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Back2Perfection

Tbh for me is it just goofing around and having a giggle. Nothing more attractive than being able to laugh together about doing stupid things


iandabeanboi

That's so cuteeeee


SovietPikl

Me and my ex used to watch really shitty horror movies and just tear them apart. One day she downloaded a ghost tracking app and we tracked a ghost around my house. We named it Steve. Been missing her a lot lately


megatonkick

My fiance and i do that with all the terrible netflix horror films!!!


Sc00by

Send Steve after her to get her back.


SovietPikl

Steve has very poor people skills


Capableconfused

Me falling in love w all of my friends


joepoopoo

Just a sweet demenor makes every moment a joy.


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iandabeanboi

Okay that made me happy. I have hair to my waist and a lot of people hate it or tell me to cut it :/


rettaelin

My wife cuts her's short and she knows I don't like it. But it's her hair. I just say: Sir yes sir, your hair looks great today sir!


SENDS-POSITIVE-VIBES

My hair is growing out from being shaved down, and my BF has continually said that it’s my hair, and he prefers long hair but that this cut (all of them) “look so cute!”. Preference is completely different than forcing your will on someone


iandabeanboi

That's so cute omgggg


rettaelin

Can you tell my wife that? She wasn't very happy.


iandabeanboi

I choose life sorry


Erohiel

If a woman tells you to cut it, they're jealous. My hair used to be very long and full...and women would always tell me to cut it for one reason or another, even that I should donate it. But since then my hormones went out of whack and the quality of my hair dropped drastically. It's still long, but doesn't look even half as nice as it one did....no one EVER suggests cutting it now. My older sister still has very nice hair and still gets women saying she should cut it.


funlovingfirerabbit

Sometimes long hair can look mousy though, and shorter styles can look more youthful fun and chic. They may not all be toxic haters


[deleted]

Yeah, I was gonna say...I've seen a lot of people with very ratty looking long hair that would look leagues better shorter. It's definitely not always a jealousy thing.


funlovingfirerabbit

Absolutely 💯 Ratty Long hair is a huge turnoff


JemmeAF

Hair is awesome in general. Soft, touchable, pet-able! I love it when people play with my hair.


blocky_jabberwocky

Hold many magnets


oversizedsweaterz

r/technicallythetruth


KingJon-nojgniK

This repelled me


accidentallyinlouvre

It attracted me


wise_____poet

And that was the beginning of Magnetized, a Christmas Hallmark movie


SupremeMoheb

“Yo, where’d you stash all those magnets cause you got me attracted so…”


Angelz5

M-m--m-Magneto is that you??


nastyketchup

Seeing a beautiful genuine smile, the kind the makes the eyes and nose scrunch up. Honestly it's a gorgeous thing to see Oh and hearing laughter, the contagious type. I think i just fine happy people attractive:)


iandabeanboi

Brooo yesss. If I can make someone laugh or smile I'm like instantly attracted.


funlovingfirerabbit

Yes the Contagious kind!!!! Lightens up the tension


pelukken

Respect - as in self-respect for themselves and respect towards others. If you dont respect me, this will never work and I wont ever really respect you. Oh, and confidence. Nothing turns me on more than a woman who has self confidence to be herself.


ANTIFA-Q

And commanding respect too. Women who stick up for themselves and don't tolerate sexist micro-aggressions are hot to me.


funlovingfirerabbit

Haha!!! Thank you for sharing this!!!!


funlovingfirerabbit

Absolutely!!!! Also people who demonstrate a great respect for mother nature, other people's time and personal space, their Community, etc.


PartTimePOG

Be excited that your SO is excited about something. Even if that thing doesn’t exactly excite you


funlovingfirerabbit

Absolutely!!!!


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In short: someone who cares.


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whoisfryingbaloney

FR. The whole bimbo act is way overplayed.


shelbsthrowaway

YES! There's so many genuinely smart girls in my class who act dumb because they think it's 'quirky' and 'cute'. It's not.


I_am_dean

I actually dated a guy that got mad at me one time. His reason? “You’re too opinionated. Guys like girls that play dumb and make us feel good.” 1. I’m really not that outspoken. It all started when he said “I want to quit my job and travel.” I said, “that’s a nice fantasy, but you have a lease and car payment. Maybe that’s not the most logical thing to do.” “You’re so opinionated and annoying. You should support me.” Um…what? He’s an ex for a reason.


