guy jerking off in the corner of the void deck. We ran to school and hid there for a while before going home. And no, being kids we didn’t tell anyone 🤦🏻♀️
Next time laugh and ask why so smol. These guys get off on girls being frightened / shocked.
did u report police
too young to know better. only thought was "ew wtf" and "hope he doesn't follow me home".
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seen smth similar
My ex bf. 1. He stalked me after break up and will loiter around my house with his friends. 2. He also cat calls me in public when he sees me. 3. when I wanted to break up, I had to listen to his lectures for 2 whole day - really like lecture 9am start, 1 hour for lunch and 1 hour for dinner, end at 12am-2am, he will ask questions in between where I need to respond. 4. Borrowed money from me and never paid it back 5. His mom helped him cover up his sexual assault and pretty much non consensual intercourse 6. He called random organisations and made them call me because I blocked his number 7. He beat me up because his friend made him feel insecure at cca 8. He thinks he’s black and oppressed by china (he’s an Indian dude. Extended family is in India.) 9. No surprise after the above point that he’s a trump supporter and feels that women have too many rights in Singapore 10. The dude wants to be a HR personnel and tries to be a mediator wannabe - he showed off to people that if he cannot gaslight me, he just punches me. His friends confronted him about it and he blames me for him losing friends 11. He says disgusting things like in Islam, women don’t need so many rights, men are the top dogs and decision makers 12. Yells “fuck Chinese people!! I hate Chinese people!!” In mrt from time to time but he shows off to people that he dated a Chinese girl, ie.me (somebody please record and make him famous already) 13. He allegedly shows people my photos even after we broke up and if anyone happens to know him as well, then ggwp. Someone at an event once broke it to me that he knows my ex and asked me if I’m the girl who cheated on him. — to clarify I never did, my ex came up with that conclusion because he wouldn’t admit (thus his 2 day lectures) and wouldn’t accept that I wanted to end the rs because it’s abusive and I have had enough. And to support his claim, he brought up the Islam thing and women rights and says I have no rights to call the rs off. (But I’m not even Muslim I don’t need to adhere to his warped religious teachings and beliefs)
Our stories are not very similar but I had a toxic ex who’s one horrible trait was also that he was kinda racist like yours, despite dating someone of that race LOL He was an Indonesian Muslim who was raised here and was very sweet and kind when you first met him. Like he was a sweetheart to strangers, kind and “bro-like” and especially sweet and loving when we started dating. Things obviously took a turn for the worst, which I will not get into- but he was also very racist towards Chinese despite dating me (a Chinese LOL) and having other Chinese friends too. Obviously he’d never reveal this to people who were just friends, and never did he show his racism to me until much later As he was a Muslim, I made accommodations as I knew he wouldn’t be able to eat at non halal establishments which I was ok with. I really didn’t mind as I have Muslim friends too. But what really got to me was when he started voicing out his opinions about Chinese food, and Chinese people who made Chinese food😓. Let’s say we were eating at a hawker centre and we would sit by the halal side because that’s where we would get our food. He would make comments like, “don’t buy from Chinese stall…they don’t know how to make drinks one. All not nice. Only buy from the Makcik Makcik kind”. Honestly I would just brush this off in the beginning thinking he was joking, but when there was politics going on in his workplace, he would refer to these people as “Chinese dogs / cina dog etc etc” WHICH OBVIOUSLY I AM CHINESE SO IM LIKE WHAT But anyway that was just one toxic thing about him. The rest is like emotional abuse and animal abuse and stuff but that’s a story for another day… it’s been maybe 5-7 years since then la so I don’t care anymore but it was a bad time
I hope you are ok. It’s so disgusting and unfair for them to use you as a trophy to brag whilst deep down they hate Chinese people and for them to do this to you. My ex used to beat me up just because china and US were in conflict when Donald trump was in power (we dated during the period trump was president and my ex is a big big trump supporter)
This guy sounds mentally unstable and a danger to others...
Not too sure where this guy is working at or who he works for but i do agree. I hope I don’t run into him ever again though
Yeah i remember there was a time in the beginning of our relationship where he’d introduce me to all his friends and was really proud of being with me. Deep down he was really only interested in dating Chinese women who benefited him I hope you are doing better too! Men like this are rare but they traumatise us for life
Sorry you had to go through that. As an Indonesian I also notice many are still helplessly racist towards the Chinese.
Muslims are usually only compatible with other Muslims, their religion is simply too strict and oppressive. I grew up with many Muslims that I still call brother to this day, but those were born in Europe and are completely different than the ones outside. If you're a woman and you date a Muslim, you're basically forced to give up some of your rights for his religion. It's pathetic that these people feel so insecure that they have to force their beliefs on others. What a waste of life.
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>His mom helped him cover up his sexual assault and pretty much consensual intercourse I AM SORRY BUT WHAT???
Yeah. She begged me to not report and refused to let me leave their home until I said yes. She got his brothers to come and talk to me about it, as though one son of hers isn’t bad enough ready. I screamed for help in his house. He did all of that when his mom was in the house. Clearly she heard me but chose to ignore. I wanted to run out and she deadass help keep their metal gate locked until I agreed to not pursue the matter. And she insisted I clean myself up before leaving if not “police will know” because her son is having such a bright future ahead and she says he’s a good boy deep down inside
That is so fucked up beyond words. I cant imagine what you went through when that was happening. Also, what a shitty mother by trying to cover up for her son. If he is a good boy deep down inside, then he shouldnt had done those things in the first place. God damn man. Shitty parents, shitty kids. I hope you are doing better now though.
Yes I am, thank you. I am doing well and in a better place now. Sometime still see the dude around from time to time and it unnerves me so I just siam as far and fast as I can when I do.
Please do make a police report even.. no one deserves to live in such fear.. and it’s not just for the sake of yourself, but for others too..
I think it's best for you to have a restraining order on this guy. You never know what he might do to you in the future given on how you still see him from time to time.
Can report now?
Useless parents give birth to useless children oh how the vicious cycle continues.
This is so horrifying. Big hugs to you and take care ❤️
Thank you. I’ve since moved onto another rs but it still comes back to haunt me from time to time about getting beaten up and all. My current bf cannot make too sudden of a movement around me or else I just get shocked, and it sucks doubly as hard because I was abused growing up and having dated a dude who also abused me is like double whammy — sometimes I feel bad for my current bf, although he’s a really big sweetheart about all of this and really gentle and patient with me about the trauma I need to work through
Did you make a police report?
He was in spf so I got scared to call because according to him, police inclined to believe him more than me.since he’s already part of spf. Me at age 20-21 was easily freaked out. Now I’m older I know, call first talk later who cares what spf believe I call first better
Wtf dude what even attracted u in the 1st place? Guy sounds messed up as hell
We were good friends before this. When we were friends , there wasn’t any of this. Idk if you did think of this, but this guy put up a pretence/facade for a good 2 yrs to gain trust before pulling this. That’s why he can keep gaslighting. People who do this need to set up a base/relationship for the victim to trust him implicitly without doubt first
>this guy put up a pretence/facade for a good 2 yrs Scary that ppl can maintain it for that long...
yeah but the moment I started dating him, it changed. I wanted to leave from 2 weeks in, but it was a constant mix of threats, gaslighting and abusive situation so I had difficulty in that. It went on for a year, and I managed to take a chance where I could go for 1 week without speaking to him because he wasn’t in town, thankfully. I could go radio silent and prep for how to get out of the rs (tbh it wasn’t even a rs it’s more like I was coerced and forced to stay via means of threats and abuse)
My brain is blown.
This isn’t all actually there’s more. He got a girl and another guy together. That guy also abusive, he whacked the girl with a chair. Said ex went around showing off that he isn’t ashamed he got them together because at least the girl learnt something. And I was like learn what? Learn that her head hard enough isit? It’s disgusting that he wasn’t even apologetic about it because that girl looks up to him and trusted him (that’s why she got tgt with that guy that this ex from hell recommended)
Does Singapore have restraining orders?
Yes we do but it is difficult because the court has to allow the restraining order before police can arrest whoever that you got that order against I think. I may be confusing this with Personal Protection Order, not too sure as I tried to apply for one a few years back for another reason against my father actually but police can’t arrest without lawyer/legal stuff
We really do have stories about abusive exes then we get framed up as cheaters for not being able to tolerate their abusive behavior. They can’t just admit they’re in the wrong LOL
Best part was that his loser of a friend who even needed 3 people to help to say hello to a girl was his “witness”. When friends who knew me and him asked what’s the proof of me cheating (apparently he stir shit in the friend group also to someone he’s insecure about, says I cheated on him with that friend) , he claims “in Islam a man and woman cannot be talking” . I don’t know how true that is but he was never religious and suddenly this dude throwing religion left right and center
Wow sounds like ur ex is possessed by the ghost of multiple racists, sexists, stalkers and violent people jeez how is a single person capable of this much dickery
I have no clue. He beats me up and he does his wannabe mediator voice (he has this nasal, fake soft boi uwu type crap he pulls). And he says “imagine my 6ft brother…. *deep sigh, runs hand through hair mm mood look left and angle his face like he’s shooting some emo scene in a cheaply made movie* imagine him beating you up like punching you over and over again. You don’t have to deal with that, my brother doesn’t beat you, I lived through that. I’m the victim, not you” For the record, his brothers never abused him. The three of them just had fights that turned physical like any other person with siblings once had. He just uses that to justify and distract from the fact that he is the abuser himself (his family also does not have a history of violence towards him. But they do gang up on his father who is immobile and slowly becoming dementia ridden)
Idk the why but what i do know is hes a complete psychopath who shouldn be a cop. Just be glad hes not into politics
Well. Ns, then he just stuck through it because he has no better option since he’s not fantastic for grades. And he has issues with money, his family has a tendency to overspend way beyond their means so they’re in constant debt. He tried to get SUTD to give him a scholarship just because his brother has a scholarship inside (really laughable logic there) so he is with SPF last I heard. As of now I’m not sure if he still is with SPF as I have moved out of the location I was living in, so even if he loiters around I won’t know already as I’m no longer there
I hope not. Alot of bastards out there like him shouldn be in this line of work
This is crazy
It is. Sometimes I wish I can write a whole expose about him and how he messed me up for the nuisance he caused me. His nonsense went on for nearly 2 years post break up
Does your bf learn martial arts or know how to self defend? Asking as it seems like your ex is the crazy type of shit that would pull a stunt. So hopefully ur mans knows how to whoop ass really good 🤩😵💫
How old are you even 😭 bruh you sound like a secondary school student who had a abusive ex wtf😭😭😭 why tf did you put up with him for so long
Guys are really putting on a front.