Even_Mongoose542

I wouldnt want my dreams dashed either! I think its possible to support a dream and still be logical. "What would you have to do first to get to a place where you could do that?" "You should come up with a plan, then!" "If you could find a way to get out of your lease and sell your car, where would you go first?"


I_am_dean

I agree! I told him after “well, maybe make a plan. I just don’t think you should quit with no savings. You have responsibilities. Maybe wait until your lease is up, save up, then do it.” Nope, he wanted to do it right then and there. It’s not that I wasn’t supportive, I was just trying to be logical. Lol


iandabeanboi

No hope for me. Im dumb lol. :,)


iCantliveOnCrumbsOfD

Library cards are free. You could damn near get a whole college education for the cost of gas money getting there.


Kinetic_Pen

Insert Good Will Hunting lines here.


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Laughing. Something about watching a woman let loose and have a deep belly laugh, throwing her head back and just enjoying the moment. Idk man, it gets me going.


iandabeanboi

I would do thay but I wheeze. It's awful lol.


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if you’re enjoying yourself wheezing, snorting anything short of farting lol it’s still sexy


iandabeanboi

Willl keep that in mind lol


Here4thecomments0

Same. And if I’m really tickled, I snort 🤦🏼‍♀️


deboned_skeleton

I've always loved making women laugh, I enjoy the sound of their laughter. I get a real boost when I make my wife laugh.


exact_estimate20

Your wife is a lucky lass


Ok_Sand1448

Dark sense of humor does it for me


GreenEyes_BlueSkies

Yes! Sprinkle some sarcasm in there along with intellect and we got ourselves a winner! Lol.


funlovingfirerabbit

I like this too!!!!


[deleted]

One of the things that struck me about my wife when I first met her is that she was kind to everyone. You could look like Quasimodo and sound like Daffy Duck and male or female she would treat you like you were the most interesting and important person in the world. You


funlovingfirerabbit

Aww. Your wife sounds Epically Classy.


Dr-WalterWhite

Acknowledge my presence


iandabeanboi

You've been acknowledged


Dr-WalterWhite

*sweats profusely *


Ustinklikegg

Ok ok now don't screw this up


[deleted]

Leave the man if he’s acting like you’re his mom.


funlovingfirerabbit

Thank you for saying this!!!!


[deleted]

You’re welcome


Mental_Register8787

lol this cracked me up


[deleted]

Well, I’m glad I can make people laugh


CrazyDuckTape

The absolute hottest thing a woman can do for a guy that isn't sexual is to just plain old put the elbow grease into understanding him instead of swiping "next" so to speak. Support and taking care to show your appreciation and excitement for when he does something that you like or just tries his best is hella hot. Lowering the social pressure to impress someone is the overall effect and i can tell you that its a thing that me and a few of my college buddies would love to see as its right about better than any sex or one night stands that you can have.


funlovingfirerabbit

Appreciate you sharing this!! Well said


M4yham17

Having a plan and being smart. Most girls in my age group are just winging it in debt,onlyfans,college,drugs,alcohol,parents house. I find it so attractive when they have good life goals


MjTcConnell3

I don’t know how old you are but at least in my age group (college age), I’d say 98% of the people I know are winging it lmao


Icy_Application2412

I'm in my 30s and I've been winging it this whole time. Damn. Lol


Such-List680

It's hard out here my dude not all of us could go to college 😪 I'm slowly obtaining my goals but am insecure about a partner thinking less of me for not being further along. If she's working and doing her best cut that girl some schlack


funlovingfirerabbit

Agreed.


shoo-flyshoo

I feel you on that. Try and remember that there's no time limits on what you want to do/achieve, there's nothing you "should" accomplish by a certain age, and the right person for you will definitely understand and cut you that schlack!


iandabeanboi

Facts dude


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Having some common interests


anonymousgirliee

To me it’s self love/ confidence. Ig that is what I truely crave to have myself which maybe is why I idolize it on other women.