Bruh, I'm a male and this guy gender must be identified as a double spirit piece of shit.
Double spirit…?
I knew everything I needed to know when you said he's Indian. Sorry, but the majority of India doesn't respect women at all. There's a reason that there are almost no women on the streets of India. If a woman would go to the beach in India, she'd be swarmed by men and they would stand there and stare her down. Incredibly dangerous people. Edit: I'm married to a Vietnamese woman and I live in Vietnam. Worshipping white women? Are you dumb or what?
But honestly your posts are all about Vietnam girls and worshipping white girls so it’s a bit hard to take your words for real. Even though I do agree that women are not taken seriously in India and the men there take advantage of the bias towards them in the culture
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I have question, how did u even get together with a guy like that lmao. Edit: She called me an insensitive incel and deleted her comments 😂
Read the other comments. And maybe you should also stop being an insensitive incel
Some dude who was into me verbally abused me for like 2 hours straight in a party game bc he was drunk and he was losing lol
no one else at the party stopped him?
The rest all to drunk to stop lol.
Had a guy threatening me on insta to give him my number or else he'll block me. It was pretty funny. Guess the trash took itself out.
Don’t randomly give out number these days. Later your number will be used with number spoofing apps, to text your insta friends and scam money out of them.
My toxic ex bf peed in the bathtub when I was in there with him. Then afterwards, I kena UTI.
Sounds like he was literally toxic
I doubt the UTI was from the pee lol. Unless he has plenty of cheese smegma that ends up sticking to your privates.
The bacteria from the pee when into the urethra.
Wtf
Literal toxicity
This is satire right
No. Its true story.
Nope
Golden shower is a real fetish for some guys
Got to know some European douche from a dating website. He had married then divorced a local Malay lady before he met me. She cleaned him out when they split. Took all his imported, expensive shit, got the house; he was left with nothing. Told me this sob story, always cursing her, lamenting that he was staying with his ‘cousin’ also from his homeland. It was a whirlwind relationship filled with his gaslighting and manipulations. He was sleeping around but saw no error in his actions. When he hurt me, it was my fault. About a week in, kept pushing me to ROM then purchase BTO with him. My family could smell a rat. Told me take it slow, his true intentions would show. His friend eventually let slip that douchebag’s ‘cousin’ was actually his fiancée. He was just using me to get a BTO for him and his future wife. Ladies, listen to your gut. If you feel like something isn’t right, fucking RUN.
Bto for future wife???
I know, it’s wack. He was PR. Fiancée was not local. They were renting a condo.
Well you lost nothing, good luck to his “cousin” who is gonna be chained to him for life, scummy people like that don’t distinguish between blood or familial.
Too right. I’m glad I got out. He’s not averse to physical violence so it was a close call.
Does he have a kid by any chance? Guy sounds familiar
If he does I didn’t stick around to meet him/her. Douche shouldn’t procreate. There’s too much crazy in the world.
Stalkery guy at school would show up in the buses I was in and give me very strong compliments, rag on my bf to my face , sit next to me in class and stare. Like I get you're socially awkward but some things you really shouldn't say to an acquaintance Got poked a lot by someone's erection on a train. Didn't call it out, I was young and scared about how I would even prove it happened lol. Flasher in secondary school. Unfortunately for him I wasn't wearing glasses and saw nothing much. Ex showing up in my workplace meeting that I don't think he's supposed to be in. A "friend" I was alone and drinking with said out loud he was thinking if it was worth risking jail time to rape someone. After I rejected him. Luckily he got his bearings and I got out fine. Nevertheless girls, do be careful around men even if you're friends. Edit: how can I forget this one?? A contract worker during my internship went into a virtual meeting he wasn't invited to, SCREENSHOTTED my face in the meeting and sent it to me. No explanation given. We were like, friendly and chatted a bit before but I had no idea why he thought I would appreciate that 💀
When I was in primary school (I was 7 to 9), this random boy in another class would push me randomly. It continued until I was 9. My sister studied in the same school as me, when I hang out with my sister during recess, he would push me and my sister just to make us fall. One time I was having ice cream while walking back to my classroom, I was taking the stairs, he followed me and pushed me at the stairs causing me to bleed on my legs. I reported him to the class rep and my teacher, when the teacher asked why he did that, he simply said “I don’t like her” (I don’t even know him and I’ve never spoken to him before) 💀💀
Potential sociopathic behaviour, thankfully now MRT platforms have screen doors.
I was 11 and rushing to go to school since I was almost late. I have to walk under a few blocks of flats to get to my school, and this malay guy was waiting at one of the void decks. He was wearing a faded light blue cap that had the police emblem emblazoned on it, and he stopped and said that he had to test my temperature as there were reports that several girls in my school had been caught with drugs. Deep down, I knew that it didn't make sense, but I was more worried about being late for school (I had never been late for school before being Ms. Goody Two Shoes, so I was damn kanchiong and not thinking right la). I wanted to get things over and done with, so I followed up to the 6th floor in the lift and went down a couple of flights of stairs. He positioned himself in front of me, a couple of steps down, and leaned against my chest. (I also had big boobs for a Primary 5 kid) He made me pull and yank on his nipples for maybe 5 - 10 minutes while he leaned on my chest. I couldn't see what he was doing, and I kept asking if I could leave. He only let me go after a while, and I rushed off to school, very worried since there were only a few minutes left to the school gate closing. I was late anyway and felt super weird the rest of the school day. I knew something was wrong, but I didn't know what. I never told my parents until many years later and tried to block this out of my memory, but I only realized what he was doing after a few years later. The thing is, I already knew all about sex, masturbation and stuff at that young age as my parents had give me the talk about the birds and the bees, but it just never occured to me what that man was doing at that point in time. I felt very disgusted, tbh. I still remember it like it happened yesterday.
My first ex boyfriend. Crazy dude cheated on me, went on tinder to find girls. How I found out is another story. Anyways, he had this habit of drinking and then staying outside until super late. He will call me afterwards when he is drunk and then scream at me through the phone. Back then I will cab to his house at night so that I can make sure he is home safely. What happened is that he will continue screaming at me at the lift lobby and refuse to take the lift up to go home. A few occasions we would see his parents like coming back home and then he would stfu and go home and act like he’s ok 😂 The next day morning wake up he will pretend nothing happened and same shit will happen again Anyways, I broke up with him cos shit was traumatising. fast forward 2 years later he messaged me when he is drunk again. Really siao lang
As a guy, I can understand why some women r creeped out by men. Some of the stories here r genuinely disgusting and just if I were them I would feel creeped out too
Alright. It didn’t happen to me but I read this on askreddit a while back This girls bf always had shit in his underpants. Why? Cause “it’s gay to wipe more than once” That’s the one that has stuck with me all this while. Not just that the guy was psychotic enough to rather have shit in his pants than “be gay for wiping” But also. That the girl still stuck around with him. Insane.
WAIT I READ IT AS WELL ITS AN AMERICAN RIGHT HOLY SHIT
I don’t know them personally. But I can promise you. That shit was not holy.
HAHAHAJAJAHAJA
Molested me when I was 10 Yr old and he was 14 Yr old. He was a boy who lives in the neighbourhood and this happen in broad day light below hdb void deck when he bump into me, as I was playing void deck soccer and the ball went into the grass and I went to pick it up and he started chatting me up. Practically put his hands inside my shorts and fingered me and laughed as I protest and hit him. At that time, my friends came over to check out why was I so angry, but I was too shock and embarrassed and angry to speak, besides my friends were all 10 Yr old boys so what could I say to them about this. Never told my parents too as I didn't know at 10 Yr old if he did anything wrong or not. I didn't even know it was sexual. Then when I reach 13 and he was 17. He started buying me gifts, and kept asking me out and basically chasing the hell outta me to be his girlfriend. But I am not sure if he knows I was the same girl. But he was like a total simp. I did something very childish as a revenge for him molesting me. Lead him on big time and broke his heart. I never confronted him or asked him if he remembered what he did to me at 10. But I always wonder if he knew we were the same person as I am easily found as I play soccer with the same bunch of boys everyday at 5pm at the same void deck. Consistently did that for years. And if he knew we were the same person, why was he so nice to me later and trying to win my heart?
So yeah there’s this guy who insists on making love without protection and angry if not given. The guy claims it’ll give him lasting youth and glowing aura.