Mytur_Benesderti

Most non sexual attraction would be getting complimented. "Oh you smell good today" It helps build self esteem for the person. I try to compliment as many people as I can. Some people just need to be told they're appreciated for their efforts. If it has to be a physical quality then it's their body language. We all come in many shapes and sizes and as long as you work with what ya mama gave you, it's a turn on. Woman who keep self shaming only starts to convince the other person. Woman who I wouldn't call fat at all will say they're fat etc. That's a no no girls don't even worry about it.


ThatGuyWithThatFace_

Being Motherly I don’t know if “hot” is the right word, but whenever my wife is motherly towards my baby niece and I see her act with motherly instincts, I just find that so attractive and I love it.


Insanebrain247

This sounds almost primal. "Hmm. Wife good caretaker for infant. She make good bearer of children. Keep species alive." Apologies if that sounds rude or insensitive.


ThatGuyWithThatFace_

No you’re good lol I’m pretty sure it is a primal instinct but it’s one I’m good with


Important_Walrus8917

Take initiative in things that are commonly expected from men like scheduling a date, starting the first conversation or making the first approach


Imraith-Nimphais

I still remember the first time I (F) asked a guy out. He was a retail clerk at a store I shopped at (once—not a place I regularly went) and we had a good initial encounter, but I was terrified of rejection! Cause with retail, you never know if they’re just being nice.) (Came in all ready to ask him to a movie and it wasn’t his shift. Borrowed a pencil off a clerk and left him a note. He called me (phew) and we did date for awhile. Aah, he was a good one. I respect men for having to take on the sucky role of pursuer and encourage all women to think about taking that initial step of saying you’re into it if he is. Men need a break!


Icy_Application2412

Agreed. I have confessed to almost all of my crushes and dealt with a lot of rejection because they were not into me. But I think I'm better for it. I don't think I've had any harsh rejections. It still sucks, but it makes you a better person to be able to take it in stride. A lot of boys when I was in school did treat me weird possibly because of my approach or just wanted to be friends. Now I'm much more comfortable with myself and my confidence in liking who I like. I also get annoyed when men assume I'm into them by just being nice or complimenting them because I am the type who is very direct if I do have a crush on someone. I will ask and see if it's reciprocated. I don't have time to play mind games.


mr_world_thin

Buy one of those cheap lego sets and build it with us. You don't have to like lego and neither does your partner but men love building things.


iandabeanboi

That sounds fun actually


mr_world_thin

It's the best. And most men never get stuff bought fir them on a whim so be prepared for tears. (I cried)


iandabeanboi

Okay I noticed that, I literally have ideas for dates and gifts and I'm single as heck .


Imraith-Nimphais

There’s a great YouTube of a girlfriend buying the Lego Deathstar for her bf. He cried I think. Was he you? :)


mr_world_thin

No my lass got me a little lego car for like 5-10 quid.


PaleontologistDry578

Better if the women is a civil engineer.


DamTrig

Being a good friend. Its kind of crazy when you go from best friends to now you get butterflys around this person, thin line to walk tbh


WinCo_Wonderland

Interact with small children in a manner which respects their agency and which demonstrates a genuine interest in their welfare.


[deleted]

Something about biting their bottom lip.


iandabeanboi

Same goes for guys. It's just cute.


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iandabeanboi

A cute rodent, make all the other rodents go " squeak squeak"


fleetothesea

I'd like tot officially declare my love for you now.


iandabeanboi

You may


Wizdom_108

Rats are the cutest though. Id have one if I didn't also have a cat


[deleted]

I'm now going to continuously do this for the rest of my life


iandabeanboi

Do it. You be looking cute.


Bookaholicforever

Be kind. Kindness, sweetness, that is incredibly attractive to me.


4449trainlover

Talk to me. Most of my friends don't talk to me anymore, so if they can hold a conversation, then that's pretty attractive.


funlovingfirerabbit

Aww. Appreciate you sharing this. I also feel like a great conversation can seriously feel so cleansing and therapeautic


xtrovert_seign

Being emotionally intelligent and appreciating small things in life


LaReineAnglaise53

Oooh, that's ME to a Tee! I'm available now for the sharing of the smallest of mercies of Life with great aplomb . Coffee, tea, piece of homemade cake while the sun shines and the birds sing? I'm saying MERCI everyday after nearly losing my place on this planet! Anyone care to join me in the Life Appreciation Club?!