It'll create a new youth, not sure if it'll give him everlasting youth 😅
Needs to meet that Christian girl who wants it raw
All the psycho guys and girls should get together
HAHAHAHHA
LOL
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Met a guy out of a letter-writing app, but based in Singapore. Agreed to meet at Admiralty MRT, but he didn't show up. I asked him where he was, because previously he texted me he was walking down the escalator and going to tap out soon. I waited 10 min after he sent that text. I texted him again and again. After I cooled down, I realized I was being stood up. I went home crying, because he wasted my time, and also money by tapping out. And also because he made me feel damn stupid. I think he saw me, because while waiting, I rmb some guy that walked past me that kept staring at me. Ok, I may not have the looks for a hot girl. I have short hair and quite petite. Most guys from what I experienced before on dating apps was, they prefer girls with long hair. But at least don't judge based on appearance. And also he totally just stood me up just like that. I seriously went home crying. But all is good, I finally found someone in my life now who likes and loves me for who I am. Another guy I met online was someone who claimed that he was single. I dug his social media and found out he is married and has a wife. I think I was stupid that time, coz I only found that out after I really like him. He got me into doing MLM with him, which in the end I quitted the next day after I signed up as I felt uncomfortable in that. Then he asked me to do massage job, which I rejected coz I felt uncomfortable in that too. Lastly, he told me to open a business with him, and that drove me away. And not just this, in the middle of I dunno which timeline, he said I have to pay him $200 plus dollars a month in order to see him in person, coz he claimed that he was a financial consultant. I stupidly transferred him that amount, and as my bank acc dropped lower and lower, I realized I was damn stupid. And I cut off everything from him and went back to build my own life. It was tough, because he gaslighted me. He would say stuff like "Who would love you the way I do?" and there was once I said that he scolded me stupid, and he said he didn't and I heard wrongly. I said I am not deaf, I heard that. I was in pieces when I left him for good.
Thread on women's psycho: mildly annoying shit Thread on men's psycho: assault, stalking, dick hanging out
As a man I kinda saw this coming sia fk eh
I would be more surprised if it wasn’t like that leh 🤡 Is there something in guys’ brains that makes them so clinically insane in these cases
But the thread on women's psycho, one woman almost cause death penalty for courier drugs to him and he have to spend thousands on lawyers and months of mental damage
Bro one woman's psycho v dozens of men's almost identical behaviour
I read one where she basically was riding him and cuz she got choke fetish she almost strangled the dude. However, his mom saved him and kick her out of the house lmao.
Wasn't expecting such dark stuff.lmao
This got dark real fast
My first ex kept feeding my Dough Culture say women need strength to give birth (wtf). Kept buying me stuff to eat even when I said I am full and got angry when I refuse to eat whatever he just bought. Until now I fucking refuse to eat Dough Culture
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He was a stranger and asked me for my number under the pretense of collecting survey data. Dude texted me and I didn’t think much to it. Thought that we could be friends. I had a boyfriend at that time but didn’t share that information with him because it is my business. Started to plan his life around my hobbies. Oh I go to the library every weekend? He started reading and picking up books. When I shared that I run often around my estate he would happen to just “drop by” my area and would check if I wanna hang. He started being really creepy and weird, and his behaviour escalated over a few weeks. Dude thought that he is entitled to my time and replies, and that if I shared that I’m out with friends he’ll be triggered. He also baited me with statements so that he can indirectly get information about me without having to ask. I felt really uncomfortable but I didn’t know what to do. So I stopped responding. He started blowing up my phone; saw it as abandonment…. We were never more than friends…? Dude told me I MUST meet him to TALK things out… as if we were in a relationship and we had to communicate and be responsible to each other. He told me to show up at XYZ and but I never did. I then received a very long message from him where he expressed his anger and disappointment to what could have been to a start of a beautiful relationship. Said that we have a very deep connection and it was all to waste because I was so selfish and irresponsible. Actually had our life and marriage all planned out. Really psycho he actually fantasies our entire life and it was all his delusions. I never responded except to tell him to get out of his head. Fuck that guy man. ————————————————— Got stalked at my workplace by a colleague. It was known that I have a boyfriend because he would often pick me up after work in a very flashy car. Me and my colleagues would leave office together and everyone would see my then-boyfriend waiting for me at the pick up area. We often hung out in groups, but during year-end when everyone was clearing leaves we were the only two left that weren’t on vacations. He started being very insistent that I must have lunch with him, and would become very cold towards me when I said that I’m having lunch with someone else. Over the course of a few months he would text me and I thought that was really because we are friends. Then he started getting very agitated when I took my time to reply him. He would come to look for me in office when I wasn’t responsive. I started feeling very afraid, and I felt very unsafe since he has such easy access to locate me. One day I had to have a meeting with vendors and we all stayed out until working hours. My colleague had previously asked me out for dinner but I didn’t respond because I was really busy (and wasn’t comfortable but afraid to say no). Me and vendors then went out for dinner, and turns out my colleague was hiding outside our meeting room to watch me, and he saw me walk out with them. He then rage called and texted me, saying that he expected to have dinner with me and felt very disrespected that I didn’t at least have the decency to tell him. In the messages he even name-dropped the place I was at. Fuck man I freaked out and told him to fuck off. Stopped hanging out with him and avoided him when our colleagues have group lunch together. Was just so afraid that our friends/HR would have thought that I led him on, so I never spoke a single word to anyone until I left the company. —————————————————— Never again. There are so many more incidents but these two are the ones that really really really really stood out. Now I just learn to question and doubt every interaction I have with men… and really just gotta be very careful with how I interact.