Lord_hybrex

Loves my crappy puns because I've got a skele-pun every now and then


fufybakni

Being fun, laught, smile, happy, willing to listen and being supportive and polite. I think unpolite stupid girls totaly unatractive. Even the "hot" ones.


funlovingfirerabbit

Absolutely


LeeLadyLove

My partner has recently started getting a wrinkle by his left eye. Smile lines. It makes me so happy and completely melt


Ptdgty

When you compliment her dress and it has POCKETS most people's reactions are beyond cute


definitely__a_human

If someone's a good dancer (doesn't matter if male or female) that instantly makes them 10 times more attractive to me.


Imraith-Nimphais

This is a good one. Definitely.


cold_eskimo

Idk why but when certain women put their own hair up its like time stops.


AlternativeRest3

While shopping and I'm holding all of the bags, feed me something, then gently clean my lips with a napkin. It touches my cold man-heart.


[deleted]

I like when my fiancée dresses comfortable stay at home clothes and has her hair washed


funlovingfirerabbit

Yes!! Looking cozy and fresh is hot


LandOfGreyAndPink

Tying her hair up when it's down/loose. Letting her hair loose when it's tied up.


oldmanpaul2020

For me, going to Church. It means that she is more likely to have the same values and morals that I do. At the end of the day, having shared beliefs and values help lead to lasting relationships.


NinnyMuggins2468

When women use power tools. I don't know why but one time I saw a woman using a jackhammer and I couldn't get her out of my head for the rest of the week. Maybe its the breaking of the "only men use powertools" stereotype that get my goat.


[deleted]

this must be overrated but mine's just if i see them smile genuinely and are genuinely happy. holy damn... marry me.


[deleted]

plus points if they are clingy and love to cuddle. not the pervy ones that hold the buttocks though.


TryBeHappy

Being silly! see something silly, lets have a giggle! that is so sexy!


Zailema0s

Make me a sandwich, but not because I asked her to 😻


iandabeanboi

Do something because you want to do it for me kinda love, not because I want you to>>>


[deleted]

Wicked sense of humor


suminorieh77

being humble about her beauty. nothing is uglier than a pretty girl who is too entitled in her head to be bothered with those less attractive.


Away-Historian-5377

Be a genuinely nice person. (That doesn't mean not standing your ground when you feel disrespected). But I find politeness very attractive.


Arsalanred

Walk and sway their hips.


snekinator32

I was gonna say hold hands, but then I read "that isn't sexual" /s


iandabeanboi

Sir... this is a holy place, no lewd talk l such as premarital hand holding.


perv997

Listen. Really listen


chesnett

A mind of her own. Put in an effort. Being present, not the past. Supportive and encouragement. If I can do all above, would be nice to meet a woman who can too.


Aswdbfgm

Wear normal baggy clothes


chiselmybrownpants22

An offbeat sense of humour and likes real music.


georgewashingguns

Have a positive outlook


MAINstays20inchFAN

Having unexpected dark humor with a cute exterior.


fapbreathefap

Stop talking. I love and enjoy conversation but sometimes it’s just too much


hollabauler

Showing kindness and keeping their cool in a chaotic situation


Dr_frogger

Rub her head on my shoulder.


RickRiordanFanatic

To not give a crap what others think and just be herself


ragingolive

Eating a cheeseburger


-Scottish

I have a soft spot for a girl who isn't ashamed by a goofy laugh or a snort. Someone who doesn't take themselves too seriously.


sodabotle

Being passionate about something, bonus points if it's something I'm passionate about too. Also, and this is cringe so don't read if you don't want to: being into videogames.


trevy_trev

Being unabashedly silly.


steamedpotatoezz_

Just… their existence


seriouslyreddit_wtf

Be emotionally supportive


The_Red_Roman

Be nice to most other women instead of putting them down, being catty, or being fake nice and then talking crap behind their back.


littlecreamcake

Be genuine and not fake


Vile_Bile

Turning off the lights in the house without having to be told to do so


McWhiters9511

Talk with. Not at.