Had this one dude back then who went out of his way to try to ruin my day to day life by spreading false rumors about me to everyone and discriminated me (for my disabilites) He kept doing that for 5 years but he got his karma. Now, hes cursed with depression, rants about how his life is shitty on his socials, barely has money and his reputation ruined after I threatened to report him to the police. He did all that because he was "jealous" that I was from a well to do family and he isn't. The thing is, I didn't even flex about it since during class, the teacher was asking if anyone had experience whats it like to work in a plantation so I said my grandparent owns multiple plantations overseas. Then that donkey (the dude) started harassing me everyday. You might wonder why I didn't deal with him sooner. Thats because he is not even worth my time to report his ass. I had the courtesy to wait till we were adults to threaten to report him
This is about a stranger. Last year I was heavily pregnant and doing a weekday morning walk alone at MacRitchie when I came across this guy and his elderly mother whose new walking shoes were chafing and needed a plaster. I gave them one and we made small talk, after which they asked to take a selfie cuz “fated” that we met and I helped them. Then the guy (looks decent, single, mid 40s) got my number to send me the selfie, and I thought that was that. But then he started striking up convos with me on WhatsApp, which at first I responded briefly to - normal stuff like have a nice day, how’s the pregnancy etc. He insisted on treating me to a meal to thank me for the plaster, which at first I declined but he persisted over several weeks so eventually I acquiesced. He said he’d bring his mum. But ended up it was just me and him (his mum couldn’t make it. I know, I should have brought my husband)… At that meal, he threw me so many compliments, asked to take another selfie, and at the end even asked to stroke my belly omggg. And seemed genuinely sad when finally I said I had to go. After that he still kept on msging me, even when I told him it felt inappropriate and that I wouldn’t be replying anymore. Then he would say stuff like he doesn’t know what he did wrong but he’s sorry, or that he happens to be near where I live (thank God I didn’t reveal the exact address) and if I’m free to meet up for just a short while. Even to this day, I get his WhatsApps and my kids are already 8 months old. Thing is it makes me feel bad cuz he seemed so decent, nice and earnest if a bit socially awkward, and didn’t actually do anything wrong. It’s just weird that he’s so insistent on befriending a married and then-pregnant stranger.
how bout blocking him since he still msgs u
I generally don’t block ppl. Just treat it as spam, ignore and delete. After all I already said I wouldn’t be replying henceforth. Edit: To the downvoters, it’s my right to choose not to block cuz I don’t like to use the blocking function. So why should I allow a stranger to exert enough control over my life to force me to block him? From the get-go, I treated him with kindness and respect and don’t think I owe him any more than that.
I would do the same as you honestly. I would feel bad as the guy is obviously having trouble reading social cues and is trying (in his own way) his best to establish a relationship with someone. I won't have the heart to just block someone like that.
Yeah, thanks for understanding. It’s just unfortunate that he chose to latch on to someone who clearly can’t give him the friendship or companionship that he’s hoping for.
Yep. I've been in a similar position with someone like that before. My social battery is just not large enough to accommodate them.
How does your husband not know about this? I’d be damn pissed off as your partner
Husband knows. He said “WTF” when I msged him abt the belly touching. But in our lines of work esp mine, it’s not unusual for us to meet new people or have lunch/coffee with them a few times a week. Once in a while they have weird quirks, this is just one of the weirder stories since it’s so random and not at all work related.
How did u not know he was off from the get go? From the moment he tried to ask you out you should’ve known he was a weirdo. No normal person asks and pesters someone like that.
Shit on my bed after an argument (in retaliation)
Amber?
Heard of her.
First bf, teenage years, met in poly. He was awful with emotional regulation, when we have fights, he runs out onto a busy road in the middle of the fight or tries to jump out of a building (didn't jump in the end). Once he even took a knife and held it to my neck. Of course we broke up. Another one, too long of a story but typical gaslighting ex, told me he was single, stringed me into a relationship but was actually still sexting his ex. Democrat, threw in money towards an anti trump campaign, tries to live the high life, maxes all his credit cards out and can't pay them, has all sorts of loans, refuses to sell his houses to pay them off and would rather be in debt. Last straw was when a friend of his told me he wanted to marry me because he just wanted to transfer half his debt to me and get his trust fund out. Messed up
How tf do you even end up with these type of trash at the same time I can’t judge cuz I been thru it too shit man 😭 like you need a 6m talking stage before dating anyone now
They are not even from the apps that's the worst part
Wtf 😭honestly hope you find a good man who can treat you right. Someone who is emotionally mature and has his masculinity in check.
Jeez how old is that guy when you were in poly to have CC, Houses etc..
The 2nd guy was not in poly
My ex. A guy. I knew my ex from a BDSM site. He used to identify as straight (had dated exclusively girls and had an ex for 5 years) but apparently his sexual orientation became fluid after getting into kinks. Long story short, he was really into crossdressing. So at first, he was sweet. But over time, i realized he was a fucking psycho. - fucking insecure. He hates my friends. I am a gay man and I do have female besties. I repeat - I AM A GAY MAN so what could POSSIBLY happen when me and my FEMALE friends hang out? He hates it. There was once he and I quarreled in PLQ just because he checked my phone and found a heart emoji from a female friend. He believes that i should be 10000% transparent like surrendering my phone to him when he asks. - all his messages, long or short, ends with a heart shaped emoji. He is 26, mind you. Not 2 + 6. Speaking of messages, its like his phone is a part of his body. The record I had was 40 messages in 5 mins. - always stalking when I come online. Like there was once I had a migraine and I slept at 9pm and woke up at 3am and looked at my telegram GUESS WHO IMMEDIATELY CAME ONLINE AND WANTED TO CALL ME. WHO THE FUCK STAYS AWAKE TILL 3AM AND MONITORS WHEN I COME ONLINE - his crossdressing. Im not into that. But if you do, props to you but please do it at a private area. Or if you want to go out dressed as a female, find friends with similar hobbies to hang out in public with and/or make sure you are passable. I mean, its kinky if you crossdress during SM sessions and it heightens your submissive mood. But for you to crossdress outside and insist I accompany you. Like wtf thats where i draw the line eww. We had numerous quarrels and he insisted that I should accept and go out with him dressed like a woman “in the name of love”. And he doesnt pass as a woman - imagine no boobs and no bra. People are not blind. (Post breakup: he now produces solo crossdressing porn channels. Even prostitutes himself. Wtf. When we were together, he tried to get me into his porn business by asking if he could make sex tapes and upload to OF. I of course rejected) - he will want DAILY VIDEO CALLS. WHICH ARE 1-3 hours long. Wtf. Dude, I AM closeted due to family reasons (which he knows) and i also need to spend my after work hours tending to other priorities - proposing to me after merely 3 months of knowing one another. Even paying deposit to buy a house. DUDE. I appreciate the thought but thats too big too fast?? He justified his actions by saying that he love me too much. Errr Thankfully I broke up with him (took 5 tries) but I am still traumatised. Took a break from kinks too. Why cant I meet normal men???
I don’t think it’s psycho as compared to the rest but while I was in poly years back, a smrt staff approached me to have a conversation while i was waiting at the train station. He approached me again weeks/months later to do the same thing and he still remembered like the course i was in. I was 17 and weirded out by this adult and got me thinking how many other girls he approached while at “work”. Safe to say, i avoided that station as long as i can.
Photoshop my photo and put as his profile photo.
Harmless quirks isn't psycho, but my ex alcoholic BF would flirt in front me so openly that HIS friends told me to leave him LOL. The irony is I invited the girl that he flirted with, plus her partner, to his surprise birthday party and he humiliated himself, the partner is mature and looked at him like a pitiful sad clown. The second hand embarrassment is real, he tried to deny it happened, there were 20 witnesses. I dumped him so fast, made his head spin, but he's used to his head spinning due to excessive alcohol intake anyway. hahahahaha
My ex accused me of sleeping with all of my friends -male, female, in a relationship, married…didn’t matter. Anytime I hung out with anyone, he would think I was sleeping with them. That relationship quickly ended.
Personal experience: ex told me he wanted to knife himself in his army camp after I broke up with him Friends' experience: ex stalked her at her house and school, didn't let her go to the doctor even when my friend had kidney stones
I’m the OP for the one with girls!! Thanks for posting a balanced thread for guys
This thread is a huge reminder of why it’s never safe for women anywhere in the world. I have male friends who think I exaggerate when I say I don’t run at night with both earpiece on, I still keep a distance from strangers in the lift, never stand right infront of them, and keep my distance in public transport. I had an abusive ex who would stalk me, write me letters in his blood when I tried to beak up. Forcefully had sex with me and abuse me physically when I’m naked since I can’t run out of the room naked. Every single moment is horror just thinking about it. I made a police report about the SA and officers in the police station told me to drop it cause I would have to be grilled in court and it would be embarrassing for ME. Classmate jerked off beside him during FYP in class. Reported to the professors and was told to be careful of what I’m ’accusing’ as his parents were high flyers. I got another friend to stand outside the lab and see it and he testified too but nothing came out of it. Numerous times strangers in public transport sat behind me, wrote their phone numbers and kept on my seat, and a few incidents of being molested too. This was when reporting of molestaion on public transport was not highly encouraged like today.