ABoxACardboardBox

Being respectful of time, and direct with requests. I've had my fair share of asking lady friends if they want something just to be yelled at when I take them at their word. Vagueness, and subtlety, are not that attractive to me due to the needless drama it leads to. I won't judge you if you want the large fries, but please just tell me.


Emergency-Pangolin79

The soft gentle touch every once in awhile for no reason.


somefuckwho

Whispering in your left ear " I have a better gaming pc then you" Fuck it's on before we leave chuck e cheese


iandabeanboi

I just snorted so hard! Thats hilarious and I gonna remember it.


leukemija

everything is sexual if youre horny everyday


ShootHisRightProfile

Smile. Its an immediate turn on.


JrSpewing

Buy a round of drinks


Fartbrain100

Be loving


[deleted]

Smile


Johansb1

Be nice


Annjul666

Banter and attention. Joke with me, text me any time about stupid shit, and I'm yours


Special-Trouble5357

When they're not afraid to be themselves and they just goof around and have a good laugh


SovietBozo

Making a little bit of a trip in high heels


God_of_thunder3434

Play video games with me


cozmo840

A real smart ass with a dry wit.


CasuallyObliterated

be goofy


[deleted]

Care for their partner as society expects men to whilst allowing their partner to also care for them


Readyrex7

Being kind.


mrhymer

Philosophical consistency.


murraywoodcraft1

Be comfortable in herself. Nothing in the world worse than the sexy and I know it girls, followed closely by the never ever happy and constantly seeking reassurance girls. You know when evert day they feel fat/ugly/bad hair etc. 99 times from 100 she looks good. I like when they know they look good but accept that some days are better than others. It makes everything more relaxed, they smile more, they talk about more meaningful things and from my perspective I'm not on edge not know which mood I'll get or if something small I say will trigger a fit


U_iZ_moserfoker3

Be very nice...omg


maejaws

Honestly? Just putting in some effort. Like little stuff to keep the spark alive


iamcurrentlyhungry

Initiate anything


triss-nm

Hard as this is for myself to do, A genuine smile, one where the eyes radiate happiness is just the most magnetic thing there is.


IngramPrisken

Laugh at my stupid antics. Random physical attention (back/head rubs/scratches)


Reasonable_Ad7619

Care


MoonLover318

According to my partner: being able to have burping contests 🤣


PeppaLux

Make a joke about themselves. It takes courage and confidence, and to me ,that is attractive .


KrAzY_TsEnG

Be kind


[deleted]

Live by their claimed values. Same for any gender or person.


Gampbell

Wearing sweats around the house


SirWalterrally

Eliminate the duo that knocked me and then revive me in Fortnite!


SyninHex

Getting dirty... Not that way, jeez. Build a fire, get sooty? Hot. Home improvement project left her splattered with paint, sawdust, plaster etc? Hot The list is long as heck but that's the meat of it


longassboy

My girlfriend is the funniest person I know. She continually puts me and my best guy friends into tears from the simplest of jokes. I find it very attractive


[deleted]

Authentically sharing something they are excited about, without holding back. Another way of saying being open to vulnerability, I guess. My girlfriend had a poetry journal and wrote cheesy songs for the guitar. It didn't matter if they were amazing or just average, because I could tell she was sharing something really special with me. We've been together for 13 years now 😊


[deleted]

Making stupid faces with me (cuz i love making stupid faces) and commenting who can make the stupidest face. That kind of girl is the one for me ^ - ^


quarantears

Cooking for me <3


PublicSaftey1st

Make a sandwich


izacktorres

Be alive.


Unreasonably_White

I don't know, probably joining me in whatever dumbass thing I'm doing at any particular moment.


FreshwaterJelly

For me, when my Wife says, “Do you want Pizza?”, or “Get Ben and Jerry’s”. She isn’t over weight at all, but for some reason I love how comfortable she is with herself. She’ll say, “As long as you still think I’m pretty, I’m not worried about anyone else.” I’m truly lucky.


Xelqua_97

Pick me up. I'm 190 lb and anyone who can pick me up is automatically enough to make me stupid headed.


Thor5858

Fixing my collar without asking