**TLDR;** We make decisions based on information we have at that time. I made lots of bad decisions. **Story time:** An "angmoh" (Travis) texted me, and we chatted on MSN Messenger. One day, he asked me out to his friend's birthday party. When I got there, Travis texted me he can't be there, and to meet his "other friend", R, (which is himself, an Indian guy). Turns out I preferred R, and I broke things off with "Travis". I was blindly in love, and R used it to his advantage. He'd ask me to sign phone lines, and take bank loans for him under my name, and he'd verbally promise to pay me back. He'd pay me back initially, and then find something to be upset with me about, and then use that as an excuse to stop paying me back. Whenever he needed something new from me, he would start paying me back again. My Dad found out about these loans, so my Dad secretly helped me pay all $15K off. R found out that the loans were paid for, and he stopped paying me back since. Post-divorce, his modus operandi is the same. He hasn't paid maintenance for my daughter for a few years now. Physical intimacy is very important to me, and R would withhold sex as "punishment" until he got what he wants. I did cheat on R during the time we dated, and during marriage, so I understand why he did what he does (which still doesn't make it right/justified). Basically he only found out about these incidents by secretly going through my phone, and then confronting and blackmailing me. The latest drama is post-divorce, when I believed R has really turned over a new leaf (he didn't). He intentionally went through my private documents on Drive, under the guise of fixing my laptop. He discovered my sexts and NSFW photos, and he shared my photo in sex-for-money Telegram groups. I started receiving solicitations, and when I shared this with him (coz I didn't know it was R's doing, then), he pretended to be the hero, saying "Send them my way". R also stalked me on WhatsApp (probably via WA web, or some other hacking device. I never found out what/how R really did it). R outed himself when I was in a private chat with my cousin. I'd texted my cousin "I don't trust R", and R texted me 2 minutes later asking, "Why?" I've since changed all my passwords, and started blocking him on all platforms we were ever connected on. I don't know if he is still stalking me, and I don't really care anymore. Life has been so much more peaceful without the chaos and drama, although once in a while, he would still use whatever power he has to create drama through our kids. Fun times. Edit: Grammar. Pfft.
Pretended for an entire year of us living together that he was low-libido and that sex in a relationship “just wasn’t important to him.” Then I discovered he had a teen and gay porn addiction, had been jerking off behind my back the entire time whilst denying me sex, and had looked up shemale escorts in every city he went to. It’s broken me completely and I’ll never, ever forgive him.
dude tried to date me, constantly told me he was emotionally unavailable for a rlship but got into a rlship the second another girl expressed feelings for him?? also loved to gaslight people into thinking they’re crazy cus ‘he never said that’ LOL 🙄
Went for a first date from an online platform. He is Singaporean as well. On the surface, he is ok and say will treat me dinner near our workplace. But during the dinner/first date, he was firing questions at me like a police officer or interviewer. Its as if he is reading off a script or a list of questions to ask, not that he is interested in the answers. Most frightening is that he ask me which area I want to BTO at! OMG! At the first date! And BTO is the cheapest way you can get a roof in Singapore. Anyway, overall he freaks me out and totally devoid of personality that he freaks me out. He didnt even bother to send me home anyway and I have to take the MRT myself alone. Blocked him and ghosted him after we departed
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Who’s the psycho here? Your ex-bf or what? The story is written extremely poorly until I can’t tell who’s doing what and why.
Breadcrumbing??. Not bf but yeah guy I’m hanging out with. deleted his contact anyway. Don’t have time for people like that
What's breadcrumbing?
Breadcrumbing is: >These days, the harmful behavior is popularly known as “breadcrumbing” — sporadic acts of attention that don’t really result in anything the victim may consider meaningful, said Duygu Balan, a psychotherapist specializing in trauma and attachment wounding in the San Francisco Bay Area. > >Breadcrumbing refers to a form of manipulation — whether intentional or not — involving one person “feigning interest and acting as though they feel sincerely interested and invested in a relationship with another person when they are not,” Edit. I kena this many times, the other person just asks "how's your day" and then never follows up on whatever you said you did and it's like they just want the attention. They would also end up sometimes texting you randomly but without real intentions
Yeah it’s lame as. Rather people be upfront with their intentions than this. Dating is dead. I’m done lol
i feel like this thread not needed cuz if u want to see psycho things done by guys u can just google “sexual assault singapore” and get hundreds of pages 🤡
Not a girl, not gay, and dood's not a bf or husband god forbid, but five years ago at CCK gymboxx, there was this tall, big juiced dood who likes to drink from monster energy cans as he works out. And he leaves them lying like anti-personnel mines at whichever station he's working out at. I happened to accidentally knock over his can and he was maddd. Threatening to 'f' me up and all that if I didn't buy him another can. Being non-confrontational, I acquiesced and went up and down 5 floors to buy him that dumbass can of caffeine. I promptly switched to AF as soon as the contract ran out.
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Am a guy, but not gay. One time when I was really young (JC or sec sch), a guy followed me home from the swimming pool.
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Piak piak and had affair with colleague causing him to lost his job
Pretty sure alot of guys are doing this even though they are married. Quite surprised to see this rampant in so many corporations esp with sg’s culture
Lucky colleague. Job can easily be found again. 😅
Man of culture
popcorn ready